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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: On Choosing Hope When You're Tired · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily and body here you are listening to
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  Speaker 1: five minute Friday Unhurdle. I'm so happy to be home
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  Speaker 1: in Brooklyn. Two weeks of work travel, a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of personal mixed in there, and to say that I
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  Speaker 1: have missed my space as an understatement, although lots of
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  Speaker 1: good things to be grateful for while over on the
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  Speaker 1: West Coast, I, like many of you, am feeling really
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  Speaker 1: frustrated and a little all over the place lately. I
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  Speaker 1: know that so many of you come here for inspiration
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  Speaker 1: and motivation, and you want the tips and tricks to
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  Speaker 1: live a healthier and happier, more motivated life, and I
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  Speaker 1: love giving you those things. But I would be remiss
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  Speaker 1: if I didn't just say that I am tired. I
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  Speaker 1: am tired. I'm tired of opening my phone and being
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  Speaker 1: inundated with sadness and frustration. I am tired of feeling
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  Speaker 1: like everyone is so divided. I hate what is going
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  Speaker 1: on in Minnesota, and I hate seeing so much hurt,
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  Speaker 1: and like many of you, I am sure I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to see that anymore. With that said, I also
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  Speaker 1: have some hope. And I have hope because I choose hope.
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  Speaker 1: That is something that I've been coming back to a
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  Speaker 1: lot lately that I have this opportunity, like Megan said
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  Speaker 1: in Monday's episode, to make a choice of how a
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  Speaker 1: life changing event changes me. It might not always feel easy,
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  Speaker 1: And like Megan said, emotions live at first in the
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  Speaker 1: body for about a ninety second period, and then what
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  Speaker 1: happens is that then our thoughts get into the mix.
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  Speaker 1: Then we start to storytell, and so each and every
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  Speaker 1: day lately, I've been doing the best that I can
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  Speaker 1: to make conscious choices about the stories that I am
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  Speaker 1: telling myself, about the way that I'm speaking to myself,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm checking myself because I need it. I am
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  Speaker 1: checking myself, and I am finding it within me to
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  Speaker 1: have grace when so much feels beyond my control, rather
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  Speaker 1: than letting anger and frustration take over me, I am
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  Speaker 1: asking myself what is within my power to do right now?
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes we need to do that right Sometimes we
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  Speaker 1: need to get a little bit micro so that we
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  Speaker 1: can just keep moving forward. It's funny I say that,
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  Speaker 1: and I think about how I was hanging out with
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  Speaker 1: my good friend Beck's gentry this week. She's a Peloton instructor,
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  Speaker 1: and she often says that forward is a pace, and
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  Speaker 1: right now that rings so true for me that all
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  Speaker 1: I can keep doing is moving forward. And it might
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  Speaker 1: not be at the speed of which I desire. I
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  Speaker 1: might not be progressing as I would like, but all
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  Speaker 1: progress is progress. All progress is progress. And so on
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  Speaker 1: the days where things feel heavy, and on the days
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  Speaker 1: where I am feeling tired, and on the days where
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  Speaker 1: I wish that I moved my body like this but
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  Speaker 1: only had time to do this, and I get angry
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  Speaker 1: about God knows what I find it within myself to
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  Speaker 1: first choose grace and second choose myself. And choosing myself
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  Speaker 1: looks like being kind, it looks like slowing down, It
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  Speaker 1: looks like moving forward and recognizing that again forward is
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  Speaker 1: a pace. And so this week, what I offer to
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  Speaker 1: you is the encouragement to do a little bit of
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  Speaker 1: a reset. This is something that I do, yes every
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  Speaker 1: time that I come back from traveling, but also when
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  Speaker 1: I'm just feeling really overwhelmed, and it's a set of
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  Speaker 1: intentional things that make me feel like a better me.
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  Speaker 1: It starts with moving my body. I then buy myself
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  Speaker 1: something nourishing. Ideally that's a grocery trip. I talk to
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  Speaker 1: someone that cares about me, that I have no doubt
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  Speaker 1: about a good friend, a family member. And then I
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  Speaker 1: sit down and I unplug, and I take some time
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  Speaker 1: for myself, whether that's reading or writing or painting. I
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  Speaker 1: recently bought a paint by Numbers that makes me very happy.
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  Speaker 1: I do something that allows me to come back to calm,
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  Speaker 1: that allows me to truly reset, and each and every
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  Speaker 1: time I am so much better for it. Again, my
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  Speaker 1: prompt for you is, can you do your own little reset?
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  Speaker 1: I'm curious to know what the components are of that
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  Speaker 1: for you, and I would love for you to tag
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  Speaker 1: me in those resets over on social And now a
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  Speaker 1: listener question. Hey, Emily, saw your post today about the
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  Speaker 1: feeling that stays after a no. I just got a
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  Speaker 1: note today that has shifted energy of mine All day.
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  Speaker 1: My head is in between rejection is redirection? And am
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  Speaker 1: I really good at this? Even with receiving compliments this afternoon,
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  Speaker 1: it feels like it's not enough to shake this feeling off.
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  Speaker 1: I guess it's showing me how much I wanted it.
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  Speaker 1: Any tips on differentiating a redirection to something completely different
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  Speaker 1: or to just try a different and path there? Thanks Jessica,
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  Speaker 1: so This is a loaded question and a good question,
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  Speaker 1: and one that I talked a lot about last week
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  Speaker 1: on five Minute Friday. The resounding advice I will give
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  Speaker 1: here is that when something doesn't work out for you,
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  Speaker 1: it's because something better is coming in its place. And
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  Speaker 1: I can promise you that I know it sounds a
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  Speaker 1: little woo woo, but every time that I have gotten
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  Speaker 1: to this point where I am frustrated and there are
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  Speaker 1: tears and I am angry, those are the same word,
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  Speaker 1: but you get what I'm saying, Eventually life shows up
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  Speaker 1: for me in a way that maybe I didn't expect.
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  Speaker 1: And it's always been better than I anticipated. And so
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  Speaker 1: right now, in the moments where you're feeling angry, you're
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  Speaker 1: feeling beside yourself, I encourage you to ask yourself, do
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  Speaker 1: I have any evidence that it can't get better? Because
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  Speaker 1: more often than not, the answer to that is no,
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  Speaker 1: I don't. More than eighty percent of our thoughts on
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  Speaker 1: any given day, the science says are negative. It is
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  Speaker 1: human inclination to have a negative bias. But what if
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  Speaker 1: you started to train your brain, you started to be
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  Speaker 1: very intentional about looking for the good. What if it
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  Speaker 1: is better than you imagined? Another piece of advice when
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  Speaker 1: I'm feeling frustrated is I make it a point to
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  Speaker 1: allow myself to feel that frustration before moving forward into
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  Speaker 1: this what if this is the best thing that could
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  Speaker 1: happen to me mode, because you don't work hard for
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  Speaker 1: things not to go as you had hoped. Allow for that,
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  Speaker 1: and then choose what happens next. Choose yourself by opening
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  Speaker 1: yourself up to the possibility that it can get better,
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  Speaker 1: and I promise you that it will. Make sure you're
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