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One Day You'll Have to Live With the Choices You're Making NOW (S5) S36:E7 Friday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well there hello everyone and welcome once again
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day you'll have to live with the choices
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you're making now this is series 5 show
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36 and episode 7 welcome everyone to the
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episode of the inspiration for your life show
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I'm John C Morley I'm a serial entrepreneur
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I'm an engineer marketing specialist video producer podcast
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host coach keynote speaker a graduate student at
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Montgomery University a passionate lifelong learner and so
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grateful now to be a published author that's
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right our master weekly topic is stop living
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a life you never chose today I'm bringing
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this entire week full circle with a powerful
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reality one day you're going to have to
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live with the choices you're making right now
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your future isn't some stranger waiting years from
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now that's you the decisions you make today
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create the circumstances possibilities relationships habits and even
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the opportunities okay so I think that's a
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very important thing and that'll become the person
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that you inherit so let's get into our
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30 points shall we number one today's choices
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are constructing tomorrow if you're thirsty you're hungry
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feel free to go grab that drink or
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snack I forgot to tell you that your
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future is being built through ordinary decisions what
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you repeatedly do today eventually becomes part of
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the life you wake up to tomorrow all
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right so stop treating your life like somebody
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else's problem it's easy to think your future
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self will somehow figure everything out but the
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future person is still you give that person
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something better to work with build consequences into
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your decisions before making an important choice think
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beyond the immediate reward ask what happens next
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and what that decision could cost or create
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over time number four ask where your current
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habits are taking you right now I think
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a lot of people are afraid to ask
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that question but we need to ask that
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question because that's key to our success today
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and also in the future number four guys
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ask where your current habits are taking you
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habits have destinations look at what you repeatedly
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do and ask where those behaviors will take
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you if nothing changes okay number five stop
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postponing the person you want to become now's
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the time to start becoming that person don't
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keep telling yourself you'll become disciplined healthier more
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confident or more capable someday becoming starts through
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what you practice right now number six make
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choices your future can support some decisions create
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freedom while others create obligations give yourself options
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instead of unnecessarily limiting what becomes possible later
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that's a very key point build health before
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you desperately need it don't wait for a
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crisis before appreciating your health the small things
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you consistently do can matter enormously over time
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that's number seven number eight protect relationships before
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they're damaged you know I can't tell you
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how many people I say this to lots
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of people on on LinkedIn they they'll send
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me these nonsense messages like oh you know
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I noticed this I noticed that well that's
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great and I was like you know you
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really should pay more attention so you don't
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damage another relationship and they just don't pay
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attention unfortunately I feel sorry for them number
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eight as I said protect relations before they're
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damaged important relations require attention before something goes
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wrong listen communicate show appreciation and don't assume
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meaningful be there regardless of how you treat
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them you need to realize that people don't
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just show up regardless of how you behave
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they show up because of the intentionality and
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the respect you put forth and the care
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and the curiosity you put into knowing them
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preparing financially isn't about predicting every emergency it's
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about creating breathing room when life inevitably does
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something you didn't expect number ten learn before
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opportunity demands it don't wait until an opportunity
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arrives to wish you had developed the necessary
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skills learn now so you're ready when the
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door opens number eleven stop borrowing happiness from
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tomorrow there's no reason to do that guys
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building your future doesn't mean refusing to live
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today and refuse it don't refuse living today
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don't spend your entire life saying oh you'll
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finally be happy after the next achievement celebrate
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right now okay number twelve create something worth
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continuing on build work relationships routines and experiences
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you actually want to carry forward not that
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you have to carry forward there's a difference
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success shouldn't require constantly escaping the life it
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created we should enjoy and love our life
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number thirteen guys build habits that make life
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easier later a good habit may feel inconvenient
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today but becoming incredibly valuable over time is
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the key discipline cream create freedom that your
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future self gets to know number 14 stop
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assuming you have unlimited time there may be
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always ways that seem to be another day
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another way you know another Monday another month
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or another year this is 14 but time
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is finite treat important things accordingly and act
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accordingly number 15 give your future more options
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education saving skills relationships health and a strong
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reputation can create choices build a future where
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you're choosing rather than constantly reacting okay make
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decisions that compound positively right you know when
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you put money in the bank that money
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in the bank is important but we need
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to realize the most important thing about that
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money is the compounded interest that we get
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from it that's probably one of the most
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important things I can actually tell you all
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right a lot of people don't actually get
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those things and and I don't say that
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to scare you I say that to let
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you know that this is important guys really
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really important number 16 make decisions that compound
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positively small decisions can become powerful when repeated
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one useful choice may seem insignificant but hundreds
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of those choices can completely change direction number
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17 stop creating problems your future self must
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solve temporary convenience can become tomorrow's burden before
