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Plastic Surgery...Is your life worth the risks??? · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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  What's that? What's that? What's up? Y'all? Y'all know who it
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  is, y'all know what's your girl? Ash? Y'all know who this is.
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  Man, it's your favorite girl from where the father Ful Baby? But
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  anyho, welcome to another episode or black Girl interrupt that podcast. Let me
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  say this to everybody that tuned in last night. I just want to say
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  I love y'all so so so much, like y'all just don't even know.
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  Like last night, last night's episode. Man, I just after last night's
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  episode, I said, you know what, I know I have to do
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  this once a month because I had some of the most beautiful conversations last night
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  after the show, and I just I'm really realizing what my gift is.
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  Like I've come to the realization that I know what I'm supposed to do,
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  and I am supposed to use this big mouth for something. I'm supposed to
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  use that to encourage somebody. I'm supposed to use this big mouth to empower
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  somebody, Like That's what I'm supposed to do. So everybody that I just
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  want to say this, everybody that tuned in last night, I just want
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  to say I love y'all. I appreciate y'all. I'm getting someng tied,
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  and y'all know I ain't never for a loss of words, but last night,
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  I don't know if it was needed for you, but I know it
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  was needed for me. Being able to encourage somebody, Being able to empower
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  somebody, being able to uplift someone was a beautiful thing for me. I
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  really feel like this is my purpose. I know it is. I feel
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  that's what it is, and this is what God has designed me to do.
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  So I'm gonna keep honing my craft. I'm gonna keep trying to perfect
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  my craft so I can get better, because again, I want to go
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  higher. I want to elevate higher than where I'm already at. I'm in
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  a good space mentally, like I'm good, Like I just man, I
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  got some great people around me, Like y'all just don't even understand. I
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  have some of the most the best people around me, the best people that
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  want to see me when like I'm loving. I'm loving where I'm at right
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  now. So again, thank y'all for tuning in with me last night.
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  I just somebody needed that and I felt like God put that on my heart
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  to encourage somebody to let somebody know that no matter what you do, no
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  matter where you are, you're still a winner. And the only way to
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  keep being a winners you have to separate yourself from the losers. So start
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  hanging with winners. Because you keep hanging with losers, you're never gonna win
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  because the bad get to tell you. Oh, thank you, Nat,
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  she says, do your thing, but keep up the great work. I
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  appreciate it, and I love you so much. I can't wait to see
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  you. You need to let me know when when we're gonna link. We
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  need to gonna meet in the city. I mean, well, I don't
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  know. It's it's a little hot right now. So but we got to
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  figure out when we're gonna link or something. I gotta come to Atlanta something
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  I don't know, but we got we gotta do something. We gotta link
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  up. I miss you so much, like yere will you saying so much
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  fun in dot comcast days. But anyway, but again, y'all, welcome
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  to another episode a Black Girl interrupted tonight. Ass promise. I told y'all
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  I want to touch on cosmetic surgery and the body dysmorphia of black women.
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  Why do we hate our bodies so much. Why don't we like who we
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  are? Why are we willing to risk our lives to be beautiful when God
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  has already made us beautiful? I get it. You may not like your
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  stomach, you may want bigger boos, you may want I get it,
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  but at what costs? So y'all already know how to start my episodes?
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  She said, Yeah, they're dying out there from the heat our pass.
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  You're li already know because it was a hundred and two degrees yesterday, a
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  day before yesterday here in Houston. Yeah, and it's They say it's supposed
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  to get a little hotter than that, but I don't know. But AnyWho,
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  y'all already know how to start my episodes. Y'all already knew. I
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  already know. I always do my mental health check in because I need to
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  make sure y'all are good. I need to make sure you're mentally good,
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  you're physically good, you're spiritually good, you're emotionally good. So you already
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  know, y'all. I always start with a eight some type of video that's
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  encouraging, empowering, uplifting, So y'all let me know how y'all doing.
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  Happy Thursday. Let me say that Happy Thursday to everybody that is tuning in.
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  We are one day away from the weekend. I don't know how you're
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  weak has been, but again, keep going. We got one more day
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  and then we get the rest. Relax. I don't know. Some people
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  work on the weekends, but I don't know. But y'all already know.
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  I always do my mental health check ins, always drop some type of video
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  that's encouraging, empowering and uplifting. So here we go, and then we're
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  gonna jump into tonight's conversation. There's two sides of things. There's one side
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  of pain, that's the suffering in the discomfort side of pain. But then
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  there's another sile of pain that's called effort. It's called glory. And if
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  you never tap into it, it's because the first time you felt that you
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  backed off, the first time you feel ah that burned, the first time
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  you feel that it's too much. And we rationalize with ourselves so where we
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  automatically stop. That's why a bunch of us give up so much in life
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  so quickly. But suppose I told you the greatest pain of my life,
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  It's the reason I'm standing the end of the day. See, sometimes we
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  think the pain is what controls us, is what's actuonally our subconscious mind,
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  that if we ever tapped into that, that's what dictates most of our lives.
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  And literally, what I've learned in these moments is that I have to
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  stop listening to myself and I have to start talking to myself. I'm like,
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  Rich, You're great. I'm not looking to me like you can do
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  this, Rich, you can handle this. Riches is not a big deal.
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  Riches don't pass. You're amazing, This too shall pass. You got
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  to find ways to increase your sense of self appreciation because if you don't,
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  you're bombarded with negative stuff every day that beats you down, and you will
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  find yourself unconsciously engage in self destructive behavior. If you don't program yourself,
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  life will program you. You got to get grounded. You've got to train
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  your mind to serve you. Just make up your mind. This is not
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  going to control you. You have got to make a declaration. This is
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  what you stand for. You're standing up for your dreams. You're standing up
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  for peace of mind, You're standing up for health. You want it,
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  and you're gonna go all out to have it. It's not going to be
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  easy when you want to change. It's not easy. If it were in
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  fact easy, everybody do it. But if you're serious, you'll go all
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  out. I'm say in spite of this, I'm in control here. Yeah,
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  I'm gonna turn this situation around. I'm not gonna sit back and moan
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  and cry over what happened and what went wrong and who did what. I'm
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  going to do something about this situation. When God gives you a dream,
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  the dream will always be tested. The pressure in your life right now has
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  a purpose. It's not crushing you. It's cushing what's on the inside of
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  you out. It shows you who you are. It's a dog fight that
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  hasn't been easy. It's a dog fight. The role hadn't been success like
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  it's just a paved role, and like each go this way. It's been
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  rough, it's been crooked, it's been hard. But I've made up in
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  my mind that I will get a reward for the pain that I go through.
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  I will not stop. In the middle of the prop said I will
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  not be defeated, I will not be destroyed. I will take everything that
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  happens in my life, and I will allow to pay push me the greatness.
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  You will not break me, You will not stop me, you will
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  not defeat me. The only way I lose is if I quit. It's
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  going to be a dog fight. I choose to fight fire. Life is
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  rough. You can allow it to destroy you, or you can allow it
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  to build you up. Draw the line, ladies and gentlemen, and just
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  say enough is enough. Get out of that narrow mindedness, Get out of
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  that defeated mentality, Get away from that circle. Get away from those people
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  that don't wish you any good, Get away from those people that don't want
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  you to succeed. Get out of the si get out. There's nothing is
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  powerful, and say healing stirs. You can't destroy it. You can pervert
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  it, but you can't destroy it. If you lose the job, keep
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  the faith. If you lose the smouse, keep the faith. If you
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  have to downside, keep the faith. If you have to move in with
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  your mama, keep the faith. If you have to witch in, keep
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  the faith. If you catch the bus, keep the faith. If the
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  tom keep the faith. If it gets sick, keep the faith. If
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  you're losing kidneys, keep the faith. If it got a hard trouble.
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  Keep the faith. You might not getna go hard, but you gotta keep
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  your faith. If you can't fly, run, if you can't run,
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  walk, if you can't walk, crawl, But by all means, keep
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  moving man, man, man, And we just we really just literally talked
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  about this last night, like you gotta keep moving no matter how many times
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  you fall down, you gotta get back up, you gotta keep going.
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  But you also have to remember to keep the faith and you have to keep
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  God in the midst of everything. We're all winners. We're all winners no
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  matter how many times, no matter if you make it, if you don't
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  make it, get up and just try, try, try again. You're
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  still a winner at the end of the day. So don't let anything or
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  anyone discourage you from what it is that you're trying to accomplish in life.
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  And I'm gonna leave it at that. But y'all already know. But again,
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  y'all, welcome to another episode A Black Girl Interrupted. Again y'all already
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  know I do my mental health check ins. Drop in the comments, let
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  me know how you're feeling today, How are you feeling mentally, How are
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  you feeling emotionally? How are you feeling spiritually but best to yet, how
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  are you feeling physically? You know, let me say this, y'all,
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  my legs hurt renovated, like they're aching. But I'm not gonna let that
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  discourage me from doing what I need to do tonight. But anyhow, but
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  anyway, but again, I love y'all so much. Again, Thank y'all
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  for tuning in to another episode. Teacher says, I'm going all out,
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  Hey, my baby, I love you, I love you baby. There
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  you go baby. All right, So again y'all, welcome to another episode.
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  A black girl interrupted. Huh to nice conversation is much needed. Again.
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  All these episodes that I'm doing are my thoughts, ideas, things that
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  I've seen, things that I feel we need to talk about. And one
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  of the biggest things that we need to talk about, and I've addressed this
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  before, and that's a body image, but I really want to kind of
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  dig deep and I want to talk about plastic surgery. Is it really worth
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  the risks? You see these women and I'm not just talking about celebrities,
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  but you see these women out here that are running to Mexico. They're running
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  to these low budget IT doctors and are dying, or they're even doing it
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  on the black market and dying, or they're suffering major consequences of these procedures.
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  I just I have one question, and I just want you all to
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  drop in the comments and let me know who do you think is the cause
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  for the increase in cosmetic surgery procedures? That's actually one of the questions.
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  But I really want to know what do you think. Do you think it's
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  men, Do you think it's social media? Do you think it's your girlfriends?
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  What do you what do you think? What do you really believe is
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  the cause of the increase? Or let me say this, in the fluctuation
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  of cosmetic surgery procedures, Hey, sissy, she says she's undefeated. Hey,
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  my baby, I love you. But anyway, tonice conversation, My
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  soul says social media. So tonight's conversation, we're talking about plastic surgery and
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  is it really worth a risk? Again, you guys know a few weeks
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  ago that DC Young Fli's wife um passed away or fiance with the mother of
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  his children passed away after undergoing a mommy makeover. And for those that don't
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  know what a mommy makeover, is a mommy makeover consists of, UM,
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  you're getting work done to your breast, You're getting a tummy tuck, lightful
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  bbl, You're getting multiple procedures done in one in one h and I really
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  hate to say one sitting, but um, in in one visit. So
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  unfortunately they have not released the details, but speaking to some women that have
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  had mommy makeovers, UM, that's a little too much to get done at
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  one time. You know, you're under anesthesia for an extensive period of time,
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  and some women their bodies are just not able to withstand that. You
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  have these women that are running over to Miami, they're getting their surgery done
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  on Monday, and on Wednesday, they're on a flight home, and you
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  run the risk of developing blood clots. You run the risk of I just
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  my mind just literally when blank got the word was just getting ready to come
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  out of my mouth. But you run the risks of so many things happening
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  by not allowing your body to just really rest after having these procedures. Some
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  women are not healthy enough. You have these doctors that say, oh,
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  your b and I could be over thirty four, and these women go and
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  they have all these complications I've seen multiple women that have passed away going to
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  Mexico, going to the Dominican Republic. People that are going over to is
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  A, Korea or China that are getting this this work done. It's a
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  lie and we're risks. We're putting our lives on the line for a temporary
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  fix because a lot of people don't realize that although you have this these procedures
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  done, whether it's a tummy tuck, whether it's a BBL, whether it's
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  lightful, you still have to exercise, you still have to eat right you,
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  I mean, you have to do all of that to maintain that.
