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Breaking Free From Toxic Diet Culture With Carrie Lupoli · Non-Toxic Living

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  If we keep going after weight loss, we will innately do things that are very unhealthy.
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  Somebody as a certain size does not necessarily tell us that they're healthy.
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  We know people with cancer, right? They could lose a whole lot of weight and they're probably the
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  most unhealthy they've ever been in their life, right? As they're in that fight. And so the first thing
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  we have to do is do we want weight loss or do we want health? With one, you'll get nothing,
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  truly, because nutrition still teaches caloric deprivation. Yeah, always. It's calories
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  and versus calories now. I still believe in that life. Yes, here's the biggest problem with that
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  life. What are the top questions you need to ask yourself before you do a diet or want weight loss?
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  One, is it based on science designed for our body to thrive? Two, can you do it for the rest of your life?
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  And then number three.
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  Carrie LaPoulli, thanks so much for being on the podcast. What you have to share is probably one of
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  the most important messages out there. I watch my daughters watch these fitness experts, these
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  nutritionists. And they're being so lies about what their body should look like, even how they're
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  exercising. And so many people are skinning themselves to death today. I see it over and over again,
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  GLP one movement. It's now the new cool thing if you're not skinny. It's gross and it needs to be
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  undone and nutritionists need to be disrupted as well, because even their nutritional device.
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  So let's jump right in with this topic of disrupting nutrition. Talk about your new book from
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  corsets to crowns, which I can't wait for you to share about that. So thanks for joining me on
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  the show today. Oh my gosh, I'm thrilled to be here. The whole non-toxic living, we have to.
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  We can't do it justice if we don't also talk about the toxic diet culture. I mean, I'm a conspiracy
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  theorist now to be honest with you, like I don't believe the diet culture, the weight loss industry,
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  the food industry, our healthcare system, our pharmaceutical industry, none of it is out for
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  our best interest. And yet we're being taken over by it, the cultural conditioning of women
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  and girls, but also men and boys is here. And it's something that we have to talk about because
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  we're not living our best lives, we're not living our healthiest lives unless we can actually see
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  this and then do something about it. Yeah, I mean, at the end of the day, you know, it's making
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  sure that our future is protected. And I don't think it's conspiracy theory when you look at the
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  financial gains. No, it's actually true. Yeah, it's not even a theory. It's just true.
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  Yeah, if you look at it, it all comes back to money. Yeah, petroleum connected back to oil,
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  like it's pretty clear. And it's being disrupted and never after our Zoom call, when we first met,
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  when I saw your passion, and what's different about you, I think, is that underneath everything
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  that you're saying, you actually give a rip deeply about this message. And I'm so glad that,
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  you know, your award-winning behavioral specialist, you know your stuff. And so it's like even
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  nutritionist, I see them interacting and justifying diet coke. There should be no justification
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  for diet coke. It's poison to your body. It can cause insulin resistance. Yeah, why would you allow
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  anything into your body that is going to not work for you but work against you? That's not
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  an alignment with your body. Your body can't use it. It doesn't do you any good. But hey,
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  it's the influencers getting paid by the the cola industry, which is another nasty industry.
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  The diet industry is nasty. It's like, so we got to start thinking for themselves. And this is
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  what you want to do is empower people. I mean, I've worked with thousands and thousands of women
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  and men actually. And people will often say like, why do you always talk to women? I'm like,
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  because we're the cog in the wheel of our whole families. And so if we figure this out,
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  our families will figure it out too. But at the end of the day, I've worked with thousands and
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  thousands of women in this time of our lives with social media, with the crazy food industry,
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  with the crazy pharmaceutical industry. And yet they are thriving. So I know it's possible,
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  despite what we've got going on here. But what we have to do is start to think differently,
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  open our eyes and actually approach the whole concept of health with a different definition.
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  And I really figured it out or started figuring out that there was a real problem with what I was
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  doing when my two girls, and I know you have three girls, I had two girls. They're now 19 and 21,
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  which blows my mind. But when they were five and six years old, we had Friday family pizza night.
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  And I never got the pizza. I got salad with dressing on the side because I was always on the diet.
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  I never want to spoke about calories in front of my kids. I was really careful not to do that.
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  And on that night, my five-year-old said to my six-year-old, why is climbing never eat the pizza?
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  And my six-year-old little girl said to her sister because there's too many calories. And I was like,
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  what? How? And it was right then in there I realized that you can't perform your belief system.
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  And my beliefs were that my value was in solely what I looked like. I mean, I was an international
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  behavior specialist. I traveled all around the world speaking. And yet before I would ever get
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  on a stage, I would wait myself to determine if I was valuable enough. I'll tell you to pump
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  yourself up. And if the number wasn't what it should be, then I felt like I did not deserve to be
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  on that stage. And you can't literally have those beliefs and think that you're going to teach
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  the children you're raising any differently. And so I went on a deep journey of self-discovery.
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  I had an eating disorder when I was in college. And I thought I had overcome it. But really,
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  I clearly had it. But as I started talking to other women and other people in my community,
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  we were all feeling the same exact way. We just didn't talk about it. But cultural conditioning
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  is real. And we have all gotten the message that at a certain age, I don't know what age it is,
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  like around eight for me when my mom told me that we had a straight in my hair because curly hair
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  wasn't okay. And beauty will hurt. I realized I got the corset put on me. And it's like we all
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  of us women. And I now believe men as well have been given this corset, not a physical one,
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  but a metaphorical one, an emotional one. One that tells us smaller is better. And in order to have
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  value, you have to keep continuously squeezing and tightening the corset. You have to be smaller
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  in every single way. And you know, like if somebody says, Oh, you look great. It's really
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  code for you look smaller. And we've assimilated this in our culture and the way that we talk,
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  the way we talk to ourselves about ourselves and in front of our kids. And that's really what I am
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  now disrupting the change because in the 10 years that I've been really working in nutrition,
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  I was like, what is going on here? Is it really just about food and what we're eating or is it
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  about something more? Oh, it's it's deep and it's nasty and it's dirty. And you I just had this vision
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  just looking at social media. And I think if anyone can imagine this right now is that all most
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  of these health influencers, males, you don't get that ripped. If you're not on testosterone
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  replacement therapy, you don't you don't look that good. Women, these women influencers can't be
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  that shredded. Some of them could be with a very strict diet without GLP ones, at least
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  read a true Thai GLP three. Yeah. Just to help because women store fat. Yeah, most not all,
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  some some women are very thin. I do have the obesity gene. And I am even on this conversation
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  thinking about more so than my wife, I'm the guy that's not eating the pizza because I don't
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  do well with carbs. And I look at carbs and I get chunky. And so at some level, you're speaking
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  to me. I think I have a corset on my body because I think about I don't I don't do TRT. I don't
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  do any of that stuff to look that way because I'm like, ultimately, I want to be connected to God
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  in nature and be on a farm and be close to my children and be with family and people I choose
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  as family. And just I love that heart to heart connection. That's why we we're here today. That's
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  why you know, you flew in to be on this show because there was a connection. But yet, I still have
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  this BS. And we're going to talk about what is the greatest BS people have today about nutrition,
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  about their self image. But I have his belief system. Maybe if nontoxic dad doesn't look the part,
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  maybe people won't listen to me. Yeah. Just like when you walked on stage, maybe if I don't look
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  the part, they won't listen to me. Yeah. I'm not fully there, but it does creep into my mind
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  more often than it should. And I'm probably the one that's putting the corset on my kids by my
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  behavior. Yeah. So I'm pretty, uh, pretty excited to learn from you today. And I think everyone
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  else will be as well. No, I love that you said that I actually was just in St. Louis doing a series
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  of workshops with executives. And they were mostly men, right? Um, CEOs, CEOs, and we got into this
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  exact topic. And they got vulnerable and opened up. And it, it's real everywhere. And so I do,
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  I do, I do, I, the diet industry, the weight loss industry, it's all a bunch of BS. And there is
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  actually the BS that matters, the BS that we need to focus on. And if we can focus on that,
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  we're going to be, we're going to become the healthiest versions of ourselves. And that's our
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  belief systems, behavioral science and understanding why we do what we do. Because there's so many times
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  you're like, I know what to do. I just don't do it. And we don't know why. And we just said we don't
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  have enough willpower. We don't have enough discipline. But it's behavioral science. And we can
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  tap into that. And then blood sugar, our body's love language is around stabilized blood sugar.
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  This is why in so many ways, quote unquote, the, the no carb diet and the GLP one works. Again,
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  we have to define what working means because I think we all have very different definitions of
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  working. But it's because it's actually regulating your blood sugar. And when you don't eat carbs,
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  you don't spike your blood sugar, which is why you don't start fat. But we also need carbs
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  because it gives us energy. And we have to define what carbs are. There's just so much on unpacking
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  we have to do of truth. And that's what I'm really here because this disrupts everything we've
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  been told. So there's three BS's that align with transforming how we should really think about
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  what we look like are what foods we should choose. Yep. And even how we should look. Yep. Exactly.
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  Something you said there too is GLPs work with carbohydrates. And I've heard so many times,
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  if I could have a shot that I could take to lose weight because I'm so frustrated, that's,
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  I don't care if it makes me sick. If you can give me, give me that drug, give me that shot that could
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  take that away. Yep. And I could be healthy again. I would take that shot even if I didn't
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  with longer. I hear it over and over again with and now that drug is here. I have somebody that
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  sits me years ago before GLP1 came out and he said, I was at a point in my life that if I could just
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  get skinny, I was fine if I died 10 years earlier. And so that brings me to really the idea of what
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  do we want and why do we want it? If we keep going after weight loss, we will innately do things
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  that are very unhealthy. Somebody as a certain size does not necessarily tell us that they're healthy.
