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How To Grow Into Yourself In Your 20s · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: Hey chicks.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sal and I'm and this is two great chicks
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  Speaker 2: to show that shares life lessons and tips to help make.
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  Speaker 3: You rich and Lie that's the one.
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  Speaker 2: We're a little bit dusty on the tools chicks because
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  Speaker 2: we are coming to live. We're from London as because
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  Speaker 2: we've been traveling around Europe for the last three weeks.
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  Speaker 2: And if you're wondering who this third mysterious voice is,
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  Speaker 2: it is the wonderful Emily Broken.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to the shop.
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  Speaker 4: You've just been on a little holiday too, haven't you
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  Speaker 4: have done quite the holiday?
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  Speaker 1: Where'd you go? Done?
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  Speaker 2: So?
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  Speaker 1: I started off the summer with croat Shop, then I
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  Speaker 1: went to Greece, then I did Turkey and then I
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  Speaker 1: did Spain.
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  Speaker 3: Sounds so shit, Yeah, bor lazy.
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  Speaker 2: We've got Emily in the studio because we are at
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  Speaker 2: the London Spotify Studios London London Bay Bay get the
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  Speaker 2: London look.
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  Speaker 3: And you're a London local.
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  Speaker 1: I am so yeah a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely. If I was you, I would have an English
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  Speaker 3: accent already, like.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like hello love.
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  Speaker 2: But in today's episode, we want to talk about how
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  Speaker 2: to like grow into yourself in your twenties.
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  Speaker 1: I love yapping about that stuff.
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  Speaker 2: We're all going to be like crying and best friends
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  Speaker 2: by the end of the episode, maybe and talking in
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  Speaker 2: English accents.
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  Speaker 3: I can't wait.
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  Speaker 2: But before we get into it, we love to start
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  Speaker 2: with a life lesson of the week, so it can
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  Speaker 2: be big or small, silly or serious, whatever you like,
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  Speaker 2: doesn't have to relate to the topic. Can just be
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  Speaker 2: any life lesson you've picked up this week.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. I feel like a lot of the time we
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  Speaker 1: are always waiting for the next thing, and we're always
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  Speaker 1: like living in the future and being like I want
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  Speaker 1: this mulestone, this mules stone that we forget. This is
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  Speaker 1: my realization of the week that a lot of the
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  Speaker 1: time we are living in what we wance like hoped for,
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  Speaker 1: prayed for or manifesto. Yes, like I'm traveling so much
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  Speaker 1: right now and I'm like living the dream and I've
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  Speaker 1: got like a great flat, great friends, and like just
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  Speaker 1: like life's ten ten and I'm already thinking, oh my god, Sydney, Australia,
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  Speaker 1: like what I mean to do when I get there,
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  Speaker 1: And it's like but I'm here, like be present, and yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I was wanted so badly and I'm living in that
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  Speaker 1: so it's like live in the present and yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: can still obviously look to the future, but try and
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  Speaker 1: be more present.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I appreciate where you're at. I love that.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like my life lesson is kind of similar
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  Speaker 2: because we're three weeks into our four week holiday now
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  Speaker 2: four weeks. I know it's only a short stint, but
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  Speaker 2: you know how like you get to that point and
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  Speaker 2: you've been living out of your suitcase for three weeks,
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  Speaker 2: You're sick of all the clothes that you brought. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I miss like my barista at home, like we miss
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  Speaker 2: our boyfriends, and you're kind of like, okay, Like I'm
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  Speaker 2: kind of ready to go home. But then I was like,
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  Speaker 2: but then you'll be home and that's it. Yeah, you're
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  Speaker 2: just kind of like, fuck, I wish I just yeah,
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  Speaker 2: And I was like sort of having that moment and
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  Speaker 2: then I was like, Okay, stop, that's completely fine.
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  Speaker 3: You can miss home. And it's been the best, it's
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  Speaker 3: been an absolute dream.
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  Speaker 1: But it was just like that thirty second vegetables home
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  Speaker 1: coook meal. Yeah, I feel like.
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  Speaker 4: As well, we're talking about this, and I was like,
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  Speaker 4: how lucky are we to have something to be homesick for?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I think that's like a really.
