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The Mom Behind Meekah: Kaitlin Becker on Acting, Parenting, and What’s Next · Mommywood

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  Mom, welcome back to Mommy Wood, the podcast where we dive into
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  the wild, beautiful and sometimes completely crazy world
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  of being both a mom and a performer.
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  I am your host Emily, and if you've ever found yourself
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  running on coffee, passion and the sheer willpower of a sleep
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  deprived parent then you are in the right.
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  Place on this episode of Mommy Wood, I have the pleasure of
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  talking with the incredible Caitlyn Becker, who you probably
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  know as Mika from the Blippy World.
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  Caitlyn's story is such a ride. This episode is so fun.
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  It was so great talking to her. We talk about how she started
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  out in musical theater in New York and somehow found herself
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  in children's programming and then ended up in a part as a
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  part of this huge franchise that now parents and kids know
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  everywhere. And we talk about her getting
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  recognized and how she handles herself on social media and how
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  it's like to be an actress and a real person but known by kids.
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  And also the misinformation about the success and the
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  business side of that whole world for her.
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  In this episode we we talk about how everything from how how that
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  all started to also what it's been like stepping away from
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  Mika to focus on herself, her son Everett who's now 8 to
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  taking new steps in her career and seeing what's coming next.
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  She was so honest about Co parenting with her partner,
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  traveling so much for work, Also the financial side of being a
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  single mom and the pressure to stay on when people recognize
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  her from their favorite kids show.
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  This episode is real, it's funny and it's such a great reminder
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  that even when when it looks like someone has it all figured
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  out, they're probably just doing their best just like the rest of
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  us. I loved talking with Caitlin.
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  She is such a breath of fresh air.
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  She's so honest. She's so lovely and fun and it
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  was just an honor to get to talk to her and I know you're going
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  to enjoy it. This episode of Mommy would with
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  Caitlin Becker. Hello.
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  Hello. Hi, can you hear me OK?
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  Yeah, I can hear you. Great.
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  Wait, are you wearing a? Are you wearing your own merch?
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  You got merch? Sit up.
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  Let's see it. That's so cute.
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  Thanks, I'm the only one who wears it, but it's.
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  I love it. No, that's so cute.
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  Thank you. I have to reupdate my because I
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  just do it like through Etsy. Yeah that's not true.
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  My sister bought one too. My last sister with the support.
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  There we go. Oh my gosh, I'm so excited to
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  chat with you. Thanks for.
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  Having me and nice to meet you. You too.
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  I'm I'm getting so much cool mom cred right now.
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  Although my daughter, she left for school and she's like, wait,
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  what you're talking to? I mean, she's only three, but
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  she's like, wait, what? Where are you going?
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  How are you talking to Mika? And I was like, girl, I'll tell
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  you about it later. I'll have to make her a video.
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  Oh my God, that she would be so excited.
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  Yeah, well, I'm already recording, but we'll edit stuff.
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  But yeah, it's super obviously very casual conversation.
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  But if there's anything you want, you don't want to answer,
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  I'm not going to probably ask anything inappropriate.
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  But if I do, you can feel free to say Emily past feeding the
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  5th. Or if you do, and then you're
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  like, actually, I shouldn't have said that, then we'll make,
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  we'll make my producer edited out.
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  Perfect. Easy peasy.
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  Well, Caitlin, thank you so much for being a part of Mommy would
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  of. Course.
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  OK. So you're originally from
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  Kentucky and now you're in New York, correct?
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  So let's just go all the way back And what brought you from
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  Well, I know you did musical theater, so I'm assuming just
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  brought you to New York, but how long have you been in New York?
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  18 years. Wow, yeah, I bet it doesn't feel
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  like that long. It Yeah.
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  It doesn't but. It doesn't.
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  It's weird because it just feels like I've lived many lives.
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  I mean, I was 23 I think when I moved here, but mentally like
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  16, you know, like I was. So I just feel like I grew up
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  here. I found myself here.
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  So sometimes I'm like, Oh yeah, I've lived there for like 30
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  years. Yeah.
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  And then other times I'm like, wait, how come I've been here 18
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  years? You know, time is just weird
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  that. Way it is weird, especially once
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  you have a kid and it's like, wait, wait, was that before they
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  were born? Wait, it couldn't have been that
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  long ago. Like all of those things and you
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  have one son. Yeah, he's about to turn 8.
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  So everything is either before Everett or after Everett or like
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  before COVID or after COVID. Yeah, yeah.
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  Right, 08. Is that a fun age?
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  How is that? I love it.
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  There is a little bit of like because like the baby is leaving
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  and this like weird almost preteen bro.
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  Dude. Shows up like there's still a
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  little baby in there, but I am like mourning the loss of 6 and
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  under Everett because yeah, it's just like it's for me.
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  It felt like an overnight change where he woke up and he was like
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  stretched out being and he was just talking, you know,
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  differently. Like it's, I can't imagine
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  puberty. Like I think that's going to be
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  really difficult because I already can't do like the tiny
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  changes. So I'm like, Oh my God, are you
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  still in there? But it's awesome because he's
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  like my little dude, we can have great conversations and we make
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  each other laugh. And so like, that's really fun.
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  Yeah. Yeah.
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  Yeah, that is weird, watching them grow up because then, yeah,
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  because sometimes it's like you don't really notice.
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  Then all of a sudden it's like, wait, what are you saying?
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  How are you a full person now? And I the our phones are
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  constantly reminding us what they used to look like.
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  Oh. Yeah, with our like last year at
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  this time. Yes, and it it's like a hate
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  love because I like that we have thousands of pictures of our kid
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  and a little device. It just always be like look,
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  look, look, but sometimes I hate it because I think it makes it
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  worse with the the changes because our parents weren't
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  like, oh, let's just look at them from a year ago, two years
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  ago. So I don't know, I'm like.
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  Yeah, You had to wait for it to be in the photo album.
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  I think of that sometimes where I like, you know, will record my
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  daughter and she's like, let me see it.
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  And I'm like, I can't imagine seeing myself in real time, like
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  as a child, like seeing myself back in real time.
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  Immediately. Yeah, because I'm like, I feel
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  like I don't know how old I was when we first got like a
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  camcorder, but like we weren't, my parents were using it like I
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  wasn't using it. But yeah, it is bizarre.
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  Time, yeah. So obviously you've played the
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  beloved Mika. How did that come about?
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  And how long ago is that? Cause for me, my daughter's only
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  three. So I've only found you more
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  recently, but I feel like it's been longer for you.
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  I'm sure, yeah. It, I mean, that's the cool
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  thing about YouTube and streaming services is that
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  because I don't play the character anymore.