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  We know people with cancer, right? They could lose a whole lot of weight and they're probably the
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  most unhealthy they've ever been in their life, right? As they're in that fight. And so the first
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  thing we have to do is do we want weight loss or do we want health? With one, you'll get nothing,
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  truly, because the average woman that I speak to at 50 years old has been dieting and going after
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  weight loss for more than 30 years. And so they're going around this roller coaster. How much time,
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  energy in our life are we spending, fighting for a number on a scale that's actually making a
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  sicker. 93% of Americans have metabolic dysfunction, like 7% of us are healthy. And yet we know that
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  about 50 to 60% of people are on a diet. Women start and stop a new diet six to seven times a year.
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  And yet we have some of the most unhealthy people in the world right here in this country.
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  It's not adding up. And we keep going after weight loss. And like in the beginning of the year,
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  new year, new year, the new year's resolutions, it's always weight loss, weight loss, weight loss.
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  It's not health. And when you get to your optimal health, you'll get to your optimal weight.
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  It might look different for you than you think the number should be. It might look different for
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  you than it looks for someone else. But we are so stuck on a number equaling our value. And what we
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  really want is the peace and the confidence we think that number is going to bring us. But I know
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  plenty of healthy, larger, confident women. And I know plenty of smaller, not confident women.
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  So clearly it doesn't have to do with the number on a scale. It has to do with something inside of
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  us. The belief systems that we've carried with us since we were a little, the messages that we've
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  heard about where our value stands. And if we don't really come to a true understanding of what we
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  want and why we want it. And the why is it really a big piece? When I talked, we talked my team
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  and I talked to hundreds and hundreds of women a month. And they'll all say, like, I want to lose
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  30 pounds. Why? Because that's how I felt my best when I was in college or whatever it was. But
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  yet they were always on a diet then. And I just feel like then I'll be more confident. And the
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  kicker is confidence comes from knowing ourselves, knowing who we are, what we're doing, why we're
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  doing it. And instead of looking at a number on a scale as a goal, I really want to encourage people
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  to take the idea of what does the healthiest version of you do say, think and believe. And actually
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  put that down on paper like a blueprint. And if that can be your north star, that can be what
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  you're doing. Then you'll realize that a lot of the things that you're doing are not matching
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  that blueprint. And then you get to decide if that's really what you want. We're chasing after
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  weight loss for reasons of what I say ego versus heart. And we are here on this earth for a purpose,
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  which I believe each one of us is here uniquely curated for a purpose. Then we have to be the
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  healthiest version of ourselves to do that. And our purpose was not to weigh a certain amount.
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  Was not to look a certain way, but it was to be a certain way. It was to serve others. And if
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  we are spending all of our time counting calories, tracking our food on an app, stressing, obsessing
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  about food in our body, we are missing the real purpose of our life. And that to me is the biggest
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  shame. And that's what we're, we're the cultural conditioning and the toxic diet culture doesn't
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  even make us think about who we are. They just make us think about do we look like the culture has
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  told us we should look like because that's where we get our value and it's a lie. So say that again,
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  what are the top questions you need to ask yourself before you do a diet or want weight loss?
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  I always say there's three questions we always have to ask one. Is it based on science designed
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  for our body to thrive? Diet, GLP one, any sort of quick weight loss is all based in science,
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  but is it designed for you to thrive? I would argue that it's definitely not because we have to be
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  codependent like on a weight loss drug. We have to be codependent on it. We lose our empowerment
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  because it's not really about us anymore. It's about this thing. And diets in general that
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  require us to restrict and be perfect and deprive and rely on willpower will always fail us.
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  And then we feel like a failure. So no, none of those will help us thrive too. Can you do it for
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  the rest of your life? Your body wants a relationship with you just like any other relationship.
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  It wants it based on consistency and trust and trust comes from positive interactions
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  consistently over time. And if you're doing something that you know that you can't do for the
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  rest of your life, like keto, for example, if I do keto, I really got to commit to never having
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  birthday cake or a quesadilla ever again. And maybe you can do that. But I also know like I also
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  really like fruit and fruit is really good. And so are you really willing to do that for the rest
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  of your life? And then number three, would you let a kid you love do what you're doing? And if the
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  answer is no to that, then you really got to ask why you're doing it. Because one, our bodies
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  are physiologically the same. They rely on blood sugar stabilization. And two, if you're doing
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  something that you wouldn't want your kid to do, you really got to ask yourself why you're doing
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  it because you will model that to them. And that's going to be a really big decision maker. I
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  think for a lot of people, if they look at that before they start something new, I think you just
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  asked the most powerful question that someone can ask themselves, even though you gave us three.
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  Yeah. That's that's why I leave for last. Yeah. So that's why it's number one is if you're doing
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  a diet, would you want your son or daughter following that diet long term? Yep. And why are you
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  doing that diet? But let me like bring up the idea that my kids started talking about calories at
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  five and six years old, right? And I was appalled. And if I if you talk to anybody, a nutritionist
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  that teaches caloric deprivation today, and they all do literally because that's what all the
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  nutrition still teaches caloric deprivation. Yeah. Oh, always. It's calories and versus calories.
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  I still believe in that lie. I literally, there's no, there's no only there's, I guess some
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  science in that lie. Yes, but it's the here's the biggest problem with that lie. It is and I have
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  a certification where I teach health pros, the concepts of what I teach women and I teach blood
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  sugar stabilization. That's the core foundation of what our certification is. But I have just about
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  every other certification is there is out there because I've tested them to see what are we teaching.
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  And it's the word deficit caloric deficit. And when you are telling women, especially, but also
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  men that have this corset on that have been told to tighten the laces and losing weight and getting
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  smaller is your whole goal. Then what do you think of when you hear deficit and you're not losing weight?
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  You think you're at a caloric deficit. You're not losing weight. So what do you do?
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  Eat less. Eat less. I just must not be at a deficit. I must not be at a deficit. What we really
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  need to say is that we just need to take the right amount of food. But the minute we say deficit,
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  it goes right into our belief system that less, less, less, I need to eat less. And I mean,
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  women that come to me, they're sitting on a 500 calorie a day diet as well as the idea that calories
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  350 calories of an Oreo cookie is not the same as 350 calories of whole unprocessed protein
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  fats and carbohydrates. And so we are desperately in need of real knowledge and education that is not
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  based on diet dogma. I mean, literally the diet industry has put us in a cage and then it
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  blames us for not flying. That to me is the problem because we are not given a set of tools. We
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  are given rules. And then when we can't do them consistently, there's something wrong with us.
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  And we have sat in that belief system for so long that by the time we're 40 and 50 in menopause,
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  we have no idea who we are anymore. We have no idea what to do anymore. And we have believed the
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  lie that you're broken. And so here's take this drug to actually fix your broken body. And that
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  is the problem. And we have had this corset on for so long that we can no longer breathe.
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  And what we are doing is we're either tightening the corset more or we're taking it off from
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  like screw it. I don't care anymore. I'm not doing anything. And neither one of those is healthy.
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  Nutritionists teach caloric restriction. And many times they're not saying
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  what you should eat. Well, no, they are. They're giving you a meal plan.
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  Okay. Right. And yet this is the problem. Our life is not a meal plan. Our life is not a script.
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  So here's the meal plan for you. But then you go on vacation. Well, you can't do the meal plan
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  on vacation. Well, then life gets really stressful. Well, I can't do this while I'm stressed.
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  What we have to be doing is educating and empowering us to be able to have an adaptable flexible
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  lifestyle that is based on the science of our body, but also in the belief system that I am here
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  for a deep reason to be healthy. Because let's think about weight loss as a goal.
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  You want to lose 40 pounds. First of all, when we lose 40 pounds in a diet or GLP one,
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  we are losing muscle when we're losing, losing weight very quickly. And potentially,
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  I cite a whole lot of other things too, right? And yet then I'll have one to say I've gained
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  that same 40 pound over and over again. I'm like, no, you haven't. You've essentially lost gold
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  because you're taking away muscle and you're gaining back sand. It's not the same 40 pounds.
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  And yet when we have a goal of weight and we're like motivated this time, this time, I'm going to do
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  it. And it's also typically motivated by frustration with ourselves. Like we enter into a new diet
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  because we're so frustrated, we're going to punish ourselves. But how do you fix a relationship
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  with somebody when you enter into it with punishment and anger and frustration? Doesn't work,
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  but that's what we do with our bodies. That's what we do with spirituality. So maybe it's
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  really interesting. That's a good point. But then we say, okay, I want to lose 40 pounds. And I'm
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  going to do it this time. I'm going to like meal prep and I'm going to grocery shopping and
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  to do all these things. And then Monday night hits and you're really stressed out. The kids need to
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  eat. If you had a terrible day at work and you see chocolate cake, I'm accounting like screw it.
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  I'm not going to lose 40 pounds by tomorrow. I'm just eating the cake. And that's what we end up
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  doing. And we are on a cycle over and over and over again. We eat the cake and then we feel guilty.
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  And then we feel like there's something wrong with us. But at the core, we don't have the right
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  why. We're not really in it to truly become the healthiest version of ourselves. We're in it
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  for ego, not for heart. And then that will never last. It's just like motivation. Motivation is
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  like rocket fuel. It's great when you have it. But if you rely on that as your strategy,
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  you're never going to be able to be consistent. Oh my gosh. But it does sound like spirituality.
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  Because when you make the wrong decision, you beat yourself up for it. And because you don't
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  feel loved or you feel disconnected from God, you continue to make that same mistake over and
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  over again, more guilt, more shame. You run a bigger deficit. So you're just that effort. I'm going
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  to look at more internet pornography. And then you're addicted to, like just like sugar, you're addicted
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  to the dopamine of this sin. And you hate yourself for it. But you don't know that your love,
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  that you're forgiven, that you have value. And you make a decision from your heart. Because when you
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  know that you're fully loved, you don't do dumb things. Because you like, wait a minute, I'm
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  already good. I don't need this out external dopamine spike because I know my value. I know who
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  my father is. The father of this universe, whatever faith that you have, we're connected to it.
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  I think we can all agree that there's a universal love. There's a universal God. Most people will
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  agree with that unless you're an atheist. There's other faiths out there. But there's a frequency.
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  There's an energy. There's this quantum Jesus that's out there that once you are connected to that.