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  Speaker 4: Good way to think about it, being like, yes it
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  Speaker 4: being homesick is good, like wanting to like have those
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  Speaker 4: but like that's really lucky.
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  Speaker 3: Like, yeah, what's your life lesson?
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  Speaker 1: My life lesson?
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  Speaker 4: This one's so not deep enough, but it is a
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  Speaker 4: lesson in itself. So kind of on the travel train.
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  Speaker 4: But we've done like Italy and we did Greece, and
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  Speaker 4: so they were like very coastal towns and I don't
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  Speaker 4: normally eat seafood like back home because it's like, I
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  Speaker 4: don't know, you just.
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  Speaker 3: It's not really a normal thing that you like.
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  Speaker 4: The most seafood eat is like salmon brocolini and potatoes,
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  Speaker 4: like that's it the air prior and that's.
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  Speaker 3: All you've got.
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  Speaker 4: So anyway, we're there and I'm like I all the
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  Speaker 4: seafood in the world. I was like, give me the flobstar.
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  Speaker 4: I'm on holidays, and like the prawns and the trump
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  Speaker 4: are the same thing, and the muscle. So before we came,
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  Speaker 4: I was having like all these like hormonal breakouts and
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  Speaker 4: went to a dermatologist fixed my skin. She was slaying.
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  Speaker 4: Got here was ready to like live my seabreeze salty
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  Speaker 4: sunny skin fan, I'll wear a skin tint. Okay, So
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  Speaker 4: apparently seafood gives you fucking pimple?
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  Speaker 1: Does it?
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  Speaker 3: Oh? My?
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  Speaker 1: Got so I came clear skin, and then for like
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  Speaker 1: five nights in.
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  Speaker 4: A row, I had like seafood, like a seafood pasta
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  Speaker 4: or like prawns or whatever it was.
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  Speaker 3: By the fifth day, I had so many pimples. And
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  Speaker 3: then I was like, what is going on?
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  Speaker 4: And then I looked it up, and seafood has like
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  Speaker 4: a high amount of iodine in it, and so when
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  Speaker 4: you consume more than normal, more than you normally do,
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  Speaker 4: it'll break you out.
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  Speaker 3: Seafood all the time.
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  Speaker 4: Then they're like, yeah, like it's going down now because
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  Speaker 4: I haven't been eating seafood. But I also was like,
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  Speaker 4: I'm not gonna not eat what I want to on holidays.
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  Speaker 3: It's just a little bit of a downfall.
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  Speaker 4: All Yeah, it's like, oh, okay, Pinchy's revenge. Don't like
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  Speaker 4: seafood for every single meal if you don't want to
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  Speaker 4: get pimpies.
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  Speaker 3: I am also not a dermatologist.
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  Speaker 4: No medical advice to your own research and bing bang bombs.
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  Speaker 3: Could we get into the episode. Let's do it let's go.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of the chicks would recognize you,
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  Speaker 2: especially from TikTok and all of your London adventures. And
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  Speaker 2: you're telling your fabulous tales while you're cutting up fruit.
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  Speaker 3: So so sad, it's so.
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  Speaker 1: Good like the fruit.
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  Speaker 2: But for anybody who isn't aware, how long have you
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  Speaker 2: lived in London before?
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  Speaker 4: Now?
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  Speaker 1: Two years as of a month's time. So yeah, Brisbane,
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  Speaker 1: Yes that's from born and bred from Brizzy. Then you
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  Speaker 1: moved here two years ago.
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  Speaker 2: So how do you feel that moving over sea in
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  Speaker 2: your twenties has helped you grow into yourself and learn
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  Speaker 2: more about yourself in your twenties?
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  Speaker 1: Philly has helped in every way. Like, I genuinely think
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  Speaker 1: I'm a completely different person to who I was when
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  Speaker 1: I left, Like I am not really in contact with
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  Speaker 1: most people, to be honest, like that I was friends
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  Speaker 1: with Pride to leaving, and I think it's just because
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  Speaker 1: there's not much in common. But also I think just
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  Speaker 1: like my values and myself as a person has changed
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  Speaker 1: so much because I think you learned or like, there's
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  Speaker 1: just so many I think everyone should do even if
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  Speaker 1: you aren't, like you know, the bulls or whatever, like
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  Speaker 1: the money to move to another country, like another city,
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  Speaker 1: just because I think, like you learn so much about yourself,
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  Speaker 1: you have defend for yourself. And also I feel like
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  Speaker 1: this is the one, like the biggest thing I advocate for.