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  And if you don't do what's needed, what's the point. Then you got
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  these people that are running too These clinics that are running these specials all get
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  a BBL for four thousand dollars what huh? And then you guys are not
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  getting the proper checkups. If you are going to a reputable plastic surgeon,
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  they're telling you we need you need to be cleared by your primary care physician,
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  which means you're getting a CBC done. They're doing an echo, they're
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  doing a stress test to make sure that your body can withstand being under the
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  anesthesia for an extensive period of time, to ensure that you're healthy, to
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  ensure that there's no nicotine in your system, there's no alcohol in your system,
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  that you're drug free. There are a lot of things that you've got
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  to go through before you have these procedures done. I don't care if it's
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  a minor. You need to be healthy. And even though I've seen some
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  of the healthiest women that have still suffered concepts that have still suffer complications,
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  there are some healthy women that have still died from going and having these procedures.
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  So I say this to you, ladies. I understand, you have
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  children, your breast hand, you have children. Stomach never goes back flat
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  the way it was before you had the children. I get it. I
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  understand. But let me say this to y'all because I have wanted to get
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  lightful. I don't like my stomach, you know, I said, I
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  wanted. I wanted to get me some little tits, you know, maybe
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  get me a sea cup or something. But then I'm like, God created
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  me this way. I carried three babies in my body were really four five.
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  I'm so sorry. I've carried five children in my body, three of
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  which I've given birth to so I have a mommy body. Okay, my
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  body is not gonna go back like I wanted it to do. I had
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  three C sections. That right there alone, I could have died. I
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  could have died from that bringing life into a world. I could have lost
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  my life. And I'm cool with it now. It just it is what
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  it is. Y'all gonna get. Let me tell you something, whatever summertime
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  body I got right now, baby, that's what y'all gonna get. And
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  no, I'm not saying that because I can't pay for it, but I
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  just don't want to run the risk. Number one, I have lupus.
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  Number two, I'm a Type two diabetic, so I'm a high risk no
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  matter if it's a minor procedure. I had a hystor director. I could
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  have died for my hystor directory. But ladies, especially us Black women,
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  because I know they drag us black women, they ridicule us black women,
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  but realize, black woman, we are the blueprint, baby, Okay that
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  I need y'all to come on. I need some snaps on that one,
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  because we're the blueprint. Do you realize people are paying to look like us?
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  And here we are trying to pay to look like them. Hell no,
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  hell no. Love them big fool hips, Love them, big fool
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  lips, Love that big booty, love your big breast, baby, love
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  it. Because let me tell you something, these men these days, I
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  don't even want these Barbie doll build the build the bear build women. A
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  lot of these men don't want that no more. A lot of these women.
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  Won't you with that food for a lot of these women, won't you
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  three hundred pounds, two hundred and fifty pounds. A lot of these men
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  don't want these little bit of women. So gran' letna tell you something.
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  You better get out there, You better embrace that. You better love who
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  you are and stop trying to run and hop on the table because you're running
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  the risk of losing your life. And we need you, black woman,
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  We need you. I need you. I'm your sister. I need you.
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  So I'm gonna tell y'all that, but I get it. I don't
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  knock anybody that has any that has had any cosmetic work done. I don't
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  knock nobody for that. I don't. But just know there are a lot
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  of risks that come along with having these cosmetic procedures. And y'all, I
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  already knew I come with videos and stuff, and it was one video that
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  I watched, and y'all, it was so sad. But Titia says,
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  it's pure pressure. She said a free Mommy makeover that said, I never
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  liked my breast. But I will never go under the knife. Nope,
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  not gonna happen. I lost some weight, so I have the hanging skin
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  and I still won't go under the knife. But you got a husband,
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  and your husband say he gonna do one or two things. He either gonna
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  be your mechanic or he gonna be your sniper, one or the other.
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  Either way, your cakes are gonna get eight. And that's all that matters.
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  Okay, okay, because I've talked to some men, and a lot
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  of these men have said, that's a facade. These women that go and
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  they get all this, this this work done, this passive surgion, done
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  for what? And you still ain't got no man, You still lonely,
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  you're still miserable, you're still bitter. You look good for the moment,
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  But what happens when that stuff starts to drill to droop? I'm sorry,
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  what happens when that stuff starts to droop. I look at and this is
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  no shade the car to b or anyone else that's had work done. But
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  have you looked at their bodies, the most surgery they have. They all
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  look alike they as they woo, this look like they got diapers on.
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  They look like they're wearing like they have booboo diapers on. Ass hanging to
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  the ground. Your legs don't even match this ass you got. You built
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  up like a giraffe. I mean, come on, now, that's not
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  even remotely cut. That's not even sexy. But hey, who am I
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  again? I'm just here to talk. I'm just here to address it.
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  I'm just here to bring the conversation to y'all, and we just gonna keep
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  it rolling. Again. That ain't no shade to nobody that has had any
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  work done. But some of y'all just who Lord Jesus, I'm telling you
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  t shaus say not to mention the three The scar is HIDDI, yeah,
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  that tummy tuck star, that that hip to hill and then it's it looks
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  like it's zig zagged, and then your belly buttons all the way up to
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  your damned chin. It doesn't even look natural. I mean I look at
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  and and don't get me wrong again, this ain't no shape. I look
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  at super who has had all these cosmetic procedures done and has had so many
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  complications after getting it done, and it's like, you get one procedure.
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  If that's not right, then you got to go back in. You got
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  to correct that. Look at Ky Michelle k Michelle was getting the black market
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  butt injection and almost died because the whatever they were in jail in her butts
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  started to travel through her bloodstream and she said she had to have ten surgeries
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  to remove that stuff out of her body. So again, y'all are running
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  to these these these facilities, these low budget facilities. Y'all are running to
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  Mexico. Y'all are going to the Dominican Republic, to Columbia, whose healthcare
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  is for You don't know who the hell is doing your your your surgery.
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  And y'all are coming back. Some of y'all are dying on the table.
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  Some of y'all aren't even making it back. But again, we gotta start
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  loving ourselves, lady. We have to. We have to stop allowing social
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  media, what we see on TV dictate how we're supposed to look because if
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  God wanted you to have thirty six twenty four thirty six, God would have
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  built you that way. He would have made you that way. Here you
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  are, you're going in and you're messing up God's creation. I get it,
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  y'all again, This ain't no shade. I'm not here to throw shade,
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  and nobody I'm not throwing shot, said nobody. But I really want
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  us to start loving ourselves. I really really, I really want us as
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  black women to really start loving ourselves. I promise, because I feel like
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  we're beautiful and we just don't love ourselves enough because we're so busy focused on
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  what the next person has to say about how we look, or they're telling
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  us how we're supposed to look. No, you look the way God made
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  you. God created you that way. So if you're gonna be mad than
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  anybody, go talk to God, go ask God. But yeah, t
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  shat I had three yea, Tisha had three c sections. She say,
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  do your tittis ain't low? Do they wobble on the floor? Girl?
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  But they don't even girl. Let me tell you something. I don't even
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  think. I don't I don't even They don't even go to my bellet button.
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  Girl, they don't even they don't even drop to my bellet button.
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  Teachers say, looking like aunt eats and they do, like you're not evenly
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  proportioned. You're you're getting these bbls and you feel like it's not big enough.
• 26:21
  So you go and you and you get two or three more and then
• 26:22
  before you know it, your ass is is this damn wide, and your
• 26:27
  legs are this big, your waist is this big. You just you look
• 26:32
  crazy. But y'all think that they're sexy. But again, what do you
• 26:37
  do when that stuff drops? What do you do when you don't have the
• 26:41
  money to go get that fixed? What do you do? So anyway,
• 26:51
  again, I'm not throwing shade at nobody, but I just really wanted to
• 26:56
  bring this to the forefront, like I said, because we're seeing more black
• 27:00
  women that are running to these other countries trying to get these bb els.
• 27:06
  They're getting these mummy makeovers, they're getting these breast and plants, they're getting
• 27:10
  breath lifts. Like I really wanted to bring that to the forefront. And
• 27:15
  Titia says, and the guys say they have drive vaginas. Oh my lord,
• 27:22
  y'all, somebody gonna take her phone now, I think so. Now,
• 27:26
  I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. Six.
• 27:30
  I don't know, baby, but I never heard that. But I don't
• 27:33
  know. But I do want to show y'all this. I want to give
• 27:37
  y'all this one video. What is Lady shares her story whole Titan. We're
• 27:44
  gonna jump back into the conversation new tonight at six. Medical tourism is a
• 27:51
  worldwide, multibillion dollar business and growing, but it can be a risky proposition
• 27:56
  because of lacks standards and oversight to address medical malpractice. Now, we tried
• 28:02
  to find statistics on how many of these surgeries led to infections, disfigurement.
• 28:06
  You didn't even death those numbers. They're not tracked. Now, you can
• 28:10
  save money, but you could also be rolling the dice with your life.
• 28:14
  One Columbus woman found that out the hard way, and she's sharing her story
• 28:18
  to warn others. But some of the images you're about to see are graphic
• 28:22
  and you may find them disturbing. I just can't believe that you could do
• 28:26
  something like this is somebody and did not even show no tape of remorse.
• 28:30
  For the past ten months, Perielle Wallace has been living her own personal nightmare.
• 28:34
  A trip to the Dominican Republic for liposuction and breast augmentation not only left
• 28:38
  her disfigured, and when it unbanished me, I just screamed. I just
• 28:42
  started screaming, like I couldn't believe what I was seeing, Like it literally
• 28:48
  looked like a child took a scalpel and just cut me up. It nearly
• 28:52
  left her dead. I felt excra weak, like I just did not feel
• 28:56
  right. Something just felt wrong. By the time she arrived home to Columbus,
• 29:00
  Perielle was an agonizing pain. She shared her medical records with US.
• 29:03
  They showed she was admitted with what doctors described as a raging infection. She
• 29:08
  says doctors told her it was most likely caused by unsterile medical equipment. I
• 29:14
  was so angry at myself that I allowed this to happen. That's how I
• 29:17
  felt. I feel like it was my own fault, because if I would
• 29:19
  have did more research, you know, this wouldn't have happened. Perielle knew
• 29:22
  women who had procedures done by the same doctor in the Dominican Republic and had
• 29:26
  great results. She expected the same outcome in my opinion, she's a monster.
• 29:32
  That's that's how I look at it, because not once has she even
• 29:34
  just acknowledged me to say I missed the and here we have to provide that
• 29:38
  which. Doctor Bivick Shaw is a board certified plastic surgeon here in central Ohio.
• 29:44
  He says what happened to Perielle is heartbreaking, but sadly, he says,
• 29:48
  it's more prevalent than you might think. So I have had five people
• 29:52
  that have taken care of and we routinely get phone calls I would say at
• 29:57
  least one or two month of somebody that has gone somewhere else outside the country
• 30:03
  and had a major problem. Doctor Shaw agrees that traveling abroad for medical procedures
• 30:11
  can save you money, but the risk is much greater. Doctors outside the
• 30:17
  US don't have the same regulations and safety protocols to adhere to. There's no
• 30:21
  state medical board to hold them accountable, and there's no legal recourse for patients
• 30:25
  when something goes wrong. I think instinctively people trust doctors to a certain level,
• 30:30
  at least so when they see a low price and a doctor that will
• 30:36
  do it, there's trust that there's no way they're going to hurt me,
• 30:40
  But Periell did get hurt. How could you butcher my body that way and
• 30:44
  didn't not take any accountability. We tried to get an answer to that very
• 30:51
  question. My name is Yolanda Harris and I work for a television station,
• 30:56
  a CBS affiliate in Columbus, Ohio. The woman who answered identified herself as
• 31:00
  the doctor's coordinator. She confirmed Pereo Wallace was a former patient, but refused
• 31:06
  to answer any questions about her procedures or what went wrong. According to the
• 31:11
  Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the Dominican Republic may be the most dangerous
• 31:15
  place to travel abroad for cosmetic surgery. Researchers discovered higher rates of post surgery
• 31:21
  infections, complications, even death among patients who traveled there. It's so easy
• 31:26
  to forget that plastic surgery is real surgery, that you can have serious complications,
• 31:33
  you can die from it, and money is important, but it can
• 31:40
  never be more important. Doctor Shaw does not recommend going out of the country
• 31:44
  for surgery. In fact, he advises against it. He agreed to meet
• 31:48
  with Perielle to examine the physical damage and devise a plan for correction. All
• 31:52
  right, let's take a look. Just keep the gulf of the side.
