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Ep 41 | Infinite Value: Reclaiming Inner Authority from Inherited Patterns and Spiritual Amnesia · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise, sensitive, authentic self. So last week,
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episode 40, divine human beings, permission to
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rest, discern, and breathe love. I reflected
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on density, disconnection, and the unique soul
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curriculum that guides each of us. It's about
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honoring, you know, our sensitivity in multiple
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ways. But, you know, I definitely touched on
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how as sensitive souls, you know, again, being
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those who feel more deeply, right, judgment and
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criticism really does impact us very strongly.
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So today, You know, what's on my heart is, again,
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just really wanting to keep reminding you that
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you are here for your own divine purpose and
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path, right? Like each and every one of us have
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this infinite value, right? It's not contingent
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upon what our upbringing was or is it it's not
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contingent upon our educational level our social
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status you know our our income right our credentials
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you know it really is important to know that
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we are truly each here to have very unique and
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different experiences and it's not uncommon for
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us to you know, be unaware of the blinders that
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we may wear during certain parts of our journey.
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And for some people, maybe their whole journey.
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But that's the really cool thing is that we are
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all so different. And the more we can recognize
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the vastness of each of our experiences, right?
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The more we can open up to how there's just infinite
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possibilities for each of us to experience as
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we navigate on this earthly plane. So I speak,
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you know, about and to sensitive souls. You know,
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I support sensitive and strong women in my holistic
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psychotherapy practice through embodied somatic
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therapy intensives and integrative health consulting.
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And then I also offer additional services that
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are accessible globally because i am a licensed
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clinical social worker in massachusetts california
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and arizona three places where my heart has felt
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at home the most so but what you know this really
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is me speaking to you wherever you are on your
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journey. And to just remind you that what I call
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the realigned journey is really about, you know,
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we do, we navigate through some really thick,
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heavy stuff that, you know, just makes us question
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and doubt ourselves and, you know, just whether
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we feel or sense judgment or criticism from others,
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right? Or even recognizing that it comes from
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within us. And, you know, my curiosity, my fascination,
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you know, with the mind, with the body, with
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our soul, right? With our wholeness is always
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about coming back to you know what are we carrying
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that is not ours right like we each inherited
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when we came through into these physical forms
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you know we inherited genetic makeup we inherited
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genetic tendencies we inherited you know what
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the beliefs you know the level of consciousness
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right like We just inherited so much and just
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took on so much in those early years. And most
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of us. you know, have what some people call spiritual
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amnesia, you know, where we come in not remembering
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that we have this eternal nature to us, right?
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And, and again, I am here to honor each and every
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one of your paths, because whether you're waking
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up to that nature, you know, young, like I absolutely
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love, you know, supporting young adult women.
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you know, the connection that is still present,
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but perhaps has been pushed to the side because,
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you know, trusting others, whether it's our parents,
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right, the professionals in our lives, you know,
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we sometimes... unknowingly defer right our our
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inner authority our inner guidance to those we
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love to those we trust not understanding necessarily
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that those who have come before us or even those
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who come around the same time as us don't know
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what it feels like to be in your body to have
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your experiences right and your experiences are
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not limited to what you physically have lived
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through in this lifetime so far right like we
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truly are inheriting patterns from our parents
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our our caregivers right society whatever culture
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we're born into and some of us you know don't
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resonate with the messages and we know it early
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on but we're still kind of like you know we're
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we're being herded right like we're sheep being
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herded and so we then question like our own inner
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guidance right and as sensitive souls you know
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that inner guidance isn't something that we can
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ignore right but it doesn't always make sense
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when we're making choices Um, if we're only looking
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at things from the earthly plane. So this is
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why I continue to invite you to really take a
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step back from your life, take a, take a break
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and breathe love, as you know, I call it to really
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see the bigger picture of, you know, what aspects
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of your day to day life. are really from old
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patterns, right? That may not be serving you
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anymore, maybe never even did. But it's something
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that you were kind of nurtured into, right? Whether
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it was school, your family, your culture, you
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just kind of bought into, well, this is what
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everybody does. This is what I do, you know?
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This is an invitation for you to realize that
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you are here to live your very own unique and
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magnificent journey. And to notice through that
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sensitivity that you've been gifted with, notice
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how it feels in your body. You know, when you
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judge yourself, when you judge your... path when
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you judge your past right decisions that you've
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made and again i speak from my own lived experience
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i know it's not easy to have a sensitive nervous
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system where you feel more, you sense more, right?
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You can literally, you know, tap into the subtleties
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in the invisible realm too. And each of us have
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our own natural gifts in these areas. Some, you
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know, more than others. But again, there's no
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comparison because we each have infinite value.
