How to Help Without Hurting - Spiritually Fit Today

Spiritually Fit Today · Jun 30, 2026 · 12m

Welcome to Spiritually Fit Today with Arnie Cole and guest Paul Abbott. In this episode they unpack the common trap of paternalism in Christian service — when well-meaning help ends up stripping dignity and creating dependence — and point to Proverbs 19:17 as the corrective: kind, respectful help that seeks to make disciple-makers, not dependent recipients. Paul shares practical wisdom about listening, empowering local ownership, and shifting from performative giving to relational, dignity-preserving service. 4 R Actions to practice: Read — Read Proverbs 19:17 and other passages on mercy and…