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My girlfriend's daughter STOLE my daughter's gift… so I asked her to leave! -r/AmITheAsshole | Reddit Stories | EP3113 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Angie.
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  Speaker 3: My girlfriend's daughter stole my daughter's gift, so I asked
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  Speaker 3: her to leave.
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  Speaker 4: Hey, give that back!
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  Speaker 3: So, four years ago, my wife passed away, leaving me,
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  Speaker 3: 42 male, and my daughters, 19 female and 17 female, behind.
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  Speaker 3: A year and a half ago, I met Vicky. 47 female,
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  Speaker 3: and we quickly fell in love. Vicky has a daughter, Heather,
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  Speaker 3: 24 female, and together they came to live with us.
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  Speaker 3: Vicky and I did not get married, however, so Heather
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  Speaker 3: isn't technically my stepdaughter. Almost from the beginning, Heather wasn't
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  Speaker 3: very nice towards me, to say the least. I tried
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  Speaker 3: to get to know her and at least establish a
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  Speaker 3: cordial relationship with her, but nothing worked. She was very
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  Speaker 3: disrespectful and hateful to me, but also to her mother.
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  Speaker 3: She is sounding kind of like a Heather. Heather also
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  Speaker 3: picked verbal fights with my daughters, but I squashed that
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  Speaker 3: soon after it happened.
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  Speaker 4: The younger girls?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she's establishing her dominance, obviously.
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  Speaker 4: She's a 24-year-old picking fights with, like, how.
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  Speaker 3: Old are they? 19 and 17.
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  Speaker 4: Okay. I guess I could see that more, but it's
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  Speaker 4: still a little silly.
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  Speaker 3: She's going, I'm the alpha.
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  Speaker 4: Like, I'm just imagining myself at 25 having a, like,
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  Speaker 4: picking a fight with a 17-year-old.
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  Speaker 3: With a 17-year-old. Heather was the instigator, and I told
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  Speaker 3: her that if she had a problem... She should direct
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  Speaker 3: it at me instead of my daughters. And it seemed
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  Speaker 3: to work. By the way, this comes from user Ocean Boyle.
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  Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
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  Speaker 3: to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice goofily. Sophia and
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  Speaker 3: I are just goofballs.
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  Speaker 4: It's true.
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  Speaker 3: We don't know everything.
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  Speaker 2: It's true.
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  Speaker 3: We only know what we do, so let us know
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  Speaker 3: what you do in the comments down below, pretty please.
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  Speaker 1: Please.
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  Speaker 3: As OP says. So, last week was Casey's, which is
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  Speaker 3: my eldest daughter's birthday.
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  Speaker 1: 19.
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  Speaker 3: She's turning 19. She just turned 19. Yes. And dad, a.k.a. OP, says,
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  Speaker 3: I gave her a spa package treatment for two people.
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  Speaker 3: The total was $ 500.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 3: In the form of a gift card.
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  Speaker 1: Dang.
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  Speaker 4: Look at you. Big money, big money.
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  Speaker 3: And told her she could pick another person to go with.
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  Speaker 3: She chose a younger sister who was excited to go.
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  Speaker 3: They would pick a date and make the reservation. Casey
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  Speaker 3: wanted to make the reservation two days ago but couldn't
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  Speaker 3: find the gift card.
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  Speaker 4: That's not good. The $ 500 gift card?
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  Speaker 3: I wonder who took it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 3: After hours of searching, we couldn't find it. When Heather
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  Speaker 3: came home, we asked if she had seen it. She
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  Speaker 3: told us she didn't.
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  Speaker 4: I don't buy that. I don't buy that.
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  Speaker 3: After another hour, Vicky found the gift card in Heather's
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  Speaker 3: room against Heather's protest. After a while, Heather admitted she
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  Speaker 3: took the card from Casey's room and went to the
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  Speaker 3: spa two days ago with her girlfriend.
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  Speaker 4: Holy cow. And so immediately I'm saying, okay, well, then
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  Speaker 4: you owe me $ 500.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Immediately, I'm like, get out of my house. If Heather
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  Speaker 4: is living, if there's some sort of they're all living
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  Speaker 4: together situation, which it seems like they are, I'm immediately saying,
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  Speaker 4: you are not living in the house that I probably
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  Speaker 4: am paying for. If you do not pay me $ 500,
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  Speaker 4: you're an adult, you can get out.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree. Do we think Heather is doing this
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  Speaker 3: so that Vicky, her mom, and OP break up?
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  Speaker 4: Probably, but also she probably just sucks.
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  Speaker 3: That too. Opie continues saying, I was so pissed. It
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  Speaker 3: makes sense. I would be pissed too.
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  Speaker 1: Me too.
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  Speaker 3: And I told her that if she didn't pay Casey $ 500,
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  Speaker 3: I would punt her out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: It's like you're in my mind.
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  Speaker 3: It's like you're Opie. You're one and the same.
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  Speaker 4: We're the same person.
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  Speaker 3: We have the shining.
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  Speaker 1: I have a daughter. I have two daughters.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a daughter too. Since Heather doesn't have a job
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  Speaker 3: and has dropped out of college, she says she can't
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  Speaker 3: pay it.
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  Speaker 4: Bummer. Should have thought about that.
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  Speaker 3: Time to get a job.
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  Speaker 4: Or your mom is paying. I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: She has been living at my house rent-free with everything
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  Speaker 3: paid for. Yeah. I told her if she can't pay
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  Speaker 3: for it, she should go live with her irresponsible father instead.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Ooh.
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  Speaker 4: Or, like, get a job. You're 24.
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  Speaker 3: You have two options. Get a job or go live
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  Speaker 3: with your bad dad.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. It's pretty crazy that at 24 she
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  Speaker 4: doesn't have a job, dropped out of college, and.
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  Speaker 3: Stole somebody's birthday present, by the way.
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  Speaker 4: But, like, it's just, like, it's doing nothing to further
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  Speaker 4: her career, her life, and is living off of her parents' rent-free,
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  Speaker 4: and then pulls this behavior.
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  Speaker 3: And I guarantee, it's probably Vicky, not necessarily condones it, but, like,
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  Speaker 3: allows it. She doesn't do anything.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: She called me every name in the book and locked
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  Speaker 3: herself in her room. Good thing you have a key, right?
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  Speaker 3: Vicky says it was an a-hole move since she has
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  Speaker 3: nowhere to go and her father won't pay for her
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  Speaker 3: to live with him. So am I the a-hole?
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  Speaker 4: Not at all.
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  Speaker 3: So we're just going to allow that, Vicky? We're just
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  Speaker 3: going to let that slide under the rug?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: If she has nowhere to go, maybe she should have
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  Speaker 4: thought about that before she stole $ 500.
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  Speaker 3: From my daughter.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: A.K.A. not her stepsister yet, but who knows? Yeah. Vicky,
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  Speaker 3: if you play your cards right, which seems like you're
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  Speaker 3: not playing your cards right right now.
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  Speaker 4: Playing your cards wrong.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we have an update.
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  Speaker 4: Oh boy.
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  Speaker 3: So, quite some people have been asking for an update.
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  Speaker 3: Considering it's been a rough week and only now are
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  Speaker 3: things calming down, I thought I'd write an update. I
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  Speaker 3: sat down with my daughters and had a long conversation
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  Speaker 3: about Heather, my relationship with Vicky, and how I'd let
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  Speaker 3: it go up to this point. In short, my daughters
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  Speaker 3: have for a long time hated Heather. They didn't have
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  Speaker 3: many problems with Vicky, only regarding how Vicky always lets
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  Speaker 3: Heather off the hook easily. I read many comments, and
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  Speaker 3: I started doubting my relationship with Vicky. I knew it
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  Speaker 3: wasn't perfect, but thought we loved each other. My daughters
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  Speaker 3: are of the opinion that Vicky never loved me, but
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  Speaker 3: that I also never loved Vicky.
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  Speaker 4: That, uh, I don't know. I mean, I wouldn't trust your, like,
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  Speaker 4: 17 and 18-year-old daughters to necessarily tell you how your
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  Speaker 4: relationship is. But, like, maybe that's the... Or that's like
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  Speaker 4: the little spark you needed to realize that your relationship
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  Speaker 4: is not where you want it to be.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe.
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  Speaker 3: Especially Casey thought it was more companionship that we shared
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  Speaker 3: and that I was lonely.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe.
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  Speaker 3: Dang. My daughter hit the nail on the head.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, I guess your daughters are really good at reading emotions.
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  Speaker 4: Prove me wrong.
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  Speaker 3: She was right. I didn't want to spoil my daughter's
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  Speaker 3: day to the spa and I paid for it so
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  Speaker 3: that they could still go. They went a few days
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  Speaker 3: ago and had a blast.
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  Speaker 1: I love that.
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  Speaker 3: Regarding Heather, I essentially punted her out. Vicky threatened to
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  Speaker 3: leave if I punted out Heather, and I told Vicky
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  Speaker 3: she was free to also go. You got your $ 500 back, right?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I guess they've got more space, not paying
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  Speaker 4: for so many people.
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  Speaker 3: After that, she quickly backpedaled and told me she didn't
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  Speaker 3: want to go. Heather made a fuss, but I let
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  Speaker 3: her take her stuff and she moved out within two days.
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  Speaker 3: She's temporarily staying with a girlfriend of hers. I told
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  Speaker 3: Vicky that if Heather didn't pay the $ 500 back, we
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  Speaker 3: are going to call the police and report her. Do
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  Speaker 3: we think that's, like... Yeah, she's 24.