• 31:56
  Just kind of relax your shoulders for me. But emotional damage concerned him just
• 32:01
  as much. You know, when I talked to her today, I saw
• 32:06
  such profound sadness, and it broke my heart because I could tell that she
• 32:14
  was just in this place of being mad at herself for making that decision.
• 32:19
  I pretty much lost my mind for a while, so I ended up in
• 32:22
  the psycreatric hospital. Perryelle says she is not the same person she was ten
• 32:25
  months ago, but she is a survivor. And I decided that I wanted
• 32:30
  to fight for myself because I deserved that. I deserve to live, I
• 32:32
  deserve to be happy. Now, the main takeaway that we want you to
• 32:38
  get from this story is to do your research. If you're looking to travel
• 32:43
  abroad for any medical procedure to save money, talk to a plastic surgeon locally
• 32:49
  first, know the risks and know what to look for in a surgeon.
• 32:52
  The cost savings is not worth your life. Now. We have a link
• 32:55
  to the CDC's website with advice on medical tourism and a few other links,
• 33:00
  and you can find them. And we see this all the time. We
• 33:09
  see this all the time. These women that go to the Dominican Republic or
• 33:14
  to Mexico, go to Columbia, and this is what happens. One of
• 33:22
  the things that we have to realize is that what works for one person may
• 33:29
  not work for you. We have to realize everyone's results are not going to
• 33:34
  be a sin. You can go have this procedure done, but your body
• 33:38
  is not going to look like that woman's body. My body's not gonna look
• 33:43
  like yours. Your body's not gonna look like mine. First off, our
• 33:46
  BMI's, we could have the same BMI's, but our bodies are still built
• 33:52
  differently. But this woman went to the Dominican Republic. Again. They call
• 33:57
  it medical tourism, which means you're going to these different countries for these medical
• 34:01
  procedures, whether it's plastic surgery, whether it's weight loss surgery, hands or
• 34:08
  treatment, whatever. But that's what medical tourism is. And we're seeing more
• 34:14
  and more black women and not only are they going by themself, but they're
• 34:19
  traveling in groups. They're traveling in groups to these different countries to have these
• 34:28
  procedures done. And you heard it for yourself. You don't know who's working
• 34:32
  on you. Some of these doctors that these ladies have gone to and have
• 34:37
  had work done, some of these doctors aren't even licensed doctors. You don't
• 34:42
  know who you got working on your body. You can have Joe from down
• 34:45
  the street who knows how to fix on bites. Now all of a sudden,
• 34:51
  he's doing BBLS number two. The equipment that they're being used is not
• 34:59
  properly stare are lies. So not only do you run the risk of getting
• 35:06
  an infection, but you also run the risk of contracting AIDS or HIV because
• 35:14
  over there in Colombian Dominican Republican Medico don't they don't need your medical records.
• 35:19
  You just make your appointment. Hey, I want to do this, get
• 35:22
  your lab work as long as thirty days prior to your surgeon. You don't
• 35:24
  have no alcohol or nicotine or drugs in your system. They're not checking for
• 35:30
  that. Number three, they're not board certified, so you don't have Like
• 35:35
  they said in the video, who are you gonna hold accountable for this?
• 35:39
  Who are you gonna report them too? Because some of the stories that I
• 35:45
  read upon my research prior to doing this episode, some of these doctors that
• 35:50
  these women have gone to aren't even real doctors, or they're not even quiet,
• 35:55
  they're not even surgeons. But yet you run the risk of going over
• 36:05
  there to be beautiful. You run the risk of going over there to be
• 36:09
  beautiful, and you also run the risk of maybe not making it back.
• 36:15
  You get over here, you've got some type of infection. Who are you
• 36:22
  going to blame a lot of these women they jump on the price. Oh
• 36:30
  my god, I can get a BBL for thirty six hundred dollars. Huh.
• 36:35
  I'm not even trusting that. I'm not even trusting that. Now they've
• 36:39
  got it to where you could set this up and and it's like you damn
• 36:44
  there could pay for with after pay. Oh you have your schedule your surgery
• 36:52
  between this day and that day, get an extra thousand dollars off. I'm
• 36:57
  not taking no, baby, I'm not. Let me tell you something.
• 36:59
  One thing I'm not doing one is I'm not paying playing Russian roulette with my
• 37:01
  life. Do I want to have a Do I want to have lightful?
• 37:08
  Absolutely I do. I would love to get some of this fat sucked out
• 37:12
  of my stomach. I would love it. But my man says no,
• 37:15
  He says he likes that, So guess what that foop is gonna stay?
• 37:21
  My man like it. Oh, let me correct my My soon to be
• 37:23
  husband likes it. Let me correct that. I'm so sorry. I don't
• 37:27
  know if he's watching or not, but let me correct myself. My soon
• 37:30
  to be husband, my fiance loves it. He loves all everything about me.
• 37:34
  He tells me all the time how beautiful I am. But it's not.
• 37:37
  It's not so much you're man, but you have to believe that you're
• 37:42
  beautiful. You have to believe that. Titia says, wow, I know.
• 37:50
  And looking at the pictures, that's so disheartening the way that that woman
• 37:57
  was sliced up like a ham and and no pun intended. I'm not trying
• 38:00
  to be funny, but that's how it looked. It looked like someone just
• 38:07
  went in chopped her body up and stitched up and sent a home. But
• 38:13
  that's what we do. So I want to move into the next thing.
• 38:17
  Black women in Body dysmorphia. For those that don't know, body dysmorphia is
• 38:24
  when you're fixiated on one or more parts of your body that you're just obsessed
• 38:30
  with and you just I need to get this done I need to get this
• 38:35
  fixed. That could be your lips. I'm starting to see more black women
• 38:39
  get lip fillers. I'm not gonna even go there. I'm not gonna even
• 38:45
  say what those lips look like, but it looks okay. I'm just gonna
• 38:51
  move on. Uh. You see black women that are getting rhino plastic,
• 38:53
  which is no surgery. They're either wanting their nose to be a little smaller,
• 39:00
  of course, for cosmetic purposes, not for metical not for metically necessary
• 39:06
  purposes. I've seen women that are getting their ears done, yes, I've
• 39:10
  seen it done. Um. Women are fixiated on their eyes. You know,
• 39:16
  I want my eyes to be a little smaller. I want I want
• 39:20
  to have these little slant Asian looking eyes or something. Then the breasts,
• 39:24
  the stomach, the butt, the hands. People are getting all types of
• 39:29
  cosmetic procedures done. Okay, but I really want to address this, that
• 39:34
  body dysmorphia, because that is a real type of mental illness and a lot
• 39:38
  of people don't know that. But that's an obsession, like a you're fixiated
• 39:45
  on a certain party about it that you just you want to change. And
• 39:50
  we're seeing more and more of that in Black women, especially young girls,
• 39:57
  These young girls whose bodies are are still they're done developing, but they're not
• 40:05
  done developing that are already saying, oh, I want to get a BBL.
• 40:08
  I want to get a breast and plants at eighteen years old. Baby,
• 40:14
  I think you need to be worried about graduating from high school and trying
• 40:16
  to go to somebody college or figuring out what you want to do in life,
• 40:21
  and a little less about a BBL and a tummy tuck or lightful.
• 40:29
  But this is where these things have started to result to this. Body dys
• 40:36
  morphias is at an all time high, especially in black girls and black women,
• 40:40
  because we idolize, and maybe that's not the right word, but we
• 40:46
  idolize how we're how we feel we're supposed to look. And I just feel
• 40:54
  like, and again this is just my opinion, I think we need to
• 41:00
  love more of who we are and less of who we aren't, if that
• 41:07
  makes sense. I hope I said that correctly. But I really want us
• 41:10
  to start loving who we are and not who we aren't, because a perfect
• 41:16
  body doesn't define who you are. Okay, you have a cute shape,
• 41:22
  but what about your personality? What about your attitude? Because you could fix
• 41:28
  your body, but can you work on fixing your attitude? Can you work
• 41:37
  on fixing your personality first? Because you can have a banging body and still
• 41:42
  be dumb as a box rise. You can have a banging body and be
• 41:46
  beautiful and still have an ugly attitude. And I mean, make it make
• 41:53
  sense to me. I've just never understood, like I said, you know,
• 42:00
  I won't say that I don't understand because, like I said, at
• 42:02
  one point, I was like, oh, I want to get bigger breast
• 42:06
  or you know, old take they could take some of the fact from my
• 42:09
  stomach and put it in my butt. Yeah, I've had those very same
• 42:15
  thoughts. But I just come to the realization, I'm just who I'm gonna
• 42:19
  be. Y'all just gonna take you either gonna take it or leave it.
• 42:22
  This body, that's that's all y'all gonna get. But back to what I
• 42:28
  was saying, but this body dysmorphia, that's a serious problem because again we're
• 42:35
  seeing it more and more and more. How women don't how Black women don't
• 42:43
  like this about their bodies. Oh, I had a baby in and my
• 42:46
  stomach didn't snap back like so on. So everyone's body is different just because
• 42:53
  she had three children and her stomach is flat. Your bodies are different.
• 43:02
  When my first two children, yeah I snapped back, I did, but
• 43:07
  this last one, this weight just just wouldn't go anywhere. And then the
• 43:12
  fact that I couldn't back away from the table, so that was another.
• 43:16
  That was another thing. But there are a lot of times that I get
• 43:21
  in the mirror and I say, oh God, look at my stomach.
• 43:22
  Oh I just wanted to be flat. But then I'm like, it is
• 43:27
  what it is. I carried five children in my body, so I'm not
• 43:31
  gonna have the coke bottle shape or a perfect body. I'm cool the way
• 43:36
  that I am. But we were. But we really need to sit down
• 43:44
  and we need to have conversations with these little black girls who are watching this,
• 43:50
  who are stroll who are scrolling on Instagram and TikTok and oh I want
• 43:55
  a body they're fixiated on. Oh I want a body like him card and
• 44:00
  oh I want a body like this. I want a body like Buffy the
• 44:05
  body. I want a body like Miracle Watts or something like that. When
• 44:08
  really we need to be encouraging our children and boosting their self esteem. These
• 44:14
  are little black girls, because it's sad to see how unhappy they are with
• 44:21
  their bodies. It's sad. It's very depressing to see these girls not loving
• 44:29
  themselves, these girls that are allowing social media to tell them how they're supposed
• 44:37
  to look, or TV that this is the way a woman is supposed to
• 44:43
  look. She's supposed to have big, voluptuous breast, she's supposed to have
• 44:46
  a flat stomach, she's supposed to have a big round button. No,
• 44:53
  not everyone is going to be shaped or built like that, and that's okay.
• 45:00
  You have to start loving you for who you are. So I really
• 45:05
  want us to really stress and sit down and speak with our children, our
• 45:08
  nieces, these little girls, and explain to them about body dysmorphia and show
• 45:15
  them how to encour you know, show them how to love their bodies,
• 45:19
  encourage them, tell them that they're beautiful, and explain to them that God
• 45:22
  created us in all different shapes and sizes and heights, because unfortunately, I'm
• 45:28
  sure, but that's that's what we need to be talking to our children about.
• 45:34
  We need to be pushing and boosting self esteem and let's focus on how
• 45:38
  the world says we're supposed to look, because if that's the way we were
• 45:43
  supposed to look, God would have created created us all to be shaped that
• 45:46
  way. And that's not true. God created you imperfectly perfect. God created
• 45:54
  you the way he wanted you to look. You're His design. So love
• 46:01
  who you are. If there are things that you don't like, if you
• 46:06
  don't like your weight, start eating healthy, start you know, exercising.
