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Episode 265 "Falynn Pina" · The Baller Alert Show

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  Speaker 1: H word with me here, you know BT.
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  Speaker 2: She was so low shout o O c T call what
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  Speaker 2: we see?
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  Speaker 3: Whole game?
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  Speaker 2: Wait the baller blo something.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, you can't stand on their own feet.
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  Speaker 3: I already know you can't bother with me because with
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  Speaker 3: the squad of me, they get a little They called me.
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  Speaker 4: Hello, Baller Alert, Welcome to The Boler Show.
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  Speaker 3: Podcasts available everywhere you get showed podcasts. Please continue the
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  Speaker 3: light subscribing show YouTube page at ball Alert TV.
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  Speaker 1: I go by the name of Ferrari Simmits. I go
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  Speaker 1: by the name you know BT. See T with that.
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  Speaker 1: Are you doing, ma'am?
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  Speaker 2: I'm good, I'm good.
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  Speaker 3: Are you What brings us to? What brings you to?
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  Speaker 3: The metaverse? The baller Alert universe?
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  Speaker 2: Just another day in the meeting, b T called me and.
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  Speaker 3: Your TV and said, guess what, guys, I got someone
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  Speaker 3: that I want to come on the show.
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  Speaker 1: I said yeah, because I said, you've been quiet.
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  Speaker 5: I'm like, when was the last interview that you've done.
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  Speaker 5: I feel like, you know, you're somebody I considered the friend,
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  Speaker 5: and you know, I feel like you just been a
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  Speaker 5: getting attacked so much in the media, and it's like
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  Speaker 5: you just been quiet.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm like, what is going on?
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  Speaker 4: Well, first, for those who don't know about who Fallon is,
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  Speaker 4: can you give us a little rundown of who you are?
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  Speaker 2: Well?
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  Speaker 6: I started out on the Real Housewives of Atlanta and
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  Speaker 6: then it kind of just blew up from there. My
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  Speaker 6: ex husband left me married Portia, who is my castmate
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  Speaker 6: since then. I ended up getting in a relationship with
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  Speaker 6: my then best friend and we were just recently on
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  Speaker 6: MTV for couples retreats.
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  Speaker 4: How did you get the opportunity to be on basketball?
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  Speaker 4: I mean on house wives, you know what.
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  Speaker 6: They actually approached me a few times and I said, no,
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  Speaker 6: I never really wanted to do reality TV. It's not
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  Speaker 6: my thing, but the opportunity just kept presenting it.
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  Speaker 2: So I said, you know why not?
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  Speaker 7: What did you do before then? He was just a
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  Speaker 7: housewife in real life?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, okay, I know a lot of people were staying
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  Speaker 8: online that were you and post your friends for real,
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  Speaker 8: like was that really your friend?
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  Speaker 2: We were cool.
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  Speaker 6: So we met through the show, and I mean we
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  Speaker 6: would hang out after wrapping. We would hang out, you know,
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  Speaker 6: on our own time, private time. She would be at
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  Speaker 6: my house. So it was like bestis in bringing each
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  Speaker 6: other's hair. But yeah, she was in my house.
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  Speaker 1: She was at your house around your ex husband got it?
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  Speaker 5: Okay, Well before you met him, where were you?
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  Speaker 7: What were you? What was your profession?
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  Speaker 6: I was actually a clinical manager, so I managed the
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  Speaker 6: clinic in l a for like five years.
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  Speaker 7: Oh did you meet him there?
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  Speaker 6: No, it was a blind date. I thought he was
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  Speaker 6: a chef when I met him. I had no idea
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  Speaker 6: because we went to restaurants and people would just come
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  Speaker 6: out and they're like, you want some free food?
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, who is this guy? I had no idea. No,
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  Speaker 2: this was in Miami.
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  Speaker 3: So you got flut out and then he put the
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  Speaker 3: charm on you and then you guys got together.
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  Speaker 2: Or we had lunch.
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  Speaker 6: We had a dinner once and then the next day
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  Speaker 6: we got together to do lunch. And when we had
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  Speaker 6: that first lunch, we just couldn't stop talking.
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  Speaker 2: We talked for hours.
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  Speaker 1: And so when was the time that he told you
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  Speaker 1: to quit your job?
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  Speaker 6: Because when he uh told me to move back to
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  Speaker 6: Atlanta because I'm originally from Atlanta.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, are you sure Atlanta or is it out the
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  Speaker 1: outskirts of Atlanta?
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  Speaker 2: You know what? It's north? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Outside?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so he moved he had you moved to Atlanta
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  Speaker 3: and then you just were together.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I really wanted to know what was going through.
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  Speaker 3: Your mind when you saw Porsia dating your ex husband.
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  Speaker 3: Oh did you find out online?
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  Speaker 1: How did you find out?
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  Speaker 6: I found out at the same time all of you
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  Speaker 6: guys did on TV on social media.
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  Speaker 2: When they posted the picture.
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  Speaker 6: I think it was Dennis who posted the pictures congratulating
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  Speaker 6: her on her next chapter.
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  Speaker 2: That's when I found out, same as everyone else.
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  Speaker 1: How are you feeling?
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  Speaker 6: I mean, it's not necessarily about how I was feeling,
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  Speaker 6: but what I was thinking was how long was this
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  Speaker 6: going on for y'all to be engaged?
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  Speaker 2: You know?
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  Speaker 7: Has he ever cheated on you before?
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  Speaker 1: Oh?
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  Speaker 5: God?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah. I was with him for five years and there
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  Speaker 6: was times where you know, he was sleeping with his
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  Speaker 6: assistant and I forgave him, and then a couple other women.
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  Speaker 6: You know, there was speculation that came forward. I forgave him,
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  Speaker 6: you know, as women usually do. And so I can't
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  Speaker 6: say that I didn't ever get my look back.
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  Speaker 2: I did. I wasn't the most innocent.
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  Speaker 1: Cheated back before we got married.
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  Speaker 6: That actually had a lot to do with how I
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  Speaker 6: met you.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, time, I was in the vicinity. Actually, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that shows me like that long time.
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  Speaker 2: What was this meeting BT, you want to tell certain I.
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  Speaker 5: Mean whe we met because we were all at the
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  Speaker 5: hookah lo mutual friend and I had one of my
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  Speaker 5: friends with me and they kind of like just kicked
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  Speaker 5: it off. Yeah, and that was your roommate. Yeah yeah,
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  Speaker 5: yeah at the time, that was my roommate. That's how
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  Speaker 5: long ago I forgot his name.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: So famous city in England? What is it might be
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  Speaker 1: a street or something. I think it's London, London, that's right, Okay, okay,
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  Speaker 1: carry on. What happened?
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  Speaker 7: So you met a guy named London?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, and then we started dating. I wasn't trying to
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  Speaker 6: hide it.
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  Speaker 2: I was. I was really young.
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  Speaker 1: I was yeah, you was out, I was outside.
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  Speaker 2: Was at that point I was fed up. I was like, well,
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  Speaker 2: if you don't.