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  But what made it feel better leaving is knowing the episodes
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  are out there and there's going to be new fans every day who are
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  discovering it for the first time because it just will live
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  on, you know, hopefully forever. But I my journey with Mika began
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  in 2020. So during like lockdown.
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  Oh, so it wasn't that long ago. What?
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  Yeah, I mean. Another weird thing about time,
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  because I feel like that was 10 years ago that we were all like,
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  stuck in our homes. But yeah, it was five years ago,
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  but it feels like so long ago. But yeah, it started with a Zoom
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  meeting like this. So just introducing myself to
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  the Moonbug team, and I had no idea who Blippi was.
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  Everett I had not seen anything on YouTube, I don't think at
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  that point. But I did not know the character
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  at all, Like and I don't think they believed me because they
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  were like, OK, we can't say the name, but it's a guy on YouTube.
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  Suspenders, glasses. We can't say anymore.
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  We can't say any more. And I was like.
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  We're like I. Don't know who that is.
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  And they're like, she's good. I was like, I really don't know.
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  But I had done Sunnyside Up, which was a live morning show
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  for preschoolers without my work on it, and it was on NBC.
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  And so I hadn't met a lot of people like in the biz, in kids
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  media. And so it was just one of those
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  like, hey, we're looking for someone to play both these best
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  friends. And my name was recommended a
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  few times from some friends. And so that's how the meeting
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  happened. And it was, it's not like your
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  typical audition get the job story because they were just
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  like, yeah, do you want to do this?
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  And I'm like, do what? Like I was so confused, like,
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  make YouTube videos, like what? And they flew me out and I did
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  some tests. Where was it that they flew?
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  You LA And I remember asking like, is it safe to get on an
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  airplane right now? Like I have not left my home.
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  So I was on an airplane with like 4 people mathed up and just
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  like, I don't know if we're is this OK that we're doing this?
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  That's yeah. So then, well then obviously if
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  it was only five years ago, you already had your son, So what
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  what to do with him? Where was.
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  What do we do with the kid? So at the time, yeah, so my ex
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  and I are separated. That's why I said X and we are
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  we're Co parenting. And at the time we were still
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  together. And even if we were Co
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  parenting, it's nice to have another parent to be like, do
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  you mind? So he he stayed back with Kelly.
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  And then when they first flew me out, it was not for YouTube.
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  It was not to join the franchise.
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  It was you are going to play this character Mika on Blippy's
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  Treehouse with OG Blippy. And again, I'm like Blippy
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  Schlippy, like I'm still learning what this world is, but
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  OK. Yeah.
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  So I went in thinking it was like a three month gig.
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  And then after Treehouse they were like join the franchise,
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  sign this contract. And I was like, oh, Dang, I
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  guess guess we're in it. We're doing, we're doing the
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  thing. But yeah, I left New York for
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  three months and was on the West Coast.
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  Yeah. So, so then how did you?
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  So then it was obviously longer than three months.
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  So then when you, well, I guess you were kind of filming.
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  I was going back and forth. Yeah, we filmed.
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  Videos. You're like, in all sorts of
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  places, yeah. It was a lot of traveling.
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  It was probably like 2 weeks out of the month.
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  Every month I was travelling to random places, a lot of LA,
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  which was awesome because I have a lot of friends there.
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  So yeah. It's always fun as someone in LA
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  to be like, oh I know that place.
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  Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I bet.
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  I love that so. So that is a lot of Co parenting
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  dealing with scheduling. Oh my God, yeah, and a lot of
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  the requests for last minute too.
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  So it would be like, oh shit, next Thursday I'm flying to
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  Seattle, I guess. And luckily I keep looking at my
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  window. But when I look out my window
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  referencing like the neighbors, because we have such a great
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  community here, like thank God, where I can just text like the
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  neighbor group. Can someone help pick up
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  Everett, you know, or whatever. And it's, it's been such a
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  blessing because it's very rare that there's any panic around
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  childcare. Like there's always someone
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  who's like, I got it. And we all have kids that are
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  around the same age and they're all besties.
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  So it's just, I don't want to jinx it.
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  I'm like, please, we have to say community, please.
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  Yeah. So is your ex then still does he
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  or does he? Yeah, sorry.
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  I was like, did they? That's.
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  OK, that's OK. Does she live in the nearby you
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  guys still? A street over.
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  Wow, that's. So nice.
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  Yeah. Yeah.
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  So we're kind of spoiled because little things like for getting a
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  piece of a uniform or something, it's like, oh, let's just like
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  scurry over and get it from the other home, yeah.
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  That's so much nicer. Yeah.
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  Yeah. I don't know how people do.
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  It a lot easier. I don't either, yeah.
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  So then you were working on that The Kids Show on NBC beforehand.
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  What did you like work with kids or like obviously you did
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  musical theater, but like, did you?
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  Like how did it musicals too? Yeah.
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  How do you think so? Because now you're kind of, and
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  I know you've you're no longer Mika, but you've had a lot of
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  kids stuff going on. So how did and so have I?
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  So I know, but like, how did you get into kids stuff?
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  Or was it like the audition for that show?
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  Yes, that, but also so the audition for Sunnyside up the
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  breakdown was a breakdown I've never seen before like like
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  this, because you know how usually it's like strong movers,
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  singer, comedic, whatever. It was like experience working
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  with children and then it would say like, you know, example
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  preschool daycare, like early childhood development, and this
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  is for like an acting audition. It was this is.
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  Almost like an. Acting experience, college
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  degree. So, I mean, there were so many
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  things and but every single one, I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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  yeah. Because before I moved to New
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  York, I worked at the Goddard School for five years.
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  Yeah. Like as a preschool teacher, I
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  babysat my my whole life. I did theater for kids a lot in
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  Kentucky and Cincinnati area. And then when I moved to New
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  York, the first show that I booked was for kids.
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  And I remember being irritated because the show times were
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  like, 10 AM and 12:00 because they were for little kids.
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  And I was like, a young 23, like, partying in New York.
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  Like, I took it up early for my show.
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  Who does that? But I loved it.
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  And I remember thinking, like, this is not hard and not in,
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  like, any cocky kind of way, but like, I kind of didn't like it
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  because it felt easy because I couldn't understand, like, oh,
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  because you're good at this. Like this feels good.
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  You're not like breaking your back trying to, you know,
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  convince the kids or I don't know.
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  I was just like, but it's easy. Like I want the biggest
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  challenge of life. I'm an actor.
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  So I kind of kept like pushing it away like enough with the
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  theater for kids. And then I got tired of musical
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  theater and I was like, let me just put it on the back burner.
