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#EP191 A message from Bondi · Two Doting Dads with Matty J & Ash

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  Speaker 1: Welcome back to two doting Dads. A little bit of
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  Speaker 1: a change of gears in this episode due to the
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  Speaker 1: incident that happened over the weekend at Bondi Beach. We
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  Speaker 1: do record this podcast out of North Bondi, which happens
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  Speaker 1: to be Matt's house. Matt and I both agreed that
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't feel quite right to release a regular episode
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  Speaker 1: as we would on a Wednesday, but we will withhold
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  Speaker 1: that and release it next week.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we've been trying to make sense of what's unfolded,
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  Speaker 2: and it's just impossible to put into words how horrific
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  Speaker 2: it was. We do want to say to the Jewish
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  Speaker 2: community and to anyone who's been impacted by this, our
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  Speaker 2: hearts with you. You know, on Sunday when it happened,
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  Speaker 2: I was in the backyard and started hearing these popping
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  Speaker 2: noises like fireworks, and I thought to myself, well, that's
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  Speaker 2: really strange to have fireworks when it's not dark.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what you would think. I mean, it was
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  Speaker 1: sort of what's six thirty, closer to seven o'clock in
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  Speaker 1: the ear evening, and maybe you would have thought that
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  Speaker 1: fire I.
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  Speaker 2: Thought, you know, some of the high schools are off,
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  Speaker 2: so I was like, maybe kids have just let off
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  Speaker 2: fireworks or crackers. And then the longer I heard, I
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  Speaker 2: grabbed Laura and I was like, that's that's gunshots and
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  Speaker 2: Laura was like, surely not. And then we kept hearing
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  Speaker 2: them and I was like, that is absolutely gunshots. And
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  Speaker 2: I was then messaging a few friends as well, being
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  Speaker 2: like can you hear this? Can you you know? Are
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  Speaker 2: you hearing what I'm hearing? And then I was just
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  Speaker 2: like hoping that it was just it wasn't what the
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  Speaker 2: reality was. And then messages started coming through that there
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  Speaker 2: was an active shooter. And at the same time, at
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  Speaker 2: the front, there's a few people who had kind of
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  Speaker 2: come off the beach. You know, there's this massive stampede
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  Speaker 2: of people who are escaping.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because you're like five hundred meters from the location,
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  Speaker 1: which is wild. And I did receive a message from
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  Speaker 1: you as it was happening, and I was the same
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  Speaker 1: as you could not believe what you were witnessing and
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  Speaker 1: what you were hearing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And then even I looked out the front because
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  Speaker 2: the rumor was that the gunmen were still in the loose,
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  Speaker 2: and so we were like, okay, we'll just lock the
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  Speaker 2: doors at the same time. When I locked the doors,
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  Speaker 2: Laura and I saw a couple out the front and
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  Speaker 2: they looked completely shell shocked and they were kind of
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  Speaker 2: just stood still but also looking around, and so you're okay,
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  Speaker 2: and they're like, well, we're trying to get out of here,
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  Speaker 2: but Uber's canceled four times, and we're like, just come
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  Speaker 2: into our house. So they came in and the kids
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  Speaker 2: were like, who are these people?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 2: We said it's okay, like they're just they're just friends.
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  Speaker 2: They're going to pop in, And it was really obvious
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  Speaker 2: that they were in shock. They'd just come down from
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  Speaker 2: the beach. They were just down there themselves. But they
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  Speaker 2: were in our house then for a couple of hours
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  Speaker 2: until we knew it was safe for them to leave,
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  Speaker 2: and then the story started coming through of what just unfolded,
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  Speaker 2: and it was, yeah, it was unlike anything I've experienced
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  Speaker 2: and never wont to experience again. How long do you.
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  Speaker 1: Think it went on for that you could hear.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it was at least ten minutes we could hear it.
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  Speaker 2: And then I drove them that couple home, maybe like
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  Speaker 2: two hours afterwards. When I knew it knew it was
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  Speaker 2: safe but yeah, since since then, it's just like it's
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  Speaker 2: hard because we've all got such an appetite to find
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  Speaker 2: out what has happened and the details around it. But
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  Speaker 2: then at the same time, when you start looking at
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  Speaker 2: the news and you start looking at what's being put
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  Speaker 2: out there on social media, very quickly becomes too much.
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  Speaker 2: So then it's just like you're fluctuating between your out
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  Speaker 2: capacity and is too much to handle and digest, And
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  Speaker 2: at the same time you also want to know the
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  Speaker 2: stories and the severity of the situation to those shifting,
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  Speaker 2: innocent people who sadly passed away. I just I can't
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  Speaker 2: imagine what you're in the family is going through. And
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  Speaker 2: you know, we'll put details in the show notes of
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  Speaker 2: where you can support those families. There's a little girl
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  Speaker 2: called Matilda who was ten. Fuck you know the photos
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  Speaker 2: of her enjoying that day and then to pass away
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  Speaker 2: in front of her sister and her family, Like, it's
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  Speaker 2: just fucking horrific and it makes me so angry.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, sadly. Yeah, people have lost their lives and you know,
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  Speaker 1: the biggest mass shooting we've had in since Port Arthur,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, it's amazing the community banding together and
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  Speaker 1: everyone getting around each other. And then also we've got
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  Speaker 1: parents that coming out that were protecting their children down there,
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  Speaker 1: but then also trying to explain it to you know,
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  Speaker 1: your young girls, and then going on with normal life.
