Latest / The Manifestation Station / Ep 65. The Tell Them Theory: Change a life

Transcript

Ep 65. The Tell Them Theory: Change a life · The Manifestation Station

0:07
You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
0:11
I'm your host Holly Edwards and together we can help create your magic.
0:21
Hello you gorgeous manifestors and welcome back to another episode of The Manifestation Station.
0:29
I'm so happy you're here. However your day is looking right now,
0:34
for me, right at this very moment, the sun is out, life is good,
0:40
spring is in the air in the UK, everyone.
0:43
And I just hope your energy is on fire,
0:47
is on point, because I don't
0:51
know if I've told you this before but you can
0:54
manifest anything you like yes
0:57
that's why you're here hopefully you'll listen
1:00
to this episode feel inspired go out
1:03
face the world and put a smile on
1:06
your face because that is what we're talking about I want this episode to feel
1:10
like a big warm hug a big reset maybe even spark a little little little little
1:19
something inside of you because today's episode is so simple.
1:24
And so powerful. It is something that you can do to shift your mood and most
1:31
importantly, completely turn around someone else's day.
1:36
And honestly, even ripple out into the world in ways that you can't even see.
1:42
That is what we're talking about today.
1:44
You are going to make an impact on someone's day and that will ripple into the
1:50
world, acts of kindness,
1:52
acts of happiness, this spreading your good vibe energy, and also thinking about what that can do for you.
2:00
So you may be thinking, Holly, what are you talking about?
2:04
Please get into the episode. Well, you may have read a book called Let Them by Mel Robbins.
2:10
I've spoken about it on the podcast, The Let Them Theory, which I have to say,
2:15
I have fully adopted in my life.
2:17
And if you haven't heard my episode or if you haven't read her book and you
2:22
have no idea what we're talking about go back a few episodes mine's called let
2:26
them something or utilizing the let them theory in real life.
2:30
In very, very short terms, it's basically not overstressing and trying to orchestrate
2:38
how other people deal with things, other people in your life,
2:42
the way that they react, how they are sorting their lives out.
2:45
And simply just let them, taking that stress off of yourself and just letting
2:50
them, let them do their thing. Don't let it infiltrate your energy.
2:54
That's not what we're about today, what I am talking about to you today is a
2:59
theory that I was thinking about recently and I thought we're not talking about the let them theory.
3:06
Today we are talking about the tell them theory. Tell them theory.
3:14
What is the tell them theory? So let me just paint a little picture for you.
3:19
So you think something nice and then you don't say it.
3:23
So you notice, you know, like sometimes maybe you go out for brunch with your
3:28
friends or you go for a coffee and you notice your friend looks amazing,
3:32
but you just smile and move on. You don't say anything.
3:35
Now there's nothing wrong with that, by the way, but I think this happens a
3:39
lot, right? I often do it.
3:41
I don't know if my mum is listening to this podcast, but I'll quite often be
3:45
sitting with my mum and I'm like, wow, her skin looks amazing.
3:49
She looks so pretty today. Or maybe she's glowing.
3:52
And I'm like, actually, sometimes I'm just noticing it, but I'm not actually verbalizing it.
3:58
So maybe you go out, maybe your waiter is so kind and so attentive,
4:02
but you just say thank you and you leave.
4:05
You see someone maybe online who inspires you or has posted some content that
4:11
has really touched you and you maybe smile, but then you scroll past it. We all do it.
4:17
It's a very normal thing in life.
4:19
We all do it. But the tell them theory is this.
4:22
If you think something kind, I urge you to tell them.
4:28
That is it. This is no overthinking, no thinking and talking yourself out of
4:34
it, thinking is this weird?
4:36
No, do they know this already?
4:39
Maybe they do. Maybe they've had 10 compliments today. Who cares?
4:43
Your only job today is to tell them because here it is guys,
4:49
because what if that one sentence was exactly what they needed that day?
4:56
What if that one sentence changed the makeup and the trajectory of their day
5:03
onto a positive frequency.
5:06
Your one compliment, your one kind word, your sentence that could change someone's day.
