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Season 8: Episode #4 with Coach KimmyB · Kickin’ It With KeKe: Life, Love, & MINDSET

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Kicking In with Kiki. Kicking it you ki
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  Speaker 2: For little personality, switching up the story inline on God
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  Speaker 3: How much problems to the side, Enjoy yourself, free.
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  Speaker 1: Your mind, chicken it we ki keep.
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  Speaker 2: What's up guys, and welcome back to another episode of
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  Speaker 2: Kicking and Wikiki, Life, Love and all that other ship.
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  Speaker 2: I am your host, Kiki Chanel. You know, with this
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  Speaker 2: podcast we are all about mindset personal growth, but this
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  Speaker 2: season we're focusing on life, love and all the other
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  Speaker 2: ship that comes with it. Today I am join with
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  Speaker 2: the very special guest. She is not new to the platform.
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  Speaker 2: You guys shouldn't know her by now. But again I
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  Speaker 2: like to give my guests the opportunity to introduce themselves.
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  Speaker 2: So sis, tell the people who you are, introduce yourself
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  Speaker 2: to the newbies, and refresh yourself, you know with the
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  Speaker 2: people that has always been a supporter of the show.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, hey, y'all, how y'all doing?
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  Speaker 1: This?
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  Speaker 3: Is your girl?
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  Speaker 4: Can we be the owner and CEO of Butterfly Thoughts,
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  Speaker 4: where we help young women to just see things from
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  Speaker 4: a different perspective, see things in a different light so
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  Speaker 4: that they can live their life more prosperously.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you've been on the show for a minute.
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  Speaker 2: We have a segment, and our segment gonna come back.
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  Speaker 2: You know, yes, I missed the coaches corner. We had
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  Speaker 2: so much fun. Life happens, and life has been happening
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  Speaker 2: to us all so we have learned a pivot and
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  Speaker 2: do other things.
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  Speaker 3: It's been good stuff. It's been good stuff.
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  Speaker 4: We've been going and learning some more new things. So
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  Speaker 4: you know we're gonna bring back another little flat to it.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, so we don't get into this life love and
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  Speaker 2: all this other shit, and then I'll get into some
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  Speaker 2: new Kimmy be shit. You know. I would love to
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  Speaker 2: ask this question. And the reason why I like this
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  Speaker 2: question is I like to get the different perspectives when
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  Speaker 2: it comes to this question. You're ready.
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  Speaker 3: I'm ready, girl.
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  Speaker 2: If you had to give your definition of life, what
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  Speaker 2: would it be? And why?
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  Speaker 3: Wow? My definition of life?
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  Speaker 2: Who?
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  Speaker 3: I will say this?
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  Speaker 4: I think what's his name said it? The best life
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  Speaker 4: is like a box of chocolates. You never know what
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  Speaker 4: you're get.
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  Speaker 3: Far As Gump, his mama said that right, life is
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  Speaker 3: like a box of chocolate. You never know what you're
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  Speaker 3: gonna get.
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  Speaker 4: However, it is how you deal with it, is how
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  Speaker 4: you make life better or upside down.
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  Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Because I'm glad that you say that, because
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  Speaker 2: I don't really care for coconut. So you know, some
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  Speaker 2: of those chocolates come and it's chocolate, but then you
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  Speaker 2: get into it and it's coconut, and I could just see.
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  Speaker 3: Me right right. Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes you have scenarios and situations that you come across
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  Speaker 2: in life, curve bars and stuff like that that may
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  Speaker 2: taste like something that you just don't like.
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  Speaker 3: I don't like.
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  Speaker 2: That's a type of chocolate that you just don't like.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not really big on dark chocolate, but it's better
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  Speaker 2: for your.
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  Speaker 4: Heart exactly, it is. Oh see, I can't do milk
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  Speaker 4: chocolate no more. I used to be able to do it,
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  Speaker 4: but now when I I can't do too much of
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  Speaker 4: it because taste buzz is like, excuse me.
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  Speaker 3: What we're doing? What we're doing, you know.
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  Speaker 4: But dark chocolate is my thing, especially when it's mixed
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  Speaker 4: with almonds or some type of hazel nut or something
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  Speaker 4: like that.
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  Speaker 3: It's just it's good. It tastes good to me. And
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  Speaker 3: it's good for you because the nuts have, you know,
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  Speaker 3: properties that is good for your body. The dark chocolate
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  Speaker 3: have properties that is good for your body. So yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that's a perfect combination for me.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I like it. I like it. Now, let's let's
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  Speaker 2: talk about curve balls for a minute, because we all
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  Speaker 2: have experienced those things. Life is still throwing some of
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  Speaker 2: us some curve balls. And you have recently made a
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  Speaker 2: pivot in your business. Yes, And that's a great segue.
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  Speaker 2: So talk to someone who is listening that may be
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  Speaker 2: on the verge of giving up because they are afraid,
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  Speaker 2: are scared. I'm not gonna say afraid they're scared. I ain't.
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  Speaker 2: Don't even stay scared, too.
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  Speaker 3: Comfortable where they got.
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  Speaker 2: Too comfortable and where they are to make that pivot,
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  Speaker 2: because sometimes it's necessary in order to grow and become
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  Speaker 2: the person that God wants us to be. So learn't
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  Speaker 2: going to pivot? What would Kimmy be, Coach, kim tell
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  Speaker 2: a listener who is feeling like they are stuck or
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  Speaker 2: too comfortable to make that pivot. Right.
