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Heal Before You Love: 5 Areas Every Christian Woman Must Restore · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  Sis, healing and wholeness are not the same thing.
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  You can be healed from the pain, but still be living from the patterns it left behind.
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  And today, I want to lovingly show you five areas God restores before He invites
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  healthy love into your life.
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  Not so you can become perfect, but so you can finally rest.
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  If you're done chasing broken love, empty promises, and lukewarm men,
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  and you're finally ready to reclaim your crown, heal your heart,
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  and attract the God-led love you were always meant for, you're in the right place.
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  Hi, I'm Emily Jordan, your faith-based healed feminine guide and relationship coach.
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  I went from repeating the same heartbreaking cycles to experiencing a godly, healthy, aligned love.
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  And now I help women just like you heal, rise, and prepare for God's very best.
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  So, are you ready to begin your royal training? Grab your crown,
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  your heart, and your journal.
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  Your royal transformation begins now.
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  Hey sis, welcome back to the show. I am so excited that you are here for another
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  episode of Girl Date the Good Guy.
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  I'm your host, Emily, and I am so excited about what we're going to be talking about today.
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  I want to say this clearly before we go any further.
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  God is not withholding love from you because you're not healed enough.
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  He's not punishing you with singleness, and He's not waiting for you to fix
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  yourself. but he is intentional about the condition of your heart.
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  Scripture tells us in Proverbs that we are to guard our hearts because everything flows from it.
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  And today we're going to gently look at what might still be flowing from places
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  that need restoration, not shame.
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  There was a season where I honestly thought I was healed.
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  I wasn't crying anymore. I wasn't obsessing over the past. I wasn't chasing
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  the same kind of men, but I still felt tired, guarded, uneasy when something good would come my way.
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  And that's when God showed me something I didn't want to see.
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  I had healed wounds, but I hadn't rebuilt trust.
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  I had awareness, but not wholeness.
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  Healing stopped the bleeding. Wholeness changed how I lived.
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  Now for your royal training. The first area that God restores is your heart.
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  Not just the heartbreak, but the residue it left behind.
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  Bitterness, disappointment, quiet resentment.
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  The Bible tells us God heals the brokenhearted and binds their wounds.
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  That's Psalms 147.3.
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  But binding a wound means tending to it long enough for strength to return.
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  If your heart still flinches at intimacy, still expects disappointment,
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  still prepares for abandonment, that's not weakness. That's information.
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  God doesn't rush heart healing. He restores it so it can love without fear again.
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  The second area he heals is your mind.
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  Because heartbreak doesn't just hurt, it teaches. It teaches you lies like I'm
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  too much, love doesn't last, or I have to earn affection.
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  Romans tells us transformation happens through renewed thinking.
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  Not time, not distraction, not another relationship.
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  If your thoughts still question your worth, still normalize inconsistency,
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  still explain away red flags, that's not intuition.
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  That's unrenewed belief. God heals your thinking, so you stop dating from distortion.
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  The third area is identity.
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  Pain will try to rename you. Rejection, abandoned, too much, hard to love.
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  But scripture calls you chosen, royal, and set apart.
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  A wounded woman asks, why wasn't I enough?
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  A whole woman asks, does this align with who God says I am?
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  God restores identity before love because you cannot receive healthy love while
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  still identifying with your wounds.
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  The fourth area God heals is your patterns.
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  Not just who you date, but how you attach. Do you chase, overgive, avoid, settle?
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  Scripture tells us to guard our hearts because patterns reveal what we believe love requires from us.
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  God doesn't shame patterns.
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  He exposes them so you can choose differently.
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  Wholeness looks like slowing down, observing fruit, and trusting God enough
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  not to rush. And finally, your relationship with God.
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  Because many of us didn't stop trusting God, we just stopped waiting for Him.
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  We sought love before seeking alignment, affection before confirmation,
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  attention before obedience.
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  The Bible says when we seek God first, everything else is added.
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  That includes love.
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  God protects this order not to control you, but to protect your peace.
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  Now for your royal reflection. I want you to pause with me for a moment.
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  Which one of these areas is God gently highlighting?
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  Not to condemn you, but to invite you into deeper rest.
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  You don't need to heal everything today. You just need to be honest with yourself.
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  Because when you're honest, and you self-reflect, and you grow and change,
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  I promise you, sister, there are amazing things ahead for you.
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  Your call to action. This week, take the royal mirror and ask God one simple question.
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  Where are you inviting me into wholeness? Then listen, without rushing to fix.
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  Let him speak to your spirit.
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  Let him embrace you in the ways that maybe you are not allowing yourself to embrace.
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  So then how is someone else going to embrace you? So if you need to cry this out, cry it out.
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  Call a girlfriend. Be like, girl, I want to come to a better,
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  greater space in my life.
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  And in order to do that, you gotta do the work.
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  You have to. Wholeness is not perfection. It's peace. It's clarity.
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  It's no longer needing love to prove your worth. You are not behind. You are being prepared.
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  Gently, intentionally, lovingly. And the love that God leads you into will recognize
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  the woman who has learned to live whole.
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  Thank you for walking this journey with me today. Sis, you did that.
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  You showed up for your healing and that is
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  royal energy if this episode challenged you
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  grew you or called you higher share it with another sister
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  who's ready to reclaim her crown too and if you've got 30 seconds it would bless
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  me big if you'd leave a review on apple podcast it helps more women step into
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  their royal identity and join the good guy society movement until next time
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  keep your crown on your standards high and your heart in royal alignment.
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  You.