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COUNTED OUT? RISE AGAIN! (S5) S42:E6 Thursday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hey there, everyone.
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Welcome to the Overpopulated Inspiration History Live show.
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I am live here on Montgomery University campus,
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and unfortunately, their Wi-Fi is not, let's
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say, terribly good.
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It's actually terribly bad, because I keep going
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up and down.
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So I apologize if the stream is not
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as good as it should be, but unfortunately,
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they don't really manage the network as well
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as it should be, unfortunately, but we won't
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get into that right now.
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I did finish my software engineering exam before,
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glad that's over.
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Now I can chill.
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Next week is spring break.
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If you've been here before, I guess I
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want to say thank you and welcome back.
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If this is your first time, I want
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to say welcome to you.
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It's really great to have you here with
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me.
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If you're thirsty, if you're hungry, feel free
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to go grab something, whether that's a glass
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of water, soda, a sandwich, a snack, feel
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free to do that and come on back.
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And let's kick this show off, everyone, okay?
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So count it out, Rise Again, series five,
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show 42, episode number six.
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That's what we're on today.
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Because we're on a live campus, we never
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know if somebody's going to walk behind me,
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in front of me.
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It's just one of those fun things.
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It's great to shoot on campus, but you
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never know what's going to happen.
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It could be good, it could be bad,
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but we just robustly push right through it
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so that we can keep shooting the show.
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So welcome, everyone, to the ever-popular inspirations
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for your life show.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host coach, passionate lifelong learner, graduate student
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here at Montclair State University, and so grateful
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now to be a published author.
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So I have a question for you guys,
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friends, and the question is, have you ever
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felt like life knocked you down so hard
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that getting back up seemed almost impossible?
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Maybe you lost an opportunity, experienced rejection, or
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watched something you worked incredibly hard to fall
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apart.
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Maybe someone counted you out, or worse, maybe
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you started counting yourself out.
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And that's a bad thing, because once you
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do that, guys, life really starts to become
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a problem.
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And so that's what I want to tell
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you.
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So I'm sitting right here outside of the
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beautiful Montclair State University hall, and right between
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the School of Nursing and the graduate school.
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So that's where I am.
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I found a nice little quiet spot.
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It was funny this morning.
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It was nice and quiet.
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Now it's like there's a million people.
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People have gotten out of exams and it's
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chaotic.
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So our weekly series is Stop Waiting for
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a Sign.
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Your freedom starts with action.
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Today, we're talking about something powerful, rising again,
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inspiring ourselves, which speaks of lifting people from
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humbleness and difficulty and the circumstances they have
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to exploring a truth worth remembering and embracing.
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So your present circumstances do not determine your
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permanent worth.
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I think that's the most important thing I
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want to share with you.
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And your last disappointment does not have to
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become your final chapter.
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Many people make it and then they like,
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you know, drive themselves down when they have
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so much more potential.
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So here are the 30 ways that I
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put together for you guys so you can
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rebuild your confidence, restore your hope and rise.
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Yes.
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Number one, guys, being knocked down does not
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determine where you finish.
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Life can interrupt your plans without ending your
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possibilities.
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What matters now is how you respond and
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what you choose to do next, because your
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thoughts make things a reality.
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Number two, your circumstances do not erase your
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dignity, whether you're facing financial difficulties, rejection or
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personal disappointment.
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Your net worth as a human being remains.
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Never confuse that worth or your net worth
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with a situation because of a perceived value.
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Number three, guys, stop allowing setbacks to become
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your identity.
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People do it every day, just like precariously
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don't even know they're doing it.
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You may have experienced failure, but that doesn't
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make you a failure.
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One event cannot accurately describe everything you're capable
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of becoming.
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Number four, recognize the strength required to begin
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again.
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Starting over isn't always exciting.
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Sometimes it takes another phone call, another email,
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submitting another application or just starting over and
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trying again.
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Right.
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We've all maybe filled out a form on
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a website and the form doesn't go through.
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So what do you have to do?
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You have to do it again.