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  I need like a break from theater and I'm going to focus on like
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  TV, film. So I started taking some classes
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  and doing little like college independent films and things and
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  just trying it out and I was like, oh, I like, I like being
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  on camera. At that time is when I saw the
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  Sunnyside Up audition and my nephew was a huge fan of
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  Sunnyside Up. So I knew the show really well.
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  Like I was like, I know what this is and holy crap, these
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  requirements are crazy. So I was like, I'll just try and
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  I send in a self tape and then like the rest is history.
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  Yeah. So then, so how did you decide
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  then to leave Mika behind? Just leave, yeah?
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  We need 3 hours, but it was like it.
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  I will say this, it was a it was very, very hard.
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  It was very bittersweet because I put everything into that
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  character. That character is very much me.
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  It's like, like I said before, knowing that the episodes are
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  out in the world and they're going to keep like that made me
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  feel better. And social media like still
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  being able to connect with parents and I do cameos like for
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  kids. So I'm like there is a way that
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  I can still feel connected to the character without being tied
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  to the job. So like that was the
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  conversation I was having with myself.
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  Like it's fine, it's fine, but I really like there's so much
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  going on or there was much going on with that job and within my
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  personal life that I was like, I am going to have to make the
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  very hard choice to walk away and like put myself 1st and, and
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  just figure it out. I had no backup plan whatsoever.
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  So many people make up reasons why, you know, they're like,
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  well, she's a mom. I'm like, I've been a mom the
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  whole time. I was like, yeah, I hate that.
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  I hate. If anything that would be more
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  of a reason 'cause I mean, I assume it was like a good like
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  pretty steady paycheck like. That it was nice as an actor to
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  have a consistent paycheck. It was not a great paycheck.
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  It was that people would be surprised.
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  Yeah, like, very surprised. But I did have like guilt
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  leaving a consistent paycheck 'cause, you know, like.
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  And that's a rare thing as an actor to know where your money's
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  coming from. So.
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  But, you know, at the end of the day, I was like, I need to do
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  the hard thing and walk away. And it's been the hardest year
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  of my life. But I don't have any regrets.
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  Like, truly. Yeah.
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  I'm so I'm so happy, like, where my life is going.
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  And, you know, things should be popping up soon that I can share
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  with the world. But yeah, it's it's hard to make
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  those decisions. Yeah, it really is, especially
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  as a parent. It doesn't just affect you.
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  Like if it's if you're just you alone, you're like, well, I can
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  do whatever I want. Like it doesn't affect it.
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  Yeah, that's, that's tricky. I will say when you're saying
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  that like Mika is like there's a lot of you and Mika.
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  Yeah. See, that's one of my things
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  that I was like, I can watch you.
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  I OK. Not that I want to badmouth him.
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  Who shall not be named. Yeah, Yeah, with the glasses.
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  But I'm like, he like you seem like you're you like talking to
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  kids as opposed to you pretending to be a kid.
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  I understand. You know what I mean?
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  So I'm like you like, so I'm always like, where are the.
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  I need the solo episode. Yeah.
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  And then it's. Weird.
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  But then it's also strange with like somebody new coming in
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  because obviously you the, there's a new Mika now.
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  And I'm like, wait, what? It's all very confusing.
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  Yeah, isn't. That weird for kids?
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  No, apparently not, because I'm like that.
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  I mean, I get I get a lot of messages about it every day,
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  every day. And there's been a new Mika.
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  She entered my second year like she she'd been here.
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  But I think like the algorithms our start like it.
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  It's so crazy because some people like you were saying
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  you're like newer to make a blippy world.
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  But some people will like, I'll get a message from someone
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  that's like, we miss you so much.
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  We wish you could come back. And then two minutes later get a
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  message from someone that's like, Oh my God, we just found
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  found your show. I just wanted you to know my kid
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  loves you. And I'm like, yeah, the Internet
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  is really interesting, but yeah, there's been two or two caches.
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  Cache is the second Mika. There's been two Mika's for a
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  few years now. But a lot of people are just
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  realizing like, wait, who was this other one?
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  And thinking like, I left and then I hired her.
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  But like we were working at the same time on two different
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  coasts for a couple of years. That's.
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  So strange So. Weird.
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  I know, but how do you? Sorry, there's a piece.
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  I don't know if you can hear that.
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  It's very magical to me. OK.
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  I how do you cuz like it's such a kid thing, but you're you on
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  your online presence. So do you ever feel like as like
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  Caitlin, you have to. I mean, I know now again, you're
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  still getting messages from like Mika's always there.
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  But like, do you feel any sort of pressure to like not share
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  certain things? I mean, I love that you're just
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  you as Caitlin on your Instagram.
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  But like, do you ever feel like, oh, I can't share that because
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  of Mika or I can't talk like this or or are you like, no
• 24:12
  people can deal with that? I'm a human.
• 24:14
  I definitely censor myself knowing that people, there's a
• 24:22
  lot of people that follow me because of Mika and I found out
• 24:28
  a lot of people are scrolling their Tik Toks with their Mika
• 24:31
  fans right next to them. And sometimes they'll comment
• 24:35
  something and you know, I, that's like, not my problem.
• 24:38
  You know, I, because I'm like, this is my personal page.
• 24:41
  I can do what I want. And I'm still very much in the
• 24:45
  kid media scene. So knowing that there are like,
• 24:51
  because I don't plan any of my reels or tik toks.
• 24:55
  And sometimes I'm just like talking about something or
• 24:57
  telling a story and I will like clock myself or when I'm
• 25:02
  editing, I'm like, Oh my God, looks like someone's going to
• 25:05
  because I have the fear of, because people will call me Mika
• 25:10
  instead of Caitlin. So even though I'll post a video
• 25:13
  that's very, like you said, I'm myself, I'm Caitlin and I'm
• 25:16
  talking about whatever. Yeah.
• 25:18
  And someone will be like, no, I don't want Mika to curse.
• 25:22
  And I'm like, Mika doesn't curse.
• 25:25
  She doesn't. Hi, I'm Caitlin.
• 25:27
  I'm 41. Sometimes I'm going to say some
• 25:30
  shit. Sorry, but I don't want anyone
• 25:34
  to be to, to like I don't want Mika to have a bad reputation
• 25:41
  because of like one thing that I said on a TikTok that someone
• 25:44
  twisted around and then was like Mika said.
• 25:47
  So I maybe I should care less, but I do have that in the back
• 25:51
  of my head at all. Oh my God, let me tell you an
• 25:54
  adult story that's not that adult.
• 25:56
  I don't know why I set it up like that.
• 25:58
  Yes, tell me how the pornographic story.
• 26:02
  Settling kids, turn off this podcast.
• 26:06
  So I went to a beach in Europe. This is not scandalous to a
• 26:12
  beach in Europe with my two friends.
