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We Are Family... · Billy & Lisa in the Morning: The After Show

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  Speaker 1: Oh boy, we have programming changes on the after Show podcast.
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  Speaker 1: What up? Everybody? Justin here? Welcome to a Tuesday, the
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  Speaker 1: Tuesday edition of the After Show podcast. Thank you so
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  Speaker 1: much for being here. We had some guests planned Power
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  Speaker 1: of Recovery, my boys, Maddie and Damon, but they had
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  Speaker 1: to cancel last minute. Not sure why. I think everything's okay.
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  Speaker 1: They just have to push back another week. I get it.
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  Speaker 1: They're very busy. There's a lot of things going on
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  Speaker 1: in their world. Seriously, there really is. Like i'll give
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  Speaker 1: you an example one a second. But yeah, they ended
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  Speaker 1: up canceling or just rescheduling to next week. So all questions, talkbacks,
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  Speaker 1: comments for them, please keep them coming. They'll be back
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  Speaker 1: next Tuesday. But here's the stinky part. And I don't
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  Speaker 1: blame Maddie and damer. It's not their fault. They had
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  Speaker 1: no idea about this. Billy is on his way right
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  Speaker 1: now to film his TV show Meet Boston, and he's
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  Speaker 1: doing it with Donnie Wahlberg because Donnie's in town filming
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  Speaker 1: Boston Blue season two, and he set it up so
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  Speaker 1: his TV production crew is going whereon Blue is filming
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  Speaker 1: at the prew and so Donnie's gonna take a break
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  Speaker 1: and then jump on Billy's TV show in the middle
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  Speaker 1: of filming his TV show, and it's gonna be really cool.
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  Speaker 1: So last week, Billy's like, do you want to come?
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like, yeah, of course, And of course I
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  Speaker 1: text Jen because she's a huge, huge New Kids fan,
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  Speaker 1: but she's working, so I was like, Okay, well, I'll
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  Speaker 1: just go, and then I realized I had the podcast,
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  Speaker 1: I had Maddie and Damon coming in, so I said
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  Speaker 1: to Bill, I can't go. He's like, okay, no problem,
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  Speaker 1: and then they canceled right when Billy left, like he left,
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  Speaker 1: and then they ended up canceling, So it's all good.
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  Speaker 1: I've met Donnie before, great dude. I really just wanted
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  Speaker 1: to watch how it was all gonna go down, honestly.
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  Speaker 1: You know the set. I want to see the set
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  Speaker 1: of Boston Blue because I've never seen a set up close,
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  Speaker 1: a movie set. I think, yeah, I never have, So
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to go see what the set look like
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  Speaker 1: and see everybody and then see how Donnie jumps to Billy.
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  Speaker 1: It's just gonna be really cool. So hopefully tomorrow we'll
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  Speaker 1: get the recap on what went down at the filming,
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  Speaker 1: So that's cool. What else? What else? What else? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's gonna be a beautiful day today that the sky
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  Speaker 1: is blue. The weather yesterday it was so weird. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know where you are listening to this, but it
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  Speaker 1: was raining, it was stormy. Then all of a sudden
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  Speaker 1: it dried up. It got sunny out for a little while,
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  Speaker 1: and then it went back to raining. Very very bizarre.
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  Speaker 1: But the weekend looks really really nice, and it's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be a big weekend for me. Actually, I have a
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  Speaker 1: family party on Saturday. That's gonna be cool for a
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  Speaker 1: family member. I think it's a surprise, so I can't
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  Speaker 1: say not that it matters. But and then Sunday we
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  Speaker 1: have the stoop Dating event with Zeb and I, which
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  Speaker 1: I hope you're coming to. That's gonna be really really fun.