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Number five, understand that recovery doesn't follow a
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perfect schedule.
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I wish it did, but it doesn't.
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Some people rebuild quickly.
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Others need more time.
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And your journey isn't invalid simply because it
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doesn't match someone.
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I think a lot of they, you know.
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Feel that if it doesn't match someone else's
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timeline, that it's basically not something that they
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should be doing.
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But really, that's incorrect.
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OK.
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It precludes them from doing something pretty amazing.
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Number six, stop measuring your worth by one
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disappointing outcome.
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You're going to have one.
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You're going to have two.
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You're going to have more.
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Let's be robust about it.
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And let's move forward.
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You know, one of the earmarks in software
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engineering is, you know, when you have a
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lot of challenges, maybe it's a challenging client,
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maybe it's a challenging environment or even a
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challenging solution is the robustness that keeps getting
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you through it and coming out like a
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charm.
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A lost opportunity or unsuccessful attempt can hurt.
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I get it.
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But it doesn't cancel your skills, your experience,
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your relationships or the potential that you have
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put in.
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Number seven.
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Number seven is this.
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Give yourself permission to rebuild gradually.
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I know you want to rebuild overnight.
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You're not going to.
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So let's just face it right now at
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true value that you're not going to rebuild
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overnight.
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So give yourself permission to rebuild.
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You don't have to restore everything overnight.
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Begin with what you reasonably can manage.
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Then build on each completed step.
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I think that's another important piece.
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We build upon something just like if you
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ever played with Legos or maybe you played
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with an Erector set or Capsula or maybe
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you played with cards and you had to
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stack them right.
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You had to have a good foundation before
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you could stack.
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So number eight is recognize the lessons hidden
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inside difficult experiences.
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I'm not going to say you're not going
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to have challenges that's going to help you
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grow.
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Ask what the situation revealed about your preparation
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priorities or support systems and how that's defining
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your character.
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Remember we said before your character is what
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you develop in private.
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Your reputation is what people see in public.
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So lessons don't ease pain, but they can
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guide better decisions that we'll make in the
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future.
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I think that's the important piece that we
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need to realize.
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Number nine, separate what happened to you from
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what remains possible.
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Your circumstances may have changed, but new paths
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can still exist.
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Don't assume that one closed door means every
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opportunity has just disappeared.
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Number 10, stop comparing your recovery with someone
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else's.
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You may see another person's success without knowing
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their resources, their support or even their own
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struggles.
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Focus on the progress that's meaningful for you.
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That's the most important thing.
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Number 11, guys, understand that asking for help
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can demonstrate courage.
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Seeking advice, encouragement or professional support isn't a
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surrender.
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OK, that's an important thing.
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Many people confuse that and they just give
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up.
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Right.
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Sometimes the strongest decision is recognize you don't
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need to carry everything alone.
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Maybe you need some help and there's nothing
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wrong with seeking help.
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You know, when we achieve things, it's not
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the person that does them.
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It's a team that they have around that
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helps make it a success.
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Number 12, reconnect with people who encourage healthy
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growth, find individuals who listen honestly, respect your
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circumstances and remind you of your strengths without
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pretending your challenges aren't real.
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I'm not saying your challenges aren't real, but
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we have to realize that that is a
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phase, OK, and that we need to overcome
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them.
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Number 13, recognize abilities that hardship has helped
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you develop.
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Perhaps you become more patient, resourceful, adaptable or
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even determined about your life.
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Those strengths may become valuable tools for your
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next chapter.
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Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not
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next week, maybe not even this year, but
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some point in your life they will rear
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their heads again and they will come up.
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And if you haven't learned those lessons, guys,
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I get news for you.
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You're going to be learning them again and
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again and again until you actually learn them.
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That's a real important thing.
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Number 14, stop allowing embarrassment to silence your
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ambitions.
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A setback can make you reluctant to try
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publicly again, but protecting yourself from every possible
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judgment can also prevent meaningful growth.
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And I think that's something that stops a
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lot of people, whether you've been doing something
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for years or whether you just started it.
