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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just -The Strength of the Small: Humility as True Power 3.19.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  On 454, he's talking about how a person carries himself and he
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  says the rule. Anyone who's Catan down here is
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  gadola Bah Bah. Anyone who's got door down here,
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  said Lee, is Katan Bah Bah Bah. That means this idea of acting
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  in this humble way. We described it the way you
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  walk, where you sit, he's all different revelations of your
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  emoji and the way you talk as well.
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  Don't talk down to people. You don't talk tough, you don't
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  talk Intimidating people love to be intimidating.
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  People love to command respect. They feel it's a thing.
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  While the reality is very nice thing for them here, but that's
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  going to reveal that upstairs it's the opposite.
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  And we said yesterday, which I think is a key point, that a
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  person should realize that whatever form of God do that
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  here, that they get any form of man made respect that they
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  command, it's fake. We know it's fake.
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  We know that much respect down here is because of your
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  connections, because of who you related to, because of money,
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  power, the classic stuff, which really means that Cavo down
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  here, which is where a person walks around and carries himself
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  in a way that he believes all hours appointed to me and
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  everyone's looking at me and everyone should look at me.
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  In reality, they're not looking at you.
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  They're looking right past that person.
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  They're looking toward his account, looking toward his
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  connections, towards relationships, toward his power,
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  thinking that through having a connection to him, they have a
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  connection to more. This is how it is, right?
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  And that's covered in this world.
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  So the person who's willing to carry themselves in a Catan way
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  out here is being smart because you're not really diminishing
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  your real cowboy. The real cowboy is not there
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  anyhow. What you're diminishing is the
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  fake stuff. You're just shaving a way to
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  fake respect and he's saving it for where respect is real, and
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  that is a la maba there. The respect does not include any
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  connections. It's not like the angels are
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  saying, oh, I like that guy, he's well to do so and so he's
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  famous. He'll get me a job.
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  No, there's no jobs. Doesn't work that way.
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  Instead they like a person. Hashem gives that person a great
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  position, so to speak, Allah blah, blah, all because of who
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  you are and what you do. And you wanted to be the world
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  down here, but it's not that way down here.
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  It'll never be a world where people get respect just simply
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  because of who they are. Yeah, maybe real respect among
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  your friends and family, the real genuine respect that you
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  like. But the general community talk
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  or Jewish world talk I saw recently, no names.
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  I was there recently a post that says so and so passed away.
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  Mr. so and so's father-in-law. All right.
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  I mean, he's a son-in-law. His son-in-law is a 30 something
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  year old. Well, to do very well off guy
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  that's famous. So the guy who passed away at
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  probably 80 years old, what's his claim to fame, so to speak?
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  How do you pass away? He's so and so's father-in-law.
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  He's not so and so's father-in-law. 15 years ago,
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  before his son-in-law made a dollar, he was who he was.
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  Now he sews his father-in-law. That is going to bother me.
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  I said that's how it no is it off got his whole life and I
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  understand maybe in the news. No one knows that that older
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  man. They only know the son-in-law.
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  But that's what you're telling me, you know, and you coach it,
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  coach it. Philanthropist.
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  The son is a philanthropist. He's not a wealthy guy.
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  He's a philanthropist. I got it.
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  I understand. But at the end of the day, what
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  you're telling me is the son of law is famous, the follow no one
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  knows. And therefore his connection is
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  to them. That's that's.
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  That's I don't, not in the community, and that's one's in
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  the community and one's not. That's different story in the
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  community. Yeah, it's fair.
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  They do that all the time. The guys are skras.
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  He's not from the community. A different last name.
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  That's fair. That makes sense because that's
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  your connection and that makes falsely identify, identify if he
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  respects understand what's going on.
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  That makes a lot of sense. And maybe this example, I'm
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  telling you is a little bit if it's true, maybe it shouldn't be
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  so harsh, but it shows you it shows you somewhat.
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  Somebody went there, huh? Somebody exactly and sure,
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  that's how people are. So we are and that covered.
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  I feel bad for this guy because that covered that he's getting
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  in this world today isn't really a reflection of his own
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  existence. So therefore a person should be
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  cut on down here. Sit in the back, right?
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  Don't demand respect. Don't walk with that heavy walk
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  as if I'm here. Everyone notice me.
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  And then we'll see the next step of this idea on this humility of
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  carrying yourself because what you are a being is genuine.
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  You're not being humble per SE. Humility and genuine is the same
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  thing. I'll give you an example
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  yesterday, last night's class recorded in the Dash opens up
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  Pashad Vaika, the book of Vaika, and it says these words called
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  Tamika Khan sound like this any any rabbi or any Tamika.
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  It doesn't have dots. Who doesn't have Terek edits
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  Nevila Tova Mimenu. What's the Nevila Nevilas?