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making a choice ask whether you're solving a
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problem or simply transferring it to yourself later
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and I think sometimes people they stuff things
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under the carpet and the reason they do
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that is because they believe it'll get easier
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later and I want to give you something
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and make a promise to you it will
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not get easier later unless you put the
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time and do the hard work now do
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the hard work now appreciate the hard work
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and guess what guys later on it will
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get easier I promise you this but it's
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not gonna happen just after one blip number
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18 invest in skills that remain valuable right
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technology and industries change develop and cultivate your
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ability to communicate think critically solve problems learn
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adapt and work effectively with other people build
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a reputation you can live with your reputation
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develops through repeated behavior not just one action
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okay that that's a that's a real important
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thing be dependable okay honest prepared and consistent
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build a name your future self doesn't have
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to repair I think sometimes this happens because
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people get lazy and if it well it
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doesn't matter if I just do it once
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you know what guys it doesn't matter if
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you do it once it matters if you
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do it once it really does matter okay
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that's the key number 20 protect your future
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from temporary impulses a temporary emotion can create
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a lasting consequence give important decisions enough time
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for judgment to catch up with the emotions
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associated with them a lot of people again
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take it means oh you know what it's
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convenient I'm just gonna do this today but
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is it the right choice maybe not guys
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maybe you're doing it and you're not appreciating
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what's going on and then you're like oh
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my gosh what I just do how do
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I fix that problem maybe if you have
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taken some time in the beginning that problem
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would have been a lot easier for you
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you would have realized that you should have
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put the time in the beginning right I'm
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gonna give an example you know being graduate
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school I study a lot right all graduate
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students do you don't study the day before
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the test okay that's not what you do
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people did that in grammar school maybe you
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were able to fly by the seat of
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your pants you don't do that in college
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there's a lot more work and it's important
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that you develop good study habits I was
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very grateful to University of Hartford and developing
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those early I did have good study habits
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in new and prep when I was in
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high school but I will tell you that
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I didn't need them as much because the
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work was not as intense when I got
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to college it shifted a little bit not
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harder but now I had to be more
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accountable for my time myself what I was
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doing and I did it because I want
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to become better not because I was trying
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to impress somebody that's the most important thing
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and I think when you realize you're doing
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and living your life because of you and
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not because of somebody else that's when your
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life is like oh wait a minute I'm
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enjoying my life I love what I'm doing
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these are the these are the amazing things
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that you just don't realize and you can
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become this amazing person if you believe okay
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if you believe if you don't believe then
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I will tell you that you're gonna be
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constantly looking back you know in the rear
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view mirror and say oh my gosh like
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should I pull over is it okay to
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pull over like a lot of us have
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these dash cams right we can see what's
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behind we don't have to look at the
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back we can look at the front and
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we keep our eyes on the road do
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you keep your eyes on on your goals
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or you constantly looking back wait a minute
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like like am I sure I should do
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this am I sure like this is the
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right time there's never gonna be a perfect
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time never gonna be a perfect place never
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gonna be a perfect relationship never gonna be
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a perfect experience there'll be good experiences there
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may be bad experiences but you're gonna learn
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from all of them and I think that's
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a very important thing number 21 make today
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useful without wasting it you know preparing for
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tomorrow doesn't mean today becomes nothing but work
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be productive but also experience your life while
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you're living it so many of you know
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I wrote the book Drain the Driven I'm
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not gonna get too much into that today
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but what I will tell you is that
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when I broke my tip and fib and
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then when I was on my bed for
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several weeks with my heavy cast I realized
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I wasn't enjoying life I realized that I
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just didn't want to go on and was
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it depression no but it was kind of
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like I didn't enjoy anything anymore I was
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like this is not me this is not
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the life I want so I had plenty
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hours sitting in bed as my leg was
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getting better also trying to help clients remotely
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from my bedside with my laptop I realized
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something was changing I didn't know what it
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was I was going through burnout and so
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many people I know go through burnout I
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talked to another fellow student today actually yesterday
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about burnout and they said oh yeah I've
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gone through but I go through burnout I
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have to go through it no you don't
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okay you can be intentional and I was
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trying to explain to her that if you're
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intentional burnout can end you see burnout doesn't
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stop when we work harder okay burnout doesn't
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stop when we push burnout stops when we
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become intentional about the things that we do
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that's when burnout stops okay learning every moment
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living every moment enjoying these podcasts with you
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guys enjoying my travel enjoying every part of
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life as I said preparing for tomorrow doesn't
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mean today becomes nothing enjoy every part along
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the process number 22 stop waiting for the
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perfect starting point just like I said there's
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no perfect anything perfect conditions rarely arrive start
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with what you know what you have and
