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Hypnosis to Manifest an Ideal Relationship With a Desirable Partner · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing.
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  Genuine issues. Brought to you by The
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  Hypnotherapist, Demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty, Adam Cox. These recordings took place live
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  from Adam Smith in London's world famous Harley Street.
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  So get yourself comfortable and enjoy today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist. Hi, it's Adam here and if you've
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  ever wondered if hypnosis can help you manifest a relationship
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  or attract a particular type of partner, then this is the
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  hypnosis session for you. What you're going to hear in
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  this episode of the hypnotist is a client that I was working with
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  that had been in a. Series of.
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  Short term relationships. And because of that, they.
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  Had this belief that the relationships were always going
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  to be temporary, they would never work out, and that if
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  there was someone they really wanted, they had to make most of
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  the effort and for someone that they didn't want, then they'd be
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  on the receiving end of attention that they didn't want.
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  And what this hypnosis session does?
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  Is the opposite. Of regression, it actually takes
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  them forward in time to a time when they're already in the
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  ideal relationship, and then they get to figure out what
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  changes to their. Beliefs to their.
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  Behaviour to their standards when needed to make.
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  That A. Highly probable outcome, so it
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  uses future pacing and working backwards rather than
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  affirmations and suggestions to move forward and the reason for.
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  That it comes. From a chapter from a very good
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  book. Called the Seven.
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  Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Arcovey where
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  one of the principles is to start with the end in mind and I
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  do that with every client. I asked them what would an
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  ideal. Outcome be.
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  If our time together doing hypnotherapy would be useful.
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  So I want to start with the end in mind and that's also useful
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  for goal setting or anything that you want to manifest is to
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  think about what is the thing and then what would it have.
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  Taken to get. That particular outcome?
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  And sometimes. A useful way of thinking about
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  relationships is not to focus so much on what you want, but to
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  focus on you. So who do you need to be to
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  attract the person that you desire?
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  Is a much. Better question than why weren't
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  they like me or why won't they stay with me?
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  Because one is disempowering because the control is outside
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  of your focus, and the other is empowering.
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  Because there's things that you can do to change parts of your
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  behavior, your standards, and the way in which you live.
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  So the best way to get the most out of this particular session
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  is to find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  feeling of calm and relaxation, and as you exhale, feel a
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  wonderful sense of release, as if tension, stress or worries or
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  just leaving your body in your outward breath.
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  As you breathe in and breathe out, notice that with your eyes
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  closed, you're able to focus so much more on the sound of my
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  voice. The sound of my voice is like a
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  guide, guiding you to that place where things that would be
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  useful to change, change, and all those wonderful things that
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  are useful to stay the same, stays the same.
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  And perhaps you can notice that when you slow down your breath,
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  the breath can get longer. And when the breath gets longer,
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  you're able to inhale more of that relaxation and exhale more
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  of that tension, almost like each and every breath is taking
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  you deeper and deeper, relaxed. And as your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens. And I want you to imagine
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  keeping your body exactly where it is, but allowing your
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  imagination to imagine walking down a long winding path
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  somewhere in Mexico. And just imagine it's maybe 20
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  minutes or so before the sun sets.
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  And maybe this long winding path is surrounded by certain plants,
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  certain smells that give you an idea of where in the world you
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  are as you continue to breathe in down.
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  Imagine how good it would feel to be walking towards a beach
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  with no one else there. As you walk down the path, I'm
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  going to countdown from 5:00 to 1:00 with each descending
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  number. Just walking down the path feels
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  like you're walking towards a beach that represents a way to
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  access more of your subconscious mind.
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  Five, walking down that winding path, 4 as you continue to walk,
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  maybe see the colors of the sky already starting to change, and
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  then three, getting closer to the beach.
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  Now just imagine your whole body feeling more and more relaxed,
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  like you've released tension, you've released stress and
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  worries, so your breathing gets more effortless, flows easier,
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  and then as three times to two getting closer to the beach.
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  Now just imagine that any worries are far behind and
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  you're accessing that mindful part that can pay attention to
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  my voice. The beach.
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  The sunset. As two turns to one, just
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  imagine the winding path opens up towards the beach.
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  I want you to imagine wearing whatever clothing is appropriate
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  for this beach. The beach at sunset, maybe you
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  can imagine seeing the colours of the sky as the sun gets lower
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  and lower towards the horizon. Maybe you could imagine hearing
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  the gentle waves breaking on the shore.
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  And maybe, maybe there's certain rock formations or boulders then
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  represent stability and strength.
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  And I want you to get a sense of how detached and yet connected
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  you feel in this place. And I want you to imagine, for
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  some reason, the most comfortable chair that exists on
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  the planet is there on that beach, facing where the sun is
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  setting. So imagine placing yourself on
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  that chair, staring into the sunset, and just get a sense
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  that as the sunsets, you're drifting into a place where your
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  imagination awakens. Even more that as the sunsets,
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  you drift off into a dreamlike sleep.