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  Speaker 4: That is more... I think that's more than fair.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. We have some consequences to your actions, Heather.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, if she were, like, 18, or... Or, like, say
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  Speaker 4: if it was a $ 50 gift card.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, $ 50, she was, like, 18, 19, I'd be like, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: She needs consequences, yes, but wouldn't necessarily go to the
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  Speaker 4: police or something.
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  Speaker 3: She's a full-fledged adult.
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  Speaker 4: But she's 24 and has $ 500.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Vicky was horrified and called her parents. I was surprised
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  Speaker 3: by this because Vicky told me she had a bad
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  Speaker 3: relationship with her parents. As far as I know, Her
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  Speaker 3: parents gave her the 500, and she gave the 500
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  Speaker 3: to me.
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  Speaker 4: Not bad enough, I guess.
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  Speaker 3: That fast.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: It was that fast.
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  Speaker 4: Well, this feels like this is what Vicky has learned,
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  Speaker 4: and this is what she's taught Heather. Like, oh, whenever
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  Speaker 4: I'm in trouble, my parents will bail me out.
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  Speaker 5: Bail you out.
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  Speaker 3: Or there are no real consequences.
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  Speaker 4: Because I can just get the money from someone else.
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  Speaker 3: After this, I was about to have a difficult conversation
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  Speaker 3: with Vicky and wanted to tell her we are over.
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  Speaker 4: Whoa.
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  Speaker 3: But Vicky beat me to it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 3: She told me that I treated Heather like crap because
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  Speaker 3: I was threatening to call the police, and she couldn't
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  Speaker 3: live with that. I was also relieved, and it probably showed,
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  Speaker 3: prompting Vicky to call me out, asking if I was
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  Speaker 3: going to try and make it up to her and
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  Speaker 3: convince her to stay. I told her, no.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 4: And there it is.
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  Speaker 3: There it is. Maybe we follow our daughter's intuitions.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess they really knew. I was like, I
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  Speaker 4: don't know if we need to talk, you know, we
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  Speaker 4: need to... base our relationship on what our daughters think,
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  Speaker 4: but clearly they knew. So sometimes I guess you do
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  Speaker 4: need someone who has an outside perspective.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think it does suck because Opie, again,
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  Speaker 3: lost his partner and the mother.
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  Speaker 1: Of his kids.
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  Speaker 3: Obviously he wants to move on from that.
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  Speaker 4: Just wasn't with the right person.
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  Speaker 3: No. After this, a lot of screaming on Vicky's part,
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  Speaker 3: so she also left. She's staying with a married couple
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  Speaker 3: that are close friends with her. It took a bit
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  Speaker 3: more time and energy to move her stuff to her
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  Speaker 3: friend's house. While I was there helping to move her stuff,
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  Speaker 3: I was essentially ignored, so I have no idea what
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  Speaker 3: Vicky told them. Today is the first day of peace
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  Speaker 3: and quiet in my house, and I already notice that
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  Speaker 3: my daughters are a lot happier.
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  Speaker 1: Yay!
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  Speaker 3: And that's all that matters to me.
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  Speaker 6: Huzzah!
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  Speaker 3: I want to thank everyone for their post and weighing in.
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  Speaker 4: Well, there you have it.
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  Speaker 3: That's the end of that story.
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  Speaker 4: I think.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's the, now you need to have a
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  Speaker 3: confirmation of like, go through the test of, do my
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  Speaker 3: daughters approve of you?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Like, daughters? I'm a council of daughters.
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  Speaker 3: What do you think? Doth she pass the test?
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  Speaker 5: No? No.
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  Speaker 1: You have been denied.
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  Speaker 3: They give you the thumbs down.
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  Speaker 4: The two nays say nay.
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  Speaker 3: That is the end of that story. Best of luck
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  Speaker 3: with your family, Opie. I think you're going to be okay.
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  Speaker 4: My family wouldn't respect my boundaries, so I am lawyering
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  Speaker 4: up and moving out.
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  Speaker 3: I suggest you get a lawyer too.
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  Speaker 1: Aye, 24 male.
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  Speaker 4: Live with my mom in a rural part of the U.S.
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  Speaker 4: For context, when it comes to my sister, 37, she
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  Speaker 4: is much older, and we come from different fathers and
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  Speaker 4: both grew up in split custody arrangements. We are not
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  Speaker 4: particularly close, almost acquaintances more so than siblings. I don't
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  Speaker 4: really feel any familial connection, even though I love her.
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  Speaker 4: I don't feel obligated to bend backward for her. Well,
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  Speaker 4: sister lives two hours away in a much more urban
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  Speaker 4: area and is currently going through divorce. Her and her
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  Speaker 4: ex-husband only had one vehicle, and it belongs to the ex-husband,
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  Speaker 4: so when they split, he took the car. Sister has
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  Speaker 4: four daughters and works a full-time job. I, on the
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  Speaker 4: other hand, work from home and have no real external responsibilities.
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  Speaker 4: My mom came to me asking if my sister could
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  Speaker 4: borrow my car for a couple of months until the
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  Speaker 4: divorce is finalized, so she has a way of transporting
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  Speaker 4: her and her kids to wherever they need to be
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  Speaker 4: without the financial burden of purchasing another car, or relying
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  Speaker 4: exclusively on ride-sharing. By the way, this comes from Encryption29.
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  Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
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  Speaker 4: to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
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  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
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  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
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  Speaker 4: And Opie says, I just recently bought my car, 12
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  Speaker 4: V8 Mustang. And it's my first vehicle ever. I didn't
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  Speaker 4: get a hand-me-down or get one as a present. When
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  Speaker 4: I turned 16 or 18, I was basically immobile, except
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  Speaker 4: occasionally being allowed to drive my mom's car. Or when
• 11:47
  Speaker 4: my dad had me, I could get Ubers. Getting my
• 11:50
  Speaker 4: own vehicle was extremely liberating, minus the loan. And I
• 11:54
  Speaker 4: don't feel trapped at home. So when I was approached
• 11:56
  Speaker 4: with this proposal, I flat out said, eh, nope. I
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  Speaker 4: can totally understand the justification for letting her use my
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  Speaker 4: car for a couple months. But aside from the fact
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  Speaker 4: I don't want to lose my newfound sense of freedom,
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  Speaker 4: I also just don't want someone else driving my car.
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  Speaker 4: And maybe that's selfish of me.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's very fair. It was like, hey, could
• 12:15
  Speaker 3: you let her use your car for a week?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, totally different.
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  Speaker 3: Totally different. But a couple of months? Yeah. Even a
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  Speaker 3: week is pushing it for me because we live in L.A.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to get my car.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, they live in a rural part. But then
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  Speaker 4: maybe you might even need it more if you like
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  Speaker 4: are far away from things.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Unfortunately, I can't give you my car. Maybe I can
• 12:35
  Speaker 3: help pick you guys up.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: But oh, she lives too. It's like it's too complicated.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. It doesn't make sense. Like get a rental car.
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  Speaker 3: Mom, why can't you use your car?
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  Speaker 4: Literally. Over the last few days, my mom and sister
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  Speaker 4: have been trying to convince me to let her use
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  Speaker 4: the car, saying that she would pay for the car
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  Speaker 4: payment while she has the car. Then why not get
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  Speaker 4: a rental car? or that she'd pay for insurance if
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  Speaker 4: she has it longer than anticipated. No matter what they
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  Speaker 4: brought to the table, I kept saying no, much to
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  Speaker 4: their dissatisfaction. Flash forward to this morning, I realized that
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  Speaker 4: my mom isn't home. I opened our garage to see
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  Speaker 4: that her car was still there, but mine was not.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, no. I don't like that.
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  Speaker 4: Police. I immediately know what happened and called my mom
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  Speaker 4: about the situation. She tries to calm me down and
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  Speaker 4: have me try to picture it from my sister's point
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  Speaker 4: of view. But I'm just flushed with rage and instead
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  Speaker 4: told her that I'm going to report the vehicle as
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  Speaker 4: stolen instead. I mean, yeah, they did steal it.
• 13:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, this is technically being stolen.
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  Speaker 4: If your name's on there and you paid for it,
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  Speaker 4: then I mean, like, honestly, even if you didn't pay
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  Speaker 4: for it, if your name's on it.
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  Speaker 3: You didn't give consent to them taking your car.
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  Speaker 4: She just hung up the phone. As of now, I
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  Speaker 4: presume my car is down with my sister, and I'm
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  Speaker 4: seriously considering reporting it stolen and naming her and my
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  Speaker 4: sister as perpetrator and conspirator. I really don't want it
• 13:58
  Speaker 4: to go that far, and I hope that we could
• 13:59
  Speaker 4: instead work this out. But what I initially said as
• 14:02
  Speaker 4: an angry threat, I'm starting to really consider as an option.
• 14:07
  Speaker 4: I just don't know if it's worth burning so many
• 14:09
  Speaker 4: bridges over a car, but the fact that my family
• 14:12
  Speaker 4: won't respect my boundaries or my property is so frustrating.
• 14:16
  Speaker 4: Would I be the a-hole? And we do have an update.
• 14:19
  Speaker 4: What do you think?
• 14:20
  Speaker 3: I think, well, how long are they taking the car?
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: If this is the first time, I'd be like, don't
• 14:25
  Speaker 3: ever do that again. You're done.
• 14:26
  Speaker 4: Well, we haven't gotten the car back.
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: Well, yeah. I don't know how long this is going
• 14:30
  Speaker 3: to be.
• 14:30
  Speaker 4: It's been about a day. I think it's been like
• 14:32
  Speaker 4: a day.
