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DLHS Hour 2 | Hair Stylist Refuses to Put Blonde Hair in Child · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: It is the dal You can show your twenty twenty
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  Speaker 1: six edition. Take a listen to this.
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  Speaker 2: Tancert going on top of this. It's not too late.
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  Speaker 1: You're not doing yet.
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  Speaker 2: You're not done yet.
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  Speaker 3: I know that I'm not done yet.
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  Speaker 4: I want to shoot.
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  Speaker 1: She's no, I cannot do doublonde. No, she's young, she's
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  Speaker 1: too young. But that's my child and we request blowing.
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  Speaker 4: Why did you bring out to the show for me
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  Speaker 4: to do her hair? Then she's your child, but you
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  Speaker 4: bring out to.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I'd be okay.
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  Speaker 5: She wants blond in her hair now, I think, and
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  Speaker 5: you don't want to say that is I don't want to.
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  Speaker 1: I can't. I don't want to play into a stereotype.
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  Speaker 5: But remember a long time, not even a long time
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  Speaker 5: earlier this year, when black women were talking about getting
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  Speaker 5: together and Bannie and boycotting those shops because they felt
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  Speaker 5: that there was an inherent level of disrespect that was
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  Speaker 5: meted out towards.
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  Speaker 1: Them, right yep.
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  Speaker 5: I think this woman, the owner of this shop, personifies
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  Speaker 5: everything that a lot of people were saying about their
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  Speaker 5: energy actions with this particular industry genre. And I think
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  Speaker 5: one of the things you put three things in a situation,
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  Speaker 5: black women, hair and money, and you're gonna have everything
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  Speaker 5: got to be dotted in eyes.
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  Speaker 1: And then you want tips and it's all kinds of stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And then I got to be here, and you know
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  Speaker 1: it's it's just there needs.
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  Speaker 5: To be at least a a level of respect.
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  Speaker 1: And and and and you know, like courteousness.
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  Speaker 5: That you like it shouldn't be like I'm doing something
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  Speaker 5: like and and even though I don't think, I think
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  Speaker 5: she absolutely has the right to decide what she allows
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  Speaker 5: and un shopping with age and all that. Her affect,
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  Speaker 5: the way she spoke, the in her actions, the things
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  Speaker 5: she said, I just get them prisoned.
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  Speaker 1: She when they've done that to a white woman. M. Well,
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  Speaker 1: but I might have done it to anybody I'm anymore.
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  Speaker 5: But I just I don't. It was a little stank attitude.
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  Speaker 5: It was very stinky. And it's the kind of thing
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  Speaker 5: that is exhibited a lot when I've seen people from
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  Speaker 5: here and people from there.
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  Speaker 1: It is a kind of almost a disdain they seem
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  Speaker 1: to have for us. Yeah, you see what I'm saying, Sanders,
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  Speaker 1: I do.
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  Speaker 6: I just I have two gripes about it. Number One,
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  Speaker 6: you know, you are in business and the business is braids, right,
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  Speaker 6: and it's to make money. So you know, if I
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  Speaker 6: come in and you see me come in with my daughter,
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  Speaker 6: I booked the appointment beforehand, and I'm pretty sure she
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  Speaker 6: told her it was a kid, because typically you do
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  Speaker 6: that when you book appointments. You know, if you had
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  Speaker 6: some kind of restrictions, you should have said that up front.
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  Speaker 6: The other thing is, I'm not paying you for your opinion.
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  Speaker 6: If you are doing your daughter's hair and you think
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  Speaker 6: that she's too young to have blonde braids or a few,
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  Speaker 6: because her hair is already done.
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  Speaker 4: Basically, she just wants blonde pieces.
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  Speaker 6: If you're doing your own daughter's hair, you can have
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  Speaker 6: whatever opinion you want to and you don't have to
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  Speaker 6: do her hair. But what you're not going to do
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  Speaker 6: is tell me what I can and what I can't
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  Speaker 6: do with my daughter's hair. After you sat and you've
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  Speaker 6: already basically completed the braid, and I'm giving my permission.
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  Speaker 6: So it's not like my daughter came in on her
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  Speaker 6: own and you said, you know what, I need your
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  Speaker 6: mom's permission. I'm standing here and I'm telling you this
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  Speaker 6: is what my.
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  Speaker 1: Daughter look crazy in front of my child. You make
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  Speaker 1: me look right in front of my child, period, and
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  Speaker 1: you have you're very dismissive of that.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's attitude, and it's the only kind of attitude
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  Speaker 5: that people seem to exhibit.
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  Speaker 3: You have.
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  Speaker 5: When you have that attitude, you clearly do not respect
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  Speaker 5: or you have a disdain for the people you're dealing with.