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  Speaker 3: So I came up with a method, and it's called
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  Speaker 3: the Stock method. Right.
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  Speaker 4: And I came up with this method because in my
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  Speaker 4: regular nine to five. I see people all day every
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  Speaker 4: day coming out angry and frustrated and whatnot. And it's
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  Speaker 4: basically what life is. It's basically, you know, things changing,
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  Speaker 4: things not being.
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  Speaker 3: Quite what they want it to be.
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  Speaker 4: It's they're comfortable in one thing and not wanting that change.
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  Speaker 3: So I just tell them, I'm.
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  Speaker 4: Like, listen, stop, stop, breathe, take a deep breath and
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  Speaker 4: allow your mind to just go for a minute. And
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  Speaker 4: then here comes the old, which is observed. Observe the
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  Speaker 4: things that brought you to this point of this frustration
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  Speaker 4: that you're going through right now.
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  Speaker 3: See what it is that.
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  Speaker 4: Triggered you, and then the pe is through. There's three piece.
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  Speaker 4: Before you get to those three piece, you go to
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  Speaker 4: ask yourself one question, is there anything that I can
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  Speaker 4: do about the situation.
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  Speaker 3: If the answer is no, you're gonna pray and let
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  Speaker 3: that then go okay.
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  Speaker 4: If the answer is yes, this is where the three
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  Speaker 4: p's come in. You're going to plan. You're going to
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  Speaker 4: pray over that plan.
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  Speaker 3: And allow.
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  Speaker 4: The plan to go forward, which is be proceeding, proceeding
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  Speaker 4: with the plan that you just prayed on, because again,
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  Speaker 4: life without works is dead. We can't pray on something
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  Speaker 4: that we're not planning to.
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  Speaker 2: Put the work in for absolutely so.
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  Speaker 4: Being that where we know that we already made the plan.
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  Speaker 4: We prayed on the plan. Now we gotta proceed with
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  Speaker 4: the plan. And when you proceed with the plan, the
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  Speaker 4: things that you do not have to continue to make
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  Speaker 4: it prosperous. God will put align those things.
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  Speaker 3: For you so that God.
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  Speaker 2: Will provide.
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  Speaker 4: God will provide, and they'll go. The fourth p thank
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  Speaker 4: you for that sis, because now I'm gonna add it.
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  Speaker 2: No, the last pin is knowing that God will provide.
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  Speaker 3: That's it. That's it.
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  Speaker 4: So that's where my stop method comes into play. And
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  Speaker 4: it works because again I have used it myself and
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  Speaker 4: it has worked. I have given it to other people
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  Speaker 4: and I know that that it works for them as well.
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  Speaker 4: So you just have to know to say, you know what,
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  Speaker 4: stop stop stop stop stoping like, let's not go no
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  Speaker 4: further and let's take that deep breath, those couple deep
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  Speaker 4: brands that we need to refocus our minds and allow
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  Speaker 4: the things to just flow out our mind for a second,
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  Speaker 4: and thank continue.
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  Speaker 2: I love that. I love the stop method, and that
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  Speaker 2: brings me to we are doing a self care challenge
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  Speaker 2: because I have an event that I'm I have coming up.
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  Speaker 2: It's not my event, but I would be a part
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  Speaker 2: of it with the Weekend Girl of Bad and Ruge
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  Speaker 2: and it's called Molossom and Brunch and it's like an experience.
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  Speaker 2: You customize the experience. They're gonna have different ways of meditating, yoga,
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  Speaker 2: all types of panel discussions about self love, self care
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  Speaker 2: and things like that. And so they have started leading
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  Speaker 2: up to the event a self care challenge. We are
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  Speaker 2: in week with four, Yes Week four, and thank you
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  Speaker 2: for being a part of it, and it's open. It
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  Speaker 2: was open to everybody, but I wanted to talk about
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  Speaker 2: how you have been sharing and posting and enjoying that
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  Speaker 2: self care challenge because self care is something that we
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  Speaker 2: all must go through in order to become the best
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  Speaker 2: version of ourselves.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, absolutely, So let's.
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  Speaker 2: Talk about self care a little bit. I mean, and
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  Speaker 2: and listen, listen. Self care is not all about getting
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  Speaker 2: your nails in, your haird done and stuff like that. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: I do that because my mama raised me to don't
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  Speaker 2: leave your house looking on any kind of way, right,
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  Speaker 2: and it makes me feel good, But that's not the
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  Speaker 2: that's not the overall concept of self care.
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  Speaker 3: That's just the tip of the iceberg.
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  Speaker 4: Doing your hair, doing your nails, doing you know, these
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  Speaker 4: little detail therapy. That's just yeah, retail therapy. That's just
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  Speaker 4: the tip of the iceberg.
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  Speaker 2: It's deeper, much deeper than that.
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  Speaker 3: It's much much deeper than that.
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  Speaker 4: And with this challenge that we were that we were
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  Speaker 4: on it, it got kind of deep because I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: there are things that I never thought about that could
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  Speaker 4: be that it's self care, but nobody thinks about these things.
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  Speaker 2: Trying a new hobby.