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  Speaker 6: Care, because at that point Simon had told me to
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  Speaker 6: my face because I told him, all right, it's been
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  Speaker 6: a couple it's been a year. It was about a
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  Speaker 6: year and a half that he had been sleeping around
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  Speaker 6: with his assistant, and so it got to the point
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  Speaker 6: where I was just tired and he told me to
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  Speaker 6: my face that I will never have any say so
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  Speaker 6: over his personnel or anything so and who he hires
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  Speaker 6: and fires. So at that point I was like, all right,
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  Speaker 6: let's do it then, because you forgot, you.
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  Speaker 7: Forgot, And this is before you guys were married.
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  Speaker 2: This is before we got married.
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  Speaker 1: So you still got married.
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  Speaker 6: Oh yeah, why because he did his dirt and I
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  Speaker 6: did mine and at the end of the day, that
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  Speaker 6: was our business. And we took a nine month break,
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  Speaker 6: which is the around the time where we were really.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, because some stuff and I had no idea what
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  Speaker 5: was what was going on.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, we were seriously dating at that time, but I
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  Speaker 6: was single and he was seriously datingnon London yeah at
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  Speaker 6: that time, but I was single. We dated for maybe
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  Speaker 6: four or five months, and then after that we broke
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  Speaker 6: up and Simon and I started secretly dating, okay, and
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  Speaker 6: then three months later we got married.
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  Speaker 3: Now, so you guys are married, and now when does
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  Speaker 3: the marriage fall apart?
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  Speaker 2: I don't really know.
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  Speaker 6: I literally one day I was the happiest girl in
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  Speaker 6: the world, and the next morning he was gone, like
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  Speaker 6: he just mentally was checked out. I think it was
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  Speaker 6: it was around the time where I started realizing I
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  Speaker 6: wasn't that little girl anymore, that I was growing up
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  Speaker 6: into a woman, and I wanted more for myself. I
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  Speaker 6: didn't want to be a stay at home mom. I
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  Speaker 6: didn't want to be a trophy. I wanted more. And
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  Speaker 6: when he's started being vocal about no, you're not going
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  Speaker 6: to have more. You know you're going to be at
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  Speaker 6: home if you do try to have more, he told
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  Speaker 6: me that if I went and got a job or anything,
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  Speaker 6: that he was going to cut me off, like completely,
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  Speaker 6: that I wouldn't be able to go on vacation with
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  Speaker 6: him and the children like things like that. So I
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  Speaker 6: was never allowed to have anything for myself. So here
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  Speaker 6: I was sitting on all this money and I had nothing.
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  Speaker 1: No kids with him? Right, No, he didn't want He
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  Speaker 1: didn't want any.
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  Speaker 2: No he did, he did.
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  Speaker 1: You didn't want any kids with him?
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  Speaker 8: No.
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  Speaker 6: At one point him and I were like up and
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  Speaker 6: down we wanted one, and then we didn't, and then
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  Speaker 6: he did and then I didn't.
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  Speaker 9: So it was like, Okay, we'll be right back with
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  Speaker 9: more of The Baller Alert Show. You're listening to a
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  Speaker 9: special edition of The Baller Alert Show.
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  Speaker 6: Hey y'all, it's Vallan Peanut and you are now tuned
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  Speaker 6: in to the Baller Alert show.
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  Speaker 1: So when did you and Jalen became friends? When did
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  Speaker 1: Jalen come in the picture?
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  Speaker 2: Jalen came into the picture.
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  Speaker 1: Jalen was his assistant.
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  Speaker 2: No, a lot of people say that he's my assistant.
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  Speaker 1: So Jalen was your assistant.
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  Speaker 6: He was my friend first in twenty twenty, like end
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  Speaker 6: of twenty nineteen, twenty twenty, No, twenty nineteen. Yeah, so
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  Speaker 6: he was my friend first, and we used to just
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  Speaker 6: always bump into each other, you know, being out in
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  Speaker 6: Atlanta and everything like that.
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  Speaker 1: We kind of just because I'm wondering, what was he assisting?
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  Speaker 6: Well, the children, Well, I had to take care of
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  Speaker 6: my three kids and Simon's two kids and then his
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  Speaker 6: younger daughter whenever she was you know, in and out
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  Speaker 6: of town. So I needed help with that, running the household.
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  Speaker 6: We had a really big house.
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  Speaker 2: It was it was a lot to.
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  Speaker 1: Keep up with.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, so just help with that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So we just Jalen and I were just cool.
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  Speaker 6: And then COVID hit and he lost his job and
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  Speaker 6: so then that's and I was like, well, I'm sitting Jalen.
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  Speaker 6: Jalen lost his job and so I was like, well,
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  Speaker 6: mom's sitting on money, Come and work for me.
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  Speaker 2: He said no, like initially, but then.
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  Speaker 6: I was like, okay, now let's go ahead and you know,
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  Speaker 6: get you working and doing something.
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  Speaker 2: You're around me all the time.
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  Speaker 6: Anyway, after a while, I could note I noticed that
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  Speaker 6: Simon started putting me off on Jalen, like he would
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  Speaker 6: like say, oh, take her out, go you know, keep
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  Speaker 6: her busy.
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  Speaker 2: Go do this, go do that now, mind jaw.
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  Speaker 6: I was not allowed to go out by myself with
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  Speaker 6: friends or anything. I was not allowed to have girls' nights.
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  Speaker 6: I wasn't allowed to do any of that without Simon.
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  Speaker 6: You never see me without Simon, like I was always
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  Speaker 6: with her because I wasn't allowed. And so then Jalen
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  Speaker 6: came into the picture, and it was just like.
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  Speaker 2: Here, take her.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, you guys want to go shopping, or you guys
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  Speaker 6: want to go you know, do this or do that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. So then yeah, I kind of felt like I
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  Speaker 2: was just pawned off.
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  Speaker 1: Damn.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, did you feel like more of Simon's possession than
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  Speaker 4: a wife?
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  Speaker 6: Well, I had never been like a real wife prior
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  Speaker 6: to that, so I wouldn't even know what that felt like.
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  Speaker 2: But now understanding.
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  Speaker 6: And having the wisdom that I have about it now,
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  Speaker 6: Hell yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I was definitely his little trophy.
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  Speaker 6: I was that thing that you know, he bought me
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  Speaker 6: a new little toy and to keep me quiet and
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  Speaker 6: do as I say, you know, not as I do.
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  Speaker 1: So how did y'all start catching feelings for each other?
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  Speaker 6: Me and Jalen Oh I was going through a divorce.
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  Speaker 6: I was vulnerable as.
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  Speaker 2: I was vulnerable. I mean, I'm not gonna sugarcoat it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie.
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  Speaker 6: This is after Porsche. No, I didn't even know about Porsche.
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  Speaker 6: I knew that Simon was going out of the country
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  Speaker 6: to see another woman. But prior to Portie, there was
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  Speaker 6: another woman that came out in the media saying that
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  Speaker 6: she was dating Signed yesh I bumped into the other night.
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  Speaker 6: Oh my god, that was the whole story.
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  Speaker 1: What happened.
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  Speaker 2: She was like, oh my god, yeah, I slept with
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  Speaker 2: your husband. She was like, can we just it's water
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  Speaker 2: under the bridge, can.