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  Speaker 1: When you move somewhere like another city or another country,
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  Speaker 1: you no one's holding you to a standard or an identity.
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  Speaker 1: So you can, like if you were once a bitch,
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  Speaker 1: or you were once like really shy, or you're not
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  Speaker 1: super extroverted, and then you move somewhere and no one's
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  Speaker 1: holding you to that standard. You can walk into a
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  Speaker 1: room or a party and like no one's thinking, oh,
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  Speaker 1: she's a bit out of character tonight, bo do you
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  Speaker 1: want to be? And I feel like that's so cool
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  Speaker 1: because it's like you discover and create whoever you want
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  Speaker 1: to be, Like you, I want to be this person,
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  Speaker 1: you become them?
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  Speaker 2: So yeah the wheel, Yeah exactly, be whoever you want
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  Speaker 2: to be. Literally, did you ever have like an aha
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  Speaker 2: moment where you were like, WHOA, I have changed so
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  Speaker 2: much while you've been overseas?
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  Speaker 1: Probably like a year into it, I'd say, because I
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  Speaker 1: moved and I think I was very like immature and
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  Speaker 1: then I just I don't know it was just just
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  Speaker 1: naive about the world, and I just I was just different.
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  Speaker 1: Like I don't think I liked who I was, and
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  Speaker 1: I probably wasn't the best person. I think I just
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  Speaker 1: project a lot, do you know what I'm saying? Like
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  Speaker 1: I'm a gossip and like at work and like I
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  Speaker 1: make I try and not gossip now, just like so
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  Speaker 1: many like small things and just like I think I
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  Speaker 1: was very, very extroverted and now I'm like I'd still
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  Speaker 1: so extroverted, but I've learned that I can also be
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  Speaker 1: reserved and like sit back sometimes and like I just
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  Speaker 1: like every which way I've changed.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, where it's like I don't think we give ourselves
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  Speaker 4: like the credit enough to see the positive changes that
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  Speaker 4: we make in ourselves. Like when you are being like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: do you know what, Like maybe five years ago, when
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  Speaker 4: I was like young, I probably would have behaved like
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  Speaker 4: this way in this situation. And like when you can
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  Speaker 4: sit there and be like, do you know what? Not
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  Speaker 4: everything needs like the full tank of that I have
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  Speaker 4: to give.
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  Speaker 1: It's just like yeah, because I think it's like all
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  Speaker 1: those things where you're not being held to a standard
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  Speaker 1: or expectations by someone. This may not be moving over seas,
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  Speaker 1: but I did a lot of like self work and
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  Speaker 1: like self reflection of the past four years and like yeah,
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  Speaker 1: because like four years ago, I hated myself and I
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  Speaker 1: would project that I was so insecure, and then I
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  Speaker 1: think even just moving overseas as well, Like I did
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  Speaker 1: so much reflecting being like writing down like manifesting and
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  Speaker 1: affirming to myself I am this person, I am wise,
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  Speaker 1: I am friendly, I am outgoing, Like people want to
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  Speaker 1: be around me because I have blah blah blah. Do
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 3: Like, yeah, yeah, I think it sounds grange.
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  Speaker 1: I think just that there's so many benefits. Everyone should
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  Speaker 1: be riverseas also another country because you can create your
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  Speaker 1: own identity.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, what were some of the other practices you did
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  Speaker 4: for like self reflection.