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Maybe there's something new you don't know and
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you suddenly feel like you're a failure or
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that you can't move forward just because you
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don't know that one piece.
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I got to tell you something, you know,
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even studying in school and doing lots of
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different things, you know, you're never going to
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know everything, right?
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One professor told me, you know, John, you
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take different courses, you spend more time and
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you get more degrees, but you don't know
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everything.
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So no one at the university expects you
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to know everything.
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What they do expect you to do is
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to learn a lot more.
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So you learn more in different areas and
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you become more diversified.
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Number 15, begin rebuilding your confidence through manageable
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actions.
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Complete one useful task, then another.
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Confidence often returns when you see evidence that
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you can still influence your directions, because once
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you believe you can't acknowledge or change your
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directions, then it's like you're stuck.
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They're like, oh, my gosh, what do I
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do?
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Henry Ford said this and I've said this
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many times before.
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If you believe you can, you're right.
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And if you believe you can't, you're also
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right.
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Those are very, very important things to understand.
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Number 16, guys, recognize that progress may look
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different after a setback.
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It's going to happen, OK?
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Perhaps your original plan no longer fits what
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you wanted.
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Adjusting your approach doesn't mean abandoning your purpose.
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It may mean finding a better route and
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that actually will help you become a better
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version of yourself.
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Welcome, everyone.
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Thanks for joining me here today.
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It is Thursday.
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It is October 15th.
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It's 2026 and is the second to last
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day of exam day.
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Luckily, it's my last exam day here at
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Montgomery University.
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And then we're off for an entire week.
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So that's going to be fun to just
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chill and relax.
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Number 17, celebrate small signs of renewed strength.
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Getting organized, keeping an appointment or finishing something
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you postponed may seem ordinary to you.
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During recovery, those actions can represent meaningful progress.
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Now, I didn't say overnight progress today.
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I said meaningful progress.
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That means something you start at and you
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chip at, you chip at, you chip at,
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and you get better and you get better
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and you get better and you get better.
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What you don't do is become an expert
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overnight, right?
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Whether I'm studying AI, whether I'm studying more
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engineering, you don't become an expert overnight.
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You become an expert by spending more time
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in the field, in the discipline.
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But that was something I learned here at
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college is that they don't expect you to
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master every concept in an area.
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They want you to get more diversified so
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that, you know, just a little more in
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each area.
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Number 18, stop expecting immediate transformation.
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A powerful motivational moment can inspire you, but
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lasting recovery usually requires patience, consistent action, and
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guys, realistic expectations.
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I think sometimes people put unrealistic expectations on
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themselves and then they cry and then they
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yell and scream that they can't get anywhere
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because they made the challenge too hard.
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You've got to push yourself a little bit
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past the envelope.
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I didn't say push yourself off the ship,
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right, or off the plank, just a little
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bit uncomfortable.
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Number 19, give yourself room to experience difficult
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emotions, disappointments, sadness, frustration, uncertainty are real.
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You don't need to pretend everything is wonderful
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to remain committed to moving forward.
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For example, I just learned this past Sunday,
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my uncle on my mom's side was very,
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very sick and he has had cancer for
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many years.
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Didn't know this because our families weren't talking
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for a while.
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And I went to go see him when
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I learned about this.
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And then he just passed away literally just,
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I believe it was yesterday.
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And everybody kept this from me because they
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didn't want it to get in the way
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of my exams, which I appreciate.
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I literally just learned about an hour after
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my exam.
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I just got back from Montgomery University's faculty
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student dining room and I had a really
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great lunch.
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If you'd like to learn more about that,
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go check that out at Jason Academy dot
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com.
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It'll probably be posted later this week or
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early next week.
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We do a day in the life with
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John and it was really cool.
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And they even had this great drink called
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horchata, which is like maybe some of you
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know about.
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It's rice that's actually put aside for a
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day.
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You have to drain it.
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Then they put condensed milk in it.
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Pretty amazing.
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And it was really delicious.
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And it wasn't really sweet.
