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188 | The Will Center in Human Design: How to Lead Your Business Without Burnout · Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Mastery, Wealth Mindset, Leadership Principles, Intuitive Decision-Making, Human Design

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  Erin Gray: Welcome back to Your Money, Your Rules podcast with me, your host, Erin Gray.
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  Erin Gray: Today I want to talk about the Will Center in Human Design.
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  Erin Gray: Specifically, if you are whether you're defined or undefined, I'm going to go over that as well as how this applies to yourself, just in general, your business, the people in your team, and how you lead.
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  Erin Gray: So let's dive in.
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  Erin Gray: If you are new to human design, I want to advise you to go back and listen to a couple of my episodes first.
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  Erin Gray: Because what I'm talking about here is for people that are more so either have heard of human design, have already have their chart, they're a little bit versed in it.
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  Erin Gray: So you, I will put some links in the show notes to go back and watch or learn a couple of things with human design so you can kind of get an idea.
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  Erin Gray: Because number one, here's the other thing about human design.
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  Erin Gray: It's just like for me, I always use this with my clients, but very loosely because I don't think human design is the end-all be-all.
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  Erin Gray: I think human design is something that I use to just reconfirm what my clients already know.
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  Erin Gray: And so as they're like having their training wheels and they're like coming back home to themselves and trusting themselves more, I just give them some things to have more so of like that external validation of things that they already know to like give them some like add a girls of like, yeah, I already know this, right?
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  Erin Gray: Like that feels true in the body.
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  Erin Gray: So I don't look at human design from a place of this is the Bible and this is the way it has to be.
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  Erin Gray: I just use it as a form to support my clients, help them understand their team better and as well as themselves and like how to run their business.
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  Erin Gray: So in human design, it might be called the will center, or it could be called the heart, or it could be called the ego center.
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  Erin Gray: And so there are basically four gates that come off of this center.
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  Erin Gray: So I'm gonna give some just generalities and then I'm gonna talk about being defined and undefined, and then how it actually pertains to money and also running your team.
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  Erin Gray: So this is a motor center.
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  Erin Gray: It is not a center which, in terms of a motor, it kind of comes on and it goes off.
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  Erin Gray: It like pulses, right?
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  Erin Gray: So this is more so the center for willpower and like bringing things forth on the material plane.
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  Erin Gray: And again, sometimes I feel like human design, people take it like to the nth degree.
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  Erin Gray: Like we all have, whether you have a defined or an undefined will center, you can all bring things forth on the material plane.
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  Erin Gray: This is the center that is more so around like self-worth and self-esteem and our value.
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  Erin Gray: And I think that this center can have a very much so like can right have masculine energy.
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  Erin Gray: I think a lot of times of like the way that business has been done up until now, it's like a push, you know, use your willpower, like muscle through it kind of energy.
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  Erin Gray: And I don't necessarily think that that is a healthy way.
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  Erin Gray: And I don't think that a lot of us actually thrive in doing it that way.
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  Erin Gray: So this center does have a lot of power.
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  Erin Gray: So honor it because it kind of pulses on and off, you know, you have to think about like how am I working, how am I playing and resting?
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  Erin Gray: Like you have to have this back and forth.
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  Erin Gray: It can't just like if you're always on, you're always connected, you're always pushing, and because it's such a powerful center, you will burn yourself out, regardless of if you're defined or undefined.
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  Erin Gray: So, this center, if you have a defined will center, it's going to be colored in in your chart.
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  Erin Gray: And basically on the body graph, if you're looking at it, it's going to be kind of like that tiny, it should be labeled for you, but it's the tiny little center on the right hand side in between your identity or your G center, and I was gonna say north of your solar plexus, but above your solar plexus.
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  Erin Gray: So it's a little triangle and it should be named will or identity or ego center.
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  Erin Gray: About roughly 37-ish percent of the population has a defined, it's gonna be colored in.