5:15
Just think of how powerful that is and how impactful that one little thing that
5:22
you have decided to do or you have decided to say and how that can change into the world.
5:29
This matters more than you might think. So let's be honest for a while.
5:36
The world can feel really heavy, can't it, at the moment?
5:41
There is so much going on. I'm sometimes trying to stay away from the news.
5:46
I feel like everyone's struggling, aren't they?
5:50
There's wars going on. There's a cost of living crisis.
5:53
People are having a really hard time. And I think watching the news can really bring you down.
5:59
There's so much going on. People are stressed, people overwhelmed,
6:03
just trying to survive. We're tired.
6:06
And everyone's dealing with something that we probably know nothing about.
6:11
And in a world like that, that very world that we are living in at this exact moment is.
6:18
Kindness isn't small it is
6:21
so powerful it stands out it
6:24
shifts energy and the most beautiful beautiful
6:27
part of it it's free it costs
6:30
us nothing it's instant it creates instant
6:34
impact and it is available to you at any given moment it is available for you
6:41
right now and you literally have the ability to change someone's entire day
6:48
just by saying the thing that you were already thinking.
6:52
I really want you to think about that for the moment and just think about how
6:56
powerful you are to have the impact to change someone's day. And it's really true.
7:03
I mean, if you think of a time where maybe someone said to you, wow, do you know what?
7:08
You look really great or that dress looks stunning on you, or you are handling
7:14
this situation so well, or you are thriving, it just lifts you.
7:20
You carry yourself a little bit differently. You walk a little bit taller.
7:25
You feel, sometimes you feel on top of the world and you think, wow.
7:29
And you quite often think throughout
7:31
the day, wow, what a lovely moment that was. Wow, I feel lifted.
7:36
Maybe it might urge you to kind of compliment someone else because you are fully
7:42
charged with this positive energy from having received this lovely kind comment.
7:48
And, you know, let's make it really real in every really day life.
7:53
Now, if you're in a coffee shop, maybe your barista smiles, maybe makes,
7:59
has a little chat with you, makes you feel seen.
8:01
I always notice how people retell you stories when they've had a nice moment
8:09
of connection with someone.
8:11
So if that's someone, like I say, your barista, or maybe it's the person in
8:15
the local shop or the bakery or someone at work or a delivery driver.
8:21
And if you think about moments where you think you have a little connection,
8:26
maybe they made some chat with you.
8:28
I quite often see people retell these stories and they come back to the table
8:32
and they go, that waitress, that barista was so lovely. They said this and they said that.
8:41
And you can see their energy shift and you can tell by the way that they want
8:45
to retell you this story.
8:47
Because this act of kindness, this act of making someone feel seen,
8:53
it makes you feel special. It makes you feel alive.
8:56
So if you are in the coffee shop and your barista smiles, makes lovely chat
9:01
with you, maybe makes you feel seen, instead of just taking your coffee and
9:05
going, you know, leaving and saying thanks.
9:09
Just take a moment. This will honestly, I tell you, I can't tell you how groundbreaking
9:15
this is and how it will make you feel and how it will make them feel.
9:19
So instead of just leaving with a coffee, tell them.
9:23
You just say before you leave, by the way, you're so lovely.
9:26
You've absolutely made my morning. Thank you.
9:29
Can you imagine if that was you and you serve someone? Maybe you work in a shop
9:32
or wherever you're serving customers and someone said, by the way,
9:36
I just want to tell you, you're really, really lovely. and you've made my morning today.
9:40
You would feel amazing. Now, that person might have been on a,
9:45
you know, six, eight hour shift, maybe at the end of a stressful shift,
9:50
you don't know what they've got going on in their private life.
9:53
Maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe they just really needed to hear that.
9:58
And again, you have had, you have given kind of your power over,
10:05
you've offered your power to change that person's day.
10:09
And they might go home later and think about you and think, wow.
10:15
That customer was so kind to me.
10:18
They made me feel amazing. Now, isn't that great? And actually,
10:22
this reminds me of a time last year and I had got the train to Liverpool Street.