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  And I know for me, it gave me so much freedom that I was able to break the chains of religiosity.
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  I'm able to forgive myself more quickly. I'm able to see my mistakes more quickly when I'm
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  with my daughter. Instead of beating myself up for the mistake I made, I quickly forgive myself
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  and change my behavior so that I become better. And it's a lot like dieting because you make the
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  mistake, you beat it up, then you give up. So you do it again. It is addictive. You have this guilt
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  and shame cycle. It's over and over again. And I was a behavior specialist for 20 years before
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  I became an nutritionist. And at first, I just started teaching women the same thing that I learned
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  around how to balance your blood sugar. It was eye opening and it was like freeing for me. But within
• 22:50
  one year, I used to work with 252 women. And I taught them how to balance your blood sugar with
• 22:55
  food and with a lifestyle. And it was incredible. And they were all like, I'm never going to go back.
• 23:00
  I'm never, I'm never going to die again within a year. Every single woman had fallen off. And I was
• 23:06
  like, how did this happen? And I realized, Carrie, you never put into place actual behavioral
• 23:12
  science and behavioral strategies that you do in your real job or the job that you did for 20 years
• 23:16
  before. And I just relied on the meal plan. Do this, the actual, you know, system without getting
• 23:26
  into our belief systems and true behavioral science. I only focused on the blood sugar, which is
• 23:33
  great. It's still the thing I teach today. But if we don't actually do this other stuff, we're
• 23:36
  never going to change our behaviors for the long term. And we're going to sit through that cycle
• 23:40
  like just like what you talked about. It's insanity. It's insanity. But this is where behavioral
• 23:45
  science is really powerful. And it comes into play with our belief systems. Because first of all,
• 23:49
  our brain works on these cues and these habits, right? And so if we have handles stress in a certain
• 23:55
  way, and we have done something to try to just calm down our nervous system. And maybe it's
• 24:02
  eating the cake, binge eating, whatever it is, getting into sympathetic. Yep. And then we feel,
• 24:07
  we feel better for a moment after doing it. Our brain registers that as safe. And that's what we do.
• 24:13
  So if we don't know how to kind of interrupt that circuit, we are going to do that every single time.
• 24:20
  And I don't care if you have the best meal plan in the world. Life is going to show up. And if
• 24:24
  we don't understand that and have this level of self-awareness about what's happening in our brain,
• 24:28
  we're just going to fall into that because we don't have the self-awareness around it.
• 24:33
  So one thing that I love teaching is around the concept of how our brain works. And so, you know,
• 24:39
  we have these a couple, a whole bunch of stuccoes on an brain. But this one little tiny part of
• 24:43
  our brain, the amygdala, is our emotion center. And what happens when we are emotional, when we're
• 24:48
  stressed, when we're bored, when we're angry, when we're frustrated, even when we're motivated,
• 24:53
  the amygdala actually gets bigger than the knowledge center of our brain, which is the hippocampus.
• 24:58
  The hippocampus is like the Wikipedia. It's the, I know what to do thing. We could read a million
• 25:03
  books and know what to do and still not do it because when the emotion actually rises, the amygdala
• 25:10
  gets bigger than our hippocampus, which means we're going to do things based on emotion versus
• 25:15
  knowledge. And then it's like a guard dog. So, you know, like if you have a guard dog on a like a
• 25:20
  chain and they get spooked and triggered, what do they do? There's barking, right? Like nonstop.
• 25:25
  And so, how do you calm a guard dog down? Give them some meat. Yep. Maybe give them some meat, right?
• 25:30
  Or maybe let them tire himself out. That's what happens in our brain. It's like a guard dog. We have
• 25:34
  that amygdala hijack. It's like a guard dog is barking. And so we have to calm it down. So,
• 25:38
  what do we do? We go binge eat. We grab the cookies. We grab the cake. We do all of that because we
• 25:43
  don't know when any other way to handle it and to tire it out. But if we could start training our
• 25:48
  brain, because then afterwards, once we eat the cake, the amygdala gets smaller. The hippocampus
• 25:52
  gets bigger again. And then we're like, that's where guilt and shame comes in. You can know the
• 25:56
  knowledge center took over. And I'm like, why do I always do that? But if we can get in front of
• 26:02
  that amygdala hijack, there's always something going on with our body physically before the hijack.
• 26:06
  Like for me, I get this hot feeling in my stomach before I get mad. My amygdala hijack happens
• 26:12
  with anger a lot. And so I could like, I could yell at my kids, right? Because they did something
• 26:17
  stupid. And I get this amygdala hijack. But I realized because of self-awareness and how long
• 26:22
  I've been studying this, what physically happens in my body before that. And I can start to circumvent
• 26:27
  it before I get fully hijacked before the guard dog is totally going off and find a replacement
• 26:33
  behavior at that point. So I don't jump into the behavior that's actually going to cause me
• 26:37
  guilt and shame afterwards. So we do a lot of training around, okay, when you recognize that
• 26:42
  hijack's coming and you've got that cake on the counter and your brain is used to that loop of
• 26:46
  going for the cookies, going for the cake, going for the for the chips, what is something you can do
• 26:50
  that's going to actually embody the healthier version of yourself and still calm that amygdala down.
• 26:55
  And a lot of times you can just leave, walk away, go for a walk, do something for five minutes.
• 26:59
  What's we do in a relationship? An idea of a question for you. But instead of like if you're both
• 27:04
  in heightened emotion, you just, I've learned in my marriage not to fight, it'll resolve itself,
• 27:09
  probably by the next day and I would have been arguing over things that don't matter,
• 27:13
  may have saying something hurtful. So I've learned we just don't do that. But we have to treat
• 27:16
  our own body, our relationship with our body like we treat our relationship with others.
• 27:20
  Yeah, you know, it's really important. And that's part of this whole process of becoming the
• 27:26
  healthiest version of ourselves. How do we react during those times of our life? And if we are
• 27:32
  just thinking that calories, inverses, calories out, give me protein or put me on a shot,
• 27:38
  we're not going to actually deal with the things that are keeping us very unhealthy.
• 27:42
  How do you train people to become self-aware? Well, that's a really good question. But I always say like
• 27:47
  once you see something you can't not see it. So when my daughter turned 16, she wanted to buy a car.
• 27:53
  And we had to told them they had to buy their own cars. So she wanted a Subaru cross track. And
• 27:57
  I was like, I've never seen a Subaru cross track before. And my husband was like, you've seen one.
• 28:01
  I said, I've never seen one. So he pulls up a picture. And I see, I'm like, oh, it's a cute car.
• 28:05
  I've never seen one before though. And so that day I leave and I go grocery shopping. What do I see
• 28:09
  everywhere? Cross tracks. I saw Subaru cross tracks about like, did everybody buy a Subaru cross track
• 28:15
  today? Now our brain filters out millions of pieces of information. And it believes what we tell it.
• 28:21
  So I told my brain Subaru cross tracks. Our brain's like, oh, we're doing Subaru cross tracks today.
• 28:24
  That's what we're going to do. So if we keep telling our brain, all the things that
• 28:28
  diet culture and the toxicity of it has told us over these years, we will only see that and keep
• 28:34
  reaffirming that fat is truth. And that's the first thing we have to do is start recognizing what
• 28:39
  we're telling ourselves, what we're seeing. And if we believe the fact, everybody knows that
• 28:44
  story. Like they know I never have to finish the story. Everyone knows I suddenly saw Subaru
• 28:48
  cross tracks that day because it's happening to all of us. And when you can realize, oh, yeah,
• 28:52
  that actually is true. What I tell my brain actually is what it filters.
• 28:57
  We start to become more aware of what we tell ourselves. And that's really the first step.
• 29:00
  It seems so simple, right? But it's so hard. It is. But this is why I actually on my Instagram,
• 29:07
  I go live every single morning for morning time because I am convinced in the 30 years that I've
• 29:11
  done behavior change that if you can show up for yourself every single morning with intention and
• 29:17
  like a protocol, like a staff meeting with yourself. And you are truly getting grounded in
• 29:22
  gratitude with with a devotion and a real belief in that there is something bigger than you.
• 29:29
  And taking time to get really intentional with what you say you want and why you want it.
• 29:34
  And then actually looking at your day and time locking actually the things that you're going to do
• 29:38
  that day and get really practical in when you're going to do things that stress you out that you
• 29:44
  have to do, self-care, working out. And you actually get yourself into a schedule every single
• 29:50
  morning. First, we'll realize that we can't do everything. And we're going to have to prioritize
• 29:53
  the things that we need to do. And you can't fall that far off because if you're showing up for
• 29:57
  yourself every single morning and committing to one change, one step towards health towards that
• 30:04
  blueprint of the healthiest version of you, you're going to get there. But if we just go through
• 30:09
  our day, like we're, I was joke, like when I was in college, I had to write a paper, like literally
• 30:14
  write papers on yellow paper ads, right? I don't have a chat gbg. I didn't have in 30 something
• 30:19
  year to go. I still remember the papers that I wrote when I was in college because I had to take a
• 30:23
  deep dive. And these days, I can chat gbg. And you had a reference? I had a card catalog too. I had
• 30:28
  a microfiche machine. But today we can Google search our way through everything. We keep our head
• 30:33
  down. We get our stuff done and we don't look up. And if we could take a little bit of time,
• 30:38
  just even every morning of spending time with ourselves and getting intentional, we will never
• 30:43
  fall that far off. And while it seems so simple, but also very complicated, if we take it back to
• 30:48
  just those few minutes in the morning and getting really grounded in intentionality, we will move
• 30:55
  in that direction of true health for the right reasons. And that's like the best thing. And
• 31:01
  there's a first step people can do. When if they don't show up to your like, because I know that I
• 31:05
  did, when I was doing breath work, I was going through a really hard time. So I decided, you know,
• 31:08
  what? I'm going to do breath work every day, hell or high water to regulate my nervous system.