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  No. And if Villa is a be frank, it's
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  a dead carcass of an animal, says Madash.
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  Any tamika come without their credits is worse off than that.
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  I just mentioned they said what are you being harsh?
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  I got it. It's very harsh.
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  Why they say because if you're not humble, you're not being
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  real. Musharra bin was the example.
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  Musharra Bin would not go in to speak to Hashem without first
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  being invited, even though it was a guarantee that God's going
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  to appear to him. So why do you wait?
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  Because he had to have dedicated Tashem.
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  Why would you go so far, so extreme to give you such a crazy
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  example, right? And the reason is, and because
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  without terror credits meaning, well, humility in that example,
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  well, that person, even that Tabir Raham is showing without
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  their credits. And he believes he's a source.
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  He believes he's worth something.
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  He believes he deserves all the accolades.
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  He believes that Musharraf could have believed that.
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  I'm going to walk into Hashem uninvited because hey, God's
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  beasts me anyhow. No, no, no.
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  Damn it. It's basic decency.
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  Recognizing your position. Musharraf acted every time.
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  As if. Who knows if I ever get another
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  prophecy again? What do you mean?
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  You're the greatest prophet of all time?
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  It's a guarantee. Who knows, Who knows if we're
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  going to get a prophecy that is dedicated to a person describing
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  himself with and if anything is true for a powerful person.
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  Don't walk around with your power swinging it around.
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  Don't walk around with your your wealth swinging it around as if
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  it demands anything. No, I'm blessed.
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  I am doing a lot of good. Yes, I can change my Alamabad 10
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  times. But the good that I do, but not
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  in the fashion that carries me in the wrong way, rather in the
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  manner. And when people see me, I told
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  you it's my favorite thing when people see you and look at you
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  when they say he's the same guy I went to high school with, if
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  that's their perspective of you and mission accomplished, all
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  right. And I try this when I see old
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  friends and they pull the rabbi, I guess, right on me.
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  And I say to them that I try to say, I try to display as if I'm
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  a regular guy. I'm a regular guy.
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  But my point is I'm a father son so and and I thought I'd get
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  together every summer with high school friends.
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  He had this region and one guy's a couple of accountants, couple
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  of nursing home guys. Oh, Ashka has obviously one guy
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  is a a what's it called a warehouse owner.
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  He owns a bunch of warehouses, a lot of the Ashka's versions.
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  And I'm officially the rabbi of the crew and I get together.
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  They stop teasing me. They're going to say there's no
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  difference a regular guy and you got to carry yourself.
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  And then if we have to jump into the pool with them, I had to sit
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  with these astronauts, guys, we're eating these steaks and
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  sit there and make these silly jokes.
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  That'll be a regular guy. And the same, the issue with
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  your version, our version of getting together with family,
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  right? You can have one brother-in-law
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  who's blessed, that's Edison Crowe.
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  One brother is blessed, another brother-in-law who's out of a
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  job, right? And you have to be able to be in
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  that table as if no one could tell the difference instead of
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  AB that I'm insinuating I did this and we did that we did
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  this. No, we didn't do anything bar
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  I'm mindful sometimes. You know, a guy poking about
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  this the world vacation and the guy can't and and it's happened
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  to me a couple of times. He just want to go over the
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  table and like. It's a guy.
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  Robert Joe We spoke yesterday about the class 'cause my wife
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  told me to. Believe that thing I sort of
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  wear his dumb something dumb talkers he's.
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  Exactly, he spoke about people that everyone says things that
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  are so insensitive to the next person.
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  Yep, try to bring. Out sure people why and a simple
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  reason is the only word people believe it's because they're
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  ignorant. They realize sure that's true.
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  We know the things about the better veils.
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  We know that that is really not people's fault, although there's
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  a lot of jokes about them. I think there's a video on
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  YouTube of all the classic lines about like, yeah, you know, the
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  the those lines of people saying sensitive lines and they go very
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  special. You've heard that a million
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  times about, oh, how you know, they tell the guy it's
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  comfortable with Crocs and all these different things, right?
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  Craziness. They're fine.
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  The most classic line of all time that I heard is I can't
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  even say it's true and such an insensitive line.
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  But anyhow, it's an unbelievable sensitive line.
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  Fine people are very that's that is coming from uncomfortable.
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  No one's trying to, you know, stick it together, guy.
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  That's because they just don't know what to say and they want
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  to say something and they want to be maybe the euro or lift the
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  person up. But then this they want to be
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  relevant. Maybe.
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  Now the deeper thing is, is that people, whatever it is, everyone
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  out there wants to feel good about themselves.
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  So I'll be honest with you, in my old version, I have it all
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  the time. You sit by a Shabbat table and
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  you want to feel good, so you want to get the perfect outcome.
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  What's the perfect outcome? I show them where I'm holding,
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  but they're not really upset on me or directly jealous, but they
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  know where I am all right. They know what I'm doing.
