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Bench Warmers Anonymous: How to Get Back in the Game · Start Your Comeback: Rebuilding after Divorce, Empty Nest, and Loss of Spouse

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: Is there a major life transition benching you?
• 0:02
  Speaker 1: I know you may be asking what's next?
• 0:06
  Speaker 1: What's my purpose?
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: What if?
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Because I've asked those too.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Start your Comeback podcast.
• 0:14
  Speaker 1: I'm Toni Thrash, a certified life coach, and I want to share the tools and practical steps to help you create a winning game plan to move into your new adventure.
• 0:25
  Speaker 1: Hi, welcome back.
• 0:57
  Speaker 1: You're listening to episode 77.
• 0:59
  Speaker 1: I have a question for you.
• 1:01
  Speaker 1: Are you feeling stuck, like maybe you're watching life from the sidelines?
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  Speaker 1: Do you know where you're headed or are you drifting?
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  Speaker 1: Do you have a plan?
• 1:12
  Speaker 1: I think I have more than just one question for you this week.
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk about building a game plan for your life, especially after a major transition.
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  Speaker 1: Now you might be thinking a game plan that's for sports, not life.
• 1:30
  Speaker 1: Well, as a former coach, I can tell you the principles are the same.
• 1:36
  Speaker 1: In sports, you prepare for each game with a strategy or a plan of action.
• 1:42
  Speaker 1: You analyze your opponent's strengths and weaknesses weaknesses and you map out how you're going to capitalize on that knowledge.
• 1:48
  Speaker 1: And, just like coaching athletes, live coaching is about helping you perform at your best, pushing you to persevere and aiming for that W or that win, whatever that looks like for you.
• 2:03
  Speaker 1: We all face surprises, some beneficial, some detrimental.
• 2:08
  Speaker 1: I call these life transitions, and they come in three distinct stages.
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  Speaker 1: The beauty of a game plan is its flexibility.
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  Speaker 1: It's not written in concrete, set in stone.
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  Speaker 1: It's a living document that you adjust, tweak or, if needed, even completely change as the situation evolves.
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  Speaker 1: Think of it as a guideline, written in pencil, not sharpie, because life throws us curveballs.
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  Speaker 1: When I was in a huddle with my whiteboard and expo marker, I could change the direction of the game with a new plan and if that didn't work, one swipe of my hand erased it and I adjusted.
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  Speaker 1: So what exactly is a game plan in this context?
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  Speaker 1: It's a strategic roadmap for your next chapter.
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  Speaker 1: It's about defining your goals, outlining your steps and creating a framework for success.
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  Speaker 1: Let me share an example.
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  Speaker 1: I'm working with a client who has sold her business as entering retirement.
• 3:15
  Speaker 1: She wanted to stay active and engaged, but she wasn't sure how.
• 3:21
  Speaker 1: We started with a two-hour discovery meeting where I asked detailed questions about her vision for retirement, her desires and her concerns.
• 3:31
  Speaker 1: She had a list of to-dos but no clear timeline.
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: After our meeting, I created a live script for her.
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  Speaker 1: This is a tool I use to visualize my client's future goals and aspirations.
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  Speaker 1: It's a powerful way to bring clarity and direction.
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  Speaker 1: When I shared it with her, she was deeply moved.
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  Speaker 1: It confirmed what brings her alive.
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  Speaker 1: We then narrowed down her list, prioritized her goals and created a timeline.
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  Speaker 1: This became her personalized game plan.
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  Speaker 1: The key is that it's flexible.
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  Speaker 1: Life happens and plans need to adapt.
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  Speaker 1: She decided to start a new company, build a website and create a new logo.
• 4:17
  Speaker 1: She wanted to work three to four days a week and we mapped out a plan to make that happen.
• 4:23
  Speaker 1: She's now exceeding her goals because she has clarity, direction and a willingness to adapt.
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  Speaker 1: And not only that in the middle of all this process, she determined there were some of those things that we had nailed down that she didn't really want to do, so we took them out.
• 4:44
  Speaker 1: I'm going to give you 10 specific steps to create your game plan.
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  Speaker 1: Some people struggle with knowing what the thing that brings them alive is.
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  Speaker 1: Some are very clear.
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  Speaker 1: Give yourself grace.
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  Speaker 1: If you are struggling with the thing that brings you to life, all right, here we go.
• 5:04
  Speaker 1: Number one acknowledge your transition, recognize and accept that you're in a period of change.
• 5:11
  Speaker 1: Don't try to rush through it.
• 5:13
  Speaker 1: If you're in shock, then I would recommend the Sound of you Journal PDF that I created for this time in life's transitions.
• 5:22
  Speaker 1: You can find the link in the show notes.
• 5:24
  Speaker 1: Number two define your vision.
