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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1 _ OCTOBER BONUS SHOW _HOST NATALIE HARVEY (1) · DA CREW Podcast

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  Don't forget about the little bird you want. You don't matter what you
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  going less. Still super woman living in so you Hey everybody, how are
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  you? Guys? I miss you, I miss you, I miss you,
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  I miss you you all so much. Welcome, how are you?
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  It's great to see you. Welcome to this pop up edition of Let's Chat
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  with n I am your host, Natalie Harvey. I am y'all don't know
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  like how happy I am to be in front of the camera. Talking to
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  you guys like I. I've missed you guys, I miss being live.
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  I it's this is a good feeling right now, Like y'all have no idea
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  how I feel right now, Like I feel very grateful and happy to be
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  here with you guys. How y'all doing, how's life? How's everything going?
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  I know everybody has been pregnant for me. I thank you guys so
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  much from the bottom of my heart. Like y'all don't know how much I
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  appreciate the prayers that have been sent, everybody that has been reaching out to
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  me. I mean, I appreciate it so much. It's been a journey
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  so far. It's been a road. It's definitely a different road this time
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  around for me, uh cause you know everything every time you go through something,
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  whether it's what falls on it's the same umbrella or something different, you
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  know it, it's different. And this time around, you know, it's
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  been different. I've had some highs and I've had some loads. But as
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  y'all can see, I'm here, the smile is still here. I'm still
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  pressing on. I can't I can't wait, you know, to be able
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  to share with you guys that we're in the all clear and everything is over,
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  and but we're gonna get there. Everything takes time, one step at
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  a time, one day at a time. My grandmother owes you to sing
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  that song one day at a time, Sweet Jesus, And trust me,
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  it's definitely been one of those one day at a time, Sweet Jesus.
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  So tonight we're just gonna chat. We're just gonna do our little kiki.
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  We're gonna chop it up, cause it's been a while, it's been a
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  minute. Oh wow, life life, life has been lifing. That's a
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  phrase that myself and my sorrows we say every time we see each other when
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  we say life, life be lifing. Life has been lifing. You know.
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  It's strange because I say to people as a woman and her early to
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  mid forties that you know, I go through these different phases of life as
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  a mom. It's just like, I don't know about y'all. Right,
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  I'm just gonna get get right into it. I don't know about y'all,
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  but I know for me, as ladies, I want y'all to We're gonna
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  reason for a little bit right now, and then we're gonna get to the
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  fellas and then we're gonna get to everybody, but ladies. I don't know
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  about you guys, but I know for me, as in my early to
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  mid forties, when that private summer hits, it hits and it's send you
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  over into a whole at a whole universe. For me, I have been
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  and I guess too because of you know, with my situation with uh,
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  I have her to eat how you said, h her to breast cancer.
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  And you know it's now while I was already in pre menopause, now it
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  has pushed me into full blown menopause. And let me tell you, some
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  days, I feel like I'm in an inferno. It's just like, oh
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  my god. I don't know have you guys experienced that, like just regular
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  when you get to that stage where menopause comes in and it wants to just
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  throw your whole body and your whole spirit into a combustion. Does it do
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  that to everybody, to anybody else? Or is it just me? I'm
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  just saying I don't know, but it sends me in to tizzy sometimes.
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  But I find and that my my my whole aura or my whole definition about
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  who I am and where I'm going in life and what I want to be
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  after I've completed this this stage, in this journey that I'm in, I
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  find that it's not much that I can take from people. You know,
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  we all get to the point where we all say, you know, we
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  have no filter. And honestly, for me, I've never really had much
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  of a filter. But I've noticed that my filter now has become even like
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  I can't even it, it's just it's non existent. But I noticed that
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  being able to express my feelings, it helps. It helps you to understand
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  who you are. It understands helps you to understand what you are not going
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  to accept and what you're willing to accept. It helps you understand that sometimes
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  silence is golden because I have learned that sometimes you don't always have to say
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  everything that comes to your mind. Sometimes you need to sit in whatever it
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  is, meditate on it, let it reason with you, let it,
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  let ponder. That way, you're not saying something that is going to cause
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  harm, or you're not gonna say something that's gonna be ill will or ill
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  have ill intentions to a person. But sometimes you just have to think before
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  you talk. Sometimes we run our traps too much, and this is just
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  humans in general, and you know, we don't think before we talk.
