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Professional Trick · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, a production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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  Speaker 2: Talk, talk, talk to them.
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  Speaker 3: We're just two unapologetically Black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 3: talk back.
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  Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? It's your girl AJ Holiday. What's up, Tam, man? Hey, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: We missed y'all, man. I really missed y'all. It's been
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  Speaker 3: like two weeks, right?
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  Speaker 2: Something like that. going through withdrawals.
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  Speaker 1: A little bullshit with life. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: What's up? What you been up to? What's been going on? Girl,
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  Speaker 2: I'm a motherfucking grandma now.
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  Speaker 1: A grandmommy. Dasha, my daughter Dasha, I had some kittens.
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  Speaker 1: She did have eight, but now she only got six now. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've been in here nursing babies, child, making milk.
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  Speaker 1: Making milk? Like a supplement to give her a break.
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  Speaker 1: But she ends up drinking the fucking milk. To keep
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  Speaker 1: her hydrated. Yeah, to keep her hydrated. But it's around
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  Speaker 1: the clock, girl. This shit is not... This shit get
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  Speaker 1: them a little bit. Y'all, I live in a two
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  Speaker 1: bedroom apartment and I done fucking bred some goddamn cats
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  Speaker 1: in this bitch. Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Just dumb nigga shit. Just straight nigga shit. So I
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  Speaker 2: barely went out the house.
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  Speaker 1: Girl mama keep calling me like, where you at?
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  Speaker 2: I'm in Costco on Saturday.
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  Speaker 1: You know, that's the.
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  Speaker 2: Your favorite Saturday event.
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  Speaker 1: I need somebody to send me because I made a
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  Speaker 1: reel for Saturday. I can't post it because I can't
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  Speaker 1: find that music. You know, like the escalation music that
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  Speaker 1: people be posting. Like when they tell us something and
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  Speaker 1: all of a sudden, like the beat dropping is like,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I'm talking about? I do.
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  Speaker 2: What is it called?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Let me see if I can find it and send
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  Speaker 2: it to you when we get off of here.
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  Speaker 1: Because I want to talk about white bitches in the
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  Speaker 1: goddamn bathroom. TJ Maxx, Marshalls, HomeGoods, Costco bathrooms be so
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  Speaker 1: stink on the weekends.
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  Speaker 2: Why? What the fuck are y'all eating? They going to Starbucks, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: That's why.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you right now why.
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  Speaker 3: Anytime I see somebody drinking coffee on the go, I
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  Speaker 3: be like, bitch, I admire you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't leave my house. I can't drink coffee
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  Speaker 1: and leave. I will drink coffee and stay home until
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  Speaker 1: my vows pass. Because this is a diuretic for me.
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  Speaker 1: That's the only way. These bitches be riding down the street.
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  Speaker 1: I kill somebody if I drink coffee and ride down
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  Speaker 1: the street. The fucking bathrooms is like, you can't breathe.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to open my mouth in there. I
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  Speaker 1: really try not to use the bathroom, but if I
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  Speaker 1: have to use it really, really, really bad, I'll go
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  Speaker 1: use it. But it's like, I don't want to open
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  Speaker 1: my pussy up in here either. Yeah. Where is the ventilation?
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  Speaker 1: But somebody sent me that.
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  Speaker 2: I got to find it.
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  Speaker 1: I kept looking, looking, looking like, damn, I need that sound.
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  Speaker 1: That tone, that sound. It's the Starbucks, girl. Anyway, my
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  Speaker 1: mom kept calling me like, when I was a mother,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't leave the house. And I'm like, that's your
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  Speaker 1: damn business. You think I'm supposed to be in the house?
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  Speaker 1: I said, Dasha got the whole... Dasha got the kitchen
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  Speaker 1: on her body, okay? Right. They don't need me. Them
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  Speaker 1: motherfuckers can't even see right now. Right, they do not
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  Speaker 1: need you for shit. Every time she call me, what
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  Speaker 1: you doing out the house?
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  Speaker 2: Girl, leave me alone.
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  Speaker 1: Crazy as hell, man. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: What you had going on this weekend? It was Benedict's
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  Speaker 3: homecoming weekend. Shout out to Benedict College.
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  Speaker 1: B.C., B.C., you know you know.
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  Speaker 2: Period. We was outside. We had a good time.
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  Speaker 3: It's just like, I love, I want to go to
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  Speaker 3: every black college homecoming. Because you can eat at anybody's tent.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody's so friendly. You don't have to know nobody.
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  Speaker 1: You can drink.
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  Speaker 2: You can eat. You can dance. You get to see
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  Speaker 2: all the people that you do know when it is
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  Speaker 2: your own homecoming. A lot of people looking good.
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  Speaker 3: Not everybody looking good, but it's okay.
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  Speaker 1: We all family.
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  Speaker 2: What's going on with so-and-so?
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: There was a lot of that.
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  Speaker 1: Like, hell, what happened?
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  Speaker 2: Life ain't been no Christmas yet.
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  Speaker 1: But somebody asked me, said, you've been eating good, ain't it?
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  Speaker 1: I said, nigga. Look at my face.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 1: That hurt my feelings a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: But it's all good.
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  Speaker 1: I still look good, like Whitney Houston.
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  Speaker 3: And that's all that went out. I hosted a party
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  Speaker 3: Friday night. Me and Jamaica.
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  Speaker 2: We hosted that party Friday night. I got drunk. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know. Listen, shout out to my friend Jamaica.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all, Jamaica can party like the rest, the best of them, okay?
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  Speaker 2: Whole life.
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  Speaker 1: It's amazing. I went out Friday. Baby six pack and liquor. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: I could not.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't get to the game till three o'clock. That's
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  Speaker 3: how long it took me to shake back. That girl
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  Speaker 3: was up doing a float Saturday morning, like the parade.
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  Speaker 3: How in the world? Body metabolized liquor.
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  Speaker 1: Way better. Got to.
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  Speaker 3: It took me the whole day. And then I did
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  Speaker 3: not go out after that. I went to the game
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  Speaker 3: and I went home. But shout out to BC.
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  Speaker 2: It's a good time.
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  Speaker 1: It's over though, right? Uh-uh.
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  Speaker 2: G-Ho is... The weekend after next.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so this weekend at State Homecoming, my nephew played football,
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  Speaker 1: so I might go.
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  Speaker 2: You going?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I'm going.
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  Speaker 2: That's going to be a good time, too. Last year,
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  Speaker 2: they shot that shit up, though.
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  Speaker 1: A girl and a boy died.
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  Speaker 2: But it was on the campus. It was, like, it
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  Speaker 2: wasn't where the game was. Yeah, it was outside the game.
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  Speaker 2: But it's still on campus, though.
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  Speaker 3: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 2: I hope none of that happens. We had heavy police
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  Speaker 2: presence at Benedict Homecoming.
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  Speaker 1: Really? It was riding through on little— Benedict ain't even
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  Speaker 1: that crazy anymore.
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  Speaker 2: It's not.
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  Speaker 1: It's calm. It's peaceful.