10:28
And I was trying to think about when I was doing my notes for this episode,
10:31
I can't remember what had happened to me that day. But I had got the train to
10:36
Liverpool Street and I can't remember where I was going.
10:39
And I went into Pratt to get a coffee.
10:42
And I remember feeling you know
10:45
when you are I'd had something happen to me
10:48
and I was in tears behind my sunglasses and
10:52
I thought if anyone speaks to me I just
10:55
ready to burst out crying it was one of those days and
10:57
I can't remember the news that I'd had I remember feeling
11:01
really really tearful and
11:05
really low and I thought god even if someone's kind
11:08
to me I feel like I might cry anyway I remember
11:11
I went into coffee it went into Pret and I
11:14
ordered a coffee and this lady it was
11:18
actually like a weird I don't
11:20
know maybe there was something in the air and she picked up my energy it felt
11:24
like a bit of a weird thing connection with the universe but this lady um she
11:30
kind of made some chat with me and she went wow can I just say she said your
11:36
outfit is amazing She said, you look great.
11:40
She said, oh, sorry. I just really, really had to say that. And I said, oh, my gosh.
11:44
And, you know, bearing in mind, I am in tears behind my glasses.
11:47
And I went, wow, thank you so much.
11:50
And then I was like, look, how's your day? And we had a little chat.
11:53
And it really shifted my energy.
11:57
It really shifted my focus. Now, it doesn't mean that I was jumping around and
12:01
go, wow, I'm so happy. It just was a moment of connection and kindness that
12:06
I absolutely needed at that very moment.
12:10
And she gave me my coffee and she went, there you go, my love.
12:14
And she carried on to serve someone else. And I sat there, I was going to take the coffee away.
12:19
And I sat there for a minute, just sorting my bag out. And I thought,
12:21
I have an absolute urge that I have to tell her how she has made me feel today.
12:29
I have to tell her how amazing she is or the...
12:32
She's amazing or something and there was just a little moment where she'd sort
12:36
of stepped away from the customer and I said oh excuse me sure is everything
12:39
all right with your coffee and I said,
12:41
actually it's going to make me emotional I don't know why I feel emotional saying this
12:44
but I think it's triggering what I was feeling that day and I said yeah everything's
12:49
fine with the coffee I said I'm really sorry to to interrupt you can I just
12:52
say I'm feeling I've had a really really bad morning this morning and I said
12:58
and you have been amazing and actually you've given me a reason to smile today.
13:04
Honestly, I'm getting choked up talking about it.
13:06
And she went, oh, oh my God. She kind of grabbed her heart and she went, wow.
13:13
She went, thank you so much. She said, that is the nicest thing that anybody
13:18
has ever said to me. She said, can I give you a hug?
13:21
And I was like, yeah, you can imagine me behind my glasses in tears like, oh.
13:26
And she came around, she gave me a hug and she went, thank you for being so
13:29
kind. And I said, no, no, no.
13:30
Thank you for being so kind and it was such
13:34
a significant moment and
13:37
it made me think like why are we
13:40
not telling people why are we not telling people in that moment what we think
13:46
if we're thinking something lovely if we think they look nice if we think they
13:50
are being really strong in a situation that they're dealing with if you know
13:54
someone has served you amazingly in a shop it take the time,
14:00
take the time sometimes I say this to
14:02
people and they feel a little bit embarrassed and they
14:05
kind of look and they go I want to tell that waitress that they were really
14:07
good but I'm best not to and I'm like there is nothing absolutely nothing and
14:12
no reason to be embarrassed by absolutely not you have the power to change the
14:18
world honestly in that moment like please do not shy away from it,
14:23
and I think there is something so powerful and I'm going to get into this a
14:29
little bit more in a minute but just while I'm on a roll is that.
14:33
There is something about kindness that is so underrated because what happens
14:41
is that if you offer that kindness to someone, and can I just say,
14:45
this is like a genuine compliment.
14:47
It doesn't mean that you go out today and go, right, I'm going to make up a
14:51
compliment to my friend and say she looks really nice.
14:54
No, this is not that. This is just being open and being present and noticing.