• 31:13
  And it saved me. I wasn't when I'm in my sympathetic. I don't have any fear, right? I don't have
• 31:19
  anywhere. Everything's going to work out. It's like you're on a high, right? Because you are,
• 31:24
  you know, it does so much chemically to your body. I think it drops you into a special,
• 31:30
  you know, connection. Absolutely. Put your God antenna up. Yep. So but when I was doing that, things
• 31:36
  did work out better. And days were easier. I was more connected because I wasn't yelling at my
• 31:41
  kids because I was more regulated. Yep. So besides showing up, and I think everyone should show up
• 31:47
  to your morning. Well, I did that. I did show for themselves, right? Yeah, I know, but like,
• 31:51
  what else can they do? Yeah. So every morning, I'm just giving like a daily
• 31:55
  declaration. I want them doing it for themselves. So that's one of the very first things, right?
• 31:59
  And I will always say, like, get yourself a piece of paper and fold it into fourths and put,
• 32:04
  do say, think, believe, do say, think, what does the healthiest version of me do?
• 32:09
  What does she say? What does she think? And what does she believe? And literally revisiting that,
• 32:14
  evolving in that, recognizing that that is actually my goal. That is my blueprint. And it will
• 32:19
  continue to evolve. Like what I do today as a healthiest version of myself is not what I did 10
• 32:24
  years ago. Not even close. Not even close. Like I would look at, okay, Oreo cookies are carbon
• 32:29
  a fat. All right. If I have some protein with it, I'll bounce my blood sugar. It'll be all good.
• 32:33
  I wouldn't even want to look at an Oreo cookie. But the healthiest version of me was intentional
• 32:39
  with what I was eating more than not. Now, I know food serves my body and food serves my soul.
• 32:45
  And I need both. If it doesn't do either, I will not eat it. And almost all of that process
• 32:51
  food is not serving my body. And it's not serving my soul. And so the healthiest version of
• 32:56
  me doesn't even look at that stuff anymore. But I've evolved over the last 10 years. Because we all
• 33:01
  do evolve. We evolve spiritually, we evolve emotionally. And I think that a lot of folks think that
• 33:06
  if you get stuck in a diet that worked for you, you get stuck in a faith that worked for you.
• 33:11
  And you stay there without like evolving your faith or evolving what you think nutrition is.
• 33:17
  It's neat. What you said is if something doesn't serve me what physically. Yeah. Well,
• 33:23
  this is what we do, right? We look at food is good or bad, healthy or unhealthy. And so what if you
• 33:27
  eat something that you have deemed as bad? How do you feel afterwards? You feel bad.
• 33:33
  Mm-hmm. Guilt. That's where guilt and shame and all that come in, right? And so what I really encourage
• 33:37
  us to do is to let's look at food differently. Because if we give food so much power, food is a
• 33:41
  source of energy and nutrients, but it also was a source of shame. And we have a very problematic
• 33:48
  relationship with food. It's not like alcohol where we can decide I'm not going to drink anymore
• 33:53
  and be able to take that problem, move it off. We have to eat all the time. So we have to visit
• 33:58
  that challenging kind of entity in our lives every day. So for someone that is recovered from
• 34:03
  an eating disorder, from when I was in college, I realized that food serves my body and food serves
• 34:08
  my soul. And I need both. I have to serve my body more than I serve my soul. And I want to be
• 34:14
  intentional when I'm serving my soul. So I've made a promise to myself that when I'm going to have
• 34:18
  a soul fill in meal, like Christmas Eve, we have chicken pop precautions. My grandfather's chicken
• 34:23
  pop precautions spikes the heck out of my blood sugar and I get super tired, but it is the best meal
• 34:29
  ever. It's intentional and there's no guilt with it. And when I'm serving my body more than
• 34:35
  I'm serving my soul, I'm going to do okay. That's just the balance, especially depending on where
• 34:40
  I am in my journey. And that's sort of like, can I say that I'm serving my body more than I
• 34:46
  serve my soul? And it could be that simple to make massive progress. I want to talk to the obese
• 34:53
  woman or man that is diabetic that may need a GLP one. And obviously we're not here to shame
• 35:01
  them. You just need to get your stuff together. But there is, is there a time and a place that can
• 35:06
  serve their bodies to help give them a jump start and versus the skinny culture that we now have
• 35:14
  where people are literally getting anorexic on GLP ones. And they're being dependent upon them
• 35:18
  because they get off their bodies aren't making GLP ones because we've lost the very bacteria that
• 35:23
  produce GLP one inside of your body instead of putting in synthetically because we've
• 35:29
  toxified and destroyed our microbiome through toxins through highly processed food because we don't
• 35:34
  have a relationship with nature because we're taking glyphosate and spring it everywhere and eating
• 35:39
  it. So there's all the reasons we need GLP ones today. So someone's suffering. So what do they do?
• 35:43
  They don't can't have the, you know, where's the balance there? Yeah. So I think we're talking about
• 35:48
  two types, two different types of people, right? Yeah. Again, one is based on weight as their goal
• 35:54
  and the other is dire health needs, right? So we're talking about two different people.
• 35:59
  The one that's focused on weight solely, we are talking about diet culture and us really
• 36:04
  believing that my value is in a number on a scale versus and this, this belief and I do believe
• 36:11
  that this is a very true belief that they believe they have done it all. They have tried all the
• 36:16
  things and now they have to go down this GLP one because they can't lose the weight. But I will argue
• 36:23
  again, the diet weight loss pharmaceutical industry does not have our best interest at heart.
• 36:28
  They haven't actually taught us the tools to be able to truly turn around our health and our weight
• 36:33
  in a way that's sustainable, that's satisfying and that's simple. And they've had us bamboozle
• 36:39
  to believe we've tried it all. They really haven't. But we go down this GLP one path because we are
• 36:44
  on this constant weight loss journey that I would argue with. Yeah. When you're talking about people
• 36:49
  that are severely obese, we have lots of behavioral loops that have happened to get to that point
• 36:56
  that we have a lot of work to do to work to undo that. But we know that just giving a person
• 37:01
  a GLP one without actually helping them to understand the BS that they really need,
• 37:06
  their belief systems that got them to this place, behavioral science that is going to take to
• 37:10
  reprogram the wiring in our brain and then truly eating in a way that balances our blood sugar
• 37:16
  that serves our body, regardless of whether we're on GLP one or not, has to be part of the protocol,
• 37:23
  has to be. I have a client, Jean, who at 50 years old with a kindergarten teacher, she had
• 37:28
  average glucose levels of 400, like a 50 year old woman right now would be around 70 to 140,
• 37:35
  right? 400. She was going to die. She was literally on desk door. They'd given her ozempic wakowi.
• 37:41
  Nothing was quote-unquote working and nothing, her body was rejecting everything at that point.
• 37:48
  But when we actually got her to fuel her body in a way that it wanted, she went right off of
• 37:55
  those drugs and within four weeks balanced her blood sugar naturally. So I just don't believe
• 38:02
  that we can give somebody a prescription. Her doctors called me and they're like, we've done
• 38:06
  everything we can do. We just think she's actually not going to make it because the last thing that they
• 38:12
  had was the GLP wants. That's her last. And I was it, but we didn't do anything to work to change
• 38:18
  the actual lifestyle that got us to this place. We got to get to the root cause. We can't keep going
• 38:24
  after the symptom and thinking we're getting to the root cause. And let's be honest, all of the
• 38:28
  process food that she had been eating stripped away her GLP one, which is then very convenient that
• 38:34
  we now have a drug that can replace it. But if we could actually replace the process foods,
• 38:40
  and again, we also know that all these process foods have a chemical or a scientific bliss point.
• 38:46
  That's actually what they call it. So that bliss point gets us needing and craving and being
• 38:51
  addicted to that food. And then we believe that like we can't eat, we don't want to eat, we don't
• 38:57
  like the healthy food. But if we can start to re kind of program what our body is used to,
• 39:04
  I used to always have sugar in my coffee. I, if I put sugar in my coffee right now.
• 39:07
  It's so nasty. Oh, I can't, I went ahead and call and ask me, they told me I could have ginger
• 39:11
  rail. And I was like, Oh, you know, I haven't had ginger rail in a really long time. They told me I
• 39:15
  could have those Italian ice. And I'm like, Oh, I still love Italian ice. I couldn't have one bite
• 39:20
  of it. My body rejected it. So it's the same thing with processed foods. So it's not to say that I'm,
• 39:26
  I, I think that that's what doctors are trained to do. And I think that there's some validity.
• 39:30
  They're depending on where we are with that person. But we are missing a huge piece of the puzzle
• 39:35
  thinking, uh, should we do GLP one or should we not? And everybody always says it should be with
• 39:40
  a lifestyle, but nobody teaches the lifestyle. The doctors aren't teaching it. My number one
• 39:44
  client or doctors, they don't know it. And they certainly don't know how to teach it. And I think
• 39:48
  that's why my book, I wrote my book. It was really important to me. I also have a children's book
• 39:52
  coming out because I believe education is empowerment. And even though when we know we still won't do,
• 39:57
  we don't really know what we need to be doing. We're just confused because diet culture and this
• 40:03
  industry, this weight loss industry, the pharmaceutical industry, strives on us being confused.
• 40:09
  That's what they want because a confused mind will never be able to make changes for a long
• 40:15
  term. And then we believe we need the pharmaceutical intervention. Does that make sense? It turns
• 40:20
  into that. I follow it. And what I was going to, what I would say to that is that I find interesting
• 40:27
  is that the, the very foods that we're eating are disconnecting ourselves from our senses.
• 40:33
  A hundred percent. Right. Because we have more than five senses by the way. But we do have a
• 40:38
  nose, right? And a nose would know that or our taste buds, we would know that that's poison.
• 40:45
  But we get used to it. Just like when you smoke for the first time and you cough or if you
• 40:50
  put a chew in when I did when I was little and I puked, but I got used to it or if you drink alcohol,
• 40:54
  it's like I do good with it because your body adapts. We're being poisoned. And now our bodies
• 40:59
  begin to love that poison. We get addicted to it because they engineer the food to be poisonous
• 41:05
  because it's firing off dopamine in our brains. And then add the other toxins in our environment.