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  Erin Gray: If your will center is defined, it will be colored in.
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  Erin Gray: If you're undefined, it will not be colored in.
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  Erin Gray: So these are people that have probably more consistent access to, when I say willpower, I don't mean pushing against what you want to do.
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  Erin Gray: I just mean that more steady energy of like when you decide to do something, you've got like the will to carry it through.
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  Erin Gray: So I want you to remember if you have a defined will center, you are designed to work and to rest and to play.
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  Erin Gray: If you do not rest, ultimately you will burn yourself out.
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  Erin Gray: So think about how important play is, how important rest is, taking naps, how whatever rest might look like for you, of allowing yourself this pendulum swing back and forth of I work and then I rest.
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  Erin Gray: I want to say here from a leadership and a team perspective, if you have a defined will center and other people that are in your org space have an undefined will center, they might feel really motivated when they are around you.
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  Erin Gray: So let's say if you're having a team meeting and you have a uh defined will center and you're talking to your team and they're like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Erin Gray: You know, it's almost kind of like, yes, let's all do it.
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  Erin Gray: Okay, we're ready.
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  Erin Gray: Yes, let's go.
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  Erin Gray: While they're in your energy, feel that way.
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  Erin Gray: But then as they get out of your energy, that energy might actually wane, and that is normal.
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  Erin Gray: So you want to be really mindful because a lot of times people with an undefined will center are kind of feeding off of your defined energy and you may not even know it, right?
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  Erin Gray: So they might seem like, yes, I'm ready, let's go do the thing, and then their enthusiasm wanes.
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  Erin Gray: And it isn't because they don't want to, it's just because they were kind of feeding off of that energy that you have.
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  Erin Gray: So, something else that I want to say is if you do have a defined will center, keeping commitments to yourself, and I think that this is true whether you have a defined or an undefined will center, it's really important because you do have the willpower to carry it through.
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  Erin Gray: And also of like, I think when we keep commitments to ourselves, here you go back to self-concept and your identity.
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  Erin Gray: Someone that keeps commitments to themselves over something that's small, you are building up the evidence, you know, keep commitments to yourself in something big, right?
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  Erin Gray: So I always look at this from like when you set goals or intentions or things of that sort.
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  Erin Gray: When you are always, you know, doing what you need to do from a little perspective, like, hey, I said I was gonna sit down with the money and take a look at it, and you do that on a consistent basis.
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  Erin Gray: When you start wanting to do bigger things, the brain will see, oh yeah, I already do this, right?
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  Erin Gray: Like it's who I am.
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  Erin Gray: What I say I'm gonna do is what I do.
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  Erin Gray: Okay, so if you have an undefined will center, this is roughly 63-ish percent of the population.
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  Erin Gray: Obviously, this changes, you know, people born and people pass away.
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  Erin Gray: But it's really important that you use your strategy when making agreements.
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  Erin Gray: Because when you enter into the agreements, you will have the energy to carry it through.
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  Erin Gray: If you are just going off of, let's just say, somebody else's org energy, right?
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  Erin Gray: Like if you have an undefined will center and you are trying to, you're saying yes and you're, you know, on the high, but you haven't ridden your wave, when you actually get to a neutrality, you may not have the energy or the desire to carry it through because you didn't actually allow yourself to get to neutrality.
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  Erin Gray: So really start to think about if you have an undefined will center and you have a defined solar plexus, are you honoring yourself and allowing enough time to ride your wave to really see is this something that I actually want to do?
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  Erin Gray: I want you to also say is regardless, make sure that you are valuing yourself.
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  Erin Gray: We're all valuable because we are here on planet Earth.
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  Erin Gray: Not because of what we do, not because of our revenue, not because of what our profit is, not because of you know what our team thinks of us.
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  Erin Gray: We're here because we exist, that we are valuable, right?
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  Erin Gray: So we don't have to prove there's nothing that we need to like earn, although a lot of us have been taught that.