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  And sometimes when people dream, they access a future.
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  They start to think about the life that they really want to
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  allow your whole body to sink into this comfy chair.
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  And as the sun sets, I want you to imagine that you're drifting
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  off into a dreamlike sleep, into a desirable future, perhaps just
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  two or three years into the future.
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  I'm gonna countdown from 5 to 1 and you will imagine the sun
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  setting and you falling asleep on that chair, drifting into
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  that dreamlike sleep, asleep where you see the future 5:00.
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  The sun getting lower and lower towards the horizon 4.
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  Seeing the orange, the yellows, the pink hues in the sky, 3
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  perhaps half the sun now is already down past the line of
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  the horizon. Maybe there's some low clouds
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  still there in the sky. And then 2 lower and lower and
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  one. Just imagine it's now officially
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  the time where the sun has set. And just imagine drifting off
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  into that dreamlike sleep where you get to visit a future.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing yourself two or three years from
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  now, looking happy looking, safe looking, content.
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  You are now an invisible observer to your future self.
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  And I want you to see see the clues that you are happy in this
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  relationship. I want you to see that version
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  of you that has freedom. You get to live the life and do
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  the things that you'd like to do, no rules, no restrictions.
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  And I want you to see the dynamics, the dynamics in this
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  relationship. But the specific face of your
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  partner in this future relationship is blurry.
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  You just know that in this future relationship there is
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  respect and loyalty from them to you and you to them, that even
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  though they could explore other options, they choose not to.
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  And also that is the same for you.
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  You're making the evaluation of you in this future version.
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  Doesn't need any other options, doesn't need a Plan B or a plan
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  C. You are happy with exactly
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  things as they are because in this future your core need is
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  being met. Then you can see from your
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  facial expressions and from your body language that future
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  version of you feel safe because of consistency.
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  And if you can see that future version of you content happy,
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  safe, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to see that there's other clues as well.
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  Authenticity, connection. Observe yourself working up
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  together, going on vacations together, working out together,
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  meals together. I want you to get a sense then
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  you are a source of support to them and they are a source of
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  support to you. I want you to get a sense that
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  this feels harmonious and balanced.
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  I want you to get a sense Then there are other clues too.
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  They are considerate and thinking of you often and
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  equally you are of them. But I also want to see the
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  lifestyle that you have in this future.
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  Clues that it's not just a relationship, but the lifestyle
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  that makes this future so desirable.
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  And maybe the clues are the type of house you're living in, how
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  you spend your time, being able to just pick up that black Amex
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  and go shopping to buy the things that do two things at
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  exactly the same time. An expression of freedom, but a
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  sense of reassurance that you are important enough to be worth
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  investing in. If you can get a sense that this
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  feels like a safe, desirable, connected future, let me know by
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  nodding your head. And I want you to see evidence
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  that this is not temporary. Somewhere in this future, you
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  will see photos, perhaps on a wall, that show perhaps key
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  moments that tell you that this relationship is stable,
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  consistent, and not fleeting or temporary.
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  Because the photos are evidence that you've gone through ups and
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  downs and are still together. That the challenges in the
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  relationship are the very thing that make the relationship
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  stronger. Every successful challenge that
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  is navigated increases the strength of that relationship.
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  And I want you to see how that person celebrates you and you
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  admire them, see the safety, the freedom.
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  But more importantly, I want you to see the qualities in the
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  person that you're with. They are intelligent, capable,
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  successful, but I want you to see that they are consistent and
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  kind and respectful. And I want you to see that the
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  qualities that they exude, you see even more of those qualities
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  in you. Sometimes it's helpful to
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  believe that like attracts like the loyalty they have for you,
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  you have for them. The desire they have for you,
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  you have for them, giving you absolute reassurance that there
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  is no settling here. There is no compromise.
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  This is something that all parts of you want.
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  They are desirable for you and you are desirable for them.
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  No game playing, no power dynamics.
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  This is something that ticks the boxes and makes you feel good,
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  and when your subconscious mind is confident that if this was
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  your future, you wouldn't risk sabotaging it.
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  You wouldn't need to have a backup plan.
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  You would be all in on this relationship.
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  Just let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And then step into that version
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  of you. And I want you to imagine that
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  this future version of you has kept a journal.
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  And in that journal, you can imagine flicking through the
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  pages, able to see certain beliefs that changed.
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  Maybe there was a time that you didn't believe that a
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  relationship was possible like this, and maybe what changed is
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  that you had faith that it would.
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  Maybe somewhere in that journal there was a change of strategy
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  from having options open to being willing to take a risk,
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  but only when it makes sense to do so.