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  Speaker 5: You cannot exhibit the attitude unless that were the case.
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  Speaker 5: Chewing gum and telling somebody what they're gonna do and
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  Speaker 5: not do, even though I believe in it, she had
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  Speaker 5: a right to do it.
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  Speaker 1: Now, who do you think was right? The proprietor of
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  Speaker 1: the customer? Who do you think was right? Skip? What
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  Speaker 1: do you think?
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  Speaker 4: I mean? The customer should always give the one.
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  Speaker 7: Now, if I was gonna lead exactly what they paid for, Yeah,
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  Speaker 7: but I was gonna lean a lot of times. Now
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  Speaker 7: I'm the ball guy talking about hair. But usually when
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  Speaker 7: I've seen women, they usually hey, this is what I
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  Speaker 7: want done coming in when they're making an appointment, and
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  Speaker 7: a lot of it.
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  Speaker 4: If you go in and say I want to perm
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  Speaker 4: but then I wanted naturally.
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  Speaker 7: You know, I think she should have discussed, Hey, I'm
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  Speaker 7: bringing my little girl in and this is what she's
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  Speaker 7: gonna want and I want to do that. And she
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  Speaker 7: could have told you before she got her hands deep
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  Speaker 7: in her hair that she would or would not do that.
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  Speaker 4: I just you know that well.
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  Speaker 6: But I think in this particular case, though, you could
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  Speaker 6: tell the girl got what she wanted because her hair
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  Speaker 6: was just about done. But if you look off in
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  Speaker 6: the background, you could see another young lady getting her
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  Speaker 6: hair done, and it's all blonde. Now a little girl
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  Speaker 6: could have And as women, we do this all the time.
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  Speaker 6: We have a change of heart while we're getting our
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  Speaker 6: hair done. And as a woman who gets her hair
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  Speaker 6: done often you can have a conversation and you I
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  Speaker 6: don't like this. This is too tight. Can you add this?
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  Speaker 6: I didn't want it that way. You have the right
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  Speaker 6: to make all of those changes as long as you're
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  Speaker 6: still in the process of getting your hair done. And
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  Speaker 6: it looked to me like the little girl said, you
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  Speaker 6: know what, I wouldn't mind having some of that blonde hair,
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  Speaker 6: and probably told her And she wasn't finished either way,
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  Speaker 6: whether the mom or the little girl. The lady was
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  Speaker 6: not finished braiding her hair. All she was asking for
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  Speaker 6: was a few pieces to be added in. And you
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  Speaker 6: are well within your rights to ask that, and anybody
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  Speaker 6: who goes to a hairshop and gets their hair done,
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  Speaker 6: you know that to be the case. Clearly, the woman
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  Speaker 6: had an issue with the fact that she didn't want
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  Speaker 6: to do it because she thought the little girl.
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  Speaker 4: Was too young.
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  Speaker 6: Even when you have restaurants and they say no shoes,
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  Speaker 6: no shirt, no service, they're letting you know in advance
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  Speaker 6: what we will and what we won't do. This girl
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  Speaker 6: by the number braid she has. I know that little
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  Speaker 6: girl been in that chair for about three or four hours.
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  Speaker 6: I know that for sure because I get my hair
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  Speaker 6: braided a lot. So you wait till now, until you're
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  Speaker 6: almost finished that. Oh I'm not going to put ad
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  Speaker 6: blonde to it that young and get out, but you
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  Speaker 6: could do that. She wasn't finished.
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  Speaker 4: But I actually agree you should be able to get
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  Speaker 4: what you gottad.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not going to have this conversation continue with a
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  Speaker 5: ball dude and get blind here.
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  Speaker 6: And I got blonde raids right now, so shut up.
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  Speaker 1: I know that's what I said. That's what I said.
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  Speaker 5: Who is right the customer? The customer, as you say,
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  Speaker 5: is always right, or the propriety.
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  Speaker 2: We're gonna go to the phones if that parent feels
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  Speaker 2: that her daughter wants blond hair dependent on dage appropriate this,
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  Speaker 2: then that's what the actual proprietor should have done. She
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  Speaker 2: should not have given her attitude. There are a lot
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  Speaker 2: of us out here who are paying for things, but
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  Speaker 2: a lot of us will say, Okay, what do you
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  Speaker 2: think if my daughter gets this in her hair, and
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  Speaker 2: then we that's when we ask for their opinion. But
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  Speaker 2: if she says, okay, I'd like a little blonde in
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  Speaker 2: her hair, then put her a little streak in hand,
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  Speaker 2: be happy about it, and just charging and keep coming.
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  Speaker 8: I just feel like people.
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  Speaker 1: Are allowed for moves and values.