15:00
And when you notice something nice, tell someone.
15:03
Even your partner, this happens a lot, is that sometimes we look at our partner
15:08
and we think, wow, they look really good looking today, or maybe their skin
15:11
looks good, or that thing that they just said to me really made me feel amazing. Tell them.
15:17
So often we just carry on with life, or you might be off the back of an argument,
15:22
or whatever it is, just stop and say, thank you for doing that thing.
15:26
That really, really made me smile that really made my
15:28
day or you look really handsome today or you
15:32
know whatever it is just stop and tell them so
15:35
this thing with kindness it has this
15:38
ripple effect and I
15:40
actually think it's so powerful and magical that
15:45
you can impact someone's day for the
15:48
better they will carry that with them it's like
15:51
you propel them on to a really positive frequency they might then you know offer
15:58
that kindness and that energy to other people close to them and they in turn
16:03
will offer energy to the next people and the next people so your one simple sentence is
16:09
is changing the world because it's rippling out tenfold.
16:13
So if you're with a friend and you think, God, they looked good today.
16:20
Maybe their outfit looks amazing. Maybe their skin's glowing.
16:24
Maybe they're going through absolute hell in a relationship.
16:27
Maybe they're dealing with a breakup or with a colleague at work.
16:31
Maybe just stop and tell her.
16:34
Just say, you look really nice
16:37
today you look really nice or even deeper
16:41
like say look you seem so confident later
16:44
lately you look so confident lately it's
16:47
really inspiring and just watch her
16:50
face watch how she carries herself for the
16:53
rest of the day why would you not want to
16:55
spread that love and to spread that positive energy and
16:59
it's the same with social media that if you
17:03
are scrolling on instagram and someone
17:06
posts something that makes you stop in your
17:08
tracks maybe it makes you feel motivated maybe it
17:11
makes you feel seen or inspired sometimes
17:15
like instead of just liking it or actually what
17:18
a lot of people do is that they just carry on scrolling they might go oh that
17:21
was really insightful and they carry on scrolling just
17:25
stop maybe give it a little like and
17:28
then tell them you don't realize the impact
17:32
of your words stop tell them send a message
17:35
maybe comment on their page or send them a private message and
17:38
say hi look I just wanted to say that this really really helped me today thank
17:42
you for posting this that person even if they have hundreds or even thousands
17:48
of comments I guarantee you that kindness that love spreads in the exact same
17:54
way as the examples that I was using earlier.
17:57
And on that note, if you're not following me on social media, please do.
18:01
I'm always trying to post free content. I want to make you feel inspired,
18:04
maybe put a smile on your face.
18:06
I'm at thehollyedwards on Instagram.
18:09
And for all of you who have sent me messages, I quite often receive a DM or
18:15
a comment saying, do you know what?
18:17
This really made me feel something today, or I really needed this today.
18:21
Thank you for posting it.
18:22
And it has the same effect. There are sometimes, especially as a content creator,
18:27
is that you can post and sometimes feel like, is anyone seeing it?
18:31
Even if it's got thousands or
18:32
like recently I've had a video that has had like over a million viewers.
18:37
And sometimes you really think, has it made an impact?
18:40
Did it, you know, did it stop someone in their tracks and did it touch someone?
18:45
To actually hear that it has is honestly just, it touches me every single time.
18:51
I never, never lose that excitement or that happiness or that kind of.
19:00
Feeling of just yumminess if someone says thank
19:03
you thank you for this this is this is what I
19:06
needed and this ripple effect that
19:08
I talk about this is where it's more powerful it's
19:12
not just about igniting that spark or helping someone jump onto that positive
19:19
frequency yes that is amazing in itself but here's where this becomes more than
19:25
just a nice idea let's say let's say you compliment someone.
19:30
They feel good. That feeling doesn't stop there.
19:33
They go on with their day feeling lighter, happier, more confident. Then what happens?
19:40
Maybe they smile at someone else. Maybe they're more patient in a queue.
19:45
Maybe they send a kind message to someone or they compliment someone else.