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  Speaker 1: Just like a lot of journaling to be honest. And
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  Speaker 1: then also just like asking myself questions that you would
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  Speaker 1: ask someone else, because I think a lot of the
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  Speaker 1: time you might go on a date or you might
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  Speaker 1: be with a friend and you always ask like oh
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  Speaker 1: I love deep charts, like I hate service level conversation,
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  Speaker 1: and so like I've even got like like questions on
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  Speaker 1: my phone. I was asking like my best friend I
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  Speaker 1: went for a walk there this morning, and it's just
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  Speaker 1: like questions that you'd ask someone else, ask yourself and
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  Speaker 1: like think about the reasons, and like they can be
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  Speaker 1: fun things. It can be like it doesn't have to
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  Speaker 1: be some deep shit where you put on meditation, can
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  Speaker 1: you like depress it or fuck?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Like you could just be like in your room and
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  Speaker 1: then like list like right questions like what's something that
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  Speaker 1: you love to be complimented on? And then what's something
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  Speaker 1: that you don't get complimented on like internally that you
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  Speaker 1: would like to and then maybe that's something that you
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  Speaker 1: need to bring out more or like you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean. Like but if shadow, well, yeah, that kind
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  Speaker 1: of thing do you want?
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  Speaker 4: My favorite question is the one that's like what's your
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  Speaker 4: favorite compliment you've ever received? Like it just makes people
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  Speaker 4: really happy to then like say that about themselves.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I find that it's like the cutest one ever.
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  Speaker 1: Agreed.
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  Speaker 3: Do you have any advice?
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  Speaker 4: Because you mentioned before that you don't really speak to,
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  Speaker 4: you know, the people that you knew back home or
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  Speaker 4: high school, which I think is like a very relatable thing.
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  Speaker 3: I think people outgrow.
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  Speaker 1: I'm friendly, but I say I'm like like there was
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  Speaker 1: no falling out in it. But it's just like yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you just like it's.
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  Speaker 3: Like a parallel growth.
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  Speaker 4: But how did you go about making new friends as
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  Speaker 4: an adult in a new country, Because.
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  Speaker 1: That's struggle, Like I won't even lie. That's the one
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  Speaker 1: thing I'm so like about moving home is like finding
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  Speaker 1: when I moved to Sydney, like my people again because
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, that's fine, thanks, awkward, no, But I
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  Speaker 1: would say, it just takes time, to be honest, and
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  Speaker 1: I think when I first, honestly probably took me a
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  Speaker 1: year to find people that are like stuck stuck with
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  Speaker 1: Like I think I've only got one friend that I
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  Speaker 1: met when I first moved here and was doing my
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  Speaker 1: waging job, like Cheeto, and I'm still like good friends
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  Speaker 1: with her now love her. But everyone else for the
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  Speaker 1: first year like would come and go, and like I
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  Speaker 1: would never say, I'd have moments where felt lonely, but
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  Speaker 1: like you, there's always gonna be someone you can go
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  Speaker 1: and do something with, especially when you first move like
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  Speaker 1: but I think I just found it was very service
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  Speaker 1: level or it was like when I was drinking, I'd
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  Speaker 1: just go and drink, or like they're just not people
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  Speaker 1: you click with, but you're hanging out with them for
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  Speaker 1: convenience or to have someone to do something with. And
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  Speaker 1: I think that's what the biggest struggle was. But then eventually,
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  Speaker 1: I think when you I don't know, become comfortable with
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  Speaker 1: yourself and you're just I would say, you're not looking
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  Speaker 1: for it as well. That sounds really crazy. Do you
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  Speaker 1: know when you're like looking for a relationship or like
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  Speaker 1: looking for something, that's when it doesn't come. I think
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  Speaker 1: it's the same for friendships because I find like all
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  Speaker 1: of the friends that are my life now, I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: looking for that friendship, Like it just randomly happened or
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  Speaker 1: like them in an event or like through a friend
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  Speaker 1: of a friend, or like it was very organic and
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have to chase it. And like, I know,
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  Speaker 1: there's like apps and stuff and like Facebook groups like
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  Speaker 1: girls in London and like all that stuff, and I
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  Speaker 1: think that's great initially when you move in and I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't like shit on that. Like, I think that's cool
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  Speaker 1: and you probably can make good friend through it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it just takes time and you've just
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  Speaker 1: also got to be comfortable on your own And I
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  Speaker 1: think that's the cool thing as well. Now I'm so
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  Speaker 1: happy to go and go to like a restaurant on
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  Speaker 1: my own or like go to a movie on my own,
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  Speaker 1: and I think that's also a profit.
