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Speaker 1: Hey, guys, I'm in the new place. It's still evolving. Okay, really,
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Speaker 1: all I did is so far as just paint my
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Speaker 1: walls dark green, and now it feels moody in here
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Speaker 1: and I'm loving it. But I still have a lot
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Speaker 1: more stuff to get in my background. But you're moving,
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Speaker 1: you know. I've been moving, it feels like for the
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Speaker 1: past two weeks straight, and I've been stressed. But it's
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Speaker 1: a good stress. But it's making me break out like
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Speaker 1: a thirteen year old boy. What is that? I tried
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Speaker 1: to cover up most of my zits, but this one
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Speaker 1: just she said no, she said, I'm staying after the
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Speaker 1: party's done. Okay, I'm sleeping over for two weeks. I
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Speaker 1: just can't get rid of her. I'm gonna call her Cheryl. Cheryl,
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Speaker 1: you can fuck off, okay, anyway that brings me to you,
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Speaker 1: because unlike me, you look fantastic. Your skin is glowing.
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Speaker 1: It's literally glowing. It looks like an ice sculpture in
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Speaker 1: the sun, you know what I mean, just like gleaming today.
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Speaker 1: You know, still still just trying to get back into
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Speaker 1: a swing of things. So I figured let's just just
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Speaker 1: do another red video because you guys seem to really
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Speaker 1: like the last few that I've done on my main channel,
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Speaker 1: and you guys seem to really like some of you
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Speaker 1: guys seem to really like my second channel, where I
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Speaker 1: pretty much just read read it now because we had
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Speaker 1: a lot of fun over there. Okay, so go over
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Speaker 1: there if you want to, if you want to listen
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Speaker 1: to some tea. But today we're doing the same thing.
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Speaker 1: We're just reading some tea and we have a special
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Speaker 1: guest for the first time. Special guest, come on down.
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Speaker 1: It's baby. It's baby. She's a baby. I do brush
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Speaker 1: her by the way. I have to brush her like
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Speaker 1: twice a day because she loves looking up on herself
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Speaker 1: and getting all ratty and madden. She's got to go
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Speaker 1: to the groomers though, tomorrow, don't you, Yes, you do.
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Speaker 1: She doesn't like to be on camerash's camera shline, even
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Speaker 1: though she's stunning. Look at the space card. I love
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Speaker 1: her so much. She's such a sweet baby. Anyway, let's
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Speaker 1: read some Reddit, all right, guys. First up, we have
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Speaker 1: something pretty messy. Seems a pretty messy, but I thought
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Speaker 1: it'd be a good start. Okay, it's I told the
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Speaker 1: mistress that she got the leftovers, and she's not happy
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Speaker 1: about that. It sounds so disgustingly messy. I'm excited. Been
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Speaker 1: married to my husband for fifteen years. I have a
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Speaker 1: great life and I love everything about it. Wasn't that
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Speaker 1: nice for you? Subtle brag. He has a great career
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Speaker 1: and I feel very spoiled. I only have to work
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Speaker 1: with what I love, and it is that I designed jewelry,
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Speaker 1: and the prophet would never give me the life I
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Speaker 1: am living. Oh, that's really sweet. I love to hear
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Speaker 1: that for you, that you could to just be passionate
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Speaker 1: and just do what you want and not have to
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Speaker 1: pay bills. That's awesome. I have not pay bills in years,
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Speaker 1: and I spend my days in my studio, working out
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Speaker 1: or having fun with my friends. Our families are very
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Speaker 1: close and we have a big social circle that I
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Speaker 1: love very much. Wow, she hit the lottery in life.
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Speaker 1: Good for her. I guess he is great. He cooks
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Speaker 1: and cleans with me, and I never feel like I
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Speaker 1: do more than him. He makes my favorite food every Friday,
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Speaker 1: and he would drive at three am at night if
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Speaker 1: I was feeling down and wanted a burger or candy.
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Speaker 1: I want to believe that I do the same with him.
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Speaker 1: Other than that I cannot drive. Oh right, I forgot
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Speaker 1: about what the post was about. Cheating on me was
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Speaker 1: a mystery to me. I was in shock for a
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Speaker 1: long wild, but I couldn't tell anyone because I didn't
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Speaker 1: want my life to crumble. Then I got used to it.
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Speaker 1: Oh oh wow, this is getting extraordinarily sad. I let
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Speaker 1: go of the love and just kept the friendship and companionship.
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Speaker 1: I want my house, my travels, and my family and friends.
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Speaker 1: Everything I have thanks to him. I do wonder how
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Speaker 1: many relationships there are around there like this. It was
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Speaker 1: really like hoity toity folks where it looks like their
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Speaker 1: life is so perfect, but it's actually behind the scenes
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Speaker 1: it's just really ugly, which is sad, but it's like,
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Speaker 1: what else are you supposed to do? You know? I
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Speaker 1: feel like, not even that, but just couples in general,
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Speaker 1: where it's like either there's women that had kids and
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Speaker 1: left their job to be a stay at home mom,
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Speaker 1: and then the guy's making all the money and then
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Speaker 1: they find that out, but they feel like they're trapped.
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Speaker 1: Oh it's oh, this just makes this hurts my heart. Anyway,
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Speaker 1: I got her, Hey, Garly last month and I didn't
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Speaker 1: even open it. Oh, it was on Instagram, but I
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Speaker 1: didn't accept her invitation to speak, so she reached out
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Speaker 1: on TikTok instead, and later I found request on Facebook
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Speaker 1: Messenger too. Then I don't know how, but she got
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Speaker 1: my number and called me. I answered because I thought
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Speaker 1: it was a buyer, and she cornered me. I froze,
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Speaker 1: and she calmly told me to see what she left
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Speaker 1: on Instagram and TikTok. I hang up in a panic,
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Speaker 1: so I opened her high gurly text. I couldn't help
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Speaker 1: but be confused. She pretended that she didn't know I
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Speaker 1: existed when I seen all her texts about me, haven't
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Speaker 1: seen me when I know she has. I didn't read
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Speaker 1: all of it, but I wrote her that I knew
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Speaker 1: about the affair and that she could stop lying because
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Speaker 1: I knew for a fact that she knew he was
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Speaker 1: married and to whom dang. She became very hostile, very fast,
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Speaker 1: and told me if I was better, maybe he blah
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Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah, you know the rest. I told
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Speaker 1: her that she could have my leftovers, a crazy the
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Speaker 1: parts of him that I don't want, and according to her, neglected.
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Speaker 1: I told her she could have his body and even
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Speaker 1: his heart the other more important things. You know what, Sleigh,
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I really don't know what to say
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Speaker 1: to this. You know, I feel horrible for her. She's
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Speaker 1: being cheated on and everything, and I don't know, Like
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Speaker 1: there's a part of me that understands like she doesn't
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Speaker 1: want her whole life to fall apart, but also just
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Speaker 1: sounds like she doesn't like she loves him, but also
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Speaker 1: like not enough to be like it sounds like she
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Speaker 1: loves the life more than she loves him, so she's like,
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Speaker 1: I don't give him back, you know, I mean on
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Speaker 1: the comments anyway, I'll keep reading. I have half of
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Speaker 1: everything else at least, so the leftovers are truly hers. Congrats.