19:50
And suddenly, this is what I was talking about before,
19:53
suddenly your one small moment has
19:56
impacted another five people and you
20:00
know what happens and then those five people impact
20:04
five more people it's like
20:07
an invisible web of magical kindness
20:10
all starting from your one simple choice and
20:14
that is you deciding to tell them that
20:18
is how simple this theory is
20:21
and there's something else in
20:24
this too it changes you
20:28
as well and here's the part that you
20:31
might love the most this isn't just
20:34
about the other people whilst we are offering this connection and this kindness
20:40
in this moment to someone else and I do think that's so important But I do have
20:45
to say that there is a side effect
20:46
to this and the side effect is that you receive a positive change too.
20:53
This changes you as well because...
20:58
When you actively look for things to compliment, and this is why I was saying
21:03
we're not giving fake compliments, we're not trying to think of something.
21:06
This is asking you to open up your eyes and genuinely look and actively seek things to compliment.
21:15
When you train your brain to notice the good, you naturally become more positive.
21:21
This is what we talk about, isn't it? In the law of attraction,
21:24
we talk about gratitude.
21:25
The more gratitude we give, your brain, your energy kicks into gear.
21:30
It will naturally look and seek and find more things to be grateful for.
21:36
What we focus on grows and it multiplies. So where our focus goes, our energy flows.
21:43
So when you are actively looking for things to complement, your brain starts
21:48
to notice the good. You naturally become more positive.
21:52
You become more present, more open-hearted. And it's like you rewire your mind
21:58
to scan for the beauty instead of problems.
22:01
Now, what does this do? We know that you, in the world of the law of attraction,
22:07
you are like a magnet and whatever you are putting out into the world is what comes back to you.
22:12
So if you are being more positive, more present, more open-hearted,
22:16
more seeking the good in people, you attract back more of that goodness to yourself.
22:23
You attract back more people who are full of goodness, more experiences that are full of goodness.
22:29
And you are rewiring your mind to scan for beauty.
22:34
And what happens is your mood will lift, your energy will shift and you become more magnetic.
22:42
It is that simple. It's like you suddenly are walking around with this invisible glow around you.
22:50
I always talk about with the law of attraction, you have to imagine that you
22:54
are a big walking magnet.
22:58
And I also think with this theory the
23:01
tell them theory you create this
23:03
invisible glow around you kind of within
23:06
the magnetic field around you and what happens you suck and attract in all of
23:13
this more kind of glowy beautiful connections and moments you become magnetic
23:20
so there are practical ways that you can utilize this.
23:24
And what I would love for you to do is to leave this episode and go off and
23:30
put this tell them theory into practice.
23:34
And let's make it super easy to implement, especially if perhaps this doesn't
23:39
come naturally to you straight away.
23:41
Perhaps you feel a little bit more shy and you feel embarrassed to say something to someone.
23:46
Maybe you kind of feel reserved or you feel like they're going to feel like
23:50
you're silly or that they're going to judge you or the person behind will judge
23:54
you, or maybe you think that they'll go, oh, I've heard this before.
23:56
This is really embarrassing.
23:58
I guarantee you this can never fail.
24:02
It just can't. And even if someone just goes, oh, thanks, and walks off and
24:06
you think, oh, I don't know if they love that.
24:08
I guarantee you it will still affect them in a positive way.
24:14
But if you are struggling with that, maybe you are a little bit shyer.
24:17
Maybe also there are times when if you're having a bad day or you're struggling,
24:22
sometimes it's quite hard to...
24:25
Seek that connection and to offer someone kindness not
24:28
because you're not being kind but you kind of haven't got the the
24:31
energy or that emotional energy to kind of
24:34
say to someone look you look really great you look really
24:37
great sometimes you just haven't got it in you but I really think it's important
24:40
to dig deep if you can because it will help them it will help the people around
24:47
them and it will help you in turn so what are some ways that you could start
24:52
doing this today so And once you leave this podcast, once you leave this episode,
24:56
maybe you could just text a friend out of nowhere.
24:59
And I'm actually going to do this. I'm going to follow my own advice.
25:02
That's what I like to do on the manifestation station. Follow my own advice.
