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Your Centerpiece Is Blocking the Conversation · Letters from Jeannie: Hosting and Intentional Living

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  SPEAKER_00: Hi friends, it's Jeannie.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to Letters from Jeannie.
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  SPEAKER_00: This week, I'm taking you to my Thanksgiving table.
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  SPEAKER_00: The leaves here in Houston never change, so I forged at Target instead,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I set the whole table in 20 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll tell you why I kept my centerpiece low,
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  SPEAKER_00: the candle I lit before anyone walks in, and what every guest takes home.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's called Your Centerpiece is Blocking the Conversation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Grab something warm to sip and let's go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fall in Houston doesn't come with picturesque leaves like you find
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  SPEAKER_00: in the northeast areas of the country.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's early November and the majority of the foliage is still bright green.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most years I forage for my Thanksgiving table.
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  SPEAKER_00: I cut branches from the yard and bring the fall indoors.
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  SPEAKER_00: This year, there was nothing to cut, so I foraged at Target instead.
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  SPEAKER_00: I found burgundy and rust maple leaves, dried hops in harvest gold, and raton pumpkins.
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  SPEAKER_00: All items ended up in the back of my SUV.
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  SPEAKER_00: And at home, I created a stress-free table.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, stress-free and under 20 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Steady eyes and warm smiles.
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  SPEAKER_00: I intentionally, I am, we do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am intentionally arranging the three rattan pumpkins in the fall foliage
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  SPEAKER_00: so everyone can see each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: The pumpkins are small and unclustered.
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  SPEAKER_00: No one's head or eyes will lean around anything to see the person sitting across from them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would rather see my guests' smiles.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then my centerpiece.
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  SPEAKER_00: When everyone relaxes, natural conversations flow across the table.
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  SPEAKER_00: Neutral table calm vibe.
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  SPEAKER_00: This year, my Thanksgiving table decor has a neutral base with richer, deeper colors.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's no orange, just mocha black and a hint of burgundy and harvest gold.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels calmer and warmer.
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  SPEAKER_00: I find this to be true, and you will too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your guests start reading the room before anyone says hello.
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  SPEAKER_00: Scent first, then color light and sound.
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  SPEAKER_00: Within seconds, a quiet palette will single to your guests that they can,
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  SPEAKER_00: yes, they can exhale.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love the amber stemware the most.
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  SPEAKER_00: When the afternoon light comes through the window, it shines right through the glass.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mix it with gold rim clear crystal so the table has a touch of the old
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  SPEAKER_00: with the new and a subtle bit of glitz.
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  SPEAKER_00: The old is the Wedgwood Stemware for my wedding registry 24 years ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am not quite sure my husband will recognize it, but trust me, I'll let you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: but he's going to know pretty soon.
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  SPEAKER_00: I abandoned both the placemats and tablecloth this year to expose
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  SPEAKER_00: the textured ivory surface of the dining table.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead, I opted for a beautiful ivory linen runner with a mosaic pattern
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  SPEAKER_00: of mocha colored fall leaves.
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  SPEAKER_00: The leaf pattern perfectly complements the centerpiece,
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  SPEAKER_00: creating a seamless illusion
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  SPEAKER_00: that the arrangement stretches across the entire length
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  SPEAKER_00: of the table.
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  SPEAKER_00: The plates are my favorite dinnerware.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are handcrafted stoneware with organic curves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each place setting differs slightly.
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  SPEAKER_00: You barely notice it at first, but it's beautiful up close.
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  SPEAKER_00: The neutral color and texture of my table give me the touch I want this year.
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  SPEAKER_00: Simple and elegant with no overwhelm.
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  SPEAKER_00: My signature Thanksgiving napkin fold, cinched with a black satin ribbon,
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  SPEAKER_00: brown linen, black ribbon, gold flap wear, no fuss.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyone can do this in minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: The signature scent.
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  SPEAKER_00: I scent my home all year, but the holidays are when I go all in.
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  SPEAKER_00: It begins with Thanksgiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: I gravitate toward warm, celebratory scents, and this year it is berry and bough.
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  SPEAKER_00: Red, mandarin, and blood orange are the top notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Blackcurrant nestles in the middle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Forests Pine and Birch form the base notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: My routine before the guests arrive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, at least 30 minutes before the first guests arrive, I light the candle in the foyer.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the minimum amount of time it takes for your space to smell inviting.
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  SPEAKER_00: One hour before is ideal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ten minutes before the first guests arrive,
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  SPEAKER_00: I spritz the dining chairs and the couches with a room spray.
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  SPEAKER_00: In this case, it will be Berry and Bow, linen and room spray.
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  SPEAKER_00: Afterwards, the room spray goes into the guest bathroom.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it greets every guest who walks in.
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  SPEAKER_00: One thing I never do is put
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  SPEAKER_00: a scented candle on the dining table.