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  Speaker 1: It's at the Tall Ships and East Boston. It's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be a workout class and then the stoop Dating and
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  Speaker 1: Caroline Kepnis. A lot of stuff going on, and Zeb's coming,
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  Speaker 1: I believe he said he was. I have to check
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  Speaker 1: in with him this week. So we're gonna go and
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  Speaker 1: work out and then basically hang out and watch the
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  Speaker 1: stoop Dating and hang out with all of you. So
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  Speaker 1: if you want to go, it's free event. We asked
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  Speaker 1: that you sign up for it. Go to kiss oneweight
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  Speaker 1: dot com. I'll go to Lisa's instagram Lisa Dono Been
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  Speaker 1: Won await and sign up so we know how many
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  Speaker 1: people are coming because there potentially could be a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people there. So whether you work out or not,
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  Speaker 1: come and whether you are dating and looking for love
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  Speaker 1: or not. If you're married, come, bring a friend. It's
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  Speaker 1: gonna be a really great event. But the family party
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  Speaker 1: on Saturday, I'm looking forward to. You know that my
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  Speaker 1: mother's side of the family, I don't get to see
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  Speaker 1: that often. We used to have these crazy family parties
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  Speaker 1: a lot, like all the time. But then the kids
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  Speaker 1: grew up right, So it's actually a very interesting story.
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  Speaker 1: So my mom had ten brothers and sisters? Was it ten?
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  Speaker 1: So my uncle Bill passed away years ago. She had
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  Speaker 1: a brother of the past and then a sister that passed,
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  Speaker 1: but she had ten brothers and sisters. I think it's ten.
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  Speaker 1: Is it ten? Anyway? So they grew up in Medford
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  Speaker 1: and then they grew up in the Hall, had kids, right,
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  Speaker 1: and by chance, all of the kids from all of
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  Speaker 1: the siblings were all born in groups. Okay, so you
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  Speaker 1: had two at the top that were born the same
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  Speaker 1: year I forget what year, nineteen eighty one or something.
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  Speaker 1: And then the next group was my cousins and I
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  Speaker 1: there was four of us for five of us born
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  Speaker 1: in the same year. Then there was the next group
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  Speaker 1: a few born in the same year. Then my brothers
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  Speaker 1: group born in the same year. So a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: the cousins all grew up in packs. There were actually
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  Speaker 1: there were no like people outside of their age group
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  Speaker 1: or the year that they were born. It's very interesting.
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  Speaker 1: So we grew up very tight, all of the cousins
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  Speaker 1: very close. It was. It was amazing. And then obviously
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  Speaker 1: my grandmother and grandfather, you know, my mom's parents, they
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  Speaker 1: passed away and the kids grew up and now we
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  Speaker 1: have a ton of other new cousins, second cousins. You know,
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  Speaker 1: we grew up and we all had kids, and so
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  Speaker 1: we don't get together that often, probably every couple of years.
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  Speaker 1: But growing up we got together a lot, including the
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  Speaker 1: annual Christmas party. So this goes way back. Every Christmas
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  Speaker 1: we'd have a big grab. It used to be in
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  Speaker 1: Winthrop at my grandparents' house they lived after they sold
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  Speaker 1: their house in Medford or wherever. They moved to Winthrop
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  Speaker 1: to kind of like a high rise and they had
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  Speaker 1: a wreck room a party room at the very top
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  Speaker 1: and Winthrop overlooking the water beautiful. So we used to
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  Speaker 1: have it there, and then we had it in Wakefield
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  Speaker 1: at the YMCA, and then it ended up going to
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  Speaker 1: Falmouth to Cape Cod because we had a Cape House
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  Speaker 1: on that side of the family. And then it kind
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  Speaker 1: of stopped. I don't know, it's been a while, honestly,
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  Speaker 1: maybe five even ten years since we've had the Christmas party.
