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Business or Parenting · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question from American Mama's would dear mama's,
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  Speaker 1: would you rather be judged by your success in business
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  Speaker 1: or your success as a parent. Well, let's ask American mama's.
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  Speaker 2: Mama Mama, and Jodie is now our American Mama's Terry
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  Speaker 2: Edville and Kimberly Burlison.
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  Speaker 1: I know my answer to this question. But this is
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  Speaker 1: not the Stephen part segment. This is the American Mama's segment.
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  Speaker 1: So what do y'all think?
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  Speaker 3: I can tell you right now that there is no
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  Speaker 3: greater compliment in my entire life than to be told
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  Speaker 3: that I am a good mother by my own children,
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  Speaker 3: by my husband, anybody that sees me. But for my
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  Speaker 3: children to tell me that they want to be mothers
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  Speaker 3: and do it the way that I did it, There's
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  Speaker 3: no greater I have succeeded. I am the wealthiest personal life.
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  Speaker 1: So clearly then that that's more about how you are
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  Speaker 1: as a parent, how you are as in business.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely, there's like no amount of success business wise.
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  Speaker 1: None.
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  Speaker 4: Well, and I think about you know who? I think
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  Speaker 4: about Barbara Walters. She had a stellar career. She was
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  Speaker 4: reached the pinnacle, oh the pinnacle, and she was the
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  Speaker 4: idol for so many young women coming to journalism.
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  Speaker 1: She was able to go to ABC and say, I
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  Speaker 1: have a show idea. I think we should just have
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  Speaker 1: a talk show in the middle of the day. We're
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  Speaker 1: gonna get rid of a soap op. We're gonna put
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  Speaker 1: a talk show there that's nothing but women with different
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  Speaker 1: opinions talking and ABC goes, yeah, great, And that's how
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  Speaker 1: the view was found out. Yeah, it was Barbara Walters.
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  Speaker 1: It's what she wanted to do. And the network went,
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  Speaker 1: we're just going to say yesterday.
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  Speaker 4: Little did the know they meant four views to one view.
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  Speaker 4: But whatever. But anyway, so I think about Barbara Walters
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  Speaker 4: and actually this is so sad because as much as
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  Speaker 4: she is revered for her success in her career, she
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  Speaker 4: was a terrible mother. She admitted that she was a
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  Speaker 4: terrible mother. She didn't have time, according to her herself
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  Speaker 4: and herself. Yeah, Jackie was her daughter and she ended up,
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  Speaker 4: you know, she was in rehab, she had you know,
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  Speaker 4: she was gotten into drugs. She adopted Jackie and she
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  Speaker 4: felt like, you know, my career is everything. I have
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  Speaker 4: to do this, So she said, so Jackie grew up.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I told the nanny, make sure that the
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  Speaker 4: TV's on so she can see her mommy on the
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  Speaker 4: TV in the morning. They didn't have the kind of
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  Speaker 4: relationship that we'd so in my opinion, because of how
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  Speaker 4: important it is to me to be known as a
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  Speaker 4: good wife and mother, especially a mother that negated every
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  Speaker 4: success she had in her career. Like to me, she
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  Speaker 4: went down all the way like she was up here,
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  Speaker 4: and then I found out she was a terrible mother.
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  Speaker 4: Not just a bad one, but a terrible one purposeful
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  Speaker 4: m m. She went all the way back down And yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I don't give a rip what you did in your career.
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  Speaker 4: You left this imprint on this girl. She's so wounded
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  Speaker 4: by what you did to her.
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  Speaker 1: Let me ask, is it different for men? In your
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  Speaker 1: analysis of men, If there's a man who's reached the
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  Speaker 1: pinnacle of their career and you find out that they
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  Speaker 1: were awful dads, do you go ooh, I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: do you the same thing?
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  Speaker 4: You know? I think that, well, we were so lucky
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  Speaker 4: that we had a dad that was head of his
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  Speaker 4: time and he was so good and he was, you know,
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  Speaker 4: successful in career. But what we remember the most and
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  Speaker 4: what's most important is that he was a good father.
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  Speaker 4: You'll you'll have men who are I cannot think of
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  Speaker 4: his name, but some of the wealthiest men in the world,
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  Speaker 4: and they're given advice. You see these videos, one in
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  Speaker 4: particular as a billionaire, and he said, the only thing, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I made billions. The only thing I care about is
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  Speaker 4: how my children feel like I did is their father.
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  Speaker 4: I will say this about men. Yeah, they had the
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  Speaker 4: heavy load, They've got the most pressure, in my opinion.
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  Speaker 4: But if they if they weren't a great husband but
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  Speaker 4: they were a good father, I'm like, okay, you know, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: very interesting. This is just me. And but yet if
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  Speaker 4: you say they had this great success but they weren't
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  Speaker 4: a good father, they never spent time. That success didn't
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  Speaker 4: mean that it just didn't do anything for me, I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: I don't give a rip about you. Then you know
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  Speaker 4: what I mean. But I'm also drawn to other moms
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  Speaker 4: like me when they put their family first. I think
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  Speaker 4: about Claudia when we had this big plan for a
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  Speaker 4: weekend to go on this retreat. She said, look, I
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  Speaker 4: know it's tomorrow's the retreat and we've been planning this,
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  Speaker 4: but Greg, that's her husband needs me to help him
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  Speaker 4: with his basketball camp. Girl, got it. Those women that
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  Speaker 4: put their family first, ahead of careers, ahead of their themselves,
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  Speaker 4: those are the ones I rever. Those are the ones
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  Speaker 4: I'm drawn to. Those become my best friends, and so
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  Speaker 4: I just I want to be remembered the same way.
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  Speaker 1: So I think of this also from a biblical standpoint,
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  Speaker 1: because I don't know of a particular verse in the
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  Speaker 1: Bible anywhere in the Bible where it says God's commanding
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  Speaker 1: you to be an excellent business person, right like your
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  Speaker 1: command Now, it does talk about how you should run
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  Speaker 1: your business, but it doesn't say you need to be
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  Speaker 1: the richest prison. I don't see that any I do
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  Speaker 1: see where it says teach your children, Well, yes, that
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  Speaker 1: is a commandment in the Bible. Teach your children. Well, well,
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  Speaker 1: if that's commandment in the Bible, then that's something I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to be judged on by God. I don't think
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  Speaker 1: necessarily judges. I'm going to be judged on whether I
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  Speaker 1: became a billionaire. I will be judged based upon how
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  Speaker 1: well I did with the gifts that I was given.
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  Speaker 1: I was given a talent, did I buried on the
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  Speaker 1: ground or did I, you know, bring fruit from that
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  Speaker 1: but I also will be judged on did I teach
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  Speaker 1: my children?
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  Speaker 4: Well, yeah, very much so. And I will say this,
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  Speaker 4: I think women are grated differently than men. I think
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  Speaker 4: that it's almost like it's a given you should be
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  Speaker 4: a good mom. That's your life in life, that's your purpose.
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  Speaker 4: But when you see a dad being a good dad,
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  Speaker 4: it's like, oh my gosh, did you see that? Did
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  Speaker 4: you see how he you know, he attended to his
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  Speaker 4: children that way?
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  Speaker 1: And that's a sad commentary in society.
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  Speaker 4: It is the truth. Yeah, but yeah, to me, being
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  Speaker 4: a good parent outweighs great success. That is great success.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, if you like to ask American Mama was a question?
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  Speaker 1: out of O Kaim the brothers and thank you so much,