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  Speaker 6: We be cool? I'm like, girl, I don't even he
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  Speaker 6: denied that mine. He denied it in social media. It's everywhere.
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  Speaker 1: I just remember her that.
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  Speaker 6: Just purchased that Ferrari I hadn't even sat in it
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  Speaker 6: yet before that came out, So I was like, what
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  Speaker 6: the hell, what's going on? So then that was the
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  Speaker 6: whole thing mine, y'all, while we're going through all of this,
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  Speaker 6: we're still in therapy to try to work on our marriage.
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  Speaker 6: And so he was out of the country a lot
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  Speaker 6: with some other woman. I didn't know who it was.
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  Speaker 6: And yeah, I had his kids and my kids back home.
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  Speaker 6: And then, as it pertains to me and Jalen, at
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  Speaker 6: some point in time, Simon and I had the conversation like,
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  Speaker 6: we're not gonna make this work.
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  Speaker 2: This is done and so.
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  Speaker 5: But Simon was saying that Jalen was pulling up, sneaking
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  Speaker 5: in the house and all this stuff while y'all was together.
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  Speaker 5: But you saying that you and Simon were already going
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  Speaker 5: through a divorce.
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  Speaker 6: Oh yeah, for sure, we were going through like in
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  Speaker 6: and out, in and out throughout divorce. But while we
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  Speaker 6: were going in and out of it, he was still
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  Speaker 6: not home. He was still gone, and I was begging
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  Speaker 6: him to come home, crying myself to sleep for weeks,
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  Speaker 6: you know. And at some point in time, I say,
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  Speaker 6: you know what, I don't have to put up with
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  Speaker 6: this like I can make the money myself. I know
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  Speaker 6: that I'm better than this. I should not have to
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  Speaker 6: stay here for money. I shouldn't have to stay here
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  Speaker 6: for love, because this isn't love. I don't feel loved,
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  Speaker 6: and so yeah, at some point in time, I just
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  Speaker 6: stopped caring.
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  Speaker 7: Simon made a comment like, you come for money? Do
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  Speaker 7: you come for money?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 4: He was like saying, like, you got your own money,
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  Speaker 4: you got your own bag.
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  Speaker 2: Type of Uh, that's funny.
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  Speaker 6: No. I started a petroleum a petroleum transportation company.
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  Speaker 2: I was in logistics. When I was with.
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  Speaker 6: Him, he was selling oil. I was transporting it. That
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  Speaker 6: was the only thing he allowed me to do because
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  Speaker 6: he was still in control of it. So even though
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  Speaker 6: it's in my name and everything, I was doing all
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  Speaker 6: the work.
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  Speaker 2: He was my only customer.
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  Speaker 6: I was not allowed to deal with anything else outside
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  Speaker 6: of him.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, he took it.
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  Speaker 7: Oh, so what do you leave you with?
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  Speaker 2: My prenup? I signed a prenup.
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  Speaker 7: Okay, so what does that mean? You came in what
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  Speaker 7: you he left with? What you came in with?
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  Speaker 2: No, I left with a lot more. We had two
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  Speaker 2: houses together.
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  Speaker 6: I received well, he sold them, so I received from
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  Speaker 6: that and then my separation check. So I was still
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  Speaker 6: fine and I had I had a really good allowance
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  Speaker 6: that I was sitting on, So that was fine.
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  Speaker 1: So you were saving your money?
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  Speaker 7: Oh yeah, so he would give you an allowance.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I had a monthly allowance.
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  Speaker 7: Do you mind if do you if we ask what
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  Speaker 7: that consisted of?
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  Speaker 2: Or is that ten thousand?
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  Speaker 1: That's a good allowance? I would stayed.
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  Speaker 2: I mean I died.
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  Speaker 7: Came with that though. A lot came with that allowance,
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  Speaker 7: Like you weren't allowed.
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't about to sell my soul.
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  Speaker 7: He was like physically abusive to you or anything.
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  Speaker 6: No, it was just really he was thirty years older
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  Speaker 6: than me. I mean you have to imagine what that
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  Speaker 6: must have been like, you know, the control aspect of
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  Speaker 6: it all. He said jump, I said, how high?
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  Speaker 2: You know?
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  Speaker 6: It wasn't even all about the money. I truly was
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  Speaker 6: madly in love with Simon. I know people look at
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  Speaker 6: him like he's the beast and on the beauty, but.
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  Speaker 2: I mean they do, they say it all.
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  Speaker 6: The time, but no, I didn't care about any of that.
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  Speaker 6: I was madly in love. There's nothing that I wouldn't
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  Speaker 6: have done for him. But at some point, like I said,
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  Speaker 6: I started to grow up.
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  Speaker 1: Do you miss them? Sometimes?
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  Speaker 2: I miss the money, I'm.
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  Speaker 6: No, I just miss not having to worry about building
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  Speaker 6: my own because sometimes we have our lazy days.
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  Speaker 2: I don't always want to get up and grind. You know.
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  Speaker 6: I have my days, especially having children and being a mother.
• 16:37
  Speaker 6: I have my days where sometimes I want to stay
• 16:40
  Speaker 6: in the bed. And I used to be able to
• 16:43
  Speaker 6: do that. Now I can't. Now I have to depend
• 16:45
  Speaker 6: on myself. And I actually love it here.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: I do. But I'd be lying if I said I
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: didn't miss them days.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: Sometimes, should Jalen not provide for you in the way
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: that you want?
• 16:58
  Speaker 6: Oh my god, let me set this record trip because
• 17:00
  Speaker 6: this has been all over the media.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: And it's crazy because I wasn't.
• 17:06
  Speaker 6: Really ever going to do this, because the difference between
• 17:09
  Speaker 6: Simon and Jalen is that Jalen and I have a
• 17:12
  Speaker 6: daughter together.
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: And I always.
• 17:17
  Speaker 6: From day one, I always wanted to save Jalen's image.
• 17:21
  Speaker 6: I always wanted to build him up. I'm wanted him
• 17:23
  Speaker 6: to feel like a man, you know, because that's what
• 17:25
  Speaker 6: he yearned for the most. But I have to be
• 17:31
  Speaker 6: honest because he kind of he did this to himself,
• 17:35
  Speaker 6: you know, he opened up that bag, and I would
• 17:37
  Speaker 6: have preferred to just keep it quiet, but now I
• 17:40
  Speaker 6: had to defend myself. Jalen has never paid for anything ever.
• 17:46
  Speaker 6: I paid for every single thing. I mean even on
• 17:49
  Speaker 6: couples to treat If you go back and watch when
• 17:51
  Speaker 6: he was in our therapy session and he was saying,
• 17:54
  Speaker 6: you know, like, I'm so frustrated I have to pay
• 17:57
  Speaker 6: for this and that and take care of the kids.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: I was trying my heart not to laugh because I'm
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: sitting here like, huh.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: You do what does he take care of his daughter? Oh?
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: Hell yeah, he does. Great daddy, Great daddy.
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: But as far as like paying the bills, and he
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: brought him a truck at one.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah to him a truck, two trucks. What happened to
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: the truck?