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Speaker 1: She went berserk with insults and I blocked her. I
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Speaker 1: bet she wants you to leave so she can step in,
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Speaker 1: which I mean you should because he's being a complete
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Speaker 1: ass and you deserve better. And you know, I mean,
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Speaker 1: there's like prenepts of all the stuff. But even with that,
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Speaker 1: if he cheated, you would get half, which is what
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Speaker 1: you're saying. So well, a crazy situation. I have been
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Speaker 1: crying since what does people like her want when they
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Speaker 1: contact the partner of their affair. I'm not looking for
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Speaker 1: leave him advice. I love my life and his love
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Speaker 1: and my scene encounters don't matter to me anymore. Excuse
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Speaker 1: my very bad grammar. I will try to edit and
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Speaker 1: correct when I find errors, but I don't really write
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Speaker 1: a lot in English in my life. That's fair, that's fine,
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Speaker 1: you did a good job. I just think it sucks
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Speaker 1: to be with somebody that disrespects you that much. Again,
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Speaker 1: Like it just makes me wonder because there's so many
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Speaker 1: like movies and TV shows where there's like the rich
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Speaker 1: wife and husband and she like knows that, like he's
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Speaker 1: doing all that and like it doesn't matter. She's like, yeah, well,
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Speaker 1: you know, I get to go for tea on Sundays
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Speaker 1: with my girlies and yoga and then you know, get
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Speaker 1: a facial on a Wednesday afternoon. So weren't that that guy,
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Speaker 1: which is like, I don't know, then both are benefiting
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Speaker 1: from it if both don't care. But then obviously if
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Speaker 1: you told him, then maybe he would just leave you
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Speaker 1: or I literally don't know what to say in this situation.
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Speaker 1: I wish I had an actual other person right now
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Speaker 1: to be like actually no, like this and this and
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Speaker 1: this and this. I don't know. She sounds like she's sad, obviously,
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Speaker 1: and I think personally she should leave. But at the
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Speaker 1: same time, she sounds like she doesn't care about his
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Speaker 1: heart or his member anymore. So. Yeah, but I feel
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Speaker 1: like it's just a matter of time or it's not.
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Speaker 1: He might just be one of those guys that just
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Speaker 1: gets his kick somewhere else and comes home to the wine.
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Speaker 1: It's a messed up, missed up world we live in.
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Speaker 1: Maybe they can make an arrangement of sorts, Like the
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Speaker 1: affair person mistress. I think she's just pissed that you
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Speaker 1: didn't have a bigger reaction and that you're not leaving,
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Speaker 1: so she is unable to get in right away or something.
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Speaker 1: I feel like it's along the lines of that maybe,
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Speaker 1: But let's read the comment. I need some other opinions
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Speaker 1: right now. Okay, I'm just a stupid YouTuber. I don't
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Speaker 1: know anything. First one says, is it an affair with
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Speaker 1: this one woman? Or are there more than one? Have
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Speaker 1: you noticed any change in his behavior towards you. It's
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Speaker 1: a good question because we love contexts. Okay, Oh he
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Speaker 1: said one woman. Oh it was his behavior. That was
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Speaker 1: the first thing I noticed that something was terribly off.
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Speaker 1: He became silent and had that thousand yard stare you notice,
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Speaker 1: especially when you are very close and open with each
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Speaker 1: each other. But it was his smile and not meeting
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Speaker 1: my eyes before looking away. Women just know we know
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Speaker 1: immediately to us, because we know. I started having nightmares
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Speaker 1: by then. And one day he said he was staying
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Speaker 1: the night out. He never did that or retire relationships,
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Speaker 1: since he always longed to come home that it was
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Speaker 1: a running joke that he went crazy if he stayed
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Speaker 1: away for a couple more hours at work. He came
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Speaker 1: home in the middle of the night and he was
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Speaker 1: a total mess and very emotional and told me he
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Speaker 1: never wanted to stay late again. It took me a
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Speaker 1: couple more times over the following months to sneak out
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Speaker 1: to the laundry room after he spent a night away
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Speaker 1: and came in early in the morning when I was sleeping.
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Speaker 1: He usually unpacks his bag, but I managed to sneak
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Speaker 1: into the laundry room and see his bag, and I
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Speaker 1: found the condoms. Duh, oh, my, Tommy hurts reading this.
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Speaker 1: I knew then my feelings were right then I saw
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Speaker 1: a text. Then the night's out became something that just happened,
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Speaker 1: and his smile went back to normal because he got
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Speaker 1: away with it, and the guilt is falling away. And
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Speaker 1: that's just that kind of makes me sick to think.
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Speaker 1: It's like, oh, it's just the norm now, and you
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Speaker 1: haven't really acted any difference. So he thinks he's getting
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Speaker 1: away with it. Oh, so he's just like, oh, everything's fine.
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Speaker 1: That's disgusting, Roger, you're disgusting. Her husband's name is Roger.
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Speaker 1: That's a d naming him. Another comment said, how long
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Speaker 1: have you known about the affair? Oh? He said eight
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Speaker 1: months probably. I want to think about that. Let me
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Speaker 1: look down my Rolex. Eight months probably, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: Another comment says, has he ever been in any way physically, verbally,
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Speaker 1: financially anything. Op? He said, oh no, unless you count cheating,
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Speaker 1: which is a form of abuse. That is true. But
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Speaker 1: if you mean that he can hit or assault or
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Speaker 1: nag or then no. He is very gentle and full
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Speaker 1: of praise and compliments. And it says do you have
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Speaker 1: any children? Ope? She said no, we are children free will.
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Speaker 1: At least you don't have kids. Up on all of
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Speaker 1: this that would just make it even more messy. Another
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Speaker 1: comment says, my best bet is she was looking to
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Speaker 1: inform you of the affair in hopes that would accelerate
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Speaker 1: a divorce. Yes, I love would rend it validates marry.
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Speaker 1: I know you're happy with your life, but you need
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Speaker 1: to get your ducks in a row in the event
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Speaker 1: he decides to leave you one hundred percent. Gather the
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Speaker 1: evidence so you have it in your back pocket. And
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Speaker 1: your excuse can be that you've just wanted to gather
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Speaker 1: as much as possible, you know, through a bunch of
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Speaker 1: like a large amount of time. If that day comes,
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Speaker 1: you know, if you think this affair is more than
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Speaker 1: just spicy time and it's actual love, he may be
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Speaker 1: thinking about it using the old I will leave my
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Speaker 1: wife eventually. Just not now. Get yourself as much proof
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Speaker 1: of the affair as you again, and consult a lawyer
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Speaker 1: to be bit bare. Also talk to your husband and
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Speaker 1: tell him that under no circumstance you want her to
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Speaker 1: try to reach you again. Have him deal with the crazy.
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Speaker 1: I wish you all the luck, babe. Oh, he said, well,
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Speaker 1: it must be more than just spicy time, or he
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Speaker 1: would have slept with many others. He is very hot,
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Speaker 1: and I don't think he would have problems with just
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Speaker 1: spicy time. For many Roger's a piece of shit in
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Speaker 1: my books. Eight months though, that's a long time. Can
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Speaker 1: you mention knowing and living with somebody knowing they're lying
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Speaker 1: to you about that, and just like, how do you
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Speaker 1: even function? How do you talk to them? Oh? Okay,
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Speaker 1: we have an update after six days. Okay, shut up,
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Speaker 1: buckle up, let's go. So I was here a few
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Speaker 1: days ago to talk about my husband's mistress. This is
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Speaker 1: an update from that post, but I will not be
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Speaker 1: speaking about the mistress here because my story with her
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Speaker 1: is over. She has told him about me knowing. Oh
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Speaker 1: I feel like we should have seen this coming, because
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Speaker 1: that ruins it well, you know, quote unquote ruins it
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Speaker 1: even more for you because now this you know, secret's out. Shit.
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Speaker 1: Not sure when she told him, but he's been hovering
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Speaker 1: around me this week like he wanted to say something,
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Speaker 1: and this morning he did, which was odd because he
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Speaker 1: usually doesn't have a lot of time in the morning
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Speaker 1: for a serious discussion. But maybe this was the plan,
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Speaker 1: just to get it over with. He just came to
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Speaker 1: the kitchen and told me that you need to know
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Speaker 1: that it's over with her. I bet you're just screaming inside,
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Speaker 1: like yes, because you didn't even care to begin with
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Speaker 1: or I mean, you cared, but you know what I mean.