• 46:10
  Cut back on some of the things that you like to eat. You know,
• 46:15
  if you're used to going out and you're eating five slices of pizza,
• 46:19
  try eating just four slices of pizza. Something. But I really need us
• 46:23
  to get on that bandwagon and start encouraging these little girls and letting these little
• 46:28
  girls know how beautiful they are because the world is telling them that they're ugly.
• 46:31
  The world is telling them that they're flawed. The world is telling them,
• 46:36
  Oh, those big lips are ugly. The world is telling them,
• 46:38
  Oh, your hair is ugly because you decided to go natural. Oh you
• 46:43
  got a big stomach. Oh I want a woman that looks like this.
• 46:50
  No, and let alone men, stop allowing men to tell you how you're
• 46:55
  supposed to look. Because some of these let me say this, because I'm
• 46:59
  gonna wakes I'm gonna wake this up because some of the very same men that
• 47:04
  say, oh, I want to want she has to be shaped like this,
• 47:07
  are actually wide back and built like Shrek, those very same men.
• 47:12
  So I'm gonna let me go ahead and put that out there, because some
• 47:15
  of you men, y'all need to stop talking about the type of women you
• 47:19
  won't and then get mad when we say we don't want big men, or
• 47:22
  we want a man that's built like Michael B. Jordan. Don't dish it
• 47:28
  if you can't take it, Okay, if you don't want us saying things
• 47:32
  about you, stop saying things about us women. Stop telling your wives,
• 47:37
  your girlfriends, and your daughters that they have to look like this, because
• 47:40
  you're really messing with a mentor and that and that's really uncalled for. Again,
• 47:46
  some of you men are out here telling these women, oh, you
• 47:52
  need to look like this, Oh you need to look like that, when
• 47:54
  your whole damn stomach drops below your damn needs. But you got the art
• 48:00
  udacity to open your mouth and talk about a black woman in her body and
• 48:05
  you ain't shape right, So stop it. Okay. Let me let me
• 48:09
  just go ahead and put that out there because some of y'all be afraid to
• 48:13
  tell these men that. I don't have a problem with telling telling nobody that,
• 48:15
  but that's what you men need to stop doing, because y'all are really
• 48:20
  tearing down a woman's self esteem, and black women are self esteem has already
• 48:24
  been drugged through the mud. Stop stop contributing to what society is doing to
• 48:32
  black women. Stop stop doing it men. Okay, and before y'all jump
• 48:38
  on your soap box, yes, I know white men do it, but
• 48:43
  I'm talking to black women and black men tonight. Okay, thank you,
• 48:47
  because I don't want abody jump in, but why Ashley, But you know
• 48:51
  what, white men, I'm addressing black women and black men tonight. Okay.
• 48:57
  Just because I'm pro black doesn't mean i'm MANI white. But I'm talking
• 49:00
  to my sisters because we're seeing an influx of black women running and getting these
• 49:08
  cosmetic procedures done and they're dying. I'm not saying others. It's not happening
• 49:14
  with other races, but it's more black women. It's more black women.
• 49:20
  It's the increases ridiculous, y'aw. Again, We're seeing more and more Black
• 49:25
  women who are losing their lives. They're having they're going again to these other
• 49:30
  countries. They're going to Mexico, Dominican Republic, they're going to Columbia.
• 49:34
  They're having this weight loss surgery. They're having tummy tucks, they're having bbls,
• 49:37
  they're having light bulb and they're going to doctors that aren't really even true
• 49:43
  litt doctors or they're not even board certified. You don't know who's working on
• 49:46
  you. So I really want us to let's let's work on that. Let's
• 49:52
  work on changing the statistics when it comes to body dysmorphia, because again,
• 50:00
  that's that's a real life mental illness. It really, really, really,
• 50:04
  really truly is so to you, ladies. I love you. I think
• 50:08
  you're perfect just the way you are. I understand you may have a few
• 50:12
  things you want to nip and tuck, but please make sure you do your
• 50:15
  research. Please, please please make sure you know what you're doing, who
• 50:21
  you're doing it, who you're who you're going to make sure your dot your
• 50:24
  eyes and your cross your teeth. That's that's all I want to say to
• 50:29
  you. Women. Um So I did find another video and it's it really
• 50:37
  goes into my next question is the impact of social media. How much,
• 50:44
  just how much of an impact does social media have on black women in plastic
• 50:49
  surgery. Here we go, jen Zers are feeling the pressure to keep up
• 50:54
  with body trans perpetuated by celebrity and social media. I'm Dante Ramos and this
• 51:00
  is MTV News need to know. Earlier this year, the American Academy of
• 51:07
  Facial, Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery found out that in two and twenty two,
• 51:13
  seventy five percent of plastic surgeons saw spike and clients under thirty. Doctors say
• 51:17
  that as life moved largely online during the pandemic, people became unhappy with the
• 51:22
  way their faces appeared on their computer cameras and decided to get some tweaks.
• 51:27
  They refer to this movement as the zoom boom for gen zers. Social media
• 51:31
  is another force in pushing body trends, particularly on TikTok, where young women
• 51:36
  make up the vast majority of users, and now body checks have taken off
• 51:40
  on the app, where users zero in on the thinness of a particular body
• 51:44
  part. A student led high school publication called The bird Feed did a deep
• 51:49
  dive into body checks and found out that As of two and twenty two,
• 51:52
  the hashtag jawline check on TikTok has two hundred and sixty four point nine million
• 51:58
  views. But it's even more alarming is that hashtag small waste has received five
• 52:02
  hundred and thirty two point six million views and hashtag side profile has received eight
• 52:07
  hundred and eighteen point nine million views. The apps algorithm feeds body check content
• 52:13
  to teenagers for you pages, causing users to put unrealistic expectations on themselves.
• 52:19
  It's not just TikTok, though. Last year, internal Instagram data showed that
• 52:22
  the app was harmful to teen girls mental and physical health, directly making them
• 52:28
  feel worse about their bodies, and secretiveness around beauty standards has toxic effects.
• 52:32
  Just last year, after a slew of starlets became unaccountably thinner, reports came
• 52:37
  in that many folks in Hollywood were taking the diabetes drug ozempic, which causes
• 52:43
  rapid weight loss. Very few celebrities have admitted to using it, and instead
• 52:47
  non to new diets and workout routines, which are also damaging. The extreme
• 52:52
  weight loss trend. Plus the nineties esthetic coming back into style have made way
• 52:57
  for the countless thinness back headlines. Buckle fat removal was the most headline surgery
• 53:01
  of twenty twenty two in Hollywood and beyond. This shift also ushered in the
• 53:07
  end of the BBL era. The surgery popularized when curb your figures were in
• 53:12
  style. Influencer problematic fame spreads awareness of how social media impacts beauty standards.
• 53:17
  They told MTV News, the idea that different types of bodies can fall in
• 53:22
  and out of style throughout the course of a few years is horrifying. Bodies
• 53:27
  are meant to be taken care of, loved, and nurtured, not molded
• 53:30
  to fit whatever standard happened to be trending that day. Experts warned that ozempic
• 53:35
  and buckle removal come with serious consequences. Top facial surgeon Theata Contests warns that
• 53:40
  ozepic can accelerate the effects of aging on your face, and she warned that
• 53:45
  buckle fax surgery isn't reversible and could have opposite effects of what you want when
• 53:50
  you get older. Some influencers say that being open about their beauty journeys is
• 53:53
  the key to debunking unattable standards, and have decided to share their cosmetic enhancement
• 54:00
  with their followers. Lindsay Kite, a leading expert in the study of body
• 54:04
  image, told MTV News that honesty is key. It's not through the beauty
• 54:07
  brand that you're partnering with. It's not through the vitamins. The gummy is,
• 54:10
  the black tummyt the cleans. It is often through cosmetic procedures that these
• 54:16
  idealized looks are achieved and maintained. That's where it's a social responsibility issue,
• 54:22
  where celebrities and influencers need to be aware of who they're influencing, who is
• 54:27
  watching, and oftentimes a good chunk of that audience is young, impressionable girls
• 54:31
  and women who are looking to see what it takes in order to be valued,
• 54:37
  to be respected, to be confident, and to be worthy of love.
• 54:39
  Recently, some celebrity women have expressed regrets and or warnings about cosmetic procedures.
• 54:45
  Bella Hadid told Vogue that she had a nose job at age fourteen,
• 54:47
  which she regrets. Last year, Cardi B got her butt injections removed and
• 54:52
  warned fans not to get them because of their serious complications they can cause,
• 54:57
  and last week Black China documented getting her buttshots removed along with some other surgical
• 55:01
  removals. But there are also plenty of celebs like Chrissy Tiguan, Dolly Parton,
• 55:06
  and Kaylee Kuwoko who love their work. Listen, I'm like anyone else.
• 55:12
  I want to look good, I want to be fashionable. I have
• 55:15
  insecurities, and I think that people have the right to make choices about their
• 55:17
  bodies. But the problem here is that the body trends are moving at the
• 55:22
  speed of light. If our decision making tries to keep up with social media
• 55:25
  and our self worth is dictated by an app that favors toxic content, we
• 55:30
  could really hurt ourselves. We are not the body police, but know that
• 55:34
  just like any kind of genes you wear, body trends come and go.
• 55:37
  But if you do go under the knife, do your research and make sure
• 55:40
  you are doing it for yourself. I'm Dante Ramos, and that's what you
• 55:44
  need to know. And that's exactly what I was just saying. Was you
• 55:58
  see all these women that go and have this work done, only to find
• 56:07
  out that that's not the trend anymore. And I said, and I stated
• 56:13
  that earlier a lot of these men now they want natural women like Kendrick Lamar
• 56:20
  say, I want a woman with some stretch marks. They want to be
• 56:23
  able to see all of that. That craze of old you need to be
• 56:28
  thirty four, twenty six, thirty whatever that shit. It's starting to fizzle
• 56:32
  out now, but I want to quite like I say, I pose the
• 56:37
  question, and I asked, are men or social media the cause for the
• 56:43
  increase in cosmetic surgery procedures? What do you think? Me and my personal
• 56:51
  opinion, men contribute, but I really feel like social media has a lot
• 56:58
  to do with it. But now you're seeing these celebrities going and they're getting
• 57:04
  this work undone, they're getting it reverse. My sister Black China, which
• 57:09
  I love dearly, and I think she looks beautiful since she's gotten the fillers
• 57:16
  taken out of her face, the fillers taken out of her lips, the
• 57:20
  butt injections take I think she looks gorgeous and I love her to death.
• 57:24
  So if you're watching, since I love you, I miss you, Sinsy,
• 57:28
  let me know when you come down to the city so we can go
• 57:30
  hang out. But you look at k Michelle, who had had I think
• 57:39
  ten or eleven surgeries to get the silicone removed from her body. You're seeing
• 57:49
  all these women who at the time we're going and they were running and jumping,
• 57:53
  and they were getting all this work done because that was the thing to
• 57:57
  do. You know, if you are a stripper, you know, if
• 58:00
  you didn't have the money to go get the work done. They were going
• 58:02
  on the black market doing this stuff. They were getting these illegal butt injections.
• 58:07
  I just read a case this was maybe happened five or six years ago,
• 58:12
  where a woman they went to somebody's office and got these elite, these
• 58:17
  black market butt injections. Didn't know what was being put in her body.
• 58:23
  I believe it was fix a flat. I believe that's what they were doing.
• 58:30
  I believe they had a like a some type of party and this girl
• 58:36
  had fixed a flat injected in her body. And the girl ended up having
• 58:39
  I believe she had a seizure or a heart attack there and died at the
• 58:43
  facility. At this place that they went to, y'all are going into a
• 58:47
  back office. You don't know who the hell y'all are meeting getting these these
• 58:55
  butt injections, these lip injections, these this boat, these boltox. You
• 59:00
  don't know what people are putting in your in your body. So again,
• 59:07
  I really feel when it comes to who do I think is the cause for
• 59:10
  the increase in cosmetic surgic procedures social media? You just heard it for yourself.