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: I took it back. But listen, I took it back
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: because there was cheating.
• 18:24
  Speaker 6: I mean, there was abuse, there was a lot of
• 18:27
  Speaker 6: there was domestic violence.
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: Yep, really yeah, domestic violence.
• 18:32
  Speaker 6: There's a lot that I put up with in just
• 18:34
  Speaker 6: two years of being with him. It got to a
• 18:38
  Speaker 6: point where I mean he was putting his hands on
• 18:41
  Speaker 6: I mean, we weren't even together anymore. You know, he
• 18:45
  Speaker 6: just got mad one day because he found out I
• 18:47
  Speaker 6: was dating. We were still living together because we were
• 18:48
  Speaker 6: trying to figure out, you know, how to separate everything.
• 18:51
  Speaker 6: We weren't sleeping in the same bed for months. And
• 18:55
  Speaker 6: when he found out that, I finally was like moving
• 18:58
  Speaker 6: on and you know, taking those steps towards like seeing
• 19:00
  Speaker 6: other people. I'll never forget it. He came home, it
• 19:03
  Speaker 6: was four in the morning. He came busting in the
• 19:06
  Speaker 6: door and he just he choked me out, and I
• 19:13
  Speaker 6: had to calm him down because then after that he
• 19:15
  Speaker 6: couldn't forgive himself because he said he would never hit
• 19:17
  Speaker 6: me again. And so it was to the point, like
• 19:21
  Speaker 6: I know, in his interview, he said that I just
• 19:24
  Speaker 6: up and left with a man, and you know, now
• 19:26
  Speaker 6: my kids are calling another man dad, and it's like, no,
• 19:30
  Speaker 6: I had to call that man because I don't have family,
• 19:32
  Speaker 6: you know that could be there for me. And I
• 19:37
  Speaker 6: had to call that man to come protect me and
• 19:40
  Speaker 6: my kids and get us out of there safely.
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: You know, I had to call the police.
• 19:45
  Speaker 6: It was it was really dark, It got really dark,
• 19:47
  Speaker 6: It got really bad, and all I kept thinking was
• 19:52
  Speaker 6: I don't deserve this, and my daughter doesn't deserve to
• 19:54
  Speaker 6: grow up seeing a man put their hands on her,
• 19:59
  Speaker 6: because that's the exactly what she's going to grow up thinking.
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: That is Okay.
• 20:03
  Speaker 6: The only reason why I put up with this because
• 20:04
  Speaker 6: I watched my mom go through the same thing. So
• 20:06
  Speaker 6: I'm like, oh, well, you know, here I am making excuses.
• 20:09
  Speaker 6: He's young, you know, and he's just he's upset today.
• 20:12
  Speaker 6: You know, he's going through a lot. The media there's
• 20:14
  Speaker 6: so mean to him, like, let.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: Me just no, I could do it. I could do it.
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: I could save him. I could save him.
• 20:20
  Speaker 6: To the point where it got it was at my
• 20:23
  Speaker 6: own detriment, and I had to learn that I can't
• 20:29
  Speaker 6: keep saving people's image.
• 20:32
  Speaker 9: You know.
• 20:33
  Speaker 6: Meanwhile, everybody's out here thinking I'm controlling or manipulative or
• 20:39
  Speaker 6: a groomer. Come comment in his interview that he recently
• 20:46
  Speaker 6: did he called He said that I was a groomer,
• 20:48
  Speaker 6: that I groomed him to be with me. But a
• 20:51
  Speaker 6: groomer is someone who's much older. I'm nine years older,
• 20:54
  Speaker 6: but I get it. Cool, I'm older, but you know,
• 20:57
  Speaker 6: there's something to groom you for. There was nothing to
• 20:59
  Speaker 6: group you for. I did everything, and.
• 21:03
  Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, how did it make you feel?
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: After that comment? Because I saw that all over the media.
• 21:10
  Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, that's why.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: That's why I've made.
• 21:14
  Speaker 6: The T shirt because I'm like, okay, well, while we're
• 21:17
  Speaker 6: out here lying, you know, let me just go ahead
• 21:19
  Speaker 6: and make some type of clod back, because I don't
• 21:22
  Speaker 6: think that grooming is very funny at all.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: I was actually groomed.
• 21:25
  Speaker 6: I was with someone who's thirty years older than me,
• 21:28
  Speaker 6: you know, and would use my youth and everything like
• 21:31
  Speaker 6: that and manipulate me in order to stay with him,
• 21:34
  Speaker 6: you know. So to say that I was a groomer,
• 21:37
  Speaker 6: knowing damn well that I held you down. I paid
• 21:40
  Speaker 6: for everything. I allowed the media and everyone my own
• 21:46
  Speaker 6: family to believe that you were a real man and
• 21:49
  Speaker 6: that you were out here taking care of business in
• 21:51
  Speaker 6: the household when actually, and at all actuality, you weren't
• 21:54
  Speaker 6: doing anything. You know, I cooked eye clean. I not
• 21:58
  Speaker 6: that he didn't cook ever, But most of the time
• 22:01
  Speaker 6: he would play his game for sixteen hours a day
• 22:04
  Speaker 6: because he fell into depression and would not be there
• 22:06
  Speaker 6: for me and the children. I was going through postpartum
• 22:09
  Speaker 6: by myself, you know, so, and he was going out
• 22:14
  Speaker 6: found out that he was cheating on me because he
• 22:17
  Speaker 6: came home at eight am, you know, and went through
• 22:20
  Speaker 6: his phone and lo and behold he's sharing his location
• 22:23
  Speaker 6: with a whole woman and her sharing it back.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 22:26
  Speaker 6: It's just like I could go on and on, but
• 22:29
  Speaker 6: it got to the point where enough was enough. And
• 22:33
  Speaker 6: we had only been together for two years, you know,
• 22:37
  Speaker 6: like incomplete before y'all got yeah, I mean right, we
• 22:41
  Speaker 6: got pregnant right when we started dating.
• 22:43
  Speaker 7: Like yeah, was going to ask, you know, why would
• 22:45
  Speaker 7: you have a child with him? Knowing that, you know,
• 22:48
  Speaker 7: he doesn't.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: Even take not this person when we were friends.
• 22:51
  Speaker 6: And that's the one thing that I do miss the most,
• 22:55
  Speaker 6: or I did, was that I really saw him as
• 23:00
  Speaker 6: a different person because when we were friends, Oh my god,
• 23:04
  Speaker 6: we had the best experiences. We had the funniest lives.
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: He was my dog.
• 23:10
  Speaker 6: And no matter what I went through, all the people
• 23:12
  Speaker 6: who left me, all my best friends, even family members
• 23:15
  Speaker 6: who left me in the dust after Simon and I
• 23:17
  Speaker 6: got divorced, Jalen was still there.
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: He was the only one there.
• 23:21
  Speaker 6: Everybody left, nobody believed in my vision of me being
• 23:26
  Speaker 6: able to do this for myself. You know, everybody kept
• 23:29
  Speaker 6: calling me stupid because where I fumbled the bag or
• 23:33
  Speaker 6: you know I was dumb for choosing myself.