• 14:33
  Speaker 3: A day. I don't think a couple hours or half
• 14:35
  Speaker 3: the day. I go, okay, I need my car.
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: Whose car am I taking? I need to go somewhere.
• 14:40
  Speaker 3: I need my freedom.
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 14:42
  Speaker 4: I feel like you give, like, you're like, if you
• 14:44
  Speaker 4: don't give me this car by this time, or.
• 14:46
  Speaker 3: Or it's not back by, like, midnight or something like that.
• 14:49
  Speaker 4: Then I will call the police.
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and if you ever do that again, please.
• 14:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, police immediately.
• 14:53
  Speaker 3: I think doing the police right now.
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 14:56
  Speaker 4: I mean, it might take longer to get your car.
• 14:58
  Speaker 3: Too much. Maybe just, like, hey... I would be furious,
• 15:02
  Speaker 3: by the way. I would be truly furious. Why did
• 15:04
  Speaker 3: you get an emergency? I mean, yeah, you can drive
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: your mom's car. Why didn't she drive your mom's car?
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 15:09
  Speaker 4: No, I'd threaten police... And then if you still don't
• 15:13
  Speaker 4: get it back, then yeah, please.
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 15:15
  Speaker 4: I ended up giving mom and sister ultimatum to return
• 15:18
  Speaker 4: the car by 5 p.m.
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: Nice.
• 15:20
  Speaker 3: We called it.
• 15:20
  Speaker 4: And if they didn't, I would be reporting them to
• 15:22
  Speaker 4: the police. And if they did, I would let bygones
• 15:25
  Speaker 4: be bygones and move on and move out.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: Great.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: That's a good move.
• 15:29
  Speaker 4: Should not live here anymore. And also should hide your keys.
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: Hide your keys. Put them in somewhere fun. Put them
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: somewhere fun.
• 15:35
  Speaker 4: I even offered to pitch in a bit to help
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: sister get a new vehicle.
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 15:39
  Speaker 4: Car has been returned, so the police will not need
• 15:42
  Speaker 4: to get involved. However, I knew it. There is body
• 15:46
  Speaker 4: damage that wasn't there the last time I used it.
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: Oh, dang.
• 15:51
  Speaker 4: And now an insurance needs to be involved.
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: Fun.
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: And now we're like, yeah, sister stole my car and
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: damaged it.
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: Damaged it. So you had to pay for that, right?
• 15:59
  Speaker 4: Can't tell if it was intentional damage or not, but
• 16:02
  Speaker 4: it honestly doesn't matter. We'll be getting all relevant papers
• 16:05
  Speaker 4: in order, and then we'll be lawyering up so the
• 16:07
  Speaker 4: damages are paid for. As soon as this entire situation
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: is resolved, I will be moving out. I have learned
• 16:14
  Speaker 4: to never keep my keys out ever again. Thanks so much, everyone,
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: for your input and advice. To address a lot of
• 16:21
  Speaker 4: the comments I was getting from the initial post, Mom
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: has her own car but doesn't want to lend hers
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: out because she needs it for work every day. I
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: had offered to let her use mine for work and
• 16:30
  Speaker 4: she lent out her car to assist her. But she
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: refuted this idea, saying she doesn't feel comfortable driving my
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: car and that she needs ample space for medical supplies.
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: She's a home nurse.
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I kind of figured something like this was going
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: to happen.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: Wow. Could you imagine if you lent your car to
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: her for, say, a month?
• 16:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she would have kept it forever.
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: And it would have been destroyed.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah. She would have probably made it worse. Yeah,
• 16:55
  Speaker 4: I was really worried that if you did lend it
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: to her, she would have caused damage. And then you
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: didn't even lend it to her, and she did.
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: Lo and behold. Yeah. Ah, get your money back or
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: get the money that you can pay for the damages
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: on the car. Move out.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: Goodbye.
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: You don't have to bother you anymore.
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: All of the above. But we've got a little bit left.
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: I am well aware that my living situation will change
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: if I call the police on my mom and sister.
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: But honestly, the living situation is already compromised. Regardless of
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: the resolution, I will be moving out as immediately as
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: possible as I am financially stable enough to do so.
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: This whole thing is just the straw that broke the
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: camel's back. I have been getting a lot of comments
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: regarding living for free at my mother's house. We split
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: bills 60-40 on basically everything. It's not truly 50-50, but
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: absolutely by no means am I freeloading at my mom's house.
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: And that's the end of the story.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: End of the story, but we're going to look at
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: that picture of the damage of the car.
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: So you can see it here. We've got big old dent.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: Oh, that's a huge dent. That's a huge thing.
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: Yep, yeah.
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: I thought it would be like a small little thing.
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: No, that is a big.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: That's huge.
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: That is a lot of damage there.
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: Okay, to our listeners.
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: Look how nice that car is.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: To our listeners, it's a sizable dent.
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah, there's a big dent and there's a lot of
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: scratch marks. It's definitely, it's both, you know, it's both
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: a paint job and also.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like towards the front of the car.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's on the right hand front.
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: Not really a fender, but yeah.
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: It's like on the corner of it.
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: It's sizable.
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: Pretty sizable. Tsk, tsk, tsk. Get your money from your
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: terrible sister.
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: Get that fixed and get away from them.
• 18:39
  Speaker 4: But that's the end of that story and we've got
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: another one coming right up. I banned my daughter's boyfriend
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: from our home and now I'm blamed for their breakup.
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: I'd blame you too.
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: My daughter, 19 female, has been in a relationship with,
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: let's call him Terry, 22 male, for a few years.
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: My husband and I have no issue with Terry. He's
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: decent and respectful. However, we recently noticed that some of
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: our valuables were starting to go missing. We came up
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: with a plan that we would first ask my son,
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: 16 male, to stop bringing his friends over and see
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: if things still went missing. Then ask my daughter to
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: not bring Terry for the same reason. Just so we
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: could try to scope out who the culprit was. My
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: son complied. However, my husband's watch went missing two weeks later.
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: We didn't want to throw a fuss, maybe we misplaced
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: those items. But after a thorough search of our home, cars,
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: and workplace, we realized there's no way they were misplaced.
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: We then asked our daughter to stop bringing Terry home.
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: We said she could make up any excuse to cover
• 19:41
  Speaker 4: the real reason so as not to cause a ruckus
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: just in case. She threw a bit of a tantrum,
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: but understood in the end. By the way, this comes
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: from Throwaway927. and if you want to submit your own stories,
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: go to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: I'm Kion.
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: And OP says, a month goes by and nothing else
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: went missing and we still couldn't find what was. I
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: come home from work and see my daughter and Terry
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: sitting in the living room. I asked my daughter to
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: come to another room and expressed my disappointment for her
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: going against my wishes. She said that because nothing else
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: went missing, she thought I was fine and I told
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: her she at least should have asked for my permission.
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: I told my daughter to politely ask him to leave
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: and she refused. I took it into my own hands
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: and explained to Terry that he couldn't come over and
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: the reasons behind it. He immediately became defensive and said
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: I was accusing him. My daughter jumped to his defense,
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: but I still asked him to leave.
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: I didn't accuse you. I'm just telling you what's going on.
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: How come you got defensive, Terry?
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: Why are you so defensive, Terry?
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: Why are you sweating a lot?
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: Where'd you get that watch from, Terry? It looks pretty new.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: You bought my daughter something new recently.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: Hmm.
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: Hmm.
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: Later in the week, my daughter comes home crying and
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: screaming that she and Terry broke up and that it's
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: all my fault. I try to console her, but she
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: stormed off to her room and has barely spoken to
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: me for the past week. Am I the ale? And
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: we do have an edit. For clarity, when I spoke
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: to Terry about the missing valuables, I did not accuse
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: him of being the one to steal them. I simply
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: explained that things were going missing and that I did
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: not want anyone from outside of our household to come
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: over until the situation was resolved. I think that's Pretty reasonable.
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: I think that's just the truth.
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: And I kind of figured OP wasn't, didn't say, we're
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: suspicious of Terry. It was just like, hey, everyone.
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: We're just not having people over.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: Just no people over. You can go over to their house. Yeah. Sure,
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: why not? We're trying to figure this out.
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Got a mystery to solve. I'm also seeing a
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: few comments regarding the age gap for when they met.
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: My daughter was a month from turning 18 at the
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: time of the meeting, and I believe he turned 20
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: not long before that. I don't think that's, oh, wait
• 21:57
  Speaker 4: a month from turning 18. So she was 17?
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: Maybe like... She was a month from turning 18. A
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: month from 18.
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: I mean, she's about to turn 18, but she was 17.
• 22:10
  Speaker 6: Hmm.
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: I met both him and his parents a few months later,
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: and they were decent people. I did not have an issue.
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: And we do have an update.
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: Who do we think the culprit is?
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: I think it's Terry.
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: I think it's like a rat.
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: A rat has been stealing the watch. Yeah.
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: His name's Remy.
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: He says, I wanted a little bling. Is that a crime?
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: What if it was, like, one of the kids?
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: Well, I mean, Opie said that none of the kids... Oh,
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: you mean, like.
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: And they stopped.
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: Because they realized they were caught.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: Or they realized, hey, everyone, we're a family. No one's
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: stealing anything from here. So... As long as you don't
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: bring friends over, no one's going to be stealing anything, right?
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: Could be one of the kids.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: But maybe.
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: But I don't like Terry. I don't trust him.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: The fact that Terry got upset and butthurt about, I
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: can't come over to your place anymore, and he jumped
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: to the conclusion of, you're accusing me?
