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EPISODE 40 (Part 2): Lex's Life Notes: Unfiltered · It's Mom O'Clock

• 0:13
  Speaker A: Okay, go ahead.
• 0:15
  Speaker B: He's a 10, but he still follows his ex. Does that bother you?
• 0:21
  Speaker C: No, this is. I can't because I'm like, such an empath.
• 0:24
  Speaker B: You really?
• 0:25
  Speaker C: Are you guys friends?
• 0:26
  Speaker B: Like, no. Nobody should be. Should people be friends with.
• 0:29
  Speaker A: No, My husband is totally friends with his. He's like the only excuse.
• 0:33
  Speaker C: Truly circumstantial. If it's your ex, like, from 20 years ago and they're married and whatever, and you. Who gives a shit? Yeah, but if he's a 10 and follow his ex, that still a 10. If he's a 10 that follows his ex, that, you know, it was a weird breakup or whatever, he's a five.
• 0:52
  Speaker A: Okay, I would agree.
• 0:54
  Speaker B: That was total downgrade. Yeah, okay. He's a 10, but he uses Snapchat, like, religiously.
• 0:59
  Speaker C: He's a zero.
• 1:00
  Speaker A: You hate Snapchat. You never answer my Snapchats. I could. How you don't.
• 1:04
  Speaker B: I honestly think Snapchat was made for cheaters. It was.
• 1:07
  Speaker A: I just used it for, like, funny. Like, also get to know my.
• 1:10
  Speaker C: As a man.
• 1:11
  Speaker A: Oh, yeah, man.
• 1:12
  Speaker C: Yeah. Doing with a Snapchat.
• 1:14
  Speaker A: Do you want to laugh? My husband Snapchat does not open Snapchat. He probably used it back in the day. The other day he goes, oh, my God, that was so funny. Whatever it was. I go, that was six months ago.
• 1:25
  Speaker C: No, I said, right? But that your husband is a green flag.
• 1:29
  Speaker A: Yeah, he.
• 1:30
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 1:30
  Speaker A: I go, you're kidding. Just delete the app.
• 1:32
  Speaker C: Why do you have it?
• 1:33
  Speaker B: Okay. He's a 10, but he always puts his phone face down no matter what.
• 1:37
  Speaker C: Oh, my God. He's like a negative 52.
• 1:40
  Speaker A: Negative 52.
• 1:41
  Speaker C: You are a sick weirdo. Sneak sick weirdo. Oh, my God.
• 1:44
  Speaker A: My ex used to do that.
• 1:45
  Speaker C: So, like, rebuke.
• 1:47
  Speaker A: Yeah. Barf. Next.
• 1:49
  Speaker B: He's a 10, but he does not work out.
• 1:52
  Speaker C: I just made a TikTok about this.
• 1:54
  Speaker A: Did you?
• 1:55
  Speaker C: He's literally a. A three to me because. Where is your discipline? No, I. I just had. I do. I cannot be with somebody that. That is not part of their personality
• 2:06
  Speaker A: or even at least want.
• 2:08
  Speaker B: Have you watched Love is Blind, though?
• 2:09
  Speaker C: What?
• 2:10
  Speaker B: Have you.
• 2:11
  Speaker C: Yeah, the Pilates.
• 2:12
  Speaker A: The Pilates.
• 2:12
  Speaker C: Sid, we.
• 2:13
  Speaker B: Are you saying that.
• 2:15
  Speaker A: Yes.
• 2:16
  Speaker C: Guys.
• 2:16
  Speaker A: No, I.
• 2:17
  Speaker C: Listen, listen.
• 2:18
  Speaker B: But I do understand, like, if it's part of your.
• 2:20
  Speaker A: But you don't have to work out with you. You just want somebody who's disciplined.
• 2:23
  Speaker C: I do, but yes. And also it's for me. Oh, my God. I sound like this. It from Love is Blind. But we're going to Make a. I'm going to, I'm going to say this.
• 2:34
  Speaker B: Be careful.
• 2:34
  Speaker C: Yeah. I'm going to say, listen, listen. This is a compatibility thing. Yeah. Okay. I could have great chemistry with somebody and this is something that I'm, I'm going to talk about in weeks and days to come. Chemistry and compatibility are different. Okay. I could have chemistry with you. If we are not compatible on things that we want in our life. There is a huge difference between chemistry and compatibility. I need to be compatible with you in a way where. Why do, am I going to be with someone where our lives don't align? Why? What is the point of them? We're just going to end up fighting when I, God willing, get a boyfriend. Actually not a boyfriend. When I find my husband, he will. Him and I will wake up in the morning early on a Saturday. We're not going to do Pilates, but we're going to go for a walk and we're going to go to the gym and we're going to be outside and we're going to go to the farmer's market. I need someone that is going to do those things with me. That is a preference because I know that that has to do with compassion.
• 3:37
  Speaker A: And that's okay. You should preference what you want someone you're going to marry and you're going to father your children.
• 3:42
  Speaker B: Right? Okay, that's. That's what I'm saying.
• 3:44
  Speaker C: He's a 10, but he's a 3 if he doesn't go to the gym.
• 3:46
  Speaker A: I love that.
• 3:46
  Speaker C: Yeah, okay.
• 3:48
  Speaker B: He's a 10, but his mom calls him every single morning.
• 3:55
  Speaker A: Ah. I think my mother in law does that.
• 3:57
  Speaker C: So. Yeah.
• 3:58
  Speaker A: No, but not a bothersome, like maybe, maybe every.
• 4:00
  Speaker B: No, I mean it could be a good thing.
• 4:02
  Speaker A: But he also calls me too, so I like that.
• 4:04
  Speaker C: I mean like if he doesn't have a good relationship with his mom, he's a zero. So it's like, Right.
• 4:09
  Speaker A: Take what you could get, you know?
• 4:10
  Speaker B: Yeah, we're boy moms here. I'm gonna call my fucking sons.
• 4:13
  Speaker C: Yeah, he's 10.
• 4:14
  Speaker A: I agree.
• 4:15
  Speaker B: Okay, he's a 10. But he follows thousands of girls like,
• 4:20
  Speaker C: you're not even in my room. Yeah, get away. Yep.
• 4:23
  Speaker B: Okay. Yeah, he's a 10, but he says, I'm really sorry, but I'm just bad at texting.
• 4:30
  Speaker C: He's like a four. Like, what are you doing though?
• 4:32
  Speaker A: Because, like, don't tell me you're bad at text.
• 4:34
  Speaker C: No one's bad at it.
• 4:35
  Speaker A: Yeah, you're choosing.
• 4:36
  Speaker C: Yeah, you're choosing. And you know like when you're excited to text someone and whatever the best
• 4:40
  Speaker B: feeling in the world.
• 4:41
  Speaker C: Yeah. Like, give me Gazi next.
• 4:44
  Speaker B: He's a tem, but he lives with his parents.
• 4:47
  Speaker C: Why, why does he live in his parents?
• 4:51
  Speaker B: I don't know. I'm thinking about like the 40 year old virgin.
• 4:53
  Speaker C: But yeah, I mean like, but it's
• 4:55
  Speaker B: honestly a lot of people live in
• 4:56
  Speaker C: the country is his house.
• 4:57
  Speaker A: Yeah, right.
• 4:58
  Speaker C: Like why? Why? Again, circumstantial. I.
• 5:01
  Speaker A: That's fair.
• 5:02
  Speaker C: I mean I live in my parents house right now. Yeah, yeah, it's really nice. I spent 10 years paying rent to scum lords and you know, like, give me a break.
• 5:11
  Speaker B: He's a 10, but he's not ready for labels. He just doesn't want a label.
• 5:15
  Speaker C: He's a. He's not as not answering.
• 5:18
  Speaker A: I'm answering for you.
• 5:18
  Speaker C: He's a child.
• 5:20
  Speaker B: Would 22 year old Lexi have answered these differently?
• 5:22
  Speaker C: Completely.
• 5:23
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 5:23
  Speaker C: Yeah, absolutely. I, I mean Snapchat. I would have been Snapchat. I would have been like, what?
• 5:31
  Speaker A: Yeah, you don't use Snapchat either?
• 5:33
  Speaker B: No, I mean I have but I know, like. I'll open one, I'll open one for you.