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  Speaker 1: I turned up today for the first time since it's happened,
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  Speaker 1: and there's an eerie feeling in the air. Just days later, Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It was in Monday morning. School is shut for Maley's
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  Speaker 2: so we had them at home. We kept Lolla home
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  Speaker 2: from daycare as well. And then you know, I went
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  Speaker 2: for a walk down to a local cafe and it
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  Speaker 2: was busy and there's a lot of people. Everyone was
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  Speaker 2: supporting each other, and I saw this Jewish man. We
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  Speaker 2: have a quick chat, you know, we're kind of on
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  Speaker 2: the same schedules in the morning where we get our
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  Speaker 2: coffees at the same time after I've got the girls off,
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  Speaker 2: and I asked if he was okay, and he just
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  Speaker 2: broke down. And it's hard for families in Bondai. And
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  Speaker 2: then you knowing those especially the Jewish community, how much
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  Speaker 2: they're impacted right now and how they're feeling and the
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  Speaker 2: fear that they have is so unfair, especially because that
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  Speaker 2: dad or I spoke to you know, he's grown up
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  Speaker 2: here in Bondi. That area is where he's had kids' birthdays,
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  Speaker 2: is where he's taught as sunder kick of football, and
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  Speaker 2: he's like that space which was so special, it was
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  Speaker 2: such a place of happy memories for him, is always
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  Speaker 2: now forever going to be tarnished. And then even this morning,
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  Speaker 2: you know, that feeling is still around Bondi. There's another
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  Speaker 2: dad who I spoke to just just briefly and asked
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  Speaker 2: him how he was going, and we were having just
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  Speaker 2: you know, a quick chat, and then just out of nowhere,
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  Speaker 2: he broke down and he started crying, and just everyone
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  Speaker 2: is really struggling right now to try and comprehend what's
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  Speaker 2: just happened.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I want to give a special mention to
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  Speaker 1: everyone that's sort of jumped in to help out. There
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  Speaker 1: was so much footage from the paramedics, to the police
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  Speaker 1: who acted so swiftly, to the public who were willing
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  Speaker 1: to jump in and help.
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  Speaker 2: And I think when you have something as horrific as that,
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  Speaker 2: you're witnessing the worst of mankind, and then at the
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  Speaker 2: same time you're witnessing some of the best. You know,
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  Speaker 2: those the innocent bystanders who reached out to help, especially
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  Speaker 2: the man. The footage of the guy who was wrestling
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  Speaker 2: with the shooter.
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  Speaker 1: Armed l armed.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, what an absolute hero. That's the bravest
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  Speaker 2: thing I've ever witnessed in my life. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like, as dads, we often think about what if someone
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  Speaker 1: you know entered MySpace and I had to protect my family,
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  Speaker 1: how brave would I be? And you always have it
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  Speaker 1: in that mind in your mind that you're like, I
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  Speaker 1: would be that person. But to put your life on
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  Speaker 1: the line to save countless lives out in public with
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  Speaker 1: a guy wielding essentially a rifle is absolutely unbelievable. It
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  Speaker 1: was absolutely amazing to see everyone band together and continue
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  Speaker 1: to as well along with you know, donating blood.
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  Speaker 2: At the time of recording, they still need own negative
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  Speaker 2: So if you do want to donate blood, you can
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  Speaker 2: go to lifeblood dot com dot au for details on that.
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  Speaker 2: We will put those details in the show notes as well. Also,
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  Speaker 2: just want to say a huge thank you to all
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  Speaker 2: the dotors who reached out and checked in on me
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  Speaker 2: and the family. It's hugely appreciated. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It goes to show what sort of community that we
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  Speaker 1: are a part of, and we appreciate every single one
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  Speaker 1: of you, and look after your friends, look after those
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  Speaker 1: closest to you, and we'll leave some really important resources
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  Speaker 1: in the show notes that you can access now.
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  Speaker 2: This is our last record for the year, so we
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  Speaker 2: will be hanging up the head after this. We have
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  Speaker 2: an episode coming out next week with April, which is
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  Speaker 2: a pre recorded episode, and then we will have best
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  Speaker 2: of up.
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  Speaker 1: Until twenty sixth of January, that's correct, and we will
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  Speaker 1: have brand new episodes from that point onwards. From Matt
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  Speaker 1: n thank you so much for an amazing year, and
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  Speaker 1: look after yourselves and enjoy the break and.
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  Speaker 2: Lots of love. Thanks very much, Thanks guys, Goodbye,