• 23:05
  Speaker 4: It's like, no.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: No? I never said that. Nope.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: Update.
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: This didn't take nearly as long as I thought it would.
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: This morning, my husband and I went to our local
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: pawnbrokers to try to find our missing items.
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: Ooh.
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: Only two of the stolen items would stand out. One
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: had a specific date engraved and my husband's watch. We
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: went to one pawnbroker that is a branch, so they
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: have a business in basically every town. We've got a
• 23:29
  Speaker 4: little bit left to this story. Any final thoughts?
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: I feel like we're going to find out who the
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: culprit was.
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: I think we're about to find out. Place your bets
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: down below. Who do you think it was?
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: The rat. It's the rat.
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: We didn't find anything there, but the worker kindly offered
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: to call other branches in the next towns over. To
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: our delight, we found the date engraved item. They have
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: a privacy policy regarding disclosing the name of the seller, understandable.
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: So we contacted the police and said we found an
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: item in one of the stores. It took them an
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: hour or so to send out an officer to the
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: store and recover the name of the individual who pawned it.
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: Do we think that individual was stupid enough to use
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: their actual name?
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: It's... Larry.
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, my name is Larry. We received a call about
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: 30 minutes ago, and turns out it was Terry who
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: pawned the item.
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: What an idiot.
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: Yikes. Yeah, so stupid. So stupid. And the fact that
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: he broke up with OP's daughter right after, it feels
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: like he just was dating her to steal stuff.
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah, probably.
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: Police will be taking further action. I'm guessing they'll pay
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: him a visit. Since we only found one item that
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: was pawned, we're not sure if Terry was solely responsible
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: for the missing items. We can assume.
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: Come on.
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: Hopefully we can recover the rest and get some answers
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: in the coming days. Thank you to those who offered
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: helpful advice to recover our items and prevent any further
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: ones being taken. And that's the end of the story. Wade,
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: I want to know what your daughter reacted. Like, I
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: want to know what she said when you told her, yeah,
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: your boyfriend stole from us.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: He's innocent!
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: He didn't do it. He couldn't have been my Terry.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: No.
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: Terry's the nicest guy in the world.
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah. But that's the end of that story, folks. And
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: we've got another one coming right up.
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: My niece found out I spot on my son. So
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: I had to come clean first.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: Wait, wait, wait.
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: I'm a single dad, 43 years old. I'm a computer programmer.
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: My son, let's call him Jack, who's 17 years old.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: Jack's mom passed away when he was 10. But thankfully,
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: we both handled our grief together quite well. When Jack
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: got his first laptop, which was five years ago, I
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: took my time explaining how the internet worked, the dangers, etc.
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: I allowed him to create a social media account as
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: long as he allowed me to check on it whenever
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: I wanted, which was a privilege. I made use of
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: it a few times until he turned 15, and I
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: realized I could trust him, having never asked for it
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: since then. He allowed me to know where he stored
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: his account passwords just in case, but I never really
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: looked for them. So social media and computer activity have
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: been a complete mystery to me in the last couple
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: of years. By the way, this comes from user SpyDadThrowaway.
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: If you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Keon.
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice goofily. We're just
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: goofy goobers. We don't know everything. We only know what
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: we do. So let us know what you do in
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: the comments down below. Pretty please, as Opie says. However,
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: I was always fearful he would try to hide something
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: or get into something dangerous. So I installed a keylogger
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: just in case. Always thinking about his safety. I don't
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: know about that.
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: I mean, honestly... I kind of don't, as much as
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: I've just said, you know, I do think there should
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: be monitoring, especially with minors on the internet. I don't
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: love the sneakiness, especially because he seems like pretty reasonable
• 26:52
  Speaker 4: and was like, yeah, of course, like, you know, monitor me.
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: Until he's 15 or like, OK, you're just.
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: Let him know my passwords.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: He seems like OK with it.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: His Jack was very upfront until he was 15. And
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: then he said, you're 15. You know what? We've done this.
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: I trust you.
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: It's not like Jack was like, I want my freedom.
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: I don't want you to look my stuff. He was like,
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: you can look at my stuff.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: And then he still went, I trust him, but I
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: don't trust him.
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I would. feel pretty bad about that if I
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: was Jack.
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: Are you doing it for his safety, OP, or are
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: you doing it for your safety, OP?
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I just feel like if you were actually, you know,
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: if you wanted to do it in a proper way
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: while respecting Jack and also caring about his safety, I
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: would have just told him.
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and Jack's trust, yeah.
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I would be like, hey, I'm going to monitor
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: a couple times just because I want to make sure
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: you're being safe.
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: Just be upfront with him. Yeah.
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: OP says... I never had to use it, and the
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: more I watched him grow up, I eventually realized I
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: would never really use it, but I never bothered to
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: remove it. My sister and I were talking about this
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: in a casual conversation regarding privacy and privacy apps, and
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: my niece overheard us. Jack and her were born the
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: same year. She got offended I would do such a thing,
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: claiming it was a horrible invasion of Jack's privacy and
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: that I should be ashamed, and the only reason she
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: hasn't told my son was because my sister told her
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: she'd ground her for meddling in my parenting. So, Reddit,
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: am I the a-hole for having installed a keylogger even
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: though I've never used it? And we have an update.
• 28:23
  Speaker 4: I think you would have been the a-hole had you
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: used it.
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: I think you, the fact that you said I never
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: used it, I feel like you should have at least
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: told your son.
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so.
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: Because what if he does, what if the son does
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: find it and be like, what is this?
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: But now you can tell him. You can be like, hey,
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: just so you know, I did install this thing. I've
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: never used it.
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: Interesting.
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: Interesting.
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: And you can even make that a moment of like, hey,
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: I had a thing where I got really worried about
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: your safety. And then I realized I fully trust you. Yeah.
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: So I have never used it. But it is there.
• 28:55
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: We just want to make sure. I feel like where
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: Denise is coming from is like, oh, my gosh, you're
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: a helicopter parent. Yeah. How dare you spy on him?
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I had friends whose parents used Life 360.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: My parents did not have that for me.
• 29:12
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:13
  Speaker 4: I didn't go anywhere, so.
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: My parents just used the honor system.
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, like, I didn't go anywhere, and then
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: when I was in college, I, like, gave them my,
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: I wanted them to have my education.
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: You never know.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: So, like, I don't know.
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: I don't think it's any of your niece's business how
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: you parent.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: Truly.
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: But, of course, she is the, you know, 16 year
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: old is gonna be like that's enough like yeah of
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: course she's gonna be like that because at that age
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: you're like yes I am an adult I am you
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: know these adults can't tell me what to do these
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: parents can't tell me what to.
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: Do there's also very different because like yeah that's my
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: relationship with my son yeah you know it's different we've
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: we're pretty good but I think.
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: You've done no irrevocable damage I think you could easily
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: remedy this.
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: And I feel like Jack would be like yeah it's
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: fine Yeah, I don't think he would care that much.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: We do have an update.
• 30:03
  Speaker 5: Oh, boy.
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: Do we think OP is going to admit it to Jack?
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think OP is going to be like, hey,
• 30:08
  Speaker 4: this is what happened.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: So, this blew up.
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 30:12
  Speaker 4: Uh-oh.
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: I read all the comments, and I really appreciate the
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: insight on both sides, which I will not comment nor
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: give my opinion on, since a verdict is a verdict.
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: Each person is entitled to their own opinion, but I
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: want you to know that I took into consideration of
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: all of them, even with the majority considering me an a-hole.
• 30:29
  Speaker 4: I just disagree. OP didn't go far enough to be
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: an a-hole.
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: I'm trying to think of, like, what is very similar
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: to it, but again, I feel like OP should have
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: been up front.
• 30:40
  Speaker 4: I completely agree. I just think because he never used it, like,
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: it's just kind of a, like, it's like, hey, you
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: shouldn't do that.
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: I'm trying to think of what's a good, like, other way.
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: It's like, oh, yeah, I have a pew-pew. Like, it's
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: just there. I don't have to use it. That's not
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: the same, like, same correlation.
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's hard to, like, You would have been the
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: a-hole had you used it without his knowledge. But like,
• 31:02
  Speaker 4: I don't think you are because you never used it.
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: You just kind of thought about it. And maybe that's
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: like a mistake to have thought about it. But like,
• 31:08
  Speaker 4: we're human.
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: But still tell him, of course.
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah. It took me two days of pondering, especially with
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: the threat of my niece telling Jack everything, before I
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: sat him down and I talked to him. I came
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: out clean, told him about the keylogger, then explained why
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: I did it to him and how it worked. Jack
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: believed me when I told him I had never looked
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: at anything. We both shared a laugh when he told
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: me he believed me because, A, I am a complete airhead,
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: so it is perfectly believable I forgot about the keylogger
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: for years, and B, he admitted to have watched Korn,
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: and he is sure I would have commented on it
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: because both my sister and I both openly dislike Korn
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: and that industry. He told me he isn't mad at me,
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: that he's glad I told him about it now instead of, say,
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: 20 years from now, and that he would have done
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: the same thing in my situation. Keylogger and everything. I
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: showed him how to remove it and how to look
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: for it in further devices. And we had a look
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: at a few laptops together. I ended up buying him
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: a new one and helped him set it up. Yes,
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: there are no keyloggers on the new laptop. He let
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: me know the password he used in case it was necessary.
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: He was like, Dad, delete my search history.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: Please.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: If I pass away.
• 32:15
  Speaker 4: Please, you have to.