• 26:15
  And it wasn't a nude beach, but it was like, there are no rules.
• 26:18
  So a lot of the women have their tops off.
• 26:21
  And my two friends were like, oh, yes, freedom, You know,
• 26:24
  like, let's get rid of those tan lines.
• 26:26
  And I was like, yeah, wait, but what if someone is like, that's
• 26:31
  Mika? Because I get recognized all the
• 26:33
  time. What if someone's like, that's
• 26:35
  Mika and those are her boobs? And then they take a picture and
• 26:40
  they put on the computer. Like that's how my brain works.
• 26:42
  So I mean, not saying I'm paranoid, but I'm like, that's a
• 26:45
  real thing that could happen. And I that would destroy me.
• 26:50
  Like, I would hate that. So I was like, I'm going to keep
• 26:53
  my top on guys. I'm scared.
• 26:55
  Well, right. Be like topless Mika.
• 26:58
  Oh. My God, Can you imagine?
• 27:01
  And then I was like, then I get mad because I'm like, is this
• 27:03
  going to be my entire life? And again, I could just not
• 27:07
  care. But I I do care, yeah.
• 27:11
  It seems like you have a healthy amount of care.
• 27:14
  I think so because it's fair, because it is fair.
• 27:17
  Like you said, it's still, it is fairly new.
• 27:21
  It's still in the scheme of things and like, like you said
• 27:25
  that it's always there and it might not always be like as big
• 27:31
  of a thing in your life to have to think of because obviously
• 27:35
  time will continue to go on, but like, but I feel like that's a
• 27:41
  healthy amount of caring. Yeah, but that's.
• 27:46
  Busy because you're like, well I want to get rid of my tan line
• 27:50
  or whatever. Yeah, I mean, I've had many an
• 27:54
  interaction at a bar with a parent that's like, are you
• 27:59
  Mika? And like, I'm a few drinks in
• 28:01
  and I'm like, for me to make a video for your kid and I think
• 28:05
  it's fine. But I.
• 28:07
  Do the next day be like. I hope that video is OK.
• 28:11
  No what? Did I say yeah in the video?
• 28:18
  Also, like, I'm an adult, you know?
• 28:20
  Yeah, I'm like living my life if people see me out in the wild
• 28:24
  doing my thing. Like it is what it is.
• 28:27
  Yeah, yeah, you're not wearing your your purple and yellow and
• 28:31
  all. That yeah, yeah.
• 28:34
  Does your son care at all? No, no, he.
• 28:42
  He never really has he. I've gone to his school twice
• 28:48
  now on career day. And I was surprised that he like
• 28:54
  let me go because I asked him, I'm like, do you want me to sign
• 28:57
  up for this? Because I don't care either way.
• 28:59
  Like, do you want me to sign up? And both times he said yes.
• 29:03
  And the first time I wore a hat, my hat that says Mika on it.
• 29:08
  And I brought like there's like 3 Mika toys at that.
• 29:15
  There's like hardly any Mika bridge.
• 29:16
  But I like brought what I had and he didn't like the props and
• 29:20
  they I passed the doll. I mean the doll is cool.
• 29:23
  I mean RIP to the dog is not available, but I like passed it
• 29:28
  around. And the kids, a lot of his
• 29:30
  classmates didn't realize I was Mika.
• 29:32
  So the first year half of the class was like what?
• 29:38
  And I'm like, it's me because they're just like Everett's mom,
• 29:40
  you know, which I love. But they were like, what?
• 29:43
  Wait, what? And so they're passing the doll
• 29:45
  around. And then Everett was like very
• 29:48
  quiet. And last year I showed up your
• 29:52
  day or the night before, he was like, don't bring stuff.
• 29:57
  Don't bring the doll. And I was like, why?
• 29:59
  That's cool. I was like, let me bring one
• 30:01
  thing. Because they have, like, nurses
• 30:04
  coming with their tools and they do like, fake exams and like,
• 30:08
  everyone has little props. And I was like, I want a prop.
• 30:11
  And I got a cool one man who was coming in with toys.
• 30:15
  He was like fine, fine. Oh my God, that must be Yeah.
• 30:20
  That must be strange for kids too that already know you as his
• 30:27
  mom to be like, yeah. I know watch him figure it out
• 30:32
  like it is. Her, which is like interesting
• 30:35
  because it's not like you're you're not wearing like a whole
• 30:40
  costume thing. Yeah.
• 30:42
  It's like it looks like you, but I think just the like TV versus
• 30:48
  yeah. Yeah, out of context for sure.
• 30:51
  But he he, he was along for the ride at the end of my time as
• 30:58
  Mika and I was really, really stressed out.
• 31:02
  And I didn't like that version of me.
• 31:05
  Like, we're human, we're going to get stressed out.
• 31:08
  But I just noticed it was like affecting my life in many ways.
• 31:12
  But I was really honest with him, like last year especially.
• 31:18
  So last year, career day, someone was like, when you do
• 31:22
  Mika like some question and Everett like cut them off.
• 31:25
  And he's like, she doesn't play her anymore.
• 31:27
  She's retired. And I was like, I'm not retired,
• 31:33
  but he was just like, enough guys.
• 31:36
  Yeah, he's like trying to protect you.
• 31:39
  Yeah, he's just like, guys, please, we're moving on.
• 31:43
  Next question Yeah, that's funny.
• 31:49
  OK, well, so obvious. So being done with me got how is
• 31:54
  it like? Because we always, you know, as
• 31:59
  actors, as moms even, it's very like, pick your lane and stay
• 32:04
  there. But obviously we want to grow
• 32:06
  and do different things as actors.
• 32:08
  So have you found it hard? Obviously you said it's the
• 32:14
  hardest year of your life. That was a dumb way for me.
• 32:17
  To no dumb things here, Nothing's down.
• 32:19
  But how? But yeah, can you just like
• 32:24
  elaborate, elaborate a little on how it's?
• 32:29
  Tell us how hard be specific. Well, first of all, the business
• 32:35
  is just terrible right now. You know, in, in TV filming all
• 32:39
  around, in all areas. It's terrible.
• 32:43
  So there's that. Living in a really expensive
• 32:48
  city, it's like I quit my Mika job and it's like my landlord
• 32:54
  what, like pranked me. That's what I felt like.
• 32:57
  He raised my rent so much. I was like, why now?
• 33:00
  Why now? Is this a joke?
• 33:03
  So just like financially very difficult and it's taking me
• 33:08
  back to the beginning like year one of New York of just like,
• 33:12
  OK, so this will pay for that. I can get a slice of pizza.
• 33:17
  But now I have a kid, so it feels very different.