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  Speaker 4: That was what that was yesterday's right, So that was
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  Speaker 4: that was good in itself, And I had to post
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  Speaker 4: it in a way where there was two different things
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  Speaker 4: going on at the same time, because I wanted to
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  Speaker 4: show people that, yeah, you can be this in the.
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  Speaker 3: Background and in the forefront, but in the back you
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  Speaker 3: may want to do something a little different, so you
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  Speaker 3: come up with something else, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: So I just love the fact that, you know, these
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  Speaker 3: self care challenges went deeper than just the norm love.
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  Speaker 2: I think for me, my favorite thus far is just
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  Speaker 2: getting outside, taking a walk, becoming one with nature. And
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  Speaker 2: I do grounding, so I love to go outside and
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  Speaker 2: stick my feet in the ground. Yeah. I used to
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  Speaker 2: have trees in my backyard, but I live in Louisiana
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  Speaker 2: and so we have to get them trees cut down
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  Speaker 2: because of hurricanes blessed right. But I have no problem
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  Speaker 2: hugging a tree. It centers you. It gives that magnetic
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  Speaker 2: pull of the of the earth, right, calm your nervous system.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, it helps with.
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  Speaker 2: That that feel good drug what it's called endorphinsdorphins. Yep.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm glad that Simone and Sierra and Miss Pam
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  Speaker 2: and so many others that are on her team came
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  Speaker 2: up with the Blossoming Brunch and the self prayer challenge
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  Speaker 2: because we go through we do challenges all the time
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  Speaker 2: in our community. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely, because I have to. You always have to
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  Speaker 4: be challenging yourself. Yes, because you need to be challenging yourself.
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  Speaker 3: You're going to stay stagnant, You're going to stay stuck,
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  Speaker 3: and we need not to be being stuck. We need
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  Speaker 3: to keep ourselves going.
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  Speaker 4: We need to always challenge ourselves so that not only
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  Speaker 4: can we keep going in this thing called life, but in.
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  Speaker 3: Order for our self to elevate.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I was just about to say in order
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  Speaker 2: to have any type of personal growth and elevation, you
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  Speaker 2: have to challenge, challenge yourself.
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  Speaker 3: Got to I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Getting ready to challenge myself the whole month of uh.
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  Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna do it in March. I really
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  Speaker 2: think I'm gonna do it in March because I have
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  Speaker 2: to get back on my juicing. I have not juiced
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  Speaker 2: any this year and I feel lost without my juice.
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  Speaker 4: Oh boy, so we got to be on this challenge, girl.
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  Speaker 2: I think that you know what, I may do it
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  Speaker 2: for the month of April because I just thought about it. Mark,
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  Speaker 2: It's Carnival to Time here, it's Marty Gross season here. Yeah. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: we're gonna do it in April. Let's let's do it
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  Speaker 2: for April. So if anybody is that's listening who would
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  Speaker 2: like to be a part of the challenge, send an
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  Speaker 2: email to Kicking In with Kiki Media at gmail dot com.
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  Speaker 2: Don't forget that there's no g on kicking I will
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  Speaker 2: put that in the show notes so you can send
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  Speaker 2: in your request. It is gonna be totally free. But
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  Speaker 2: what we do is holding each other accountable. We have
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  Speaker 2: like a community. We'll probably do some zooms or whatever
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  Speaker 2: just to tap in with each other to see how
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  Speaker 2: you feeling, because these challenges can get hard, especially with
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  Speaker 2: the juicing challenge, because if you're not drinking enough juice
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  Speaker 2: or you know, getting enough nutrients or whatever, gonna be
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  Speaker 2: Grupping's hail by day three.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: When we dig challenge to quit at the Day three.
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  Speaker 4: Girl, but the juice challenge with no with no food
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  Speaker 4: at all.
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  Speaker 2: She did get We could do salads though, but it
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  Speaker 2: was all raw food.
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  Speaker 3: There was no cook food soever, and like I had.
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  Speaker 2: That juice would have been nasty for Day three girl challenge.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all need to tap into Lady Key. I don't know
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  Speaker 2: when she's doing another challenge. She is on Instagram. I
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  Speaker 2: will put her information in the show notes as well.
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  Speaker 2: She is an amazing juice specialist, a juice therapist, juice ologists.
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  Speaker 4: She's all the three, all all the three is amazing.
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  Speaker 4: So would like literally break things down for you where
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  Speaker 4: it makes sense to you and make you understand or
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  Speaker 4: help you to understand that the things that we on
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  Speaker 4: a day.
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  Speaker 3: To day basis, it's not good for us. Some of
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  Speaker 3: these things.
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  Speaker 2: Made my steps on the scale today at the doctor's office,
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  Speaker 2: and I was like, Okay, Okay, Yeah, I mean not
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  Speaker 2: only I'm juicing. I need to make sure that I
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  Speaker 2: stay healthy and I'm not at a bad I'm not
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  Speaker 2: nowhere on the borderline of being hurt for a harmful
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  Speaker 2: for myself or my health.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And I think it's because you know, when you when
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  Speaker 2: you are at peace and you're not stressed about anything,
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  Speaker 2: you tend to you tend to have a little happy
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  Speaker 2: way on you.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, absolutely, absolutely, right Now, let's.
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  Speaker 2: Talk about it. Let's talk about the pivot that you've made.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yes, tell the people.