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So number 19, guys, is give yourself room
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to experience difficult emotions, right?
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That's the important thing.
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So even though this is a difficult emotion,
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we have to process it.
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We even had somebody at our university.
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I don't know them, but they sent an
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email out that somebody passed away.
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It was a young student and it was
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a no fault of their own that it
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happened.
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OK, or no fault of any.
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Number 20, protect your hope, reality.
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Hope exists.
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We have to embrace it.
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Hope isn't pretending obstacles don't exist.
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It's acknowledging those obstacles while believing there may
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still be a constructive set of steps worth
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taking.
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I think that is one of the most
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important things that I can tell you, guys,
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is that hope is what leads you to
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where you are today and what takes you
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tomorrow and be gone.
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There might be sad points in your life,
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either from yourself or family or what have
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you, but you need to get over them.
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Right.
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We need to learn from those situations.
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Number 21, recognize when old disappointments influence new
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opportunities.
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A previous rejection can make every new possibility
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feel dangerous.
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Evaluate today's opportunity on its own merits instead
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of assuming history must repeat itself.
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So I'm going to give you an example.
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I'm not going to give you the name
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of the people because that would be unfair
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and that would be kind of breaking kind
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of confidentiality and security.
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So I was somewhere today and I had
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finished my exam and there was somebody I
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saw there was a there was a let's
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say a teacher and advisor and they were
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in the room with somebody, but they weren't
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actually talking.
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So what I did was I just knocked
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on the glass door and they emphatically were
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pointing me like I'm in a meeting, like
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really like an angry kind of tone.
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Instead of like I'm in a meeting.
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So I'm just like, what the heck?
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Right.
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So I realize that that person is somebody
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I probably don't want to connect with again.
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I'll be cordial with them, but there was
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no need for them to get all emphatically
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upset just because I knocked on the glass.
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Somebody was sitting there.
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I had a quick question.
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They could just sit him in a meeting
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and just point it like I'm in a
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meeting and they're like that.
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So like, what the heck?
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So I realize that other people have things
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they need to process.
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Right.
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But take into account how people treat you.
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OK, that's important.
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And that disappointment influenced that day, but also
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influencing the steps I take with that person
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in the future.
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A previous rejection can make every new possibility
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feel dangerous, evaluate today's opportunity on its own
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merits instead of assuming history must repeat.
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I had another person I was leaving and
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I said to the person, have a good
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weekend.
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And I just said, I have a question.
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And they were nasty saying they're in a
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meeting.
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They just say, hey, John, I'm in a
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meeting.
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So that's the thing.
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I think we need to be cognizant, aware
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of how we portray ourselves to other people.
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That's probably one of the biggest lessons I
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can share with you guys for today.
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Number 22, please rebuild routines that support your
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confidence.
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You don't need to support others.
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Regular sleep, movement, planning, meaningful work and supportive
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relationships can provide stability when other parts of
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your life feel uncertain and a little bit
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off balance.
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Number of treating temps.
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Right.
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What happened today in my life, it was
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temporary.
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But it also says to me, hey, John,
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I'm not going to go to that person
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again.
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I see how they taught me.
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I'm going to let them come back to
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me.
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But I'm also not going to approach them
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about anything because of the way I was
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made to be feeling today.
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You may not have the resource, the energy
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or the opportunity you need today.
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That doesn't automatically mean those conditions can never
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change.
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I get that people have a bad moment.
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I get it.
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So if that happens to you, a little
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email back.
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Hey, John, I didn't mean to be rude
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to you today.
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I'm sorry if that's how it came off.
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A lot of these people, they have different
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degrees.
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And this is something I want to tell
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you as I get on with my degrees
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and other masters, a Ph.D. I'm never
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going to treat people badly because I may
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have more credentials or more degrees.
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That's an important piece.
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Right.
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So that's very, very important to understand.
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And remember, ladies and gentlemen, previous challenges you've
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already overcome.
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Twenty four.
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Think about a difficult period.
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You survived.
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What helped you through it?