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Speaker 1: This is such a weird situation. It's been over since
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Speaker 1: New Year's I ended it. I wonder if he ended it,
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Speaker 1: and then she reached out because she doesn't like being
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Speaker 1: rejected the mistress I mean, and she wanted to blow
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Speaker 1: up his marriage because she got jealous that she's you
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Speaker 1: know when I feel like it might be like that.
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Speaker 1: I looked at him and he couldn't meet my eyes.
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Speaker 1: I said, Okay, but next time, tell them to never
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Speaker 1: bother me again. It really is like a TV show.
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Speaker 1: It's like, I don't care who you sleep, but it's
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Speaker 1: just tell them not to contact me. Okay. While I'm
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Speaker 1: at the spa Roger, he said there won't be next time.
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Speaker 1: He loved me and he was so so sorry. He
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Speaker 1: made his way for a hug or something, but I
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Speaker 1: guess my look was good enough warning not to come
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Speaker 1: near me. Not sure why his apology and love declaration
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Speaker 1: made me more angry than anything else I've felt since
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Speaker 1: I found out. You're bottling it up and you're trying
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Speaker 1: to justify it in your soul that it's okay. But
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Speaker 1: it's not okay. I wanted to yell and scream at him,
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Speaker 1: but I stayed frozen in my chair. How dare he
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Speaker 1: apologize or pretend to love me? I said, yes, you will,
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Speaker 1: and next woman, women is not allowed to contact me.
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Speaker 1: That's all that matters. It wasn't a debate, It was
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Speaker 1: a fact that I was stating. Then, when he's hovered
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Speaker 1: enough time, I asked him why he ended it. He said,
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Speaker 1: because he realized I knew. Great reason, I don't know, Jessica,
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Speaker 1: because I got caught, so I just sawt I'd bury
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Speaker 1: it under the rug and maybe we just wouldn't look
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Speaker 1: under the rug. Is that okay with you? What a
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Speaker 1: dumb ass? I asked him why he didn't tell me
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Speaker 1: until she told him I knew, and he said, because
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Speaker 1: he is a coward. You're right on that roger and
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Speaker 1: thought he was sparing me the pain. But then he
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Speaker 1: realized I knew and ended the affair, which led her
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Speaker 1: to contact me. See, he ended it, and then she
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Speaker 1: got pissed and she contacted oh a tail housboll as
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Speaker 1: the time I gave him my phone so he could
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Speaker 1: see all the screenshots I'd taken of her trying to
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Speaker 1: contact me for the past month or so. I asked
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Speaker 1: him if he left her, and he said no. I
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Speaker 1: told him not to lie, because I see in the texts.
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Speaker 1: He said maybe at first because it was something new
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Speaker 1: and he got feelings mixed up with excitement. But he
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Speaker 1: realized very quickly that it wasn't love. I said, and
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Speaker 1: like me, you don't want to lose half of this.
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Speaker 1: He said that wasn't why he loved me or wanted me,
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Speaker 1: and I said, well, that's my only reason. Then before
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Speaker 1: he left, he asked me if I will ever forgive him.
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Speaker 1: I said no, it was final. I told him that
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Speaker 1: even if I could forgive the physical affair, once the
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Speaker 1: images of them together that I see whenever I close
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Speaker 1: my eyes started to fade away. But I will never
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Speaker 1: forgive that. He destroyed the man I thought I had
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Speaker 1: straight up. He made me realize that that man only
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Speaker 1: ever existed in my head, and I will never forgive
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Speaker 1: him for that. He left to go to work and
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Speaker 1: left me totally drained in my kitchen. Sorry, I was
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Speaker 1: going to say, it's a really good pun right there,
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I can't ignore pun. Then a few hours later,
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Speaker 1: my mother in law showed up and I could finally cry.
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Speaker 1: He had told her and his dad what he'd done,
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Speaker 1: and she wanted to check on me. She suggested therapy
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Speaker 1: and said that he wanted to try it. Honestly, I
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Speaker 1: don't mind it, and I think I do need one
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Speaker 1: on my own too. I also need a refuge or sanctuary,
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Speaker 1: a place I can spend some time away from him,
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Speaker 1: a few days a week or maybe a week every month,
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Speaker 1: and he can use that time too. However, he wants
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Speaker 1: away from me without making excuses about how busy he
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Speaker 1: is this night. So are you going to make it work? Then?
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Speaker 1: Good for you for standing on business though, good for
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Speaker 1: you for realizing it and being like, you know what, No,
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Speaker 1: this isn't worth it. Like I understand the rollercoaster of
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Speaker 1: emotions you're going through, man, I mean I don't understand
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Speaker 1: like fully to that extent, but damn comments say, sounds
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Speaker 1: like you handle the talk pretty well. Hope time and
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Speaker 1: therapy will help you figure out how you'd like to
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Speaker 1: go forward. Good luck, op, he said, thank you, I'm
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Speaker 1: actually very interested in therapy and talking to someone who
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Speaker 1: doesn't know us. It really does help, especially in like
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Speaker 1: specific situations like this. I feel like talking to an
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Speaker 1: unbiased through parties. Very smart. Another comment says, tell him
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Speaker 1: to move out so you can have that space from him,
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Speaker 1: unless you need to get away from your own space.
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Speaker 1: Can't imagine what you're going through, OPI said, yes, I
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Speaker 1: can ask him to find an apartment in the city
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Speaker 1: and leave me in my home. That's a great idea.
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Speaker 1: That's the least he can do. Another common sense that
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Speaker 1: use this opportunity his guilt to review your prenup. If
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Speaker 1: you don't have one, make one, make it a condition
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Speaker 1: if he wants forgiveness. Make sure, no matter what, you
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Speaker 1: don't lose in this. Don't assume you'll get half unless
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Speaker 1: you live somewhere that's guaranteed by law. Oh, he said,
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Speaker 1: we don't have a prenup, so there you go. Which
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Speaker 1: I know that's different states or have different laws, but
16:22
Speaker 1: I'm assuming she's looked that up. She's like, now I've
16:24
Speaker 1: got half. I'm good. I mean, maybe there are people help.
16:26
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like, if he's not stupid, which
16:29
Speaker 1: she is, Roger's stupid. He realizes in this moment that
16:32
Speaker 1: he fed up, and she has every right to be
16:33
Speaker 1: mad and to say she doesn't love him anymore and
16:35
Speaker 1: to say she doesn't care. So maybe he thinks there's
16:38
Speaker 1: an inkling of hope based off of the whole history
16:40
Speaker 1: that they've had. So I don't know about that necessarily right.
16:43
Speaker 1: It is very black and white though. But do I
16:44
Speaker 1: think they should be together now? Now? I don't. I
16:47
Speaker 1: feel like they should be a pot, but I really
16:50
Speaker 1: do think that they would both benefit from some repee. Okay,
16:53
Speaker 1: And that brings me to my smont serve today. I'm
16:55
Speaker 1: just kidding. Just stick it. I'm yes, yokin. All right,
16:58
Speaker 1: let's move to the next one. All right. Next up,
17:00
Speaker 1: my best friend's girlfriend and my girlfriend eat each other. Why, Todd,
17:05
Speaker 1: let's read it. My best friend twenty six male, Let's
17:07
Speaker 1: call him Paul. Okay, Todd, Paul pretty close? Not really anyway.
