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The games that narcissists play with you · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So a lot of narcissists and toxic people like to play little
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  games like Gas Lighting Games. The games that narcissistic
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  people play. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Boom.
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  So yeah, yeah, yeah. Games, games, games, games.
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  So if you Google games that narcissists play, you're going
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  to see a lot of different things pop up.
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  Y'all, you ought to see things pop up about how narcissistic
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  people gaslight you, how they play the blame game, how they
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  play the victim, things like that.
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  Oh, so are those games that narcissists play?
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  Yeah, they will gaslight the hell out of you.
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  Have you just confused about reality and things of things of
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  that nature? They will pat.
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  They'll play the blame game or they will avoid accountability
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  by blaming you for the things that they have done.
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  They will shift the blame onto you like everything is your
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  fault. No matter what happened.
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  You know they will do that type of stuff.
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  Y'all that. That type of stuff happens all
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  the time in types of relationship where they you
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  know, they'll they'll do, they'll do that type of stuff
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  like that. Those are games that narcissists
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  play. But today's episode, Y'all,
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  we're going to get into the actual games, like one of the
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  games that a narcissist plays y'all where they the the
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  blocking and the unblocking game.
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  Toxic, narcissistic person plays the blocking and the unblocking
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  game. So this could be on your phone,
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  this could be on social media, this could be on e-mail.
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  Whatever it is, y'all what's app, whatever app it is,
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  whatever, they will block you and unblock you.
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  It's a it's literally a crazy game.
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  The narcissistic people play like this is a reason a lot, a
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  lot of narcissists will block you and unblock you is to
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  control the situation, to control the narrative, to
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  control the space that you're in and whatnot.
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  Because this happens all the time.
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  Well, you will do something to you, will do something to them,
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  and they'll block you, and then they'll unblock you.
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  Or they'll blame you for catching them, doing something,
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  and then they'll block you, and then they'll unblock you.
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  They'll block you and send you a message.
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  Make sure you receive that message and then block you
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  again. They'll yeah, they will do this
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  when they're living in the same household as you.
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  This also happens in long distance relationships with
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  narcissistic people and this like.
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  So I don't do a lot of videos about long distance
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  relationships because you know the last time I did it just
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  bombed because nobody watched it.
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  But a lot of narcissistic people y'all in these spaces, that's
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  what happens. They literally play these games
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  like the block you and unblock you.
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  Long distance relationships, They'll block you, unblock you,
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  block you, unblock you, block you, keep you blocked for a long
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  time and then unblock you and not send you a message, not do
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  anything, just unblock you and wait for you to reach out.
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  Because if they block you and then you reach out, you broke
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  the no contact. So then it's kind of like the
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  power shifts to them. So they will absolutely keep
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  doing this over and over again. Y'all via e-mail, WhatsApp,
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  whatever forms of communication they will do that they they will
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  keep doing it because it's a weird game that a lot of
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  narcissistic people play. And it is.
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  It is. It can be really, really silly,
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  so to speak. You know?
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  It It is. It is really silly.
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  It's not. It can be really silly.
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  It's absolutely, really silly, you know?
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  But another game that narcissistic play.
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  People, people, narcissistic people narcissist play is the
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  ghosting game. Have you ever been ghosted by?
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  It didn't sound like a it sounds kind of like a an ad.
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  Have you ever been ghosted by your narcissistic partner?
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  Well, welcome to Ghostbusters Narc Busters.
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  I'm your host, Lee Hammond. But ghosting y'all.
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  Yeah, they will ghost you. Yes, they will ghost you,
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  disappear on you for a long time, come back into your life.
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  Not everybody that ghosts you comes back, but they just do it
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  y'all as a control thing. It's kind of like the blocking
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  and unblocking in real life. Pretty much that's what.
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  That's what ghosting is, ghosting.
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  I just made it up. So ghosting is literally
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  blocking and unblocking them in real life.
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  I mean them blocking you and unblocking you in real life.