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  Speaker 4: So it's actually an addition to what I've been doing.
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  Speaker 4: I'm still the perspective coach. How I have recently became
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  Speaker 4: certified as.
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  Speaker 3: A journal therapy coach. What does that mean? Oh so though,
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  Speaker 3: thank you, thank you, thank you. What does that mean?
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  Speaker 4: That means everything that I do, any programs that I do,
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  Speaker 4: any you know, one on one coaching that I do,
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  Speaker 4: anything like that. It is always going to be rooted
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  Speaker 4: in journaling. It's going to be rooted in journaling because,
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  Speaker 4: first of all, that's what helped me on my journey
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  Speaker 4: because I was doing it not even knowing that I.
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  Speaker 3: Was doing it.
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  Speaker 2: Right, I've been man, I have so many journals. I
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  Speaker 2: have journal I didn't, like you said, I didn't know it.
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't using a journal though I would always be
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  Speaker 2: the best has to have a notebook like notebook and
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  Speaker 2: we went to the I could be at the grocery store.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to that now that has like the the
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  Speaker 2: uh school private your school? Ye, can you just buy
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  Speaker 2: me this notebook?
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  Speaker 3: Yep?
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  Speaker 4: That and and we'll be happy campus with just the notebook.
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  Speaker 2: M hm. Ahead. I'm not not to cut you off,
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  Speaker 2: but I just want to let you know that I'm
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  Speaker 2: a Johnal girl too. Yes.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, there's so many times I go into like Family
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  Speaker 4: Dollar or Dollar Try, and I cannot go in there
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  Speaker 4: without going through the school supply section or the art sections,
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  Speaker 4: just to see what they got going on. Because again,
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  Speaker 4: I'm a very I'm very journal I'm very creative.
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  Speaker 3: I like to do a lot of creative stuff.
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  Speaker 4: But journals, I'm always getting a journal book or some
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  Speaker 4: type of notebook because I know that for me it
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  Speaker 4: is therapeutic mm hmm. And hence why it's a journal
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  Speaker 4: therapy coach. Right, I love it because it is such
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  Speaker 4: therapy for your mind, for your body, for your soul.
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  Speaker 4: Because if your mind is off kiltered, the rest of
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  Speaker 4: your body is going to be off kiltered.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely. So I know a couple of people who are
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  Speaker 2: not into journaling. What can you say to these people?
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  Speaker 3: I just keep telling them, right, write it out.
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  Speaker 2: Because you try it, just try it, try it. You
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  Speaker 2: may need got it.
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  Speaker 4: And there are guided journals. I have seven of them.
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  Speaker 2: You may have to have a prompt, a journal prompts
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  Speaker 2: you might need to write.
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  Speaker 4: About exactly, and you could always Again, if you don't
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  Speaker 4: have a guided journal, you can always go on Google Chat,
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  Speaker 4: GPT whatever, put it in. Give me some journal prompts
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  Speaker 4: mm hm, and they will it will give you journal
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  Speaker 4: prompts and you just take one of them and just
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  Speaker 4: start writing.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even go a step further than that. Write
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  Speaker 2: about how you're feeling.
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  Speaker 3: That part.
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  Speaker 2: That's plain and simple. You might get distracted, but allow
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  Speaker 2: that say that I am I am writing, but I'm
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  Speaker 2: thinking about cheese right now.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 4: And what you're thinking, because you never know where that
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  Speaker 4: first line is going to take you.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely absolutely, because sometimes.
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  Speaker 4: It will take you from just the one sentence line.
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  Speaker 3: And even if you're like, I don't know what else
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: to write, write that.
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: I don't know where to start.
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: I don't know where to start write that, write anything,
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: because guess what, when you start to God will drop
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: the things in your heart that you need to write about.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: Absolutely literally.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: I love that somewhere.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: You have to start, You have to put forth in effort.
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: That part, because once again, prayers without works is dead.
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: Faith is there is dead anything in my life that
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: is not faith based. I don't really focus too much
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: on it because they don't have nothing to do with me.
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: I love God? What's wrong with What's wrong with you?
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: Shout out of Erica Camel.
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: We talk about this right.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: Here is probably gonna give a little, little little heavy
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: We're moving from the life to the love portion.
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: And I want to talk a little bit about friendship
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: versus sisterhood, because people can tell you all day long,
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: I love you sis, I call you sis, and then
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: ain't no substance behind it. It's just it sounds good,
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: right right, But right when it comes to love and friendship,
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: how do you feel about the two those two words
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: in the same sentence, How would you describe them or
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: what should those characteristics look like?
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: Hmmm?
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: And I'll say your top three because we can talk
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: about this all day. I'm gonna do the top The
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: top three characteristics of a friend for you would be
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: what when it comes to love.
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: First of all, they gotta have some type of faith.
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: They have to have some type of faith, whether it's
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: a friend, whether it's a sister, whether it's a lover,
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: regardless to what. If you're going to be around me,
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: you have to have some type of faith in your
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: heart for yourself, for God, and know that God is
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: not going to put nothing in front of you that
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: is not going to take you somewhere. But you have
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: to be grounded in some type of faith.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: I like that number two.
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: Number two someone who is hot with themselves. What do
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: I mean?
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: Hot?