• 33:21
  And he comes first. And so, yeah, it's hard.
• 33:27
  Also, Kelly and I have been separated for four years now,
• 33:32
  but it still feels very new and fresh.
• 33:35
  So still adjusting to like, double income versus single
• 33:39
  income. Like it's not all about money,
• 33:42
  but it affects everything, you know?
• 33:45
  So and I'm in the creator mode right now because, you know,
• 33:48
  it's like there's nothing going on, so might as well make my own
• 33:51
  stuff. Yeah, but I'm like so impatient.
• 33:55
  And, you know, like a show takes time.
• 33:57
  Like if you're going to develop your own show, it's not going to
• 34:00
  start. You don't have the idea.
• 34:01
  And then you film the next day. So I'm just very like, let's go,
• 34:05
  hurry up, hurry up, hurry up. So.
• 34:07
  So I'm inspiring that you're making your own stone.
• 34:12
  Well, I have. Yeah, I have some things up my
• 34:16
  sleeve and yeah, I'm really excited about it.
• 34:21
  And so that's been awesome and not hard.
• 34:23
  It's just been like really great and really fun.
• 34:27
  But it's a challenge for me to like, stay present and not try
• 34:32
  to rush through things because I'm, I'm so excited and I'm
• 34:35
  itching to like, get on camera again.
• 34:40
  So it's all going to be good. This is just like the year of
• 34:45
  waiting and hustling and it is what it is.
• 34:49
  Next year will be different, that's true.
• 34:55
  Yeah, yeah. It's just like breathing
• 34:58
  through, like the growing pains and stuff.
• 35:00
  And I feel like a lot of moms that I've talked to what it has
• 35:07
  become. And because actors in general do
• 35:11
  have to like, start creating their own stuff, which is like,
• 35:16
  I hate, I hate everyone's like, well, if you want to be an
• 35:25
  actor, you can't. You have to create your own
• 35:28
  stuff, which, yeah, I mean, you do.
• 35:31
  But like, and I keep saying that to myself and I'm like, but I
• 35:35
  don't want to. I'm like, I just, yeah, so hard
• 35:38
  when you're like, I just want to be an actor.
• 35:40
  Tell me what to say. Give me lines and I'll say it.
• 35:42
  I'm not a writer. I'm not a producer.
• 35:44
  I'm not this like that's so hard.
• 35:48
  So like has being a mom, like obviously there's that hustle
• 35:54
  regardless, Like you said you were doing the the hustle when
• 35:58
  you were 23 or whatever, just moving to New York.
• 36:01
  But like has becoming? Has being a mom made that hustle
• 36:11
  different? Or do you like?
• 36:15
  Yeah, it's interesting because you would think as I sit here
• 36:20
  and like complain about like financial stress that I would
• 36:24
  just say yes to anything because I need the money and I, but I am
• 36:30
  way pickier because I'm like very, very like mental health
• 36:37
  first, Everett first. So like the other day, my
• 36:45
  manager was asking if I wanted to do stand in work for a day on
• 36:51
  some show, which I is fine. Like, I used to do that all the
• 36:55
  time. And I haven't done that in
• 36:56
  years. And that, you know, it's like an
• 36:58
  easy paycheck. Yeah.
• 37:01
  And I went back and forth because I was like, I should say
• 37:04
  yes because I need money and it's easy.
• 37:07
  Like I'm literally standing in. But.
• 37:12
  Then like looking at the schedule and Everett schedule
• 37:14
  and I'm doing the math like, well, I'm going to get home at
• 37:17
  this time the night before the shoot.
• 37:19
  And then that means I would miss Everett's whatever.
• 37:21
  And I'm like, you know how you do all the calculations in your
• 37:24
  mom brain? And then I'm like, not worth it.
• 37:28
  I'm going to feel insane just because of that one day is like
• 37:32
  screwing everything up. And so I said no thank you.
• 37:36
  And then then I did have a moment of like, why did you say
• 37:39
  no to a paycheck? But then something else came
• 37:43
  through that was only taking like 2 hours of my time and it
• 37:46
  was from home, like a voice over thing.
• 37:47
  And I was like, see, it all worked out.
• 37:50
  But before ever I would have just said yes, yes, yes, yes,
• 37:54
  give me that paycheck. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 37:55
  And like, it's fun to be on set and like all the things.
• 37:58
  But now it's like I'm hustling, but I'm also being choosy about
• 38:03
  what I'm hustling towards. Yeah, isn't that hard because I
• 38:07
  feel like when you say that, you're going to have like a
• 38:12
  little bit of like kind of guilt.
• 38:16
  I hate using the word guilt, but I'm using.
• 38:18
  It but like you're going to have the.
• 38:20
  Guilt either way where you're like, oh, if I like I should
• 38:24
  have said yes because it's a paycheck.
• 38:26
  But then if you would have missed something for your son,
• 38:28
  you're like, oh, I would I, I feel bad that I missed this.
• 38:32
  So it's like you're kind of fucked either way.
• 38:35
  Exactly. Yeah, so.
• 38:38
  Choose what we want to do is. Yeah, yeah.
• 38:41
  And essentially like when you choose yourself and you put
• 38:45
  yourself first, not like, like then you are better for the
• 38:51
  parent, you know, like it, it's like a domino effect.
• 38:55
  But I would say yes to something that I was like 50% wanting to
• 38:59
  do. Yeah, it affects me, you know,
• 39:02
  like mentally I'm like annoyed or irritated and that trickles
• 39:05
  down like to my kid and I want him to see all parts of me.
• 39:09
  But I don't want to Yeah, you know, if I if I can, if I can
• 39:14
  control a little bit of it and pick and choose, then I'm going
• 39:17
  to. And I think it's all yeah, I'm
• 39:20
  just like, it'll work out. It'll work out.
• 39:22
  And he? Will somehow, but that's why I
• 39:25
  started mommy one because everyone's like you'll figure it
• 39:28
  out and I'm like, but specifically how?
• 39:31
  Can you give me a step by step? Because it is a very much like,
• 39:37
  OK, it'll all work out, but I gotta buy that piece of pizza.
• 39:42
  I gotta eat. I gotta.
• 39:44
  Gotta feed your kid. How to be my kid I have to pay
• 39:47
  for the roof over my head and again like LA similar like rent
• 39:51
  just keeps going. Expensive.
• 39:53
  It's like, yeah, it'll work out. How are you paying your rent?
• 39:59
  Those like that's always the like, OK, are we?
• 40:04
  I want to feel less alone being like paycheck to paycheck
• 40:10
  because I feel weird as a mom where you feel like.
• 40:16
  When you're younger, looking at someone who's a parent, you're
• 40:18
  like, well, they know what they're doing.