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  Speaker 1: I remember that, you know, because I went so obviously
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  Speaker 1: I was a big part of the family, of my
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  Speaker 1: mother's side of the family, Okay, and then when I
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  Speaker 1: turned maybe twelve or thirteen, we kind of had a
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  Speaker 1: falling out. And really it was because I was out
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  Speaker 1: of control, That's what it was. And I learned this
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  Speaker 1: later on in life through doing work on myself and
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  Speaker 1: looking within and not blaming other people. You know, I
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  Speaker 1: took responsibility for it because there was a resentment there,
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  Speaker 1: right because the Cape House that I mentioned we used
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  Speaker 1: to go to every summer, and then one summer when
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  Speaker 1: I was I was probably eleven or twelve years old.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't invited, and all my cousins were, and they
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  Speaker 1: made up all these excuses as to why. It was
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  Speaker 1: a big deal for my mom and my dad. Especially
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  Speaker 1: my mom. She was pissed. It was a huge family
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  Speaker 1: feud about this that I wasn't invited and they made
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  Speaker 1: up all these excuses. And it was after that that
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  Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I'm boycotting. I'm done.
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  Speaker 1: It just so happened to coincide with the beginning of
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  Speaker 1: my addiction, so I literally turned everybody off. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: talk to any of my cousins. I literally went off
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  Speaker 1: and I got really deep into addiction, started getting arrested,
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  Speaker 1: and I did not see them. Okay, four, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: say ten years, ten plus years. I did not go
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  Speaker 1: to one party. I didn't talk to anybody. Maybe a
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  Speaker 1: cousin or too that was also an addict, but other
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  Speaker 1: than that, they did not see me at all. And
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  Speaker 1: it really there were a lot of reasons as to
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  Speaker 1: why I got into addiction, right, you know, one school
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  Speaker 1: of thought is you're born an addict. I do believe
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  Speaker 1: that that I was born with this disease. Just this
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  Speaker 1: obsession and compulsion, and you can see that in every
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  Speaker 1: area of my life. We've discussed that many times. It's
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  Speaker 1: not just drugs, okay, but these are one of those
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  Speaker 1: pivotal moments in life where I think that the pain
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  Speaker 1: and the pain from that okay, from not being invited
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  Speaker 1: in kind of becoming an outcast, just went so well
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  Speaker 1: with this rebellious kind of attitude that I was developing
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  Speaker 1: or had developed. So it kind of just set me
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  Speaker 1: off and running, if you know what I mean. And
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  Speaker 1: I held on too, that resentment. And it wasn't until
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  Speaker 1: I got older, right, and I got clean and did
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  Speaker 1: a lot of work on myself that I realized it
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  Speaker 1: was me. It was they didn't want to deal with me.
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  Speaker 1: They loved me, but they didn't want to take me
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  Speaker 1: on vacation and have to chase me around. See. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't think about that. And how did I look back? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I was a pain in the ass. I was a
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  Speaker 1: tough kid, you know, So it's no surprise that I
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  Speaker 1: ended up rebelling and rebelling, rebelling against my parents and
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  Speaker 1: school and drugs all that stuff. There was no surprise there.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't hold that resentment anymore. You know, these
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  Speaker 1: are great people. My aunts, my uncles, my cousins, they're
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  Speaker 1: all some of the best people in the world. And
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  Speaker 1: so the good news is when I got clean, I
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  Speaker 1: went back and I was reunited. I went to one
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  Speaker 1: of the Christmas parties that they had, and they were
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  Speaker 1: so so happy to see me, and so and ever
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  Speaker 1: since then, I went to every single party and it's
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  Speaker 1: really a great thing. And them watching me and my
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  Speaker 1: career and my life, it's really great. And you know,
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  Speaker 1: when I go to see them. You know, one of
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  Speaker 1: the cool things about working on the radio, right or
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  Speaker 1: working at any media is, you know, say, my aunts,
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  Speaker 1: my uncle is, my cousins in their daily life, right,
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  Speaker 1: so they know me. Okay, I'm their nephew or the cousin.