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: Honest, open, and transparent? Kay?
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: Because those three things right there, hm hmm. It will
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: as long as you're doing it for yourself first.
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: You can do that with.
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: Anybody, anybody. It comes second nature. It becomes because and
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: we always say this, like if you go back and
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: listen to other episodes of the podcast or you have
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: been a listener of the podcast, you know that me
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: and Kim we have the coach's corner and we always
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: would say get hot, which is get hot, which that
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: means be honest, open, and transparent with yourself, because if
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: you're not able to do that with yourself, you won't
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: be able to do that with anybody else.
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: Anybody, it don't matter who they are. It don't matter
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: who they are, you would not be able to be open,
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: honest and transparent with them.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: Right Because I like that? I like it, you know
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: I like it. And then number three.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: And number surreeum.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: Hmmm.
• 25:01
  Speaker 4: Number three, I will say, someone who is loving, loving,
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: and have.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: A heart of just love to share with people.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: I love that. I like that. I like My three
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: character reasons of a friend is integrity. Mm hmmm.
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: That's a good one.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: You have to be compassionate mm hmmm. And we have
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: to be able to laugh together. Oh yes, I mean,
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: and I'll say those because at a point in my life,
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: the people that are in my life, God is that
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: I don't that's a given. I don't have to say.
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: That is a correct characteristic that I need, characteristic that
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: I need in a friendship because everything that I do
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: is is centered around my love for God.
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: So God correct.
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: But but yeah, we have to be able to have
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: because I'm goofy. You already know we're.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: Gonna laugh once all the time.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: We're gonna play and we're gonna be real with each other.
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: Absolutely, absolutely, yeah, because that's how we elevate, that's how
• 26:30
  Speaker 4: we roll.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I think for me those would be the top
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: the top three. You have to be and you have
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: to have integrity, yeah, definitely have to be compassionate mm hmm.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: And then you what I said the last one one. Oh,
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: we have to be able to laugh laugh, you know,
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: he said, don't take, don't talk.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: And we both could be silly all the time, being
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: silly and.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: All the time, Oh my god, but laughter make.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: Laughter is medicine to the soul.
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: And if you if you can't laugh, why why be
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: with you while we around you, because you just.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: Showing how grumpy you could be.
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: We don't want I'm not doing that. I've been around
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: people who have made me sick to my stomach because
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: they were so uptight or they were so hypocritical that
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: I just didn't want to be around them. I'm an impath,
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: so I feel extremely heavy mm hmm. I can feel
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: you before you even get close to me. I can
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: walk in the room and know who's having a good
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: day versus who's having a bad day, and it's like, Lord,
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: please put me on the side of the person that's
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: actually having a good day, because I don't want to
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: I don't want to get none of that that other
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: end right.
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: Right, And sometimes God is gonna use you to help
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: those people see a brighter day too.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: And he used me every day every time I talk.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: I talk to people all day every day, hence the podcast.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: But I do that. That's my job too. So I
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: I have found myself hearing that back from people.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: Your tone has calmed me all the way down because
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: I was so furious when I got on this phone.
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: Yes, yes, and it is.
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: I mean, how you say stuff matters.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it does.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: How you say matter. And I feel like another thing
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: that should go along with a characteristic of a friend
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: friend when it comes to love, should be open communication.
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: That's it.
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: You're not communicating with yourself. You can't communicate with nobody
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: else too.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but how can you call yourself a friend and
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: you can't talk to the person that you say that
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: you're friends.
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: With because they can't talk to themselves.
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but sometimes talking to yourself is insane. It's insane
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: for a minute, because we could talk, we could talk
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: to ourselves all day long. But if you don't have
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: like an outlet to somebody to speak back to you,
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: if you're not speaking to God and hearing from the
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: voice of God, that's one thing. But if you just
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: talking to yourself and you answer yourself and you you you,
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: you guess, go see somebody because that's normal.
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: Listen, listen sometimes listen.
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: I do it from time to time.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: I mean, but at some point we're gonna have some
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: type of social interaction.
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: That is wealthy.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, So we talked about friendship and what friendship
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: versus sisterhood. Now, what would be your top three characteristics
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: or sisterhood. I believe that a sisterhood is deeper than
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: a friendship. Yeah, you need to have a friendship in
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: order to form that sisterhood. But for me, go ahead, God,
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna write yours down and then I'm I'm gonna
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: tell you mine.
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: I mean, my characteristics are the same as well. However,
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: I should be able to pick up a phone and say, yo, sis,
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: I really need you right now, you know what I mean,
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: and not feel no way that I'm you know, disturbing
• 30:29
  Speaker 4: you or whatever the case is. Not feeling no way
• 30:33
  Speaker 4: because you making me feel some type of way like, oh,
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: like what you need now, or not even answering my
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: phone call at all, or not even texting me backstay
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: and oh, I'm gonna call you right back, you know,
• 30:48
  Speaker 4: like it's just a deeper connection to me if you're
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: gonna be around me period. You still need to be
• 30:57
  Speaker 4: able to be hot with yourself. You still need to
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: be able to love, like you said, you need to
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: be able to laugh. You still need all of those characteristics,
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: all of those that we already discussed.
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: We still need those to be around me. And you
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: have to have an open mind.