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We each truly matter. in this evolutionary process
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of becoming more and more of our true selves,
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of waking up out of the old patterns, the old
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conditionings, right? Like taking the blinders
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off or gradually just widening the view. Now,
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what I really want to say is, you know, sometimes
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we may come across things um in a course on social
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media you know in in research like whatever it
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may be where we're like oh i just need to do
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that that works right and then we may do whatever
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that recommendation was whether that was you
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know to rewire your neural pathways to think
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in a more positive way or whether that's physical
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fitness you know trying to get your body to look
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or feel a certain way right Or again, opening
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and really attuning to your own soul's guidance,
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right? Your higher self, the higher mind, whatever
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you choose to call it, right? Christ consciousness.
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Like there's many words that describe the same
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or similar idea or concept. And so it is important
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that you're true to you because, you know, The
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human mind, right? It can only grasp so much
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and it really can't grasp the vastness of all
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that there is. And that's where the realign journey
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is about bringing you back home to you, to what's
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true for you, right? So that you can tune in
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to hear your own inner guidance, right? The wisdom.
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of your eternal nature, right? That divine experience
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of life, right? Your divine spark that's within
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your heart, right? You've heard me say that before.
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And so what's interesting, you know, I find is
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that, you know, this journey being, you know,
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what I recognize as a spiral. Right. It's not
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a linear path that we walk, although it's very
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common that we view it right as a one step in
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front of the other. And we're just going in one
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direction. We're only going forward. You know,
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when we understand it's it's a spiral. Right.
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And even like if you think of. the old films,
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right? Like we're watching the film as if it's
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one frame after the other, right? But how is
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it? How is it really? It's, it's in a spiral,
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it's rolled, right? And so when we understand
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that we're living our lives, and we're revisiting
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similar experiences, you know, so that we can
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process them on a different level. And that allows
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us to keep continuing in our evolutionary growth,
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right? That becoming, that elevating our consciousness
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to understand life in a whole new way. the most
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supportive and most profound on my journey is
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Again, I'm always going to be grateful for Dr.
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Elaine Aaron and her research and her vulnerability,
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you know, for sharing about her own personal
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journey to help so many of us, especially those
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of us who are also in the helping field, whether
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it's as a therapist, as a nurse, you know, a
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doctor. Um, I mean, there's so many of us in
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the helping field, right? Um, And even the healing
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arts, right? Like, again, there's so many, but,
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but her research just helped me to want to understand
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what does it mean to have a more finely tuned
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nervous system? You know, what does that mean?
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And how do I realign with what is for my highest
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and greatest good so that I can experience more
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love and more light, more laughter, more joy,
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more peace and truth. You know, these are definitely
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higher principles that I have been aligning with
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since I had the spiritual. awakening, that soul
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remembrance back in 2008. But what I really,
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you know, wanting to impart is that it truly
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is a journey. It's not, it's not like we have
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this profound shift and everything changes. And
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granted, I had the physical experience in my
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awakening where all of a sudden my body was in
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just complete and perfect health you know um
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but that was a window of time that i received
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in that major shift in consciousness that expanded
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awareness and understanding that i as we all
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are eternal abundant and connected but I didn't
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quite understand what that meant back then and
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how to live life, you know, aligned with those
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truths. So it's taken the time that it's taken
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for me to unravel, you know, all of the things
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that my nervous system was so wound up by, right?
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I've referenced multiple times that I saw myself
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as a high strung person, right? Maybe type A,
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I don't know. But the thing is, is really understanding
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the communication from our nervous system, right?
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And even, you know, through my quantum biology
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for health training and integrative mental health
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trainings, you know, just understanding on a
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cellular level, right? On a mitochondrial level,
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like, the particles, the waves, like there's
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so much that we can immerse ourselves in and
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understanding on these smaller and smaller levels,
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right? I've done other podcasts on quantum sensitivity,
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right? Like, I just think it's fascinating, but
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I have to keep coming back to what really is
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central to how I support women, you know, sensitive
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and strong women, is to keep coming back to your
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breath. Keep coming back to your body. Keep coming
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back to what your nervous system, right, is receiving
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and what those old messages are that are getting
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triggered, that you're feeling through your emotions,
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right? And, you know, for as long as I can remember,
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I have held the space where women cry and then
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apologize for crying. You never need to apologize
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for crying. That is so essential to your well
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-being. That is your nervous system communicating.
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you know energy and motion right emotion is being
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evoked because your nervous system is letting
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you know there's something there that's moving
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and it may have been suppressed for decades right
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And so that's why the realign journey I see,
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it is about healing and remembering. It's about
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releasing and becoming, right? And it is a journey.
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It's not like, you know, you just sign up for
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a course or, you know, you sign up for a few
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sessions, right? Like it's really a returning.
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And that spiral means we keep returning to the
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truth of who we are, and we keep facing those
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challenges that we've lived through. Whether
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it's, again, impressions and imprints that we
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received early on, or things that we've even
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experienced more recent in our adult lives. The
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point is, you are worthy and deserving of seeing.
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the good in yourself, seeing your infinite value.
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And I am one among countless others who are here
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to remind you that you are a divine human being.