25:06
Maybe just text a friend out of nowhere.
25:09
Just maybe just say, I'm just thinking of you like you're such a good person.
25:13
Or say, you know, hi, you just popped into my head.
25:16
Thanks for being a great friend. or hey you
25:19
was thinking about you thanks for that bit
25:22
of advice the other day or thanks for always
25:25
having my back or I was just thinking about you and you made me smile something
25:30
lovely something nice text a friend out of nowhere honestly we should tell the
25:36
people around us that we love them if we do we should tell people around us
25:41
that they're amazing if they've done something amazing,
25:43
if they've made us feel a certain way, if they keep showing up for you and they
25:48
back you, make sure you tell them.
25:51
Maybe you could voice note someone you love and tell them why you appreciate them.
25:56
And again, we're reverting back to perhaps even telling your partner.
26:00
Maybe, you know, sometimes we're living and your partner's grafting to help
26:05
pay the mortgage. Maybe you keep the home lovely or maybe it's the other way around.
26:09
Whatever it is you do, maybe one of you is cooking the dinner all the time.
26:12
Just stop and say, hey, thank you for being such a great provider.
26:16
I really, really appreciate it. It's one of the things I love about you.
26:19
Or hey you look really great in that outfit today or maybe voice note someone
26:25
you love and tell them why you appreciate them.
26:28
Maybe a friend, a sibling, a parent, an auntie, whoever it is just say look
26:35
hey I was just thinking about you I don't know if I've told you this recently
26:39
but I love you and this is the reason why.
26:42
How lovely and I don't think this happens enough.
26:47
The other thing you could do is maybe leave a genuine
26:50
comment on someone's post instead of just liking and
26:53
scrolling I guarantee you it will mean the
26:56
world to someone and if there's a post
26:59
that you enjoy or maybe someone looks really great
27:02
in a post just go wow you know you're looking amazing
27:05
or this content has really inspired me
27:08
thank you for posting just to give that boost to
27:11
someone maybe you could compliment a
27:14
stranger and yes I do mean
27:17
a stranger sometimes it's even better and just say look I love your outfit or
27:22
I love the color of your hair or I love your shoes or you know that service
27:28
you've given me like you've been amazing today thank you so much or you know
27:32
I love your smile whatever that may be.
27:35
Maybe thank someone properly instead of just saying thanks quickly.
27:39
Like give a really meaningful thanks to someone. So if you have had really good
27:44
service in a restaurant, just say, hey, I just want you to know like you've been so attentive.
27:49
Thank you so much for looking after us today.
27:52
What a lovely moment to just give something a little bit deeper than just a thank you.
27:57
And I've said this one, I've said this one already, but it's still on my list.
28:00
So tell your partner something you admire about them that you don't say enough.
28:05
So what is something that your partner may regularly do, but maybe sometimes
28:09
we don't stop, say it out loud, or maybe give them enough credit for,
28:14
like I said, thank you for providing for us.
28:15
Or sometimes it's even like, hey, look, thanks for paying the bills every month.
28:21
If you have got someone who helps with the bills or, you know,
28:25
thank you for putting fuel in my car or thank you for cooking me an amazing
28:29
dinner tonight. I really appreciate it.
28:31
Thank you for putting a load of washing on. That means the world to me.
28:35
Whatever it is that your partner has done, maybe something you admire and just tell them.
28:42
So here is a little challenge for you guys. I want to set you a little challenge
28:47
so you can kind of put this into practice.
28:50
I would love to hear how you get on with it.
28:53
You've got my Instagram by now. You can DM me. I'm also, so I'm at thehollyedwards
28:57
and I'm also at the manifestation station.
29:00
So for the next 24 hours, act on every kind thought you have.
29:06
That's it. That's all you have to do. There's no filtering.
29:09
There's no holding back. There's no getting shy and not delivering.
29:13
If you think it, I want you to say it.
29:16
And just take notice how people respond, how you feel afterwards and what shifts in your energy.
29:26
That's your only task. so no holding back if you think it and it's a kind thought
29:31
say it that's it tell them,
29:34
tell them theory because I promise you something will shift.
