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When They "Unmatch" w You! · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  So my new thing is I go live every Sunday night on
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  TikTok at 5 p .m. Pacific time and you can ask me
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  anything. I even let you guys join me
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  live right here next to me so that I can ask you
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  questions when you ask me questions. It's
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  really really fun but today's video is from last
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  night because a girl asked me a really important
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  question that I don't think I talk about enough. Hang
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  on. She said, Gina, I was talking
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  with this guy on a dating app and all of a sudden
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  things were going really well but all of a sudden
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  he just unmasked me and she couldn't get her head
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  around it. Okay so let's talk about this.
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  For those of you who don't
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  know me I'm Gina Hendricks. I've
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  been a matchmaker for 16 years as of this month.
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  Thank you very much. I've
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  written two books. I've had numerous radio shows.
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  I've been a guest on a lot of
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  TV shows. Talk about love and dating,
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  celebrity relationships, you name it. So
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  I'm all in on this subject so hang on. So
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  what you need to realize during the messaging phase
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  on the dating apps you guys haven't become real
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  people to each other yet. So
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  you can't be drawing hearts and rainbows on a piece of
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  paper you know thinking that Cupid is flying
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  overhead and you've met this fabulous person when
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  you've just exchanged a few messages. There's
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  barely been any investment of time or energy. It's
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  harmless messaging. Okay so when they unmatch with
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  you out of the blue you can't take it personally
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  and honestly the why you will never know and the
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  why does not matter. Okay sometimes people will
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  unmatch with you if they think you did not get back
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  to them soon enough then that's there that's on them
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  that's just plain out plain weird even when women come
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  to me and they're like I'm gonna unmatch with him I
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  didn't hear back from him and it's been a day. To
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  me it's like cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. You're
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  reading way too much in. You're
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  way too invested in this stranger. Okay
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  personally I think you just leave them. Just
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  leave them as is. There's no harm in leaving somebody
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  there unless they've done something horribly wrong.
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  Now if you've had a
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  conversation with somebody and you realize they're not
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  a match for you just tell them hey you seem fine you
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  seem great you're not a match for me. That's
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  it. You don't have to be so
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  dramatic to unmatch with somebody okay but also keep
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  in mind here's what you don't realize is that most
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  people are dating multiple people at the same time.
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  So you guys could have started
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  matching with each other. You
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  unmatched. You started talking one or two
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  messages. They might already be on date
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  one or two with somebody else. Now
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  that's still early stages at that point so they're
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  still on the apps talking to other people but maybe
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  the day you're talking to them when you're like oh
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  things are going really well that night they're
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  going on date two with somebody and they might
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  have realized that night oh wow I really like this
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  person more than I realized I want to see where it
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  goes. So then they unmatch with you
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  or they just disappear out of your messages okay but
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  no reason to lose your wig about it all right just
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  stay calm move forward and just realize you don't know
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  each other at that point you don't owe each other
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  anything and don't get so invested so soon in people
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  who you don't even know yet okay I hope it helps.