17:11
Speaker 1: Paul and I, twenty six male, have been inseparable for
17:14
Speaker 1: fifteen years. We've basically been brothers since middle school, and
17:18
Speaker 1: we've even lived together for six years. For years now,
17:21
Speaker 1: it's been a dream of ours that one day we'd
17:23
Speaker 1: both find wives, go on all these fun double dates,
17:25
Speaker 1: and eventually co joined families. Since neither of us have brothers,
17:28
Speaker 1: but now it feels like all of that is falling
17:31
Speaker 1: apart and more is starting to go with it. Ooh,
17:34
Speaker 1: that's really cute that like little boys dreamed of that,
17:36
Speaker 1: because I feel like that's something I hear from women
17:41
Speaker 1: all the time. It's like, we have best friends and
17:43
Speaker 1: we got it. We meet our husbands and we make
17:44
Speaker 1: them friends, and then we make like little co families.
17:47
Speaker 1: But I think it's kind of cute to hear like
17:49
Speaker 1: buddies being like, oh, I can't wait to out families
17:51
Speaker 1: together and just like be busties and go on double dates's.
17:54
Speaker 1: I think that's very sweet and endearing anyway. Paul's girlfriend
17:57
Speaker 1: twenty three female is pretty quiet together about five years.
18:01
Speaker 1: I know her well since she was around constantly, so
18:04
Speaker 1: I practically lived with her too. She's like a sister
18:06
Speaker 1: to me, although I'll admit her immaturity can be frustrating sometimes.
18:10
Speaker 1: On the other side, I've been with my girlfriend twenty
18:12
Speaker 1: six female for three years. She's much more social, but
18:15
Speaker 1: she can also be very sensitive. I'm trying to remain
18:18
Speaker 1: unbiased noted. When we first started dating, I really wanted
18:21
Speaker 1: the two of them to get along, but it completely backfired.
18:24
Speaker 1: Now it feels like they despise each other. My girlfriend
18:27
Speaker 1: tries to be friendly and social, but Paul's girlfriend is
18:29
Speaker 1: so quiet and shy that she comes across as rude.
18:33
Speaker 1: It's gotten to the point where my girlfriend hates being
18:35
Speaker 1: around her so much that she doesn't even want to
18:37
Speaker 1: spend time with her anymore. So now every time Paul
18:40
Speaker 1: asks if I want to go on a double date,
18:41
Speaker 1: I have to awkwardly say no because my girlfriend can't
18:44
Speaker 1: stand to be around hish shit. This is tough. I
18:48
Speaker 1: pick tough ones today, damn it. I understand why she
18:51
Speaker 1: feels that way, and I don't think she's being unreasonable,
18:55
Speaker 1: But now it's starting to affect my friendship with Paul.
18:58
Speaker 1: And now there's another layer to it. My girlfriend and
19:00
Speaker 1: I have our own company congrats, and Paul has his
19:03
Speaker 1: own business too. Paul's business is now a client of
19:06
Speaker 1: ours kind of business are you guys run it? My
19:09
Speaker 1: girlfriend is great at event planning, influencer marketing, and brand relations.
19:13
Speaker 1: She's done it professionally for five years at major companies
19:15
Speaker 1: before starting our business with me. But now Paul's girlfriend
19:19
Speaker 1: has basically forced herself into the event planning for Paul's business.
19:23
Speaker 1: Even though my girlfriend has already secured fifteen brand sponsorships
19:27
Speaker 1: and built a huge guest list, Paul's girlfriend has started
19:30
Speaker 1: emailing brands herself, giving excessive design input, and trying to
19:33
Speaker 1: influence Paul's approvals and decisions. Paul's girlfriend doesn't sound doesn't
19:38
Speaker 1: sound fun. I mean, it's one thing to be quiet,
19:41
Speaker 1: you know. I actually tend to be pretty quiet unless
19:43
Speaker 1: I'm met with people that I really know, really well.
19:45
Speaker 1: So I understand that. I don't think like being an
19:47
Speaker 1: introvert makes you inherently rude or mean or anything like that.
19:50
Speaker 1: It does sound like she maybe has a controlling behavior
19:54
Speaker 1: that's not cute. And if you know anything about marketing
19:57
Speaker 1: or honestly just professionalism, mailing a brand for sponsorship makes
20:01
Speaker 1: you look disorganized and uncoordinated, So her just going and
20:04
Speaker 1: doing that is so dumb. Yet, you know, there's an
20:06
Speaker 1: aspect of that with this job that I have, and
20:09
Speaker 1: that is it looks extremely unprofessional. Albeit they are different companies,
20:16
Speaker 1: but I guess Paul is a client of yours. Yeah,
20:19
Speaker 1: that just that's bad news. Bears that is unprofessional at best.
20:24
Speaker 1: I'll just keep reading. Let's keep figuring out what's going on.
20:27
Speaker 1: It almost feels like it's coming from jealousy. What it
20:30
Speaker 1: feels like is Paul was really impressed with what my
20:33
Speaker 1: girlfriend was doing, and his girlfriend suddenly want to prove
20:35
Speaker 1: she could do it too, And since she doesn't work
20:38
Speaker 1: and is basically a stay at home girlfriend, she has
20:40
Speaker 1: unlimited time to involve herself. I don't know what to do.
20:43
Speaker 1: It's starting to bother me, but I don't want to
20:45
Speaker 1: make anything awkward or create drama. At the same time,
20:48
Speaker 1: I can feel myself starting to resent Paul's girlfriend too,
20:51
Speaker 1: and I hate that, maybe considering pulling her company out
20:54
Speaker 1: of working with Paul because I don't want this dynamic
20:57
Speaker 1: to ruin our friendship. Paul is my brother and I
21:00
Speaker 1: don't want to lose him or let any of this
21:02
Speaker 1: get in the way. But I know how he can
21:04
Speaker 1: be defensive of his girlfriend. What should I do? Damn,
21:09
Speaker 1: that's tough shit. Let me think on it. Per Sec,
21:13
Speaker 1: you need to talk to Paul. You need to have
21:15
Speaker 1: a little sit down. No girlfriends. You need to sit
21:17
Speaker 1: down with Paul. Let him know what's going on. Because
21:19
Speaker 1: you guys are brothers. You guys have known each other
21:21
Speaker 1: for so long, and I don't know if you've already
21:23
Speaker 1: had a talk with him about this, but it doesn't
21:24
Speaker 1: sound like you have. It sounds like you're kind of
21:26
Speaker 1: taking in everything and giving the benefit of the doubt.
21:29
Speaker 1: But now you're just bottling it up and it's going
21:31
Speaker 1: to boil into something that's really ugly. And I feel
21:33
Speaker 1: like you just need to talk to him and say
21:35
Speaker 1: what's up. You know, you can just say, hey, I
21:38
Speaker 1: don't think it's super professional that your girlfriend is emailing
21:41
Speaker 1: the same clients like this, Like it's great that she
21:43
Speaker 1: wants to do something, you know, add some positives in there.
21:46
Speaker 1: We don't want Paul to get super defensive. We need
21:48
Speaker 1: to we need to, you know, give him something to
21:51
Speaker 1: work with X y Z. I think it would work
21:53
Speaker 1: better this way. Is that possible? And then go from there,
21:56
Speaker 1: you know, see how Paul reacts to that, and then
21:59
Speaker 1: ask him, you know, maybe ask him how his relationship
22:02
Speaker 1: is and like really, and maybe you already asked this,
22:05
Speaker 1: but get the layout, you know, and then maybe you
22:08
Speaker 1: guys can have a candid conversation like, hey, yeah, I
22:11
Speaker 1: think you know, she might be trying to control this way,
22:14
Speaker 1: but I understand it because she's trying to do this,
22:17
Speaker 1: and maybe she's not, as you know, she doesn't have
22:20
Speaker 1: the experience that my girlfriend has. Necessarily, you know, just
22:23
Speaker 1: have a bro, have a bromance, have a bro, talk bro.