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what you realistically can do today you know
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people always say to me John if you
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want to get somewhere what's one or two
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steps you could take to get that you
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may not get where you want to go
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but how do you get there right how
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do you get there that's it that's that's
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an important thing okay a very very important
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thing uh to to understand and I hope
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you guys uh you know can understand this
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but I know it's hard but hopefully it
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makes sense right does it make sense to
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you right now or will it make sense
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in the future so that that's a big
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question um we have to ask ourselves does
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that make sense guys I'm just asking does
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it make sense to you or not does
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it make sense that that that's really the
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question that I have for you does it
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make sense and if it makes sense then
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I want to say to you you owe
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it to yourself to become more intentional right
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now okay can you become more intentional do
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you want to become more intentional if you
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don't know if you want to become more
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intentional then how are you ever going to
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grow to where you want to be like
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how that's what I want to ask you
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if you can't do that it's a problem
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okay it's a very very big problem a
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problem that I think people need to be
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aware of so this person that was telling
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me about their nightmare in other countries she
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was in Jordan all this stuff and she
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was telling me that she just doesn't like
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her life and she's always going through burnout
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she's doing so much she's working so hard
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but she's not enjoying the beautiful parts of
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life I think a lot of us get
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stuck in that trap right have I ever
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gotten burnout before sure but I recognize it
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I'm like oh wait a minute I need
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to become more intentional I need to slow
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down and you start enjoying the coffee you
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don't drink coffee the beverage the food I
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need to savor the flavor a person that
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follows me and has been following me for
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quite a few years who's a scientist said
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to me John always savor the flavor of
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you sir in your content the delicious nuggets
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that you provide you know number 23 guys
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instead I want you to build a life
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of merely imagining so build a life instead
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of just imagining dreaming can reveal where you
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want to go but action creates movement turn
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ideas into something you can actually work on
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and maybe you're going to say I don't
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know what I have to work on oh
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maybe you need to just be alone for
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a moment maybe you need to just allow
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the quietness to to filter and maybe that's
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what you need to do okay and you
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won't get the answer in a heartbeat you
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will not get the answer to heartbeat you'll
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get it in time okay you'll get it
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in time okay dreaming can reveal where you
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want to go but action creates the movement
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the dreaming basically can get us to the
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stadium okay but the action actually gets us
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in to watch the game turn your ideas
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into something you can actually work on every
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day say John I got such a big
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goal okay let's just get to the first
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part I need to design this major project
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okay well first part is let's just come
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with an idea what do we need to
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come up with I need help with a
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flyer okay great what does the fire need
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to do um it needs to tell people
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about our Halloween party okay so you're going
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to develop a flyer about a Halloween party
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so do we have the details about when
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the party is no okay so we got
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to come up with the details um when's
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the date I don't know we got to
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find the dates probably Halloween yeah do we
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have a venue no do you know somebody
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yeah I could ask the places so let's
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work on those details okay uh do you
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have a theme is there anybody uh doing
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any kind of events is it a party
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theme is it costume we can brainstorm this
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we don't have to do this all at
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once right number 24 become somebody your future
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will thank you for imagine meeting yourself years
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from now what could you do today that
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would make that person genuinely grateful want to
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give you a hug shake your hand and
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give you that pat on the back number
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25 create memories while creating success I love
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this one don't become so focused on achievement
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that you forget to experience the journey accomplishments
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matter guys but so do the people in
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the moments surrounding them people make life you
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know I was in my software engineering class
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yes my first class for the semester and
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he said something very important you know whenever
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I work together with with our team it's
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a team so many people when they go
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to a job and say you know I
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have this group I'm part of a group
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is not a team okay a team works
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together you take your weaknesses you take your
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strengths and you assemble them so that you
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can get a great result all right these
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are important things okay these are very important
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things number 26 make your life increasingly yours
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as you grow examine which parts of your
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life reflect your values and which exists mainly
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because somebody else expected them and I think
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when you realize that you've got to live
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your life for you and not for somebody
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else then you're going to start to enjoy
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and love your life but not until you
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realize your life is your choice sure you
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can do stuff to help people but make
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sure you're enjoying your life number 27 stop
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leaving important changes for later if something genuinely
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matters stop automatically assigning it to another day
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another week another month another quarter another year
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later can become months years and eventually well
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unfortunately guys never right no other person always
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says to you well you know I'll do
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it tomorrow do it tomorrow but they've been
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telling you that for months like hey Joe
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you've been saying that for when I know
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I know no no no let's set a
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date now let's do it now number 28