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: Regarding my niece, she didn't tell him anything. But my
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: sister and I had a conversation with them at the
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: same time over dinner. My niece used the same argument
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: as many of you did, with it being the same
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: as reading a diary, and it was one that both
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: my sister and I agreed with. I, like, yes. There
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: we go, that's one.
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: But I think it's more like if a diary had
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: a little, like, It was one of those like diaries
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: with a lock and key.
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: And you had the key.
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: And you had the key, but you never.
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: But you put it back. I know what it is.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: Or it's like the code. Yeah, like a code.
• 32:46
  Speaker 4: And you like figured out the code.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: And you could absolutely go and read it at any time.
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: And your son didn't know that, but you never did. Like,
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: I feel like it's more like that.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Let us know in the comments because we don't
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: have kids.
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:00
  Speaker 4: Maybe it's like if you had like a little diary
• 33:02
  Speaker 4: had a key and you made a copy of the
• 33:04
  Speaker 4: key and then but you never used it.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: There you go.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: I don't know if my parents did this with me personally.
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: I would be upset because it's like you don't trust
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: me kind of thing.
• 33:14
  Speaker 4: But then finding out that they never used it because
• 33:17
  Speaker 4: they trust you. I feel like that would be kind
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: of nice.
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: But it'd be like, OK, then I'm never going to
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: use it because I'm like, I mean, I know you're
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: not going to use it, but like, don't like this.
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: Don't like this.
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: I don't know. It seems like.
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: I can see both sides.
• 33:29
  Speaker 4: They got a new computer. No keylogger.
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: I think it shows how good of a relationship OP
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: and his son have.
• 33:36
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 33:37
  Speaker 4: Which is nice.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: Alrighty.
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: My sister was admittedly much stricter with her daughter than
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: I was with my son since she checked her texts, Instagram, Facebook,
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: WhatsApp messages. But she admitted it was because of her
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: massive fear that everything that is uploaded to the internet
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: lasts forever.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah.
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: And she was afraid of things like Spicy pics being leaked,
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: undesired contact with bad people, cyberbullying, or any possible hurtful things.
• 34:02
  Speaker 4: Which is like, yes, you should monitor, but it's also
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: a lot about, you know, having those conversations very early
• 34:08
  Speaker 4: on about what happens when you post that type of stuff.
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: And saying like, hey, you can do it when you're
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: older and stuff, but... Like that, you know, it follows
• 34:19
  Speaker 4: you forever.
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: It's crazy because.
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: And do it with people you trust.
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: Yes. It's crazy because we grew up with this, but
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: I feel like I really grew up with this because
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: internet wasn't really a thing or like messaging people or
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: like Instagram, social media.
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: Did you ever have like a day in school where
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: they have like a safety talk?
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: We had that and it became like a, it was
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: like a brand new thing. They're like, we're having an
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: internet safety talk.
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: Same.
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: It was in fifth grade. No, maybe fifth or sixth grade,
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: I remember we had an internet safety talk, and they
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: were like, don't send inappropriate pics online. Don't go onto
• 34:57
  Speaker 4: these types of websites.
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like.
• 35:00
  Speaker 4: I was like.
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: It was like, oh, don't go to these websites. And
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: you as a child, you're like, I'm going to that
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: website today.
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: Right now.
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: I'm doing it right now, so to speak.
• 35:09
  Speaker 4: No, it scared me. I was like, oh, my God,
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: I can never do that.
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: No, the big thing was like, again, anything on the
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: internet lasts forever.
• 35:15
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: It was a big, yeah, which I think it's super
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: important to have those classes really early on.
• 35:21
  Speaker 3: Opie continues saying they ended up agreeing to disagreeing and
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: my sister promised to start trusting my niece more with
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: these kinds of things. Since she knows she won't be
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: able to do anything about it once she turns 18.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: I want to thank you all for the feedback and
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: for your suggestions over how I should handle this. Even
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: the ones who called me an a-hole. I felt like
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: I owed you this update.
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: I feel like Opie's a really good dad, honestly.
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like his relationship with Jack, totally cool.
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like.
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: The fact that Jack was like, yeah, there's corn on there.
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: I'm literally a teenager.
• 35:49
  Speaker 4: Jack seems like such a good kid. He's just like,
• 35:51
  Speaker 4: that's okay. I get it. This is what's on there
• 35:53
  Speaker 4: right now. You can also have my password.
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: There's some weird stuff on there. Yeah, he's like, if you.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: Want to look at it, I guess.
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: Do you want to watch it? Do you want to
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: see it? Are you intrigued?
• 36:03
  Speaker 4: And Opie's dad's like, no. Or Opie's like, no, I don't.
• 36:07
  Speaker 4: He's like, that's my thought, dad.
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: But that is the end of that story, and we
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: have another one coming right up.
• 36:12
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• 36:21
  Speaker 3: I kept my cousin's affair secret for years, but I
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: couldn't any longer.
• 36:25
  Speaker 4: I can't keep doing this.
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: So, my cousin is 33, married with a five-year-old daughter
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: who constantly cheats on her husband. We and I have
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: watched it go on for years. I can't handle keeping
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: her secret anymore. I've been struggling lately with my cousin's
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: infidelity to the point I don't sleep. When my cousin
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: was pregnant with her daughter, she was in between her ex,
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: a fling, and a guy who was nothing but bad news.
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: She honestly didn't know whose baby it was until the
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: due date and calculated which one it could be. She
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: took a guess and it was her now husband's baby.
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: To be clear, that was her ex at the time
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: because she said she needed space for herself. Fast forward,
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: over the past few years, she's been cheating on her husband.
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: And at one point, she was working two jobs, and
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: my grandmother basically raised her daughter. The free time she
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: did have, she went out to the clubs, and she
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: met with the guy she was seeing. A few years ago,
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: I was at a bar with my friends, and I
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: see my cousin strolling hand in hand with a guy that,
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: guess what, wasn't her husband. I knew that my grandmother
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: was watching her daughter, and her cop husband was pulling overtime.
• 37:31
  Speaker 6: Uh-oh.
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: I lost it, and I made a scene, and she left.
• 37:35
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• 37:44
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: And we're Goofy Goobers. We only know goofy things, guys.
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: We don't know everything. We only know what we do.
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: So let us know what you do in the comments
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: down below. Pretty please. After that, she knew I wasn't
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: happy about what she was doing and didn't support it
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: at all. So she was secretive about her side flings.
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: So over the past few years, she's had long-term flings
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: back to back. I found this out through other family members.
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: I know every little detail now. They all knew and
• 38:10
  Speaker 3: continue to know about what she's doing behind her husband's back. Honestly,
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: my family tends to brush it off. They've talked to
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: her and her words are, he won't find out. He
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: doesn't make me happy anyways. This is what he gets.
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: Holy crap, I'm telling him right now.
• 38:24
  Speaker 4: Immediately, immediately, I'm going, girly pop, leave him.
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: Mind you, he has bought house for her and their daughter.
• 38:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I know. That's why she hasn't left them.
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: She wouldn't be able to survive financially without him. My
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: mom tells me to keep my mouth shut because it
• 38:39
  Speaker 3: would cause catastrophic outcomes.
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: Good.
• 38:42
  Speaker 3: For who?
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: Her?
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: Great!
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: But in my opinion, this is her own doing. The
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: last few years suck around the holidays because her husband
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: comes around and we all know what she's doing, but
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: no one has said a thing.
• 38:56
  Speaker 4: Oh, I feel so bad for this guy.
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: You guys are all the a-holes.
• 39:00
  Speaker 6: Truly.
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: Now to present day. Over the weekend, my cousin went
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: MIA after going to the club with a friend. My
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: mom and I woke up to texts from her husband
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: asking if we knew where she was.
• 39:11
  Speaker 4: Stop. Oh, how heartbreaking once this guy figures out that
• 39:15
  Speaker 4: the whole family knew and didn't tell him.
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: I'm cutting ties with all of you.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no.
• 39:19
  Speaker 4: Open secret.
• 39:21
  Speaker 3: Taking my daughter.
• 39:22
  Speaker 4: We're leaving.
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: Gone.
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: Moving, moving. Devastating once he finds out.
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: Don't talk to me at ever again i hate you
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: all oh.
• 39:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah just like be prepared for when you do if
• 39:32
  Speaker 4: you ever do tell this guy i'll never talk to.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: You again you you literally saw a giant fire yeah
• 39:38
  Speaker 3: and you went not my problem not my problem not
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: my circus i was clueless her husband ends up texting
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: me saying supposedly she was going out to dance with friends,
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: and now I can't get a hold of her. If
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: this doesn't resolve quickly, I'm going to put a report
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: out for her. Again, he's a cop, so.
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, he's like, she's not home. Where is she?
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: What got me was the supposedly. I think he's skeptical.
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: The story we got was she lost her phone at
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: the club, drove her friend home at sunrise, then went
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: to see a friend. She didn't say which friend. We
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: know it's a guy. She had her husband and daughter wondering.
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: My mom talked to her and told her, your husband
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: smells something is off. get your crap together and get
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: a divorce. This isn't right. My cousin just laughs it
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: off and says, he's not going to find out. If
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: you just keep playing, just keep acting like that. I
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: hate you so much.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: I'm going to, hey, you know what?
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: He's on the phone right now. Yeah.
• 40:30
  Speaker 4: That's so funny. You just found out.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: Ring, ring.
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: Opie continues saying, this made me really mad because if
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: I were him, I would want someone to tell me.