• 5:38
  Speaker A: Do you guys like my Snapchat?
• 5:39
  Speaker C: Yeah, I watch them.
• 5:40
  Speaker B: Thank you. I mean they're cute.
• 5:41
  Speaker A: I just want to make people laugh, you know, that's my doing.
• 5:44
  Speaker B: I don't make people laugh. That's it.
• 5:45
  Speaker C: You do. I love your morning red light.
• 5:47
  Speaker A: Thank you. I knew you would love my love red light.
• 5:49
  Speaker B: All right, Lex, tell me your type, your perfect man type.
• 5:54
  Speaker A: Okay, check off all the boxes. If someone walk in the front door right now, what do you need from them if they need a perfect listen.
• 6:02
  Speaker B: And is it the same what you wrote down on that paper and that man walked into your life? Okay, so tell me that. Give me that piece of paper.
• 6:08
  Speaker C: So, all right, let's start physically like my type. My friends are gonna keel over at
• 6:13
  Speaker A: this could never go on. Love is blind.
• 6:14
  Speaker C: Because if you saw my past, not I for the viewers that know me my time, I'd never dated my physical type. We know this. Okay, six two between six between six two and six five. Who would have basketball player Eve either covered in tats or completely clean, no stickers. I don't need like one like I agree. Completely clean or cover.
• 6:39
  Speaker B: I agree. Like if you're in a fucking sleeve, you're cool if you have one.
• 6:45
  Speaker C: I like a big boy. Like, I like them. Like I want to feel protected.
• 6:48
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 6:49
  Speaker C: Chiseled so not like I Don't want him to look like Mr. Clean. Like, I like them husky. Like a Nick Bosa. Like, like a husky.
• 6:58
  Speaker A: I agree.
• 6:59
  Speaker C: Yeah. And you think I know who that is? I could.
• 7:02
  Speaker A: She doesn't know who Nick Bosi is, though.
• 7:04
  Speaker C: He's. He's on the. He's on some football team. I don't know. He's in a skims ad. And I fel. Um, but so. And he has to dress well. Like, I can't live in fear of your outfit. Like, just. I don't like a fashionista.
• 7:16
  Speaker A: Yeah, you don't like Metro.
• 7:18
  Speaker C: Don't put on capris. But, like, just, like, know what you're doing.
• 7:22
  Speaker B: Okay.
• 7:22
  Speaker A: Do you like the ankles to show?
• 7:23
  Speaker C: I don't know. I don't know. Some of it's a little too much for me.
• 7:27
  Speaker B: So, like, if I was wearing a T shirt from high school saying, like, reader pride.
• 7:32
  Speaker C: Send, send.
• 7:34
  Speaker A: Wait. I'm laughing so hard because I feel like I know who these men are.
• 7:38
  Speaker C: Wait, no, you know. You know, unless you're, like, painting the house, you could put that on. But otherwise, like, no. Yeah, I like, just, like, clean cut.
• 7:46
  Speaker B: But do you like, like a, Like a rugged, manly guy that could, like, do shit?
• 7:50
  Speaker C: Yes.
• 7:50
  Speaker B: Like, I just, I could fucking change my.
• 7:52
  Speaker C: Like, I like men. Like, I just. I want you to be dominant. I want you to lead the house. And I, I need a. I need a man. But listen, I live in New Jersey. Life is not. Whatever I'm. I know he's not going to be 6 6, so it's like, I 6, too. I've let go of the height for a really long time.
• 8:11
  Speaker A: Like, handsome. You want handsome man?
• 8:14
  Speaker C: I need a man. I like the hair. I like the beard.
• 8:18
  Speaker B: Let's say he's a 10 and he's five seven. Is he. He's done.
• 8:22
  Speaker C: No.
• 8:25
  Speaker B: No.
• 8:25
  Speaker C: What if he's, like, the most man?
• 8:28
  Speaker A: He's my husband. My husband's five, seven, nine. You gotta settle for Michael. Daniel.
• 8:34
  Speaker C: Listen, at the end of the day, I've, I've let go. I, I, I come and let God. I let. Exactly. I let go and let God. I've got kitten heels and it's.
• 8:43
  Speaker B: Wait, how tall are you?
• 8:45
  Speaker C: I'm a brat. I'm five two. Like, what am I talking about?
• 8:47
  Speaker A: Why am I five foot?
• 8:49
  Speaker C: Yeah. Why am I even having. Whenever I say this to my friends, they're like, shut up.
• 8:53
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 8:54
  Speaker A: Literally.
• 8:54
  Speaker C: Yeah, I know I'm a brat, but, yeah, so, yeah, that's. You want what you want physical type.
• 8:59
  Speaker A: I feel that, though. I feel like that's a lot of women's type. Like, that's a sexy man. Everyone wants a sexy.
• 9:04
  Speaker B: Also, this is my best friend.
• 9:05
  Speaker C: My best friend's type is Pete Davidson. I said, what?
• 9:08
  Speaker A: Oh, so is my cousin.
• 9:09
  Speaker C: What?
• 9:09
  Speaker A: Yeah, you're.
• 9:10
  Speaker C: Yeah, See, like, yeah, no, like Europe Davis.
• 9:13
  Speaker B: I mean, I. I could. I could fuck.
• 9:15
  Speaker A: You're like anything, though. Cats, dogs, men, women. You're like, whatever.
• 9:20
  Speaker B: Hate cats. But a woman I would take.
• 9:24
  Speaker C: So, you know, personality wise, this is big. Yeah, no big. First things first. Man of God has to, in some way shape or form follow Jesus or. Or is curious about it and somewhere. Right. Like, if you're listening, I look at love now more biblically than I ever have, and I just want a man to lead my house. Like, I want a leader. Do you want to walk and walk
• 9:52
  Speaker A: with him and your brain's off?
• 9:54
  Speaker C: I want my brain to be off. I want to feel safe. That's number two. You have to make me feel safe in some way.
• 10:00
  Speaker A: That's big for me.
• 10:01
  Speaker C: And a lot of girls are in marriages where they don't feel safe. Yeah, that's man of God. Feel safe, compassionate, and kind to other people. If I am out with you and you are talking shit and you're being a dick, it is the grossest thing to me. I don't like that when you try to get slick and smart, it's in bad taste. Just be kind to other people and. Oh, God, humor. I need you to match my humor. I as, like, profound as I sound on this podcast. If you know me, I'm a whack job. Like, I am funny.
• 10:40
  Speaker A: I'm so sick of being the funny one.
• 10:42
  Speaker C: Right? Like, I. I like sarcasm. I, you know, slick remarks bust my balls. Like, we. I want to crack up with you. So, like, I really do look for, like, humor. If you're dry as hell, I genuinely don't know what we're gonna talk about.
• 10:57
  Speaker A: I could be attracted to someone who's not as good looking as I would want, but they have personality.
• 11:03
  Speaker C: Right? And then my last thing I'll say is, I want an ambitious man. Like, I really want you to be ambitious and passionate about something in life other than me. However, you cannot be a more, more, more man because a more.
• 11:18
  Speaker B: What's that?
• 11:18
  Speaker C: A more more more man is a man that. That is never satisfied with where he is. That is a man that does not practice gratitude. And that is a man that will always look for something else to make him happy. Yep. In his business. I'm taking notes Today, Listen, I think I'm. I think I connect really well with entrepreneurs, like, entrepreneurial men. But my problem with entrepreneurial men, and it's just like, this one thing is, like, listen, I think it's great to always want more for yourself. Absolutely. But when it gets to a point where it becomes, like, your mission, and you can't look around you and be like, I have. I'm. I'm in good shape right now. It's not gonna be the end of the world if I don't go that extra step next week. Like, it's okay.
• 12:09
  Speaker B: Like, know your limits of, like, what is right.
• 12:11
  Speaker C: And I think it will relate back to what happens in the house. Like, you. You're a more. More, more guy. You don't practice gratitude. What else?
• 12:19
  Speaker A: More, more guy. I love.
• 12:20
  Speaker C: What are. What else are you looking for? Like, what else? More always. These are the. Of 3 million gross girls on Instagram. What is that? I shouldn't say gross girls? I mean, like, you can say gross girls. Yeah. You know, but you know what I'm saying, so. Yeah. More and more.