• 41:10
  Yeah. Right. I'm not even talking about this. Right. But if we could at least get rid of
• 41:14
  other toxins in the food, then we're like at least ahead of the game a little bit, right? And that's
• 41:19
  something we're in control of. The environmental stuff is hard. It's very, very, very difficult. I call it
• 41:23
  like a callus. So you know when you have a callus on your hand and you can like poke something sharp
• 41:27
  with it and it doesn't hurt. Right. When you get rid of that callus, that same poke will hurt. Yeah.
• 41:31
  And we have to get rid of the callus in our minds and in our bodies. And that's why I think I've
• 41:37
  getting reconnected is what I was trying to say. Yeah. I would agree. And but I think there's
• 41:40
  a physical callus. Like you just said, and there's this emotional callus as well around our lifestyle,
• 41:47
  our busy lives. And we just have these belief systems like the two busy. I don't have time to do
• 41:50
  this. I don't have time to work out. We repriate. We we misprioritize where we spend our money.
• 41:55
  And we we get ourselves all caught up into this cyclone. And we really just need to get to the library.
• 42:01
  We get our yellow legal pad and actually figure out who am I? What do I want out of this life?
• 42:06
  What does a healthy version of me do say I think and believe? And then I will start to make choices
• 42:09
  that actually end up becoming more than that. But if we keep looking after these outside entities
• 42:15
  to take care of us and not actually say, I am getting into my plane and I am going to learn how to fly
• 42:20
  it, then we will be we will be we're going to self-propelled. And we are right now. We see what we're
• 42:27
  doing to ourselves. We have to turn it around. And there's a way to do it. It's not all hopeless.
• 42:33
  But the first question is really truly what do I really want? Yeah. I mean, this is why I quit
• 42:38
  watching television and it's like all these different things. But I evolved to that because I
• 42:42
  didn't want to be programmed anymore because I knew I was being programmed. Exactly. My husband,
• 42:46
  I talked about this all the time. I just have to get really centered in why I am here and what
• 42:51
  my message is because it's otherwise it's a super across track. And we can get real just
• 42:56
  really distracted by what we're putting in front of us. I'm highly aware of it because I I've
• 43:00
  looked at it every day like as who's inviting me on what podcast or what company opening am I going
• 43:05
  to go to an LA and a lot of it I just don't go to because I just don't I look at the crowd. They're
• 43:10
  fancy and I love them and they're great people. But they they got their veneer teeth on they're
• 43:16
  on GLPs and they look a certain way. They're ripped and the guys are on all kinds of
• 43:23
  peptides and TRT and I'm just like, I don't fit in. Right. You know, if I can add value, maybe like
• 43:31
  talk from my heart, but I just don't I mean, and I believe peptides are helpful. Like don't get me wrong.
• 43:36
  Like I like I'm doing that. Just it's just not me. It's just not my job. It's also why we're doing it
• 43:40
  though. Yeah. And that's really I think the question at the end of the day that we don't ask
• 43:43
  ourselves. We just fall. It's like a raging river and we just sit on a raft and we let the river
• 43:48
  just roll roll with us. And instead we actually have to be rowing against the river. You know,
• 43:53
  I think about the difference between self-comfort and self-care self-comfort is what keeps us safe.
• 43:57
  It keeps us like, we're really not moving forward. We're actually probably moving backwards if
• 44:02
  we just fall into self-comfort and self-comfort comes with really truly a lack of awareness. We
• 44:07
  could be scrolling on our phone for hours and not realize it and think we have no time. Right.
• 44:11
  But self-care is what moves us forward and part of that is exactly what you're talking about.
• 44:15
  Who are we surrounding ourselves around? And it might be comfortable or safe or even fun to say
• 44:20
  I'm going to be around people like that. But at the end of the day, is that really self-care,
• 44:24
  self-care moves us forward? Yeah, it's an integrity issue. Is that who I want to associate with?
• 44:29
  And that's why that blueprint of a healthy person. So I'm going to actually use a lot of these
• 44:34
  things and write them down. Because I have a lot of these beliefs that I make decisions on,
• 44:37
  but I'm not organizing it. Yeah. I need to organize it. My yellow legal head. Yeah. And you're
• 44:42
  going to add to it because you're going to have a new situation in front of you. And you're not
• 44:45
  going to have that written down. And you're like, okay, what does healthy person. Yeah. I can make
• 44:49
  decisions. When I'm stuck in traffic right now and I'm really pissed off. There's a lot of
• 44:52
  different scenarios that we have to start identifying how we intentionally want to respond.
• 44:57
  And then if we don't, that's where it's like this, this, you were talking about like what can we
• 45:02
  control and what we cannot control? Like we can't control the past. We can't control the traffic.
• 45:06
  We can't control the weather. We can't control other people's behaviors. What people think of us.
• 45:11
  We can only control what we are doing here and now. And we have to use our past decisions
• 45:18
  as data versus guilt. I always say no guilt just data. Okay. So I didn't make the best decision
• 45:22
  on that last meal or I didn't, you know, speak to my kid the way I wanted to. Let me go back and
• 45:27
  analyze it. And that's why I think morning time is so important. I can spend some time. All right.
• 45:31
  What triggered me in there? Like did my amygdala get hijacked? What was my belief system? Did I control
• 45:36
  my thinking before? How is I feeling? And then start to say, okay, I can't go back and change it,
• 45:41
  but I can do better next time. Yeah. There's these spiritual, you know, leaders,
• 45:46
  ancient wisdom that's out there, right? And they say, well, yesterday's gone. Tomorrow doesn't
• 45:53
  exist. All we have is the now. And if you want to live your best life, your best life happens
• 45:59
  in the now. It doesn't happen from what happened yesterday because it's gone. Yep. You can't
• 46:04
  control the future. So that's not going to give you your best life. I will do this now. If I
• 46:10
  lose weight, I will be means nothing. No. All you can do is choose the now. Yeah. And identify
• 46:16
  with who you are today with the person you want to be. But not everyone is I have to say that
• 46:20
  you have to train self-awareness. Yep. And steps are more self-aware than most. Yep. It's probably one
• 46:25
  of my gifts. So it's it's that's why I always say like you and I are both self-aware type people.
• 46:29
  Maybe you weren't when the past, but I've always been kind of a more self-aware human. So I always
• 46:34
  careful because I don't want to like my personality versus someone else because I've been through
• 46:38
  stuff. Yeah. But those little changes do happen. So if I'm on my phone. Yeah. And I'm swiping. Yeah.
• 46:44
  Because sometimes I do. I'm like go to the bathroom. Yeah. My legs get numb. Just like the Instagram
• 46:48
  videos. I'm like, well, that's 15 minutes. I'll never get back. I'll never get back. I like that's
• 46:53
  I heard my little girl out there. Yeah. She said I want you reading a book daddy. But I was swiping
• 46:57
  on my phone. And I'm like, so I feel it. Yeah. I feel that. I'm like. And then I just got to
• 47:03
  move on. That's not who I am. That hurts. That hurts. Yeah. Forgiveness myself. Yeah.
• 47:06
  Then get out there and be like, right now I'm going to go see her. I'm going to take that energy.
• 47:11
  That mistake. Not feel bad and eat the cake. Yeah. Not feel bad and drink the cup of coffee.
• 47:17
  Not feel bad and make myself upset and be myself. Like numb and numb myself with food or drink.
• 47:23
  Or work. Yeah. Yeah. I will go out there and I will take that 15 minutes and I'll put it into
• 47:28
  her so that the 50, the 10 minutes that I lost because, you know, nothing wrong with five minutes.
• 47:33
  Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Well, I think it's also about intentionality. There's times I'm like,
• 47:37
  I'm going to spend the next 15 minutes just numbing out. And that's okay. Self comfort is okay.
• 47:43
  Sometimes it just can't be the norm. One of the things that you said about self-awareness is
• 47:46
  where I very much believe self-awareness is health. That is the definition of health. If we,
• 47:51
  I have a whole chapter on my book called none of this will work. None of what I'm about to teach you
• 47:55
  in this book is going to work if you are not actually aware. And I say self-consciousness is a disease,
• 48:00
  self-awareness is health. In the middle, in the minute we're looking at other people and doing
• 48:04
  that comparison game, that's when self-consciousness falls in. And then that's where the disease comes in.
• 48:10
  But self-awareness is really where health starts. And if we can start to just do that, we can all be
• 48:16
  more self-aware without having to buy one single thing. It's just this kind of like New York City
• 48:22
  where I live right outside of. There's this poster on the subway that says if you see something,
• 48:27
  say something, you'll start to see it and you'll start to have to say something to yourself because
• 48:31
  you'll start to notice it. But that's why to me, morning time is so important because it gives you
• 48:36
  an opportunity to actually intentionally sit before the chaos of life and say, what am I doing? And
• 48:42
  then I can analyze what I did the day before in the morning. Okay, I didn't make the best choice.
• 48:47
  I sat on my phone for 15 minutes, what was the trigger and analyze that behavior and I will
• 48:51
  always do better than the next day or I'll always do better the next day than I did the day before.
• 48:56
  And then evolution happens. And then all of a sudden before you knew it. You're 51 and 38,
• 49:00
  you're all. Yeah, exactly. I mean, it change does happen, you know. It does. The 1% concept is
• 49:05
  really key. In fact, when we train health pros like nutritionists and dietitians to teach a
• 49:10
  different way, personal trainers, we actually help, we actually have a program that they put their
• 49:14
  clients since you called the 100 days of 1% and the idea is 1% every day for 100 days. You learn
• 49:20
  100% of the concepts and then you go back and revisit it over and over and over and over again.
• 49:26
  To me, it's a little bit like reading the Bible where you could read it a hundred times and get
• 49:29
  something different out of every single time because 1% really matters. Plus your four quadrants change.