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  Speaker 2: They didn't even need it. They rolled past. I said, smile,
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  Speaker 2: God damn.
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  Speaker 1: This niggas. Is it still on Two Notch?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: At the stadium. That means how people still be tailgating
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  Speaker 1: up and down the street.
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  Speaker 3: No, it's on the actual stadium grounds now.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: The whole stadium grounds is covered with tailgate all the
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  Speaker 3: way to the back.
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  Speaker 1: So were the police just driving down Two Notch or
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  Speaker 1: just like what?
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  Speaker 2: No, through the stadium.
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  Speaker 1: Through.
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  Speaker 2: On, like, little... They're not 18-wheelers. What are they called?
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  Speaker 3: ATVs. Little ATVs. And they standing up on them, just
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  Speaker 3: making their presence very known. I was like, y'all ain't
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  Speaker 3: got to look so mean right through.
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  Speaker 1: Columbia is a black-ass city. Yeah, it is.
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  Speaker 2: That's a black city. So was it white people on
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  Speaker 2: the back of the horses?
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  Speaker 3: It was horses out there, too. But it wasn't police horses.
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  Speaker 3: It was like people, like niggas on horses.
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  Speaker 1: Ooh.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I know.
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  Speaker 1: If you own a horse, you got that bag.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was beautiful. It's expensive to take care of
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  Speaker 2: a horse. So that was cool.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, y'all know we from South Carolina, we talking
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  Speaker 3: about niggas on horses riding through the gang.
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  Speaker 1: Yep. Bitch, hold on. I just opened Instagram.
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  Speaker 2: Megan Thee Stallion did Victoria's Secret? Yes, she did.
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  Speaker 1: That motherfucker fire.
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  Speaker 2: She look great.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she did. I'm proud of her.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, honey. That shit got two million views, Chi.
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  Speaker 2: And that just dropped yesterday. So, let's get in the scenes.
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  Speaker 1: Period. All right, so I saw this post. So, apparently,
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  Speaker 1: Lawrence Fishburne admits that he was a real-life wife-beater while
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  Speaker 1: playing Ike Turner.
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  Speaker 2: Who would have thunk it?
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  Speaker 1: Did that shit too good? Like he did that shit
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  Speaker 1: too good.
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  Speaker 2: So what he say?
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  Speaker 1: He said, it says, Lawrence Fishburne has shockingly revealed in
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  Speaker 1: a candid interview with Jameel Hill that while he was
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  Speaker 1: portraying Ike Turner in the 1990, that's a long ass
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  Speaker 1: time ago, 1993 movie. We was young as fuck watching
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  Speaker 1: that sex scene, rape scene in the damn studio. The
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  Speaker 1: Ike Turner, played Ike Turner in 1993 movie, What's Love
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  Speaker 1: Got To Do With It? He was also living a
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  Speaker 1: painful truth off-screen, admitting that during production of the movie,
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  Speaker 1: he was physically abusive in his marriage, a reality he
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  Speaker 1: now speaks on with deep regret and shame. He later
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  Speaker 1: said he believes God allowed him to take the role
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  Speaker 1: as a mirror to confront the man he had become.
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  Speaker 1: He said after the movie, the marriage ended. It had
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  Speaker 1: to end after that. I couldn't be that man anymore,
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  Speaker 1: and my first wife couldn't be that woman anymore. Fishburne
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  Speaker 1: has shared that he still struggles to accept praise for
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  Speaker 1: his performance because, in his own words, I was like
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  Speaker 1: Ike Turner in real life. Fishburne has reflected on how
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  Speaker 1: unresolved trauma and the environment his children grew up in
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  Speaker 1: may have had lasting effects on them, turning... what many
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  Speaker 1: saw as an award-worthy role into something far more personal, haunting,
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  Speaker 1: and difficult to separate from in his real life. Jesus Christ.
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  Speaker 1: I was about to say, you've been doing good now.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all niggas got that? Did you get your copper in?
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  Speaker 1: Slow it down and rewind that shit.
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  Speaker 2: My brain be skipping, child.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so he was abusive in his marriage while playing
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  Speaker 1: Ike Turner. That is nuts.
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  Speaker 2: That is not surprising, though.
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  Speaker 3: That's why he was able to play that role so good,
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  Speaker 3: because he already had the.
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  Speaker 2: Consciousness of an abusive man. You know?
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  Speaker 3: That's why I was so believable.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I've never.
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  Speaker 1: Been in an abusive relationship, per se. But there had
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  Speaker 1: been abuse in the relationship. You see the difference, kinda? Like,
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  Speaker 1: you get into some shit with the person you with,
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  Speaker 1: but it's not like y'all are like, he's just pounding
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  Speaker 1: on you every other day, Or you can't, you just
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  Speaker 1: walking on eggshells. You don't know what to say or
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  Speaker 1: do before you get smacked in the mouth. But when
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  Speaker 1: y'all get into it, you might fight. You might tussle.
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  Speaker 1: That's abusive.
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm saying that has happened.
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  Speaker 1: To me in a relationship, but I won't say that
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  Speaker 1: I was in an abusive relationship. I think most of
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  Speaker 1: the relations probably was like more emotional.
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  Speaker 2: Because you was being him. That's why.
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  Speaker 1: That's the only way that makes sense. I swear to God, listen,
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  Speaker 1: I used to hit niggas. I don't do it no more.
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  Speaker 2: I don't fish burn niggas no more.
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  Speaker 1: Not fish burn. No, don't.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all keep your hands to yourself.
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  Speaker 1: No, seriously.
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  Speaker 2: Seriously. I never initiated none of that shit.
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  Speaker 1: Like, aside from, like, if I tell you don't come
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  Speaker 1: to my house and you pull up to my house, like,
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  Speaker 1: you might get smacked when I open the door. That
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  Speaker 1: has happened. If I try to leave to avoid conflict
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  Speaker 1: and you don't allow me to, yeah. But are those
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  Speaker 1: abusive relationships? If somebody keeps you from leaving, that's kidnapping. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: You have the right to defend yourself at that point.
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  Speaker 2: And act a donkey, for sure.
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  Speaker 1: But, shame. I'm glad he was able to get through that.
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  Speaker 1: And I can imagine, you know, as somebody who's trying
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  Speaker 1: to grow and change and then to see yourself, like,
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  Speaker 1: he actually was able to see himself through film. Right.
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  Speaker 2: And see what that looked like and how horrific that is.
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  Speaker 3: Especially, like, Getting raped by your husband while he whooping
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  Speaker 3: your ass. He already whooping you, but he also, like,
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  Speaker 3: penetrating you at the same time. That's just, like, the
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  Speaker 3: ultimate violation.
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  Speaker 1: Goodness. And I think a lot of women deal with
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  Speaker 1: that in marriages and relationships, like in a boyfriend scenario also,
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  Speaker 1: because men think because we're together, they have all access
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  Speaker 1: to your body. And if I say no, even in
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  Speaker 1: a marriage, and you take it further... that is, you
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  Speaker 1: violated your wife. And I think that happens a lot.