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: And him and who and Jalen? Were they mad that
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: you chose Jalen like to be with and start a
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: life with.
• 23:44
  Speaker 6: You know what, I think all of the city of
• 23:45
  Speaker 6: Atlanta is still mad that I chose Jalen.
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: I did raise Yeah, I mean because you ended up
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: proving them right kind of when you, you know, saying
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: that you had to really take control over everything because
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: he wasn't you know, manning up to anything right, and
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: just you know, to give him that excuse to make
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: him feel a certain way, right. Do you feel like
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: that came from your lack of control over your life?
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: You know when you were married to Simon in your
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: previous life, did you feel like just being with him
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: and you know, just having somebody there that you can
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: kind of boss up on.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: No?
• 24:22
  Speaker 6: I never boss up on Jalen. He wouldn't allow me to.
• 24:25
  Speaker 6: I mean, he was very abusive. No, it was not
• 24:28
  Speaker 6: like that at all with him. It felt like the
• 24:33
  Speaker 6: reason why I splurged on him, if you will, the
• 24:36
  Speaker 6: way I did, was because it felt good to feel appreciated.
• 24:41
  Speaker 6: I wasn't appreciated in my previous marriage, and so he
• 24:47
  Speaker 6: was literally he was giving me everything that I actually
• 24:50
  Speaker 6: wanted in my marriage, and then it just kind of
• 24:55
  Speaker 6: went from there.
• 24:57
  Speaker 7: And what year did he start abusing you before your
• 24:59
  Speaker 7: child or after.
• 25:00
  Speaker 6: He became physical? While I was still pregnant with Emma. Yeah,
• 25:07
  Speaker 6: and then after I dropped. I mean I stayed in
• 25:10
  Speaker 6: my room with Emma for a few months. By the
• 25:12
  Speaker 6: time she was five or six months. That's when I started,
• 25:14
  Speaker 6: you know, stepping outside and just saying, you know, I
• 25:18
  Speaker 6: don't care about what you say, I'm gonna have a
• 25:19
  Speaker 6: couple of girls' nights or whatever. And he was cool
• 25:22
  Speaker 6: with it until he wasn't, you know, until I was
• 25:25
  Speaker 6: coming home at two thirty three in the morning.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: Now he's like, but.
• 25:31
  Speaker 6: While I was pregnant, he called me controlling. I will
• 25:34
  Speaker 6: say this because in his interview he called me controlling.
• 25:37
  Speaker 6: He called me controlling to my face, and while we
• 25:41
  Speaker 6: were together as well. But his controlling was he was
• 25:45
  Speaker 6: coming home at six seven in the morning, spending all
• 25:48
  Speaker 6: of my money on bottles and sections every single night
• 25:52
  Speaker 6: while I was pregnant. And if I spoke up and
• 25:55
  Speaker 6: said that's inappropriate. You can't be spending all this money
• 25:58
  Speaker 6: one two'gnant with our baby at home. You cannot go
• 26:02
  Speaker 6: out every single night and just party it up at
• 26:05
  Speaker 6: six seven in the morning. That's not what you signed
• 26:07
  Speaker 6: up for. I did not put a gun to your
• 26:10
  Speaker 6: head to make you be with me or to lay
• 26:11
  Speaker 6: with me. So if that's what you wanted, that's what
• 26:14
  Speaker 6: you chose. You need to be here, you need to
• 26:16
  Speaker 6: be present. I don't mind every here and there, but
• 26:18
  Speaker 6: you do it every single night. And then he would
• 26:20
  Speaker 6: call me controlling and say I'm trying to take his
• 26:22
  Speaker 6: youth from him and things like that, and it's like, well,
• 26:26
  Speaker 6: you're taking the fact that I actually wanted a relationship,
• 26:30
  Speaker 6: a real relationship with a real man, away from me.
• 26:32
  Speaker 9: We'll be right back. Stay tuned with more of The
• 26:35
  Speaker 9: Baller Alert Show. You're listening to a special edition of
• 26:45
  Speaker 9: The Baller Alert Show.
• 26:46
  Speaker 6: Hey, y'all, it's Vallan Pianat and you are now tuned
• 26:49
  Speaker 6: in to The Baller Alert Show.
• 26:50
  Speaker 5: When I've seen a clip on the internet where he
• 26:54
  Speaker 5: was like, don't fall in love with your best friend
• 26:56
  Speaker 5: and you know, you know whatever whatever he was saying,
• 27:01
  Speaker 5: how did you feel about that?
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: Because that clip was like very like sentimental.
• 27:05
  Speaker 6: Yeah, a lot of things I think he says is bullshit?
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: Am I allowed to say that what you want? Okay?
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah I do.
• 27:16
  Speaker 6: I do feel like it's bullshit. But at the same time,
• 27:19
  Speaker 6: there's times like Jalen is.
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: A really good liar, like he's really good to me.
• 27:25
  Speaker 6: He is, I'll give it to him like behind closed doors, y'all,
• 27:30
  Speaker 6: Like he still talks to me like we're friends.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: He's still cool with me.
• 27:34
  Speaker 6: And then he'll text the person that I'm dating right now.
• 27:37
  Speaker 6: He'll text him and try to break up our relationship
• 27:39
  Speaker 6: by using the things that I've told him, you know,
• 27:42
  Speaker 6: in confidence, not about my relationship, but just he could
• 27:44
  Speaker 6: be something light like, oh my gosh, I went to
• 27:46
  Speaker 6: the grocery store today and I had a tummy ache,
• 27:49
  Speaker 6: and oh my gosh, I have this.
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: He was like, did you know she had a tummy
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: ache when she was at the grocery store And was like, you.
• 27:57
  Speaker 7: Have a relationship with your with your.
• 28:00
  Speaker 6: I mean they met because at the end of the day,
• 28:03
  Speaker 6: I do have him around my children.
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: Anyone I date, I'm.
• 28:07
  Speaker 6: I'm definitely the type of mom where I'm going to
• 28:09
  Speaker 6: have them around my children.
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: I'm not.
• 28:11
  Speaker 6: I'm not the type of mom to like date somebody
• 28:13
  Speaker 6: for two three years and then be like, oh, hey,
• 28:15
  Speaker 6: now you can meet my kids, and y'all don't even
• 28:18
  Speaker 6: like each other now, and now I got to start
• 28:20
  Speaker 6: all over.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: You know, I'm not going to do that.
• 28:22
  Speaker 6: So of course, you know, the person that I'm seeing,
• 28:25
  Speaker 6: he is around my children. So I made sure that
• 28:29
  Speaker 6: Jalen met him. And when I say, they talked for
• 28:32
  Speaker 6: hours and Jalen texts me the next day and.
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: It's like, he's such a great guy.
• 28:37
  Speaker 7: I see.
• 28:40
  Speaker 8: Yeah, okay, who is this guy you're dating now? I
• 28:46
  Speaker 8: don't want to say, is he He lives in Atlanta,
• 28:50
  Speaker 8: he's an actor, he got money, he's an actor.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's he's he does pretty well for himself.
• 28:56
  Speaker 7: I mean because last time you said that.