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  Speaker 4: That's when like friendships will blossom though, because I think
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  Speaker 4: you have to get to that point that you're good
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  Speaker 4: being on your own and that like agree, especially the
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  Speaker 4: first year that you move somewhere as well, there's going
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  Speaker 4: to be exactly what you just said, like that reflection
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  Speaker 4: and that like self work that you have to do
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  Speaker 4: before you can make friends.
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  Speaker 3: Otherwise that's why it's like so in and out.
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  Speaker 1: But I think it's so good because it's like if
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have the time where I'd spend alone or
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  Speaker 1: like even just like genuinely focusing myself, Like I think
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  Speaker 1: that's what I did for all of last year. I
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  Speaker 1: would say, like last year, I didn't date at all,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't like had very like small like friendship group,
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  Speaker 1: and then I just kind of focused on myself for
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  Speaker 1: a whole year, like in terms of like my health
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  Speaker 1: and then like socials and just like liking myself and
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  Speaker 1: liking my own company. And I think, yeah, I think
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  Speaker 1: everyone like if you're moving to another place, like it's
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  Speaker 1: okay to go through a periodhere. You don't have a
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  Speaker 1: massive like friendship group or circles.
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  Speaker 4: And like, but I think it's like the best time
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  Speaker 4: ever hanging out with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Well you learned to like your own popanie, because I
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  Speaker 1: don't think enough people do.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, No, what about dating? What was dating?
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  Speaker 2: Moving?
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  Speaker 1: To be fair, this year, the dating mate has got
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  Speaker 1: a lot better. I've been in a couple of dates recently.
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  Speaker 1: But last year it was shit, Like I think I
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: moved to London and I fucking idiot. Get this. I
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  Speaker 1: used to like seen in Braslings before I moved. That's
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  Speaker 1: how I saved art. We just worked two jobs, like
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  Speaker 1: fifty hours whatever. And when I was at Brasnis, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, I'm going to get all this laundry because
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be dating and having so much sex.
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  Speaker 1: When I moved to London, I went a whole year celibate,
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  Speaker 1: Like a whole fucking year. Yeah last year I had
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: actually know I had sex months, but that was from
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: this is so TIMI from like November till August, nothing
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  Speaker 1: like nothing like she said self work.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, when you said self reflection, you're like self reflection
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  Speaker 4: it because you just weren't meeting anything like.
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  Speaker 1: You connected with my type as well. Yeah, so like
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  Speaker 1: I would say, I'm not labeled now, so I I
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  Speaker 1: do whatever. But I think for I was only open
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  Speaker 1: to dating women at one point, hence why I leveled
• 14:15
  Speaker 1: myself lesbian for the motherfuckers that are in my comments,
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: and I ever like, you were never a lesbian. It's like, well,
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  Speaker 1: at one point in time, I would look at a
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: man and be like disgusting. Yeah, like, yes, I was
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: a lesbian, like sorry, but I had no interest in men.
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: That's what a lesbian is. So that's what I was
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: when I first moved to London. And I think my
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: type i've realized is very like I think I like
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: a chilled like linen set wearing long beachy hair. I
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: heard it was a good gay scene, and I think
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: it is a good gay sing for gay men because
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: I have a lot of gay male friends and they
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: think the gay scene is great, and I think it
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: is for them, But I think for lesbian women or
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: like you know, like LGBT women, it's not the best scene.
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: I just think my luck last year was just not it.
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: But then I think as well, I also wasn't that
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: far on it, Like I think I was for the
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: first two months from September October November December, so like
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: a year and a half ago I was, and then
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: January to December I was just kind of like fuck things,
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: like no, But then this year we've just been dabbling.
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: I went on a few dates at the start of
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: the year with men. Actually, we'll say, if you're straight,
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: you probably will like the dating scene here because when
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: I went on the dates with the men, that was
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: so much easier, like it was easier to find fit men.
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: I feel like they just straight to it, like they
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: ask you out straight.
• 15:26
  Speaker 3: Away, like Australian men.
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's actually yeah, okay. The dating scene is
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: good for like, you know, people who are relations but
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: then the dates they just bit like dead. You know
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: when you go on a date and you're like, did
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: I have fun? Because I'm fun? But yeah that was
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: every date I was like and every date I went on,
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: not to big myself up, but I'm gonna they were
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: all like, oh wow, like you're so much fun, like
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: that was such a great dad When you see me,
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: I was like, really, like what the fuck You're.