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  And I noticed that with this whole menopause and pre menopause and chemo and all
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  of this stuff, I am learning that I have to calm and take a
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  different approach to how I do things, how I say things, how I
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  reason with things. And it's just it's so eye opening. I've realized that
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  I'm learning myself as a forty plus year old woman that's going through a stage
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  in life. I'm learning that this me, this is who my new reality
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  is. So I have to learn how to deal with her. And sometimes
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  I don't like it, so I don't know how to place her, Like
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  it's weird. Have you guys ever experienced that, Like it's it's weird.
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  You realize that you're changing and you're evolvevolving, and you don't know where to
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  go with that, Like you don't know how to process it at times,
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  but you just learned to accept it for what it is and just let it
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  lead you, just go with the flow, go with just take it day
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  by day. And I think that's that's something that I have been learning.
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  Another thing that I have been learning, And you guys are gonna be very
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  proud of me is patience. I have been learning to hone in on what
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  is patience because if you knew me from before, or if you knew just
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  know my personality, I don't got much patience. I really don't. I
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  just I've never had much patience for anything. But I am learning, you
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  know that saying patience is a virtue. I am really learning that patience is
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  a virtue to have, because, oh my goodness, sometimes I just have
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  to sit and be like, Lord, what you're trying to teach me?
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  What lesson are you trying to show me? Here? If you're showing me
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  extended grace and extended patience, I get it now, Like I understand.
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  So that's something else that I have been, you know, learning on my
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  journey. It's patience and being one and understanding that everything I cannot control give
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  menopause and they who I call her a quiet storm because when metapause creeps up,
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  she quits, she creates up quietly. But then when she hits,
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  she hits like a storm, like a hurricane. Oh my god, but
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  black that I love that. Yeah, patience is something that I have had
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  to really embrace this in this process since I've last spoken to you guys.
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  Oh lord, you know it's it's just been so much. It's been so
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  much. I have been trying to figure out what is gonna be next,
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  and just saying, you know what, whatever the next step is, I'm
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  ready for it. You Know, we always say when we go through a
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  storm, there's always greater on the next side, or it's greater after the
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  storm, And I honestly, I do believe that that there is greater after
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  this this time that I'm in, That it's gonna be so much that I
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  am not gonna even know sometimes what to do with it. But I'm grateful
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  for it, Like now that I'm here, I'm grateful for what's to come.
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  And I'm really I'm really learning patient, gratefulness, grace. Shut your
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  trap. Sometimes, don't say everything that you that you want to say,
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  especially when people get on your nerves. And I tell people, I only
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  got five nerves, and out of those five nerves, one works most if
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  not fifty percent of the time. So I am learning that. I it's
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  been a process. It's definitely that we been a process. M It's just
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  so much, it's so much that has transpired. It's it's also sometimes I
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  often wonder. You know, relationship wise, we we yearn for relationships,
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  whether it's romantic relationships, whether it's relationships with our family, whether it's relationships
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  with our children, our co workers, friends. We yearn for solid people
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  to be in our corner. And sometimes we give more than what we get
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  back in return. And I'm learning that you have to sometimes just accept people
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  for who they are. You can't change people. People can't change you.
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  They have to be sorry. They have to be willing to change, and
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  you have to be willing to change. You have to be willing to hear
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  constructive criticism, and you have to be able to give constructive criticism. You
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  know, we don't always want to hear those things. We always want to
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  be right in everything that we do. But that's not that's not how it
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  works, that's not what it meant to have healthy relationships. To have healthy
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  relationships, you have to be able to understand if someone says I'm not I
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  don't agree with what you say, and they're able to tell you, you
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  should be able to take that feedback that they're giving you, and vice versa.
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  I find that now we live in a in a society where we too
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  many people we want yes people. Yes people don't work. I don't want
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  nobody that's gonna be a yes person to me, and I don't want to
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  be a yes person to anybody. I want to be able to say what
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  I feel, have my feelings respected, respect what you feel, and have
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  your feelings respected. And I genuinely feel if people did this, we would
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  not have so much of the foolery that goes on with relationships. Again,
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  whether it's romantic, whether it's family, whatever relationship it is, you know,
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  learn to respect people for who they are. That's number one. Learn
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  that not everybody is going to agree with you. Yes. Communication is always
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  key. Learn that sometimes and us women we do this. We like to
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  talk and nag and and find things to pick at. That's not necessary.
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  It's not necessari serry, it's not needed. Men don't want to hear us
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  going in there air like a little chawawa that it. I'm sorry. They
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  don't want to hear us in their air going off like that. And I
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  don't want to hit nobody in my air going off like that. I would
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  look at you crazy, like us, sir, like sir, no,
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  M I don't want to hear that. So like we have to respect people.