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  Speaker 1: They know what I do. They know me, they're happy
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  Speaker 1: for me. But in their everyday life, you know, a coworker,
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  Speaker 1: a friend might find out that they're related to me,
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  Speaker 1: and so they say, oh my god, you're related to
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  Speaker 1: Justin or Billy or Lisa or any of us, right,
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  Speaker 1: and then that makes it even cooler. And I really
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  Speaker 1: like that a lot, like their excitement at seeing me,
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  Speaker 1: you know, So that's gonna be cool on Saturday, and
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  Speaker 1: actually recently in the last couple of months, so it
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  Speaker 1: was in was it June? I forget my nephew's birthday
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  Speaker 1: party I went to at his house. My brother Alex
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  Speaker 1: and my uncle was there and so my uncle, who
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  Speaker 1: has since retired, although he still is working, he is
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  Speaker 1: working in substance abuse mental health. He's I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what his title is. I think he's a master of
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  Speaker 1: social work. So my first hospital that I was in
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  Speaker 1: was McClain Hospital. When I was thirteen. I was in
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  Speaker 1: the adolescent unit. That's the place where I went. And
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  Speaker 1: my mother told me, if you complete the ninety day
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  Speaker 1: program impatient, I'll do anything. Please, I'll get you anything
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  Speaker 1: you want. Just finish the ninety days. And I said okay.
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  Speaker 1: And so then when she picked me up after ninety days,
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  Speaker 1: she said, I'm so happy. What do you want? And
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  Speaker 1: I said a tattoo and she was like what, And
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  Speaker 1: so she had to do it. She held her word.
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  Speaker 1: She drove me to New Hampshire, signed the consent for him,
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  Speaker 1: and I got a little magic mushroom on my ankle.
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  Speaker 1: I don't bring it up to her because she gets
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  Speaker 1: super embarrassed about it, and ashamed anyway, that was my
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  Speaker 1: first hospitalization, and then I was back in McLean's two
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  Speaker 1: or three times after that, I think when I was
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  Speaker 1: fifteen or sixteen, and then again when I was seventeen
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  Speaker 1: or eighteen, and then every time I went after that,
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  Speaker 1: I was in the adult unit, but I did three
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  Speaker 1: stints and the adolescent unit, and the last two times
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  Speaker 1: I was there, my uncle was the director of the
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  Speaker 1: adolescent program. Okay, so he's the one that got me
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  Speaker 1: in and I was under his care along with all
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  Speaker 1: the other kids. I did the you know, the best
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  Speaker 1: that I could, probably not good. I don't really remember.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of these memories are very very fuzzy for me.
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  Speaker 1: I don't really recall. It's just like little things. But
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  Speaker 1: I ended up leaving there and it just continued on, right.
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  Speaker 1: So obviously this is my mom's brother and they're very close,
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  Speaker 1: and he kind of helped her deal with me and
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  Speaker 1: the trauma and the pain and all that stuff. And
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  Speaker 1: there was a point, okay, where I was at my
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  Speaker 1: very lowest, where I stopped talking to my mom. I
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  Speaker 1: was living on the street, you know, you know the story.
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  Speaker 1: And I found this out after I got clean, that
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  Speaker 1: he basically said to my mother, you know, you have
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  Speaker 1: to come to terms that some some addicts, some alcoholics
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  Speaker 1: just never get it, you know. And what he meant
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  Speaker 1: with that is you have to be willing to accept recovery.
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  Speaker 1: You have to be willing to surrender and do the work.
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  Speaker 1: And there are some people that just are never able
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  Speaker 1: to do it there and you have to accept that.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we can't make other people do the work, right,
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  Speaker 1: We can't make other people surrender. We can pray over them,
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  Speaker 1: we can yell at them, we can cry to them,
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  Speaker 1: we can plead for them, but it really is an
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  Speaker 1: eternal decision. So he explained that to her, and she
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  Speaker 1: did not take that well at all, you know. So
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  Speaker 1: when I got clean, she told me that She's like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I was just so scared because your uncle
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  Speaker 1: told me, Like I was preparing myself that you know,
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  Speaker 1: I was going to get the call and it was
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  Speaker 1: going to be over. And I was like, why would
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  Speaker 1: he say that to you? Again, another thing that I
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  Speaker 1: kind of took the wrong way. So I always thought
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  Speaker 1: about that. I'm like, man, like, why would he say
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  Speaker 1: that to my mother? But then I understood, Well, the
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  Speaker 1: more that I did work on myself, right. The more
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  Speaker 1: that I opened my mind, I understood why he said that.
