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Season 3 - Episode 335 - What do you do when you cant’t control something? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So some food for thought today. When you can't control what's
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  happening around you or others, challenge yourself to control
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  the way you respond to it. And this is how you develop a
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  superpower because when you can control how you respond, when
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  you can control your emotions, when you can control what you're
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  going to get hooked by, all of a sudden you have entered a new
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  level of getting on your superhero.
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  And I can't begin to express in the world of emotions how tricky
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  this is. And it's a test.
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  This is an absolute test of your resilience.
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  It's a test of how you want to work on yourself.
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  It's a test of your awareness. So many parts have come into
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  this. Being aware of what exactly is
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  going on in order to, you know, understand you have to stop and
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  pause is a very, very big deal. If you can't figure out where
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  your hooked, you'll never be able to do this.
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  You'll never be able to say I can control my response here.
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  And controlling your response is all we really have, right?
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  We can control our belief systems, we can control what
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  we're thinking, we can control how what comes out of our mouth.
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  We can control our physical response to it.
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  We can't control the outside world.
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  I can't control the weather. I can't make the chickens go in
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  the coop when I want them to. I can't control how cold it is
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  this morning. I can't control what's going to
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  come after them. I can't control all the
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  creatures that are going to try to kill them.
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  I I can't control if people are going to be on time for their
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  appointments. I can't control the traffic.
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  I could go on and on with a list of all the things I cannot
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  control. I mean, I have all these
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  chickens in this coop. I cannot control who's going to
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  lay an egg and who's not. I just can't.
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  Some of them are complete freeloaders right now, not
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  laying eggs, and others are laying eggs.
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  All I can say is it's cold. Whoever's going to lay is going
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  to lay, and who's not is not. And one would think with, you
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  know, 64 chickens, let's see, 62 of them being female, I should
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  be having quite a bit of eggs every day.
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  Well, today I only got 20. So guess what?
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  That's OK. That's what the way it works, I
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  can't control that now. I don't even need 20 eggs.
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  Obviously I like to give them away, but it's using it as a
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  point. I have to just, OK, that's where
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  we are now. Somebody said when I was talking
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  to them about this, well, I have to accept these things, then
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  that means I can't do something about it.
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  And I said, no, I never said you can't do something about it.
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  What I said is you can't. You have to control your
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  response. Now you can change how you
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  respond. You can do something that's
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  going to make you more empowered.
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  You can do something that's going to make you less
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  empowered. You have options to how of how
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  to respond in order to make it different or better, but you do
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  not have to let it control your responses where you flip out or
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  you lose your mind or you sit there and start to think
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  horrible thoughts for no reason. You get to choose how you want
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  this to go internally for you and you can sit there and say, I
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  don't care. I mean, we've all seen that
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  person where we go, man, this person just doesn't care.
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  They just shut it right down. They truly do not care.
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  I wish I could be like that sometimes and it is an art.
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  It is an art to actually push yourself and say, I don't care.
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  But guess what? Sometimes it's really a lot
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  better when you say I don't care or I care, but I can't do
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  anything about that. So I have to let it go.
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  That's very much how I felt about dealing with my mother
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  when she was sick. I care deeply, but I could, I
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  couldn't force her to do the things she wasn't going to do.
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  I had to just focus on it. So remember the statement that I
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  I read, and I'm going to read it again to you because I think
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  it's so important to recognize it.
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  When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to
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  control the way you respond to it because that's how you become
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  the superhero. When I wrote that down, I was
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  like, yes, this is so perfect. You have to focus on it.
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  Do I want to be the superhero? And if I'm responding the right
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  way, am I responding as the superhero?
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  Am I responding as the villain? Because sometimes in my head, I
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  like thinking of it that way because it gives me a little bit
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  more power to kind of hone in myself.
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  I really do prefer to think of myself as a superhero as opposed
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  to the the villain doing the bad things.
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  So you cultivate that by checking in, by believing it, by
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  doing it. And I mean, that is that is the
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  essence of all. So I hope that you can hear
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  that. I hope you can go back and look
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  at that and find something for yourself in there because that's
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  where this power lies. And you've got to find that
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  superhero inside of you that says, I get to choose my
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  response. I get to choose that piece no
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  matter what. Nobody can control that piece
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  for me. So, my friends, I hope you have
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  a blessed superhero day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.