• 49:35
  Your four quadrants will evolve and that cycle of self sabotage where your brain is like, I don't
• 49:41
  want to do new. If you're just committing to 1% a day, then your brain kind of gets tricked into
• 49:46
  believing, Oh, wait, this is what we do. This is who we are. Like, this isn't new. I know.
• 49:52
  Then you've slowly introduced new again. You slowly introduced new. But I also say the concept
• 49:56
  of living in the now is one of the philosophies of how I teach people how to eat. So I teach when
• 50:02
  I teach blood sugar stabilization, I teach what's called PFC 3 protein fat and carbohydrate every
• 50:07
  three hours. Small portions where we're always ready to eat then satisfied. And the idea is like
• 50:13
  carbs, yeah, they spike our blood sugar. But if we vegetables and fruit are also carbs, like we
• 50:17
  always go to bread and rice, you know, things like that. But carbs, yes, they'll spike our blood
• 50:23
  sugar, which will wreak havoc on our body. But they also give us the energy that we need. And we
• 50:27
  need carbs. But if we can have a protein with it instead of having it by itself, that protein
• 50:32
  will take the place of the insulin that would have to come out if your body was trying to
• 50:36
  balance his blood sugar on its own. So it can mitigate a blood sugar spike. And then when we have
• 50:39
  fat with our protein in our carbs, that actually slows down our digestion. If fuels our brain,
• 50:44
  it cushions our organs, the three were actually meant to be eaten together. But what's so powerful
• 50:49
  about it is not just that it will balance your blood sugar. And we'll wear continuous glucose
• 50:52
  monitors. I can see the science of the beautiful little rolling hills eating all day long and being
• 50:58
  completely satisfied, cravings going away, and your body in total homeostasis. That helps with
• 51:04
  your mood, it helps with your energy, it helps with anxiety. But what's really amazing about it is
• 51:09
  your next meal is just three hours away. So if it's sort of the philosophy of life, if you screw up
• 51:12
  a meal and you spiked your blood sugar, whatever it is, your next meal is three hours away. And so that's
• 51:17
  sort of like life, right? Okay, you didn't make a great choice. All right, your next meal is three
• 51:22
  hours away. And it's sort of like our phrase that we talk about when it's not even about food.
• 51:26
  Okay, I yelled at my kids, my next meal is three hours away. And if we just live with that kind
• 51:31
  of philosophy, with the ideas, I'm just going to do better. And my next attempt at this, I'm always
• 51:37
  going to get better. And my bad before is not even close to what my bad looks like now, because I'm
• 51:43
  continuing to evolve in that one percent mindset. That's actually anti some of the nutrition or
• 51:50
  health experts that are out there, even functional medicine doctors, but oh no, you need to fast
• 51:55
  longer. You need to not snack if you will, but you are controlling it's every three hours. You're
• 51:59
  not snacking. We're not snacking. You don't need to snack. And the concept of fasting like is
• 52:05
  really a lot of it is about it now again, I'm going to go back to the why when you tell women to
• 52:10
  fast, it's always about weight loss. There are other benefits around fasting more for men than for
• 52:15
  women. Yeah, it is much harder for women to find a true hormonal balance when you're fasting,
• 52:21
  but we fast when we sleep, we do. That's why breakfast breakfast was named, right? But we have
• 52:27
  seen in the 20 plus years that we've been teaching this way of eating how it's literally reversed
• 52:33
  metabolic disease, reversed it. And so I have clients that have reversed diabetes in four months
• 52:40
  and have now off every single medication that they were on eating in this way. And so fasting,
• 52:48
  it's really about what you want, why you want it. I'll have many women that say I've tried
• 52:52
  fasting. It's just a bougie way of really stricting calories. That's what it ends up being
• 52:57
  for most people. And so that's what I'm trying to get around and the question about your kids.
• 53:02
  Would you let your kids do it, right? It depends on what you're trying to do and why you're trying
• 53:07
  to do it. And I have no, I will say I'll never tell anybody what the canner can't do. I want
• 53:12
  everybody to be empowered to make their own decisions. And I get the reason why, especially for men,
• 53:17
  they decide to fast on a general rule when it comes to the population that truly wants to
• 53:24
  be healthy and sustain something over time. It's not necessary. It just isn't. And we see that
• 53:31
  when you are we're not the average American when you think about eating all day long, they're
• 53:36
  eating big meals. We're spiking our blood sugar. There's a myth that says every time we eat your
• 53:40
  spiker blood sugar, we don't spike our blood sugar every time we eat that huge when we're eating
• 53:46
  PFC3. And we're always ready to eat and then satisfied. We're not really, really hungry and we're
• 53:51
  not really, really full. And I get the concept of autophagy. Yeah.
• 53:56
  Totally. But we can also, especially as women, get it in other ways. And there's some ways that
• 54:00
  we can supplement that we can also sauna. Like sauna is an amazing way. It's lots of ways to get
• 54:05
  to hormisis and exactly, exactly. But I will tell you that especially for women who have died of
• 54:10
  their whole lives and you tell them to start fasting, do it all for the wrong reasons and do it in a
• 54:14
  very, very unhealthy way. And it really isn't necessary. And listen, I'm 38 now. Yeah. That's
• 54:20
  51. And you're not probably not doing, are you, do you do peptides though? I actually have been
• 54:25
  doing a few peptides right now for, I'm doing, yeah, for my hip because I've always had a problematic
• 54:31
  hip. And that I do peptides for. Yeah. Again, it's not inflammation. It's the why. Yeah. That's
• 54:37
  real reason. And I want to live to 120 with a very, very high quality of life still serving my
• 54:44
  purpose. So everything I do is around that and not around an ego of what other people think of.
• 54:49
  Then I believe you. Well, it has taken a long time to do that, right? I was a division one college
• 54:53
  cheerleader. And everything was about your size, everything. And so coming off of that and having
• 54:59
  an eating disorder and then being raised in diaculture, I mean, this has been a journey for decades,
• 55:05
  right? But I continue to evolve in a way that I feel like is going towards a blueprint.
• 55:10
  Then you're trying to bring some people along with me because I'm not saying I don't want people
• 55:15
  to lose weight or to use, you know, recognize that like weight gain is a problem, but it's a symptom.
• 55:24
  And we keep going after the symptom and not the root cause. And that's what I want to shift.
• 55:28
  I love it. So what I want to shift is the culture, especially with the youth in high school,
• 55:35
  even in college, they're looking a certain way. They're spray tanning. They're on GLP ones
• 55:41
  literally in high school to look a certain way and they're feeling that pressure.
• 55:46
  Yep. What do you say to the moms that are watching their girls just fall apart with this culture?
• 55:52
  When my daughter bought that crown for herself at 14, she didn't have one single friend at her
• 55:57
  birthday party. She didn't talk for years. We have pictures of her like she never spoke in class.
• 56:03
  And I worked really hard to be the loudest voice in the room.
• 56:09
  But I also was going through my own journey because I realized that my own belief systems
• 56:14
  were not where I wanted hers to be. And I think the first thing we have to do is parents
• 56:18
  is say, what do I believe? Like what do I really believe is true about me, my worth, my body?
• 56:24
  If I think I have to look a certain way, why? Because we cannot teach what we don't believe.
• 56:30
  And if it doesn't start with ourselves, we'll never get it through to our kids ever.
• 56:35
  And that's where it started with me. And that's why I know that my daughters are where they are now.
• 56:40
  Because despite the diet culture that I mean they all have Instagram, they have the TikTok,
• 56:45
  they have the all of it. But my voice had to be the loudest. But I couldn't have a loud voice if
• 56:51
  I didn't have the beliefs that I wanted them to embody. So I had to work through myself first.
• 56:55
  So the best way to help your teenager is to help yourself.
• 56:59
  Absolutely. And if you're in that journey at the same time as your teenager to just
• 57:04
  be real honest, right? Like this is what I struggle with. This is what I'm doing. Grace and
• 57:09
  Ellie and I have had lots of conversations about where my mindset was about my body and why I felt
• 57:16
  a certain way. And it gave them permission to talk about it too. I have a lot of moms that will
• 57:22
  come to me and say, my daughter actually, she's actually fine. She goes to the gym all the time.
• 57:26
  She doesn't have a weight problem. I'm like literally 87% of females have body image issues.
• 57:33
  If we don't talk about it just because they're not overweight, understand that the other people
• 57:38
  that are talking about it are going to infiltrate their belief systems. It's the Subaru cross track.
• 57:42
  It's the loudest voice in the world. The loudest voice wins. So I love that. So being honest with
• 57:47
  your kids, talking to them about this culture, this dieting culture, this over how to even say
• 57:54
  sexualized culture to look a certain way and the reasons behind that and some of the program.
• 57:59
  There's nothing like looking beautiful and sexy. Like I get it. But at the same time,
• 58:03
  there is that culture and you need to talk about it and be the loudest voice in the room. Be
• 58:08
  honest and not judgmental, right? So how do you do that? You're talking about it and then your
• 58:13
  daughter is going to be. Just don't do it too often like I do or what. Well, it's like I
• 58:20
  wouldn't catch myself and I'll be like, you know what? I actually don't think I should have
• 58:22
  said it that way. What I'm just realizing about what I said was blank and actually do a think
• 58:27
  allowed out loud with them if you need to. But also realize that as you're going through your
• 58:31
  own journey of self discovery and this is why in morning time, I always say there's three parts
• 58:35
  of morning time getting grounded gratitude having some sort of devotion or time with God to be able
• 58:39
  to recognize the message that you need to hear to learning something new. Because when we learn
• 58:44
  something new and I always have some sort of nonfiction book, even if it's just a chapter or something
• 58:49
  where I'm permeating my brain with new actual knowledge because we get stuck in what we've always
• 58:55
  known or what we believe and then actually time blocking and being really intentional with my day,
• 58:59
  then I start to rethink my own beliefs and my own stuff. And I am then really empowered to be
• 59:07
  able to have different language with my kids. But again, getting getting real with them is really
• 59:12
  huge. I would also say that we have to think about how we say things without actually realizing
• 59:19
  that we're saying it's the metacognition thinking about our thinking. There's a lot of times. Well
• 59:23
  like somebody will say, do you want cake? It's like, oh no, I shouldn't. You can just say no.