• 59:17
  You just saw it for yourself. The statistics they're showing, Oh,
• 59:24
  what was it, the hashtag, the jawline? What was it? The
• 59:28
  hashtag? The profile. That's what's causing these women because again, these women's
• 59:36
  self esteem or these girl's self esteem is already low. So they're looking at
• 59:44
  these other women who are saying, oh, all you gotta do is work
• 59:49
  out, do this, when in actuality, they've had a cosmetic procedure.
• 59:54
  I was on Instagram today scrolling and U I can't I can't recall the young
• 1:00:01
  lady's name, Ari Fletcher. I think it's no not Ari Reflect. I
• 1:00:07
  don't know. I think that's her name. But anyhow, she's had this
• 1:00:10
  cosmetic work done, then turned around and puts out like a workout tape video.
• 1:00:17
  Someone said, how are you gonna put out a workout video? And
• 1:00:22
  just a few years ago you tweeted talking about cosmetic procedures, go get it
• 1:00:28
  done or something like don't let people tell you classic surgery or something. But
• 1:00:35
  now you have this exercise video, and we know that's not how you got
• 1:00:37
  your body. We know you one another knife, you've had cosmetic procedures done,
• 1:00:45
  And y'all are feeding this to these impressionable young women or women period,
• 1:00:54
  who are already feeling some type of way about their bodies, and they're running
• 1:01:00
  again to go get this work done for the low and are dying or they're
• 1:01:07
  suffering major, major complications. I just read a young lady went to Okay,
• 1:01:16
  here we go. Um I was. I was reading a story the
• 1:01:21
  other day. A young lady went to Mexico. And I believe she had
• 1:01:23
  two children and went and had a BBL and something else done. She comes
• 1:01:35
  back, everything is good, And then I want to say, and I
• 1:01:38
  could be wrong, y'all. I could be wrong on this on how I'm
• 1:01:43
  telling the story. But I believe she had only been back maybe a week
• 1:01:45
  or two, and she started to experience complications. I believe she started running
• 1:01:52
  a fever and something else. Come to find out, this young lady had
• 1:01:58
  contracted uh yologic meningitis. I can't remember the type of meningitis, but she
• 1:02:07
  she contracted uh oh god, what oh what is it called? Um?
• 1:02:15
  She anyway, she contracted some a particular type of meningitis um due to them
• 1:02:22
  using unsterilized equipment on her. And this woman passed away, young girl,
• 1:02:30
  young beautiful, and the husband went with her, although he wasn't you know,
• 1:02:38
  for her having the surgery, but he went anywhere as as you know,
• 1:02:42
  to support. And I want to say a week or two. I
• 1:02:45
  want to say about a week or two after she had it was when she
• 1:02:47
  started to experience the complications. I believe it was a couple of weeks after,
• 1:02:52
  but she um. It wasn't bacterial meningitis. It was another type of
• 1:02:58
  meningitis um from them using dirty equipment on her. And this young lady passed
• 1:03:05
  away. And if I'm not mistaken, I believe she's spent ten thousand dollars.
• 1:03:12
  I could be wrong, but I'll go back and I'll find the story
• 1:03:15
  and I'll post it. But I really feel like social media is the cause
• 1:03:22
  for the increase in cosmetic procedures, because again, you're looking at a facade.
• 1:03:25
  You're looking at these women who are selling you a product that they never
• 1:03:31
  even use. I see the flat tummy tease, I see the the not
• 1:03:42
  I can't even think I know it's the like all these detox teas, Oh
• 1:03:47
  you drink this twice a week, all you do this, you'll lose this
• 1:03:53
  when really an actuality. These women have actually had cosmetic procedures none, But
• 1:04:00
  they're selling you the young and impressionable and they're taking your money and they're lying
• 1:04:06
  to you saying, oh, we use this, We've done that. But
• 1:04:11
  you'll also left out the part that you want to had a cosmetic procedure done.
• 1:04:15
  You left out the fact that you had lifel but the until you do
• 1:04:20
  have women that are actually out here putting in the work. There's a lady
• 1:04:26
  that I follow on Instagram. Her name is Rocky, and she's a little
• 1:04:32
  buff for my liking, but she actually exercises like she works out. She's
• 1:04:38
  not trying to push a brand down your throat, but she actually she's got
• 1:04:43
  a very nice body. But I think again she's a little to buff for
• 1:04:46
  me. She's almost like she's almost built like a bodybuilder. But she has
• 1:04:53
  workout takes where she videos where she shows you she does her workout, what
• 1:04:58
  she eats, what she drinks, And I don't see her out here promoting
• 1:05:01
  this flat tummy tea or these detox teas or or if you take this,
• 1:05:06
  this is gonna work for you. But I think the biggest issue is that
• 1:05:14
  women are looking for an overnight result when really an ash well, you gotta
• 1:05:19
  put in the work, like you actually have to get up, you have
• 1:05:24
  to exercise, you have to eat right. I'm not saying you still can't
• 1:05:30
  have your ice cream or cookies, but only in moderations. You have to.
• 1:05:35
  You know, you gotta put in the work because no flat tummy tea
• 1:05:41
  or no body slimming tea or whatever the other teas are. These pills or
• 1:05:45
  these detoxes are not gonna give you the bodies. You won't if you don't
• 1:05:47
  put in the work. So, in other words, you gotta get up,
• 1:05:53
  you gotta exercise, you gotta be mindful of the things that you eat.
• 1:05:56
  I'm learning that the hard way. Another issue is the Ozimpic and the
• 1:06:01
  Manjarro. Those medications are for people that are typed to diabetics. I think
• 1:06:13
  it's sad that y'all are taking medication away from the women. Let me not
• 1:06:23
  just say the women, for the people that really truly need these medications.
• 1:06:28
  Now I'm on Manjaro. They actually just switched me from Rybelsis to Manjaro,
• 1:06:39
  and I'm a type to diabetic. But it's getting real difficult to get the
• 1:06:45
  medication that I need because some of you people are out here buying this medication
• 1:06:50
  to lose weight when there are people out here that real that have real life
• 1:06:56
  health issues that can't get access to it because y'all are buying it up from
• 1:07:01
  us. I actually need that to keep my diabetes in check. I actually
• 1:07:08
  need that to keep my A one C level down. If I lose weight,
• 1:07:14
  I lose weight. If I gain weight, I gain weight. But
• 1:07:16
  you're taking it away for the people that medically that it is medically necessary for.
• 1:07:24
  I may not even have said that correctly, but that's what y'all are
• 1:07:27
  doing, and that's not fair to us. That's not fair to me and
• 1:07:30
  the countless other women or men that are suffering from type two diabetes, all
• 1:07:35
  because y'all are out here looking for a quick fix to lose weight instead of
• 1:07:41
  just getting up cut back on portion control, instead of having portion control and
• 1:07:48
  getting up and exercising, y'all are putting us at risks for your gain.
• 1:07:57
  So absolutely, I do believe social media is the cause for the increase in
• 1:08:00
  cosmetic surgery procedures. Again, men do play a part in it, because
• 1:08:05
  men, y'all do tell women, old baby, you need to lose a
• 1:08:09
  little weight, or you'd be cute if you did this, or you'd be
• 1:08:12
  cute iful you look like that. Why can't she just be cute? Because
• 1:08:17
  I hear that when they talk about big beautiful women, Oh you're cute for
• 1:08:24
  a big girl, why can't she just be cute? Or I hear them
• 1:08:31
  say, oh, you're cute for a dark skinned girl. Why can't she
• 1:08:34
  just be cute? But do I believe social media is look, I absolutely
• 1:08:42
  wholeheartedly do. Again, I'm not saying men don't contribute to that, but
• 1:08:45
  I think social media plays a real, real, big, big part in
• 1:08:50
  that as well. I really honestly do so. Again, ladies, I
• 1:08:59
  really want you all to start learning to love yourselves. Your body's not gonna
• 1:09:03
  it's not gonna look like her body. It's just not gonna happen. So
• 1:09:10
  I want to roll into the risks of cosmetic procedures. We've seen a few,
• 1:09:19
  We've seen what happened to women that get caught these cosmetic procedures. Now,
• 1:09:27
  I'm not saying it happens to all women. But let's look at Kanye
• 1:09:30
  West smother. She had heart issues and two doctor I believe it was two
• 1:09:36
  doctors denied her to do her cosmetic surgery procedures until she found that one doctor
• 1:09:43
  who did, and she ended up passing away. Again, it is imperative
• 1:09:54
  that you do your research, research, research, research. First off,
• 1:10:00
  you need to make sure you're dealing with a board certified plastic surgeon, get
• 1:10:06
  their credentials. Do if y'all let me tell y'all something. If you can
• 1:10:11
  find out that that man is cheating on you, then you need to take
• 1:10:14
  the time out to dig up on your doctor that you want to do your
• 1:10:16
  plastic surgeon. I'm talking about even down to what their damn blood type is.
• 1:10:25
  But the risk of these cosmetic procedures is infections, blood clots, the
• 1:10:34
  fact that you could be running into a doctor that does your procedure and butchers
• 1:10:41
  up your body. We saw that with the young lady in the very first
• 1:10:44
  video. We heard what the doctor said, he's against medical tourism. Again,
• 1:10:54
  for those that don't know, the medical tourism is you're going to these
• 1:10:57
  other countries for these medically done you gotta do your research. So I'm gonna
• 1:11:06
  play this last video as we round up and bring this conversation to a close,
• 1:11:12
  because I want to jump into my last thoughts about this and again,
• 1:11:15
  I don't want this episode to run long like it did last night. But
• 1:11:19
  last night was amazing, Like we had, we had a beautiful conversation.
• 1:11:26
  But here it is where a woman shares her story on the shocking effects a
• 1:11:36
  black market cosmetic procedures. My name is April and I'm forty seven years old.
• 1:11:45
  I was teased about having a flat butt and kind of started my mental
• 1:11:49
  quest or larger butts. At thirty eight, a woman who wasn't a doctor
• 1:11:54
  said that she did but injections. A week later, I found myself land
• 1:11:59
  on her daughter this bed, having the silicone injected into my body. I
• 1:12:03
  didn't do any research on the silicone that was injected in my body, nor
• 1:12:10
  did I do any research on this woman. A year later, after the
• 1:12:15
  injections, my butt started to get hard, started me and discolored, and
• 1:12:20
  then it started itching and then extremely painful. The second year, I went
• 1:12:28
  to numerous doctors to have the silicone removed, but they would have had to
• 1:12:32
  move my butt cheeks, and nobody wanted to do that. By the fourth
• 1:12:38
  year, I was in excruciating pain. I went to the hospital. One
• 1:12:43
  of the nurses put some cream on my butt cheeks. Ended up eating a
• 1:12:47
  hole through my right butt cheeks, and two months later I ended up contracting
• 1:12:53
  a staff infection. I was rushed to the hospital. It gave me twenty
• 1:12:56
  four hours to live, put me in an induced colma, and they put
• 1:13:00
  me on a medication that that would help to increase my blood pressure. That
• 1:13:05
  medication caused gain green to my extremities. Once I came out of the homa,
• 1:13:11
  I could see that my hands and my feet were necrotic. I knew
• 1:13:15
  that I was going to have to lose my hands and my feet, and
• 1:13:21
  I was just devastating my hands and my feet. They would never come back.
• 1:13:30
  That's over for me. But at least I can use this to help
• 1:13:36
  share with someone else so that they would never have to experience anything like this,
• 1:13:43
  especially in the name of a butt. We're joined by April, who
• 1:13:49
  is so resilient and board certified plastic surgeon and but implant specialist, doctor Mendietta.