• 12:35
  Speaker A: I love those. I love those boxes. And you're gonna find that. I promise.
• 12:38
  Speaker C: I know I will.
• 12:38
  Speaker B: I hope you do.
• 12:39
  Speaker A: You will?
• 12:40
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 12:40
  Speaker B: I mean, yeah.
• 12:41
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 12:41
  Speaker B: Those are really.
• 12:43
  Speaker A: You're like, did I marry the wrong.
• 12:46
  Speaker C: A lot of people that talk to me are like, lexi, you're making me want to flee. I said don't. Because, listen, it's. That's not. That's not what I'm here to do. I'm not here to shit on anybody.
• 12:56
  Speaker A: This is your own preference.
• 12:57
  Speaker B: This is my preference.
• 12:58
  Speaker C: People think I'm in. Some people think I'm insane. They're like, you want way too much.
• 13:02
  Speaker B: Right?
• 13:03
  Speaker C: I'm like, no, no, I. I want what's going to make me thrive.
• 13:06
  Speaker A: Yeah. Right.
• 13:06
  Speaker C: I want my. I want a best friend. That's what I want.
• 13:09
  Speaker A: And you should. You absolutely should.
• 13:10
  Speaker B: And you will find him.
• 13:11
  Speaker A: You absolutely will.
• 13:12
  Speaker C: He's there.
• 13:13
  Speaker A: I love that for you. So I feel like let's transition a little bit because I'm curious about this, honestly. Your health journey. Yeah. I feel like you talk a lot about your health, and I do feel like we align on that. Do you align on that?
• 13:26
  Speaker B: No, but you guys can preach all you want.
• 13:28
  Speaker A: She's like amoxicillin. No.
• 13:31
  Speaker B: You know what my problem is?
• 13:32
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 13:32
  Speaker B: I want to hear about your. Like, I am just not a health.
• 13:36
  Speaker A: That's okay.
• 13:37
  Speaker B: That's okay. That is my thing. So my thing about, like, these granola crunchy moms is like, they're judging if I'm going to fucking McDonald's eating a cheeseburger. Like, don't judge me. Like, you're in your personal bubble and you do what's good for you, and I will do what's good for me.
• 13:50
  Speaker A: And I feel like that's why we get along.
• 13:52
  Speaker C: Can I make you feel a little bit better? And I'm going to make a lot of people feel a little bit better. It doesn't matter, because nothing's changing in this world. Like, we live in the Matrix.
• 14:02
  Speaker B: Like.
• 14:03
  Speaker A: Like, my husband says that.
• 14:04
  Speaker C: No, it's. It doesn't matter.
• 14:05
  Speaker A: We're living in a video game.
• 14:06
  Speaker C: We are. And it's. Listen, if that is. Like, I know my stomach can't handle McDonald's.
• 14:13
  Speaker B: Right?
• 14:14
  Speaker C: Do I want it sometimes?
• 14:15
  Speaker A: Yeah. Like, I want to be able to eat that. I'm like, I just will be. Like, you don't get sick from it. I do.
• 14:22
  Speaker B: You're doing it because it's what's better for your body.
• 14:24
  Speaker A: And.
• 14:24
  Speaker C: And at the end of the day, I'm being. We're being sprayed from above at this point, if you eat a French fry, what's.
• 14:30
  Speaker B: The hair?
• 14:31
  Speaker A: Is there allergic to it?
• 14:33
  Speaker C: I'm allergic. Yeah.
• 14:34
  Speaker A: I just feel, like, what made you take your health so seriously? Because I feel like a lot of people struggle with that decision. Like, what struggles did you deal with to kind of make the turn? Because I'm assuming you weren't always this strict.
• 14:44
  Speaker C: No. Oh, no.
• 14:45
  Speaker A: Yeah, Right. Yeah, I know. Same.
• 14:47
  Speaker C: Oh, my God. No.
• 14:48
  Speaker A: So tell us, like, what made you make the turn?
• 14:50
  Speaker C: I come from an Italian family.
• 14:51
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 14:51
  Speaker C: I ate, like, my whole life.
• 14:52
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 14:53
  Speaker C: Okay. Pasta, pasta, pasta. My mom cooked seven nights a week. That's. That's how I ate. I was always athletic, but I was never passionate about it. So when I started my gym journey. You become obsessed. I became obsessed in the wrong way. Protein powders, greens powders, minimal eating. I didn't know what the hell to eat, you know, overload, protein, all this stuff.
• 15:15
  Speaker A: I like shit on my pants as you're talking.
• 15:17
  Speaker C: No, literally, it's disgusting. That is where my weirdly, I start my health journey, my healing journey has to start because all of that shit made me sick. So I preach now, move your body. Get up and move your body. Find a workout.
• 15:36
  Speaker A: You can do that.
• 15:37
  Speaker C: Find a workout that works for your body. And find a fitness influencer that starts with your body. I can't follow girls that started at £90 and worked their way up and look like thicker and no, no, no, because my body's not gonna work like that. Wait, I start thick?
• 15:57
  Speaker B: Yeah. You know, I, I have something to say about that. I was watching one of your videos and you were explaining you actually put a picture of like you when you were a little girl.
• 16:03
  Speaker A: Oh my God.
• 16:04
  Speaker B: And you do have genetic. You're, you're built, you're like, you look like a gymnast at 2 years old. So I was cracking up because I, I don't work out right now currently. But like for my wedding, I wanted to be like a workout girly. And I did Orange Theory and my girlfriends and I joke now looking back at pictures, like, I was probably in like the best shape of my life, but I, I just have like bigger bones and I'm just, I. When I get muscular, I felt like a bodybuilder. Like, I didn't like the way I looked at my wedding because I felt like I just looked like too boxy. And it was so interesting. Like, so you could work out all you want, but maybe you're not getting,
• 16:35
  Speaker C: you're not doing the right workout for me.
• 16:37
  Speaker B: So I just, I really related to
• 16:38
  Speaker C: that video that you unfortunately so me, I, my, the way that my brain and body works, like, I could be a hyrox girl. Like, that's how powerful and strong I am. I can't even do those workouts. I can't even do a hiit class because I will inflame. I have very big muscles. So if I go to the gym for two weeks, it looks like I've been in the gym for a year. It's low zip.
• 17:03
  Speaker B: But it is interesting to say that like, you didn't. To the outsiders, people might have been like, oh my God, like, look at her, look at her. Like, you looked like amazing to some people, but you didn't feel.
• 17:13
  Speaker C: I was working hard and I have to say, but I started getting really inflamed and that's when I started honestly, like digging into health. I found out in 2022 that I was, I was diagnosed with uterine fibroids. If you don't know what that is, they're non cancerous muscle tissue tumors that sit on your uterus, they cause bloating, they cause pelvic pain, they cause heavy periods, and they cause inflammation and high estrogen. So I was, my skin was breaking out, my hair was falling out, my stomach was out to here. I'm in the gym seven days a week, I'm eating healthy, I'm like, what the hell? The hell is going on? So I Went to the gyno, five of them. I had one like this big on my uterus. I had surgery and then two years later it came back. So I, I have them now, but I am part of my journey and the way I eat the way that I do and is because I am fighting chronic inflammation. Yeah, Chronic inflammation is the root cause of everything. More life. It's the root cause of everything in your life and it's the root cause of your nervous system. Your nervous system inflammation. It all connects. Going to the gym seven days a week isn't going to help you. So at the end of the day, it's funny, I have been locked in like the past two months. I looked in the mirror like two weeks ago. I was like, what is going on? I'm literally 10 pounds heavier than I was two months ago. My face is like this, my legs are like this. I feel like I was waking up in the morning and my ankles were swollen. I took two weeks.
• 18:44
  Speaker B: Are you pregnant? Because.
• 18:46
  Speaker C: No, I'm celibate. I'm literally celibate. But no, I. I decided to take two weeks recovery. So I need that only walking and leg compressions, stretching every, you know, 10 pounds of inflammation gone to me.
• 19:03
  Speaker A: Yes.
