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11 Signs You're In A Toxic Work Environment! · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  How do you spot a narcissistic boss is one of the main
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  questions that I get on my channel.
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  Of course, if you're new here, I'm Lee Hammock, my diagnosed
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  narcissist, here to give you the perspective of a narcissist on
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  the world and all the other good stuff.
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  And today we're talking about 111111 delusional beliefs
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  narcissistic bosses have about themselves and the people who
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  work for them. Yeah, this is a This article by
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  Yo Tango, Your Tango goes into detail about 11 signs of a
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  narcissistic boss. It says narcissistic traits
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  often exist on the spectrum, and even great bosses have at least
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  a few of them from time to time, which shows you did not.
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  Narcissistic traits don't have to be a bad thing.
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  Narcissistic traits could be somebody being super ambitious
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  and selfish to a point where they actually start helping
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  others, right? I'm selfish with my healing so I
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  can help other people. You see what I'm saying?
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  The narcissistic trait of me of selfishness actually works for
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  me because I use it to be selfish with my healing so I can
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  help other people. So just because you have a
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  narcissistic boss doesn't mean you have an evil toxic gas boss.
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  But a lot of times you do right there, right?
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  But truly narcissistic employers, however, carry
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  delusional beliefs about themselves and the people who
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  work for them. So they.
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  This article goes over 11 beliefs #1 the rules don't apply
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  to me. Narcissistic bosses or employers
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  have a sense of superiority that leads them to think that they're
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  above the rules, way above the rules.
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  Nobody can tell me what to do. It's not just the rules within
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  the workplace. It's the rules of the government
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  governing environment, the governing bodies, the
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  government, OSHA, the FCC, those type of organization, the SEC,
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  they think that those rules don't apply to them.
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  This is why you say a lot of narcissistic bosses take their
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  asses straight to jail. Do not pass, go straight to
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  jail. Right?
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  You see that happening? The article goes on to say
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  people who are narcissists are almost proud of the fact you can
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  ask them directly because they don't see narcissism as a
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  negative quality. Isn't that what I just said?
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  I literally, I haven't read this article.
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  Y'all, we're going through this at the same time.
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  I don't know, at 11, nothing. We're going through this at the
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  same time. We look, we, we, we going
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  through this together. I just said that sometimes they
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  don't see it as a negative because it's really not all the
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  time, right? But we go right back into it.
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  They believe they're superior to other people and are fine with
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  saying that publicly. Overall narcissism is
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  problematic overall. Right?
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  A narcissistic boss who doesn't follow protocol in disregards to
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  company standards could very well put their employees in
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  harm's way. Y'all ever heard the term profit
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  over people? That's when narcissistic bosses
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  or people are in charge. They put the profits above the
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  greater good of humanity. Like if somebody dies because I
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  have this, I I don't have gas, appropriate gas masks or safety
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  standards, then somebody dies. You'll see the old Rocky line
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  right there. If he dies, he dies.
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  That's something that the narcissistic boss would say.
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  If you die, you die, right? And the next thing in this
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  article, I never make mistakes. That kind of goes without saying
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  right there. A narcissistic boss is always
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  going to be perfect, right? Because even if they do
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  something wrong, they can put it off on their employees or their
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  subordinates. It's not my fault.
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  I hired the wrong people, yet they, these people tricked me in
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  their interviews. This is why I hired them.
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  Now I'm going to fire them for a mistake that I made.
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  You see how it goes right there? They're never wrong.
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  They can, like I said, they can't take criticism.
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  I think that's narcissist. Look, you notice it didn't say
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  narcissistic male bosses or female bosses.
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  It didn't make any kind of discernible difference.
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  It's a narcissistic bosses either or one of the others
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  right here, right? So it doesn't even matter the
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  the race, gender, ethnicity, But sometimes they can go into play.
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  They can come into play, right, because you have narcissistic
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  male bosses, misogynistic or and what not, or a racist or
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  something like that. They can come into play and
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  affect a lot of people negatively #3 kind of goes
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  without saying. Again, I deserve special
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  treatment. Narcissistic employers often
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  hold the delusional belief that they're entitled to special
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  treatment that no one else in the office receives.
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  Yes, they're above everybody else.