• 1:13:56
  In April, you wanted a bigger but I had already had this issue
• 1:14:00
  about the butt since I was like seven years old. I had already you
• 1:14:03
  know, my sister had a larger bud and the boys kind of liked it
• 1:14:08
  her because she got a larger bud. So I kind of bowed in my
• 1:14:11
  mind that when I get older, I'm gonna get me some butt. Sure,
• 1:14:14
  even though I didn't know if it was possible to do that, but
• 1:14:15
  I thought that. A young lady came into my salon and said she did
• 1:14:18
  butt injections, and she had this woman with her who had I mean,
• 1:14:23
  her butt was done well. Sure, And I was like, oh my
• 1:14:25
  God, thank you Jesus. I wanted that God sent you to me.
• 1:14:29
  It was like that. It wasn't even like, oh I shouldn't do this.
• 1:14:31
  I felt like it was a blessing. Honestly, I really did.
• 1:14:35
  So you believed the hype, so to speak. I do want to clarify
• 1:14:39
  for everyone how one thing led to another. You had these injections performed,
• 1:14:43
  later developed a severe infection in that area, got into your blood stream.
• 1:14:46
  With the severe blood stream infection led decepsis, and that's where you have no
• 1:14:51
  blood pressure, your limbs get no blood supply. That's why you've lost your
• 1:14:56
  arms and your legs and my butt cheeks and your butch want they leave that
• 1:15:00
  out. So there's a right way to do this in a wrong way.
• 1:15:02
  To night, gentlemen. You know what, the biggest issue that we have
• 1:15:05
  is that there's no control of what's being injected. You're being told one thing
• 1:15:09
  and something completely different is happening. And not only that, but let's say
• 1:15:12
  that they are using a silicone There is no medical grade silicone, first of
• 1:15:15
  all, but there are degrees of silicone impurity. So people will buy this
• 1:15:17
  at home depot, they can buy it at any hardware store. You can
• 1:15:20
  go online and purchase these things, will send you the syringes non sterile to
• 1:15:26
  inject. And the problem that's happening is we don't know the purity of it.
• 1:15:29
  There is no governing body that's going to tell you these are the standards
• 1:15:31
  for what you need to inject. So hopefully no one here watching we'll ever
• 1:15:35
  get this done. But for those of you out there who maybe have show
• 1:15:39
  us you know what you might find, what you can do. Let's see,
• 1:15:43
  first of all, when you open this up, you never know what
• 1:15:45
  you're going to find, so it's you could find something that's as hard as
• 1:15:47
  concrete. I don't know if you can take a look at this. I
• 1:15:50
  can't even bring it out, but it starts to look like calking material,
• 1:15:56
  almost like cement. Many times when I take this out, I could throw
• 1:15:59
  it on the ground and it'll break the tile. Other times it can look
• 1:16:03
  like this. It's a little bit of a softer substance. It's a lot
• 1:16:05
  more gooey. And this is what you call the silicon, But the silicon
• 1:16:10
  comes in different grades. Look at that. I mean it's almost like popping
• 1:16:13
  a pimple. But this you could never get it all out. Ever,
• 1:16:15
  it's distributed everywhere in the buttock. It's not one location. So if you,
• 1:16:19
  let's say you had a gluteal implant, and that's why that's the other
• 1:16:21
  way of doing this. I can go in there and remove the implant if
• 1:16:25
  there's any problems and problem solved here, you can because you have it all
• 1:16:29
  over the body and it migrates. Yes, when I tell you, ladies,
• 1:16:40
  this is what I mean when I see that's the risk. You see
• 1:16:50
  this woman here and she says since she was seven years old, she wanted
• 1:16:55
  a big button. At seven. This is what I mean when I say
• 1:17:00
  this body dysmorphia, we're so fixiated on fixing a certain part or certain parts
• 1:17:09
  of your body that you'll settle for going to anybody to do it, just
• 1:17:15
  because that's what you want fixed. Again, even going to Mexico, Dominican
• 1:17:21
  Republic, Asia, China, wherever it is that you're going, you're running
• 1:17:28
  the risk of these infections. Again, you don't know who's doing the actual
• 1:17:35
  procedure on you. You don't know the doctor. Again, we're talking about
• 1:17:42
  the risks of cosmetic procedures. Now, this woman was getting silicone injections in
• 1:17:50
  her but she don't even know what the hell was being put in her body.
• 1:17:55
  She developed a staff infection, then she developed set this and this woman
• 1:18:01
  ended up having her limbs amputit and lost her butt cheeks. But this is
• 1:18:11
  what we do. This is this is this is what we do. I
• 1:18:17
  just for the life of me, I just don't understand. Why can't we
• 1:18:24
  just love who God created us to be? Like the last video, we
• 1:18:31
  always want to jump on a trend. Big Buddhists are not even in normal.
• 1:18:36
  These men ain't even looking at women with big butts normal Because half of
• 1:18:43
  y'all are built like ants anyway, y'all are built like your grabs. You
• 1:18:48
  get these big butts and your legs are this big. But then let's look
• 1:18:54
  at the women that have these cosmetic procedures done, who are now undoing the
• 1:19:00
  work that's been done. Hardy beat got herb blood hubbut injections or implants from
• 1:19:09
  injections removed. K Michelle almost died for the very same thing that this woman
• 1:19:16
  was doing, these black market injections. I've seen people that have these bulltox
• 1:19:27
  parties. You don't know what these people have in these syringes, and you
• 1:19:32
  just die aline a lot of it, and then one day you wake up
• 1:19:35
  and your face looks like this. You can't even move because they've injected your
• 1:19:42
  face with fix the Flag. They've injected your butt with fixed a flat.
• 1:19:50
  Ladies, black women, these are the risks you see that the risk of
• 1:19:58
  cosmetic procedures. Your sawt a young lady that went to the Dominican Republic to
• 1:20:02
  get her breast done and came back looking like sliced down. I just told
• 1:20:10
  you the story of the young lady who went and got I think she went
• 1:20:15
  I want to say she got like a BBL at a life and BBL.
• 1:20:20
  She ended up developing I can't remember the type of meningitis, but then she
• 1:20:26
  was a mother and died I want to say a month after having this done
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  and died. I've seen women that have gone to Mexico to get weight loss
• 1:20:41
  surgery and have died on the table or have died coming back. I was
• 1:20:47
  watching another video where this lady and two of her friends I believe they went
• 1:20:51
  to Mexico because she was from California, went and got bbls, and this
• 1:20:59
  woman died when she got back. They're they're doing these procedures in these unclean,
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  unsterilized facilities. But because they tell you or we'll do it over here
• 1:21:13
  for twenty five hundred, you're running your ass over there, across the border,
• 1:21:17
  and you're not even making it back, or if you're making it back,
• 1:21:21
  it's it's by a thread. These are the risks that we take when
• 1:21:32
  you don't research, when you don't find out the information about these doctors.
• 1:21:39
  All you ladies are focused on is the price. Oh my god, I
• 1:21:44
  could get lightful for four thousand dollars. What I could get a BBL for
• 1:21:51
  three thousand dollars? What? Oh? I could get a Mommy makeover for
• 1:21:58
  seventy five hundred dollars. What at half of these doctors that y'all are going
• 1:22:05
  to are not even telling you you need to go see your primary care physician.
• 1:22:14
  This is what you need to do prior to these procedures. We need
• 1:22:17
  a CBC panel, we need an echo test, we need a stress test,
• 1:22:26
  and we need in thirty days, we need to make sure that you
• 1:22:29
  have no cigarettes. No, I'm sorry, no nicotine, no alcohol,
• 1:22:34
  no drugs in your system thirty days prior to this procedure. Oh no,
• 1:22:43
  your B and I could be no. If you do your research by any
• 1:22:49
  boards, any board certified specialist plastic surgeon will tell you your B and my
• 1:22:56
  and y'all correct me if I'm wrong, But I believe you're being and mine
• 1:23:00
  has to be under thirty two or thirty four. I'm gonna check with y'all
• 1:23:05
  on that. T Sha, my sister says, laughing at you, Julee
• 1:23:13
  says, he sis say. She says, you have to learn what God
• 1:23:15
  gave you, love the skin you're in. Absolutely, Jules says, exactly.
• 1:23:20
  And it's insane because since I showed a video. Okay, Koco says
• 1:23:30
  it's a thirty four. But you have these doctors that are saying, oh,
• 1:23:34
  your B and MI could be anything. We'll do a B and mile
• 1:23:38
  up to forty. What are y'all not paying attention to the risks of these
• 1:23:46
  cosmetic procedures. I just showed you the video of the young lady who was
• 1:23:50
  so desperate to get a booty she lost her arms and her legs and her
• 1:23:57
  butt. Did you not see the video at the very beginning that I played
• 1:24:03
  the woman went to the Dominican Republic to get a breast done, and guess
• 1:24:08
  what, they chopped it up. So now she's got to go to a
• 1:24:14
  whole nother doctor to fix what a doctor messed up. But that's the risk
• 1:24:21
  of these cosmetic procedures. You could and let me let me say this,
• 1:24:27
  it don't even have to be a cosmetic procedure for something to happen to you.
• 1:24:30
  When I went to have my his director, I could have died on
• 1:24:33
  the table. When I had my C section with my children, I could
• 1:24:39
  have died on the table because that's a real, live, actual surgery.
• 1:24:45
  But you ladies are not focused on your health. You're focused on I need
• 1:24:49
  my body to look like this. I need to have a big button,
• 1:24:54
  I need to have big breast, I need to have a flat stomach.
• 1:24:58
  So you mean to tell me you're willing to risk having your belly button up
• 1:25:01
  under your damn chin, because that's what a tummy tuck is. What they're
• 1:25:06
  doing is they're cutting slabs. It's all. It looks like a slab of
• 1:25:12
  ribs. They're cutting off your stomach. They're repositioning your belly, but like
• 1:25:17
  they're redoing your whole stomach. Your whole body is being redone. But y'all
• 1:25:24
  are running the risk for that. You could go in for a regular surgery
• 1:25:30
  and something happened to you. Look at Kanye West, smother She went to
• 1:25:38
  two or three doctors until she found one that was willing to do her plastic
• 1:25:42
  surgery, despite doctors saying we are not medically clearing you for these types of
• 1:25:47
  procedures. My last question, as I bring this conversation to a close,
• 1:25:59
  why are black women so obsessed with these cosmetic procedures. I get it,
• 1:26:06
  ladies, I get it. You had babies and your body didn't go back
• 1:26:15
  to the way it was prior to you having I get it, But y'all
• 1:26:20
  are going to the extreme. Now, y'all are trying to get all these
• 1:26:27
  procedures done at one time, and your body's not even ready. You're not
• 1:26:33
  even there healthy to withstand this. And Jules says, and some doctors don't
• 1:26:43
  like going behind doctors that has fucked up these procedures exactly. So now you
• 1:26:48
  didn't spend three thousand dollars to come back looking like a honey baked tam.
• 1:26:57
  You didn't spent forty five hundred dollars. And now you're over here fighting for
• 1:27:00
  your life because you wanted to go to cheap route because this doctor over here
• 1:27:06
  told you your tummy tuck is twelve thousand dollars. But you wanted to go
• 1:27:14
  over here to doctor X, who told you, oh, we could do
• 1:27:16
  your tummy tub for thirty five hundred dollars. Oh and if you and if
• 1:27:23
  you book your surgery before in between these dates, we'll give you an extra
• 1:27:27
  five hundred dollars off. So you're paying two thousand dollars to come back and
• 1:27:30
  look like a honeybait slice em again. This is no shade to anybody that
• 1:27:40
  has had any cosmetic procedures done. This is no shade to anybody that's thinking
• 1:27:45
  about having cosmetic procedures done. But I really need you ladies to do your
• 1:27:48
  research. I really need you ladies to really, really really sit down and,
• 1:27:56
  like I say, if you can investigate and find out your baby,
• 1:27:59
  daddy or your husband is cheating on you, you need to do the same
• 1:28:02
  with these doctors before you go stretch yourself out on these stage. And I'm
• 1:28:08
  not saying that to be funny. I'm really saying that in a serious manner.