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  Speaker 8: I get that the lady's tone was a little condescending,
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  Speaker 8: but I would we take my daughter somewhere where they
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  Speaker 8: didn't have as many morals and values, where she could
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  Speaker 8: get the blonde hair put in her hair. So I
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  Speaker 8: just think you can't force it upon anybody. It's their discretion.
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  Speaker 8: So I think she could have changed her tone a
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  Speaker 8: little bit. It was a little harsh to say, how.
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  Speaker 3: Old are you?
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  Speaker 9: You know?
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  Speaker 8: But at the same time, just take your daughter somewhere
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  Speaker 8: where you would be happy to getting the service and
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  Speaker 8: they would be as well happy to do it.
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  Speaker 3: So I think the beauty salon.
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  Speaker 10: In person should just you know, be quiet and do
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  Speaker 10: your job.
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  Speaker 11: It could have been a situation where a parent.
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  Speaker 12: Or guardian and a child had some type of agreement,
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  Speaker 12: you know, maybe the all a's or something, and it
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  Speaker 12: was agreed upon. So if I do your job.
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  Speaker 1: Then it's gonna need to voice opinion.
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  Speaker 12: Is that's what the parent and a child agreed on.
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  Speaker 11: I think the silence is ripe for doing that because
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  Speaker 11: at the end of the day, if the child's parents
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  Speaker 11: are strong enough to hold the color or chemical, then
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  Speaker 11: the silas is that that's all. Her name is on
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  Speaker 11: the line for that, her reputation to be on the
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  Speaker 11: line for that. So I get like people saying, oh, well,
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  Speaker 11: I want to I want whatever I want, what I'm
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  Speaker 11: paying for. But at the end of the day, you know,
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  Speaker 11: all stylists you know aren't going to do that, aren't.
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  Speaker 13: Going to do that.
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  Speaker 11: Their name is assad to that, so they have to
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  Speaker 11: take that take consideration as well. They have the right
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  Speaker 11: to refuse service to anyone.
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  Speaker 14: First of all, I don't think it was an African woman.
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  Speaker 14: I think it was a Caribbean woman. But the nationality
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  Speaker 14: has nothing to do with it. It was an immoral decision,
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  Speaker 14: and the owner of the shop has every right to
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  Speaker 14: say I'm not doing that. So yes, that's her child,
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  Speaker 14: but she has the right as the owner that she's
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  Speaker 14: not going to do that.
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  Speaker 3: What's next?
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  Speaker 1: Piercings, bongs?
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  Speaker 2: Did you need anything you want?
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  Speaker 6: What color do you want?
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  Speaker 13: Blood?
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  Speaker 10: I'm the Sallas.
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  Speaker 6: Do you think we can ask with.
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  Speaker 3: The hair color? No?
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  Speaker 12: No, no, no, no no, no, no, no no no.
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  Speaker 10: Who's right was going write the fous I'm a hairdresser
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  Speaker 10: of forty one years. This is my forty first. I
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  Speaker 10: don't color children's hair, never have, never will, and I
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  Speaker 10: have turned down children in middle school getting color. I
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  Speaker 10: don't do them either. My customers trust my opinion and
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  Speaker 10: I do class of customers. I don't do that low
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  Speaker 10: class looking hair. And I've been doing it forty one
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  Speaker 10: years and my work is published in a major hair
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  Speaker 10: book that is circulated over the world.
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  Speaker 3: It was a situation that just came out recently where
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  Speaker 3: a little boy wore skirt the school and the people
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  Speaker 3: sent them home. I'm just trying to figure out the
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  Speaker 3: difference between going and getting the hair done and somebody
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  Speaker 3: refusing and a little boy wearing a skirt the school
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  Speaker 3: and getting sent home to me as the same ideology
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  Speaker 3: behind it, because at the end of the day, they're
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  Speaker 3: both finding what the child is wearing inappropriate or refusing service.
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  Speaker 3: Per se.
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  Speaker 12: Well, I think the halfstyllars had more color sys than
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  Speaker 12: the mama head. That's ridiculous, want to put color? And
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  Speaker 12: the eight year old head, what's the purpose? And school
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  Speaker 12: should allow that to happen. To know where you went
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  Speaker 12: to schools, that's probably the elementary school age. She shouldn't
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  Speaker 12: going to elementary school with blood as her hair. That's ridiculous.
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  Speaker 12: As a mom, never ever eight years old, that's a
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  Speaker 12: bit ridiculous.
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  Speaker 3: My.
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  Speaker 5: Even though I'm watching a specific situation, I think the
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  Speaker 5: overall situation and the thing that really struck me the
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  Speaker 5: most was the level of disdain and animist that she
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  Speaker 5: permeated for her before one word was said, I just
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  Speaker 5: I just if I if somebody had had that level
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  Speaker 5: of aloofness or standofficeness or snowdiness.