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  Speaker 1: I think the law, I think the law against shit
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  Speaker 1: like that is kind of new. Right. And ambiguous. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: It's very gray.
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  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. What else we got going on?
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  Speaker 3: All right, so I have another scene, and it says,
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  Speaker 3: most husbands who listen to their wives' advice are the
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  Speaker 3: most successful men on earth.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how true this is, but I fucking
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  Speaker 2: believe it.
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  Speaker 1: Me too.
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  Speaker 2: I believe it.
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  Speaker 1: Wholeheartedly.
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  Speaker 2: A supportive spouse can influence more than your relationship.
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  Speaker 3: Research suggests that they may also play a role in
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  Speaker 3: your career success. Now, it says a five-year study of
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  Speaker 3: more than 4,500 married adults found that people with highly
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  Speaker 3: conscientious spouses tended to report greater job satisfaction, higher income,
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  Speaker 3: and a greater likelihood of promotion. Interestingly, the pattern appeared
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  Speaker 3: for both husbands and wives. So researchers suggest that organized
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  Speaker 3: and dependable partners may help create a more stable home life,
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  Speaker 3: share everyday responsibilities, and model habits such as reliability and planning.
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  Speaker 3: Other research has also linked perceived spousal support with better
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  Speaker 3: career adaptability and career outcomes.
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  Speaker 1: Hmm. Yeah, I agree. I just seen a post recently,
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  Speaker 1: and it was a black man, and I love seeing
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  Speaker 1: posts like this. And he basically said, like, listen, man,
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  Speaker 1: the best thing you can do as a black man
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  Speaker 1: is get married.
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  Speaker 2: That's the best thing you can do. You know, men
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  Speaker 2: always question, you know, what value marriage brings to them.
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  Speaker 1: Everything. Everything.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you got to marry right, though, because this
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  Speaker 2: is a conscientious spouse.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, you do have to marry right. Now, I'm not here,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not one of the women that's going to say
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  Speaker 1: all women be right because, again, we talked about this.
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  Speaker 1: We know these bitches in friendships. So I can only
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  Speaker 1: imagine a man who needs pussy from this bitch and
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  Speaker 1: how she's acting. I can only imagine, like, what a
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  Speaker 1: man is putting up with from a woman. So, a
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  Speaker 1: good wife, we'll say. Right?
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  Speaker 2: Hold on, I just got to interject before you go
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  Speaker 2: to the next scene.
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  Speaker 3: Charlamagne just posted Folks be going to homecoming just to
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  Speaker 3: talk about how everybody getting big.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, you saw such and such? Boy, fuck you.
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  Speaker 1: I feel good. That shit was all the time.
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  Speaker 2: That's all I needed to see. Girl, don't worry about it, girl.
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  Speaker 1: We are women. I mean, technically, we don't got no
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  Speaker 1: reason to be this fucking chunky, but hey, we ain't
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  Speaker 1: had no kids yet.
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  Speaker 2: None of that shit.
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  Speaker 1: Just walk around here.
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  Speaker 2: It's the niggas.
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  Speaker 3: It's the niggas why I'm this size because they be like,
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  Speaker 3: you look good.
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  Speaker 1: I like it like that. Exactly. Don't lose that. A
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  Speaker 1: nigga will practically beg you not to work out, beg
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  Speaker 1: you not to lose no weight.
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  Speaker 2: They like that shit, but I don't.
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  Speaker 1: You know, my knees hurt.
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  Speaker 3: I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm sick of walking up and down these three
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  Speaker 1: flights of stairs, which I actually need to go put
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  Speaker 1: my sauna suit on and do that shit about 20 times. Yeah. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: ain't no way the stairs at my apartment are up
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  Speaker 1: to spec, up to code. I feel like these steps
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  Speaker 1: are too far apart. It's something different because I have
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  Speaker 1: not gotten used to walking up.
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  Speaker 2: It's like if I leave the house.
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  Speaker 1: At 11 o'clock, it's like all day long I be
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  Speaker 1: thinking about how I got to carry all this shit
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  Speaker 1: up them stairs. It's like this is the finish line.
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  Speaker 2: Listen, I, water would never make it in the house
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  Speaker 2: if I lived at your house.
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  Speaker 1: I got bottles in the trunk right now that I
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  Speaker 1: bought yesterday and I didn't bring them all up.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 1: I got these big ass bags I buy from the
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  Speaker 1: restaurant depot and like I'll pack them with, you know,
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  Speaker 1: my groceries and stuff and then just. Whatever, don't make it.
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  Speaker 1: That's probably why the fuck my shoulder hurt. That's probably
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  Speaker 1: exactly why my shoulder hurt. Because, you know, when you
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  Speaker 1: live alone.
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  Speaker 2: You don't want to make one trip.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Yes. The fuck. That's why my boyfriend be here, man.
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  Speaker 1: I be lining shit up for him. He be like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: what else you need me to bring up the stairs? Like,
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  Speaker 1: I be having all type of shit that need to
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: be done. Anyway, so actor Justice Smith reveals why he'll
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: never date a woman again. Quote, not because I'm not
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: attracted to them, but because I don't feel like having
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: to be the man in the relationship.
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: I appreciate the honesty.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: For sure it says justice smith is challenging traditional gender
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: roles justice smith revealed on the dinners on me podcast
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: that he never wants to date a woman again despite
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: all despite still being being attracted to them the actor
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: explained that dating women made him feel pressured to fulfill
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: traditional masculine expectations while same-sex relationships offer more freedom His
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: perspective highlights how restrictive gender roles can be and why
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: love should never require someone to play a predetermined role.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: So basically, he wanted to be the princess.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: He wanted to be the bitch.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: And he could be the bitch in a relationship with
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: a man. Mm-hmm. And if more men could be this
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: fucking honest, they could get out the way for the
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: real men.
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: It's like, choose your heart. You want a hard life
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: or you want a hard dick?
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Which one you want?
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: Like, move around. We already knew. We knew. This is
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: why I just told my homegirl yesterday at the beginning
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: of this year. I said, Quandra, we are trusting our
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: intuition from here on out. I don't give a fuck, bitch.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: You ain't never wrong. That's not like for real, because
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: it'd be months down the line. You'd be like, I knew.
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: So if you know that.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: So when we be out here saying the shit that
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: we say about some of these fucking men is because
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: we know no. Yeah.
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: Okay, like Candace Owens be saying, I don't.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Know, but I know no. I don't know no, but
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: I know. That is what it is. So with this
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: man now coming out and basically co-signing all the shit
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: women have been saying ad nauseum. Yeah.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: I feel like since 2019, something happened.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: Something shifted. Somewhere in all this bullshit.
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: Age of Aquarius. Something happened.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: And we just need more men to be honest like this. Like,
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: we know y'all on Grindr.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: Hold on. Okay, to the nigga who said that I
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: always be on here talking about DL shit. Voila, my nigga. Okay?
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: Voila.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: And if the shoe don't fit, why you even care?