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  I know the other business I just opened, or they know the speech
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  I just gave. Everyone knows where I'm holding
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  without me sticking at them directly.
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  You want them to kind of find out without you actually showing
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  it to them. Every person, any position of
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  success, wants that outcome. Follow me on you with me.
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  You know the version I'm talking about.
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  You tell the guy, you try to you know, someone bring something up
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  and you wanted to know. Hey, I know that guy first, by
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  the way. Yeah, In fact, he works for me,
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  right? You're talking about what kind
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  of big deal is. He works for me.
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  You. I gave him the advice.
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  In fact, I got them married, all those examples.
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  And you wanted to get out there without.
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  But then you need to you talk and then what happens?
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  Now you're trying to reveal the you're a big deal.
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  The outcome. Other people feel small, other
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  people feel Hazid, other people are jealous.
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  All right, It's a classic points.
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  I'll give you a a very I can't give you this example.
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  It's a real example, but I've I can't give you the example
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  anyhow, it's fine. I spoke recently by a family,
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  but something family related, OK.
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  And it happens to be that speech was because I had a direct
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  relationship with someone involved.
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  After the speech is over, after the night was over, my wife told
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  me never again. I said come on.
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  But never again. I thought I spoke good.
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  She's like never again. I said why?
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  She said because you realize everyone else in the room, they
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  all don't have that connection. And you got up there and you
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  spoke, I'm not the biggest speaker in that crew.
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  That's understood fine. But you had that connection.
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  And because you had that connection, there's no question
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  about every person in their mind was thinking, I wish it was in
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  that position. They're not specific instance.
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  They don't want my position in general, no one does.
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  But they wish they would not position for this.
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  And she said if or never again, it was a great thing.
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  So the theme is a holder's talk. The theme is you want to carry
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  yourself in a form you are somewhat incognita, somewhat
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  small, because like you said about the dumb talkers, as our
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  brother calls up, he said about these people, what's the
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  outcome? What's the go Jealousy, People
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  copying you, people talking about you.
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  There's no positive outcome. There never has been that
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  ignorance can't be an excuse any No, it's not.
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  It's not because you know what? You've been in that position
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  yourself. You've been on the other side of
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  the corner. You've been in a position where
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  you, let's say, struggling in a certain area or you know,
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  they're talking about kids. We don't have the kids and
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  they're talking about kids behaving beautifully and our
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  kids are not behaving well. Or you have been down that road
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  when they're talking to say they're talking about as if
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  their kids are. Wow, they behave.
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  You think they are in the British Army.
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  They lined up like nobody's business does.
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  You think right? And then they make you feel like
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  we're on assist, like your kids are wild maniacs.
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  And yet let's be true, they have kids.
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  That's all one guy is, is is lining up perfectly because he's
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  not that smart or because fine, whatever it is, maybe it is.
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  He's a good behavior kid. That doesn't mean my kids are a
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  disaster. I shouldn't be a small about
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  them. We've been down this road.
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  Same with money, kids, power, be famous, being involved in
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  community things, all these different examples.
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  All that they do is make the other person feel small with me
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  and therefore Messiah. Shane writes, a person should
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  minimize themselves and he says these words with on 454 close to
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  the Baraba Amru Lao Alam Yulman Adam Medat Kono.
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  A person should learn from his Creator, Hashem.
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  God did not use any of the large mountains or any of the large
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  places. You know when my Tantra was
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  given? Why specifically?
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  Because it's small. Hashem likes the small.
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  We the Jewish people are referred to as Hashem's remnant.
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  So you think remnant is saving grace leftover.
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  I don't know. God wants it that way.
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  The Misha miss seem it's more Kishirayim.
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  You carry yourself in this world that you guys yourself in this
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  world like the leftovers, which means you watch the whole world
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  affairs and he keeps saying himself.
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  I'll give you an example right now you're watching I really in
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  a certain sense, the world is, you know, Israel is unbelievably
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  powerful, but the world at the same time is giving it on us
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  because you have the left, you have their beliefs and now you
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  have definitely a real thing. The right and the right are
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  revealing their true colors that they empower them and that is
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  that's not like a too political. I mean, that is they have an
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  America first mentality, AKA isolationism, AKA pure blooded,
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  call it what you want, AKA somewhat down the road of the
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  pure Aryan race. Next thing you know they have a
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  head that's very similar to head that I've been around the world
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  in the past, which is we shouldn't be doing anything
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  outside America. And then they put out a
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  statement which says is it was everything.
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  The guy who puts out a real statement is of a what?
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  What are you saying that it's writing?
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  Are you literally saying those type of words publicly?
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  You're basically treading on and the strongest anti-Semitic
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  versions and views that the world has known.
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  Are you feeding fuel to the fire?