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  They disappear on you a lot of times when they ghost you.
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  Little to no, little to no warning, little to no
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  explanation. When they come back, it's
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  always, it tends to be something very quick.
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  Oh, I just ghosted you because of you.
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  I didn't. I I just got super.
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  I got super busy and life, life got in the way and I couldn't
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  take 7 seconds out of my busy day to send you a hey or bye
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  because blah blah blah, it doesn't matter.
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  Y'all they will ghost you. Ghosting is a game that a lot of
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  narcissistic people play. You know, they will do that.
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  And I was just like, yo. And as long as you're willing to
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  play the game, they'll play it with you.
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  You know they'll play it with you.
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  They'll play the little ghosting game with you.
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  So I'll tell y'all heard me say this before.
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  If they ghost you, let them remain Casper.
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  Let them be Casper the friendly ghost.
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  If they want to be Casper, let them be Casper.
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  Let them fit in the Casper shoes.
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  Let them do Casper stuff. OK, Because that's where we are.
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  We're letting people become be remain Casper.
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  If that's who you want to be let the if they ghost you and you
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  let them come back y'all they'll just do it again.
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  It's just like you you playing the PlayStation with them and
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  they handed you they are they are literally handing you a
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  controller and you're playing the ghosting game with them.
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  Do not play that game. Y'all do not you know do not
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  play it. The next step the next I said
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  the next step the next thing the next little game is the
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  triangulation game. Y'all the triangulation game.
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  It is the triangle where they pit people against each other,
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  people, places and things against each other.
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  A lot of narcissists play the triangulation game.
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  Y'all it is like, how can I get you?
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  How can I turn you against this other person?
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  How can I turn this other person against you?
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  And y'all might, Yeah, that's the crazy thing about
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  triangulation. You might be in.
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  You might be getting triangulated with somebody you
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  don't even know. And triangulation is just not
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  about intimate relationships. They can triangulate you if it's
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  your narcissist in your life. Is your parent one of your
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  parents? They can triangulate you against
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  one of your parents. You know, they can triangulate.
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  I mean, they can triangulate, triangulate you against your
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  sibling or your cousin or your other or the other parent.
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  Like you see what I'm saying? Like they will triangulate you
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  out. Triangulation is when they
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  literally they just use other people to manipulate you.
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  It's just like you're having a different person coming in.
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  Y'all it. It really, really is.
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  It's a it's a game. It really is a game.
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  It's a triangulation game like this because the once a
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  narcissist has successfully triangulated people against each
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  other, they don't have to do anything else.
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  Y'all like if I do it, if I put in enough of triangulation work
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  in the beginning, I don't have to do anything.
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  Later on I don't have y'all will argue, fuss and fight without
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  me. There now y'all see each other
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  in public and argue for us and fight without me there.
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  I don't have to do anything. My job is done.
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  I've triangulated you enough. I don't have to do anything
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  else. This how it happened.
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  Y'all that that happened so much.
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  Don't play the triangulation game because they they'll keep
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  doing it to you. Why?
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  Why? Why wouldn't they?
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  You know, why wouldn't they play the triangulation game?
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  Believe, believe. Because we're adults and we.
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  No, no, no, no, no. You can be an adult.
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  But like, the triangulation game doesn't work that way.
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  You know what I mean? You have to keep moving forward.
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  You have to keep basing your stuff.
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  Like they don't play the game y'all because once you pick up
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  the controller, they they expect you to play for a long time.
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  Another game. Y'all.
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  This is another gas lighting game right here.
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  Another, like, gas lighting game that narcissistic people play.
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  They'll hide your stuff. They'll hide your keys.
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  They'll hide your phone. They'll hide your wallet or your
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  purse or your favorite pair of shoes and help you look for
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  them. They'll do that type of stuff
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  right there. It's like a gas lighting game,
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  just to get a reaction from you, just to see you panicking, just
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  to see you just sweating because you're running late for work.
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  You can't find your car keys, right?