• 19:03
  Speaker C: Like, I'm eating way less. I will say that I'm eating way less. But food is also like, if you like, I'm just fast for a day because, like clear your body out. But yeah, I, I pay attention to ingredients because I. I'm just so hyper aware now. I know what's going on in our world.
• 19:23
  Speaker A: When you know too much.
• 19:24
  Speaker C: When you know too much, it's. It drives you insane.
• 19:26
  Speaker A: It does.
• 19:27
  Speaker B: Say I'm a huge fan of ignorance is bliss.
• 19:29
  Speaker C: I know nothing a lot of. And you know what? A lot of my friends are. And I kind of wish I was in there.
• 19:33
  Speaker A: Yeah, I know sometimes too.
• 19:34
  Speaker B: To each his own. It's like.
• 19:35
  Speaker A: Yeah, but that's good. So I feel like that gives you a reason to.
• 19:40
  Speaker C: Yeah, so it's true. It was definitely my fibroids and it was also my nervous system. This all connects to my trauma and the way that I acted. You know, I've been healing internally for, for the past three years. Yeah. And it's. It's two years.
• 19:54
  Speaker A: How do you feel right now?
• 19:56
  Speaker C: I feel like I'm in a season. I was in a really bad season of isolation from right around the summer ending to right now.
• 20:04
  Speaker B: Well, seasonal depression.
• 20:05
  Speaker C: Seasonal depression. But I feel like I've been in isolation.
• 20:09
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 20:09
  Speaker C: Truly.
• 20:10
  Speaker A: You just haven't been making plans Like,
• 20:12
  Speaker C: I haven't been making plans. I've been spending a lot of time alone. And even after my relationship ended, I was healing, but I was healing with other people.
• 20:21
  Speaker A: Right?
• 20:21
  Speaker C: I've been healing.
• 20:22
  Speaker B: That's true.
• 20:23
  Speaker C: You know, I've been healing alone for the past, like, eight months, and I feel like the last.
• 20:27
  Speaker B: Are you ready to get back out?
• 20:28
  Speaker C: I am. Like, I. I'm on fire.
• 20:30
  Speaker A: Wanna go on a date?
• 20:30
  Speaker B: You wanna come out?
• 20:33
  Speaker C: I don't know if I'm. I don't know if that's my answer, but I just made a TikTok about this the other day. Like, I'm ready to like, truly step into my purpose. And actually the, the. The start is today. Like, actually getting out there and having a platform to talk about these things.
• 20:49
  Speaker A: I mean, you're so good at it. Like, I'm sitting here on my own podcast listening to you.
• 20:55
  Speaker B: Me too.
• 20:55
  Speaker A: I'm like this. The video is going to be me. Footage of me like this.
• 20:58
  Speaker B: No, at least you're talking.
• 21:00
  Speaker A: I'm just listening.
• 21:02
  Speaker C: Listen. Yeah, no, I'm. I'm ready for that. And I, I don't want to over Godify this, but I do want to take one second. A huge part of my healing journey was finding Jesus.
• 21:19
  Speaker A: And when did that start, if you
• 21:20
  Speaker C: don't mind me asking? Started when my business failed.
• 21:24
  Speaker A: That was like five years ago.
• 21:25
  Speaker C: No, that was 2023. Feels like five years ago.
• 21:27
  Speaker A: Does feel like five years ago.
• 21:29
  Speaker C: Yeah, no, it was. I was getting.
• 21:31
  Speaker B: What was your business?
• 21:32
  Speaker C: I had. I was ahead of operations of my family's restaurant group, and I was building two restaurants and I launched two restaurants and it was.
• 21:40
  Speaker A: It was actually good. I went.
• 21:41
  Speaker C: Yeah, it was the Most. It was three years of tireless work and conceptualizing this rest two restaurants, hiring, staffing. I was in charge of 80 people. Oh, my God. My nervous.
• 21:54
  Speaker A: Just thinking about when I saw you when you were there. You were like, heads down, running back
• 21:58
  Speaker C: out of my mind.
• 21:59
  Speaker A: Out of your mind.
• 22:00
  Speaker C: You know, I don't know why, Because I wasn't supposed to be there. That's not my purpose. I'm good at it. And everything in that, that time of my life looked to the outside like it was wrapped up in a bow.
• 22:12
  Speaker A: Like every you hear a young girl has her shit together starting a business.
• 22:17
  Speaker C: Like, that's NorthJersey.com is asking for my interviewing me, and I'm like, oh, I have it all. I have the money, I have the business. I have it all. Crash, crash, down, crash. And I could not figure out why until the week that it happened. I went to go see my best friend get baptized in the church that I am in now. And I cried the whole time. And I cried because I knew I was surrounded by demons like family members and business. And ever since then, my journey with God has been very rocky, but I finally have found peace. And I think that that is what brings me peace. And everything is knowing that I'm just walking in his plan, not mine. So. And a lot of people aren't gonna understand that, especially people that are close to me and that have known me for 10 years, and they're like, is she a Jesus freak now? Oh, my God, she's a moly roller.
• 23:15
  Speaker A: No, you're probably saying that too, right?
• 23:17
  Speaker C: I'm not. Listen. I'm not. And you believe what?
• 23:20
  Speaker A: Believe what I believe. No judgment comes in.
• 23:22
  Speaker C: Exactly.
• 23:22
  Speaker A: You take what you take from what you want to listen to or what you want to take into exactly life,
• 23:26
  Speaker C: you know, I've had a lot of surprising people reach out to me, being like, hey, like, your faith has. It's inspired me. Like, just curious. And even if you're curious, like, that's just one step closer to freedom, like, truly, like, for yourself. If that's what brings you freedom. It's what brought me freedom. So, you know, and for the past two months, I feel like God's been working heavily in my life. And it's just. It's like it's a new beginning. It's another new beginning. But I do want to say I will never change, like, who I am at my core. I am still, like, Lex. Like, I'm still Lex to my friends. I'm still slick. I still have a smart mouth. I'm still crazy, you know?
• 24:06
  Speaker A: Wait, can I just stop you for a second before we get on this bot? She goes. Because I was explaining, like, trying to explain who you were. And, like, she doesn't know you, but I know you. So, like, I know, like, you to your core. Like, I know you're. Yeah, you're Italian. You. You have a big family. Like, I know all those things. She goes to me. She goes. So, like, does she not curse?
• 24:23
  Speaker B: Oh, my God, that's my.
• 24:25
  Speaker A: I was laughing hysterically.
• 24:28
  Speaker C: I have the. Yeah, no, I was dying. But that's the thing, you know, I don't want anyone to think just because now, like, I do have, like, a. I'm bold in my faith, and I'm gonna continue that. I. I'm not. If anything, I'm changing for the better, but I'll never change. My character. I never have changed my character. I'm. Please, I'm still gonna clock you.
• 24:46
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 24:47
  Speaker C: You know, like, come beat your ass. Yeah. So it's. Yeah, that's what's really carried me through. And that's like, truly the pinnacle of my healing journey right now.
• 24:58
  Speaker A: I love that.
• 24:59
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 24:59
  Speaker A: Love. When health is just wrapped up in a bow like that.
• 25:02
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 25:02
  Speaker A: Love it. Let's dive into.
• 25:04
  Speaker B: Wait. I have one thing to say. I have words for you with you. You said that sushi is a cheat meal.
• 25:12
  Speaker C: It is.
• 25:13
  Speaker A: Wait, explain.
• 25:14
  Speaker C: What do you mean over it? Because I'm devastated.
• 25:17
  Speaker B: No, wait.
• 25:17
  Speaker A: What do you mean?
• 25:18
  Speaker B: Like, sushi is, like, the only meal. And why does it have to wait?
• 25:22
  Speaker A: What do you mean by cheat meal?
• 25:23
  Speaker C: It's a cheat meal.
• 25:24
  Speaker A: It's like a McDonald's.
• 25:25
  Speaker C: It's a treat.
• 25:26
  Speaker B: It's fucked up. You don't want I tell Dom this.
• 25:28
  Speaker C: See, here's the thing.
• 25:29
  Speaker A: I don't even like sushi, but I just started to.
• 25:30
  Speaker C: Can I tell you something? I don't. I don't. With the nigiri. I don't do any of that. I like the rolls.
• 25:37
  Speaker B: Shrimp tempura.