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: But I get it, though.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: Because I don't like being the man in the relationship either.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: We all sick of that shit. Our mamas was sick
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: of it. Our grandmothers was sick of it. And that's
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: why we on that shit. So we got to do that.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: We will prefer to just do it by ourselves. Okay.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: So it's just weird how.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, I don't know. Men get applauded for. Finally
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: saying the thing we've been saying.
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: Well, it just seemed like they were. Because even some
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: of the gay men I know like being the provider.
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: You know, they aspire to be the provider, the leader.
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: They want those roles. They don't feel comfortable outside of
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: those roles.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: You're right. Because if you hang out with them, they
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: still opening doors and paying for all the shit. Yes,
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: you're absolutely right. So then what is it with the others?
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: They just strictly just like... Bad bitches. They want to
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: be bad bitches. That's all the bad bitches. Even a
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: few niggas. Bad nigga bitch. All right, y'all. So speaking
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: of relationships and gender roles and all the things, and
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I know I'm tired of the conversations too, but people
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: seem to love it, right? This isn't really about gender
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: roles per se. I just want to kind of get
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: into the spiritual meaning behind giving women money.
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: All right.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: And why you should always pay a bitch.
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: Let's get into it. All right.
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: So we are back. And recently, Victoria Monet, she was on.
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: She did an interview on Complex. Is it Complex?
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: Hold on. Where is it?
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: Un momento, por favor. Look, that's the only Spanish I know.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: She was on Complex News. But anyway, the episode, there's
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: one part of the episode obviously went viral, right, where
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: the host of the show said that, They were talking
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: about tricking. Right.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: And just, you know, receiving gifts and stuff like that.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Victoria Monet. I don't even like the term. I don't
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: even like the term tricking. Yeah, because what is tricking? Right.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: And I think people do associate to me when somebody
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: says tricking, that means there's an exchange. Right. It's very transactional. Yes, exactly. Transactional.
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: That's the word I'm looking for is very transactional.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: But I think people also associate tricking to a man
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: that just does nice things for women. And I just
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: don't think that's the same thing. Tricking is like, okay,
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: you're going to pick a girl up from Backpage, I
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: don't know, Craigslist, that type of shit. Like, you're really, like,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: you're the trick. Money for pussy. Yeah.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Money for pussy. Money for pussy.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: And everything essentially is that, but you just need to
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: be making me feel special.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: You know, that's how I feel.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: It's not.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: money on the counter type of bitch over here, you know?
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: So during this interview, the interviewer basically used Drake as
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: an example and called him a professional trick.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: My favorite.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: So this went viral. I don't know, maybe other people
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: didn't see how I saw it, but I immediately thought, Drake,
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: he fucking gets it.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: And this is why he's so successful.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: And this is why he got money on top of
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: money on top of fucking money. Because he did actually
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: respond to the viral post. And he said, so the
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: caption on the post.
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: So eloquently, too. Like, I just felt what he said.
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: Go ahead.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Girl, bye. Okay, this nigga. Poppy.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: Champagne Poppy.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: It says, Victoria Monet chimes in on Drake's tricking and
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: agrees he's a professional trick.
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: She didn't say it out of her own mouth. It
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: was the actual interviewer. She didn't like, you know, deny it.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: So he says, Drake responded to this post and said,
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: there's a return on investment in your soul for doing
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: things for people who you feel deserve it. Whether you
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: feel that way in the moment and they prove otherwise
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: over time or it's a gesture to acknowledge consistent love
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: and loyalty, the difference is there isn't an expectation on
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: the other side. So this is why he's not a
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: trick is what he's explaining, right? It's self-awareness that you
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: have been blessed with the obscene amount of money and
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: joy is the emotion that excites you the most. So
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: once you have experienced enough joy from material things for yourself,
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: sometimes the only way to see the joy is on
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: the faces of others after unexpected gestures for others. Yeah,
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: you get what I'm saying. Yeah, the transactional exchanges with
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: the expectation of intimacy are a different frequency. Okay, Drake.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: That nigga is a warlock. You know what I mean?
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Drake is a master, like, alchemist. I agree. And this
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: is what men are missing, right? Yes, women love things.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: We like shiny things. We like nice things. We like luxury.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: We like money. Because that is how we, even the
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: smallest little girls, they love all the things. Because that
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: is just our nature. And a man that feeds into
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: our nature will never go without. And this is the
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: part that niggas be missing and Drake fucking gets it.
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: So I want to get into the, like the spiritual
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: meaning behind giving women money because you should. Even a man.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: And see, I think a lot of, I had a
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: conversation this weekend about how men, like their finances are
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: directly tied. Look at my fingernail shot. Don't look at him.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: One first step. That look like you get your cocaine on.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: That one long finger.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: What, a ring finger? This is the only one that's
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: holding on. All my other nails done popped. Damn, I
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: forgot what I was about to say.
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: You were saying the spiritual connection.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: Your spiritual connection to the offering.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so this weekend, me and my friend was talking about,
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: I actually said to her, I said, you know, a
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: lot of times men, well, most of the time, their
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: finances are tied directly to their self-esteem. Right? So if
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: their money ain't in order, like, shit is just going
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: to be in disarray. But no matter how much money
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: you make, right, a generous man, that's all it is.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: You want a generous man. Right. Because I don't know
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: a nigga who... Because he don't have to be a
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: rich man to be generous.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: Just generous.
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: And eventually, you will get the fruits from this universe.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: You will receive it.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: Those things, to me... Right. And we can argue about it.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: I don't know why any woman would want to argue about,
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: you know, women getting all the things.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: But hey, you know, no argument from me.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: But some women will because Victoria Monet, she basically says
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: she's a trick oftentimes in relationships. And then I trick too, though.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: But I just expect you to trick better.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: OK.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: And then the interviewer, she was basically saying how she
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: doesn't she doesn't know how to get it. She doesn't,
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: and it isn't, I don't, I won't say it's a
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: skill set to be able to get somebody who's giving.
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: You just have to, as a woman, you got to
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: be in that energy because we are the receivers.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: So at what.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: Point did it switch to where we are the ones
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: that are giving?
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: Doing all the giving.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: And this is why everybody is, the whole shit is
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: out of balance. And we can talk about gender roles
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: and all that shit, but. Some things are supposed to
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: be the way they're supposed to be. And because women
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: are out of alignment, right?
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: We've lost the plot. I keep saying that. We've lost
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: the plot.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: You got some women who are in alignment having to
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: argue with women who are out of alignment. And if
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: we could all be in the same space, these niggas
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: don't know exactly what time it is.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: I keep telling Tam, I'm going to start wearing gloves again.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: Because when you wear the gloves and you wear the
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: little bouffant dresses and shit like that, that looks like
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: a woman that you have to take care of. Okay,
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: when you pull up with your ass out, it's a uniform.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: There's a uniform for women who get taken care of.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: It just is.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: Some of them hoes be getting taken care of too,
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: but it's very... And taken through there.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, transaction.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about, so one of my homeboys, he built
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: his wife a beautiful house. This nigga went and got
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: a damn reversal in his vasectomy to give his last
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: son a child. I mean, his last son a sibling,
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: a brother. He had two girls and a boy. He
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: got a reversal, and they lucked up and got, so
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: they got two boys and two girls now. We went
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: to a Halloween party at his house. Big, stupid, dumbass
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: house he done built. For his fucking wife.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah. You're not, like, a lot of, you're not getting
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: that with your ass out.