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  They got the keys in their pocket, or they got the keys in
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  their shoe, or they the keys are already in your car.
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  They already put them, They put them in your car.
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  They want a job. They want to see you squirm when
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  they're it seem, it might seem like a little jokey, little
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  tricks or whatever it might seem minute.
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  These are big things because if they keep doing it you, it's
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  going to make you feel like you're going crazy.
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  It's literally going to make you feel like you're going crazy if
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  you keep playing these little gaslighting games with them or
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  they hide your keys or hide whatever and they help you look
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  for them and then they find them and they make you feel stupid
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  for them finding something of yours, You know they make you
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  feel silly for them finding something of yours that they
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  hid. I had a woman tell me one time,
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  they like she her keys. She would come in the house, so
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  their keys on the counter and they always like later on they
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  will always be missing somewhere else and she could not.
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  She did not remember picking them up, but her partner was
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  just like you. You're crazy like what do you do
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  with your keys? But they will always turn up
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  later on when he would help him, he would help her find them.
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  So she put a camera, like a little hidden camera in the
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  house and put her keys down. And she caught him coming in
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  there, moving the keys around and hiding the keys in the
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  couch. So she intentionally just went
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  and got the keys from the couch and left and didn't say anything
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  to him. And he kept doing it, kept
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  hiding the keys, and she kept finding she didn't mention
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  anything to him until he's like, oh, so you keep.
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  I see you don't lose your keys anymore.
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  And then she told him about the camera.
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  He got mad. He got mad about the camera.
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  Why are you recording me? Wow.
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  You can't. You didn't trust yourself that
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  much. You recorded me.
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  Wow. Wow.
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  Blamed her for recording him because she didn't trust him.
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  The little hot day. Y'all those little gaslighting
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  games that they do, they erase things.
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  Like I said, they don't. They don't even just hide
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  things, they erase things and like, make sure that they'll
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  send a message from your phone and delete it.
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  They'll delete screens. Y'all I'm just telling you,
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  these little gaslighting games will keep going on, you know
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  will keep going up. They want you to.
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  They want you to question your reality.
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  You know in the last game that I would go over is dog whistles,
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  The dog whistling game, the inside trigger game.
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  Y'all. It's when narcissistic people
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  covertly trigger you on purpose, Like covertly.
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  When I say covertly, it means it's like a secret trigger.
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  It's covertly triggering you with something that only you
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  would understand, right? Only you understand it.
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  Like you understand what we're going through.
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  You understand what we're dealing with.
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  You understand it like you get it.
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  You understand. Like, so I do it on purpose to
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  trigger you to see if I can get a reaction from you.
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  They will try to set you off on purpose, to get you to react to
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  something, something that they're doing to you on purpose.
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  Yes, I keep repeating on purpose because it's on purpose.
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  They want to set you off on purpose in front of people.
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  So you look like the aggressor. So you look like the aggressive
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  person here. So you look like the abusive
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  person. They will do like dog whistles.
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  Or you know, an actual dog whistle is a whistle that people
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  are blowing and only dogs can. Dogs can hear because it's at a
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  certain frequency. Nobody else around you can hear
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  it except the dog. The dog, like you know, nobody
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  else, can hear it. The people can't hear it.
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  I don't know if the cats can hear it, but the dog was like,
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  ah, that hurt my ears. That's how they covertly trigger
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  you. Why?
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  Why is the dog doing that? Why is the dog reacting like
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  that? Somebody was very blowing the
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  dog whistle, you see, doing stuff like that on purpose to
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  covertly trigger you don't. Nobody knows what a dog was
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  triggered except for the person to do it that's doing the
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  triggering. That's a game that narcissists
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  play too, right there. Y'all the dog whistling game.
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  So don't let them play these games with your do not entertain
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  them. I know it's easier said than
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  done. I get y'all trust me when I say.
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  When I say I know it's easier said than done.
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  Believe me, trust me. But anyways, y'all thank y'all
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