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: To know that you We can make it. We can
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: make it further than where we are.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm. For me, I don't need you to be
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: jealous hearted.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: Oh, but that that goes without saying now.
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you gotta say it because some people will say
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: that they're your sister and be looking at you like, uh, yeah,
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: you're telling me all this stuff that you want to do,
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: But I'm gonna pray that it don't happen.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: That's true too, mm hmm.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: But I need I need you to be I need
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: I need you to be you. You have to be
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: open enough to say I want my sister to win
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: and be okay with that so and be with that
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: jealous spirit, jealous hearted. I can't do that. And I
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: think for a sisterhood, in order for it to work
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: and grow, you cannot have that type of mentality or mindset.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: And you also have to love without limits mmmm, love
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: without expectations, love without compromise, and you are also you
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: also have to be able to give tough love.
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: Yes, yes, like this mm hmm.
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: You know what you did was wrong. I want you
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: to know that I saw you mm hmmm, it was wrong.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Let's let's see how we can feel. Let's
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: and not be not be so judgmental and you know,
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: hypocritical putting your mouth on folks. I just, I just,
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: I don't, I don't have the time, nonsense, I don't.
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: I call it.
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, is listening? Just type it in the comments. What
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: are your what are your characteristics of a friendship versus
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: a sisterhood? I would love to know, And if you
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: want to stay anonymous, just send the email and put
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: it down in the show notes. It will be there.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: But I just wanted to tap in about sisterhood and
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: versus friendship because you know, I feel like sometimes you
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: outgrow people and sometimes they outgrow you. And it's okay.
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: There's nothing that's there's nothing, no animosity. I want you
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: to win. We just ain't on the same team anymore.
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: And that and it's okay because not everybody can go
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: with you.
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: And you can't go with everybody.
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: Let's you can't go with everybody. There are certain people
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: that are made in your life or brought into your
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: life for a season none okay, And when they are
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: in your life for that season, sometimes they will divert
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: and y'all may not speak as much. Y'all might not
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: go and do the same things y'all were doing. Y'all
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: might have a time of or a season of being
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: a part.
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: But then y'all may have a season where y'all come
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: back together because there is something in one of your
• 34:24
  Speaker 4: lives or both of your lives that y'all.
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: Need to be together at that moment. It is okay,
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: It is okay to have those seasons. But you know that.
• 34:41
  Speaker 4: God is only going to put the people in your
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: life that you need at that time.
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: And that is how it's not If it's not from God,
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: I don't want it.
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: I don't want it.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't want it. And I say and I
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: say that, and we all have been I mean, I'm
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: not perfect and I'm not trying to be. I God
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: knows my heart and and I you know, I'm I'm
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: real enough with myself to know that I am still human.
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna make mistakes, It's gonna have absolutely, But when
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: it comes to like you know, life, love and all
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: that other you know what that we're talking about. Mm hmm,
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: some things that you just can't overlook. Like I need
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: my friends to be able to pray with me and
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: for me.
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: And for me. I need them to pray, no, not
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: pray on me.
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, I need them to sense and I and I'm
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: I'm i'mna put it out there. I'm spoiled. When my
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: friends got me spoiled, my family has me spoiled. So
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: if you're not willing and I'm not talking about in
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: a bad way, I'm not talking about you gotta buy
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: me stuff and be materialistic with time, yep, attention m
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: praying for me and with me yep, and just you know,
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: saving space for me. Let me put it like that,
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: just making rooms. I need the people in my life
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: to make room for me as I make room for.
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: Them, for them.
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: And I'm not talking about we got to talk every day.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: We ain't got to see each other. I have friends
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: that have been friends with since since elementary school. Tim
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: once or twice a year. Ain't nothing happened, yep yep.
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: Never had a falling out or anything anything.
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: Yep yep.
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: But I know that if I call, they there, if
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: they call me, they know that I'm there.
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: That's right, that's right.
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: Those are the type of friendships that I have and
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: that I want because I'm not a firm believer in
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: this no new friends, No new friends, because you might
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: miss out on some blessings saying that you don't want
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: to be open to new friendships. Asked for that discernment
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: mm hm, and keep it moving.
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: That's it.
• 36:55
  Speaker 4: If I had said that, like, I've been through some
• 36:58
  Speaker 4: friendships here, gay, I've been through some some rough friendships.
• 37:04
  Speaker 4: And how do I said, no new friends. You wouldn't
• 37:08
  Speaker 4: be together, you wouldn't know each other. I wouldn't know
• 37:13
  Speaker 4: the people that I know now that are close to
• 37:15
  Speaker 4: me right now, I wouldn't know them right and I
• 37:19
  Speaker 4: wouldn't like when I tell you, these are my legit
• 37:23
  Speaker 4: friends my legit sisters.
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: They know when something is wrong with me listen and
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: met them on social media.
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. And that's what I'm saying. It's
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: like you could tell you know that it's God, because
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: you know, I was coming from a doctor's appointment today
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: and one of one of one of my one of
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: my sisters just say, hey, just checking in on you.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: Ain't heard from y'all?
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: Love you right.
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: Like that means so much to me to know that
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: I crossed somebody's mind enough for them to say, let
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: me just check in on Kiki. And I make a
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: point to do that. When God drop somebody in my spirit,
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: I make a point to reach out to them. If
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: I don't reach out, I'm sitting up a prayer for them.