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  Erin Gray: We need to honor our rest, we need to honor the ebbs and flows of our energy.
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  Erin Gray: And I think it would be good if you are open to like journaling, like noticing when is your energy higher, when is your energy lower?
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  Erin Gray: And like, are you trying to push through when you have lower energy or are you allowing yourself to rest?
• 9:03
  Erin Gray: So you also want to make sure, like I said, with those of us that have a defined will center, if you have an undefined will center and you have some employees that have some defined will centers, you want to be really mindful of when you are saying yes to them or you are agreeing to something or, you know, because if you are in the energy of someone that is defined, you hear you go back to, you might be feeding off of their energy.
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  Erin Gray: I remember I had a coach and she had a defined will center.
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  Erin Gray: And so when we would meet, you know, she and I would talk about certain things and I'd be like, yes, that's good.
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  Erin Gray: And you know, like in the meeting, I would be like all pumped up.
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  Erin Gray: I mean, it makes me think of like the Tony Robbins or, you know, like those, those types of events where everybody's like rah, rah, rah, right.
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  Erin Gray: But then when I would get out of her energy, it would kind of the my energy would kind of wane a little bit.
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  Erin Gray: And I always had to come back to, was I working off of her energy, or was this actually mine and what I wanted to do?
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  Erin Gray: So always check in with yourself.
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  Erin Gray: Am I, you know, is this energy mine?
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  Erin Gray: That's the question I ask all the time.
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  Erin Gray: Is what I'm feeling right now, is that energy mine?
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  Erin Gray: Am I trying to prove something here?
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  Erin Gray: Am I trying to prove my worth?
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  Erin Gray: Am I trying to prove my value, my experience, or anything of that sort?
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  Erin Gray: Like just notice where that comes.
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  Erin Gray: If you're experiencing it, you will know by how you feel in your body.
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  Erin Gray: Okay, so let's talk about how the will center pertains to money.
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  Erin Gray: When you are aligned, meaning when you are allowing the energy to flow the way it's meant to flow, you're gonna feel generous, you're gonna feel deserving and worthy.
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  Erin Gray: You're going to have something just because you want it, not because you have to like you earned it or you worked hard for it or, you know, any of that proving energy.
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  Erin Gray: When you are not aligned in your will center, it's gonna be a lot of proving energy.
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  Erin Gray: You're gonna have to you feel like you're proving that you're worthy, or like when I say keeping up with the Joneses, I don't necessarily mean from a personal standpoint, although it could be that way.
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  Erin Gray: What I also think about like is like trying to be your business, be like somebody else's, or have the revenue of someone else that you know, or like grow at the at the rate that someone else is trying to grow at, or whatever it might be.
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  Erin Gray: So really think about like, am I trying to keep up with the Joneses with anyone in business, or am I just doing it my way?
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  Erin Gray: What feels good to me in my body?
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  Erin Gray: And then questions that you can ask yourself to gain more clarity is am I improving energy?
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  Erin Gray: And I always say this is like you have to go back and take it to your body.
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  Erin Gray: You will know because it won't feel calm, it won't feel neutral, it won't feel like at ease.
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  Erin Gray: It's gonna feel like this leaning, like in my body, it feels like this leaning energy.
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  Erin Gray: Like, let me give you a little bit more, let me show you, like, let me try to prove that I know what I'm talking about, or you know, that so really, really ask yourself like, am I improving energy?
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  Erin Gray: And another question is, do I really truly want what I am going after?
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  Erin Gray: Like, is this a true heart's desire?
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  Erin Gray: And one of the ways that I always cut through the BS and I find out real quick is like, if I had a hundred million dollars, would I still want to do this?
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  Erin Gray: Like that for me is such an easy way to just get into my body, bypass the mind, and be like, yeah, I would totally do it, you know?
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  Erin Gray: Or is this something like my ego or my will center is at play here, right?
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  Erin Gray: Like, is this a I want this here?