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  The whole thing right and Hashem is giving us a miracle and this
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  one guy who is a stubborn you thank God and this one guy
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  whatever reason has it he wants in his head and he careless.
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  I'll tell you one thing, if the buck did not stop by him, we
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  will be in significant serious trouble one way or another.
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  And you look at this, you see yourself a Jew once again.
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  He finds himself on the run. He finds self Hardy.
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  He finds self small. He finds himself in defensive
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  mode. We don't.
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  We don't teach that the world was created for.
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  The Jews. We do literally we do.
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  Oh, so now I told you this other day, I told you something for
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  you just at that point. But first let's let's at this
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  point we'll finish this class then we'll get to that point.
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  The point is so you finally do is on the run again in a sense,
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  right? He has to lay low.
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  He shouldn't be having major Jewish bravado the whole thing.
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  Why, cuz le Sherita Hashem likes us in the humble form.
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  God likes us to be a super successful, the best families
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  build beautiful homes. All that's fine.
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  But recognize I'm a remnant. I'm not trying to be the
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  loudest, proudest, strongest block in the world.
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  Not trying to do that. Maybe I have to protect my
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  people, sure, and maybe I have the display straight to protect
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  our people. That's true too.
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  Maybe I have to get involved in the government also true.
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  But not trying in my mind to imagine a world where I am and
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  we are small and powerful. Not to go the goal, not to be
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  small, but we only power over the whole world.
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  Well, she all comes. Sure, that will be the world,
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  but right now the goal is not to be wielding that power from our
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  little small area. Is it happening?
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  Yes, but not in their sense that we have a bang on our chest.
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  That's not what a Jew does. We copy Hashem's will and we
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  copy the position God put us in. Hashem quartered us in the
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  position on purpose. Time and time again we're being
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  quartered. Don't try to break out of that
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  quarter. Now to what David's asking,
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  that's the idea of humility. Dave was asking.
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  But one second, we believe that the world was created for
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  Amuseo, the world was created for the Tudor, but it's not to
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  be kept and etcetera, etcetera. Sure, you're right.
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  Look at the world today. The whole world, the entire
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  world revolves around one topic. Call it the Palestinian topic,
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  call it Middle East, or call it what it really is.
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  Whether or not you're like a Jew.
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  That's the whole top. The whole world is based on
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  that, right? So Europe doesn't like Jews
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  anymore to a degree. So therefore, our way, our
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  president Hashem likes Jews, right?
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  Israel, obviously it's Israel. Yeah, the whole picture, right.
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  Liberals over there like Jews, a lot of them.
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  The far right doesn't like Jews. And the Sedanic from two
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  different forms. You know it's wild, huh?
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  Even that Jews are right. Sure, but what's wild is you
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  literally are living through a type where you call it the
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  Ishmael and as S sides or you call it little you cornered from
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  the right and the left hack. They're coming down the middle.
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  The right and the left are shrinking, trying to diminish us
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  sitting there in the middle as a crazy position to worry.
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  It's somehow showing making miracle upon miracle.
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  At the same time, as much as they get crazy, God is still
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  allowed the most powerful country ever with one of the
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  most powerful men in the history of the world, right?
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  Using the most powerful army to defend his tiny dot, right,
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  combined with the power that exists in Israel, which is also
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  an open miracle. And what is that?
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  That's what David was saying, that Hashem created the world
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  for the Jew as the small guy, but the powerful guy, this small
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  guy, but the one who the world circles around.
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  We believe that. We just don't believe it's being
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  orchestrated by men. We believe it's being
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  orchestrated by God. That's where the tweak is.
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  We do believe. We don't believe in the
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  conspiracy theory version where there's a crew behind the scenes
• 20:01
  in some basement pulling the strings on behalf of the Jewish
• 20:04
  people that we don't believe that.
• 20:06
  We believe Hashem is that crew behind the scenes, not in the
• 20:10
  basement and upstairs pulling their strings and making those
• 20:13
  moves. Same outcome, which is, wow,
• 20:16
  how'd that happen? It's crazy.
• 20:18
  It's got to be people working over 20 years.
• 20:20
  God's worked out for 100 years. Well, how'd that happen?
• 20:23
  It's crazy. It must be to have a guy inside.
• 20:25
  God is the guy inside. That's what we see.
• 20:28
  So a Jew or Jew, although he has great ability, he has the
• 20:33
  confidence in that not to play into the conspiracy news or
• 20:38
  their beliefs, rather to play into it.
• 20:40
  It would not have to be the whole that we have, but at it's
• 20:42
  core, you recognize the shady, the halato or small or leftover
• 20:49
  without a big deal. We're not allowed not making
• 20:51
  much noise. We're going in a merry way by
• 20:54
  Hashem, at the same time is running the world for us.
• 20:57
  The more we act that humble, the more we have that power.
• 21:00
  That's how it goes.