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- Jeff Ganter: Welcome back to the Talent Brief. Something that has been sticking around in my head lately. Not whether something is true, but whether it's actually mine. I believe we spend much of our lives carrying ideas we never intentionally chose. Work harder. Don't disappoint people. Success always requires sacrifice. Stay because loyalty matters. Don't ask for too much. Don't make people uncomfortable. At some point, those ideas stopped sounding like advice. They became an identity and a pattern. And that's the part that is interesting to me. Because I don't remember choosing most of them. I simply inherited them from parents. Teachers, managers, past experiences, culture, relationships. Even from moments when I failed and quietly made a promise to myself that I'd never let it happen again. The thing is, most scripts aren't bad. Some taught us discipline. Some taught us responsibility. Some helped us survive difficult seasons. This isn't about blaming the person who handed them to us. It's about recognizing something we often overlooked. A script can survive you well for years and still outlive its usefulness. I see this all the time in coaching. Someone tells me they're exhausted, or they're stuck. Or they know something has to change. They assume the problem is confidence or motivation or timing. But after we sit with it for a while, a different question begins to emerge. Who told you this had to be true? That's usually where everything gets quiet. Because most of us have never stopped long enough to ask. We've been following the script, not questioning the author. That's why I believe signals matter so much. A signal doesn't tell you what to do. It simply taps you on the shoulder. It says this belief doesn't fit the person you're becoming. Maybe that's why change feels so uncomfortable. It's not because we're changing our lives. It's because we're rewriting a story we've been reading for years. One last signal. The next time you hear yourself say, I've always believed, pause. Then ask yourself, who wrote that script? Until next time, I'm your host, Jeff Gantor. Remember. Trust the signal. Question the script. See you soon. Bye.