22:27
Speaker 1: But also on the other side of things, on the
22:30
Speaker 1: other coin, you can't force these women to like each other. Okay,
22:33
Speaker 1: let me read the comments. One of the comments was
22:35
Speaker 1: if Paul's girlfriend has prior work experiences or education in
22:38
Speaker 1: the marketing and planning fields. OPI said, she was a
22:41
Speaker 1: waitress for a few years. That's about it. Now she's
22:44
Speaker 1: working four hours a day at the front desk of
22:46
Speaker 1: his business. She has been unemployed since she graduated, outside
22:50
Speaker 1: of a quick three month waitress gig. She occasionally filled
22:53
Speaker 1: in on front desk whenever there was sick or traveling
22:56
Speaker 1: person I guess. But no, she's never been involved in
22:59
Speaker 1: the company to any real capacity and just suddenly became
23:01
Speaker 1: more involved now. And I mean, there's nothing wrong with that.
23:05
Speaker 1: But I feel like he's probably on the right track.
23:07
Speaker 1: That she might be wanting to look good in comparison
23:12
Speaker 1: to the woman she clearly doesn't like. Maybe or maybe
23:15
Speaker 1: she's just bored and she just wants to do something
23:17
Speaker 1: to help with her boyfriend. Because she loves them. You know,
23:20
Speaker 1: could be either really a downvoted comment or said this.
23:23
Speaker 1: I agree with most of the takes here, but I'm
23:25
Speaker 1: going to highlight something else. Unless this other girl has
23:27
Speaker 1: treated your girlfriend poorly, just not liking her shouldn't be
23:31
Speaker 1: enough to take steps to isolate you from your chosen family.
23:34
Speaker 1: There's loads of people I don't want to be BFFs with,
23:38
Speaker 1: like my family members, but I'll hang out with them
23:40
Speaker 1: occasionally because they are important to my spouse. They aren't
23:43
Speaker 1: bad people. We just don't click. So what I put
23:46
Speaker 1: on my big girl panties and go to dinners and
23:49
Speaker 1: do my best to treat the people my person loves fabulously.
23:52
Speaker 1: Because I can put my own bs aside, why can't she?
23:56
Speaker 1: That's just being like an emotionally mature adult. You know,
23:59
Speaker 1: one thing, not to like each other. I feel like
24:02
Speaker 1: you guys should be able to go on double dates
24:04
Speaker 1: and it should be cordial. Don't expect them to go
24:06
Speaker 1: get their nails on together. Don't expect them to go
24:09
Speaker 1: do a wine painting class together. Okay, as fun as
24:12
Speaker 1: that sounds, I really want to go on one of those.
24:13
Speaker 1: Anybody want to go with me? Let me know, she
24:15
Speaker 1: continues to say, this young girl is trying to be helpful.
24:17
Speaker 1: Instead bringing her into the fold, you are excluding and
24:20
Speaker 1: resenting her. She may be immature, but so are the
24:23
Speaker 1: two of you. If you lose your friend over this,
24:25
Speaker 1: you'll have no one to blame by yourself. I understand
24:27
Speaker 1: where they're coming front, where it's like she can suck
24:29
Speaker 1: it up and you guys need to just grow up.
24:32
Speaker 1: But I also just see how deep it is, because
24:35
Speaker 1: it's never good to be in an uncomfortable situation. And
24:39
Speaker 1: clearly they spend a lot of time together. It's not
24:41
Speaker 1: just one of those friends you could see every three
24:43
Speaker 1: months or six months or whatever. This is like a
24:47
Speaker 1: pertinent issue. I see why it's downvoted, but I also
24:50
Speaker 1: I can vibe with what she's putting down. Opie commented
24:54
Speaker 1: to that, saying I don't disagree, though I feel the
24:57
Speaker 1: missing context is we all basically lived together other for
25:00
Speaker 1: a year. We went out double dates every week, and
25:02
Speaker 1: my girlfriend tried for a long time to get along
25:04
Speaker 1: with her. I still see him one on one all
25:06
Speaker 1: the time, so I don't feel isolated. It's just awkward
25:09
Speaker 1: when the double date offer came up and I'm like Dan,
25:12
Speaker 1: that's I totally get it. I don't think Paul's girlfriend
25:15
Speaker 1: has been particularly mean to mine, but I will say
25:18
Speaker 1: I've watched the effort my girlfriend has put into her.
25:20
Speaker 1: Tried inviting her to hang out one on one doing
25:22
Speaker 1: dinners together, she always rejected, And when they hang out,
25:26
Speaker 1: she almost just fully latches to Paul and gives one
25:29
Speaker 1: word answers to mine. Maybe she's just really introverted, and
25:33
Speaker 1: that's just what it is. It's hard. I'm like, I'm
25:35
Speaker 1: trying to put myself in everybody's shoes, and I feel
25:39
Speaker 1: like your girlfriend, you know, sounds great. She's really friendly,
25:44
Speaker 1: she's really helpful, she's wanting to put in an effort
25:47
Speaker 1: to hang out with the other girlfriend, and Paul's girlfriend
25:51
Speaker 1: is just she just loves Paul. You know, some people
25:54
Speaker 1: just get codependent and they don't really care about having
25:57
Speaker 1: other relationships with people, and they thrive up that and
26:00
Speaker 1: it's fine for them. Some people it's bad for them.
26:03
Speaker 1: But I don't know, she just might be that kind
26:04
Speaker 1: of person, and it just might be weird to you
26:06
Speaker 1: because you're not surrounded by those type of people. I'm
26:09
Speaker 1: not saying what she's doing doesn't suck, but you might
26:12
Speaker 1: just have to deal with it, basically. But another converser said, yeah,
26:15
Speaker 1: that's rude. Does she talk to you this way or
26:18
Speaker 1: just your girlfriend? Stop dismissing it and stop trying to
26:20
Speaker 1: make your girlfriend put herself in the position for that
26:22
Speaker 1: woman to be rude to her Again, when was she
26:25
Speaker 1: like rude? Rude? I guess the unprofessionals thing with the emailing.
26:28
Speaker 1: That's rude and unprofessional, I guess, But towards the girlfriend,
26:32
Speaker 1: because he said she comes across as rude. Yeah, that's
26:35
Speaker 1: all we got was she comes across as rude and
26:37
Speaker 1: then she sent those emails. So I'm not saying she's
26:40
Speaker 1: an angel by any means, but I feel like I
26:42
Speaker 1: need more context. Oh my god, me and Radda are
26:45
Speaker 1: literally on the same wavelength and I love it. Okay,
26:48
Speaker 1: next comment says Paul's girlfriend is so quiet and shy
26:50
Speaker 1: that she comes across as rude, and the comment says
26:53
Speaker 1: to that, don't be so quick to dismiss this. Does
26:55
Speaker 1: she come across as rude or is she actually rude? Yeah? Yes, yes,
27:01
Speaker 1: Context like, does she ignore your girlfriend when she talks
27:04
Speaker 1: to her? Is she short or abrupt with her in
27:07
Speaker 1: a way that she isn't to you or your boyfriend.
27:08
Speaker 1: Does she make rude remarks and try to frame it
27:11
Speaker 1: like she's just quiet. Yeah, because her double emailing companies
27:14
Speaker 1: to try to one up your girlfriend is rude, like
27:17
Speaker 1: I said, And she's sabotaging her own boyfriend, and she's
27:19
Speaker 1: clearly jealous of your girlfriend. I think those are elements.
27:22
Speaker 1: Those are all valid elements. Yes, it seems like nobody
27:25
Speaker 1: has enough of a spine to be honest or call
27:26
Speaker 1: the girlfriend out. Meanwhile, you're invalidating your own girlfriend's very
27:30
Speaker 1: reasonable issues with her. They don't have to be friends.
