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✨START HERE: Feel Really Good - It's Not What You Think · Feel Really Good: Empowering Meditations

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  SPEAKER_00: Feel Really Good.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not what you think.
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  SPEAKER_00: My inspiration for this publication and why it matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feeling really good doesn't mean feeling awesome all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know that might sound ironic coming from someone who named
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  SPEAKER_00: a whole publication Feel Really Good.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's exactly the kind of misunderstanding I want to clear up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the name comes from two things, and neither of them is about being happy all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first is pretty simple.
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  SPEAKER_00: Literally that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feel Really Good is about the simple things.
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  SPEAKER_00: For me, feeling really good isn't just reserved for moments of huge achievement.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feeling good doesn't have to be withheld until the weekend.
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  SPEAKER_00: Joy doesn't have to be postponed until we quote unquote get there.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the small ordinary moments of feeling really good
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  SPEAKER_00: that remind us just how beautiful life is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let yourself find joy in the simplest of moments.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might be surprised that when you start to see what you once labeled
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  SPEAKER_00: as quote unquote mundane,
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  SPEAKER_00: now as opportunities to experience a little lightness,
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  SPEAKER_00: peace, and happiness, life in general starts to feel different in a good way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let the moments of awe and inspiration come and go.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to have a perfect day or cling to a feeling of awesomeness all
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  SPEAKER_00: the time in order to dip into moments that Feel Really Good.
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  SPEAKER_00: The second is what happens when we honor how we really feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we start to bring more awareness to how we feel more often,
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  SPEAKER_00: we start to trust that we can act from what we actually need rather than
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  SPEAKER_00: from what we think we should be doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life begins to show us just how incredible it is to be in alignment with ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: which includes times when we don't feel awesome.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even when we're sad, grieving, stuck, or depressed, we can still have times of feeling good.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's what I mean.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two things can be true.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we have a day or even a whole season of life where
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  SPEAKER_00: the emotions we predominantly feel are less than ideal,
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  SPEAKER_00: some of us start to believe that the hard feelings are the only thing we're feeling,
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  SPEAKER_00: that they're only the only thing we're allowed to feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm such a black and white thinker.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for a long time,
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  SPEAKER_00: I would actually withhold my own moments of joy because I was going
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  SPEAKER_00: through something hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: When my dad passed away,
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  SPEAKER_00: there were years where I'd catch myself laughing or feeling light,
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  SPEAKER_00: and then I'd stop myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wait, I'm grieving.
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  SPEAKER_00: I shouldn't be happy right now, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But life is nuanced, and it can be both.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even when we're moving through something extremely challenging,
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  SPEAKER_00: or even having a moment in our day where we feel like shit,
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  SPEAKER_00: that doesn't mean there's no room for feeling good too.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about faking it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The other thing I want to be clear about is that feeling good is not about putting
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  SPEAKER_00: on a happy face and barfing sunshine and rainbows all over the place.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about a fake it till you make it mentality.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not forcing ourselves to just try and feel happy all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not realistic.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in many cases,
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  SPEAKER_00: it's just completely bypassing our own humanness and skipping right
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  SPEAKER_00: over what's true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pretending to feel good can actually take us further away from what we're trying
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  SPEAKER_00: to achieve in the first place.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the story that changed how I think about quote-unquote feeling good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Years ago, I heard a story from one of my teachers, Jack Kornfield.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know I'm not going to get every detail exactly right,
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  SPEAKER_00: But I hope that the idea behind it is helpful.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man went to his therapist and said he wanted to feel better.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the therapist suggested he try a silent retreat.
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  SPEAKER_00: The man goes on the silent retreat for 10 days.
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  SPEAKER_00: And around day three, he's feeling really happy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Around day six, he starts to feel angry and uncomfortable in his body.
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  SPEAKER_00: By day nine, a deep grief that he hadn't touched in years rises to the surface to be felt.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the longer he sits with it, the more uncomfortable it gets.
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  SPEAKER_00: After the retreat, he goes back to his therapist and he says, it didn't work.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the therapist asks, what didn't work?
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  SPEAKER_00: The man says, you told me if I went on a silent retreat, I'd feel better.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the therapist says, you do feel better.
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  SPEAKER_00: You feel your frustration better.
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  SPEAKER_00: You feel your sadness better.
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  SPEAKER_00: You feel your anger better.
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  SPEAKER_00: You feel your grief better.
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  SPEAKER_00: The whole point is that we aren't here to live in a perpetual state of happiness.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even though we won't feel good in our body,
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  SPEAKER_00: mind and emotions all of the time, we can learn to be good at feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: What I hope this space becomes I hope it's a space where you can take something away.
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  SPEAKER_00: A brief moment of reflection, a simple pause, a spark of inspiration that rises up in you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But more than that, I hope it's a space that helps you get good at feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: That helps you move out of your head and into your body so that you can be fully alive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we just need a mirror held up in front of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something to reflect us back to ourselves before we can understand how we truly feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: So yes, with the meditations I share, I hope you walk away feeling a bit lighter.
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  SPEAKER_00: But there will also be some days when something feels uncomfortable or triggering
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  SPEAKER_00: or even frustrating when we practice together or you read one of my reflections.
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  SPEAKER_00: My hope on those days is that you still get something.
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  SPEAKER_00: That you still start to understand that by feeling something,
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  SPEAKER_00: even something less than ideal, you are alive.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that you are stepping more and more into feeling that aliveness each day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feeling alive isn't always about sunshine and rainbows.
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  SPEAKER_00: But damn, isn't it something that we get to explore the full range of human experience?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm excited that you're here for the journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: One other small hope I have is that we can share our little wins with each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: The simple moments where we Feel Really Good or learn to get better at feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: So feel free to leave a comment on this post or any post to share your experiences
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  SPEAKER_00: with the community.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I look forward to reading each one.
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  SPEAKER_00: This post also has reflection prompts to help support you on your own journey
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  SPEAKER_00: of feeling really good.
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  SPEAKER_00: So feel free to check those out at the bottom of the post.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for reading Feel Really Good and subscribing to my work
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  SPEAKER_00: and I will be sharing new posts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your support means the world to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have a great day.