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I agree. You putting all the goods out there. Like,
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: they don't have a reason to work for you. Men
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: are supposed to work for women.
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: They supposed to. Y'all want to be on a level
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: as a man.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: I don't want to.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: They definitely, I think, especially these young girls, they want
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: to be. And then, um, Cash, dog, I'm the nigga
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: with money. I want you to be the nigga with money,
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: but don't tell nobody. Let him think that you are
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: a damsel in the sky.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: Just commented on Instagram the other day, and I said,
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: I have never danced and waved my hand to I-N-D-E-P. Never. No, no.
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: Never danced to Lil' Web in a club. Ever.
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: That was the biggest scam we ever bought into.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: Fucking hand down and stop dancing to that song.
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: Be a docile flower, my girl.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: Because just like this actor, right? There are men who
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: are takers. For real. They want to get your money.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: They looking for somebody to come up off of. Right.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: While you say how independent you are. So now they
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: feel like they don't have to show up with nothing.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: You always need something, girl.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: If a man calls you, he's coming to have sex
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: with you and he's stopping at the corner store. You
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: need something. You always need something. Stop telling men you
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: don't need anything. As a woman, you always need something.
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: I agree. Okay? But I think we have to get
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: into the receiving energy. Some women are uncomfortable when a
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: man asks them if they need something. And you be
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: needing hella shit, but you need tires. You need an
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: oil change.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: But you want to present like you got it all together.
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: Always need something from somebody that you're not.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: Share yourself with. If you don't have no intentions for
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: that man, then you just don't be just, you've been
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: a nigga, right? I don't agree with that.
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: But if you are actively sharing your energy, your portal
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: to God, because that's what your vagina is.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: This is the closest thing we got to God on
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: this earth.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: Period. And that's why he mad.
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: And if you out here sharing that with somebody and
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: your tires.
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: Are bald, that's a problem.
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: You skating all around the city.
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: Hydroplaning I was just about to say and you have
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: sex with this man no no you need help and
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: you should and you should require.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: That absolutely you know what also irks my nerve not
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: to talk about gay men again but as of lately
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: I've been seeing a lot of like trans women on
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: social media and they like giving the girls the game
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: like y'all bitches tripping niggas supposed to be doing this
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: because they are getting men to do those things Yeah, but.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: They can understand the psychology of a man.
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: I mean, but we don't need to understand the psychology
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: of a man. But that's what I'm saying.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: He's a woman. Yeah.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: You can't do nothing with the men who want men.
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: You can't do.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: There ain't nothing you could ever do to make him
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: do anything for you when he actually wants a man.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: But some of them want both.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: They're greedy. Insatiable.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: Insatiable desire.
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: Insatiable.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: Insatiable, insatiable, however you pronounce it, yes. Nothing you could,
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: it's a podcast. What's the name of the damn show?
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: A girl called in and she was saying how she
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: found out her boyfriend, you know, was also messing with dudes.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: She was like, he liked all ass. It was women ass,
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: men ass, just ass everywhere. But he had a Grindr account.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: And at the end of it, she was like, y'all,
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: I'm going to tell y'all this, but don't laugh. And
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: they like, oh man, we promise you're not going to laugh, man.
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: We're not going to laugh.
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: She was like, we had a threesome with a guy.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: And she just went quiet and the clip ended. Just
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: like that. Do not do anything that you are not
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: completely 100% comfortable with. Because she has done this now
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: for this man who has an insatiable desire for ass.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: There's not enough ass in this world he could ever get.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: So wait, hold on. You ain't going to keep going.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: They had a threesome.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: With a man. Was it a train or was it
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: everybody doing everybody? Her boyfriend was essentially bisexual. She said
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: that they were out and a guy that she didn't
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: know came and dapped him up and was like, you know,
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: you need, you need a, not anal glide. What is it? Astroglide. Astroglide.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: You know, you need astroglide for that kind too. And
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: she didn't get, she was like, I'm a girly girl.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: So I didn't understand what it even meant at the time. Well,
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: you know what?
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: Some people are in those types of relationships where they're
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: with people who are bisexual, two bisexual people together, and
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: it's okay. And if that's your thing, you know, yuck
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: nobody's yum.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: But... Make sure it's your yum.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, make sure it's your yum.
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: And even if he gay, make him do something for you.
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck if he gay or straight.
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: Make sure he's doing... Something for you, making you feel special.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: That's all I say. You need to make me feel special.
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: I want the nigga know that up front.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: So in a lot of, you know, esoteric teachings and
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: a lot of old ancient teachings, they talk about women, right?
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: They talk about the gender roles. And, I mean, a
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: lot of these people are Christian out here, right? Mm-hmm.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: We know that the Bible is a great guide on
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: how to live.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: And what happens when you don't follow this guide, right?
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: Now, I won't say that the Bible talks really nice
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: about women because they kind of villainize every woman, right?
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: But if you research King James, he was a gay
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: black man. Well, they didn't villainize Ruth.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: Huh?
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: Ruth? She wasn't villainized. Mary, was she villainized?
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: I just had an argument with an 82-year-old man Saturday
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: about marriage.
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: You will be out there arguing.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: You know why? Because God be testing me to see
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: if my... I have an ego, right? And I do
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: try to keep my ego in check oftentimes. And I
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: think sometimes God will just send somebody to see if
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: I'm good and I don't be good. And it's their
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: ego that they don't even mind not checking, right? They're
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: not even consciously aware that that's even a problem. They'll
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: come for me. And then now I feel like I
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: got to defend myself. I mean, almost immediately, like we
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: walked up and it was a whole thing all of
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: a sudden. Eighty two years old. Like what the fuck
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: is happening? Arguing about religion in two point two seconds. Anyway, because,
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: you know what I said? I say, you know, there
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: was a time that women created without man, you know. Partheogenesis.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: Remember I said that on 85 South and motherfuckers was
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: saying I'm crazy.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: But y'all don't think about Mary. Who the fuck was
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: baby daddy?
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: That was Partheogenesis. If you believe in the Bible. That's
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: exactly what that was. She created without a man. And
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: we're going to go back to that if niggas don't
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: get back in line.
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: We're going to evolution. Women will continue.
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: There's another animal that creates without... There's a few. There's
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: supposedly not humans, but Not human, yeah, but... But most, yes,
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: it's been happening, though, amongst human. I just don't think
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: it's something that's widely, like, discussed. But, like, right now,
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: these kittens, I can't tell which one's a boy or
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: girl because they all look like girls. And we know
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: a fucking Y ain't nothing but a broken X chromosome. Mm-hmm.
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: Like, everything starts as female.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: It's just true.