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: No, No, you're.
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: Right, You're right, you really like him.
• 29:05
  Speaker 6: I do, okay, I like him.
• 29:08
  Speaker 7: They're here, a.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: Provider actor and he's a boxer.
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, actor in a boxer.
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: Is this a classic example of because when I saw
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: you in Jalen's Instagram and I was like, oh, you
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: guys look very happy. Is this a classic you know? Well,
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: it looks all right, don't It looks great on Instagram?
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: And but behind the scenes, because everything that you're saying
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: I'm over here, like damn yeah, because the pictures of
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: what I was seeing with you guys to get it
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: seems like everything was great.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:34
  Speaker 6: I mean every relationship, they have their bad days and
• 29:37
  Speaker 6: good days. I mean our relationship was the same. Even
• 29:40
  Speaker 6: though my bad days were worse days than most, we
• 29:44
  Speaker 6: still had our good days. We still had our good times.
• 29:48
  Speaker 6: And whenever those times were happening, of course, I always,
• 29:51
  Speaker 6: you know, made sure I caught a picture and posted it.
• 29:55
  Speaker 6: But no, it got to a point where it started
• 29:58
  Speaker 6: off rocky, and then.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: It got worse, and it got worse, and it got worse, and.
• 30:03
  Speaker 6: Then we did couple's retreat and I really had hope,
• 30:07
  Speaker 6: you know, that it was gonna get better, and then
• 30:10
  Speaker 6: it just it got worse and it got worse.
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
• 30:12
  Speaker 6: And that was another thing that he said that I
• 30:14
  Speaker 6: wanted to address that he was taking care of my sisters.
• 30:18
  Speaker 6: He never took care of my sisters. I took care
• 30:20
  Speaker 6: of my sisters. I paid for every single thing. And
• 30:25
  Speaker 6: he also was the one who wanted my sisters to
• 30:28
  Speaker 6: move in with us. I didn't want my sisters to
• 30:31
  Speaker 6: move in with us. I told my mom straight up
• 30:33
  Speaker 6: to her face, no, I don't want them girls here.
• 30:36
  Speaker 6: It's gonna be way too much on Jalen. He's already
• 30:38
  Speaker 6: going through so much. I just had a baby, Like, no,
• 30:41
  Speaker 6: absolutely not. Jalen begged me for my sisters to move in.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: He was like, this is gonna be good. They'll they'll
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: help us out and everything.
• 30:51
  Speaker 6: It's gonna be great. I said, no, it will not.
• 30:53
  Speaker 6: Their teenagers ain't gonna help with shit.
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: It more you.
• 30:57
  Speaker 6: Yes, it was just gonna be too much. And lo
• 31:00
  Speaker 6: and behold what happened. It was too much. Everything Jalen
• 31:04
  Speaker 6: ever asked for. I gave to him everything.
• 31:07
  Speaker 4: What was the breaking point for you guys to say,
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: let's go on couples retreat?
• 31:11
  Speaker 6: Our relationship was coming to an end, and they just
• 31:13
  Speaker 6: so happened to call us like around that time. I
• 31:17
  Speaker 6: didn't want to be with someone who kept calling me
• 31:19
  Speaker 6: controlling every time. I had some type of boundary about
• 31:23
  Speaker 6: your money, my money, and not only that, just going
• 31:27
  Speaker 6: out all the time. And then I had just found
• 31:29
  Speaker 6: out recently, prior to us doing the show, he was
• 31:32
  Speaker 6: cheating on me, and I mean only recently he just
• 31:36
  Speaker 6: apologized for it. I mean even now he won't even
• 31:39
  Speaker 6: admit to the domestic violence via text message or anything.
• 31:44
  Speaker 6: You know, he's very strategic, but he has apologized to me,
• 31:49
  Speaker 6: you know, verbally for it. The breaking point was after
• 31:54
  Speaker 6: the show. I don't know why, but he just completely
• 32:02
  Speaker 6: went into like a cocoon. He would not come out
• 32:05
  Speaker 6: of this corner that he had in the house where
• 32:08
  Speaker 6: he played video games. He would not come out of it.
• 32:11
  Speaker 6: And there's nothing I could do. I tried everything to
• 32:14
  Speaker 6: get him out of his funk, get him out of
• 32:15
  Speaker 6: his depression. And your healing is very important, but it
• 32:20
  Speaker 6: doesn't come before my pain. And he just kept hurting
• 32:24
  Speaker 6: me and hurting me and hurting me, and so it
• 32:28
  Speaker 6: just got to a point where, you know, I realized
• 32:30
  Speaker 6: I deserve better. My daughter deserves better, because I don't
• 32:34
  Speaker 6: want her to see, not that she'll ever have another dad,
• 32:38
  Speaker 6: but I don't want her to see what it was,
• 32:41
  Speaker 6: the type of person that her dad was being while
• 32:43
  Speaker 6: in a relationship. I truly, even to this day, I
• 32:46
  Speaker 6: don't hate him. I have forgiven him. I want him
• 32:50
  Speaker 6: to be happy. I want him to go to therapy
• 32:54
  Speaker 6: and to truly, you know, deep dive into what his
• 32:58
  Speaker 6: issues are, as we all have to. You know, it's
• 33:02
  Speaker 6: a journey. He's young, he has time, and I really
• 33:06
  Speaker 6: do pray that he gets the help he needs, and
• 33:09
  Speaker 6: you know, I wish him the best of luck in life.
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: What about your other kids? Were they around when you
• 33:14
  Speaker 4: were going through this funk?
• 33:15
  Speaker 7: Yep?
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: They all lived with me?
• 33:17
  Speaker 7: And how old are they?
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: Since sixteen, fifteen, and ten, So.
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: Like the sixteen and fifteen year old, they can clearly see.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: Like and see.
• 33:26
  Speaker 6: And this is where you have to make the decision
• 33:28
  Speaker 6: as a mom because boys are always going to protect
• 33:30
  Speaker 6: their mama, and especially when they think that the mom
• 33:33
  Speaker 6: is happy.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: They're gonna protect it even more.
• 33:37
  Speaker 6: They're not gonna if they see things or hear things,
• 33:39
  Speaker 6: They're gonna pretend they didn't see or hear those things
• 33:42
  Speaker 6: because they want mommy to be happy. So yeah, they will.
• 33:47
  Speaker 6: I'm pretty sure they heard the domestic violence. I'm pretty
• 33:50
  Speaker 6: sure they heard all of the arguments. But when I
• 33:53
  Speaker 6: come out of that room, mommy knows how to wipe
• 33:55
  Speaker 6: her tears and put a smile on her face. So
• 33:57
  Speaker 6: I'm pretty sure they felt some type of pain, but
• 34:01
  Speaker 6: they would never voice it. Never, So what a mom
• 34:06
  Speaker 6: has to do is use her own discernment. And that's
• 34:10
  Speaker 6: exactly what I was doing.
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: I had.
• 34:11
  Speaker 6: I had to get to a point where I had
• 34:13
  Speaker 6: to use my own discernment and be like, oh, my
• 34:14
  Speaker 6: kids aren't stupid. It's time for me to go because
• 34:18
  Speaker 6: I don't want them to see me like this.