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  Speaker 1: I walked out, Yeah, and it just permeates. And it
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  Speaker 1: cannot be.
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  Speaker 5: It cannot be even he's judging by some of the comments,
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  Speaker 5: it can't be just an imagined thing, because that woman pretty.
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  Speaker 1: Much embodies everything I've ever heard about this scenario.
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  Speaker 6: Right, But that's what I'm saying. When you think about
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  Speaker 6: the amount. Do you know how much money it costs
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  Speaker 6: to get your hair braided?
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  Speaker 1: Does anybody know accident as I do.
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  Speaker 6: It's very, very expensive to get your hair braided. And
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  Speaker 6: depending on what you get, whether you get Mermaid braids
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  Speaker 6: or you get bread, it costs a lot of money.
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  Speaker 6: Give me what I want. Well, what's a thousand dollars
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  Speaker 6: right there? Because I can tell the mom is getting
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  Speaker 6: their hair done too, that's a thousand and twelve hundred
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  Speaker 6: dollars right there.
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  Speaker 4: Give me what I want? Yeah, well it wasn't the
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  Speaker 4: Lego's favorite, ind I'd say something, But.
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  Speaker 1: Now that boy trade is listen with life is like
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  Speaker 1: an XPEC you graduate? My life after the ya my feet,
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  Speaker 1: my feet.
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  Speaker 13: My feet, I love my hands speechee, I love my handpe.
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  Speaker 1: What's good job?
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  Speaker 4: This is that?
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  Speaker 15: With tray back game?
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  Speaker 13: When none of episode in my life after the yard
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  Speaker 13: and inside. Look at HBC graduates, like like so many
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  Speaker 13: other college graduates, I know, getting employed is priority number one.
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  Speaker 13: Right now, we're all running around like chickens. What I
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  Speaker 13: hate is cot off trying to find a job.
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  Speaker 1: And I've been feeling that pressure, especially for my parents.
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  Speaker 13: Every chance my father gets to talk to me about
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  Speaker 13: a job, he does it.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, are you looking for a job? You getting a job?
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  Speaker 5: Oh?
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  Speaker 13: Mess around, go get hired.
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  Speaker 1: Let's don't do it like yeah.
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  Speaker 13: He's been shoving that out my throat.
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  Speaker 1: Pause, and I feel it. I feel the urgency pop.
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  Speaker 13: And you know, that's why we got out here this
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  Speaker 13: week and we started working because my papa was in
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  Speaker 13: town in Atlanta this week not only to just help
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  Speaker 13: me move.
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  Speaker 15: Out my apartment, but also to drag me along to
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  Speaker 15: this Urban Warning convention that happens every year where all
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  Speaker 15: the labels come into town and they present the new artists.
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  Speaker 1: They're trying to push.
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  Speaker 4: Forward all that good stuff.
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  Speaker 9: So with that in mind, me I've been out here
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  Speaker 9: just networking like a mug, will you know, getting myself
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  Speaker 9: introduced to the right people, broadening my network.
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  Speaker 1: It's cool as hell, man.
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  Speaker 13: I got some real cool and important people in my
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  Speaker 13: phone that are messing with your boy right now. And
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  Speaker 13: now you know, I'm trying to find they got a
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  Speaker 13: position for me and all that good stuff so I
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  Speaker 13: can make some money. But outside of all the networking.
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  Speaker 13: It's just been a cool ass experience.
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  Speaker 7: Man.
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  Speaker 4: I got to meet Ludacris today.
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  Speaker 13: Yesterday we were at another meeting and dude running It
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  Speaker 13: got Kanye on the phone.
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  Speaker 1: Yay yeasy. It was cool as hell to hear one
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  Speaker 1: of the Ghats on the phone. It really just opened
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  Speaker 1: my eyes to all the cool stuff that people do
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  Speaker 1: in this industry.
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  Speaker 13: Doing this business, and my pops say it all the time.
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  Speaker 13: He was trying to keep me out of the music business,
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  Speaker 13: but it's hard not to gravitate towards it when you
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  Speaker 13: see your father do amazing things with it.
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  Speaker 1: My dad worked his ass off in this industry and
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  Speaker 1: it paid.
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  Speaker 13: Off, like I never had a struggle for anything, and
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  Speaker 13: he was able to pay for my college off of
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  Speaker 13: this stuff he did working in music. So with that
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  Speaker 13: in mind, I'm like, God, why wouldn't I try to
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  Speaker 13: do the same and more? You know. Anyways, that's all
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  Speaker 13: I got for you all today till next time. There's
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  Speaker 13: been that boy stripe and this has been my life
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  Speaker 13: after the yard and it's I look at the HBCU
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  Speaker 13: graduate's life