• 15:55
  Speaker 3: Having a good time?
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was well they were because they were like
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: laughing my jokes and yeah, all that was, you know,
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: in fine form. But I was just like, this is
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: a one man show. Here was like we needed a
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: two way street.
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he's just a mat and green.
• 16:12
  Speaker 4: You haven't put a deposit down before they can take
• 16:15
  Speaker 4: you on a day.
• 16:16
  Speaker 3: What's been like the best day you've ever been.
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: On in London?
• 16:21
  Speaker 4: Like Slim Pickens, why he said that was so sad,
• 16:25
  Speaker 4: Slim Pickens, This is probably this one I went on
• 16:28
  Speaker 4: with this guy.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: Actually he looked like the Wish version of Jacob, Like
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: he was fit, like.
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: Even he's going to be better than a lot more.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: Version of that was that.
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: He was.
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he was very very good looking.
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: This guy.
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: Was he really tall?
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he was like he was probably like the fittest
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: guy like I've ever got with, Like he was fucking
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: hot hot. But yeah, I don't know, I think that's
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: just really good like sexual chemistry there. And he was
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: like very gentleman, which I liked. Yeah, yeah, nice.
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: So you mentioned you've been on a bit of a
• 17:05
  Speaker 4: journey you're now unlabeled. What was that like because that
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: was like February right like earlier this year. That you
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: kind of opened yourself up a little bit, right, But
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: that was like that would have been a lot to
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: go through, like in your head.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: That was It was honestly such a head fuck because
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: I think up until like I think it was July
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: August when I slept with security Gun i ha a
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: gay club love that he. Until I slept with him,
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: I genuinely didn't I didn't have interests like yeah, it's
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: like no, like just wouldn't do it for me. And
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: then once I sat with him, I was a bit
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: like in my head, oh okay, like I was kind
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: of just a bit more open to it then obviously
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: I was in my head, I was like trying to
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: close those like you know when you're gay, when you're
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: figuring out you're gay and you're trying to squash those thoughts.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: It was literally like that in reverse, and I was
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: like I was like, yeah, I was like that would
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: have been really hard for like, no, you're gay, this is.
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: Literally no if I have rooms, okay.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: And I think it was harder as well because it's
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: like I'd made my identity on TikTok as being a
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: gay Australian in London. Like that was like my like label,
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: like my identity, and I think I struggled with that
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: because I was like, fuck, Like I had moments in
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: my head like end of last year, I was like,
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: am I just if I ever meet a guy, it's
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: gonna have to be like, no, I'm not interested even
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: if I am, because I don't want people to then
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: think that I was ever lying. And then I was like,
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: went over Christmas and I was talking to my mom
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: about kind of a bit of a breakdown at a
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: menty B and I was like, I think I am
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: interested in possibly dating a man again, Like I think
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: I'm very much ratio and it still is more so
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: for women. Yeah, I think long long term, I do
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: see myself with a girl, but I mean never say never,
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: but I do think for the right guy, I could
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: have interest and feelings. And also like I am sexually
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: attracted to some men plympic ins, but some men. And
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: then I was like, Okay, maybe I don't ever speak
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: about it online until I end up dating a man,
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: if that ever happens, and if it doesn't, like whatever.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: But then I was also like no, because I don't
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: want to ride myself off by like if maybe a
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: friend of a friend thought I'd be a good match
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: to their friend.
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: They would never set me up because I can't just
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: like not be who you are.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I was like, fuck it, So I made
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: a video on it, and then I've got a lot
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: of nice gms to be fair people being like that's
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: really helped me, Like I feel the same or blah blah.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: I'm in the same situation. Got a lot of shit
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: as well for it.
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: Like, I think it's actually really brave that you were
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: you know, you did come out, which sounds yeah, you
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: would though, because like that is really nerve wracking. Like
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: you said, you built, you know, a brand identity surrounding
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: one thing.
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: But I really.