• 25:37
  Speaker C: I like the rolls.
• 25:39
  Speaker A: Like raw fish.
• 25:40
  Speaker C: You want to know, like, when I go out.
• 25:43
  Speaker A: So you're not going to Omasaki?
• 25:44
  Speaker C: Oh, no, I'm getting sushi tonight with all my friends. Listen, when. I love that. When I tell you that when I go to sushi, I get everything. I want to share a bunch of rolls, rice, like shrimp tempura. No, that's not. That's not.
• 25:59
  Speaker B: I mean, fried.
• 26:00
  Speaker C: It's fried.
• 26:01
  Speaker A: I know.
• 26:01
  Speaker C: Who knows what they're frying?
• 26:02
  Speaker A: No, I know. I. I'm started to navigate like salmon and tuna. I'm starting.
• 26:07
  Speaker C: Yeah, she.
• 26:08
  Speaker B: Yeah, you're.
• 26:09
  Speaker A: I'm cheating.
• 26:10
  Speaker B: Dabbling.
• 26:10
  Speaker C: Yeah, it's okay now when I.
• 26:12
  Speaker B: She still does it. I'm just saying it was funny that I was cracking.
• 26:15
  Speaker C: Also, people that think I don't eat bad. Please, like, rearrange your thoughts because, like, I am a carb queen. I love carbs. I stay away from, like, anything bad for you as much as I can, but please, I am.
• 26:27
  Speaker A: No, you'll get a bagel sometimes on Sunday morning.
• 26:30
  Speaker C: I haven't had a bagel in a
• 26:31
  Speaker A: while, but actually I have not a bagel.
• 26:34
  Speaker C: That's the gluten in me, though.
• 26:35
  Speaker A: Are you a sourdough girly or not?
• 26:37
  Speaker C: No.
• 26:37
  Speaker A: Yeah, I just had sourdough pasta, so
• 26:39
  Speaker C: I saw you send me a picture of that. I want to try that.
• 26:42
  Speaker A: Delicious.
• 26:42
  Speaker C: Yeah. No, if If I could live on a farm and grow my own food, I would. But again, we're in the matrix, not going to have a game. Yeah.
• 26:51
  Speaker A: Anyway, I'm like so curious enough about health and McDonald's and sushi. I'm so curious. Like I want to dive into. I'm always diving. I feel like just being single in your 30s, I want to dive into that. And then we'll wrap up with like a little game and we'll close this out. But tell me a little bit about being single in your thirt. What's it like?
• 27:10
  Speaker B: Well, she kind of talks about dating.
• 27:12
  Speaker C: I am. I love life.
• 27:14
  Speaker B: Like, you got nothing to worry about. You said you're celibate. Are you celibate for a reason or you were just kind of joking?
• 27:19
  Speaker C: I will.
• 27:19
  Speaker A: I do love having sex, though.
• 27:21
  Speaker C: She just said she's. But like not with the wrong person.
• 27:24
  Speaker A: Yeah, right. That's. This is, this is why I asked that question. Because I feel like, and I'm not trying to say this in a bad way, I like having intercourse with a man that I. That that's why I can't do casual because then I'm.
• 27:38
  Speaker C: I'll never do casual.
• 27:39
  Speaker B: Well, yeah, but I feel like.
• 27:40
  Speaker A: What about you? Could you just have.
• 27:42
  Speaker B: Oh, no, if I was single, I'd be of more.
• 27:44
  Speaker C: I love that for you.
• 27:45
  Speaker A: I love that for you.
• 27:46
  Speaker B: I mean, I would try. I think, I think having a one night stand seems so fun. Like going out, not knowing this person.
• 27:52
  Speaker A: My husband was a one night stand.
• 27:54
  Speaker B: Like that sounds so fun.
• 27:55
  Speaker A: First night I met him, slept with him and then we just.
• 27:58
  Speaker B: It was a one night stand that lasted five years.
• 28:01
  Speaker C: But like sometimes that's the way, you know, like that's just also.
• 28:04
  Speaker B: I'm talking from somebody who's never done that.
• 28:06
  Speaker C: No, not. Do you need time? No, I. Single in your 30s? Well, I am the worst person to ask because I have not been on a date and I can't even tell you.
• 28:17
  Speaker A: But I kind of love that for you.
• 28:18
  Speaker C: Yeah, I do too. Because I spent so many years of my life like truly making men the center of my life and I have no interest. I have noticed as a 34 year old making young ones. Yeah, they love me like the 27, 28.
• 28:40
  Speaker B: For those of you watching who haven't seen her like without a shirt on,
• 28:43
  Speaker A: go check out her TikTok because I
• 28:45
  Speaker B: would know a couple 20 year olds.
• 28:47
  Speaker C: No, the 20. And it's weird because any like 35 year old that like hits me up if we talk for Like a minute.
• 28:53
  Speaker B: I feel like you need like a. I feel like you need an older guy.
• 28:56
  Speaker C: Wait, but so this is. I always liked young, so age is odd to me because I always thought, like, I need an older guy. The older guys are the worst. I mean, they are like. I don't really know what I want. The 27, 28, 29, they're ready to get married. Yeah. They're not jaded yet. Yeah, but they're.
• 29:12
  Speaker A: I kind of agree with that.
• 29:13
  Speaker C: Yeah, but also.
• 29:14
  Speaker B: So you'd be fine being like a cougar.
• 29:16
  Speaker C: Yeah, it depends who. Very, very much depends who. But here's the thing then. No, I know, but I also feel like I always. People are shocked when they find out my age. They are like, you're.
• 29:29
  Speaker A: I can't figure out your age. I like, you tested to me. I had to go back on my text. Like, I don't know her age.
• 29:33
  Speaker C: Every sing guy that I meet that's younger than me and I tell them my age, they're like, yeah.
• 29:38
  Speaker B: I mean, yeah, like it's 34. Scary age if you're 25.
• 29:42
  Speaker C: Yeah, no, they're, they're just, they're disturbed. I actually, over the summer, one guy asked to see my license now, I
• 29:48
  Speaker B: mean, picture of 24, 25 year old guy meeting a successful 34, 35 year old woman. Intimidating, like.
• 29:55
  Speaker A: But I also imagine a mature like 27 year old. I kind of love it.
• 30:00
  Speaker C: No, I know.
• 30:01
  Speaker A: No, they do, they do, they do finance.
• 30:03
  Speaker C: Yeah. No, so I've noticed the young guys are more like. They come at you more. I just like, I don't know.
• 30:13
  Speaker A: I mean, do it. Who needs a shit?
• 30:15
  Speaker C: No, I do need to go on.
• 30:16
  Speaker A: Did you ever go on dating apps?
• 30:17
  Speaker C: No, I was on Raya. You were? Yeah.
• 30:20
  Speaker A: Wait, don't you have to get accepted into Raya?
• 30:22
  Speaker C: Yeah, it was the most like, she's accepting personality. It's not, it's. I was on Raya. I go on Hinge for. I was on Hinge last year for like 48 hours. I almost threw up. I was actually shocked.
• 30:35
  Speaker A: I want that to be our episode title. I was on his for 40 hours.
• 30:40
  Speaker C: No, I almost threw up. I deleted immediately. But yeah, the one guy on Raya, this one guy, he DM me and
• 30:48
  Speaker A: he goes, he explained Raya to the viewers.
• 30:51
  Speaker C: Raya is the elite. Toxic.
• 30:53
  Speaker B: But it's an elite date.
• 30:55
  Speaker C: It's not elite at all.
• 30:56
  Speaker A: You have to be famous though.
• 30:57
  Speaker C: Yeah, there's firemen on that app now.
• 30:59
  Speaker A: Please, fireman.
• 31:00
  Speaker C: No, I can't shout out to the fireman. Shout out to the fireman. But I'm saying, like, everyone thinks rye's for, like, CEOs, and it's not, so.
• 31:09
  Speaker B: So is there one like that, though, that is really for the elite. Elite.
• 31:12
  Speaker C: They're trying to make them, and I just, like, think they're all dupes of each other.
• 31:15
  Speaker B: Dupes.
• 31:16
  Speaker C: So.
• 31:16
  Speaker A: Such a dupe.