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You are this divine spark of love and light that
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your heart is guiding you from. right? Our hearts
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have the largest electromagnetic field, right?
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And electricity is running through us, right?
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Like taking a break and breathing love. not just
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once a day, but across our day, especially as
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sensitive souls, right? Our deep empathy, our
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ability to feel compassion for others, right?
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Like all of that is such a profound gift. And
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we need to tend to ourselves because we can be
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depleted and then we don't really serve anybody.
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So let's take a break and breathe love together
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now. If this is your first time, I just want
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you to know that there's no expectations. Taking
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a break and breathe love is however it feels
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truest for you. I may guide a certain type of
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breath practice, but The point is, is that it's
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a moment for you to pause, for you to connect
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with your breath, your body, your heart, to create
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that space so that you can hear the voice, that
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very soft voice of your higher self, your soul,
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Christ consciousness, again, whatever you feel
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most resonant with but I invite you now to place
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at least one hand on your heart you can place
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the other hand on your heart as well or if there's
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another part of your body that needs some loving
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attention I invite you to put that second hand
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there and just take a nice slow deep inhale through
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your nose no particular count just inhale as
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deeply as you can And then just go ahead and
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exhale out your mouth long and slow. This time,
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if you'd like to do a double inhale, you just
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inhale deeply through your nose. And that second
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inhale just can be a short, just, just enough
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to expand those areola in the lungs a little
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bit more and exhale again, long and slow out
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your mouth. Again, always honor your pace, your
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rhythm, what your body is communicating it needs.
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Listen to yourself more than you listen to me
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and my words. So I invite you to continue taking
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those longer, deep inhales if they feel good.
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And then that nice, slow exhale out your mouth.
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And I even invite you to just allow your breath
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to move at its own pace. And just notice the
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sensations you feel in your nostrils as you inhale.
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Feel it touching the roof of your mouth. And
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then even exhaling out your nose. What do you
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notice on the exhale through your nose? Again,
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just connecting you more with that divine spark
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within your heart, allowing more love and light
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to just spread throughout all the cells, all
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the particles, all the space that's within you.
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And just know that the more you take a break
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and breathe love, You're not only realigning
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with your truth, right? Your inner wisdom and
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guidance. You're also creating ripples of love,
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of light, of peace out to those around you, out
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to all of us around you, you know? And I invite
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you to take a moment and even think about how
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if you are carrying any judgment towards yourself
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or towards another, any criticism that's still
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lingering, to notice how that feels in your body,
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right? Like that judgment is harmful to you.
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especially if the judgment is self -judgment,
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but if you're also judging someone else or having
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fear about somebody else judging you, right?
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Recognize that that judgment, those sensations,
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that frequency, right? That's operating inside
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of you. So I do encourage you to Take a break
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and breathe love each and every day as many times
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as you feel called to and allow yourself to feel
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the feelings that come up. Whatever they are,
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it's important that you allow the space for them
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to move. Allow those tears to be released out
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your tear ducts and allow them to just roll.
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onto your cheeks, down your face. Those are releasing
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those stressful hormones and they're releasing
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oxytocin and allowing you to relax more, right?
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That releasing is so key. Well, I always encourage
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you to, you know, weave this into your first
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morning rituals. And if you don't have any morning
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rituals, I certainly encourage you to start.
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Start with a breathing practice, you know, write
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it on a sticky note next to your bed, you know,
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take a break and breathe love. And you decide
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what breathing sequence or practice feels best
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to you in that moment. Some days it may be box
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breathing, five, five, five, five. Other days
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it might be that physiological side, that double
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inhale, exhale. Other times it might be four,
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seven, eight breathing. Again, there's no one
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right way for any of us or even for our whole
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journey. It is the realigned journey so that
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you keep coming back to you and what do you need?
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What's true for you in that moment? If you're
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recognizing yourself, maybe for the first time
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as a sensitive woman, I just want you to know
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there's many pathways to join me. Obviously,
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there's this weekly podcast. I include a Rise
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and Realign podcast newsletter on LinkedIn and
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also my website. And I also... support women
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one -on -one, whether it's as a holistic psychotherapist,
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doing therapy intensives, as an integrative health
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consultant, realignment sessions. There's so
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many different ways. I just feel so privileged
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and honored to support sensitive women and their
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families. So I just want you to know, it's always,
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always wonderful to hear from you and how I might
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assist you. So before we close, I invite you
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to return to your breath, to your body, to what
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feels true for you right now. There's nothing
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you need to fix. Just notice what's here, where
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the heart leads, the body remembers, and the
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soul awakens. As a reminder, we are here together
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to rise, reclaim, remember. And as always, I'm
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super grateful that you're here. You have infinite
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value. Your voice, your presence, it all matters.
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And if you'd like to walk the sensitive and strong
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path with me, feel free to visit realignwithmelissa
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.com. Take good care of you. Much love and light.