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: Think it's so cool when people change their mind and
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: learn and grow and like evolutionize their own lives, because
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: otherwise it's exactly the same, yeah and boring.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: Agreed, And I just yeah, I think I just think
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: if you don't need a label, like if you want
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: to put a label on it, sure, But then I
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: have like two friends as well who would say they say,
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: technically I'm a lesbian, but also like, and this probably
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: isn't helping the whole represent Like that's bad because you're
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: saying like you give men the opportunity to think that
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: they can turn a lesbian. It's like, well, if a
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: man internal lesbian, maybe they weren't ever a lesbian or
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: maybe they were at some point, but like that shit happens,
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: Like that's life. Like fucking no, I don't know. I
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: just think I don't think it's pressure on labels.
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not like like you're one hundred percent lesbian,
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: and like people try to math it out a little
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: bit and I'm like, and also just how you feel.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: No one person can turn someone like you have to
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: willingly and have those emotions. Yeah, to explore that path yourself,
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: Like it takes two people or whatever the relationship.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: Is for that to happen.
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: And like that's why it's a spectrum. Like sexuality is
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: such a spectrum.
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: It's so fluid.
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: Do you have any tips for anyone listening who is,
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: you know, questioning, are a little bit confused with their sexuality.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: Don't put pressure on it. I think also like just
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: go on experiment to be honest, and also don't feel
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: pressure to put a label on it. Like if you
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: just want to go unlabeled, say that, Like I think
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: I could probably say I'm bye. But that's I don't
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: know why it just doesn't I do. I don't like that.
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: I don't know why I hate the label of it
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: because I just think as well, like I was saying,
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: people like mathematic hit don't be the ratio?
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: Do you like more?
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, I just like who I like.
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: I want to give them a smooch. I want to
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: give them a smooch, Like that's the vibe here. Yeah, yeah,
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: And I'm like there's men who I find attractive and
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: men who I find repulsive and vice versa, like just
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: what it is.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: I'd also add, though, don't feel pressure to like make
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: it a big thing, Like I think there's so much
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: pressure and I felt like when I was younger, like fuck,
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: if I come out, it's going to be this big
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: thing and I got to make a big deal or
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: even if I don't want to. But you can, like
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: if you are like by like asexual whatever it is,
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: like non binary, you can just like be I don't
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: have to tell you one by one casually combo, just
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: drop it. If you don't make it a big deal,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be if you want to make
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: it a big deal, like go on, go off, as
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: you should, but if you don't want to, like, that's
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: so fine.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: Switching gears here a little. Okay, so you're moving back
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: to Australia. What influenced that decision? Was that always the plan?
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: No, it was not always the plan. So I was
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: gonna do a year, wasn't I was gonna do one
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: year when I first meew too, because I was like, oh,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: this is actually awful, and I was going to do
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: yacht work. But then social media took off and I
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, okay, it's not that bad. And then
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: I probably, like when I sat with the manager, was like, okay,
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: I can do three years because that's how long I
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: can stay with the visa. I'm on, like I can extend.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: So I've done two years. That's my visa up, but
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: I can pay to extend it. But yeah, then I
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: was like, okay, I'll stay three years because I'm like
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: earning like a nice amount of money and like I'm
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: trying to progress and like do lex something with a
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: career and like that kind of thing. And then I
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: went back home in December over Christmas for six weeks,
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: and I kept extending. I seemed to change my flights
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: twice and I was like, I missed the sun, I
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: miss home, I miss feeling safe. And then I got
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: back to London. My friend asked me one day we're
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: at coffee and she goes, you actually want to stay
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: because you keep telling me on to do listens to
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: extend your visa and you've put it off for months now,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: And I was like, actually, don't eat, like I deeped it.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: And I think I needed someone to ask me that
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: to realize I don't love London that much. Like I
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: love my life here. I do love my life. I
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: love my friends, I love my hairdresser. I love like.
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: The culture, history, the food, my hairdress.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: I like my like my day to day, like my job.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: But like I just like my life here. But I
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: don't like London, like I don't actually like the city itself,
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: like I just like my life. And so I was
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: like when I told everyone there, like you're an idiot,
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: Like why are you going home? With like what you're
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: doing now? Like you living it good? Like why would
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: you not stay? And it's like slip, do what I
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: want to do.
