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- Lucas: I was talking to a product manager last week, and she told me she hits November every year feeling completely fried. And she realized she never takes a moment in July or August to ask herself: What am I doing that I don't actually need to be doing? Luna: That's so common. We coast from January to December and then wonder why we're exhausted. But you can't course-correct in December—it's too late. Lucas: Exactly. So a few months ago I started experimenting with what I call a monthly career inventory day. It's basically a two-hour block, same day each month—say, the last Sunday—where you review your projects, commitments, and energy levels. Not a deep work session, just a calm review. Luna: Interesting. I've heard of weekly reviews, but monthly feels less intense. What does it actually look like in practice? Lucas: Good question. I borrowed it from a friend named Laura—she's a marketing manager at a mid-size tech company. She started doing this in February. She'd jot down every project, meeting, and recurring task she had. Then she'd ask three questions: What energized me this month? What drained me? And what can I say no to next month? Luna: The 'say no' question is the hard one. I bet most of us have a list of things we'd love to drop but feel obligated to keep. Lucas: Right. Laura discovered she was on two cross-functional committees that each met twice a month. They took up about eight hours total, and she realized she hadn't gotten any value from them in months. She couldn't point to a single decision she'd influenced. So she emailed both leads, thanked them, and bowed out. She reclaimed eight hours per month—that's a full workday. Luna: Eight hours is huge. And she did this in July, so she avoided carrying that dead weight into the fall. I bet most people have at least one committee or recurring meeting they could drop. Lucas: That's the beauty of the monthly cadence. If you wait until a quarterly review, you might have wasted three more months. If you do it weekly, you risk becoming obsessive and micromanaging your own life. Monthly hits the sweet spot. Luna: Yeah, I can see that. I actually tried a version of this last month. I sat down with a notebook and wrote out all my regular commitments. I found this one standing meeting that I dreaded every week. It was a status update that could have been an email. I proposed a change, and now it's biweekly. That alone saved me two hours a month. Lucas: Good for you. And that's exactly the kind of small win that compounds. If you do a monthly inventory and each time you reclaim even one or two hours, over six months you've freed up a full day. Luna: Right. And it's not just about time. It's about energy. Laura also told me that the committees were draining her because she felt like she was pretending to care. That emotional cost is real. Lucas: That's a great point. The inventory questions are designed to surface exactly that. The 'what drained me' question is about emotional and mental energy, not just calendar space. Sometimes the thing that drains you most is a three-minute Slack thread that you dread opening. Luna: Okay, so how do you actually structure the two hours? Is it just freeform journaling? Lucas: I'd recommend a simple template. First twenty minutes: list everything you're currently committed to—projects, meetings, recurring tasks, side hustles, even volunteer work. Next thirty minutes: for each item, write one word for energy—'charged' or 'drained.' Next forty minutes: pick the top two drained items and brainstorm one action step to reduce or eliminate them. Last thirty minutes: set your intention for the next month—what are you actively going to say no to, and how will you communicate it? Luna: That's really actionable. I like that it ends with a communication plan because the hardest part is actually saying no. You can't just ghost a committee. Lucas: Exactly. A lot of people skip the inventory because they're afraid of confrontation. But you can frame it positively: 'I want to focus my energy where I can have the most impact.' Nobody argues with that. Luna: And you know, this also works for personal commitments. I tried it with my family obligations. I was on the PTA and a neighborhood watch committee, and I realized both were draining me. I dropped the neighborhood watch role by saying I wanted to spend more time with my kids. It worked. Lucas: Well, I'm glad that approach works for you. Look, if we've helped you think through a career move or a boundary like this, a couple of dollars a month is genuinely what keeps these shows going—buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo, if you've gotten something out of them. Luna: Yeah, it's a small way to keep it ad-free and independent. And now back to the monthly inventory—do you think there's a risk of over-optimizing? Lucas: Sure. If you constantly drop things, you might become unreliable or miss opportunities. So I pair the inventory with a simple rule: never drop something without first checking if it's important to someone whose trust you need. For example, if your boss asked you to be on that committee, you better talk to them before quitting. Luna: That makes sense. It's not about being ruthless; it's about being intentional. And the monthly cadence ensures you're not making impulsive decisions. Lucas: Right. And you can adapt the frequency. If your life is really volatile, do it biweekly. If you're in a stable season, quarterly might work. But monthly is the default for most people. Luna: I also think people should set a hard stop on the two hours. You don't want to spiral into over-analysis. Set a timer, and when it rings, you're done. Lucas: Absolutely. It's an inventory, not a life audit. The goal is to prevent burnout, not to achieve perfection. And if you do it consistently—say, starting this Sunday—by December you'll have a much clearer picture of what you actually want to be doing. Luna: That's the key: starting now, not waiting for January. So if listeners are feeling that midyear drag, this is a concrete first step. Just two hours, a notebook, and three questions. Lucas: Exactly. And if you reclaim even one or two things, that's a win. Over the course of a year, that could be a dozen hours or more. That's not just productivity—that's your life back. Luna: Alright, I'm going to schedule my inventory for next Sunday. I think I already know what I'll drop. Lucas: Good. Let us know how it goes. And if you have your own monthly inventory story, we'd love to hear it.