29:38
Something will shift inside of you and you won't regret it.
29:42
And, you know, there are times we do hold back. You know, let's also talk about
29:47
why we don't do this all the time.
29:49
Sometimes we think, oh, maybe they already know that thing.
29:52
You know, I remember I was in Manchester with my partner and we had this lovely meal and this girl,
29:58
this waitress who was serving us
30:00
she was so stunning that I
30:03
could not stop looking at her and she was
30:06
the spitting image of Ariana Grande and I kept looking at her thinking I should
30:11
really tell her that I should really and then I kept getting embarrassed I'm
30:14
like why tell them and I said I'm so sorry I said I bet you get this all the
30:18
time but you really look like Ariana Grande and she laughed and she went thank
30:22
you I do get that all the time and I thought wow can you imagine if you got told.
30:26
You look like Ariana Grande all the time. But she went, but thank you.
30:31
That is really sweet. That's a real honor.
30:33
And she walked away and she still smiled, even though she gets told it all the time.
30:37
So other reasons we might hold back, we might feel awkward.
30:40
What if they think I'm weird? If you're like, hey, you've got a really nice
30:43
smile. Are they going to think we're coming on to them?
30:46
No. Who cares what anyone thinks? That goes into the let them theory.
30:50
If they really did think it was weird just let
30:53
them doesn't matter you're the powerful one that you're the
30:56
one that's in control you're the one that's confident tell them
30:59
i guarantee you they won't feel like that that's what i would say here is the
31:04
truth no one absolutely no one ever gets tired of hearing something kind about
31:10
themselves that is the truth that is the statement of the year no one ever gets
31:14
tired of hearing something kind about themselves ever Yeah.
31:19
And if it feels awkward, if it feels awkward, kind of just going,
31:22
oh, excuse me, I want to tell you something.
31:24
It lasts two seconds and that awkwardness is gone. And actually,
31:28
as well as feeling an energy shift, you will feel quite empowered,
31:32
especially if you've got over a little bit of awkwardness.
31:35
The feeling you give them, that, that, that, that, that, that,
31:40
oh my God, the result of that, the impact of that is huge.
31:44
And that can last all day long.
31:47
And this is about you becoming a beacon
31:51
of happiness because if you became known as
31:54
that person the one who lifts people
31:57
up the one who makes people feel good the
32:00
one who notices the good the one who makes
32:03
people feel seen be the
32:06
light in the world that's why I always say to people be the light imagine that
32:10
person that always makes you feel good maybe they compliment you or they are
32:16
present and they are looking at you and they are calling out compliments and
32:20
they make you feel good. Those are the people that you want to be around.
32:23
Because in a world where people are quick to criticize, compare or stay silent,
32:30
especially on social media, you have chosen to shine.
32:35
You choose to be the beacon of light. And honestly, that is powerful energy to carry around.
32:43
So to summarize the tell them theory, it's not complicated.
32:49
It doesn't require more time, more money or more effort.
32:55
It just simply requires intention. That is it. It's as simple as that.
33:00
It's awareness, a little bit of courage, but the impact is huge.
33:06
Kindness spreads like wildfire energy spreads
33:10
it's like magic honestly and you never know how
33:14
far your words will travel you'll never
33:17
actually you will never find that out how you
33:20
have impacted that person for the rest of the day maybe the
33:23
following day and the people around them you'll never know how far your words
33:28
will go so today and every day if you think something kind please tell them
33:36
because your words might be the light that someone didn't know they needed.
33:42
So thank you so much for listening today. I feel quite inspired and uplifted
33:46
talking about the tell them theory actually.
33:49
So I hope you do too and if
33:52
you have enjoyed this episode please share it with a friend and if you get a
33:55
chance to just give it some stars on Apple and if you get a chance to write
34:00
a review you will be doing your little bit of kindness today and you will make
34:04
me smile so thank you so much and thank you so much for all of those who have
34:07
rated, reviewed and subscribed.
34:10
So that's it from me and I would just love to say to you, go out into the world,
34:16
look for the magic and don't just notice it, say it out loud. Goodbye.