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Current Dating Climate · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for our American mama's. Dear mama's, did your kids
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  deal with this generation's current crazy dating culture. Well, let's ask our American
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  mamas, am mamas and joining us now our American mama's Terry Netteville and Kimberly
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  Burleson. Okay, you guys have a couple of kids married off. You've
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  got Terry, You've got a daughter that's engaged. You have a son that's
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  still in the dating culture. My youngest is still in the dating pool.
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  And I've got two that are in the dating pool and one a son that's
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  married. And my girls are kind of going through it because they're kind of
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  stuck with having to they feel meet people the new old fashioned way, which
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  is online. The new old fashioned way is fashion way. Do you remember
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  back in the day when if any people would keep that as if they met
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  somebody on the nd it was like embarrassing. Yeah, and now it's like,
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  well, which side do you use? Which side do you use?
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  Whereas we would go to the honky tonk and meet people, or we would
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  go to people go to bars, or they wherever went to homecoming exactly exactly.
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  We're definitely in a swipe right culture right now. And I know that
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  my youngest, both of my girls, you know, they're kind of healing
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  some broken hearts, you know. You know, it's ironic that we're in
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  a swipe right culture because these kids grew up hearing swiper, no swiping,
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  it's just it's referral very good. Well, they say that whatever comes easy,
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  you devalue, and I think that that seems to be what's happening in
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  the dating world. You know, it just comes too easy for them,
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  So it's real easy to just let go of one and try another one because
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  that one's prettier or better or whatever. So in this case, it's the
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  getting, not the heavens, exactly exactly. In fact, I saw that
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  there is okay Cupid. It's one of those dating apps. Sure it did
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  a study on men and women ranking each other from one to five. And
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  what was interesting is women rank eighty percent of the guys as twos. Oh,
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  but they message these men more often than the unattainable men, whereas it
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  was opposite for men. They messaged the unattainable. And which is funny because
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  wait, the guys the gussage the unattainable, yes, and the girl,
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  The girls message the unattainable interesting, which so, so the guys would see
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  a girl and go, that's a five, I'm going after her. The
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  women would see a guy and say that's a five. Keep swiping, yes,
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  exactly exactly, which tells you they're looking more for substance. I think,
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  you know, looking for more about them. For my girls are so
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  tall, they look for height. Sure, that's like a biggie for them.
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  Yeah, because your husband's real, he's were he's six six, So
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  all my kids giants, and so that's a big thing for them. Sonny,
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  for instance, went on a date today. She went on a lunch
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  date today. She said, mommy's a great guy, but he's just not
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  tall enough. And she said, if I was a smaller person, it
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  wouldn't be a big deal. But because I'm so tall, it's a big
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  deal to me. And I said, do you think maybe that would be
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  something he wouldn't like either? And she said, no, guys like tall
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  girls. Even short guys like tall girls. And I said, why do
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  you think that? Because because they're always thinking of what they can children.
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  I want a braider. Well, so how else could they meet a guy
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  other than if they're if they're I'm talking about all of these kids in this
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  generation. If you're not willing to be on an app. I know there's
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  son that was say, okay, we I'm gonna go to church or I'm
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  gonna go I mean, where where else would you go? Well, I
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  think that the most ideal is references basically like day so yeah, like where
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  someone knows, I know somebody that would be perfect for you. To me,
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  it's the safest way as well, because I'm so nervous. I got
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  the online dating. It makes me nervous, but you know, I think
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  that's the safest way. But both of my girls like it doesn't happen.
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  None of my friends are fixing me up with anybody. Well, it's like
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  when you go through the college years, that's usually when people meet each other
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  exactly, so when you're in your girls or past college years. So that's
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  when it gets difficult, especially for women, for young women because for whatever
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  reason, it's easier for I think it's easier for the guys because they're a
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  range of you know, they can be twenty six and go, you know,
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  ask a twenty one year old, whereas a twenty six year old woman's
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  not going to go after twenty one year old guy usually, so it would
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  be a little bit more difficult for these young women who are out of college.
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  They're you know, maybe they own their own business or they're working hard.
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  I guess it'd have to be somebody at work, somebody at church,
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  are referenced by somebody I don't know, and then you don't want to like
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  I'm thinking, okay, So so what if she meets someone that's fabulous in
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  absolutely every area. He checks off every single box, but he's her height
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  there a little bit shorter. Is that a deal breaker? I don't Will
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  she be missing out on the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to her?
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  Do they need to be more open minded? Like, well, I
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  don't understand. I don't know how this works, and I'm glad that there's
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  something for them, because it's almost like a digital bar, a digital honkey
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  talk. It's a way to connect with these other people and get to know
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  their likes and dislikes. But I don't know. I'm so glad that I
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  don't have to be in a dating world. I know her either, all
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  right, Biblically, just gonna throw this in real quick Biblically, women aren't
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  supposed to be the ones pursuing exactly. Men are supposed to be pursuing,
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  but they should follow the example of Ruth. Ruth was out in the field,
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  she was out doing something, she was out gathering food for her family
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  when she was noticed. So you can't expect necessarily to find the man if
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  you're just saying at home and hiding away. So go out do what you're
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  gonna do, do it in excellence, and you will get noticed. If
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  Terry Nuttville, Kimberly Burlesten, thank you so much. Thanks