• 34:20
  Speaker 5: Have you and Jalen spoke since the interview about on
• 34:25
  Speaker 5: the things that he talked about during that interview, Yeah, you.
• 34:27
  Speaker 6: Just asked Alf for calling me a groomer. I'm like,
• 34:29
  Speaker 6: what did I groom? What are you talking about? And
• 34:32
  Speaker 6: said do you even know what that means? And I
• 34:35
  Speaker 6: literally sent him the definition of what it meant and
• 34:37
  Speaker 6: he was like, all right, well it might have been
• 34:39
  Speaker 6: the wrong term, but you did manipulate me. I'm like,
• 34:42
  Speaker 6: how stop telling that story to everyone who will listen,
• 34:46
  Speaker 6: because if you want to, if you want me to
• 34:48
  Speaker 6: pull out all the receipts and show all the facts,
• 34:51
  Speaker 6: then you're gonna You're gonna look really bad. And I'm
• 34:55
  Speaker 6: trying to save you right now. Why won't you let
• 34:57
  Speaker 6: me save you? But now you done came out here
• 35:00
  Speaker 6: and made me out to be this person who didn't
• 35:02
  Speaker 6: have your back. I held him down, so like, no,
• 35:08
  Speaker 6: now now it's to that point where fuck it.
• 35:11
  Speaker 4: What's the difference between your god now and your previous
• 35:14
  Speaker 4: relationship with Jalen.
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: Oh, he's a man.
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: I drop money.
• 35:21
  Speaker 4: And how did you come to the point where you
• 35:23
  Speaker 4: can start dating again and looking for love again?
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: Listen, y'all should know by now Fallin is a hopeless romantic.
• 35:31
  Speaker 7: I love love.
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to give up. I don't want to
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: die alone.
• 35:36
  Speaker 6: I want to be with somebody as I grow and
• 35:39
  Speaker 6: as I heal.
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: Heal.
• 35:40
  Speaker 6: Healing is an everlasting thing and it never ends. You're
• 35:45
  Speaker 6: always going to need healing. So I mean, as long
• 35:49
  Speaker 6: as I'm doing the work for myself and I'm also
• 35:52
  Speaker 6: with somebody who's okay with that and who's also doing
• 35:56
  Speaker 6: the work on themselves, and.
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: I can make it do the therapy yourself for I do.
• 36:02
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I am with someone that I feel like.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: I can. I'm just free.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: I'm free shut out to that man.
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's good.
• 36:16
  Speaker 7: And what are your hopes for you and Jalen in
• 36:18
  Speaker 7: the future?
• 36:19
  Speaker 4: I know you guys, sure a child like what is
• 36:20
  Speaker 4: your relationship like with your with your boy's father?
• 36:24
  Speaker 6: Liam's father is non existent, he always has been, But
• 36:29
  Speaker 6: Troy and Dylan's dads are very much so.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: In their lives.
• 36:33
  Speaker 6: They're good daddy's, they have them, they're with them right now.
• 36:38
  Speaker 6: I did realize at some point I have no business
• 36:41
  Speaker 6: raising a black man on my own.
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: I couldn't do it.
• 36:44
  Speaker 6: I was trying my hardest, but I realized black men
• 36:49
  Speaker 6: need their black fathers. There's just certain things a woman
• 36:52
  Speaker 6: cannot teach a man. And when it got to that
• 36:55
  Speaker 6: peak and I was like, all right, it is time
• 36:57
  Speaker 6: for you to go with your daddy, because oh no, Dad,
• 37:02
  Speaker 6: they're with their dads.
• 37:03
  Speaker 4: And they helped their they help you financially with the
• 37:06
  Speaker 4: boys and all that too.
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: There's never been I used to pay child support back when.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: You used to pay child support?
• 37:14
  Speaker 7: Yeah, oh you must say have custody.
• 37:17
  Speaker 6: Well, it was a whole custody battle and it went
• 37:19
  Speaker 6: on for years and years, and while we were going
• 37:21
  Speaker 6: back and forth. There always has to be a custodial parent.
• 37:25
  Speaker 6: There was a whole bunch of lies told while I
• 37:28
  Speaker 6: wasn't around. So it was just one of those things
• 37:32
  Speaker 6: where it was like, all right, the judge gave my
• 37:35
  Speaker 6: oldest son to the dad.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: But we're very we're very close.
• 37:39
  Speaker 6: Now.
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: That's water. It's good, yes, But you were paying Yeah,
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: I was paying child sport.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: I never heard pay child sport.
• 37:46
  Speaker 6: Yeah, it's not, it's not, it's really not. But listen,
• 37:51
  Speaker 6: I'm going to take care of my kids. I don't care.
• 37:54
  Speaker 6: There's I don't have any pride it comes to that.
• 37:56
  Speaker 6: But now neither one of us pay child sport, none
• 37:59
  Speaker 6: of us do. We all just pitch in.
• 38:01
  Speaker 7: We all help your sons.
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: No, okay, those good.
• 38:05
  Speaker 7: So you're gonna put Jayleen on chad support, probably.
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: Because I don't see I don't see us be able
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: to a job. Yes, okay, yes he has a job.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: You are going to put Jayleen on child support?
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: H Yeah, I probably am going to.
• 38:21
  Speaker 6: I just I don't see us being able to effectively
• 38:24
  Speaker 6: co parent. I don't right now, not right now, because
• 38:29
  Speaker 6: he's hurt right now, and hurt people hurt people.
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: So I'm not hurt.
• 38:33
  Speaker 6: I forgive him. I've moved on. I'm happy where I'm at.
• 38:37
  Speaker 6: I have my good days, I have my bad days,
• 38:39
  Speaker 6: just like everybody else. But for the most part, I'm happy.
• 38:42
  Speaker 6: And it makes him sick to his stomach to see
• 38:46
  Speaker 6: me happy.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: So what does the what does your future look like?
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: For you?
• 38:49
  Speaker 6: Well, I'm starting this new line. It's going to be
• 38:53
  Speaker 6: it's kind of it's a little it's humorous, it's meant
• 38:55
  Speaker 6: to be humorous, but it's a little dark. It's it's
• 38:58
  Speaker 6: dedicated pretty much all about your exes. How they, you know,
• 39:02
  Speaker 6: can be abusive, how they you know, targeted you, lied
• 39:05
  Speaker 6: on you. And it's not just for women, it's for
• 39:07
  Speaker 6: men too. It's you and a sex because men go
• 39:09
  Speaker 6: through a domestic violence and abuse to it's.
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: Not just as women.
• 39:15
  Speaker 6: And so yeah, so my line is targeted towards both
• 39:18
  Speaker 6: men and women, where it'll have catchy slogans on hoodies
• 39:23
  Speaker 6: and shirts and things.
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: It's gonna be fun. It's gonna be a lot of fun.
• 39:29
  Speaker 7: I was gonna ask what do you do for work?
• 39:31
  Speaker 4: Like, how do you how did you have all this
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: money to provide for yourself, your kids and Jalen.
• 39:36
  Speaker 6: Well, it's crazy because when one door closes, another one opens.