• 59:28
  No, thank you. Right. But the minute it's like, no, I should be in bad. All right, I'll do it.
• 59:34
  I used to squeeze the fat in the back of my legs while I was in the mirror. Imagine what they
• 59:38
  would look like when they were smaller and my kids would walk in. And they would see me in the way
• 59:41
  that I would look at myself in the mirror. And these are all little nuances that are saying to our
• 59:47
  girls, the corset is on and you need to continue to tighten it in order to have value. We actually
• 59:52
  have to believe and take off our corset, but then put on the crowd. Now take off the corset and say
• 59:56
  screw it. Take off the corset. Put on the crown and say, I love myself too much to mistreat my body
• 1:00:02
  and my mind and to do things for reasons of ego versus heart. And these, my daughter's 21 right
• 1:00:11
  now and she's living by herself in an apartment. And it's like moments where you realize they did
• 1:00:17
  hear me because there were times I'm like, they didn't listen to us. They didn't listen to us. And
• 1:00:21
  how many times did we say things and they roll their eyes at us or they didn't believe us or they
• 1:00:27
  didn't seem like they were listening. But once they get into their early 20s, late teens,
• 1:00:32
  early 20s, you start to see what we said really did stick and they're believing it. There's a
• 1:00:39
  reason why they say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. And I think we have to be really
• 1:00:43
  cognizant of that and recognize that we're planting seeds and they will harvest a really great
• 1:00:49
  bountiful, beautiful garden if we give it time and consistency. That's your legacy.
• 1:00:57
  It really is. It has to be raising strong, independent, women, men that value themselves. You
• 1:01:05
  just made weight loss spiritual because you don't, if you do it for ego, just like business,
• 1:01:11
  like if you're doing it for ego, you're going to fail. You're going to make a bunch of money
• 1:01:13
  and you realize what the heck am I doing? I've obtained all this and it means nothing. And you're
• 1:01:19
  done because you did it for ego, not because of heart. You want to change the world. You want to see
• 1:01:21
  lives changed. And we're in an ego driven society with a lot of things that we do. And then we have
• 1:01:26
  good heart-centered people in there, working for these individuals. It's being taken advantage of
• 1:01:31
  the system. They get frustrated. They come out of it, whether it's nutritionists or medical doctor
• 1:01:35
  or nurse and like, look, I'm going to do it the right way. Or like my wife, like she was a
• 1:01:41
  end of life nurse, dementia nurse. And she's just like, I don't want to do this anymore. And she
• 1:01:48
  was going to be a chiropractor. So we do it with dieting. We lose the weight. We look a certain
• 1:01:52
  way and we still don't love ourselves. No. And we're miserable. And now we're sick. And or have
• 1:01:58
  bigger health problems. And so we chase this. We do it all for ego. And when we should do it for
• 1:02:04
  heart, it's because I love myself that I want to be a good husband. I want to be a good father.
• 1:02:09
  I want to be connected to nature and life again. I want to feel again. I want to have energy
• 1:02:14
  again. Like I just want to be fully me. Like it's a big difference when you look at whether any
• 1:02:20
  area of your life, it is a spiritual decision of hard energy. Why am I doing this? What is the real
• 1:02:28
  good high level high frequencies serving humanity first serving myself? Of course, but
• 1:02:35
  truly creating something beautiful, like a beautiful flower, right? Versus a flower that you grow
• 1:02:43
  with synthetic chemicals that is going to be that my look good. Yeah, it's going to shrivel up and
• 1:02:47
  die and poison the planet, right? Do we want to give life or do we want to take life? And yeah,
• 1:02:53
  and I think the thing is what I look at this weight loss journey in a very different way.
• 1:03:01
  But I think the reason why we haven't dug into it, like as a person that's been an entrepreneur
• 1:03:07
  for many years, I've heard all of these pieces around the mindset to around business and things
• 1:03:12
  like that. But the problem is we keep using the word weight loss. That is a big piece of this
• 1:03:17
  problem because what we're saying is, no, we mean health. No, we mean health because obesity
• 1:03:22
  and weight is a direct correlation with health. And I'm like, no, no, no, we have too narrow
• 1:03:27
  of you of the definition of health. And if we actually take that out further, we will solve the
• 1:03:31
  weight loss problem. But we keep focusing on weight loss. So therefore we keep focusing on the wrong
• 1:03:37
  things. And that's what I want to disrupt. And I know that it works because not a theory.
• 1:03:42
  I've done this for decades and see it in action. And I want everybody to experience it. Because what
• 1:03:48
  we're really looking for with weight loss is a piece within ourselves. That's what we want. We want
• 1:03:54
  to feel strong and confident. And like we know who we are, what we're searching for is that spiritual
• 1:04:01
  connection. And we have been told a bunch of lies that it's through a weight loss journey. And it
• 1:04:05
  just isn't. I joke because our youngest daughter is adopted. And we were living in Singapore actually
• 1:04:10
  she's Chinese. And we were flying to China. And she was three years old. And she said,
• 1:04:14
  when we get to China, I'll speak Chinese. We adopted her when she was 10 weeks old. She didn't
• 1:04:18
  speak Chinese. She was when we get to China, I'll speak Chinese. And I said, okay, why? She was
• 1:04:23
  because I'm Chinese. So when we get to China, I will be able to speak Chinese. And of course,
• 1:04:27
  we land in China. And she goes, I can't speak Chinese. And we're like, yeah, I know. And it sounds
• 1:04:33
  so silly. We knew that she wasn't going to be able to speak Chinese. But this is what we do with
• 1:04:36
  weight loss. We think, if I lose weight, then I'll be confident. Then I'll be peaceful. Then I'll
• 1:04:40
  have happiness. And I'm like, you don't just arrive and think it's going to happen. It's the work
• 1:04:46
  that you have to actually put in to actually get there has nothing to do with weight loss.
• 1:04:50
  Had nothing to do with us being in China for Ellie to be able to speak Chinese. She actually had
• 1:04:55
  to do the work to learn Chinese in order to speak Chinese. And we actually have to do the work to
• 1:05:00
  love ourselves and be confident to actually be confident weight loss isn't going to get us there.
• 1:05:05
  Although, and that's where people think, well, you don't care about weight loss. I do,
• 1:05:09
  but for the right reasons, because we're just getting sicker and sicker going after the wrong
• 1:05:14
  ones. So what would you say to the woman listening to this being like, oh my gosh,
• 1:05:18
  I mean, my ego, I'm looking in the mirror. I'm looking at my butt. I'm doing it for the wrong
• 1:05:22
  reasons. Being a bad role model for my daughters. Now some of my daughters are doing the same thing.
• 1:05:27
  Like we'll be the first thing you would say to them to get out of ego and into their heart.
• 1:05:31
  The very first thing is I talk about this on metabolic pyramid. I call it the modern day pyramid scheme.
• 1:05:37
  And at the very bottom of the pyramid is like off the pyramid. Like is health, right? Like that's
• 1:05:44
  where we want to be. But we're all on this pyramid. And what we don't realize is the top of the pyramid
• 1:05:49
  is diabetes, prediabetes, cancer, stroke, dementia, Alzheimer's. And weight gain is a symptom
• 1:05:57
  of our health. And so I want to light a fire under your butt if you are in a place where you have
• 1:06:04
  very stubborn weight loss. You are not at your optimal weight, even though you don't know
• 1:06:07
  necessarily what that is. You know you're not at your optimal health because we're going to go
• 1:06:12
  up this pyramid because it starts with symptoms. When we have symptoms like stubborn weight loss,
• 1:06:16
  weight gain, insomnia, fatigue, brain fog, hormonal balances, depression, anxiety,
• 1:06:26
  acne, IBS, any of these symptoms that I know we have in addition to a body, right?
• 1:06:33
  Then we realize, oh my gosh, I'm actually not in a healthy place. Those are symptoms. And we
• 1:06:38
  have a medication for every single one of them. But if we realize that the next step up is metabolic
• 1:06:44
  dysfunction where we have insulin resistance and we have non-alcoholic fatty liver disease,
• 1:06:48
  high cholesterol, high blood pressure, that's the next step. You're going in that direction.
• 1:06:53
  I don't want you to look at your body and get mad at your body because of the way you look.
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  I want you to look at your body and be like, is this the epitome of health right now? If not,
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  I am going to be at the top of that pyramid. It's just a matter of time. And there's only one
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  direction. But in order to get off that, I actually have to show up for myself differently. As a result,
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  yeah, I'll lose the weight, but I actually have to respect myself so much. I look at that mirror
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  and say, there is so much value in this person. There is so much potential here that she's not
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  serving because she's going after the wrong things. So I actually say, get your why based in a
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  deep desire to truly be healthy. Otherwise, you're going to be at the top of that pyramid and you're
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  going to die in your 70s, like 90% of the people are metabolic disease. And I don't say that to
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  scare people, but I do say it to shift their priorities. I want them to do something different,
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  so they can get something different. And it doesn't mean I want them to take off the course to
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  and be like, forget it. I'm not doing anything because that's what ends up happening. They end up
• 1:07:48
  looking themselves and say, forget it. I don't care anymore. I want you to care, but for the right
• 1:07:52
  reasons, like your health is all you have. There should be nothing that's a higher priority than
• 1:07:57
  you taking care of your health because then you could be a better parent. Then you can be a better
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  employee or business owner. Then you can actually show up for people in your church or in your
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  community better. And we just keep prioritizing what I look like. And instead, I want to let a
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  fire into your butt and say, no, that's actually a symptom of your health. And your life is way
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  too important for you not to focus on that. And it shifts us into a heart-driven reasons to show
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  up for ourselves. Does that make sense? Yeah, it makes sense. Yeah, because I don't want to shame
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  people like also like I want you to look good. You know, it's like there's nothing wrong with looking
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  good and being proud of yourself. It comes naturally. Yeah, it comes naturally. Yeah, like you know,
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  like you can see a person that embodies like confidence and health. And they might not look like
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  someone else of a smaller size, but they could be you don't have to have a flat belly to be to be
• 1:08:45
  healthy. You just don't. But like we see all over Instagram, do these five things to have a
• 1:08:50
  perfectly fat belly and the flat belly workout. But do you really want? Now we know the visceral fat
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  around our belly tells us something very important about our health. And that is a symptom I want
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  us to work towards, but not because you think that you are more valuable with a flat belly. It's
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  nuanced, but it really makes a very big difference in how we show up and how we look at ourselves
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  on the air. You're looking yourself. You're just devaluing yourself. It's like I look like crap.