• 1:28:15
  But the question is, I just want to know why are Black women
• 1:28:18
  so obsessed with these cosmetic procedures. I'm seeing black women. They're getting fillers
• 1:28:25
  put in their lips. I'm seeing black women getting their noses done. I'm
• 1:28:29
  seeing women get Black women getting their ears done. I'm seeing women even going
• 1:28:33
  as far as getting their vagina's redone. You got that minute miles on your
• 1:28:43
  vagina that you got to go get it redone and again, y'all. I'm
• 1:28:47
  not saying this to crack jolts. I'm being so honest with y'all because the
• 1:28:56
  time and effort you put in to figure out if your man is cheating on
• 1:29:00
  you, that's the same energy you need to put into these doctors that you
• 1:29:04
  want to do these procedures. Sometimes you're gonna have to spend a little extra
• 1:29:13
  money to get the results that you want. But you also have to understand
• 1:29:18
  you have to exercise, you have to eat right to maintain this. Stop
• 1:29:27
  letting these social media influences dictate and tell you, Oh, no, I've
• 1:29:32
  never had any work done, or I've been drinking these flat tummy tease.
• 1:29:36
  No, you haven't. Your ass was up there at doctor I'm sorry your
• 1:29:41
  behind was up there at doctor Miami. We know we saw you. You
• 1:29:46
  don't remember when you went live from the doctor's office. But I really believe
• 1:29:55
  that black women, and this again is just my opinion. I think the
• 1:30:00
  reason black women are so obsessed with cosmetic procedures is because we've been told we're
• 1:30:06
  ugly, that we're not beautiful. That's just my opinion, and I could
• 1:30:13
  be wrong, but I feel in my whole heart because we've been told that,
• 1:30:18
  especially if you're a darker skinned woman, Oh you're ugly. Oh nobody's
• 1:30:26
  gonna want you. We want someone light skinned. Well, let me say
• 1:30:29
  this, light skin don't always mean pretty, and dark skinned don't always mean
• 1:30:32
  ugly. Okay, remember that but I think that's why, you know,
• 1:30:41
  And then the way these black men obsessed over these build the bear built females.
• 1:30:47
  We see the way these men go and they get these women that have
• 1:30:53
  had thousands of dollars of work done to the point they look like a muppet
• 1:30:59
  baby. You don't even look real anymore. You look fake. And they
• 1:31:04
  must all be going to the same placid surgeon because they all look alike.
• 1:31:12
  I think that's the obsession. That's just me. Social media is the devil's
• 1:31:19
  playground. Do you hit me? That's the devil's playground. Jules say,
• 1:31:26
  what the fuck? Yes, Sis, these women are going and getting vaginal
• 1:31:30
  rejuvenation. These women are getting their bat vagina's reconstructive. I've seen women that
• 1:31:41
  black women getting skin done. They're bleaching their skin. I've seen it,
• 1:31:50
  Jules face it says sad. Jules say, running around here looking like a
• 1:31:56
  wisdom too. They're running around here looking like ants. They running around here
• 1:32:00
  looking like giraffes. They running around here looking like hippopotamuses. You got this
• 1:32:06
  big old butt and these little bit of tinily you you're not even evenly proportioned.
• 1:32:14
  You're walking around here. Your butt looks like you got on a saggy,
• 1:32:17
  pissy diaper and y'all think that this is sexy. But again, what
• 1:32:25
  are you gonna do when that stuff starts to say and you don't have the
• 1:32:30
  money to go get it fixed, or you can't find a doctor that will
• 1:32:34
  correct what's been messed up? What do you do? I really want us
• 1:32:45
  as Black women, and I'm gonna say this again, I really want us
• 1:32:50
  to start loving us and embracing who we are because you black women. I
• 1:32:58
  guess this is my final thought. I guess I'm ruling running into my final
• 1:33:01
  thoughts because I just I feel like this we're the blue print black women.
• 1:33:15
  Do you realize how many people are spending money to look like us and how
• 1:33:24
  and and we're spending money to look like them? Black women? You are
• 1:33:30
  beautiful, Black women. We rock? Do you hit me? Black women?
• 1:33:38
  We are so damn amazing. I don't understand why y'all don't see that.
• 1:33:47
  Again. I'm not against anybody again this is I'm not against anybody who's
• 1:33:53
  who has had cosmetic work done or who is thinking about getting God's cosmetic procedure.
• 1:33:59
  I'm not against that. But like they said in the video, please
• 1:34:04
  make sure you're doing this for you and not to appease somebody else. Because
• 1:34:11
  let's say you go get this work done and that man still leaves you.
• 1:34:18
  Then what So you went and spent this money to get your body made over,
• 1:34:26
  and now you by yourself. You in that big old ass. You
• 1:34:28
  didn't bolt you in that big droopid ass. Now you're sitting up here saying
• 1:34:35
  sliding down the wall in the shower, crying like in an R and B
• 1:34:39
  night, like in the nineties R and B video. You ladies have to
• 1:34:45
  learn to love who you are, not what society feels you should look like.
• 1:34:53
  I'm gonna say this again. God created us all imperfectly perfect. Do
• 1:34:58
  you understand? Do I wish I at a flash stomach? Absolutely, but
• 1:35:01
  guess what my man like it? Do? I wish I had bigger boots,
• 1:35:08
  absolutely, but you know what my man like it? Do. I
• 1:35:14
  wish I was a little taller, absolutely, but guess what, my man
• 1:35:17
  loves it. Even when I say I don't think it's beautiful, my man
• 1:35:25
  tells me that I am. My children have told me that I'm beautiful.
• 1:35:31
  The people in my circle have told me that I'm beautiful. So guess what
• 1:35:35
  if I got all these people telling me that I'm beautiful, then hell,
• 1:35:40
  I must really goddamn be beautiful. But I need you to start telling that
• 1:35:44
  to yourselves. Ladies. I need you to go and stand in that mirror
• 1:35:47
  and embrace every flaw that you have because that's how God made you. Yes,
• 1:35:54
  I'm going into I'm going into my servant. I am because body dysmorphia
• 1:36:01
  is real. Low self esteem and body image is real, and it's starting
• 1:36:08
  at seven years old. You saw the lady in the video and she said
• 1:36:11
  she was seven years old she was obsessed with having a butt because her sister
• 1:36:15
  had a butt. This is where it's starting because this is what social media
• 1:36:20
  is putting out here for our children, so our children are believing this.
• 1:36:26
  I look at my daughter, y'all. My daughter is thirteen years old.
• 1:36:30
  Okay, let me go ahead and let me share my story with y'all.
• 1:36:33
  My daughter is thirteen years old. Okay, My daughter is very well developed.
• 1:36:39
  My daughter hates her body. You want to know when my daughter told
• 1:36:43
  me. My daughter told me, mommy, why can't I look like a
• 1:36:45
  regular twelve or thirteen year old child. That's what my daughter told me.
• 1:36:56
  And my baby's only thirteen years old. Do you realize how much that hurt
• 1:37:01
  me? For my daughter, My thirteen year old child who shouldn't even be
• 1:37:05
  worried about her body, told me she wishes she looked like a normal twelve
• 1:37:15
  or thirteen year old child. Me and my daughter were the same size and
• 1:37:19
  clothes, so go figure. And she's thirteen and this is the way she
• 1:37:27
  feels about her body. So it's the stuff they put out in the media.
• 1:37:35
  It's the stuff they put out in the public. It's it's the narrative
• 1:37:39
  that they've created for us black women to say old black women are We're supposed
• 1:37:45
  to all be shaped like this. Oh well, this black woman, she's
• 1:37:47
  got a big button, big voluptuous breast. That's how they feel we should
• 1:37:51
  all be built. No, that's not the truth. You're built the way
• 1:37:57
  God made you. God created you to be built that where if God wanted
• 1:38:00
  you to have a big but God would have gave you a big button if
• 1:38:02
  God if you want if God wanted you to have big breast, God would
• 1:38:06
  have given your big breast. If he wanted you to be tall, he
• 1:38:09
  would have made your tall. If he wants your light skin, if he
• 1:38:12
  wants your dark skin. If he wants your caramel, God would have made
• 1:38:15
  you that way. I need you, ladies, to start loving who you
• 1:38:17
  are. I need you to start embracing that beautiful black skin that you have.
• 1:38:24
  I need you to embrace that little booty you got, because, damn
• 1:38:27
  it, let me tell you this little boot is madam. I need you
• 1:38:31
  to start embracing that little eight cup or that little bee cup breast you have.
• 1:38:38
  Them get sucked on too. I need you to embrace that stomach.
• 1:38:43
  God, damn it, let me tell you some men like meat, not
• 1:38:45
  bones. I don't care if you built like a dunkin Hin's cake or if
• 1:38:51
  you built like a little Debby snack cake. Them get eight two. And
• 1:38:58
  I'm not saying that to Craig, So I'm saying that with my whole chest.
• 1:39:00
  I'm saying that because I love you, ladies. I really want you,
• 1:39:04
  ladies, to adjust your crown and I need you to embrace who you
• 1:39:08
  are. You are beautiful, hunt. It don't matter the size, shape,
• 1:39:12
  height, I don't care. You're beautiful. And y'all need to see
• 1:39:16
  this. Stop letting what the media says. Stop letting that dictate who you
• 1:39:24
  are as a person. Because I've seen some skinny, ugly women. I've
• 1:39:32
  seen big beautiful women. I've seen big women with ugly attitudes. I've seen
• 1:39:39
  little women with great attitudes. Stop feeling because you're a big beautiful woman.
• 1:39:46
  Because I'm not calling you fat. I'm calling you a big beautiful woman.
• 1:39:51
  A BBW, that's what I'm calling That's what I'm saying to you. You're
• 1:39:56
  a big beautiful woman. Men want men like this else. I'm like Monique,
• 1:40:03
  say you skinny women are evil, but but really though on a cool
• 1:40:09
  like, I really need you ladies to start loving who you are. I
• 1:40:15
  need you, ladies to start embracing your bodies. Gonna stand in your neck
• 1:40:21
  itself in that mirror and baby fly because hell, I do it. I
• 1:40:29
  do it all the time. Jule says all facts. She clapping, Hi,
• 1:40:36
  bab I love you. I just finished talking about you. Anyway,
• 1:40:40
  stop distructing me. Every time you come on here, you be distracting me.
• 1:40:44
  So fine stuff. I love you. I hope you're having a good
• 1:40:48
  night at work. But anyway, but I do it all the time.
• 1:40:55
  My kiance, it looks at me and he's like, baby, you are
• 1:40:57
  just so beautiful. He's like I love looking at your body. Should I
• 1:41:00
  do too? Now? Hell, I like looking at at it now,
• 1:41:03
  But I do tell him, I say sometimes I tell him I don't like
• 1:41:05
  my stomach. He'd be like, but I like it. And either way
• 1:41:12
  it's gonna let me not say that because I don't know who's I don't know
• 1:41:15
  who watching my babies might be watch it. But anyway, y'all. But
• 1:41:18
  back to what I was saying. But really though, my daughter told me
• 1:41:20
  that at thirteen years old, my daughter told me she didn't like a body.
• 1:41:29
  She says, she doesn't like having, you know, being top heavy
• 1:41:33
  and having a big butt. My daughter told me, And she's only thirteen,
• 1:41:42
  so like, hold up, y'all, I don't want fist up,
• 1:41:47
  cut off on y'all, old on y'all. Wait wait wait, wait wait
• 1:41:51
  I thought I had it in. Okay, there we'll go, all right,
• 1:41:59
  But there he gonne girl she's talking about. Tell my bro sayd hey,
• 1:42:05
  he say, hey, sis, there ain't gon girl. But that
• 1:42:10
  hurt me and I just had to I had to embrace my daughter. I
• 1:42:15
  had to pull her close to him, and I had to tell her that
• 1:42:17
  she's still beautiful. And I understand because at twelve, thirteen years old.
• 1:42:25
  We weren't built like that. Some of us weren't, but I get it.
• 1:42:31
  My daughter was thrown into being a young woman at ten years old.