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: I know if I do tell him, it's going to
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: cause problems within the family because I snitched. I really
• 40:43
  Speaker 3: don't know what to do and how to tell him.
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: We have some comments.
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: Your family low-key sucks.
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: Everyone sucks in your family.
• 40:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: Why is everyone letting it happen?
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: If you want to be like, hey, I need to
• 40:53
  Speaker 4: tell you something, don't tell people that it came from me.
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: Or, I don't know, because the fact that everyone knows.
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: Just anonymously send, she's cheating on you. And then watch
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: your family unfold.
• 41:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah, then your family will be like, who said it?
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: Who said it?
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: You said it? They said it?
• 41:08
  Speaker 4: No.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: No.
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: He just found out that his wife was cheating on
• 41:13
  Speaker 3: him because she's not sneaky about it. Oh boy, these
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: comments are going to grill you. Commenter says, I think
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: families try to pretend it's not happening out of fear
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: of judgment or losing family members out of anger. If
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: it hadn't been you, she would have slipped up or
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: it would have been someone else telling him. All you
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: did was speed up the inevitable. That's exactly what happens.
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: The family didn't say anything out of fear because my
• 41:36
  Speaker 3: cousin would cut us out of her life. And we
• 41:39
  Speaker 3: couldn't see her daughter, which has never happened. But my
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: cousin can be vindictive. And because we already know the
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: type of mom she is, I think everyone just didn't
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: say anything because of her daughter, which is insane. You
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: think you would do this for her daughter? Yeah. But
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: I now realize the environment my niece is growing in
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: isn't good. No child should see a loveless marriage. I
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: just don't want her being permanently effed up because I
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: never said anything. But I know now this doesn't get fixed.
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: She will have issues because of her mom. I don't
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: disown family because we're blood and my cousin is good
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: to me. But I can't be an enabler anymore.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: Oh boy.
• 42:15
  Speaker 4: Please just, yes. You've waited too long already. Let's get
• 42:18
  Speaker 4: to the chase. Let's cut to that chase.
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: I like how everyone's afraid that your cousin's going to
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: cut you guys off.
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: Like, why do we even want, I mean, like, I
• 42:26
  Speaker 4: think they just want the daughter around.
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: The niece. But, okay, great.
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 42:31
  Speaker 3: Bye, your daughter and her father. I mean, I don't think, honestly,
• 42:35
  Speaker 3: now it's your fault. If that's what you guys were
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: afraid of, the father could be like, I'm taking my
• 42:39
  Speaker 3: daughter away from you guys because she doesn't deserve you.
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think he probably would.
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: I don't blame him. I have an update here. Well,
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: after I made this post almost two years ago.
• 42:48
  Speaker 5: Oh, wow.
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: Two years?
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: Dang.
• 42:51
  Speaker 4: I forgot about it.
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: I never thought I'd ever bring this up again. My
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: cousin's husband vented to me today about the complications in
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: his marriage. My cousin was fouled by her husband today
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: and on their daughter's birthday simply because she didn't want
• 43:03
  Speaker 3: his old family military pictures to be in the backdrop.
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: You're joking me.
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: Your cousin is a demon.
• 43:11
  Speaker 4: It's been two years and you still have not told
• 43:15
  Speaker 4: this guy?
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: You're the a-hole.
• 43:17
  Speaker 3: All of you are a-holes except him and his daughter.
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: Big old a-hole.
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: It didn't sit well with me and I'm finally in
• 43:24
  Speaker 3: a place in my life where I have strong moral
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: foundation where I can confront things head on that do
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: bother me.
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: You suck. You're the a-hole. You're a big time a-hole.
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: I am tired of you, OP. I'm tired of everyone else.
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I hate OP. Get this husband out of there.
• 43:37
  Speaker 4: He needs a better life. So.
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: My cousin actually went out clubbing and I told the
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: husband I have his back and to not let her
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: walk over him. You do not have his back. Yeah.
• 43:48
  Speaker 4: You're like, I have your back, but you're like tripping him. Yeah.
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: I've got your back.
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: You're pushing him down.
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: Backstory. My family is Latin and they only speak Spanish
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: and he's American, so he's pretty isolated.
• 44:00
  Speaker 4: Oh my God. I... Almost can like say for a
• 44:04
  Speaker 4: fact that these people have talked like in front of
• 44:08
  Speaker 4: him about him being cheated on, but.
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: Probably just in Spanish. He has no family here on
• 44:13
  Speaker 3: his own. My cousin is the active duty personnel. Well,
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: tonight I finally told him everything.
• 44:20
  Speaker 4: It only took freaking like six years.
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: Too long. Way too long. And I feel like dog crap.
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: I picked the worst timing. Because I told him Thanksgiving
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: week where we have back-to-back family events. You told him
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: during Thanksgiving week?
• 44:34
  Speaker 4: You suck. You are the worst. You're the problem in
• 44:37
  Speaker 4: this story.
• 44:37
  Speaker 3: Family sucks. I didn't realize the shockwave this could cause
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: my whole family and even my relationship with my niece
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: who I love like my own.
• 44:45
  Speaker 4: You didn't realize this would cause a shockwave in your family?
• 44:49
  Speaker 4: You're so dumb.
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: The cat's out of the bag and there's no taking
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: it back.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: Honestly.
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: I feel like I'm the ale here.
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 44:57
  Speaker 6: What?
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 45:00
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 45:03
  Speaker 4: You're a genius. So, B, how'd you come up with that?
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: I should have listened to my family about not saying anything.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: No.
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: No, you.
• 45:10
  Speaker 3: You've learned nothing. You freaking suck. You and your family.
• 45:14
  Speaker 4: You've learned nothing.
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: I just hope I didn't cause irreparable damage to my niece.
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: Sometimes I think it's better to lack empathy.
• 45:21
  Speaker 4: You lack any brains.
• 45:25
  Speaker 3: I want to go to your family gathering, put your
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: niece and her father away to the side and be like, hey, earmuffs,
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: I'm looking at all of you. I'm pointing and going,
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: F you, F you, F you, F you. Where's your cousin?
• 45:39
  Speaker 3: F you to the max.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: Big F you to her.
• 45:43
  Speaker 3: You guys suck. The fact that you're like, ah!
• 45:44
  Speaker 4: This was a bad idea. Oh, I can't imagine how
• 45:47
  Speaker 4: much the comments are roasting you. Cause the fact that you,
• 45:50
  Speaker 4: after two years, cause I imagine that she's been dating
• 45:53
  Speaker 4: or she's been with her husband for.
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: Maybe at least multiple, at least a year. I don't know.
• 45:57
  Speaker 4: Well, they have a kid.
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: So probably let's say like minimum six years. And then
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: plus the two years that we waited for the update.
• 46:06
  Speaker 4: So let's say we're at like eight years of this
• 46:08
  Speaker 4: marriage of her cheating on her husband and everyone knowing
• 46:14
  Speaker 4: that And then your conclusion is, maybe I'm the a-hole.
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: Shouldn't have told him.
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: Remember when OP said, I can't sleep at night because
• 46:22
  Speaker 3: of this.
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: Shut up. Shut up.
• 46:24
  Speaker 4: You suck.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: You suck.
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: You're the worst.
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: You, your family.
• 46:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I hate your cousin.
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: Suck.
• 46:30
  Speaker 4: But I think I hate you the most.
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: No, I hate the cousin the most because she's actively
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: cheating on her husband and family.
• 46:36
  Speaker 4: But I think just because OP has presented me this story,
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: I hate them the most.
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: No, I hate all of you.
• 46:42
  Speaker 4: You're all the worst. You're all the worst.
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: But I think the top one is the one who's
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: cheating and actively cheating and keeps saying, he's not going
• 46:50
  Speaker 3: to find out.
• 46:51
  Speaker 4: Cousin is the worst because she's an a-hole and she's
• 46:54
  Speaker 4: like the biggest a-hole. OP is the worst because you
• 46:58
  Speaker 4: told me the story and you're stupid.
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: And your family sucks. Dishonor on all your family.
• 47:03
  Speaker 4: Dishonor on everyone and your cow.
• 47:05
  Speaker 3: From here on out.
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: But that is the end of that story.
• 47:10
  Speaker 6: My wife's car was stolen a month ago. Now she's
• 47:13
  Speaker 6: leaving my keys in my car.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: Well, I feel like we know how it got stolen.
• 47:19
  Speaker 6: There have been car thieves roaming around our area for
• 47:22
  Speaker 6: a few months now. It's a huge problem and they've
• 47:25
  Speaker 6: boosted a ton of cars. My wife has this awful
• 47:29
  Speaker 6: habit of leaving her keys in her car and the
• 47:31
  Speaker 6: car unlocked. I told her on multiple occasions to not
• 47:34
  Speaker 6: do that.
• 47:35
  Speaker 4: Her response is.
• 47:36
  Speaker 6: That she grew up in this town and that it's safe.
• 47:39
  Speaker 6: I told her she knows that there are car thieves
• 47:41
  Speaker 6: roaming around and that she's just making it easier for them.
• 47:45
  Speaker 6: Sure enough, just over a month ago, her car was
• 47:47
  Speaker 6: stolen right out of our driveway overnight. She had left
• 47:50
  Speaker 6: her keys in the car, her purse with ID and
• 47:54
  Speaker 6: debit and credit cards, all of which had to be canceled,
• 47:57
  Speaker 6: as well as an astonishing $ 3, 000 worth of various gym
• 48:01
  Speaker 6: equipment in the trunk.
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: What? $ 3, 000 of gym equipment in the trunk? She's a
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: personal trainer. Yeah, I hate to break it to you, buddy.