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: Because sometimes we intervene on behalf of our friends and
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: and stop some destruction from happening. Sometimes people intervene and
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: save us from.
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: Going through some.
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: Exactly. So I just wanted to tap in a little
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: bit about that. So we're gonna get into all the
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: other ship.
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: Yes, let's do it.
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: Like, what's what's going on with you? Man? I know
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: you you you you done, got you done? Become a
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: certified journal, you know, therapist, and you know you just
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: you done did some uh you know book new books
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: and all.
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm glad you brought up the new bugs.
• 38:46
  Speaker 4: Because these are prayer journals that I actually created myself.
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: So I bought the I bought the actual notebooks and
• 39:02
  Speaker 4: I actually designed them myself. So the thing with this,
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: I'm trying it out on an event that I'm gonna
• 39:11
  Speaker 4: be a part of this weekend, which just so happens
• 39:16
  Speaker 4: to be another self care event, you know what I mean.
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: So it came full circle with the challenge that we're doing,
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: the event that Kiki's having and the event that I
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: am a part of, and they're all about self care.
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: It is called Gallatines, a pajama party.
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: Nice.
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: We're gonna have girls come in together, like minded individuals
• 39:44
  Speaker 4: and we're just gonna talk, have a good time, have
• 39:48
  Speaker 4: some food, have some bubbly.
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: And just enjoy the night, you know. So it's gonna
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: be great.
• 39:56
  Speaker 4: And I decided that I'm gonna create these prayer dream
• 40:00
  Speaker 4: so that, you know, just to give it a little something.
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: So I'm gonna see how.
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: The girls react to it, see how they're gonna do
• 40:10
  Speaker 4: with it.
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: Before I put it out to the public.
• 40:14
  Speaker 4: But you God, I enjoy creating them, so yeah, I
• 40:22
  Speaker 4: may do it anyways, but we want to see what
• 40:25
  Speaker 4: God says, you know exactly.
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: I had a good time creating them, you know.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, and I love that. So tell the people that's
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: listening who would like to work with you, how they
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: can work with.
• 40:39
  Speaker 4: Be Okay, So right now I take clarity calls where
• 40:45
  Speaker 4: we just have girl talk, have girl talk and just
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: let's let your thoughts fly, let your feelings fly. There's
• 40:57
  Speaker 4: no judgment, there's no judgment, and you know, I will
• 41:02
  Speaker 4: help you to navigate through your feelings and help you
• 41:05
  Speaker 4: to navigate through your thoughts and you know, give you
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: some things, some strategies that you can be able to
• 41:16
  Speaker 4: take with you and continue, you know, and you know,
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: start your healing process or just start whatever it is
• 41:25
  Speaker 4: making sense of.
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: Maybe your life at this moment is maybe a chaotic,
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: you know, but you know, let let's come talk with me.
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  Speaker 3: You can catch me on IG.
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  Speaker 4: I am I A am butterfly thoughts. I am butterfly
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  Speaker 4: thoughts on IG or actually on all social media platforms,
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  Speaker 4: so you can hit me up on anyone, hit me
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  Speaker 4: in my DM.
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  Speaker 3: And let me know what you need.
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  Speaker 4: Also, you can get my books or any of my
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  Speaker 4: seven journal or all of myself in journals on my
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  Speaker 4: website Butterfly Thoughts l LC dot com Butterfly Thoughts LLC
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  Speaker 4: dot com, and you scroll down and you'll see all
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  Speaker 4: my books there. I have something for everyone.
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  Speaker 2: I have.
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  Speaker 4: Journals where you, as adults, we can tap back into
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  Speaker 4: our inner child. I have Gratitude Surrender where it will
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  Speaker 4: help you and it has journal prompts in them just
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  Speaker 4: to help you to.
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  Speaker 3: Know where to start right.
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  Speaker 4: And then I also have Affirmation coloring book for children
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  Speaker 4: to help them to affirm themselves and especially if they're
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  Speaker 4: being bullied, especially if they're being teased and all of
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  Speaker 4: these things, because this is what happens in school, right,
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  Speaker 4: and we need our children to affirm themselves and be
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  Speaker 4: ten toes.
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  Speaker 3: Down in who they they are. And if we can
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  Speaker 3: get them to know understand that and know that from
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  Speaker 3: a very young age, when they become our age, they're
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  Speaker 3: not going to.
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  Speaker 4: Have to go through the things that we're going through
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  Speaker 4: now exactly now learning how to affirm ourselves now, learning
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  Speaker 4: how to be comfortable in our skin.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm trying, like.
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  Speaker 4: With this book I wanted to get the younger ones, like,
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  Speaker 4: let's go there. You know, now, as adults, we have
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  Speaker 4: to tap back into our inner child in order to
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  Speaker 4: heal what we went through in our inner in our childhood, right,
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  Speaker 4: so you know, let's let's start with the babies and
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  Speaker 4: in the same time, let's you know, tap into that
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  Speaker 4: inner child and let us heal as well.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, I love that guys. All of her information would
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  Speaker 2: be in the show notes, so you can tap in
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  Speaker 2: with coach Kimmy b to see if she's a perfect
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  Speaker 2: fit for you. All right, fit for you. I just
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  Speaker 2: book a clarity call so you can figure out where
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  Speaker 2: to start. When it comes to journal therapy, it works, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: I've been doing it forever. I went on a healing
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  Speaker 2: journey four years ago, and without journaling, I probably wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: be this version of myself because some of the things
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  Speaker 2: that I've written, I had to go back and read
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  Speaker 2: it and I was like, wow, you were in a
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  Speaker 2: dark place that day. M hm, wow, dang you you
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  Speaker 2: really you inspired me by reading this.