• 1:09:16
  I have this belly and you know, I'm going to do all these workouts so I can get it and then you get
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  it. And then. And the other thing that I say all the time is in that morning time when I talk
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  about gratitude is what can you be grateful for about your body? So many of these women, especially
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  that I work with, have birth multiple children. They're going to have a little bit of a belly. But
• 1:09:33
  they've actually like birthed miracles. Like we don't give ourselves enough credit for what our
• 1:09:38
  bodies do. I have a push because I had three babies, four babies, one baby. Yeah. I birthed human
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  life. Also like I work, I move, I walk like all you have to do is get injured and hurt yourself and
• 1:09:50
  not be able to move to then be really grateful for when you can move. And I think we're not grateful
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  enough for what our body does. We're always looking at what it isn't doing and we're always
• 1:09:59
  mad at ourselves instead of being grateful for ourselves. So that's the next piece of it.
• 1:10:03
  What do you find a way to be grateful for your body in some way every single day?
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  It changes. It's the Subaru Cross check effect. You make me really grateful for my wife because
• 1:10:11
  she's teaching our girls really well. That is so good. And I'm seeing my daughters make really good
• 1:10:15
  decisions and everything that you're saying is how a lot of the things how she raises them.
• 1:10:20
  So much so happy that she they're going to be fine. She steps on. They're going to be fine.
• 1:10:24
  Yeah. They're doing well. So they're very encouraged by this. But speaking of taking off the
• 1:10:30
  corset and putting on the crown, it's your new book. It's going to be released. We're going to
• 1:10:34
  go after this thing, make it a New York Times best seller. So where can they get that? Where can
• 1:10:38
  they find you? Yeah. It really is the book I think I needed and I reread my own book many times
• 1:10:43
  and every time I read it, I'm like, oh my gosh. Yes. That's the book. We have to tell ourselves
• 1:10:47
  this truth because we all get inundated with the stuff. And so we have to have
• 1:10:52
  something that's grounding us and what's true. So yeah, from corset to crown, disrupting everything
• 1:10:55
  you've been told about weight loss, confidence and self-worth comes out in the fall. But right now
• 1:11:00
  people can pre-order it and get the e-book right away, which is really cool, especially with a
• 1:11:06
  whole bunch of other bonuses of some study guides. I'd love for women to be able to in men. Actually,
• 1:11:12
  I've been really attracted to this book as well in book studies and actually talking with other
• 1:11:17
  people around this because I think one of the things that we don't realize is that we're not in
• 1:11:20
  this alone, most of us feel this way. We don't know how to get out of it. And this is a real
• 1:11:27
  a step-by-step way of how to shift our thinking and our doing to be able to get out of this trap
• 1:11:33
  that we're in. So then we have a great book study guide for people to do this with friends
• 1:11:39
  and to be able to work together to be able to take that corset off because it's not something
• 1:11:42
  you just do and it's hard. It's been on us for a really long time.
• 1:11:47
  Yeah, it's like a tree that's grown around on something. It's a really good metaphor for that.
• 1:11:54
  I just saw that because I believe it because what we've been told about ourselves and the lies we've
• 1:11:58
  been told and men speaking down against women and saying you need a breast implant because you
• 1:12:03
  want to look like all these other women like this grossness that our society has created
• 1:12:08
  and it's just tightening the corset. And it's a continuum, right? There's something
• 1:12:11
  you'll all never do that, but I will do these other things. So we have to really decide
• 1:12:16
  every day. What are we doing? Why are we doing it? But one thing I love about the book is my mom
• 1:12:20
  who struggled with her own disordered eating and self-worth and has still working through it.
• 1:12:26
  She's an artist and she drew a flower at the end of every chapter. And the goal is after you
• 1:12:32
  reflect and go to the library and kind of have your little little legal pad after each chapter,
• 1:12:38
  you pick up these flowers that she makes. And at the end, there's a whole bouquet waiting for you.
• 1:12:42
  And so our goal is that women will buy themselves a bouquet of flowers. They will buy themselves a
• 1:12:48
  TR from Amazon, just like Grace did, and take a picture and really affirm their self worth
• 1:12:54
  and what they know to be true about who they are in their purpose and show up from themselves
• 1:12:58
  in the way that we show them to because they love themselves so much. So it's a pretty cool
• 1:13:02
  interactive way to know it's brilliant because it creates the right kind of feedback loop,
• 1:13:07
  which you need to change behavior. Like you've put it, this is all science. It's all science.
• 1:13:11
  Everything you've done is you've put some serious thought in this thing. It's not just a book,
• 1:13:16
  to write a book. It's a book that you want to have. I wanted to write a book for a long time,
• 1:13:20
  but it was like finally last year, I did a TEDx actually. And when you do a TED talk, you have to
• 1:13:26
  consolidate your message in 15 minutes. And that forced me into what is the real message here?
• 1:13:32
  And then that got me really clear on finally being able to write the book.
• 1:13:35
  Yeah, I'd love it. I think we went over most of the book here.
• 1:13:37
  I know, a lot of it. There's still actually so much more stuff.
• 1:13:40
  Of course, yeah, I know. I'm just saying it was a wonderful conversation. I learned so much today.
• 1:13:45
  I'm going to fully read your book. I've read some of it, but I'm going to fully read your book.
• 1:13:49
  And I'm really excited to do it. And I want to share with a lot of my friends because I have a
• 1:13:54
  lot of friends that are trapped in this very thing. I think some of it, some of these belief structures
• 1:13:59
  are inside of me. So I'm looking forward on what my daughter to read it. And she's, you know,
• 1:14:06
  14 and I mean, she's doing amazing, but this is this is the type, this is what I'd want my daughter
• 1:14:10
  to read. And I think we'll give them the language too to be able to have really interesting
• 1:14:15
  conversations with their friends who will need it as well. Because I always say we can learn it
• 1:14:19
  and do it for ourselves, but really our goal is to serve others. So once we know something,
• 1:14:23
  then we actually have to share it with others. Yeah, she watches her friends like some of their,
• 1:14:27
  you know, other friends and they're on calorie restriction. And they're just, I know at 14.
• 1:14:31
  And they're they're drinking sugar, you know, that's all they're drinking as a sugary drink. Yes.
• 1:14:35
  And to calorie strict and that spray tanning and like all that stuff, just to look a certain way,
• 1:14:41
  and then they're still gaining weight because they're broken metabolically. Exactly. And then they
• 1:14:44
  get on a GLP one because their friends are, yeah, it's literally happening right in front of it.
• 1:14:49
  It really is. And you're in that age range right now, but I really walk through all of that in the
• 1:14:53
  book. And I believe that like in school lunches today, if you just do salad and a kids lunch,
• 1:14:58
  you're not going to eat it. But if you can actually help them to understand what's going on in
• 1:15:02
  their body and why serving your body matter so much, they will choose the healthier options.
• 1:15:08
  We just aren't giving them the education to be able to do that. So I believe that truly this,
• 1:15:14
  this knowledge base then also aligned with a change of beliefs and a heightened awareness
• 1:15:21
  can literally change the way the world looks at food in their bodies. And that's my goal.
• 1:15:24
  And other countries do look at it that way. No, we're like, we're all convoluted up here.
• 1:15:29
  Yeah, we think we're all, you know, smart in America. My daughter's reading about Italy right now.
• 1:15:32
  She's like, you know what? They serve organic food. Yes. I've lived in Asia. I even know that.
• 1:15:36
  No, I lived in Asia. I've lived in Europe. I've lived in Mexico. And it's unbelievably different.
• 1:15:42
  It's like when you come back, your eyes are opened. And like I said, once you see something,
• 1:15:45
  you'll have to say something. And so I think this book is allowing people to start seeing things
• 1:15:49
  differently. And then they'll have to start saying things. We'll share this podcast, everybody.
• 1:15:52
  Yes. You know, say it loud. This is one of my favorite podcasts I've ever had. And I rarely say that.
• 1:15:59
  No offense to all the other podcasts out there. Of course not. But I just, I was really inspired.
• 1:16:04
  I learned so much about myself and how I think and how I can be better. So there's some things here
• 1:16:09
  that I can't unsee. Exactly. So where can they find you on Instagram and things like that?
• 1:16:14
  So carry underscore LePoly and Instagram. And my website is carrylePoly.com.
• 1:16:19
  That's where you can get the book. And that's where you can kind of learn all the ways that
• 1:16:23
  we work to disrupt the BS of the diet industry and replace it with the BS we really need,
• 1:16:27
  belief systems, behavioral science and blood sugar. Yeah. So let's just I'm going to remind
• 1:16:31
  everybody. You're loved. You're awesome. You're beautiful. You're kind. You're a good human.
• 1:16:37
  And you deserve the best life. And you deserve more than weight loss, right? You deserve to
• 1:16:43
  have a higher purpose and be connected with each other and your family at a much higher level.
• 1:16:48
  And we've learned one way to do that today through your work. So we're just honored to be here
• 1:16:53
  and honored to share you with this beautiful audience that allows me for whatever reason. You know,
• 1:16:59
  that they see my heart to to help people and I'm bringing good people on. And you've been one of
• 1:17:05
  the top top pod. So I love it. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you. Well worth the trip to
• 1:17:09
  come out to meet you and to do this together.