• 1:42:36
  My middle daughter was thrown into being a woman at nine years old. But
• 1:42:45
  now my daughter is twenty and she loves her body. She she just loves
• 1:42:47
  it. She thinks she's just as fine as she want to be. I'd
• 1:42:50
  be like, girl, you are, though, you fine girl that got
• 1:42:56
  beautiful daughter's son and stopped playing with me, But really don't want to Cool
• 1:43:00
  ladies like I love you, and I think you're beautiful no matter what I
• 1:43:06
  think, regardless of your size, your height, you're all beautiful. Stop
• 1:43:13
  allowing social media and TV and people tell you who they feel you're supposed to
• 1:43:18
  look like. Any changes you makee ladies, do it for you. Don't
• 1:43:26
  do it for no man, don't do it because that's what the world says.
• 1:43:30
  You're supposed to do it for you. If you're uncomfortable, you fix
• 1:43:33
  that for you. Don't worry about nobody else to help with what somebody else
• 1:43:43
  has to say about you. And you tell them I said that. You
• 1:43:47
  tell them I said that, But I tell y'all when it comes to like
• 1:43:54
  I say, when it comes to cosmetic surgery, y'all, like I said,
• 1:43:57
  I want a little lightful. I want them to suck a little bit
• 1:43:59
  out of hill. Just get me a little joum started. I'll keep it
• 1:44:02
  up. God I pray, but no. But but tonight's conversation, y'all.
• 1:44:08
  Like I said, when it comes to cosmetic procedures, y'all, do
• 1:44:13
  your research, take your time. I get it. Yeah, you can
• 1:44:17
  run over that to Mexico, Dominican Republic, Columbia. Get all that done,
• 1:44:24
  but know your risks. Look at Usher's ex wife who went to I
• 1:44:30
  believe that was Columbia and was trying to have a tummy tuck and she almost
• 1:44:34
  passed away. She almost died. I believe she wanted to cardiac arrest over
• 1:44:39
  there. So medical tourism is real, y'all. Be careful when it comes
• 1:44:45
  to that. You know, go ahead and pay that little extra money.
• 1:44:50
  It's okay, but again, make sure you're making any changes for you or
• 1:44:55
  not saying anybody else, because I think we're all beautiful, and don't forget
• 1:45:00
  y'all, we are the blueprint. Because you gotta think all them people that's
• 1:45:04
  paying thousands and thousands of dollars to look like us, and y'all are trying
• 1:45:10
  to fix what theyre trying what they have, y'all tripping, But hey,
• 1:45:18
  the just own, I don't judge. But anyway, but I want to
• 1:45:26
  talk about the upcoming episodes for a Black Girl interrupt that podcast. So next
• 1:45:30
  Tuesday and Thursday, I'm gonna be addressing health black women and black men again.
• 1:45:39
  I'm gonna be talking about health. Why don't we go to the doctor.
• 1:45:42
  Why are we not doing things to keep our health in check? But
• 1:45:46
  I'm gonna talk to the women Tuesday and then I'm gonna talk to you black
• 1:45:50
  men on Thursday because y'all Black men, y'all not doing what y'all supposed to
• 1:45:56
  do. Y'all not going to the doctor, y'all not getting these check ups,
• 1:46:00
  y'all not going to the dentist. Y'all, y'all, y'all not doing.
• 1:46:05
  Some of you women too, y'all aren't going to get these pap smears.
• 1:46:09
  You're not getting your mammograms, You're not getting your early cancer screening detecting.
• 1:46:14
  I'm sorry, you're not going to get your early cancer detection screenings.
• 1:46:18
  Some of you women aren't going to the dentist. Y'all aren't going to the
• 1:46:21
  dermatologists. Y'all are not going to y'all just not doing. But I also
• 1:46:28
  understand why, and I want to address that next Tuesday and Thursday. So
• 1:46:33
  again that'll be two parts. Tuesday night, I will talk to the women.
• 1:46:38
  Thursday night, I'm gonna talk to the men. So you black women
• 1:46:41
  and you black men. I need y'all to pull up on your girl next
• 1:46:44
  Tuesday, next Thursday, because I need to know why y'all not going to
• 1:46:46
  the doctor. You better, asked my soon to be husband. I get
• 1:46:50
  on his ass all the time. Win it up. Have you made your
• 1:46:53
  doctor's appointment for your physical? Why you ain't made your appointment for the dentist?
• 1:46:58
  I get told him about that because he's a diabetic, just like me.
• 1:47:01
  He has he's been overweight, he's lost a lot of weight. But
• 1:47:04
  I need to make sure you healthy, baby, because I'm trying to grow
• 1:47:08
  old with you, Okay, trying to grow old with you, honey.
• 1:47:11
  I love you, but I want us. I want us to be able
• 1:47:14
  to live have a nice longevity because we're not seeing that. We're not seeing
• 1:47:21
  that, we're seeing these these men and these women at young ages having heart
• 1:47:26
  attacks, they're having strokes. So we need to talk about that. We
• 1:47:31
  need to address that. I need to know what can we do to help
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  get you to the doctors? There any resources? Do you do you need
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  help trying to sign up for Medicaid? What? I mean? What?
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  What? What do we need to do? Because I really need us black
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  women and black men really start taking care of ourselves because we're doing a very
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  pissed poor job of that. And again we're dropping like flies and we're getting
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  younger and younger as the goals by. So next Tuesday and next Thursday were
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  gonna be talking about health black help in the COMMU huh, y'all know what
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  I'm trying to see health in the black community. Tuesday night, I'm addressing
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  women. Thursday night, I'm talking to you men. Also, I want
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  to say last night was a great show. I love how y'all show up
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  for me. I do. Let me just say this real quick, because
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  I bring this through a close. I really love how y'all show up for
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  me. I'm definitely giving y'all a round of applause for pulling up on your
• 1:48:29
  girls, showing me love the way y'all support me, the way y'all clap
• 1:48:33
  for me, the way y'all just encourage me. I just I just can't
• 1:48:38
  even say it enough. But I love y'all, I really do. And
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  I say that from from the whole, my whole heart. I say that
• 1:48:44
  with my whole chest out. But I love y'all. I love the way
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  y'all love me. I love the way y'all pour into me. I love,
• 1:48:50
  like I said, I love the way y'all pull up on your girl
• 1:48:53
  and show me some love. I love that and it's appreciated. I promise
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  you. This means so much to me. But again, for anybody that
• 1:49:03
  wants to be a guest on Black Girl Interrupted, if there's a conversation that
• 1:49:09
  you want me to have, there's an email. Send your girla email black
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  Girl Interrupted one at gmail dot com. Let me offers a topic you want
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  me to bring to the table. Let me off it's a conversation that we
• 1:49:18
  need to have. Let me know if you even want to be a guest.
• 1:49:20
  If it's something you want to talk about, let me know. Shoot
• 1:49:24
  your girla email, let me know if we could, we could make it
• 1:49:26
  happen. Like I said, I'm trying to pull and bring more guests onto
• 1:49:30
  the show. Like I said, I'm really trying to step it up a
• 1:49:32
  notchual black girl interrupted podcast of trying to make some trying to make it happen.
• 1:49:36
  Baby, I'm trying to shake some tables. I'm trying to push the
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  envelopes. But again, next week I will be talking about health in the
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  black community and I will again be addressing black women on Tuesday and black men
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  on Thursday. So thank you our tagus for that topic. And I'm bringing
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  it to Fruition just for you, sir, So God issue on that and
• 1:50:00
  on that note again, I want to say I love you guys again.
• 1:50:05
  Happy Thursday. Oh. I hope you guys take care of yourself mentally,
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  physically, emotionally. I do um. If there's anything that I could do,
• 1:50:16
  If you need me to show up, pull up, you need me
• 1:50:19
  to pray with you, whatever it is, let me know I'm there.
• 1:50:23
  Like I said, I'm not doing this for anything in return. I'm doing
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  this because this is exactly what God has called me to do. This is
• 1:50:29
  my purpose. So on that note, I love you guys the night,
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  have a beautiful, beautiful weekend, and I will see y'all Tuesday night,
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  same time, eight thirty Central time, nine thirty Eastern Time, seven thirty,
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  six thirty Pacific time, seven thirty Arizona time. Y'all know, I
• 1:50:50
  said it right, and I said push Pacific time, not specific. You
• 1:50:57
  know, y'all, y'all be killing me with with this hill, but I
• 1:51:02
  love you more. Assists, don't forget to um. You can anyway,
• 1:51:05
  if anyone missed last night's episode, let me say this real quick, and
• 1:51:08
  then I'm gonna if anyone missed last night's episode, I think last night's episode
• 1:51:14
  was so freaking dope. Again, I'm gonna continue to do that once a
• 1:51:16
  month. Um. But you can always go on YouTube catch the replays.
• 1:51:20
  UM. If you're not a video type person, you can always catch the
• 1:51:24
  replays on all the streaming platforms. UM. Again, to let y'all know
• 1:51:29
  it is official. I am actually now stream black Girl Interrupted is now streaming
• 1:51:33
  in Africa, y'all. So I'm getting up there. I'm getting up there
• 1:51:39
  soon. I will be on your TV screens and then soon I'll be doing
• 1:51:42
  conferences. Baby. That's what it's. That's what black Girl into. That's
• 1:51:45
  the level I'm trying to achieve. That's that's that's all. That's the level
• 1:51:49
  I'm trying to achieve is I just want to be a household name. I
• 1:51:53
  want to build a brand. I want to leave a legacy for my children.
• 1:51:57
  Um again, y'all, stay tuned for my interview that will come out
• 1:52:01
  in August and No. July's issue of Women Who Podcasts. Once it's published,
• 1:52:12
  I will send y'all I will post a link for y'all to go read
• 1:52:14
  my interview that I did with Women Who Podcasts magazine. I also have another
• 1:52:18
  interview coming up for another podcast in August that will actually be a live interview.
• 1:52:25
  I will actually send y'all the link, so y'all can actually tune in.
• 1:52:30
  Show your girl some love, some support, Like man, I would
• 1:52:33
  really appreciate it. But Julie is laughing at me. She says, I'm
• 1:52:41
  about to watch now, sis. She says, yay, and there's my
• 1:52:44
  sister Coco. Y'all show my sister Coco some love. Me and her have
• 1:52:47
  some man. We have two beautiful shows that we are actually working on.
• 1:52:54
  She is actually end the process that working on a nonprofit organization and rememberance of
• 1:53:00
  her daughter CONTI shat so stay tuned for that. We are actually working on
• 1:53:03
  some beautiful things in the background. Thank you since and I love you,
• 1:53:08
  And there's Jewels she says, let's go, says congratulations, and Coco says,
• 1:53:13
  show out baby. Let me tell you something. If y'all didn't see
• 1:53:15
  the show last night, I'm gonna tell you exactly what I said. These
• 1:53:17
  last five and a half months or twenty twenty three belong to me. It's
• 1:53:20
  personal, this mine, and I'm not letting anybody take that from me because
• 1:53:28
  I've worked too hard. I've taken too many else Okay, and that was
• 1:53:32
  time for y'all to see my ws. I'm telling you, I'm telling you,
• 1:53:35
  I'm telling you. I'm telling you. I'm telling you. Coco Jewel
• 1:53:39
  said, she's giving you your roses. But yes, so she is,
• 1:53:43
  like I said, Coco, y'all show my sister some love again. She
• 1:53:45
  is working on a nonprofit organization. We're actually trying to put some things together,
• 1:53:50
  get some people on board to bring this into fruition in memory of my
• 1:53:56
  niece Kantisha. Huh, let me go for our get emotional. But I
• 1:54:01
  love y'all. Uh there she is, Juel, She said, thank you,
• 1:54:08
  but I love y'all. Happy Thursday, Happy Friday, Eve. I
• 1:54:12
  hope everyone has a beautiful weekend. Whatever it is that you're working on,
• 1:54:15
  keep pushing, keep pushing, keep pushing. You are almost at the finish
• 1:54:18
  line, and just know that your race will never look like mine. But
• 1:54:21
  just know that we will all get to the finish line when God says that
• 1:54:26
  it is our time. So I love y'all. God bless y'all. I'll
• 1:54:29
  see y'all Tuesday night. By