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  Speaker 1: What do you want your life to look like in the next six months, one year, five years?
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  Speaker 1: Be specific.
• 5:35
  Speaker 1: If you have lost a loved one, then this step will start after you grieve for at least a year.
• 5:41
  Speaker 1: We don't want to make decisions while we are in shock and very emotional.
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  Speaker 1: Let's get you through this year with a purpose and clear thinking.
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  Speaker 1: Number three identify your values.
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  Speaker 1: What's truly important to you?
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  Speaker 1: What principles will guide your decisions?
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  Speaker 1: Number four set realistic goals.
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  Speaker 1: Break down your vision into smaller achievable goals.
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  Speaker 1: Number five create a timeline.
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  Speaker 1: Map out your goals and set deadlines.
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  Speaker 1: Be flexible, but have a structure.
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  Speaker 1: I recommend a 90-day breakdown of steps.
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  Speaker 1: Number six identify your resources.
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  Speaker 1: What skills, knowledge and support do you have?
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  Speaker 1: Who can help you?
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  Speaker 1: Who are your connections?
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  Speaker 1: And then ask yourself what skills do you need?
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  Speaker 1: Number seven develop an action plan.
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  Speaker 1: Outline the specific steps you need to take to achieve each goal.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes those steps are tiny, and that's okay, as long as we're moving in the direction you want to go.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes those steps are big.
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  Speaker 1: It just depends on who you are and what those end goals are.
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  Speaker 1: Number eight anticipate the obstacles.
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  Speaker 1: What challenges might you face?
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  Speaker 1: How will you overcome them?
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  Speaker 1: I want you to think back over a period of time when you set a goal and then something popped up in your life that prohibited you from reaching that goal.
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  Speaker 1: What was it and how did you deal with it?
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  Speaker 1: How could you learn to deal with it differently this time if the same kind of thing popped up?
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  Speaker 1: Number nine make sure that you build a support system, surround yourself with positive, supportive people.
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  Speaker 1: And number 10, regularly review and adjust.
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  Speaker 1: Your game plan is a living document.
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  Speaker 1: Review it regularly and make adjustments as needed.
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  Speaker 1: That can be as daily, it could be monthly or quarterly, or maybe you're 90 days in and your overall goal for the year changes.
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  Speaker 1: We just start over.
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  Speaker 1: It's a living framework.
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  Speaker 1: Remember this is your game plan.
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  Speaker 1: It's about taking control of your life and moving forward with purpose.
• 8:18
  Speaker 1: It's about getting off of the bench and back into the game with purpose.
• 8:25
  Speaker 1: It's about getting off of the bench and back into the game.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe the bench that you're on you've put yourself there, or maybe someone else has put you there and has just forgotten about you and walked away.
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  Speaker 1: But here you are.
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  Speaker 1: You're ready to get off that bench and you're ready to engage.
• 8:41
  Speaker 1: My challenge for you this week is to take the first step.
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  Speaker 1: Now you have to identify what that first step is.
• 8:49
  Speaker 1: Here's what I would encourage you to do.
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  Speaker 1: I would love for you to send me an email at tonythrashcom.
• 8:56
  Speaker 1: I want you to tell me in that email what your big, audacious goal is for 2025.
• 9:03
  Speaker 1: Because you know what?
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  Speaker 1: It's still not too late to get started on that goal.
• 9:08
  Speaker 1: Let's work together to create a game plan that will help you achieve your goals and live a fulfilling life.
• 9:15
  Speaker 1: Thank you for listening and remember you have the power to create the life you want.
• 9:21
  Speaker 1: Let's get off that bench and let's get going.
• 9:24
  Speaker 1: Thanks for being here today.
• 9:27
  Speaker 1: The next three weeks, I'm going to go back and give an overview of the three phases of a major life transition.
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  Speaker 1: If you're a new listener and are in a major transition, you will want to be there.
• 9:41
  Speaker 1: I will talk about shock, limbo and transition.
• 9:45
  Speaker 1: You won't want to miss it.
• 9:47
  Speaker 1: I'll see you next time.
• 9:49
  Speaker 1: Hey, thanks for listening.
• 9:51
  Speaker 1: I don't take it for granted that you're here.
• 9:53
  Speaker 1: You didn't listen by mistake.
• 9:55
  Speaker 1: If you want to reach out.
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  Speaker 1: You can DM me on Instagram at Tony Thrash.
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: Until next week.
• 10:02
  Speaker 1: Remember, there's still time left on the clock.
• 10:05
  Speaker 1: Let's get you off the bench to start your comeback.
• 10:08
  Speaker 1: I want to give a special shout out to Country Club for the original music.
• 10:13
  Speaker 1: You can find them on Instagram at Country Club.
• 10:17
  Speaker 1: Free audio post-.
• 10:44
  Speaker 1: Production.