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: So, you know, when you start looking at science.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: versus a religion, you get into a.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: Whole nother realm of shit.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: But in mystical traditions like Kabbalah, the divine structure is
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: split into active giving, which is the masculine, and receiving, nurturing,
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: which is feminine, principles. So the household vessel, the woman, right?
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: So people like to warp that, the happy life, happy wife,
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: happy wife, happy life thing. Mm-hmm.
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: But it's a real thing.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: And I think men that understand that energy and they
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: understand the divine feminine, they are the most blessed. I
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: had a conversation with another friend of mine because he
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: was basically telling me he was on some bullshit in
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: his marriage. And I think that actual real friends are
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: supposed to tell you when you fucking up. I said,
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: let me tell you something. God has blessed you with
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: all the things and he lives a great life. God
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: has blessed you with all these things because it was
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: made for that woman and those children.
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: You fuck around. Lose all.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: With some bitch who, because it feels good over there
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: because there's no responsibility over there. You can just go
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: kick your feet up and chill and go back home.
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: It's an outlet.
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: You fuck around and find out.
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: Because y'all took that oath in front of God. Don't play.
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: That part.
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: And watch how a bitch will dismantle. What was that?
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: That was that Wale was like, he said, um, a
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: white woman in paparazzi would be, like, the only thing
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: that could dismantle his shit.
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: And it's just true.
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: Like, look, Shannon Sharpe almost got taken down by a
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: white woman in a weekend. Y'all be fucking around with
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: these hoes on the side tricking. But you got to
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: pay for amenity.
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: Like, at homecoming, there's nobody who been, I been had
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: wanted you more than somebody's husband out there.
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: Ain't you married? Get the fuck out of my face.
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: All up. Homecoming and they not married for the whole weekend.
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: You better get the fuck.
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: Out of my face. That's me and them fraternity bros
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: and fat frat bros. They all be hoeing.
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: That's annoying.
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: Dusty ass boots. Talk about a certain group.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: I didn't say that, y'all, because they'll be writing the
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: DMs talking shit.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: All right, go ahead.
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: The household vessel. The woman is often viewed as the
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: energetic vessel for the home, the channel through which blessings, sustenance,
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: and material wealth manifest into physical form. When she feels safe, valued,
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: and open to receiving, the spiritual and financial flow of
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: the household expands. Men, you get your blessings on this
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: realm and this life via the woman, the feminine energy.
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: A man who finds a wife finds a what?
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: A good thing. Every time. And even a man who's single, unwed,
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: and successful, I bet you there's a trail of broken
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: hearts behind that success. He has usurped the energy.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: Look at Diddy.
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: Okay, he never married anybody. He has usurped the feminine
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: energy from all of these women. And I feel like
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: the only motherfucker he couldn't get like that is Young Miami.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: Motherfuckers can talk shit about Young Miami, but Young Miami
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: lives in her feminine energy.
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: She shows up in that shit.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: It ain't no insecurity over there.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: For real. And that is how you supposed to be
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: as a woman. I mean, like, not just out here, just...
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: I mean, she fucked up in her younger days.
• 40:43
  Speaker 3: But I just feel like she was probably the most
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: hood and most, like, jumped off the porch early more
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: than the other women that he was dealing with.
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: Think about it. Cassie, he got her young.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: She wasn't outside. Is she even 30? Is she even
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: 30 yet?
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: Young man? No, she 30.
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: They already turned 30?
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: But I mean, okay, so we talking how many years
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: she was fucking with Diddy. She was probably 25.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but she from Miami. She probably jumped off the
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: porch earlier.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: Miami, they jump off the porch like 11 or 12.
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So, that's a different ball game. For sure.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: Command over material reality, power, and status. Destiny and control
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: in various spiritual systems. Wealth represents a level of mastery
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: or influence over the physical plane. Oh, you know what else?
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: Money is actually feminine. The currency, money, is feminine. That's
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: why you can't... Explain what you mean by that. It's
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: just like, okay... Because I'm gay as hell, if that's
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: the case. No, I mean, like, but you have to...
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: You know how you have to finesse women? Like, how
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: we be saying, like, that's how you have to do
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: that energy to get... you have to be real delicate
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: and kind to money. Not worshiping it, because money is
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: supposed to work for you. You shouldn't have to be.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: Working for money, per se.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: I think we all, a lot of, most of us
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: still trying to master that, right? Even when you, as
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: a woman, are having to take care of yourself, like,
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: we shouldn't have to be working all day long.
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: That's why women require more sleep.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: Because we use more energy to fucking breathe around this bitch, okay?
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: We bleed once a month, we give life, have children, like,
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: and niggas want to talk about 50-50, I'm pushing a
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: whole human out.
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: Can you do that?
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: You'll never match.
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: You'll never match. What are we talking about? Yeah, I agree.
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: But you have to be real delicate with money. You
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying? Don't be balling money up and
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: putting it in the bottom of your wallet. You know,
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: keep your bills nice and crisp. Respect it. Be nice
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: to the money. Do niggas have bills? I don't. intentionally
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: be having cash for exactly what I'm saying to treat
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: the money good so it can continue to come back.
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: I just, you know what I've been doing and it's been,
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: I don't know if it's been working or it's just
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: my season, but I just been like saying to myself
• 43:16
  Speaker 3: how abundance, financial abundance is attracted to me. And I
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: just been telling myself that over and over again, constantly.
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: Like, money just comes to me easily. Money flows to
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: me all the time.
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: And it really just been, like, falling in my lap lately.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Period. I forgot this actress from Africa,
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: but it's a post I got on my page. She
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: was like, money loves me. If I'm sitting in a
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: room full of a crowd of people, money will just
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: come sitting next to me. Period.
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: That's exactly how I be talking to myself.
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: And that is feminine energy. We're supposed to get it
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: from everywhere.
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: But let me tell you this.
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: Now, I don't know if y'all should do this, but
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: what I've been doing— is I've been spending money like
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: it's coming back.
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: Stop saying spending.
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: Circulating.
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: Circulating money like it's coming back. And it'll be coming back.
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: I mean, I ain't wasting it now. I don't be
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: going crazy and like spending the bill money.
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: Like, oh yeah, Tammy said it. The money coming back,
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: I got to think like that, so I'm going to
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: spend the rent.
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: Don't do that, bitch.
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: No, but it's true, though. Like, when you are operating
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: in a lack mentality, money will stay away from you.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: So when you, like, especially when you do nice shit
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: for yourself, like, do that shit.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: Go buy you something nice.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: Even, like, I think women, we actually live in that energy, right?
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: We be like, man, fuck them bills. I'm going on vacation. Like,
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: you got to do that.
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: Do something nice for yourself. Go get a massage.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: The problem is there should be a man doing that
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: for you. But you got to get out of the
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: scarcity mindset. There should be a man doing those things
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: for you to where you don't have to feel stressed
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: about going on vacation.
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: I just feel like if it ain't, you shouldn't be
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: having sex with nobody. That's all right. Are you sharing
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: your body with somebody that can't help you?
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: Look at that nigga. You probably listening. Look at that
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: nigga right now. On the other side of the room, just.