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  Entitlement is a layout. Extreme entitlement is what
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  narcissists do. They have extremely extreme
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  entitlement issues or whatever right here, right #4 they should
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  be grateful to work for me. You, I hide your ass.
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  Nobody else would hire you. You lucky you in here.
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  You lucky you made it this far. You lucky you made it this far
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  in the interview process. I wasn't going to hire you.
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  I wasn't going to do this. I wasn't going to do that.
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  But you see that mentality, that kind of goes into that right
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  there. That's delusional thinking.
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  That's how narcissists operate. That's how the mind of a
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  narcissist operates. They feel like you should be
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  lucky you got hired, right? And that's why they will treat
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  you horribly sometimes or treat you like you're beneath them.
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  Because you should feel lucky that I hide your ass.
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  Why else was going to hire you? You know what I'm saying #5 the
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  job becomes before everything else, including their own
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  family. And and because narcissistic
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  bosses or employers put their family and put their jobs above
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  everything else, they expect you to do the same thing, right?
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  This is when like in a lot of times, you can spot out a
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  narcissistic employer before you start working for them.
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  Y'all ask the ask the simple question, what's the what's the
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  work environment like? If they say the work
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  environment, your work life balance you don't have, you
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  shouldn't have a work life balance.
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  It should be work, work, work, work, work, then life don't work
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  there, y'all, because you're going to sacrifice your own
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  family, your own well-being, your own mental health, your own
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  physical health to stay in this job in this situation because
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  that's what the narcissist does. The narcissist is unhappy, so
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  they're going to make everybody else in that environment unhappy
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  and narcissistic employers can sometimes be, we can be more
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  than one boss in there, right? It can work like a damn cult,
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  right? And y'all know how these cults
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  work? These Colts work, right?
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  Like there's a head, the head of the cult it go, it goes from the
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  top down and it will always go from the top down.
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  That's the way it goes. What they say, poop rolls
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  downhill just like everything else.
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  You know what I mean? Number six, my workers owe me
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  loyalty. That kind of goes into the
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  entitlement again, y'all? That kind of goes back to number
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  four that were #4 But it says they should be great for the
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  work work for me, that's kind of falls in line with the same type
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  of thing they should be. You owe me loyalty because I
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  hired you. And right?
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  And the crazy thing about it is, y'all, they don't expect you to
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  change jobs. They expect you to stay there.
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  No two weeks, no two weeks notice, no nothing.
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  You're supposed to stay there with them forever.
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  They don't expect you to find a better job.
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  Even if you find a better job offering better pay, you're
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  supposed to stay there with them and they will turn on you.
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  They will turn on you if you leave, right?
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  If you try to find a better job or whatever and leave, they will
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  turn on your ass. They won't give you a referral.
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  They'll try to blackball you. They'll try to make sure that
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  you have to stick around with them or you can't you.
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  I'm going to make sure you never, you never work in this
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  town again. Don't they sound like the old
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  stuff, the old school stuff. You're never working this town
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  again. I'm going to make sure of it.
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  And you're like, wait, what the hell?
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  Why can't I work in this town again?
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  Because you because you're angry with me.
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  What the hell? That's the mindset of a
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  narcissist. You need a referral and you have
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  a narcissistic boss. You better watch out.
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  You better watch out #7 kind of gives into the entitlement
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  thing. The title entitlement thing
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  again. I don't need to explain myself.
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  For narcissistic bosses, there's no need for them to explain
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  themselves. They don't offer any
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  justification for the choices they make, even when those
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  choices directly affect the people who work for them.
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  Yep. They expect loyalty and and
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  question obedience. All of the other stuff right
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  there. Right.
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  I did a one-on-one over Zoom one time with a lady that she was
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  like literally mentally broken because she had a narcissistic
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  boss that tortured her. And all of these signs that she
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  like literally was at work torturing her and it was an
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  internship. She had an internship and the
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  boss was torturing her. She's like, if you, I'm big in
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  this industry right here. If you go tell anybody what's
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  going on, I'll make sure you never work.
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  So she was sad as hell working, had to extend the internship if
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  she was super sad, but she ended up leaving and calling the
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  narcissistic bosses bluff. They don't always bluff, Y'all.