• 31:17
  Speaker C: One guy, Raya, DM me, and he goes, I love your vibe. I just can't figure out if you're Sporty Spice or Posh Spice. And I said, I literally, he's, like, the only guy I messaged back. I was like, like, wait, I am both. Like, that is me. Like, I think if you were to describe me, I am a hybrid of Sporty Spice and Posh Spice.
• 31:41
  Speaker B: So why didn't you Guy with that guy.
• 31:44
  Speaker A: Goodbye.
• 31:45
  Speaker C: I said, thank you for giving me a description of myself that I'm gonna carry with me for the rest of my life.
• 31:49
  Speaker A: Instagram bio.
• 31:50
  Speaker C: But literally. Yeah, so that was. That was my experience with Raya. Yeah. I think I'm definitely gonna be ready to start dating soon.
• 32:00
  Speaker A: But again, taking applications soon.
• 32:03
  Speaker C: Everyone try. People try to set me up every day. They're like, lexi, I'm like, no.
• 32:06
  Speaker B: I mean, you're absolutely a catch.
• 32:08
  Speaker C: Yeah. Thank you. I appreciate that. I just think, like, it'll happen. Can we meet in a grocery store? I know. Like, reaching for.
• 32:16
  Speaker A: You know, it's funny. I know. But I thought it didn't happen. I was like, I'm always gonna marry someone I know, and I'm gonna be set up. And I met the guy next door,
• 32:26
  Speaker C: and I love that. I love your story.
• 32:28
  Speaker A: I really do. So I just feel like it does happen. It will happen if it's meant to happen.
• 32:32
  Speaker C: Exactly. Exactly. When I tell you I'm not worried, I'm just.
• 32:36
  Speaker A: You don't look worried.
• 32:37
  Speaker C: No.
• 32:38
  Speaker B: You seem cool as a cute girl.
• 32:40
  Speaker A: I do have a question, though, so just to, like, tie it into the moms watching.
• 32:44
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 32:45
  Speaker A: Say, like, you have this, like, error that jumps out at you that you want to become a mom. You're like, I'm ready. Would you become a mom without a significant other?
• 32:58
  Speaker C: Wow.
• 32:59
  Speaker A: Take your. Your embryos.
• 33:01
  Speaker C: Wow.
• 33:02
  Speaker A: With sperm that you find.
• 33:04
  Speaker B: Have you frozen eggs?
• 33:05
  Speaker C: No, I've never been on birth control.
• 33:06
  Speaker A: Embryos. Did I say that right? Take embryos.
• 33:08
  Speaker B: Well, no, you freeze your eggs and
• 33:09
  Speaker A: then freeze your eggs, but you take your embryo.
• 33:11
  Speaker B: Well, you need a sperm to make an embryo.
• 33:13
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 33:13
  Speaker A: I'm saying. So you freeze your eggs. Would you ever freeze your Eggs and take your embryo, find a sperm and just have a baby without anybody.
• 33:20
  Speaker C: I literally thought, would you ever do that?
• 33:21
  Speaker B: You could pick a 6, 5 guy from his birthday.
• 33:25
  Speaker C: I' I've thought about it, and at first I was like, I really want to do that, but do I want to have that response? I want a family.
• 33:36
  Speaker A: I know.
• 33:36
  Speaker C: You know, I want. I want a family, and I want. I, I am not a feminist. I'll be honest. Like, I'm not. I want a man to lead my house and my children. And me. I do.
• 33:47
  Speaker A: I said that, too, because I feel like you could become a mom. She could be a mom on her own. Not that she doesn't need a family. She has a great family. I'm saying you could be that. I feel like I need a family to have a hit.
• 33:58
  Speaker C: Here's, here's the thing.
• 33:59
  Speaker A: Does that make sense?
• 34:00
  Speaker C: I'm an alpha personality.
• 34:02
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 34:02
  Speaker C: Like, I could, I could have six kids and be fine.
• 34:04
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 34:04
  Speaker C: Like, by myself. I really could. I think all women can.
• 34:07
  Speaker A: Totally.
• 34:07
  Speaker C: Absolutely.
• 34:08
  Speaker A: It's. If you want to.
• 34:09
  Speaker C: Right. Do I want to? I don't. I don't know. I, I genuine. I am so honed in on having a family unit and, like, a healthy father figure.
• 34:20
  Speaker B: I agree.
• 34:20
  Speaker C: So that's, that's single mom.
• 34:22
  Speaker A: So single mom wouldn't be an option
• 34:23
  Speaker C: for you to do it on my own like that. If I, I, if I got pregnant by somebody, I'm keeping the baby, so. Yeah. Stay away from me. Yeah. But, you know, it's.
• 34:33
  Speaker B: It wouldn't be, like, a thing that you would choose.
• 34:35
  Speaker C: I don't think so. I think it wouldn't be my purpose in life. I agree.
• 34:40
  Speaker A: Would you do that?
• 34:41
  Speaker B: I mean, I. It'd be really hard to picture the scenario, but I think I know it is. If I got into my later 30s and I didn't have a man, like, all I want in life is to be a mom.
• 34:50
  Speaker C: And you know what? I think you having kids, like, has changed your perspective. You can't imagine life without.
• 34:57
  Speaker B: Exactly. That is your purpose.
• 34:58
  Speaker C: Your purpose is to be a mom.
• 34:59
  Speaker B: Right. So it's hard to say, but I, but I do see women that do that and, like, all the power to them, but it would. It does make the family unit not what we expect as a family.
• 35:10
  Speaker C: Yeah. I, you know, and I. It's not even just for me. Oh, of course. Everyone wants a partner, but I want my kids.
• 35:17
  Speaker B: Your kids have a father.
• 35:19
  Speaker C: Yeah. That's so important. I mean, my dad and I, we go like this. We're the same person. But, you know, I. I picture my life without my dad sometimes. And I, you know, I feel for those people that don't have a dad because, you know, as much as me and my dad could truly rip each other's hair out, I don't. I don't picture a life without my dad, so.
• 35:40
  Speaker A: Yeah, and that's how you grew up. That's kind of like all you know. I agree totally. So I feel like, just to wrap this up, what has your 30s taught you so far? And what boundaries do you have now that you didn't have in your 20s?
• 35:52
  Speaker C: This is a question because I was boundaryless. I had no boundaries, nothing. I was the yes man to everything. And I still, you know, but I've. My 30s have taught me just that. To have those boundaries and to really protect your peace. Who's around you, who supports you? Protect what?
• 36:17
  Speaker A: You.
• 36:17
  Speaker B: I can't.
• 36:18
  Speaker A: Sorry not to interrupt you. I can't believe you feel this way and you haven't, like, separated yourself from people. Yeah, like, I feel like I have in a way.
• 36:26
  Speaker C: You know, I don't go to certain things anymore. I don't hang out.
• 36:30
  Speaker A: Okay, so you remove yourself without involving the other person.
• 36:33
  Speaker B: Also, I feel like it's taken her a lot of years.
• 36:35
  Speaker A: Yeah, true.
• 36:35
  Speaker B: To just be so comfortable in your own and you know, you know what? You know you are a woman now, right. That you might have not been years ago. That you know exactly what you need and what you want.
• 36:46
  Speaker C: Right. And you know, like I said, people from my past and people have known me for a while. They probably have an idea of me that she's always doing something. She's always changing. She's always. She's flip flopping around. Like, what is she doing now? Like, you know, and what I have to say to those people is we are not on the same path.
• 37:06
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 37:06
  Speaker C: I love your path. I respect your path. But the boundary is we're not on the same one. And I love you and I support you. Do the same for me.
• 37:16
  Speaker A: Yeah, do the same for me.
• 37:17
  Speaker C: Do the same for me. That's really what it is.
• 37:19
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 37:19
  Speaker B: I love that.
• 37:20
  Speaker C: That I'm gonna fail ten more times.
• 37:21
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 37:22
  Speaker C: Just to let you know, but in small ways. Because I know, like, what's coming for me, I think is. Is it and, you know, I just have to believe in that. And if it's not, it's the next thing.
• 37:33
  Speaker B: Yeah, I agree.
• 37:34
  Speaker A: I love that.
• 37:35
  Speaker C: Imagine being this nonchalant and not worried me.