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  Speaker 3: You wrote this, yep.
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  Speaker 2: So, and then you can keep journal secret journals like
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  Speaker 2: where you go in write something and throw it away yep.
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  Speaker 3: You know that.
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  Speaker 4: That's also another level of therapy, therapy in itself, because
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  Speaker 4: sometimes you don't want to hold onto things, and I
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  Speaker 4: get it. It's good to hold on to them though,
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  Speaker 4: just so that once you come out of that space
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  Speaker 4: and you do get that feeling of you wanted to
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  Speaker 4: see where you will see where your mind is. You
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  Speaker 4: can see how much you have grown and how much
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  Speaker 4: you have elevated from that place.
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  Speaker 3: So that's why it's good to know that.
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  Speaker 4: But if say, for instance, you want to you have
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  Speaker 4: some malice in your heart for somebody, and you want
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  Speaker 4: to get rid of that malice, right, you write, you write,
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  Speaker 4: say you write a letter for that person, and but
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  Speaker 4: you're not going to actually send it to that person.
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  Speaker 4: You're still gonna write the letter, but now you can
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  Speaker 4: burn it because now you're gonna burn all your feelings.
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  Speaker 3: Towards that person, right, you know, burn.
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  Speaker 4: It, throw it in the trash, rip it up, throw
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  Speaker 4: it down the toilet, flush it down the toilet. It's
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  Speaker 4: all going away. So that that will definitely help in
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  Speaker 4: those types of stuff situations.
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  Speaker 2: Right, Oh, I love that.
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  Speaker 3: M h, yeah, I love that.
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  Speaker 2: I love that. Well, Sis, This is always a pleasure,
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  Speaker 2: is always a pleasure when you come through. Always any
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  Speaker 2: last words you would like to speak on. We talked
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  Speaker 2: about life, we talked about love. We just tapped into
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: all that other shit just a little bit. But is
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  Speaker 2: there anything else you want to speak about on those
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  Speaker 2: three topics? That is the theme for this season's podcast.
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  Speaker 4: I just want to say, there's a lot of chaos
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  Speaker 4: going on right now around us. Focus on self, Focus
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  Speaker 4: on the things that you know you need to do,
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  Speaker 4: and allow all that other noise to just go away.
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  Speaker 3: Do not focus on that extra noise because at the
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  Speaker 3: end of the day, it is not gonna do us
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  Speaker 3: no good.
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  Speaker 4: And when when you find yourself getting overwhelmed, pull out
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  Speaker 4: the stop method.
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  Speaker 3: Trust me, it works. Stop everything around you. If you're
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  Speaker 3: feeling overwhelmed, take a couple of deep breaths and let
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  Speaker 3: your mind just go and then go into that observing
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  Speaker 3: seeing what brought you to.
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  Speaker 4: That place, Write it down, journal it out. Ask yourself
• 47:35
  Speaker 4: that question, can I do anything about it? If the
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  Speaker 4: answer is no, again pray and let it go. If
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  Speaker 4: the answer is yes, make the plan. Pray on the plan,
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  Speaker 4: proceed with the.
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  Speaker 2: Plan and know that God would provide you.
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  Speaker 3: And know that God yes, and it will be okay.
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  Speaker 3: Everything is going to work out for your good.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely believe in it and have trust in it and
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  Speaker 4: have faith in it.
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  Speaker 2: Amen, listen, this has been another episode of kicking in
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  Speaker 2: with Kiki, Life, love and all that. Yes, until next time,
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  Speaker 2: make sure you just surround yourself with people who make
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  Speaker 2: you feel good that part. Anybody who does not is
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  Speaker 2: time to take an inventory because they may not. That
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  Speaker 2: season in your life may be over. I don't care
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: if family, friend, acquaintance, cowork, or anything. Sometimes it's time
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: to say goodbye.
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  Speaker 3: That's it.
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  Speaker 2: It's hard, but sometimes it's necessary in order for you
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  Speaker 2: to elevate to the person that God has created you
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  Speaker 2: to be. And it is okay to want better for yourself.
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  Speaker 2: God did not put us here to be mediocre. God
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  Speaker 2: did not put us here to have relationships that drain us,
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  Speaker 2: that make us feel bad. So at some point you
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  Speaker 2: have to love yourself and care for yourself enough to
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  Speaker 2: say enough is enough. I'm done. I love you, but
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna love you from a distance. Yeah, that's it,
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  Speaker 2: all right, guys. We can talk about this all day long,
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  Speaker 2: but purple hugs. Until next time. You have been listening
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  Speaker 2: to another episode of season eight Kick in In with
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  Speaker 2: I Am Back with another episode on Thursdays at noon
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  Speaker 2: since your standard time on all major podcasts streaming platforms,
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  Speaker 2: make sure you tap in love and light, peace and blessings.
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  Speaker 3: Later later peace, keep
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  Speaker 1: Them act