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  SPEAKER_00: At the table, the food is the fragrance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Smell is the one sense that travels straight to the parts of the brain
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  SPEAKER_00: that hold memory and emotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your guests may forget what was on the table, but they will remember how your home smelled.
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  SPEAKER_00: I put my whole holiday playbook into a free guide called Holiday Scentscapes.
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  SPEAKER_00: It covers six gatherings from Friendsgiving to New Year's Eve,
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  SPEAKER_00: plus a quiet January reset.
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  SPEAKER_00: It shows which scent goes in which room, when to light and snuff each candle.
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  SPEAKER_00: It has fixes for when the oven has already sent to the kitchen
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  SPEAKER_00: or a guest is sensitive to fragrance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Plus, Hostess gift pairings and printable gift tags.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can download it free from my Pivotal Moments website in the Substack letter.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Welcome Drink.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every guest gets a pomegranate apple cider mocktail at the door.
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  SPEAKER_00: Mulled cider over a big clear ice cube, topped with sparkling water,
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  SPEAKER_00: pomegranate aerials, and a sprig of rosemary.
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  SPEAKER_00: The secret is adding the sparkling water in the glass, never in the pitcher,
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  SPEAKER_00: so every pourer stays bubbly.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll find the full recipe.
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  SPEAKER_00: In my Substack letter.
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  SPEAKER_00: A question for the what door closed on you this year that you are grateful for.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm anticipating some very insightful responses.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't wait to hear your responses.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Goodbye Ritual My guests never leave empty-handed.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Thursday, each guest receives a gold travel tin of berry and bough
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  SPEAKER_00: and a small crock of my maple sage butter.
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  SPEAKER_00: The candle carries a scent of the evening home with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: The butter is for the Friday morning, warm toast and leftover rolls.
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  SPEAKER_00: The moment at my table will stay with them
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  SPEAKER_00: The one detail, a black satin ribbon.
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  SPEAKER_00: It ties the whole palette together.
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  SPEAKER_00: I use a simple pinch and fold.
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  SPEAKER_00: Easy to do, but still inviting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then I tied each napkin with a satin ribbon.
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  SPEAKER_00: A ribbon tells your guests something special is about to happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: It says, you are the gift.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have plenty of simple napping folds that you could find in my Substack ladder
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  SPEAKER_00: that will add a signature detail to your table too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Shop the table.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything on this table is in my Thanksgiving table and hosting essentials collection.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're talking about the Amber Stemware, the Watercolor Floral Runner,
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  SPEAKER_00: And the maple branches I found at Target.
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  SPEAKER_00: The only thing you won't find there is the Wedgewood.
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  SPEAKER_00: That took me, yes, 24 years to collect.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you have your Thanksgiving playlist ready?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, the playlist is also found in my Substack letter.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the letter, you are able To download the playlist where you can hear music
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  SPEAKER_00: from Anita Baker, Donnie Hathaway, Cassandra Wilson, Hezekiah Walker,
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  SPEAKER_00: Norman Connors, and on and on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Despite not having the fall foliage in my yard,
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  SPEAKER_00: my table will still bring blessings to those who gather around it for Thanksgiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am thankful for that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next Sunday, I'm bringing you the food, the sides for this table and my turkey recipe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Subscribe so it lands in your inbox next Sunday morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: So tell me what door closed on you this year that you are grateful for.
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  SPEAKER_00: Leave me a comment in the letter.
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  SPEAKER_00: I read every one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Live with intention.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want the soundtrack for your own table, my Thanksgiving playlist,
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  SPEAKER_00: Mocha Black and Gold, is linked in the letter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Press play while you set the table.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything you saw on this table, the amber stemware, the runner,
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  SPEAKER_00: the maple branches, is in my Thanksgiving collection on ShopMind.
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  SPEAKER_00: The candle that welcomed my guests is Berry and Bow
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  SPEAKER_00: from my Pivotal Moments home fragrance collection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Light it an hour before your guests arrive and let it do the welcoming for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: My seasonal favorite gift set is on sale right now with Mystic Pumpkin,
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  SPEAKER_00: Berry and Bow and Yuletide Balsam Whisper.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gift ready with a black bow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Shipping is free on orders over $75 through January 1st.
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  SPEAKER_00: And my Black Friday sale is coming, so watch your inbox.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can also grab my free holiday scentscape guide on my Pivotal Moments site.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if this made you want to set the table of your own,
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  SPEAKER_00: my cookbook Welcome to My Table pairs with a scent with almost every recipe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Order it directly from me and you'll get my effortless hosting guide too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything is linked in the letter on Substack.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're listening on Spotify or Apple, follow along so next Sunday's letter finds you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next week, I'm bringing you the food, the sides for this table and my turkey recipe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until then, take care of yourself.
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