• 40:20
  You're like. Of course they've got it
• 40:21
  together. They have a checkbook in their
• 40:24
  pocketbook. They're a grown up.
• 40:28
  Yeah. Turns out none of us are ever
• 40:31
  grown up, so which is nice and scary realizing, but it is
• 40:38
  surprising. Like I feel like that's so
• 40:42
  surprising that like, and it's similar like my sister was on
• 40:48
  Broadway and hearing like jobs like these are like you being
• 40:52
  Mika where it's like jobs like these where you think, oh,
• 40:55
  they've got to be made in the shade.
• 40:58
  I mean, it's like they're. Doing it, they are good.
• 41:01
  Yeah, but then you're like, oh, New York takes half of your
• 41:03
  paycheck, has to take whatever. And then you're like, oh, turns
• 41:10
  out I'm making $10.00. So cool.
• 41:13
  Yeah. But like that's what I feel like
• 41:16
  people need to like hear, especially as moms, as actor, as
• 41:23
  entertainment moms, where it's like you feel like everyone is.
• 41:27
  So I'll speak for myself. I feel like everyone else is so
• 41:32
  far ahead or but like then like we shouldn't compare ourselves.
• 41:40
  But no. And it, but it's really hard
• 41:43
  when you have it in your face all the time, like social media,
• 41:47
  because I can't help it. Like I, I can admit it.
• 41:50
  I do it. I look at other people who are
• 41:53
  around my age or moms and I'm like, you're doing that and it's
• 41:59
  annoying and I'm trying not to, but it's like it's hard not to.
• 42:03
  But I do like the reason I am really honest and vocal about
• 42:07
  the reality of everything is because I like the relate
• 42:13
  relatability on social media. And a lot of people assume that
• 42:19
  I'm. I mean, I don't know if you saw
• 42:22
  I posted like all what the Internet was saying about me and
• 42:26
  that I met my net worth is 125 million and that I have multiple
• 42:31
  homes and like all this bullshit.
• 42:34
  Yeah, but people believe that. And it's one of the most popular
• 42:38
  things. Like Caitlin Becker, it's like
• 42:40
  net worth, Caitlin Becker's salary.
• 42:42
  And it's all lies. And people are like, wow, feel
• 42:47
  from high school, like, Oh my God, you're so successful,
• 42:50
  you've made it. And I'm like, I'm just getting
• 42:53
  started. But you know, the Internet can't
• 42:55
  lie. What do you?
• 42:58
  Yeah. Or like people hitting me up for
• 43:01
  money, like for good causes. Not like, hey, can you pay my
• 43:04
  bills, but like, you know, for a charity year, like to help the
• 43:07
  kid or whatever. And I'm like, oh man, like I
• 43:11
  want to be able to be like, here's $100,000 and I keep
• 43:16
  staying like, and one day that will happen where I'll be like,
• 43:18
  oh, no problem here, take this. I'd love to help.
• 43:20
  But I do want especially other parents to know, even though
• 43:27
  you're like I see everyday on my TV and they like make up my
• 43:32
  life. I'm like, no, we're actually on
• 43:36
  a on the same page. And I'm also, well, I mean, I
• 43:40
  can't assume everyone's lives, but I'm like, I'm also a very
• 43:44
  hard working single mom working paycheck to paycheck, like
• 43:47
  literally paycheck to paycheck. And I think it's good for people
• 43:52
  to to know that and to know that like, just because you're on a
• 43:57
  successful YouTube show doesn't mean you're rolling in the
• 44:00
  Benjamins, man. Yeah.
• 44:02
  Do you feel like is there any bitterness there though?
• 44:05
  Because I sure, let me Google like, let me Google all
• 44:15
  definitely. Obviously those are false I'm
• 44:18
  sure, but like. Yeah, they're all wise, but
• 44:21
  like. You're like I'm people know me
• 44:27
  like know you and they I. Think that's Yeah, it's hard to
• 44:32
  not walk through the world with just like a chip on my shoulder.
• 44:36
  And I admit I did that for some time and now I'm just like, you
• 44:40
  know, like moving on. But.
• 44:43
  Yeah, because I guess that really only makes it shitty for
• 44:46
  you. Yeah, and like the I do get
• 44:49
  recognized regularly and not that that should like equal like
• 44:56
  fame and money and whatever, but it is it's just kind of odd.
• 45:00
  And I always say like, it's a mind fuck to go to the grocery
• 45:04
  store and have people like fangirl over me.
• 45:06
  And then I'm like literally doing math and my phone, like,
• 45:09
  can I buy this chicken? And it's just that it's, yeah,
• 45:14
  it's bizarre. It's really weird.
• 45:15
  And then people sending me pictures of Mika themed birthday
• 45:19
  parties and like all these cute pictures of.
• 45:22
  Kids, I saw your That was like the giant banner.
• 45:26
  Oh yeah, Oh my God, I was dying. Yeah, that woman was was.
• 45:30
  We messaged a couple times and she was like, laughing so hard.
• 45:33
  But yeah. But I'm like, Oh yeah, Mika's a
• 45:38
  popular character and and I get reminders.
• 45:42
  Because you do you not? Or do you get anything from like
• 45:47
  that type of stuff like the merge?
• 45:50
  No. Royalties, no residuals,
• 45:52
  nothing, nothing at all. So yeah, our people will be like
• 45:57
  Congrats, my kids potty training and we see that you they'll
• 46:01
  always say you you have Mika underwear and I'm like, I do
• 46:05
  there's Mika underwear where I don't know anything.
• 46:09
  It's, it's a very like everything's separate.
• 46:12
  Like I never knew about merchandise or, or when we were
• 46:17
  on different, I found out what streaming platform I was on
• 46:21
  because my friends would tell me they'd send me a picture like,
• 46:24
  Oh my God, you're on Hulu. I'm like, really?
• 46:27
  Oh my God. Well, you're fully on Netflix.
• 46:30
  It's on everything now. I knew about Netflix because
• 46:33
  they told me a few weeks before, like, hey, we're going to put
• 46:37
  your episodes on Netflix. Hey, I'm sorry you didn't get
• 46:39
  anything for getting onto Netflix.
• 46:42
  No, because the company owns the characters and so the network
• 46:48
  the the the the like Netflix. I mean, like, don't quote me on
• 46:53
  this, but I'm pretty sure Netflix is like, hey, we want to
• 46:58
  air your episodes. They're popular and then they
• 47:00
  like pay the company for the episodes.
• 47:04
  So it's just like that, you know, another outlet for people
• 47:06
  to view them. But it's like the actors are
• 47:10
  just like not part of that at all.