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: Your wife's a little stupid. I get it.
• 48:13
  Speaker 6: My dad used to do this all the time. Well, no,
• 48:16
  Speaker 6: my mom would do this. Uh-oh. Well, my mom would
• 48:21
  Speaker 6: put her keys in the car, not lock it, but
• 48:24
  Speaker 6: close the garage.
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: Oh, well, that's different. It's in the garage.
• 48:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but they ended.
• 48:28
  Speaker 6: Up breaking through the side garage door and then getting it.
• 48:32
  Speaker 6: I mean, they didn't steal her car.
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: It's in the garage. It's like, I'll give you that.
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: It's in the garage.
• 48:38
  Speaker 6: The car and insurance are both in my name as
• 48:41
  Speaker 6: I'm the sole income for our family and I've had
• 48:43
  Speaker 6: to deal with the entire insurance process. Cut to today.
• 48:47
  Speaker 6: My wife has been using my car for a few
• 48:50
  Speaker 6: days now as we're past the 30-day rental car period
• 48:53
  Speaker 6: and had to give the rental car back. She comes
• 48:56
  Speaker 6: home from the gym and I ask her for my keys.
• 48:58
  Speaker 6: She tells me they're in the car. I ask her
• 49:01
  Speaker 6: to please get them. She says she's going back out
• 49:03
  Speaker 6: again soon. I ask calmly one more time. And she
• 49:07
  Speaker 6: says her car was stolen at night. They're not going
• 49:10
  Speaker 6: to steal in broad daylight.
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: Yes, they will.
• 49:14
  Speaker 4: It may be easier at night, but that doesn't stop them.
• 49:19
  Speaker 6: The sun doesn't stop. I lose my crap. Hurl some
• 49:23
  Speaker 6: nasty words, and her response is that all she's learned
• 49:26
  Speaker 6: is to keep her mouth shut and just not tell.
• 49:29
  Speaker 4: Me anything next time. That's not the lesson here.
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: Honestly, if that's what you learned, I'm divorcing you.
• 49:35
  Speaker 4: Are you serious?
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: Are you kidding me?
• 49:39
  Speaker 4: I'd be so annoyed.
• 49:40
  Speaker 6: I'd be like, why can't, just like make it a
• 49:42
  Speaker 6: habit to not do that now.
• 49:44
  Speaker 4: End of story. There we go.
• 49:45
  Speaker 6: Now none of our stuff is, you know, I get like, oh,
• 49:48
  Speaker 6: I'm going back out. Like me, I would do the
• 49:50
  Speaker 6: same thing if I was going like back out, you know,
• 49:53
  Speaker 6: in a little bit. But the thing is, now I
• 49:55
  Speaker 6: have to bring my keys with me because I need
• 49:57
  Speaker 6: my keys to open my door.
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: It's crazy. This is insane.
• 50:01
  Speaker 5: This is the same logic of like you use the
• 50:04
  Speaker 5: bathroom and it's like, did you wipe?
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: No, I'm going to use the bathroom again later.
• 50:07
  Speaker 5: It's just like the stupidest thing you could possibly say.
• 50:11
  Speaker 5: But now all I've learned is to tell you is
• 50:14
  Speaker 5: to not tell you whether or not I wipe.
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: Shut up. I divorce you.
• 50:19
  Speaker 5: I refuse to be married to someone with this level
• 50:22
  Speaker 5: of stupidity in their brain.
• 50:24
  Speaker 6: By the way, this comes from Deleted. And if you
• 50:27
  Speaker 6: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 50:29
  Speaker 6: slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 50:30
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 50:32
  Speaker 6: And we are here to give some good advice goofily,
• 50:34
  Speaker 6: but we don't have all your answers.
• 50:35
  Speaker 4: So what we're going to do is tell you what
• 50:36
  Speaker 4: we would do. But let us know what you would
• 50:38
  Speaker 4: do down in the comments. And Opie says.
• 50:41
  Speaker 6: I'm definitely an a-hole here for the yelling, but I
• 50:44
  Speaker 6: need to know if everyone sucks here. I literally feel
• 50:48
  Speaker 6: like I'm living in the Twilight Zone or something. I
• 50:50
  Speaker 6: cannot understand my wife's line of thinking here. I cannot
• 50:54
  Speaker 6: possibly exist in the same universe as someone who left
• 50:56
  Speaker 6: their keys in their car, had it stolen, and then
• 50:59
  Speaker 6: left their husband's keys in his car just.
• 51:02
  Speaker 4: Over a month later.
• 51:03
  Speaker 6: Am I the a-hole?
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: Fun fact, both of those cars were yours. They were
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: under your name. You paid for them. You make all
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: the money. And it's like, yeah, whatever. That's neither here
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: nor there. But like, honestly, brother, you probably did it
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: better than I would have lost. I would have left.
• 51:21
  Speaker 5: I would have left immediately just from the sheer idiocy
• 51:25
  Speaker 5: of that behavior. And on a more sensitive level, she's
• 51:29
  Speaker 5: probably just really embarrassed at her, you know, and she's
• 51:33
  Speaker 5: trying to like be like.
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: Well, why? No, it's like, well, they stole it. And
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, blah, blah, blah. But it's like,
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: I don't care how embarrassed you are. You got to
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: not do that ever again.
• 51:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 51:43
  Speaker 6: Plus, I don't know.
• 51:44
  Speaker 5: Is she?
• 51:45
  Speaker 6: I mean, I doubt she's trying to like prove a
• 51:47
  Speaker 6: point here that, oh, it's not going to get stolen twice,
• 51:50
  Speaker 6: you know, but I don't know. You just I think
• 51:53
  Speaker 6: now that you've let the anger out, come back to
• 51:55
  Speaker 6: the situation and have a nice calming conversation and, you know,
• 52:00
  Speaker 6: see if she deflects or gets defensive, then then that's
• 52:03
  Speaker 6: a red flag.
• 52:04
  Speaker 4: Update.
• 52:05
  Speaker 6: First of all, thank you everyone who took time out
• 52:07
  Speaker 6: of their day to read this, comment on it, or
• 52:10
  Speaker 6: message me. 99.9% of responses were thoughtful, helpful, and legitimate.
• 52:15
  Speaker 6: That's impressive for Reddit, or any social media platform these days, lol.
• 52:18
  Speaker 6: As for an actual update, I will just lay out
• 52:21
  Speaker 6: where we currently are. I think I took bits and
• 52:23
  Speaker 6: pieces of everybody's advice here, and there's likely further to
• 52:26
  Speaker 6: go still, but it's a start. For starters, we bought
• 52:29
  Speaker 6: another vehicle today. There's plenty of tech like app-based remote start, lock, unlock,
• 52:36
  Speaker 6: engine control without the key fob present, and GPS location capability.
• 52:41
  Speaker 6: All great features, but of course, still nullified if she
• 52:44
  Speaker 6: leaves the keys in the car again. She's admitted that
• 52:46
  Speaker 6: she's got a bad habit, and she's trying to break it.
• 52:49
  Speaker 6: Still doesn't explain her doubling down the other day when
• 52:52
  Speaker 6: I wrote this, but I'll chalk that up to a
• 52:54
  Speaker 6: very strange defense mechanism. She is going to try harder
• 52:58
  Speaker 6: to change her habit and not get annoyed at me
• 53:00
  Speaker 6: when I ask every time she comes or goes. Do
• 53:03
  Speaker 6: you have your keys and purse with you?
• 53:05
  Speaker 5: It's very sweet that you guys are working this out.
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: I'd still be so annoyed.
• 53:10
  Speaker 6: You know what I would get? I would get the
• 53:14
  Speaker 6: my dad does this. So he has obviously everyone has
• 53:17
  Speaker 6: like two pairs of keys and whatever. He has one
• 53:20
  Speaker 6: pair of keys that he like carries around. And then
• 53:23
  Speaker 6: he always has my mom has the other pair in
• 53:26
  Speaker 6: her car. But the one that he carries around, he
• 53:29
  Speaker 6: does leave in the car and he locks the car.
• 53:32
  Speaker 6: But he it has one of those like keypad things.
• 53:35
  Speaker 6: So he could just do the keypad thing and get in. Like,
• 53:38
  Speaker 6: I think that's very smart.
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: No, not really. Not going to lie. One is the
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: obsession with keeping the key in the car. Dude.
• 53:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: If someone just looks in the car and goes, oh,
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: the key is in there.
• 53:49
  Speaker 3: Bang.
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: Break the window. Unlock the car. I'm out.
• 53:53
  Speaker 4: He had a little thing for it. There was like
• 53:55
  Speaker 4: this little thing that would like open and you'd close it.
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: I guess.
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: But just take what's... Just take the key inside, you freaks.
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: What's wrong with all of you?
• 54:03
  Speaker 6: I'm just saying if like it's a habit and she
• 54:06
  Speaker 6: can't break it and it's like impossible and she just
• 54:08
  Speaker 6: constantly forgets, having that feature is like a little better.
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: You know what would immediately break that habit for me?
• 54:14
  Speaker 4: Divorce.
• 54:15
  Speaker 5: No, getting my car stolen would make me go, oh...
• 54:19
  Speaker 5: I should never, ever, ever do that again, huh?
• 54:22
  Speaker 4: All right, let's finish it up.