27:32
Speaker 1: It's okay, really, but if she's interfering with business, somebody
27:36
Speaker 1: needs to put their foot down. Yeah. Again, it just
27:37
Speaker 1: goes back to what I said in the beginning. You
27:39
Speaker 1: need to talk to your friend that's you broke, have
27:43
Speaker 1: a broke talk that it goes out to say, you're
27:45
Speaker 1: so hell bent on not creating drama that you're holding
27:47
Speaker 1: your own tongue at the expense of your girlfriend. Stop
27:50
Speaker 1: trying to make her hang out with Paul's girlfriend unless
27:52
Speaker 1: you want to wind up losing a friendship and your
27:55
Speaker 1: girlfriend valid as well. You're at the age where you
27:57
Speaker 1: have got to learn to have difficult conversations, especially WRT
28:02
Speaker 1: business with I'm assuming with business OPI said. I think
28:05
Speaker 1: my problem more so is it may be my place
28:08
Speaker 1: to stand up on the business side of things. That's
28:10
Speaker 1: very doable if it continues, But I don't feel like
28:12
Speaker 1: it's my place to call out Paul's girlfriend for just
28:14
Speaker 1: being quieter. Also true, even though it might be secretly malicious, yes,
28:19
Speaker 1: or whatever we want to call it, but nothing concrete
28:22
Speaker 1: that I could bring to a guy who I already
28:24
Speaker 1: know to be very defensive of his girlfriend. And I
28:26
Speaker 1: stopped trying to make them hang out a long time ago.
28:28
Speaker 1: It's been maybe six months now, but he just keeps
28:31
Speaker 1: asking and I don't know what to say because I
28:32
Speaker 1: don't want to put it on my girl. I feel
28:35
Speaker 1: like Paul's just got to take a hint. You know,
28:36
Speaker 1: it's been six months, Dade put the puzzle pieces to
28:39
Speaker 1: get there's an update. Okay, there's an update, let's read it.
28:42
Speaker 1: The event setup was chaotic. I went with my girlfriend
28:45
Speaker 1: and her assistant to go set up the day prior,
28:47
Speaker 1: assuming we would just be meeting Paul there, but of
28:49
Speaker 1: course Paul's girlfriend was there too to help. Of Course,
28:53
Speaker 1: the whole setup consisted of my girlfriend trying to do
28:55
Speaker 1: her job and Paul's girlfriend throwing her own opinions any
28:58
Speaker 1: chance she could, and I started getting annoyed. There was
29:01
Speaker 1: one instance where I was hanging something on the ceiling
29:04
Speaker 1: and my girl was telling me to move it one
29:06
Speaker 1: way and Paul's the other. Okay, so she's just being combative,
29:10
Speaker 1: just to be combative. It sounds like that's rude, I
29:13
Speaker 1: understand now. I had to go to Paul and tell him, Hey,
29:16
Speaker 1: just too many captains here. It's slowing us down. That's
29:19
Speaker 1: a good way of saying that, and he said he'd
29:21
Speaker 1: tell her, but there wasn't much of a change anyways.
29:24
Speaker 1: My girlfriend barely got through it. She even said something
29:27
Speaker 1: out loud when Paul's girlfriend started to really get on
29:29
Speaker 1: her nerves that I'm very lucky was not heard. The
29:32
Speaker 1: event day was when it really all went to shit.
29:35
Speaker 1: The event set up was essentially like a big party,
29:38
Speaker 1: but to get the most bang for our buck and
29:40
Speaker 1: to keep the space spacious, we threw it like three
29:42
Speaker 1: back to back parties of forty people each. I guess
29:45
Speaker 1: they're just event planners and stuff. That's cool. People would
29:48
Speaker 1: come in try the coffees, the machas enjoy some treats,
29:50
Speaker 1: socialized take videos, et cetera. Okay, cute. Everybody on the
29:53
Speaker 1: day had a roll, and since Paul's girlfriend was so
29:56
Speaker 1: eager to help out before, I gave her one too.
29:59
Speaker 1: A lot of these people in attendance were online influencers.
30:02
Speaker 1: Oh brother, suck, but like for real, most of them suck.
30:07
Speaker 1: That's why I don't go to anything. I just stay
30:08
Speaker 1: in my little Then a lot of them could be
30:11
Speaker 1: regular content creators for us, so I gave her the
30:13
Speaker 1: assignment of handing people their gift bags at the end,
30:15
Speaker 1: and when she hands it to them, see if they're
30:18
Speaker 1: interested in a program we're running that would give them
30:20
Speaker 1: free drinks in exchange for a weekly video. It was
30:23
Speaker 1: the easiest job I had available, though very important. The
30:25
Speaker 1: underlying purpose of the event was to establish an online
30:28
Speaker 1: content creation network. So anyways, it looks like she was
30:32
Speaker 1: doing her job. I was obviously busy attending other things.
30:35
Speaker 1: But of course when I went to her after the
30:37
Speaker 1: second group left, she had zero sign ups. I asked
30:41
Speaker 1: her if she had been asking people, and she said, no.
30:43
Speaker 1: You know what, I'm gonna be honest, that's a really
30:47
Speaker 1: bad job to give someone that is clearly an introvert
30:51
Speaker 1: and who's not nice to people other than Paul. That's
30:54
Speaker 1: probably the worst job you could have given her. Anything
30:57
Speaker 1: behind the scenes probably would have been better than the
30:59
Speaker 1: giving her job that involves possible rejection. Not gonna lie,
31:04
Speaker 1: you dropped the ball on that, todd Anyway, she said,
31:07
Speaker 1: people just walked out when I handed them their bag.
31:09
Speaker 1: I said, well, you need to make a point of it.
31:11
Speaker 1: You've already got their attention when you hand them their
31:14
Speaker 1: gift bag. She basically just shrugged it off and said
31:16
Speaker 1: something like, well, what am I supposed to do if
31:18
Speaker 1: they're just walking out? Talk to them, Vanessa. I'm calling her, Vanessa,
31:22
Speaker 1: ou talk to them, Vanessa. Paul heard what was happening
31:25
Speaker 1: to and then he got upset as well. After a
31:28
Speaker 1: long back and forth of her taking no accountability. Instead
31:31
Speaker 1: of just saying I'll try to do it for the
31:32
Speaker 1: last group, she just handed me everything and told me
31:35
Speaker 1: I can do it, then stormed off. Okay, yeah, we
31:37
Speaker 1: don't like Vanessa. I already know people will say, why
31:39
Speaker 1: did you make why did you make acquired person responsible
31:42
Speaker 1: for sign ups? Okay? I literally had nobody else to
31:45
Speaker 1: do it. Paul and his employees were making drinks. My
31:47
Speaker 1: girlfriend was hosting and I was getting all the content.
31:49
Speaker 1: It was an important job, and she was quiet quite
31:52
Speaker 1: literally the only person available. That's fair. Maybe we should
31:54
Speaker 1: have got a different person to do it, like in general,
31:56
Speaker 1: maybe we should have hired another person. But whatever, you
31:58
Speaker 1: know what, I'm not going to put it all on you.
31:59
Speaker 1: Tug in the end, and the event was at least
32:01
Speaker 1: a success in other ways, and the mishap that happened
32:03
Speaker 1: ended up turning into a blessing, as Paul then acknowledged
32:06
Speaker 1: his girlfriend's behavior and said he's just going to keep
32:08
Speaker 1: her out of it. Okay, this is might be a
32:10
Speaker 1: blessing in his guys. He told me his girlfriend, just
32:13
Speaker 1: out of nowhere got really motivated to help. He said
32:15
Speaker 1: he knew she was doing stuff she wasn't qualified to do,
32:18
Speaker 1: but he hadn't seen her motivated to do anything for
32:20
Speaker 1: a while, so he didn't want to stop her. He
32:22
Speaker 1: said he appreciated us being a good sport about things
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Speaker 1: and apologize for the situation. As far as my girlfriend
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Speaker 1: and his not getting along, that's just a ticking time bomb.
32:30
Speaker 1: I know one day it'll explode, but until then. This
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Speaker 1: is the only update I got. Random side note. I
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Speaker 1: see a lot of TikTok comments asking what I meant
32:38
Speaker 1: by merge families. Hah, I just mean Paul and I
32:41
Speaker 1: don't have siblings. Paul also doesn't have either of his
32:43
Speaker 1: parents anymore. Oh that sucks. So we always thought it'd
32:47
Speaker 1: be nice idea if our kids could at least have
32:49
Speaker 1: an uncle. Yeah, I get what you mean. People are weird.
32:52
Speaker 1: People are like, what do you mean you'd like you
32:54
Speaker 1: to marry each other and then married like a multiple? What?
32:57
Speaker 1: Shut up, TikTok. You know what they mean. I feel
33:01
Speaker 1: like it's working itself out. You got this issue in
33:04
Speaker 1: a strainer and you just got to work it a
33:06
Speaker 1: little bit, get the chunks out, sifted a bit. The
33:10
Speaker 1: issue is still there. Your girlfriends don't get along, so
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Speaker 1: your merging family things never gonna happen, really seems. But
33:17
Speaker 1: maybe that's just a dream that won't happen, and you
33:19
Speaker 1: guys can still remain friends, have your one on one time. Clearly,
33:23
Speaker 1: Paul needs to know they don't like each other and
33:26
Speaker 1: that's why it's not happening. But you need to have
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Speaker 1: a conversation with Paul about all of this. That is
33:33
Speaker 1: all you need to do. The half read it is
33:35
Speaker 1: just that it's like, just talk to him, use your mouthful,
33:37
Speaker 1: you know, just talk to him and that'll help. Top
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Speaker 1: comments is Paul's girlfriend seems very socially undeveloped. Met a
33:43
Speaker 1: few people like this in my life and generally just
33:44
Speaker 1: don't bother developing a friendship since I know how it'll end.
33:48
Speaker 1: A comment under that says, this friendship isn't going to
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Speaker 1: survive at its current strength. Eventually you have to choose,
33:53
Speaker 1: and Paul is ultimately going to choose this woman. Sounds
33:55
Speaker 1: like it from right now, like he's very defensive about her. Albeit,
33:59
Speaker 1: you guys are still I'm really young. You're twenty six.
34:02
Speaker 1: You're twenty six. I didn't meet my husband to live
34:05
Speaker 1: twenty seven. Yeah. Sure, we both had really long relationships
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Speaker 1: before that. Things could happen, you know, he could figure
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Speaker 1: out that maybe she isn't for him. I imagine in
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Speaker 1: the next few years, she'll have a kid, they will
34:18
Speaker 1: become more a nuclear as a family. There will just
34:20
Speaker 1: be a natural distance growing between both couples. Ope and
34:23
Speaker 1: his partner will continue to be social, meet new people,
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Speaker 1: make new friends. I'm sure he'll always feel like Paul
34:28
Speaker 1: is a brother, but he's never going to be a
34:29
Speaker 1: double day to BFF in that way that op anticipated.
34:33
Speaker 1: Such as life and such as life, and it does happen,
34:36
Speaker 1: It does happen, you know. I mean, I hope it
34:39
Speaker 1: works out, but at this point I don't have the
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Speaker 1: merging family things. I think that's not going to happen
34:45
Speaker 1: in this in this specific situation. But let me know
34:47
Speaker 1: what you guys. I'll read a little shorty one. I'll
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Speaker 1: read a little shorty one one more little palate cleanser
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Speaker 1: for the end. All right, last, but not least, I
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Speaker 1: twenty female cannot deal with my boyfriend's twenty five male
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Speaker 1: tattoo dedicated to his ex twenty three female. Okay, that's fair,
35:03
Speaker 1: and that's it for this episode. Okay, I'm just kidding.
35:05
Speaker 1: We'll read it pretty much what the title says. Okay,
35:07
Speaker 1: so that is the rest of this episode. I'm just kidding,
35:09
Speaker 1: a kind of keep rating. They'd been together for a
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Speaker 1: couple of years. A few months before he and I
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Speaker 1: got together, he'd gotten a tattoo symbolic of her name.
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Speaker 1: A year into the relationship. Get he told me he'd
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Speaker 1: kind of designed it himself, but had to make some
35:22
Speaker 1: tweaks because the one he'd originally designed was too intricate.
35:25
Speaker 1: I am very very uncomfortable. I know this happened before
35:29
Speaker 1: I was in his life and that shouldn't let it
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Speaker 1: bother me and blah blah blah blah blah. But I
35:33
Speaker 1: can't help how I feel. I can't just suck it up.
35:35
Speaker 1: I really need some advice on how to start working
35:38
Speaker 1: on getting over this. Thank you. Oh wow, that really
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Speaker 1: was a shorty Okay, I picked a good one, valid
35:43
Speaker 1: as hell that you can't get over it. I wonder
35:44
Speaker 1: what it is. I would love to know. I really
35:47
Speaker 1: hope that they throw a picture in here somewhere that's described,
35:50
Speaker 1: like is it. I'm assuming at this point it's her
35:52
Speaker 1: name maybe, which would suck. Dude. If I was just
35:56
Speaker 1: like sleeping in bed and I opened my eyes and
35:58
Speaker 1: I looked at Caleb's back and it was just a
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Speaker 1: tattoo dedicated to his ex, I'd I'd be like, you
36:05
Speaker 1: need to cover that up, Let's take care of that.
36:07
Speaker 1: You need to get rid of that, you need to
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Speaker 1: cover it up. I don't like it, and that's just me.
36:11
Speaker 1: I don't feel like unless I don't know if it
36:13
Speaker 1: was like a bird or something. No. I feel like
36:17
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, it's not a Christina bird. Okay, so
36:21
Speaker 1: I don't want it. That's just me and maybe I'm
36:24
Speaker 1: crazy for that. Let me know in the comments below,
36:25
Speaker 1: Let's see what the other comments say. I would tell
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Speaker 1: him that it bothers you. I would tell him and
36:29
Speaker 1: see how he reacts to that, because I think that's
36:31
Speaker 1: going to be very very relevant. Comments say it would
36:33
Speaker 1: be ironic if he covered it for you, as he'd
36:36
Speaker 1: been getting a tattoo for a girl. Again, I feel
36:39
Speaker 1: like he should cover it with just anything else, honestly,
36:42
Speaker 1: because you guys, you guys haven't even been to you
36:44
Speaker 1: guys have been together for a few months. Oh, he says,
36:46
Speaker 1: ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. But no way,
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Speaker 1: will I stand it if he gets it covered by
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Speaker 1: a tattoo dedicand to me, that's fair, that's logical. We
36:55
Speaker 1: love that comment says this is why you never get
36:58
Speaker 1: tattoos for other people except maybe you're it's parent and siblings,
37:01
Speaker 1: no love interest. You're entitled to the way you feel.
37:03
Speaker 1: I think it also depends on what that tattoo is.
37:06
Speaker 1: Is it a design with her name or their anniversary
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Speaker 1: date or something. Maybe he can get it covered up
37:11
Speaker 1: if he wants to, after hearing how you feel exactly.
37:14
Speaker 1: But if it is a simple design and you wouldn't
37:17
Speaker 1: know it was dedicated to her, then I'd say, but
37:19
Speaker 1: you are entitled to your feelings. Try and work through it.
37:21
Speaker 1: That's basically what I said. Opie said, I completely agree.
37:24
Speaker 1: It's foolish to get something so transient tattooed on your body.
37:27
Speaker 1: He even mentioned how he wasn't very deeply in love
37:30
Speaker 1: with her while getting the tattoo. No comment on why
37:33
Speaker 1: he got it anyway. What her name is that of
37:36
Speaker 1: a flowers? Her name is that of a flower? Why?
37:39
Speaker 1: Like how you said that? Okay, so it's lily, like rose,
37:43
Speaker 1: or like tulip or carnation. I'm gonna imagine her name
37:47
Speaker 1: is a carnation. It's a carnation. He has the flower
37:49
Speaker 1: tattooed on his bicep. Ah, what a terrible spot. I
37:52
Speaker 1: love bicep. I love Caleb's bicep. I'd be upset one
37:55
Speaker 1: of my favorite body parts. I had a flower tattoo
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Speaker 1: of another woman. Step this squirrel's vallad. I would have
38:02
Speaker 1: laughed if I hadn't felt my heart shatter when he
38:05
Speaker 1: told me about it. Why is he telling you about it?
38:07
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess he's being honest, so that's a
38:09
Speaker 1: good sign that he's honest or whatever. But yeah, this
38:13
Speaker 1: this is a cornation for my ex girlfriend. Coronation every
38:17
Speaker 1: time my flex it blooms, So you gotta look at
38:20
Speaker 1: that for the risk. It's also his very first tattoo.
38:23
Speaker 1: He's gotten a few since then, but it's still instings
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Speaker 1: that his first ever tattoo is dedicated to this woman.
38:28
Speaker 1: Thank you for not dismissing my feelings about it. He
38:30
Speaker 1: mentioned getting it covered up after he saw my reaction,
38:33
Speaker 1: but he's mentioned it only a couple of times since then,
38:36
Speaker 1: and he always says it in a tone that implies
38:38
Speaker 1: that he's going to get it covered up only because
38:40
Speaker 1: I'm so bothered by it, like he's doing me a favor.
38:43
Speaker 1: Ikey ikey, ikey ikey. We don't like that. At least
38:47
Speaker 1: he's willing to get it covered up, but he's got
38:48
Speaker 1: to understand just to flip it, you know, give him
38:52
Speaker 1: your shoe, make him stand in it. What if you had,
38:56
Speaker 1: you know, an acorn tattooed on your tap and that's
38:59
Speaker 1: your axis. You know, I don't know how would he
39:02
Speaker 1: feel about that? Go ask tell him? I sent you.
39:04
Speaker 1: Go ask him right now. With the comment says, how
39:06
Speaker 1: long have you and him been together? Honestly, it sucks,
39:08
Speaker 1: but I wouldn't ask him to cover it up until
39:10
Speaker 1: and unless you are moving towards engagement in marriage. Hope,
39:13
Speaker 1: He says, we've been together for a little over a year.
39:17
Speaker 1: I've never asked him to get it covered, he said
39:19
Speaker 1: so himself. All I forbid him from doing is getting
39:21
Speaker 1: a tattoo of my name, which he mentioned he wants.
39:24
Speaker 1: Some people just like tattoos, you know, they just they're like,
39:26
Speaker 1: whatever's the tattoo? But I feel like maybe they should
39:28
Speaker 1: think about it a little bit more when it's dedicated
39:30
Speaker 1: to a love a short term love interest. At this point,
39:33
Speaker 1: he should have learned his lesson the first time. Okay,
39:35
Speaker 1: well we have an update, so let's just read the update.
39:37
Speaker 1: I'm going to shut up. Okay, I got a lot
39:39
Speaker 1: of shit. Nice to read through all of that. After
39:41
Speaker 1: the kind of night I had last night, my boyfriend
39:43
Speaker 1: got back home to tell me that he'd found the post.
39:46
Speaker 1: Oh shit, he's an avid redditor, so I should have
39:50
Speaker 1: seen this coming. He said he'd had no idea that
39:52
Speaker 1: the tattoo was bothering me this much. This is why
39:55
Speaker 1: we just need to talk to our significant others a
39:57
Speaker 1: guy instead of putting it on Reddit. But I appreciate
39:59
Speaker 1: you putting up read it and giving me content. So
40:01
Speaker 1: there's that. We talked till about three in the morning
40:04
Speaker 1: because I had college at eight. He woke me up
40:06
Speaker 1: at six and said he wanted to talk. Long story short,
40:09
Speaker 1: he's still in love with her. Who that should be?
40:16
Speaker 1: You walk out that door, don't look back. Okay, hang
40:20
Speaker 1: up the phone, Hang up the phone, Hang up the phone.
40:24
Speaker 1: This guy leave him with his stupid coronation bicep tattoo. Dude,
40:27
Speaker 1: What the hell? He says he really likes me and
40:31
Speaker 1: wanted to make it work and thought that moving close
40:33
Speaker 1: to me and away from her will help him sort
40:36
Speaker 1: his feelings out and be with me wholeheartedly. Maybe get
40:39
Speaker 1: over that before you enter someone else's life. Don't use
40:43
Speaker 1: a human being as a coping mechanism. I don't know.
40:48
Speaker 1: That may be stupid, what do I know? So yeah,
40:50
Speaker 1: thanks to those who actually tried to help me and
40:53
Speaker 1: didn't call me names. He still loves her, I'm a fool.
40:57
Speaker 1: You're not a fool, You're not. I think you dodged
40:59
Speaker 1: a bullet. I think this guy's maybe a little too
41:00
Speaker 1: impulsive for you, and I think he didn't really care
41:03
Speaker 1: about you. And I think this was meant to be.
41:05
Speaker 1: And I'm glad you haven't been together for a super
41:07
Speaker 1: long time. You know, you got to go through a
41:10
Speaker 1: few carnations to get to the rose. Yeah, but no,
41:12
Speaker 1: I feel bad. I feel bad. I'm sorry. I'm sorry
41:14
Speaker 1: that he saw that, but I really do. I don't know.
41:16
Speaker 1: I'm at a point in my life. Man, I'm almost thirty.
41:18
Speaker 1: Everything happens for a reason, and this is this is
41:21
Speaker 1: for the better. You deserve better. You deserve better than
41:24
Speaker 1: to be somebody's rebound coping card. I don't even know
41:27
Speaker 1: what I'm saying right now, but you know what I mean.
41:29
Speaker 1: You give it, give it a couple of weeks. You'll
41:30
Speaker 1: be all right. You'll find a guy, maybe no tattoos,
41:33
Speaker 1: maybe just some mommy issues or something, and then you'll
41:35
Speaker 1: figure out that that's not a guy for you either.
41:37
Speaker 1: Then go to the next one. You know, you just
41:39
Speaker 1: got to. You gotta go through, you gotta figure it out.
41:41
Speaker 1: You know, we gotta figure it out. I'm tired, I'm
41:44
Speaker 1: gonna stop. What do you guys think? Do you guys
41:45
Speaker 1: have any stories like that, like people having tattoos of
41:48
Speaker 1: other people, like like little homages to other people and
41:51
Speaker 1: what did you do in that situation? Or do you
41:53
Speaker 1: have a tattoo like that? Why is there any tea
41:55
Speaker 1: with that? Let me know. I love hearing your guys'
41:57
Speaker 1: opinions in comments. I love reading through the comments. Thank
41:59
Speaker 1: you for watching. In this video, I promise the set
42:01
Speaker 1: will evolve. It'll evolve into something fantastic ish. You know
42:06
Speaker 1: how good can a background get? But it'll get better.
42:08
Speaker 1: It'll get better. Also, Pete's and detention. That's why he's
42:10
Speaker 1: not in the background right now. But yeah bye,