• 47:12
  And I think that's what the Internet gets from the net worth
• 47:15
  is they're like, because they'll say like she signed a Netflix
• 47:19
  deal for three-year and I'm like, no, I didn't.
• 47:22
  What are you talking about? Like maybe Moonbug signed a
• 47:25
  contract with Netflix, not Moi, but no, like like none of that.
• 47:31
  None of it. Well then would you?
• 47:35
  OK, well I don't want to ask going back questions.
• 47:39
  It's OK. So would you then tell your
• 47:44
  younger self when you first started to do anything
• 47:51
  differently or are you still like?
• 47:54
  I have thought about this a lot and I'm being careful on what I
• 48:00
  say. It would have, it would have
• 48:04
  been, I would not have had the job.
• 48:07
  That's it. There was no there.
• 48:10
  It was like, take it or leave it for, for those specific things
• 48:14
  like the merchandise and like, and yeah, so there, there was an
• 48:21
  attempt there, I will say that. But it was like, OK, well, we'll
• 48:25
  just like move on. Yeah, yeah.
• 48:28
  It happened with Sunnyside up too, where we would, they had a
• 48:31
  sprout pad like an iPad essentially with games and songs
• 48:36
  from the show. And they used our original songs
• 48:41
  and, and had our faces all over it.
• 48:44
  And I spent weeks, there was four of us, so we had no idea.
• 48:48
  And my fertility Dr. is the one who told me because her
• 48:55
  mother-in-law bought a sprout pad for her child.
• 48:59
  And so she's on a sprout pad with her kid.
• 49:02
  And she's like, that's my patient.
• 49:03
  Like she's like, oh, my God. And I was like, really?
• 49:08
  Yeah, yeah. Wow.
• 49:11
  Yeah, that's so bizarre. But yeah, like you said, it's
• 49:13
  kind of you if it's a take it or leave it, it's nice that you at
• 49:18
  least had that. But again, yeah, hard not to be
• 49:22
  bitter, I'm sure. But yeah, that probably plays a
• 49:24
  huge factor into what I think things are a certain way.
• 49:32
  Yeah. That's OK.
• 49:33
  So I'm going to do some lightning round.
• 49:36
  Oh. My God.
• 49:38
  OK, let's. Do this.
• 49:41
  They're they're just fun and silly.
• 49:44
  OK. Would you rather self tape or in
• 49:47
  person audition? Oh, in person.
• 49:51
  Yeah. What?
• 49:53
  Who would be your dream Co star? This is I'm sorry I'm not fast.
• 50:00
  No, neither am I. There's so many, Oh my God.
• 50:06
  Like I'm thinking of all funny ladies like Amy Poehler, Maya
• 50:10
  Rudolph. Yeah.
• 50:12
  Yeah. That'd be fun.
• 50:15
  Do you have any like pre audition rituals or anything?
• 50:23
  Or get you in the mood. I don't really.
• 50:27
  No, I don't really have. Not really.
• 50:30
  I think I used to when I was younger and I'm yeah, I don't
• 50:33
  put as much like that. And steak into it.
• 50:36
  That's fair. Stage, screen or kids show,
• 50:41
  which feels the most? The most me stage.
• 50:47
  Yeah, I love it. Musical theatre coming in.
• 50:51
  What is your most random like day job, acting gig?
• 50:56
  That or day job between acting gigs.
• 51:00
  I I sampled chocolate covered matzo in Jewish grocery stores
• 51:12
  and I am not Jewish. I'm a biracial girl from
• 51:15
  Kentucky. You grew up Baptist and I did it
• 51:19
  because it was easy cash, but like everyone hated it.
• 51:22
  Like they're like, why are you the sample girl?
• 51:25
  And I'm like you. Were giving out the samples.
• 51:27
  And like talking about them. And I'm like this matzo's.
• 51:30
  And I also helped package it in, like, a famous matzo factory
• 51:34
  downtown where, like, the rabbi would come in and, like, bless.
• 51:40
  And I would just be standing there, like, thank you.
• 51:43
  All right. It was just so random.
• 51:46
  It was like under the table cash.
• 51:49
  The things we do, it's so weird, yeah.
• 51:51
  I got a lot of them. Coffee or sleep?
• 51:58
  Sleep. What's your favorite snack that
• 52:02
  is actually for your kid? Your son.
• 52:07
  This isn't we eat all the same foods.
• 52:10
  Yeah, I was like, I guess he's older now.
• 52:12
  So sorry everyone Popsicle we're we're both chips.
• 52:16
  We're both salty like chips and popcorn.
• 52:19
  I probably said popcorn is like the go to snack.
• 52:23
  Gotcha Yum. What is your the most used
• 52:28
  phrase in your house right now? Everett, It's not a phrase, but.
• 52:37
  It's. Always that with A to at the
• 52:39
  end. And he now says he says I want
• 52:45
  to tell you something, but you're going to say everything.
• 52:50
  And I was like, it's OK, just say it.
• 52:52
  And it's like he'll be like booty butt and I'm like
• 52:55
  everything, yeah. That's hilarious when the names
• 53:00
  become like 3 syllables. Yeah, we got like.
• 53:05
  Dad or it's a lot of like, stop calling me bro.
• 53:12
  Oh yeah. Don't cry bro.
• 53:17
  Not your bro, not your bro. What something that your son
• 53:21
  says that cracks you up every time?
• 53:22
  Oh my. God, he does this is going to.
• 53:27
  Be really weird. He does.
• 53:31
  He plays like a lot of different characters and he but he does
• 53:35
  this, this is so weird. He he loves to make me
• 53:40
  uncomfortable, but he loves and I'm like, Oh my God, that's so
• 53:43
  weird. Like that's his goal, like to
• 53:45
  get me to be like ha. And so he will just drop into
• 53:49
  this weird thing where he'll be like SH baby girl and I'm like
• 53:53
  what? Don't Oh my God, don't talk to
• 53:55
  me like that. I'm your EW EW.
• 53:57
  And then he's just like. Call me bro and really don't
• 53:59
  call me baby and he'll go SH baby girl.
• 54:04
  Like I hate it, makes my skin crawl.
• 54:08
  Kids are so funny. Well, I was going to say New
• 54:12
  York or LA, but obviously. You know what?
• 54:15
  New York. But for a while I was very like
• 54:19
  LA all the way. I could have to move there.
• 54:22
  It's hard. I really like them both almost
• 54:26
  the same amount. What about you?
• 54:30
  Well, I lived in New York for a year and a half, but I was young
• 54:34
  and on my own and it was a lot. So I think now, I mean,
• 54:41
  definitely LA for now, just because I've never had a kid in
• 54:44
  New York and the things that parents have to do in New York
• 54:48
  with a child seems impossible to me.