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: He like, why are you looking at me like that? Cuz, nigga,
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: you don't bring nothing over here. Yeah, but I don't
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: think that's right. Jokes.
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: That's not right to do to a man. I just
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: heard this video and it was very disturbing last night.
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: So a neighbor was recording his neighbor cuss. And it's
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: obviously a gay guy recording, right? And the neighbor is,
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: I mean, she just trashing his nigga. Like, I make,
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: I guess she's out of work on disability right now.
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: But she was like, I make $ 110, 000. After tax, I'm
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: still getting my checks. I think he had said something
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: to her about not doing nothing. But she's like, I
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: don't got to do nothing. I'm still making money. I'm
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: on disability. Like, I'm still getting my paycheck every two weeks.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: What you bringing in? Like, she was 10. If you
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: find yourself in a situation where you got to run
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: down on a nigga, what you bring to the table,
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: get out of there. Because why even be with somebody
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: like that that you can, one, even talk to like that. Two,
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: you even need to push it into perspective for like that.
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: Get out of there.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: I would have to tell my niece that all the time.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: She would date these guys that I just think, you know,
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: she shouldn't even give the time of day. And then
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: she'll be talking shit about them. If you're actually better
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: than that, then go get better. But to be with
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: a nigga who ain't shit and then talking to them
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: like that is crazy to me.
• 46:24
  Speaker 3: In the same breath, because I don't want y'all to
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: be looking at a nigga who just going through a
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: rough patch and he done been there for you forever
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: and did all the things, and now he going through
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: a rough patch and you looking at him like, ew,
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: get out.
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: No, that's not fair.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: That's not what I'm saying, but I don't think that's
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: most situations. Most situations, somebody has been with this person
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: for an extended period of time, probably have had children
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: with them, and now you're talking crazy to them because
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: the respect has now left the relationship. Once the respect leaves,
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: you don't give a damn because this nigga's not bringing
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: it up to the table. You got to get out
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: of there. Because why be with somebody that you can
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: demean like that?
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: They stay because of fear. That's what people keep people
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: in a relationship for far too long.
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: I think it's esteem. I think it's esteem. It's that too.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: It's a combination of things.
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: Fear.
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: Self-esteem, especially if they have multiple kids with somebody and
• 47:13
  Speaker 3: they're like, who going to want me with all these
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: fucking kids?
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: All that aside to self-esteem, because I would still be
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: the bitch like, okay, I'm about to get somebody else
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: to take care of these four kids because my esteem
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: is out the window. All of that boils down to
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: your self-esteem because if you could actually, and you knew
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: you could do better, you would. So in your mind,
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: this is as good as it gets for you. And
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: that's why you are berating this man like this. He
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: probably ain't been shit the entire relationship. And you saw potential.
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: And now y'all 40. And now you talking shit with
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: the kid in the back room. Talking crazy to him.
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: Let that man go be great with somebody that's on
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: his level, please. Since you the better bitch. Get out
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: of there. Today.
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: I agree. Time waits for nobody.
• 48:02
  Speaker 3: And the thing is, you don't want to just have
• 48:04
  Speaker 3: resentment for a person because you stayed with them so long.
• 48:07
  Speaker 3: I remember my ex-boyfriend and mama, like when I was young,
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: we'd all just be sitting around chilling. And out of nowhere,
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: she'd be like, I should have left your ass 20
• 48:15
  Speaker 3: years ago. Just out of nowhere, with no conversation being had.
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: And it was just like that resentment that she carried
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: for staying with someone who wasn't serving her for so long.
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: And it would just pop up out of nowhere. I'm
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: talking about Sunday right after church. I should have left
• 48:32
  Speaker 3: your ass 20 years ago.
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: And you should have. So why are you abusing him
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: right now?
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: Because that's abuse. Yeah, that is abuse.
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: It is abuse.
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: You should have left.
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: If you were better than him, leave. It's the resentment
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: at that point that you... And now you are in
• 48:47
  Speaker 3: your 50s.
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: So?
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: And feeling like it's too late to leave. And it's
• 48:54
  Speaker 3: still not too late. It's never too late. But you're
• 48:57
  Speaker 3: feeling like.
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: Esteem. Your esteem is low. Because a 50-year-old with high
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: self-esteem is getting the hell up out of there. My
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: mom is 73, and I be telling her all the time,
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: if I were in any marriage, any situation, at 100
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: years old, I'm getting the fuck out of there. Because
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: that's that relationship is what's gonna kill you just the
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: the resentment can kill you the stress of having to
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: deal with a person that you are no longer liking
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: and they just in your space around you I couldn't
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: do it yeah I don't give a damn, man.
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: 100 years old.
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: I'm leaving. I'm a leaver. I'm going to fucking leave
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: this job. I'm going to leave this friendship. I'm going
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: to leave this goddamn relationship. I am a leaver if
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: it is challenging my mental health. No, I agree. Okay?
• 49:48
  Speaker 3: So, get out of there if you in the car
• 49:51
  Speaker 3: right now. If it's not healthy, don't just leave. Because,
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: I mean, I feel like you might be a runner.
• 49:56
  Speaker 3: She's a track star.
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: But... Yeah, so.
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you got to know when to hold them and
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: when to fold them now. You can't just... I think
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: that comes with age, though.
• 50:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: It's going to be hard. Sometimes it's going to be hard,
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: even in a good relationship.
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: I think that comes with age because I feel like
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: when I was younger, I stayed longer than I should have.
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: So now I don't have that type of time anymore
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: to be uncomfortable in any situation. So I think that
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: maybe the older you get, you become a lever because
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: you think you got time with this person. You're so
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: in love with them. And you stay for all the
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: wrong reasons. You know, give me one reason to stay
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: here and I turn right back or face ass. Get
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: out of there. Anyway, money as congealed energy and safety,
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: survival frequency and energy work. Money is not just paper.
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: It is a stored frequency, life force, time and security.
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: It is currency. OK, just like you think about water,
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: the current energy. It flows. Money flows for me. For women,
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: I think it's more about having a safe and calm
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: nervous system. For women whose biology is deeply wired for protection, nurturing,
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: and offspring care, financial lack registers in a spiritual and
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: physical body as danger. Money translates spiritually to a buffer
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: against chaos, fear, and powerlessness. When you got fuck you money,
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: you move a little different. You don't have to deal
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: with certain things, right? But men, the job of a woman, right,
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: in relationships and stuff like that, and we just fucked up, right?
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: It is to find the best suitable mate to procreate.
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: That is what we're supposed to be doing. That is
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: what animals doing. Not just any cat. I took Dasha
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: to one other cat who she made it with twice
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: and would not get pregnant. Okay.
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: This other cat I took her to, I guess she
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: liked him more.
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: One hit. And all the kids look like his ass too. So,
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: you know, and studies are also showing how it is
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: not the women's reproductive system. That's the problem. Like when
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: it comes to autism, miscarriages and stuff like that is
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: the sperm quality. Right. And even your body will actually
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: not even let the bad sperm in. It be fighting.
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: The bad sperm.