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take responsibility for where you're headed you cannot
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control everything that happens to you but you
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can take responsibility for how you respond and
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what direction you choose from here you have
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plenty of rights to make choices right that's
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pretty key guys you can make the choice
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again your choices today basically dictate the future
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you will have tomorrow your choices today dictate
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the future you will have tomorrow does that
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make sense guys sure it does every little
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choice you make today affects tomorrow every little
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choice guys I don't just mean one choice
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I mean every choice you make and I
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think that's something that a lot of people
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like they don't realize it and the reason
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they don't realize it is because of this
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one thing you know what the one thing
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is the one thing is that you believe
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that you can't do it and you know
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Henry Ford said something a very long time
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ago if we believe we can we're right
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if we believe we can't we're also right
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so I want to encourage you to think
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positively that's what I want to tell you
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guys that is the key to life okay
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and you can do this guys the future
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number 29 future is being built right now
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the future doesn't suddenly arrive fully formed it's
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accumulating through what you're doing today tomorrow and
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the day after that think about that for
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a moment number 30 I want to invite
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you to build a life you'll be proud
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to eventually call your own right can you
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do that can you can you can you
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be proud of the life that you're creating
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or you're like well you know John this
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life is really cool but I don't know
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it's just not going where I want to
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go all right then change it this is
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where our entire week comes together you're ready
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for this this is a this is a
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very very uh key part guys and the
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key part I want to tell you about
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this is that when you understand that you
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make the choices okay that's the whole key
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of life okay you are your own creator
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okay you're your own creator that's an important
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piece guys and that piece might be something
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that you may miss all because you didn't
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believe you could and I said before guys
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if you believe you can you're right and
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if you believe you can't guess what guys
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you're also right so our thoughts have a
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lot to who we are and what we
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do don't they they have a lot so
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just thinking something can make the decision of
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whether it's going to happen or whether it's
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not going to happen right I think that's
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a I think that's a very important thing
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but a lot of people don't realize how
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important that is and the way you'll actually
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know it's important is when you start seeing
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your thoughts and we start keeping track of
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your thoughts and wait a minute I changed
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my thoughts you can log your thoughts right
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but if you don't understand where they're coming
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from then that can be a big problem
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for so many people guys so many people
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but I want to encourage you to make
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these changes in your life start making them
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today okay stop living a life you never
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chose it's not about rejecting every expectation or
25:36
ignoring good advice it's about becoming intentional enough
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to know why you're making the choices you're
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making right now this week we questioned rules
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we inherited we examined whether we're choosing the
25:48
wrong goals we challenged the thinking that keeps
25:51
us stuck we explored difficult choices the cost
25:55
of impressing others and the courage required to
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be different now comes responsibility it's shine time
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once you realize you have choices you have
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to decide what you're going to do with
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them ask yourself where your current direction leads
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if you continue it for another year are
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you going to be happy with it or
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is it going to leave you somewhere like
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oh I don't know if I like where
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it's putting me right I don't know if
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I like where that's going all right I
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think that's a I think that's a big
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thing to understand right then ask yourself whether
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you want to arrive there look at your
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health look at your relationships look at your
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skills look at your finances look at your
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habits look at your reputation look at how
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you're spending your time not with fear not
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with regret look at them with awareness you
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don't need to rebuild your entire life tonight
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guys you need to make the next responsible
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choice then another then another just one foot
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after another a long journey seems like a
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lot of steps but it starts with the
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first step you have to take the first
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step then another step then that's how life
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starts to slowly change the future isn't only
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something you're waiting for guys no you're participating
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in its construction right now and there's another
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part of this I don't want you to
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miss don't become so obsessed with your future
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that you forget to live today create memories
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spend time with people who matter enjoy what
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you've learned learn something because you're curious okay
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learn something because you want to take opportunities
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that make you feel alive build a future
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worth living require yourself to have a great
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life your future self shouldn't inherit only accomplishments
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the person should inherit memories relationships wisdom health
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skills integrity and the knowledge that you actually
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experienced the journey so here's the question I
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want to leave you with if the choices
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you're making right now became the foundation of
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your life five years from today would you
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be proud to live in what you're building
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if the answer is yes keep building if
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the answer is no don't panic change it
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you still have today I'm John C Morley
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Serial Entrepreneur this has been another amazing episode
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of inspirations for your life your future isn't
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something somebody else's responsibility should be part of
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it's being built through the choices you're making
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right now go carefully live fully keep learning
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protect what matters create relations and build a
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life you eventually want to live and check
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out believemeachieve.com for more of my amazing
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inspiring creations take care everyone