• 54:23
  Speaker 6: Finally, as a bit of self-preservation for myself and to
• 54:26
  Speaker 6: hopefully help her feel more ownership, she's the primary on
• 54:31
  Speaker 6: the new vehicle I co-signed, of course, as the sole
• 54:33
  Speaker 6: income earner in the household, and she's going to get
• 54:36
  Speaker 6: her own insurance policies separate from mine. Unfortunately for now,
• 54:39
  Speaker 6: I carry the stolen car claim, but that will fade
• 54:42
  Speaker 6: over time. If there are any future issues, at least
• 54:45
  Speaker 6: that will be in her name and on her policy. Anyway,
• 54:48
  Speaker 6: this was much longer of an update than I intended,
• 54:50
  Speaker 6: but I thought you all deserve some kind of closure. Again,
• 54:53
  Speaker 6: thank you for all of your time.
• 54:54
  Speaker 4: You did good, Reddit. And that's all.
• 54:58
  Speaker 6: So, sounds like she didn't really learn her lesson, though. But,
• 55:02
  Speaker 6: I don't know, maybe over time you've worked on it
• 55:04
  Speaker 6: and things get better.
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 55:07
  Speaker 6: I'm hoping they do, because, yeah, I think it was
• 55:10
  Speaker 6: a good idea to put it in her name, though.
• 55:13
  Speaker 6: And like for her to get her insurance because you
• 55:16
  Speaker 6: had to go through all of that with the stolen car.
• 55:18
  Speaker 6: So now she may feel like more of a sense
• 55:20
  Speaker 6: of responsibility because it's in her name. It's her car
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  Speaker 6: per se, you know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: Sometimes that happens. So I wish you guys best of luck.
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: I'm just done. I'm so done. I'm just immediately like
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: checked out.
• 55:32
  Speaker 6: The thing about habits is that you can break them.
• 55:35
  Speaker 6: It takes some time and dedication and, you know, work
• 55:38
  Speaker 6: ethic and some encouragement. Probably from your partner, friends and family, but.
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  Speaker 4: It's possible.
• 55:44
  Speaker 6: It's proven time and time again.
• 55:47
  Speaker 4: And that's the end of this story.
• 55:48
  Speaker 6: We're going to go to the next one.
• 55:49
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• 55:54
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• 56:00
  Speaker 5: I refused to change my name after marriage, and it
• 56:03
  Speaker 5: made my husband move out.
• 56:05
  Speaker 3: Well, was it worth it?
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: My husband, 30 male, and I.
• 56:08
  Speaker 5: 28 female, got married a little over a year ago. Anyway,
• 56:13
  Speaker 5: I ordered DoorDash for us for lunch yesterday, and when
• 56:15
  Speaker 5: it arrived, he got it from the porch, as one does.
• 56:19
  Speaker 5: When he came back to the kitchen, he was visibly upset,
• 56:21
  Speaker 5: and when I asked what was wrong, he asked me
• 56:24
  Speaker 5: why my last initial on the order was still my
• 56:26
  Speaker 5: maiden name. I told him I never really thought about it.
• 56:30
  Speaker 5: He asked me to change it, but I refused and
• 56:33
  Speaker 5: told him he was overreacting because it wasn't that important
• 56:37
  Speaker 5: as it's only for the Dasher to get whatever we
• 56:39
  Speaker 5: ordered from the restaurant, and you don't even have to
• 56:42
  Speaker 5: put your real name.
• 56:43
  Speaker 3: Holy crap, this is stupid.
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: This is dumb on both sides.
• 56:47
  Speaker 3: Okay, keep going. I am astonished.
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: He blew up and wouldn't talk to me for hours.
• 56:54
  Speaker 5: He eventually said if I was ashamed of using his
• 56:57
  Speaker 5: last name, then I should just say so. And without
• 56:59
  Speaker 5: letting me speak, he left to stay at his parents' house.
• 57:02
  Speaker 5: You know what's really stupid? I guarantee you on the receipt,
• 57:05
  Speaker 5: it doesn't even have your last name. It's probably the, like,
• 57:08
  Speaker 5: for me, it'd be like M.
• 57:10
  Speaker 3: Not even. This is stupid.
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: This is very dumb.
• 57:13
  Speaker 5: He hasn't responded to any of my texts or calls
• 57:16
  Speaker 5: for the last 24 hours.
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: But I still have his location, and he is indeed
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: at his parents' house.
• 57:21
  Speaker 3: Honey, why are you here? Why aren't you at home
• 57:23
  Speaker 3: with your wife? Her name on the receipt was her
• 57:26
  Speaker 3: maiden name!
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: She didn't change her last name on Dorda.
• 57:30
  Speaker 3: She don't love me.
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: Honestly, at this point, I have no idea what to think.
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from AliDom45.
• 57:35
  Speaker 5: If you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 57:37
  Speaker 5: the r slash ok story time subreddit.
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 57:40
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: We're gonna read this stupid little tale we have here.
• 57:43
  Speaker 3: My brain hurts.
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: We're going to have our own thoughts. You get to
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: agree or disagree. It's okay. Let us know in the comments.
• 57:49
  Speaker 5: And OP says, Am I the a-hole for not changing
• 57:51
  Speaker 5: it when he asked? Or is this a start to
• 57:54
  Speaker 5: something much bigger?
• 57:55
  Speaker 3: This is so stupid. I'm sorry. Okay. I see both
• 58:00
  Speaker 3: sides of it on how both of it, both, it's
• 58:02
  Speaker 3: just very, each side, stupid. You know what you should do?
• 58:05
  Speaker 3: Change your name to like Optimus Prime. Make it fun.
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: Change your name to Big Chungus.
• 58:09
  Speaker 3: Chimichungus. There you go.
• 58:10
  Speaker 5: We've never had an argument like this and have had
• 58:12
  Speaker 5: a perfect marriage and relationship otherwise. I just feel like
• 58:15
  Speaker 5: I don't know the man I'm married to anymore.
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: Are you serious? That's how far you're taking this?
• 58:22
  Speaker 3: Both of you are taking this way too far for
• 58:24
  Speaker 3: something that's really freaking stupid.
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: Oh my God. Well, there's an update. I am definitely
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: an idiot. But the best lessons are learned firsthand. A
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: few days after my original post, he came home. A
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: few days.
• 58:39
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, you guys are children. Or acting like it.
• 58:42
  Speaker 3: You guys are full-fledged adults. You're acting like children.
• 58:45
  Speaker 5: His mother had called me, and we have always been
• 58:47
  Speaker 5: on fairly good speaking terms, and asked what was going on,
• 58:50
  Speaker 5: since he wouldn't tell her. I explained the situation, and
• 58:54
  Speaker 5: she told me she was very disappointed in him for
• 58:57
  Speaker 5: starting all this over something so simple, regardless of if
• 59:01
  Speaker 5: I was willing to change it or not.
• 59:03
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, there's an actual adult in this story.
• 59:06
  Speaker 5: Anyway... He came home and apologized with the most sincere
• 59:09
  Speaker 5: apology I've ever received in my life.
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: Or so I thought.
• 59:14
  Speaker 5: This weekend, his job had a Labor Day party where
• 59:16
  Speaker 5: all his co-workers and their families were invited over to
• 59:19
  Speaker 5: the boss's house. We don't normally go to these sorts
• 59:21
  Speaker 5: of things because our families are usually doing things the
• 59:24
  Speaker 5: same day. But this time we decided to go since
• 59:27
  Speaker 5: my children were with their dad and our families were
• 59:30
  Speaker 5: out of town. We get there and I'm meeting a
• 59:32
  Speaker 5: lot of new people, but I'm most looking forward to
• 59:35
  Speaker 5: meeting Danny. The guy I assumed was his best friend
• 59:38
  Speaker 5: since he's always talking about him.
• 59:41
  Speaker 3: Danny.
• 59:42
  Speaker 5: is nowhere to be found, until this absolutely gorgeous woman
• 59:45
  Speaker 5: walks in, and it turns out Dani is actually Dani,
• 59:49
  Speaker 5: short for Danielle.
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: I kept my cool at the.
• 59:52
  Speaker 5: Omission of her gender, but it all clicked when her
• 59:54
  Speaker 5: and I had a conversation. She is probably one of
• 59:58
  Speaker 5: the most progressive women I've ever met, but not in
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 5: an aggressive manner. Apparently my husband made a fool of
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 5: himself to her as well by saying her fiancé wasn't
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 5: a real man because he's okay with that. She told
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 5: him off and didn't speak to him for a few days.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: She said he.
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 5: Apologized, get this, before he apologized to me. Anyway, it
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 5: turns out that whole argument was just a projection of
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 5: his own inner feelings and the discrepancy between him and Danny.
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 5: I kept my cool at the party, but in the
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 5: conversation I had with him later, he admitted to having
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 5: a crush on her.
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was about to say.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 3: Shocking.
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: It makes so much sense that he would say, oh,
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: he's not a real man.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 3: I can show you a real man.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, what? So you've got a crush on her? Dude,
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: just like, ugh.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 3: Like I said, acting like a preteen.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 5: This guy's the most ugh guy. I was so livin'
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 5: and hurt by this that I booted him out. I'm
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 5: gonna be calling divorce lawyers today because I'm done and
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 5: will not spend the rest of my life worrying if
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 5: he has something going on with one of his coworkers.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 5: I'm just thankful that the house was mine before we
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 5: got married.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 3: That's crazy. All it took was ordering food, ordering takeout,
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 3: having your name not even have his last name, and
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 3: this all just imploded. Obviously, it was projections from him,
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 3: So stupid.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: I don't even know if I'm happy that y'all are divorced.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I could be happy about any
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: of that. I'm just happy it's over.
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 3: Me too.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: But good luck on your divorce, guys.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story.