• 39:41
  Speaker 6: The second I left Jalen, I mean, I was getting
• 39:44
  Speaker 6: a whole bunch of offers for modeling, which I didn't think.
• 39:47
  Speaker 6: I thought I was just old, you know, in the
• 39:49
  Speaker 6: model world, I'm old, so or at least that's how
• 39:53
  Speaker 6: it used to be, you know. So I got a
• 39:56
  Speaker 6: lot of offers. I started working yeah, so I model
• 39:59
  Speaker 6: right now now full time. Yeah, I'm the face of
• 40:03
  Speaker 6: Fene right now, Savage fenty shout out the uh huh.
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's it's been really cool there.
• 40:10
  Speaker 5: All the comments and the whole everything on the media.
• 40:13
  Speaker 5: Does ever bother you all the time?
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: It does? Do you read them?
• 40:17
  Speaker 6: I learned not to read them anymore, but sometimes you
• 40:20
  Speaker 6: just can't help it. I haven't opened up my social
• 40:22
  Speaker 6: media in the past four or five days because ever
• 40:25
  Speaker 6: since I post the groomer shirt, you know, I knew.
• 40:28
  Speaker 6: I knew people were going to get it that it
• 40:30
  Speaker 6: was a clap back because it was a total lie.
• 40:34
  Speaker 6: But I also knew that people were going to think
• 40:37
  Speaker 6: that I actually was, and that I was a narcissistic
• 40:41
  Speaker 6: you know, all these things. So I was kind of
• 40:42
  Speaker 6: prepped for that. However, I'm tired of being silent, Like.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: So, what do you want to say?
• 40:48
  Speaker 5: What do you want to say to everybody that's like
• 40:50
  Speaker 5: all the crazy stuff that they saying about you on
• 40:52
  Speaker 5: the internet, What do you want to say to all
• 40:54
  Speaker 5: these comments?
• 40:55
  Speaker 6: I'm not a groomer. I did not I did not
• 40:59
  Speaker 6: go after JA. He came after me, he courted me.
• 41:04
  Speaker 6: I had no ill will towards Jalen. I wanted to
• 41:08
  Speaker 6: be with him, I truly did. It just didn't work out,
• 41:12
  Speaker 6: and that's okay. Not out here trying to be salty
• 41:15
  Speaker 6: or spread any dirt on his name at all, because
• 41:17
  Speaker 6: he is the father of my daughter and regardless of
• 41:22
  Speaker 6: anything that has happened, I just wish him the best
• 41:25
  Speaker 6: of luck and love and light, and I truly do
• 41:27
  Speaker 6: hope that he gets the help that he needs and
• 41:31
  Speaker 6: I'm always going to be here for him no matter what.
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: I truly, I.
• 41:36
  Speaker 6: Truly just want him to understand that I never meant
• 41:41
  Speaker 6: to be manipulative. I just had boundaries. I mean, I
• 41:46
  Speaker 6: think that's pretty normal in relationships, right, or at least
• 41:49
  Speaker 6: it should be.
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: But it's okay.
• 41:52
  Speaker 6: If that's what he thinks to me, that's fine. But
• 41:55
  Speaker 6: I really did have the best intentions. I'm not a
• 41:59
  Speaker 6: cheater cheated in the past. Sure you started it, but no,
• 42:04
  Speaker 6: I'm not a cheater.
• 42:06
  Speaker 7: And do you feel any way towards Portia at all?
• 42:14
  Speaker 6: Uh Mmm?
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: I think not necessarily.
• 42:24
  Speaker 6: Simon wasn't my husband to begin with because she was
• 42:26
  Speaker 6: able to take him, So no, not really, But when
• 42:31
  Speaker 6: I see her face, it just puts a really bad
• 42:36
  Speaker 6: taste in my mouth and triggering. Yeah, I'm not completely
• 42:41
  Speaker 6: over that situation just yet. Yeah, I work on it
• 42:45
  Speaker 6: every day.
• 42:46
  Speaker 4: But but when they're all over TV, you know, they
• 42:48
  Speaker 4: got the show and all that, you know, it's kind
• 42:51
  Speaker 4: of hard not to see him.
• 42:53
  Speaker 6: Yeah. I didn't really see it that much. I think
• 42:55
  Speaker 6: anything I saw, you know, people just tag me. Someone's laughing,
• 43:00
  Speaker 6: you know, but I didn't watch it or anything like that.
• 43:03
  Speaker 6: I just even for Simon, I've forgiven him and I
• 43:07
  Speaker 6: truly do want him to be happy. But I don't
• 43:10
  Speaker 6: have any words for Portsche.
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: What would you tell some people about fame?
• 43:15
  Speaker 6: Everybody always thinks that they want riches and fame until
• 43:17
  Speaker 6: they have it.
• 43:18
  Speaker 5: And if you could take all the fame and the
• 43:20
  Speaker 5: TV and everything away, would you not ever done Housewives?
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 43:25
  Speaker 6: I would have never done Housewives to begin with. They
• 43:30
  Speaker 6: they ruined my life. I'm not saying that I didn't
• 43:33
  Speaker 6: have any parts in it, because I could have tried
• 43:35
  Speaker 6: to make it work. I just wasn't going to anymore.
• 43:38
  Speaker 6: But yeah, I mean they came in my home and
• 43:41
  Speaker 6: it just it all, it all went, it all went
• 43:44
  Speaker 6: to hell after that?
• 43:45
  Speaker 7: Would you do any more Reality TV?
• 43:48
  Speaker 6: I've said this a thousand times. No, and then I
• 43:50
  Speaker 6: went and did coubles retreats, so I can't say if.
• 43:53
  Speaker 7: You had your own show, yeah, I would.
• 43:55
  Speaker 6: Do my own show absolutely. Couple's Retreat was really good
• 44:00
  Speaker 6: one to go on because they weren't out here trying
• 44:02
  Speaker 6: to make up stories and try to lie on anybody
• 44:05
  Speaker 6: or switch anybody's narratives around. They really told our story
• 44:08
  Speaker 6: the way it was and how we felt at that time,
• 44:10
  Speaker 6: so there was nothing. There wasn't a beat missed. So
• 44:15
  Speaker 6: as long as there's a network like that that you know,
• 44:19
  Speaker 6: has morals and actually tells the truth, then yeah, I
• 44:23
  Speaker 6: would do it.
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: Well, Vallon, we appreciate you. Just note anything else you
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: want to get off your chest.
• 44:28
  Speaker 6: You know, well, no, just continue to spread love and
• 44:36
  Speaker 6: light no matter what it is that people may say,
• 44:40
  Speaker 6: No matter what they do, you always have the floor.
• 44:42
  Speaker 6: You always are able to choose how it is that
• 44:45
  Speaker 6: you respond, and I'm going to continue to choose to
• 44:48
  Speaker 6: respond in love and light with a little bit of kickbag.
• 44:55
  Speaker 6: But yeah, I'm looking forward to my next chapter.
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: Val.
• 45:00
  Speaker 7: I think that was the pep talk right there.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that was definitely Yeah, snapped that up.
• 45:07
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