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  We have to respect people where they are, but we also have to
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  let them know that we see the greatness in them as well. And when
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  we see the greatness in them, encourage them in everything that they do and
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  be able and be with somebody or have somebody in your corner that encourages what
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  you do, that respects what you do. You know, people say,
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  and I've been guilty of saying this sometimes like I'm an outpa woman. No,
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  we don't need to be out for this. We don't need to be
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  out for that. We don't know. We need to be who we are.
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  We need to love and learn how to love. When we do that,
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  we're gonna be able to see that the things that we want will be
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  reciprocated. And it's not gonna be a fight. It's gonna be a situation
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  where and nothing is perfect, but it would be a situation where that mutual
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  respect comes first. And you always have to know that. Be friends first
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  before you go into any situation. Friendship. Once you build a friendship,
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  that's what's gonna make things last. You'll never know a person. You'll never
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  know a person. I've always heard my parents and my grandparents say this.
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  You'll never know a person, but you should build that friendship with that person
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  that you feel connected to and love on them and let them live on you.
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  So we're gonna take a quick little break right now, and then we're
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  gonna come back, and then we're just gonna wrap it up and then we're
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  gonna be back. So we'll be right back after these messages. All right,
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  see us soon. Turn off the lights. Gone, I can do
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  so none of mone. Immagine, let's take a shower shower together. I
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  wash your bothering wash got so hot oils, un says turn off. Come
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  girl, I wanna give you a special trick. You're so sweet. Turn
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  on. All right, so we are back, and hey girl, I
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  had that TEDDP. I was like, whoa, what's y'all? A little
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  a little turn off hot oil in it? Listen, girl, girl,
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  Everybody needs some kind of support in anything that we do. You know,
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  gonna be. It's gonna be something. It's gonna gonna be out sometime next
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  year, probably around this time towards the end of the next year, twenty
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  twenty four. But you know, I've realized that we can't sit on things
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  when there's something that's that's within us and something that we know it's greater than
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  us. You know, we've been blessed. God blessed us with gifts and
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  talents that he didn't just give it to us to sit on them. He
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  gave it to us to use them for good and to edify his glory,
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  but also to reach others. So if you have a gift and you're not
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  quite sure on how to go about it, you don't know what to do,
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  you know, sometimes you don't know where to start. You may know
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  somebody that may have a little bit of expertise or something. Talk to somebody.
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  It nothing beats a failure, but a try trying is always the best
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  way. Try try your hand at any and everything that you can do,
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  because trust me, in the long run, it is going to work out.
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  It may take a minute and may not. And I want to encourage
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  you guys because even in while I'm going through my situation, I'm still not
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  giving up on my dreams. I'm still not giving up on my aspirations.
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  Like something that I have been fighting and I've had to start stop, start
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  stop. And now while I'm here sitting in what I'm dealing with, I
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  went back to school. I went back to school to finish my degree because
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  that's something that I have always said, no matter what, I want my
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  degree. And I'm proud that I decided I'm not gonna sit on it anymore.
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  So I'm telling you to say. I'm saying this to say to anyone
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  that's out there, no matter what you are going through, and there's something
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  that you in your heart, your heart of hearts, know that you want
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  to accomplish, do not let your circumstances and your situation stop you. If
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  anything, you let that push you to go further. You let that be
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  the catalyst to propel you into your greatness. Don't let nobody say, well,
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  oh, you got this going on, maybe you should wait. See
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  that right there. People need to stop doing that. People need to stop
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  discouraging others from going to their highest potential. When we stop doing that,
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  and I've been guilty of that at times, but when we stop stop you
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  know, telling people, well you shouldn't no, no, say to them,
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  listen, yes, I understand this may be hard, and I understand
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  that you it's gonna take some getting used to, or it's gonna it's gonna
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  be a journey. Encourage others the same way that you want somebody to encourage
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  you. You go, and you encourage others the same way because you don't
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  know how that person is gonna be a blessing to you or to somebody else
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  in the long run. So as I wrap up, I just want to
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  say thank you. I want to say I miss you guys. You have
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  no idea how much I needed this tonight, because I really, I really
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  needed this. And I'm keep gonna keep pushing. I want you guys to
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  keep pushing, and we're gonna come out. We're gonna once this is all
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  over, we're gonna have a big celebration right here on this chat. When
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  that, because you guys have been with me from on this journey and I
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  just thank you guys for being a part of my support village. It's definitely
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  it definitely like you guys. Don't know when I say I feel your prayers,
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  I definitely feel your prayers. And I just want to thank you and
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  we got this. I love you, guys. And with that, I'm
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  gonna say and night, all right. I see you guys soon, looking
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  bye bye. You'll learn my story and it's true. Don't forget about the
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  little girl you want to don't matter