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  They don't always bluff, but this one did.
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  Right here, right #8 again, the entitlement.
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  It really is all it seemed like. There's an underlying theme of
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  entitlement with all these. They could never make it without
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  me. They all like this.
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  Again, is entitlement. Delusions of grandeur right
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  here. Narcissistic bosses believe
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  they're indispensable to their company, which means they see
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  their workplace being in service to them.
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  If they think they're invincible, they will act like
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  it, I'll say just like that. And plus, a lot of times this
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  feeling of invisibility comes because their family members
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  hire them. Their family members are the
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  higher up. They own the company like they
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  you, they can't get fired. They feel, if they feel
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  invincible, you will know it. If they feel invincible and
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  they're a good person, you would know that.
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  You would know that as well. But if they feel invincible and
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  they're a bad, horrible narcissist, you're going to know
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  that. You're going to feel that.
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  You're going to hate your work experience.
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  You're going to wake up in the morning at 8:00 and be like
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  beep, beep, beep. Damn it, the long gone up.
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  Oh, I got to go to damn work. Damn.
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  I got to go see this narcissistic bastard.
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  Damn. And I talked to so many people
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  who had that exact experience right there, right?
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  That exact experience #9 says they're just jealous of my
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  success. A belief that narcissistic
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  employers, how about themselves and their workers, is that
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  everyone at the company is jealous of their success.
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  Again, this is the paranoid delusions of grandeur right
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  here. Even even if the narcissist is
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  like, like there's CE OS and bosses and supervisors and
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  stuff. Even if they're a lawyer, a
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  lawyer, lower, lower, lower employee, like they're still a
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  shift leader, but there is supervisors and managers and the
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  CEO and the owner, the plant boss, they'll still act like
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  everybody's jealous of them. The reason I made to supervisor
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  here or to manager, 'cause they want to hold me back.
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  They're just jealous of my success.
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  They're jealous of me, nobody, blah, blah, blah, right?
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  It's crazy. And then #10 y'all, this is
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  delusion of grand jurors time 50 right here.
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  All my ideas are visionary. Everything.
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  This is type of person that comes up with all kinds of word
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  inventions in ways to change the job, ways to change the
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  warehouse or whatever, or ways to change the office.
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  They'd have already been done right?
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  Genius level thought never revolutionized the company
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  functions they acquired. They are unable to acknowledge
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  being wrong again. The paranoid delusions of
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  grandeur with a narcissistic boss can run rampant.
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  And last but not least, right here it says this place doesn't
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  run without me again. That kind of goes back with like
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  that with the number 9 or 8 or whatever it was.
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  Another one of these. They're just jealous of myself.
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  That was 8. They could never make it without
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  me. Kind of like something.
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  Who wrote this article? Something sounding Stuff is
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  repetitive. I didn't read the article.
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  I saw the article and I was just going to respond to it.
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  Yeah. I was like, this is going to be
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  interesting. It was an interesting article
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  about narcissistic bosses and whatnot.
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  Right. But, Lee, how do you deal with
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  them? You quit.
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  I'm just joking. When you're dealing with a
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  narcissistic boss, a lot of the times you have to stroke their
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  egos. Y'all, let's be real, let's keep
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  it high and ready. Y'all know I like to keep it
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  high and rated like a little Caesar pizzas.
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  A lot of times we're dealing with a narcissistic boss.
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  You have to stroke their egos in order to damn survive.
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  You have to kind of stay out of their way and stroke their egos
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  and make it seem like they're you have to like go through this
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  list of 11 things and see how you can pamper.
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  Make this baby make them feel like a pamper.
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  Document everything as well. You have to document everything
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  in the workplace because sometimes if they don't like
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  you, they'll make you the target of their abuse and their
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  harassment. So you need to document
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  everything now. We'll document everything,
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  protect you and keep you safe the entire time.
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  Not necessarily, right. It just like not necessarily
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  anything like that. That's not what happens in these
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  spaces, in these situations. So sometimes their boss, the
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  upper, the higher ups or family members or golf buddies or some
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  shit like that. So it's like politicians and
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  stuff like that. It's very difficult in that
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  environment. Yeah.
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  Anyway, y'all, thank you for tuning in.
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