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: It's like, no, I don't think so. It's like, ew. Like, nigga,
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: you crooked. You walking funny. You slow.
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: Right. Coming over here slow as shit trying to get
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: in here. Yeah. We need to treat men in real
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: life how our body does on the inside. Ew. Because
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: they don't want none of this shit for their daughters.
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: We don't fuck around with the extinct out here if
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: we don't find a way to start getting along, though.
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: That's the thing.
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  Speaker 3: Like, I just feel like everything we're saying kind of
• 53:08
  Speaker 3: is divisive and I don't want to be like.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: It's not divisive. These things have to be said because
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: we are already divided. All I'm saying is if men
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: give women resources, everybody life gets better. Most successful men, Charlamagne,
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: for example, I always use Charlamagne. Charlamagne is surrounded by
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: black women. Black women run this network.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: From Dolly on down. And that is what smart men do.
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: They put women into position to be creative because now
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: look how abundant he is. Yeah.
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: I can't lie. That nigga done did it.
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: So if you just start that in your household, you
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: just start that with the woman that you've fallen in
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: love with and had children with, just start there. And
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: then also, Jessica has been in his life since forever.
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  Speaker 1: I met them at the same time. She's always been
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: there through the ups and the downs. The blessings he
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: has gotten in this world is for her. Right.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: And he understood that. Everything is for her.
• 54:16
  Speaker 3: And that's why I say don't run. If you know
• 54:19
  Speaker 3: you got a good man, don't.
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: Run when the downs hit. Now, that's the thing. You
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: got to try to stick out the downs. And that's
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: the hard part.
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: Absolutely. Yeah, because women are supposed to be muses. Right.
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: We supposed to inspire women. So some men need a
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: different type of inspiration, right? Maybe it's not just your
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: energy of just being there. Some men need words of affirmation.
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: But again, that comes with esteem, right? You got to
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: have it for you in order to give it to
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: somebody else. So yeah, rub me on my back and say, baby,
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: it'll be okay. Yeah. In real life. Right.
• 54:50
  Speaker 3: And you can't stop fucking him because his money fucked up.
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: I've never stopped dealing with somebody because of finances.
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Never. Because I've never dealt with somebody who ain't
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: going to get it. I've lost and got. And the
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: people I know in life, like real hustlers, real business people,
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: you're going to win and lose all the time. Right.
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: That has never been the reason why I left a man.
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: I've left a man because of mere disrespect. That's really it.
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: Because men who give women money, they don't be out
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: here fucked up for long. Right. So I've never really
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: been with nobody who wasn't trying to give me some shit.
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: If I was single trying to figure it out, that's different.
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: I agree. But in a relationship dynamic, no. Why would
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: I be out here stressed out? What the fuck going on?
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: If I'm in a relationship, would you stress that I'm
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: getting out of there? Yeah, that's why I was single
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: briefly last year. This is not benefiting me. How long
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: do you say you be single? One minute.
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: One fucking minute.
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: I like stability in that way. When I'm single, it's
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: a beast out here. I be needing somebody to save
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: me from me because I am a real nigga.
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: I'm the nigga with money.
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: So I got to have some type of structure to
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: not be outside.
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: I just wish I could....
• 56:21
  Speaker 3: I can't connect to these niggas like that enough to, like,
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: I struggle with that.
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: I struggle with, like, how am I going to pick one?
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: Pick one. It's too many.
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: It's too many.
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but all of them are not, listen, it is
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: too many, but all of them are not worthy. Of
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: your time and energy. No, I agree. And your feminine energy.
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: Those are not worthy. So where's the one that is?
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: So if you got a bunch of niggas who ain't
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: worthy of you, them niggas don't even count in the
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: first place.
• 56:52
  Speaker 2: No, I ain't talking about that. I'm saying what about
• 56:54
  Speaker 2: if I got three worthies?
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: Worthers original. Okay, so it ain't a bunch. Oh my God,
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: a bag of Werther's original, bitch.
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: So it's really not a bunch.
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: It's like two or three.
• 57:07
  Speaker 2: That's your problem now, see?
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: Maybe relationship success is on the other side of sustained
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: weight loss. Listen, I know for a fact, like, once
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: I conquer this, my whole life thing, like, weight has been, like,
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: a big-ass thing my entire life.
• 57:31
  Speaker 2: Once every.
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: When I tell you, like, if I think shit is
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: okay right now... It is definitely on the other side
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: of nutrition and diet. All the success.
• 57:41
  Speaker 3: One of my friends who is very in tune with
• 57:44
  Speaker 3: his physical fitness, he looks like a superhero. He keeps
• 57:49
  Speaker 3: telling me, once you get your body in shape, everything
• 57:52
  Speaker 3: else is going to fall into place.
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: Everything.
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: I already know that.
• 57:55
  Speaker 3: Because the discipline it takes to sustain that will transfer
• 57:58
  Speaker 3: to everything else you're doing in life.
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: And watch what happens. And I'd be like, yeah. So,
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: do you... Is this for.
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: Maybe we should go ahead and end this episode and
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: just do something right quick for Patreon.
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, let's do it. Because I want some shit. This is, like,
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: personal I want to talk about a little bit. All right. Anyway, y'all.
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: Get with men who are generous. This is my last last.
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: Get with generous men. Okay?
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: And men, give women money.
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying be out here just letting somebody take
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: advantage of you.
• 58:27
  Speaker 2: But if you want to receive....
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: All the goodness, all the great, all the abundance. It
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: comes through a woman. I promise.
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: I agree.
• 58:39
  Speaker 3: And here's my last last. My grandma used to say
• 58:42
  Speaker 3: something to me. She like, she would ball up her
• 58:43
  Speaker 3: fist real tight. And she was like, all right, what's
• 58:47
  Speaker 3: my hand? Nothing can get out, but nothing can get in.
• 58:51
  Speaker 3: You got to open up your hand and give to receive.
• 58:56
  Speaker 3: That applies to women and men. So that's my last last.
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: All right, y'all. If you enjoyed this episode, y'all tune
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• 59:09
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• 59:15
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  Speaker 2: Come on over. We having fun over there.
• 59:27
  Speaker 3: I mean, we having fun here, too, if you ain't
• 59:29
  Speaker 3: got a little extra coin for that right now. But
• 59:31
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• 59:34
  Speaker 1: It's lit. It's a little coin over there. It ain't
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: even no big coin, okay? Yeah, but shit, gas high
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  Speaker 1: as fuck.
• 59:41
  Speaker 3: You know, so if you got a little extra to share,
• 59:44
  Speaker 3: we'll take it.
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Chris Brown and Usher are going on another tour.
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: Them niggas been extorting niggas for the past two years.
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: Two years straight. They canceled Columbia.
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: They said, where?
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I ain't gonna. I'm tired. I know Usher tired.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 3: Chris Brown might not be as tired, but I know Usher.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: Is holding the mic out.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: Is he on there? Woo! He holding the.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: Mic to the audience a lot. I know he is.
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: Nigga tired. I ain't mad.
• 1:00:15
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