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: What's like the most overrated thing about London? We'll do
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: overrated and underrated, overrated.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: I feel like I think unless you're like on a
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: really good wage and you are living in a really
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: nice area, it's not that great like to visit. Sure,
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: Like I feel like I've visited for a week. You
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: guys might not mind it, but I what do I
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: like about it? I like her closest the rest of
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: yourop but like that's not even London, Like that's just
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: because I can travel somewhere else, but I would.
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: Like I can get away.
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: But I will say, like I do respect the city
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: because it's given me so much, and like it's helped
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: me so much, and like, without it be fucked. But
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: then was it underrated? Yeah, oh, I'll say they have
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: really good cafes. That's but I don't even know if
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: that's underrated.
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: Doubt five musical It was really funny.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: But I actually do think that the cafe culture is underrated, right,
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: because so many people were saying, like, oh, the coffee
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: is so shit in Europe and also in London, and
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: I was like, fuck, because I need cafe to survive.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: And since we've got here, I'm like, this is the
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: best coffee we've had the whole trip.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: It's not bad, it's good too, Agreed. I think yeah,
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I could say the food and the drinks.
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: I think we're also spoiled because like Australia is so
• 25:01
  Speaker 4: amazing and we are so we have such incredible you know,
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: food and people and you know, if you'l say of
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: cultures and such, like, it's a lot safer than a
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: lot of other places that like, we are probably spoiled
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: for choice. Like we're talking this morning about like if
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: we would ever move to another city, and I was
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: like when I was younger, probably, but now I'm just
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: like I do course.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: Literally.
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: We've also had a really serious question. That's how I
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: wanted to ask. Do you want to say no, it's
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: really serious. It's definitely not really serious when you say that.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: Trigger warning every okay, serious question.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: What is your top five ranking of the most satisfying
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: fruits to cut?
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Oh? I like that question serious. I'd say pineapple and
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: one really I think it's like, you know, no, when
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: you carve it right like it's nice. Yeah, yeah, when
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: it's just right over, I'd say so pineapple. Then I'd
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: say rock melon next. I think like kind of cving
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: that it's really satisfying. Scoop in the goop.
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: Out Scoop in theopos, and.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: Then probably watermelon, you know, classic but a bit boring, just.
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: Kind of melon gets everywhere, the juice everywhere.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: It's just a bit boring. It's just like same action.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: And then I don't really one of the fruit, like
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: banana that's fun to peel, but like that's not cut that,
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: it's just opening it. And then what are the fruits
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: are there? To be honest that I eat? No, I
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: do a lot of veggies.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: Well, I'm really glad that we got that sorted and confirmed,
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: and then we're gonna get toss in just like another
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: question that's not as important, but what's your biggest life
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: lessons so far?
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: I would say this is cringe, but it's true. I
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: feel like you can do so so cringe anything you
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: put your mind to, and the any person telling you
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: knows yourself. Like if you want to do something, you
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: so can, Like don't live to the expectations for the people.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: Like if you don't want to go to UNI, don't
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: fucking go to Unie. Like if you want to go travel,
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: go travel, Like if there's a will, there's a way,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Like yes, there might be limitations, there might be set
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: backs and people telling you no or yourself telling you no.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: But like anything you I liked wholehearted. Do this anything
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: you really really want life you can get if you yes,
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: it might for some take a year for someone, might
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: take ten if you have kids, or like whatever your
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: circumstances are. But I think if there's a will, there's
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: a way, And like the only person telling yourself no
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: is you so yeah, I don't know.
• 27:43
  Speaker 3: I love that.
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: I feel like that's been the theme of the entire episode,
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: which is beautiful. Perhaps a nice little bo on the
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: episode that thank you so much for coming in.
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: It has been an absolute pleasure.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: Thanks for having me.
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: For any of the chicks who don't follow you already,
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: where can they find you?
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: That's really rude. First of all, a right, what are
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: you doing? Just on TikTok Instagram, just Emily Brogan Emily
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: Brogan from brisbegan.
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: Well rap, Thanks guys, thank you so much for coming in,
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: and thanks to your chicks for having us in your
• 28:22
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• 28:25
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• 28:29
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• 28:33
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