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  That by reducing options you are having a vote of confidence in
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  this future possible relationship.
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  Or maybe conversations that you avoided, you started to initiate
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  to figure it out if it was that relationship that you wanted
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  earlier. Maybe at some point you wrote in
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  the journal then some things that made you felt safe, maybe
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  getting in the way of something you truly wanted.
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  So you changed either a boundary, a standard, or a
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  strategy, knowing that in doing so, it led to the very thing
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  that you desired more than the ability to protect yourself in
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  the short term. And I want you to get a sense
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  then the clues are there in the past.
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  And one of them is feeling worthy.
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  Worthy of having everything that you desire.
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  Having an irrefutable belief that for the right person, they
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  would never want to replace you because you are everything they
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  are looking for. And anyone that would want to
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  replace you would never be the relationship that you would
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  desire anyway. As you flick through the pages
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  of this journal, I want you to feel feel a sense of a shift
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  taking place. New ways of thinking are opening
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  up, beliefs that have been sabotaging at an unconscious
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  level are fading away, and new beliefs are beginning to awaken.
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  And I want you to think of a standard or a boundary or
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  perhaps even a rule that you were following to keep you safe.
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  Might be the very thing preventing this wonderful,
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  desirable future. You didn't know it at the time,
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  but in the future it will be obvious.
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  So from this future perspective, I want your unconscious to tell
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  you either now or in a future moment of intuition or epiphany,
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  what that key change is that you can make to break an unconscious
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  pattern of self sabotage that is rewarding in the short term, but
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  perhaps frustrating in the long term.
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  And if your unconscious already knows what that is, let me know
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  by nodding your head. And if it doesn't know right
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  now, or we'll give it the direct suggestion to go to work, to
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  piece everything together and let you know in a moment of
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  inspiration. When the penny.
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  Drops. It's obvious, and maybe it's
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  just one tiny change. Maybe it's a shift in
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  perspective. Maybe.
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  Maybe it's inversing a certain way of thinking, assuming that
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  rather than things being temporary, the temporary things
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  are just a test, a way of filtering out who doesn't have
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  the qualities or level of desire needed to make this ideal
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  relationship work. But if your unconscious is open
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  to a shift in perspective, belief, a new strategy, or a
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  higher standard to increase the probability to make it a
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  certainty that you move in exactly the direction that you
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  desire, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And now that seed is planted
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  deep in your subconscious mind, creating a ripple through time
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  from the past into the present into the future, that more and
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  more you will feel is inevitable.
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  And that level of confidence that what you want is
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  inevitable. We'll make the anxiety linked to
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  anything temporary completely disappear.
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  I want you to think that there was a time that there were three
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  points of a triangle that made it feel that what you truly
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  wanted was impossible. But I want you to imagine that
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  those three points on that triangle, that two-dimensional
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  shape are now growing upwards to form a pyramid.
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  And the pyramid is everything that you want, something
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  consistent, something good and something valuable.
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  And if you're unconscious now, believes that that future is not
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  just possible but inevitable, and will help you to move in
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  that direction, let me know by nodding your head.
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  I want you to get a sense that any
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  blocks come from a place of protection.
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  I want you to get a sands. Then if you were on that beach
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  but there was a chain or a rope connecting you to that huge
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  boulder, and just imagine that perfect relationship was at the
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  other end of the beach, you would have a choice to make.
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  Stay attached to the boulder. That might represent certainty
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  and safety. We'll take a risk and Cut the
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  Rope and move forwards to that relationship that meets all of
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  your needs. And the most difficult part
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  would be the journey, the moment where you Cut the Rope and move
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  forward without the certainty of knowing that that future will
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  happen. So let's just reassure that
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  part, the part that wants to keep you safe in life.
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  You'll be the way nor you learn. And what if the real thing that
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  keeps you safe is wisdom and discernment from previous
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  experiences? That way, either things will
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  work out fine, or you will have even more specific feedback as
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  to what to refine and change to increase the probability that
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  the next time is more likely to give you what you really desire.
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  And you don't have to cut that rope now.
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  Just be willing to if you feel that the risk is worth the
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  potential reward. And if your unconscious agrees,
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  let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. So imagine floating from the
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  future all the way back onto that beach and just feel that
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  something has changed, even if that's a sense of clarity,
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  empowerment, or faith. I want you to feel that you are
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  raising your standards, willing to settle or compromise less,
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  but willing to give more, but only for the right person.
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  And as you hold that thought, just imagine walking back up
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  that winding path and a bright moonlight.
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  And when you get to the top of the path, just imagine floating
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  all the way back into your body as you take a deep breath in
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  through your nose, hand out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the. Here and the.
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  Now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00.
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  To awaken you. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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  456. More alert 7-8 Open your eyes,
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  Open your eyes 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake.