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Would you be wrong for refusing to tell family how much you paid for your house? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake Up with a fang, wake Up and the Club
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  Speaker 1: on nine four seven.
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  Speaker 2: There is a weird behavior that personally, I've always found
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  Speaker 2: to be weird, and I've never I've never aided where
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  Speaker 2: where I bounce it off other people. And today's the
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  Speaker 2: first time I'm going to ask this thing is normal.
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  Speaker 2: So a friend of mine moved into a house with
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  Speaker 2: her husband, and then the mother in law was visiting.
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  Speaker 2: So they walk in, the mother in law out, and
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  Speaker 2: I promise you, every room they showed her, she asked
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  Speaker 2: one question, how much.
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  Speaker 1: Was this house?
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  Speaker 3: Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, asking what what it costs to everything the house,
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  Speaker 1: the room or the.
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  Speaker 4: Thing, the kitchen. They're like, oh, and then there's this,
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  Speaker 4: and then all.
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  Speaker 2: We decided because they've got three little girls, and.
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  Speaker 4: Now each little girl's got her own room.
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  Speaker 2: So then I promise you. The mom was just price checking.
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  Speaker 2: She was playing the price is right the entire tour.
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  Speaker 2: How much was this thing? Three new baits? How much
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  Speaker 2: is this? How much is this? How much is that?
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  Speaker 2: So now my friend is telling me it's like and
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  Speaker 2: I've it felt so awkward because now I'm looking at
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  Speaker 2: my husband to be like, do tell your mom to
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  Speaker 2: know how to act?
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  Speaker 1: What is this to stop asking what it costs?
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  Speaker 4: And the husband sees nothing wrong with it.
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  Speaker 2: So now you've got two people who one feels that
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  Speaker 2: it raised to feel that it's absolutely crass to be
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  Speaker 2: asking people how much things cost, and the husband is
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  Speaker 2: just like, why why don't you want to tell her
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  Speaker 2: how much it costs?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Look, firstly, the mom's an amateur because you can
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  Speaker 1: go and google what the house costs because they'll have
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  Speaker 1: the listing style for it. Thank you very much.
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  Speaker 4: Really.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, if someone says I've got a new house,
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  Speaker 1: I always do that, Google what did it cost? I'll
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  Speaker 1: ask I don't mind. Is this your problem? So you
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  Speaker 1: find it weird?
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  Speaker 4: I just find it strange.
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  Speaker 1: I find it odd, Okay?
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  Speaker 5: Is it that is the issue that she asked about
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  Speaker 5: the house itself or that she wanted to know like
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  Speaker 5: the final details about every aspect of Like, I.
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  Speaker 2: Just absolutely everything. Stop asking people how much things cost?
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  Speaker 1: I agree.
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  Speaker 6: I think unless you say to somebody, oh, I got
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  Speaker 6: this on such a good deal, then you can give
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  Speaker 6: the part of the conversation. But if you if you
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  Speaker 6: come today and you're wearing that nice jacket and then
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  Speaker 6: I said you, how much you look stunning? How much
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  Speaker 6: did it cost?
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  Speaker 1: That's so weird.
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  Speaker 4: Really, yeah, that's weird.
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  Speaker 1: I'm really not offended.
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  Speaker 4: Oh I like your wedding ring. How much was it?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so weird. I wouldn't ask for every single thing.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. Oh, you have limits. I don't ask often.
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  Speaker 1: I mean I won't to walk through your house and
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  Speaker 1: constantly ask what it cost, what it costs, what it cost.
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  Speaker 1: But I'll definitely ask if there's something that I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: and I wonder the trick.
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  Speaker 5: Is to google the house before you go see it
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  Speaker 5: trying you said, so did you pay the full three
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  Speaker 5: point five million?
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  Speaker 1: You see you see? Did you negotiate down? Yes? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Oh one one eight eight thirty eight nine four seven?
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  Speaker 2: Do you Is it rude to ask people how much
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  Speaker 2: things cost? How much did you pay for it?
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  Speaker 1: I don't mind.
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  Speaker 5: I'm so nothing is shocking, you know, You're like everything in.
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  Speaker 1: My life is on a discuss.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So, are there's something that you would feel you
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  Speaker 2: would never ask?
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  Speaker 1: I would never ask you what your ring costs? Why no,
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  Speaker 1: because I mean that's a very personal thing. Also, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not shopping for rings at the moment.
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  Speaker 2: So but as soon as you are stand back and stand.
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  Speaker 1: By exactly well. I mean, i'd ask if there's something
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  Speaker 1: that really picks my interest out, and I wonder what
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  Speaker 1: did it cost, especially if it's something I can't google
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  Speaker 1: because I'll go Google. Yeah, she's so stressed.
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  Speaker 4: I think it's so wild to want to know how much.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, my mother would tell you that it's probably
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  Speaker 1: not the correct way to it's.
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  Speaker 2: Not polite, and you don't want I have a standing
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  Speaker 2: line when people ask me things like that, I say, oh,
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  Speaker 2: why do you want to know? Yo? Watch those eyes
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  Speaker 2: flicker like now they don't know, because why do you.
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  Speaker 1: Want to know? Or maybe I want one a house
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  Speaker 1: like yours. I mean, are you saying you can't afford it?
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  Speaker 5: No?
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  Speaker 6: But I'm saying, like this, what you want to get
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  Speaker 6: the safe, the.
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  Speaker 5: Same house, Maybe you're shopping in the same area.
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  Speaker 1: I just want to know what what did these things
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  Speaker 1: go for?
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  Speaker 6: To stop being thoseline and do the research yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Zero eight four double zero double zero nine, force them
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  Speaker 2: when you're sending us a voice note, is it polite
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  Speaker 2: to ask people how much things cost? And now that
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  Speaker 2: he has further opened this Pandora's box for us, are
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  Speaker 2: there certain things where you feel like okay that you
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  Speaker 2: can ask, But then there's other things where you're.
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  Speaker 1: Like, no, it's too personal, it's too close, you can't ask.
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  Speaker 4: I think everything is personal.
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  Speaker 1: I stopped it at a garage the other day and
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  Speaker 1: there was a man with a Ferrari. But you can
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  Speaker 1: see it second hand, so as them.
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  Speaker 4: Then you see it second hand?
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  Speaker 1: No, you can see it's an older model. May not?
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  Speaker 1: Then no, But then I had to ask him how
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  Speaker 1: much was it? Because I don't know what secondhand ferrari's cost,
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  Speaker 1: so I was interested in finding out what do their cost? No,
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  Speaker 1: he said it was like three point five or something.
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  Speaker 6: I wouldn't ask somebody how much they car cost?
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  Speaker 1: Frank you would.
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  Speaker 6: I would just I would stru go where's your Ferrari?
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  Speaker 1: How much yours cost? If I was taught that if
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  Speaker 1: you have to ask how much something costs, you can't
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  Speaker 1: afford it. Oh, don't be amateurs about this. Instead of
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  Speaker 1: asking the person how much this costs, asked them, oh,
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  Speaker 1: where did you buy this? If they say whatever store?
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  Speaker 1: Did you go? Google that store?
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  Speaker 2: Then you can see exactly how much it costs.
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  Speaker 4: Not that it's rude to it's just intrusive.
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  Speaker 2: Don't ask people, how much they pay for the cars,
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  Speaker 2: how much they pay rent.
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  Speaker 4: Don't ask those things. Just don't talk. You know, many
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  Speaker 4: conversations are just weird.
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  Speaker 1: Don't ask about money.
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  Speaker 5: Why I just got on property twenty four mounyaka to
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  Speaker 5: bed apartments right ho, so that's what you're paying?
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  Speaker 2: Sixteen and a half j W buddy, welcome back.
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  Speaker 1: How you doing Gridon?
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  Speaker 7: How are you?
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  Speaker 2: We are fantastic? So is it impolite to ask?
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  Speaker 7: No, not at all. I think it's imposed on that.
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  Speaker 7: It's impolite because the patriarchy thousands that we're going to
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  Speaker 7: speak about money. So just ask what you earn, Ask
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  Speaker 7: what you paid, ask what everyone's paying. If I ask
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  Speaker 7: you how much was your watch or how much was
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  Speaker 7: your goal.
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  Speaker 1: Just tell me.
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  Speaker 7: Or if you don't want to say no, I don't
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  Speaker 7: feel like telling you, I'm like a recipe.
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  Speaker 4: And then will you let it go? If I say no,
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  Speaker 4: I don't feel like telling you.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, I asked my friend how much do you earn?
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  Speaker 7: And he said I'm not telling you, and I said, okay.
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  Speaker 5: Let me then tell you. And that's my favorite about
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  Speaker 5: the salaries. You know, to ask your colleague because they
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  Speaker 5: never want you to know that you're underpaid.
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  Speaker 7: That is exactly my point. This is why I tell
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  Speaker 7: everyone how much my car costs. If they asked me
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  Speaker 7: how much it costs?
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  Speaker 1: So, how much is that? Highlights?
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  Speaker 7: No it's not. It's across bread for one hundred and
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  Speaker 7: sounds and.
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  Speaker 4: How much you being a man?
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  Speaker 1: No, But you see, you guys are doing it wrong.
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  Speaker 1: You always go high. I did this on the weekend.
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  Speaker 7: Right.
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  Speaker 1: I was at a friend of mine's house, most amazing,
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  Speaker 1: like tapestry painting in the house and the entrance hall
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  Speaker 1: and I and we were standing discussing this thing, and
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  Speaker 1: I said how much did it cost? And she said yes?
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  Speaker 1: And so I went high high, like hi, like like
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  Speaker 1: you know something, and I don't think they would have
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  Speaker 1: paid And then but no, then I make it sound
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  Speaker 1: expensive and then they feel very comfortable saying no, it
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  Speaker 1: wasn't that much, but I'm glad it looks like that much.
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  Speaker 4: You can't haven't beauty touch his house? He'd be like,
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  Speaker 4: what was it? Five million?
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  Speaker 6: More?
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  Speaker 5: Guy?
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  Speaker 4: More guy?
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  Speaker 5: I not only even think it's for impolite, it's just
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  Speaker 5: rude for people to be asking such things.
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  Speaker 1: I just feel like people want.
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  Speaker 2: To measure you based on how much you spend for
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  Speaker 2: a certain things.
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  Speaker 1: This is exactly like asking someone how much they get paid.
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  Speaker 6: I don't think it's right to ask prices of things
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  Speaker 6: we basically know what they are. But I had the opposite.
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  Speaker 8: I had a mother in law who'd give me a
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  Speaker 8: gift and say, I.
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  Speaker 4: Got this so cheap.
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  Speaker 6: It was only fifty rand.
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  Speaker 4: And is it because it's.
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  Speaker 1: A bargain that I got it? Yo? You seen her?
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  Speaker 4: No, but you've seen her. You didn't complete the story.
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  Speaker 4: You said I had a mother in law.
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  Speaker 1: What happened with her?
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  Speaker 4: Santana? Are you in the vowel? Is it polite? Is
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  Speaker 4: it impolite?
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  Speaker 8: It is super impolite.
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  Speaker 4: Good morning in Santana.
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  Speaker 8: It is super impolized. I had a colleague who every
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  Speaker 8: time I go to work, because she would ask me,
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  Speaker 8: how much is the drecuary? How much is the wachuary?
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  Speaker 8: I stay in the vowel and work in legrand. She
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  Speaker 8: would get to a point where you should ask me,
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  Speaker 8: how much fuel do you put into your vehicle every week?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's a good question to ask because obviously
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  Speaker 1: I want to know because you're driving far and I
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  Speaker 1: want to know what your feel efficiency is.
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  Speaker 8: Actually, why what are you going to do with not
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  Speaker 8: especially if you ask me how much I've bought my
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  Speaker 8: house for. I think now you're just trying to get
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  Speaker 8: into my space. And yeah, no, and.
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  Speaker 2: Also I'm assuming she's never going to come to your house.
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  Speaker 4: So why do you see what you care?
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  Speaker 2: What's something in the east Land, because when you live
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  Speaker 2: in a centurion, it's not your business.
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  Speaker 4: Leave me alone instead of my partner.
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  Speaker 1: Do I want to move to the East Rand, Then.
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  Speaker 4: Get yourself in a state agent.
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  Speaker 2: And they can tell you how much properties are going for.
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  Speaker 1: I don't sell houses Santana. Let me ask. Does it
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  Speaker 1: matter if it's the big things or the little things?
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  Speaker 1: I feel the big things are easier to ask everything.
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  Speaker 8: It does not matter. It does not matter anything. Don't
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  Speaker 8: ask me how much it is.
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  Speaker 4: Don't ask it. Just don't ask people how much does costs?
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  Speaker 1: So how much is it to live in the ball At.
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  Speaker 8: The moment, it's not that bad.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, there's a great answer. You don't have to tell me.
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  Speaker 1: I'll go google it.
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  Speaker 8: No, but it gets irritating if you ask me all
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  Speaker 8: the time. Yeah, and you're just trying to get into
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  Speaker 8: my skin.
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  Speaker 2: And something tells me that you would follow up because
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  Speaker 2: Santana's it's not that bad. Oh what's not that bad
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  Speaker 2: for you? Do you know what I'm saying? You pocket watching?
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  Speaker 2: You pocket watching, and you're stopping. You must stop it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, look, I mean, Santana. To be fair, I don't
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  Speaker 1: ask all the time, and I have said this, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not walking around asking everyone what it costs.
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  Speaker 2: But the reason we're having this conversation is because there
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  Speaker 2: are people out there who are listening who are doing
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  Speaker 2: that or asking how much everything costs? Yeah, everything, And
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  Speaker 2: it's us frustrating because you don't and it's it's it's
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  Speaker 2: a thing. They just don't get it. They just don't
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  Speaker 2: get it. Sabrina, welcome back. Were you not from you
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  Speaker 2: in a while?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I typically think it's rude, but I've also reached
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  Speaker 3: something that said, when people ask you how much your
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  Speaker 3: house costs, so you are it's to see the level
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  Speaker 3: of respect that they need to give you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, this also goes with them people ask you what
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  Speaker 2: you do for a living immediately when you just meet,
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  Speaker 2: Oh hi, how are you?
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  Speaker 1: What do you do? Wait?
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  Speaker 3: So when people ask me how much my risk costs
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  Speaker 3: or something, I mean, I find you know I have any.
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  Speaker 1: So cheap, cheap.
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  Speaker 2: Then you see with that, I feel like I've opened
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  Speaker 2: the conversation.
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  Speaker 4: Like Cyndy was saying, so because.
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  Speaker 2: If I get something, oh she I'm like, oh my word,
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  Speaker 2: this is she is special. It was only one hundred
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  Speaker 2: and fifty. And then we go as first, oh, how
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  Speaker 2: did you get it on there? Then you go onto
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  Speaker 2: the app and you like, this is the code I used,
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  Speaker 2: you know, knock yourself out.
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  Speaker 4: But that's me offering.
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  Speaker 2: If I come to you and say, oh, my word,
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  Speaker 2: finally signed the bond on my house, got my bond
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  Speaker 2: got approved, you know, five million, then then I'm opening
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  Speaker 2: the doors. Go ahead, you can probe, but I don't
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  Speaker 2: think you are allowed to ask.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't think you are.
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  Speaker 3: Anneally. I think you know what, if you really want
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  Speaker 3: to know how much I much property, go on property
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  Speaker 3: twenty four Google and go see how much other house
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  Speaker 3: is in that area.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't know that you can do that hour twoday
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  Speaker 2: years old.
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  Speaker 4: Frank you opened the show.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't know that you can just go and check
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  Speaker 2: how much because I feel that as soon as it's
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  Speaker 2: they pull it off.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but often when you've bought it, that's just come
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  Speaker 1: down or they leave it their assault so they can
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  Speaker 1: promote their real estate company. So often you'll find that
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  Speaker 1: listing and you can still and if it's still there,
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  Speaker 1: you can still see if you know, if you know
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  Speaker 1: exactly where.
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  Speaker 2: So the trick here then is for me to not
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  Speaker 2: tell anybody I bought a house until they pull it down.
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  Speaker 1: But that's it. So you want to then you never know. No,
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  Speaker 1: then all you could because the property records are there
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  Speaker 1: and it will still show you a property twenty four
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  Speaker 1: how much does especially if it's in a complex of
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  Speaker 1: Italian number nineteen sold for that in that year, you
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  Speaker 1: can go. I mean you might have to wait a
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  Speaker 1: little while, but it's possible. Can you see that? Can
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  Speaker 1: you see that? I like to check how my house
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  Speaker 1: is caught?
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  Speaker 4: Definitely, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Back to making your morning and La and the club
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  Speaker 1: I Love on ninety four seven