• 54:53
  Where I'm like. You're going to stroll her down
• 54:55
  into the subway. That sounds.
• 54:57
  Or even it's like you're walking in the rain.
• 55:00
  That's yeah. Yeah, it is.
• 55:03
  It is crazy. Yeah, it.
• 55:06
  Yeah. Yeah, what's a song that
• 55:09
  instantly boosts your mood? Currently, yeah.
• 55:14
  Yeah, Cowboy Carter latest album.
• 55:18
  That's been my hype up song pretty much all year.
• 55:24
  What do you have any hidden talents that we don't I'm?
• 55:29
  Really too open on social media because now I do a lot of
• 55:32
  random. Do I have anything I hidden
• 55:36
  talents? Oh no.
• 55:40
  You're like, I'm an actor. That's my talent.
• 55:42
  Yeah, well, I always. Say when people are like, do you
• 55:44
  have any hobbies? I'm like, no, no, I got that.
• 55:48
  Yeah, I can't think of any. I'm so sorry.
• 55:50
  I. Failed.
• 55:51
  You're good. I would hate that question
• 55:53
  because I have no I. Don't know.
• 55:56
  I'm not sure like something. I'm trying to show off my
• 56:02
  talents. I need work.
• 56:04
  They're not hanging. I.
• 56:05
  Don't know, but well, obviously you sing and you're an actor.
• 56:09
  That's not hidden though. Yeah, yeah.
• 56:11
  What is your go to like comfort show when it's just you at home
• 56:16
  vegging on the couch or whatever?
• 56:17
  Golden Girls. And like, since I was a kid too,
• 56:22
  I watched it in real time. Oh my God, I'm not this thing
• 56:26
  over. And and then I rented the DVDs
• 56:30
  from the library in high school and college.
• 56:33
  I would just keep re renting. I don't know why I never bought
• 56:35
  them. And then, yeah.
• 56:38
  And then they finally came on Hallmark back in the day.
• 56:41
  They're just always on the rotation.
• 56:43
  I've seen every episode dozens of times.
• 56:47
  Isn't it crazy now that it's like, what were they like 50 or
• 56:51
  they were supposed? To There's jokes about turning
• 56:55
  50, there's jokes about yeah being their upper 40.
• 57:01
  I don't know. I mean, I've seen it, but I'm
• 57:04
  like, I didn't like watch it through, but like to me, I'm
• 57:08
  like, are they not? So they're not in like I always
• 57:11
  just assumed they were in like it old folks, like a retirement
• 57:15
  community. No, they're living the dream
• 57:17
  because so blanch looking old it's her house and she gets 2
• 57:24
  roommates and then Dorothy's like can my mom live here too?
• 57:28
  So they all just become like chosen family besties.
• 57:32
  They're all living in the same house in Miami, and I'm like,
• 57:36
  yeah, that's the dream right there.
• 57:37
  Truly. Just live with your besties.
• 57:39
  Yeah, that's that's amazing. If Mika were a real mom, what
• 57:45
  kind of mom would she be? Oh my God, she'd be so good.
• 57:50
  She'd be so hands on. She would probably be a really
• 57:55
  good homeschool teacher. Like if she would like, she'd be
• 57:59
  so on top of it, organize everything, thought through,
• 58:04
  planned out. She'd be like the mom that
• 58:07
  you're like, she's so annoying. She always gets it right.
• 58:12
  You know her kid wouldn't care. Her kid, probably still.
• 58:15
  Wouldn't care. She'd probably like volunteer to
• 58:16
  be class mom. Like I don't volunteer to do any
• 58:19
  of that because I'm just like I get like socially anxious and
• 58:22
  that sounds awful to me. So like room parent PTA Mika
• 58:27
  would be like sure, sign me up, I'll bake whatever you want.
• 58:31
  Yeah, now what would your advice be for two other actors who are
• 58:41
  thinking of becoming parents? Oh, don't lose yourself.
• 58:47
  I thought you were going to say don't do.
• 58:50
  It or don't do it. It's pretty hard.
• 58:53
  Lose yourself. Don't.
• 58:56
  Lose yourself. And like, I think it's also
• 59:02
  being OK with not performing, not like saying forever, I'm
• 59:08
  just saying if you have like, especially in the very beginning
• 59:11
  when it's really hard and you're exhausted and postpartum
• 59:14
  hormones and all the things to just like be easy on yourself
• 59:18
  and know that your brain and your body need a break and not
• 59:23
  auditioning and, and all the things and like that it's OK.
• 59:27
  And that jobs will, I mean, the business is bad right now, but
• 59:32
  New York and LA, like, they're not going anywhere.
• 59:35
  So if you're like, you know what?
• 59:36
  I think I need to take a year to just be with the babe if you
• 59:39
  can. Like that's a privilege in
• 59:40
  itself. Sure.
• 59:41
  Yeah. Like take it and don't feel
• 59:43
  guilty about it. But still do like little things
• 59:46
  to like keep yourself connected to yourself.
• 59:49
  Like if it's watching Golden Girls every day, like I did that
• 59:52
  a lot when I was breastfeeding because I'm just like my show,
• 59:55
  you know? Yeah, I love that.
• 59:58
  Well, that's yeah, that's great advice.
• 1:00:01
  I. Love it.
• 1:00:02
  We'll. See.
• 1:00:03
  Oh yeah? Well.
• 1:00:04
  I feel like. We could talk so much longer,
• 1:00:07
  but we got shit to do. We got shit to do, guys.
• 1:00:13
  Do our shit. Thank you so so much for for
• 1:00:19
  chatting with me and being so open and honest.
• 1:00:23
  And of course, here and on your social media.
• 1:00:26
  I love it. And I yeah, I'm excited to see
• 1:00:32
  what this hard year brings in. In abundance, in a good way.
• 1:00:38
  The good. That wasn't the worst way to
• 1:00:41
  word it. I'm with you.
• 1:00:43
  I translated. I'm with you.
• 1:00:44
  Great. Thanks.
• 1:00:46
  No, I thank you. Thanks for this space to let me
• 1:00:49
  rant and rave. I love it.
• 1:00:51
  Yes. Thank you so much for doing it.
• 1:00:53
  Yeah. We'll talk soon, OK.
• 1:00:56
  And, and I will e-mail you with, like, I'll probably just ask you
• 1:01:02
  for, like, pictures you're OK with us using for social.
• 1:01:07
  And then I'll let you know when the episode's coming out and all
• 1:01:11
  that jazz. I'll share away.
• 1:01:14
  I'll pump it up. All right, well, you have a good
• 1:01:17
  rest of your day. You too.
• 1:01:19
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• 1:01:22
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• 1:01:25
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