• 37:38
  Speaker A: That's why I live where I Live.
• 37:39
  Speaker C: I'm like, I don't give a shit. But also like, I could get hit by a car tomorrow. God forbid.
• 37:43
  Speaker A: God forbid what? Right? People need to realize we talk about this all the time. You have to, you just have to live on your and, and forget the outside noise and just live on your path and support others and be happy for others. Then you'll be happy for yourself.
• 37:55
  Speaker C: Yeah, I know. Yeah, so that's that.
• 37:59
  Speaker A: I love that.
• 38:00
  Speaker C: Boundaries.
• 38:00
  Speaker A: Makes me feel good. Boundaries. Let's play a game.
• 38:02
  Speaker C: Yes.
• 38:03
  Speaker A: Mom advice for single girl advice. So the scenario's gonna be something like your friend says, my boyfriend didn't text me back all day. And then it would be like, what would Lex say? Yeah, okay, so let's use that one.
• 38:16
  Speaker B: Yeah, you got that?
• 38:17
  Speaker C: Yeah. You understand? Okay.
• 38:19
  Speaker A: My boyfriend didn't text me back all day. What would you respond to your friend?
• 38:23
  Speaker C: Where the hell is he?
• 38:24
  Speaker A: Where the hell is he? So you would say like, so, so you as a single girl, advice, you would say, where the hell is he?
• 38:29
  Speaker C: Where? I would ask her, where the hell is he? She'd tell me, he's been at the gym all day. I'd say, bullshit. Don't say another word.
• 38:40
  Speaker A: Uh huh. We're going.
• 38:42
  Speaker C: No, we're going.
• 38:43
  Speaker A: Not going to the gym.
• 38:44
  Speaker C: So 20, 22 year old Lexi would be at the dock. Oh, I'd be in the parking lot. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I've done that.
• 38:53
  Speaker B: So you have a little crazy girl energy in you that you've done this.
• 38:56
  Speaker C: I was with, I was with a psycho. I became a psycho. Don't you know when you're with a psycho, you become a psycho?
• 39:01
  Speaker B: I don't know.
• 39:02
  Speaker A: Yeah, you don't. You become a psycho.
• 39:04
  Speaker C: I, I thank God I married a very. I love that, I love that family. No, I was, I was with a psycho, so I became a psycho. But now my advice to you, and this is my advice to girls that are in that psycho relationship, don't say a word. Wait for him to say something. Wait for him to say something. Approach the situation completely calm.
• 39:23
  Speaker B: You're telling girls that are in that,
• 39:24
  Speaker C: do not outsmart them.
• 39:26
  Speaker A: Outsmart them. So I feel like from a mom perspective, because we're doing mom advice versus
• 39:30
  Speaker B: single girl advice, I'd be like, honey, he's probably working.
• 39:34
  Speaker A: You wouldn't even bat.
• 39:35
  Speaker C: Oh my God, I have trauma.
• 39:36
  Speaker A: No, you wouldn't even bat an eye.
• 39:38
  Speaker B: Yeah, right. But also I think it does come from like, like perspective.
• 39:42
  Speaker A: Like I would say, he's working.
• 39:43
  Speaker B: Yeah, right.
• 39:44
  Speaker A: And you would be like, Block him and don't say a word.
• 39:46
  Speaker C: I wouldn't even say block him. I'd say, don't say another word. Call him, whatever. Don't say a word. Approach it calmly.
• 39:52
  Speaker A: Okay, what about he likes another girl's photo?
• 39:55
  Speaker C: What? Like it.
• 39:57
  Speaker A: I don't even know if my husband's on Instagram, so my husband's not. So I would say I probably didn't
• 40:02
  Speaker C: see your husband even post the thing. No, no, that's great.
• 40:06
  Speaker B: They repost.
• 40:07
  Speaker C: I mean, listen, when you're in a relationship and you're doing that, what are you doing? Truly?
• 40:12
  Speaker A: Yeah, I agree.
• 40:13
  Speaker C: That's what I'd say. I'd be like, what is he doing? What is he getting out of that?
• 40:18
  Speaker B: So you. You are an influencer. Would you want to be with another influencer?
• 40:23
  Speaker A: Oh, my God.
• 40:24
  Speaker C: This is so.
• 40:24
  Speaker B: Absolutely not.
• 40:26
  Speaker C: But.
• 40:26
  Speaker B: But he might align with you going to the gym, doing all the things,
• 40:30
  Speaker A: being on camera with you.
• 40:31
  Speaker B: But then he might also like a lot of girls.
• 40:33
  Speaker A: My husband rather die than do a tick tock with me, but I force him to because, I mean, we're funny.
• 40:36
  Speaker B: Remember when he made my husband do one?
• 40:38
  Speaker A: Yeah. He was good, though, though.
• 40:39
  Speaker C: So the girl that wants to live on a farm and grow her own food wants.
• 40:43
  Speaker A: No, you want to be robbed from Love Island.
• 40:46
  Speaker C: Like, I literally want that. But reality, I don't think it's compatible. Yeah, I don't think it would be compatible for me to be with somebody that isn't pre. Isn't present on social media.
• 40:58
  Speaker B: Yeah, I agree.
• 41:01
  Speaker C: I hate it. But like, do I. I know, because
• 41:04
  Speaker A: it's like you're almost talking about your mouth.
• 41:05
  Speaker C: It's going to. It's always going to depend on the person.
• 41:08
  Speaker B: Also. Yeah. Like, I feel like there are, let's just say, like celebr. Like some celebrities, marriages that actually fudgeing work are there. One person's a celebrity and the other one is a Joe Schmo.
• 41:18
  Speaker C: Yeah, right. And then there's people that are both influencers, both. Both out there that literally drive each other and support each other. Yeah, it depends on.
• 41:26
  Speaker A: Depends. It does. It all matters.
• 41:27
  Speaker C: Their morals and what they preach on social media. If it's also going to depend on
• 41:32
  Speaker B: what they preach on social media.
• 41:34
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 41:34
  Speaker B: Okay. That's a good answer.
• 41:36
  Speaker A: Okay, so we're both going to answer these single. And then, mom, he canceled plans last minute. So as a. If your husband cancels plans last minute.
• 41:45
  Speaker B: Oh, we're talking about. Our husband's doing it. I was thinking about as a mom, like my Daughter coming to me like, oh, that's canceled. I don't know. That's just how I was thinking of it. I don't know.
• 41:54
  Speaker A: Oh, I was thinking like mom advice. Oh, no.
• 41:56
  Speaker C: I don't know.
• 41:56
  Speaker A: What do you think? How we should be thinking of it? Like, I'm thinking like single girl advice and then mom advice. Oh, I guess you're right. Like mom advice.
• 42:05
  Speaker C: I think we've been doing it her way the whole time.
• 42:07
  Speaker A: Okay.
• 42:07
  Speaker C: We have. I have.
• 42:08
  Speaker A: Thank God I'm not fucking paying attention.
• 42:10
  Speaker B: Like, if my daughter came to me and like, she had this date.
• 42:13
  Speaker A: Yeah. She was like, mom advice. Yeah.
• 42:14
  Speaker B: She was like, mom, he just canceled. I'll be like, all right. Like, let's go to the movies, me and you.
• 42:18
  Speaker A: Like, yeah, we're gonna go. Yeah. Okay. What would you say?
• 42:22
  Speaker C: Be canceled last minute.
• 42:24
  Speaker A: I don't think I would care. Being single, like, good.
• 42:26
  Speaker C: I want to stay home.
• 42:26
  Speaker A: I just don't.
• 42:27
  Speaker B: No. But maybe you were so excited for the date.
• 42:29
  Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, like, I would just be
• 42:31
  Speaker B: like, you would be calling me hysterically.
• 42:33
  Speaker C: I'd be questioning it.
• 42:34
  Speaker A: But also, like, I would never talk to him again, though.
• 42:36
  Speaker C: Yeah, same.
• 42:37
  Speaker A: That's my problem.
• 42:37
  Speaker C: I just like, don't. I'd be like, all right, next.
• 42:40
  Speaker A: Yeah. You know, I would do the same thing.
• 42:41
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 42:41
  Speaker A: He. He's not ready for a relationship. That's it, honey. Then move on. That's what I would say.