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  Erin Gray: Go back to like, I want my business to be at X because so and so is at X.
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  Erin Gray: It's like, why do you want to be there?
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  Erin Gray: Like you really have to sit down and be like, okay, well, what would that entail?
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  Erin Gray: What are the numbers?
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  Erin Gray: Are you happy where you are?
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  Erin Gray: Like, I think also in the business world, we think like we have to be growing, growing, growing all the time.
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  Erin Gray: It's like the only thing that grows all the time and never stops is like cancer.
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  Erin Gray: Nature rests, nature has seasons, nature knows how to ebb and flow, and it is so efficient.
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  Erin Gray: So let nature be one of our teachers and let's ask ourselves like, are we trying to keep up with somebody else?
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  Erin Gray: Because we think, right?
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  Erin Gray: We have to be really clear on where is this coming from?
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  Erin Gray: And I would also ask myself, what am I doing daily?
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  Erin Gray: Daily, I said daily on purpose, daily for play to keep it light and to keep it fun.
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  Erin Gray: And I am like, I will call myself out here.
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  Erin Gray: I recognize where I can go into seriousness and the pressure, right?
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  Erin Gray: Versus like, no, like I wrote down last night or the day before.
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  Erin Gray: I'm like, my business is so fun.
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  Erin Gray: That's not how I used to think about my business or business in general, right?
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  Erin Gray: Like it was very serious, money was very serious, versus like, am I doing what I need to do to play and have fun?
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  Erin Gray: I know that I need to move my body before I sit down and work.
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  Erin Gray: Like that feels good to me.
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  Erin Gray: So what are you doing for play?
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  Erin Gray: And play can look in any way, right?
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  Erin Gray: Play can look like I'm gonna go for a walk in nature.
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  Erin Gray: Play can be like, I'm gonna go ride my bike, play can be like, I'm gonna go sit at a coffee shop and I'm gonna, you know, maybe write out my podcast episodes or look at some clients', you know, financials and stuff like that.
• 14:17
  Erin Gray: What are you doing that feels fun and enjoyable and not something that you have to earn, not where you have to go sit and do work and then go play.
• 14:28
  Erin Gray: Like what we're trying to teach the body too is we get to go play just because we want to.
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  Erin Gray: Because when I play, all of my ideas come through.
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  Erin Gray: All I get a lot of downloads.
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  Erin Gray: Like, I don't feel like I have to earn, which I think a lot of us have had to earn grades when we were younger to go play.
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  Erin Gray: We had to do what we needed to do.
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  Erin Gray: Maybe we had to practice piano or we had to like clean our room before we got to go play.
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  Erin Gray: It's all of this, like you do this and then you get that.
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  Erin Gray: And I want you to really start thinking about how do I just play?
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  Erin Gray: Because that is something that is loving to myself and to my nervous system and to my body.
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  Erin Gray: And the more I play, the more I have fun, the more I take care of me, the more everything else follows and increases and flows because of that.
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  Erin Gray: Okay, take some of these questions, think about them, contemplate them, journal.
• 15:21
  Erin Gray: Go pull your human design chart on my website, generatelifewell live.com, click on human design chart, and you can grab your chart and you can see, you know, what does your human design chart look like?
• 15:32
  Erin Gray: Are you defined or undefined?
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  Erin Gray: So that you can really start to support yourself.
• 15:35
  Erin Gray: I'll also provide a couple of links in the show notes for you to go watch a couple of videos and understand human design.
• 15:42
  Erin Gray: And there's always, you know, YouTube.
• 15:44
  Erin Gray: Um, but just be really mindful that I like to use human design from an empowered place.
• 15:50
  Erin Gray: I think a lot of teachers look at it from a very disempowered place.
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  Erin Gray: So just use that filter when you're gonna go watch and things of that sort.
• 15:57
  Erin Gray: Okay.
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  Erin Gray: I will see you in the next episode.