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  Speaker 1: And so at my nephew's birthday party, my mom told
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  Speaker 1: me he was going, and she said, he really wants
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  Speaker 1: to talk to you. He really does, he's so excited.
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  Speaker 1: So I got there before him. He comes in, comes
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  Speaker 1: right over to me, and we had the best conversation,
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  Speaker 1: and he looked at me and he goes, justin, I
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  Speaker 1: just you know, I watched your piece on the news.
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  Speaker 1: I've followed your whole story. He's like, you have to
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  Speaker 1: understand that I've worked decades, decades in this field, and
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  Speaker 1: the percentage of people that get it and are able
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  Speaker 1: to achieve what you achieve is so low. And the
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  Speaker 1: fact that you're my nephew and I'm related to you
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  Speaker 1: makes it even that more special. He's like, I'm just
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  Speaker 1: so so proud of you. And we had a really
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  Speaker 1: really really great conversation. He's just such a sweet guy,
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  Speaker 1: and that made me feel good. It really did. So
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm there looking forward to the family
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  Speaker 1: party and seeing all my cousins and their children who
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  Speaker 1: I don't often get to see. They don't get to
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  Speaker 1: see able and Jemma that much and Yeah, it's a
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  Speaker 1: family's awesome. Man. Family really really is awesome. It really is.
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  Speaker 1: So next week Power of Recovery they will be here,
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  Speaker 1: So any questions or comments you have for them, they
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  Speaker 1: would love, love love to hear from you. The rest
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  Speaker 1: of this week is going to beautiful, get out and enjoy.
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  Speaker 1: I'm off going to see my friend Jenna Stretch Strategy
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  Speaker 1: by Jenna and Wyndham. I miss her, I need her,
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  Speaker 1: but it's summertime and she is working but busy. I
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  Speaker 1: think she has a lake house in New Hampshire. Actually
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure she does. I think it's on Winn Pasaki. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: every time I, you know, see her on Instagram, she's
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  Speaker 1: you know, either teaching or she's in New Hampshire or
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  Speaker 1: up in Lake Winni Psaki, but I hit her up Sunday.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, Jenna, I really need to see you. Can
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  Speaker 1: you make room for me anywhere? So she's fitting me
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  Speaker 1: in today because my hip's hurt and I need some
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  Speaker 1: work and I always love catching up with her. She's great.
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  Speaker 1: So if you're ever up in Wyndham, New hamps you
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  Speaker 1: want to take the drive up to ninety three, or
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  Speaker 1: if you're in New Hampshire. Check out Jenna Stretch Strategy
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  Speaker 1: by Jenna on Instagram. I always plug her because I
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  Speaker 1: think that she's been such a life saver for me.
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  Speaker 1: You know, she does, she stretches. She teaches also at
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  Speaker 1: a pilate studio see Wixon Studios, but she has a
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  Speaker 1: room there where she does stretching and mobility. It's just
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  Speaker 1: it's unbelievable. The bet she has is unbelievable. She can
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  Speaker 1: bend you in all types of ways. She has red
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  Speaker 1: light therapy, she has all kinds of gadgets and things
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  Speaker 1: to dig into your muscles. You know, whether you want
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  Speaker 1: her to go like really deep, really hard, or if
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  Speaker 1: you want it to go easy. Just a good stretch
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  Speaker 1: is always so good. So shout out to Jenna. I
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  Speaker 1: will see you soon and I will talk to all
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  Speaker 1: of you tomorrow