• 42:47
  Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah. I'd say he's absolutely not.
• 42:49
  Speaker A: So we're kind of on the same page here.
• 42:50
  Speaker B: If he doesn't want you, then.
• 42:51
  Speaker C: Oh, no, find someone else. When he tells you and shows you exactly who he is and what they want, listen to him the first time.
• 43:01
  Speaker A: And I feel like I.
• 43:02
  Speaker C: Something I never did.
• 43:03
  Speaker A: I would think single advice would be different than mom advice, but we're kind of on the same page.
• 43:06
  Speaker B: Well, you know why? Because she's now a sophisticated.
• 43:09
  Speaker A: Yeah. Mature.
• 43:10
  Speaker B: Mature. We're not interviewing 22 year old Lexi. Yeah.
• 43:14
  Speaker C: Wow. That would be. If I'd answer that question as 22 year old Lexi, I'd be like, he is. If you try harder, he is. If you can make you. He'll love you more. Yeah, like, please. Oh, my God.
• 43:26
  Speaker B: Sing.
• 43:27
  Speaker C: Poor thing.
• 43:28
  Speaker A: I love this. I don't want it to end, but we need to end. This is going on seven hours.
• 43:32
  Speaker B: Our husbands are going to kill us.
• 43:34
  Speaker A: You're. Our husbands are meaning mine. So I just need to ask you this question. What advice would you give women who feel like they're behind in life this is a huge one for anybody who comes to me. Me for advice. So I need to know, for the ones who come to you, go ahead, make it strong. Make it loud.
• 43:53
  Speaker C: My God. I feel like, to wrap it up, you're never behind.
• 43:58
  Speaker A: Never.
• 43:58
  Speaker C: Like. And I'm gonna say that confidently, and I'm not gonna take the easy way out on this question. You are not behind. You have just not aligned with your purpose yet. And I keep saying the word purpose because a lot of people that feel behind aren't stepping into what they truly want out of life. They're stepping into what they think they should have because of everyone else. They're stepping into what they were told they should have, and they're not doing what's truly sitting in here. And that's why you're behind, but you're not actually behind.
• 44:32
  Speaker A: So if someone's listening, going through a heartbreak or healing or just trying to figure life out, what would you tell them?
• 44:39
  Speaker C: Oh, my God, it gets so much better. If they're in a heartbreak right now
• 44:43
  Speaker A: and healing and try to figuring. Try to figure life out, what would you tell them?
• 44:50
  Speaker C: You're never gonna stop healing. It's actually never ending, which a lot of people use the word I'm healed. You're not.
• 44:59
  Speaker A: You're never healing.
• 45:00
  Speaker C: You're never. You're never. You're never healed. You're always healing.
• 45:03
  Speaker A: That would be the one thing you would tell them.
• 45:05
  Speaker C: Yeah, you're always healing. And it. It's gonna go through. You're gonna go through waves. You're gonna go through maybe a couple months where you're like, I feel great. Yeah, I'm done. I'm out of the woods.
• 45:15
  Speaker B: And then something.
• 45:16
  Speaker C: And then it's gonna hit you again. And it's gonna hit you in a way where it's like, wait, why is this happening to me again? Or like, what did I do to deserve this again? I have to. This is another lesson. Yeah. That's life. Every single thing that happens is lesson.
• 45:33
  Speaker A: I agree.
• 45:33
  Speaker C: You know, So I love that. Yes. But the only way you're not gonna sit in woe is me is if you shift your perspective.
• 45:41
  Speaker A: And what would that be?
• 45:42
  Speaker C: Shift everything that I just talked about. Why are you. Why are you not forgiving? Why are you bitter? Why are you looking at everyone else?
• 45:50
  Speaker A: So stop saying, why is this happening to me?
• 45:53
  Speaker C: Stop. Yeah, like this happened.
• 45:56
  Speaker A: You hear that?
• 45:56
  Speaker B: It's like, listen up. You have to redo your mind. Right?
• 45:59
  Speaker C: You literally have to. To. You have to reprogram and. Which I. It Took me a couple years to do that. I was not this person even last year. I takes time.
• 46:08
  Speaker A: Time heals all. I feel honestly.
• 46:11
  Speaker B: Thank you.
• 46:12
  Speaker A: Very well said.
• 46:13
  Speaker B: And thank you for coming on and being so open and so honest. And I really thank moms listening. Not moms listening, dads, anyone who's out there. You have hit a. I don't know, a chord. What's going on?
• 46:27
  Speaker A: Yeah, you hit a chord in their.
• 46:29
  Speaker B: You're relatable.
• 46:30
  Speaker A: You are changed. Whether it's one thing you said or multiple things you said.
• 46:34
  Speaker C: I hope so. And I don't care.
• 46:35
  Speaker A: I believe that.
• 46:36
  Speaker C: I don't care if a hundred people see this.
• 46:37
  Speaker B: Yeah, I agree.
• 46:38
  Speaker A: 100 people. Like you just said in the beginning of this episode. It matters.
• 46:42
  Speaker C: It matters.
• 46:43
  Speaker A: And I just need to know what's in store for Lex next.
• 46:46
  Speaker C: Wow. So everything we just talked about, really, you asking me to be on this podcast at this time of my life is so weird. Just like true divine timing. Because for the past three months I have been writing a book.
• 47:01
  Speaker A: Shut the up.
• 47:02
  Speaker C: Yeah. You're kidding. Yeah.
• 47:05
  Speaker B: How does one even do that?
• 47:06
  Speaker A: No, I don't even know to own it.
• 47:08
  Speaker B: I have a lot of thoughts.
• 47:09
  Speaker C: I don't know. I honestly started on my notes app, on my phone, just writing down my thoughts and I. I figured so many people asked me for advice, so many people asked me so many questions. I'm just gonna put it together.
• 47:21
  Speaker A: What are you calling this book?
• 47:22
  Speaker C: It's called to be Seen.
• 47:26
  Speaker A: I can't wait to read it.
• 47:27
  Speaker C: It's about be like growing up as an eldest daughter and like it's about being an eldest daughter, how that shaped me, Nervous system reset, toxic relationships, finding love, health and. Well, it lit everything that we just talked about in a book. It is stories and it's my life, but it also has self help aspects and I bring in complete like lessons like I'm. The point is of the book is for the reader to feel seen. And I want them to read and be like, oh my God, someone I can relate to. I like, I felt that before. It's kind of just like a bible for everybody else. Like this is, this is how you deal with breakups and things like that. So it's really my advice. It's half self help book, half journal, half, you know, it's not your typical self help.
• 48:23
  Speaker A: I love reading real like that. I'm so excited. I'm so excited for you. That's amazing.
• 48:28
  Speaker C: It's hard. I mean like sometimes my brain literally shuts off, but I think it's listen. I don't care about being on New York Times. Bestseller. I'm not an author. No one run to your go. Don't group text your friends and be like, she thinks she's a author now. That's not what this is. I'm literally putting in. So disgusting. I'm literally putting a link in my, like, bio. Just, like, my ebook. If you want to read it. Yeah. Read it.
• 48:52
  Speaker A: Like, I love that.
• 48:52
  Speaker C: Yeah. So that's that. If. If. I mean, 10 people buy it. Great.
• 48:55
  Speaker A: Your words are.
• 48:56
  Speaker B: They're. They're empowering. And if you can get that out on paper and people can read that, I think you will help someone somewhere.
• 49:03
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 49:03
  Speaker A: That's my. I love that. I'm so happy for you.
• 49:05
  Speaker C: Thank you.
• 49:06
  Speaker B: Yay.
• 49:06
  Speaker A: Well, we can wrap this shit up because Lexi's writing a book. Thank you for coming to Mama.
• 49:10
  Speaker C: Crap.
• 49:11
  Speaker A: This was amazing. I don't want to end, but we gotta end.
• 49:15
  Speaker B: We got content to do.
• 49:16
  Speaker A: Thank you for listening. We love you. This is Lex Delerma, everybody.
• 49:19
  Speaker C: You will see more of me.
• 49:20
  Speaker A: See you next time.
• 49:21
  Speaker C: Bye.
• 49:22
  Speaker B: Bye.
• 49:23
  Speaker A: Hey.