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Which skills or relationships could support you again?
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Today, I had somebody that was a little
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bit nasty.
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A second person, not as rude, but still
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a bit nasty.
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So I didn't get upset.
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I just basically brushed it off and said,
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I'm going to lunch.
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That's how that person wants to act.
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I'm not going to interact with that person
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anymore.
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Very simple.
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Number twenty five.
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Allow new possibilities to emerge from changed circumstances.
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Now, I know that's a lot to unpack,
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but let's try to do this together.
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Sometimes a setback forces you to reconsider a
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direction that no longer serves you anymore.
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It can happen.
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Right.
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People change.
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People fall apart in relationships, your tasks, your
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goals.
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They might change.
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Right.
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Your ambitions change.
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Stay open to opportunities you might previously have
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overlooked.
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Let me see if I give an example.
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Many years ago, a friend of mine was
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telling me about skeet shooting.
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I knew nothing about skeet shooting.
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And because of him, I went skeet shooting
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and now I can do pretty well.
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I remember I could hit one out of
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ten.
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I think now I can hit eight out
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of ten, which is pretty good.
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OK, number twenty six.
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Guys recognize that resilience includes knowing when to
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rest.
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I think that's the hardest thing for a
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lot of people, especially in the United States.
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We don't rest enough.
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Right.
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I know I try to always be good
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to my body.
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I try to say no when I know
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I need to rest.
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It's not about me being a people pleaser.
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That's not going to help, John.
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OK, it's not going to help you either.
19:48
So realize it's OK to say no to
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others, because when you do, you're saying yes
19:52
to yourself.
19:53
Rest is a good thing.
19:55
Constant effort without recovery can leave you exhausted.
19:59
OK, rest is not the opposite of progress.
20:01
It can be part of what makes progress
20:03
sustainable.
20:04
So I see we're having some issues back
20:06
and forth here with the wonderful MSU Wi
20:09
-Fi.
20:09
Again, we're right in the middle of a
20:11
courtyard here and they don't really have the
20:13
outdoor Wi-Fi configured that well.
20:15
And then we've got students, you know, thousands
20:17
of students here on the phones.
20:18
And not to mention that they're probably not
20:20
managing the Wi-Fi, you know, communication very
20:24
well.
20:25
Number 27, guys, help someone else who is
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struggling to rise.
20:31
Encouragement, practical assistance or simply just listening can
20:37
make a huge difference to someone else that
20:39
might be going through something or trying to
20:41
achieve a goal.
20:42
Right.
20:43
Your experience may help someone feel less alone
20:46
in their own challenge.
20:47
So what I like to say about today
20:49
is, you know, the way I was treated
20:51
today and how that happened, I'm not making
20:53
a big deal that I'm going to drop
20:55
it.
20:59
I just.
21:01
And I'm going to be like, oh, I'm
21:03
not going to fall over that person anymore.
21:05
And I think that's a big thing to
21:06
understand that once you're nasty to me, I'm
21:11
not going to be rude to you, but
21:13
I'm also not going to kiss up or
21:14
I'm not going to fall over you anymore
21:16
because you get one chance to be nice
21:18
to me.
21:19
If you decide you're not going to be
21:20
nice, I'll still be cordial to you, but
21:22
I'm no longer going to bend over backwards
21:24
for you.
21:25
Number 28, guys, understand that dignity isn't something
21:29
success gives you.
21:31
That's important.
21:33
Recognition, money, titles and accomplishments may change your
21:36
circumstances, but they don't create your basic human
21:41
worth.
21:42
Other degrees, more money doesn't make you more
21:45
worthy of a person.
21:46
It does in some people's eyes.
21:48
Right.
21:49
Because like, well, what can you do for
21:50
me?
21:51
Which is a bad attitude.
21:53
You already possess that right now.
21:57
Why did I go back to school?
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I wanted to.
22:00
No one told me to go back to
22:02
school and get another master's and get a
22:03
PhD.
22:04
No one told me to do that.
22:05
I wanted to do that.
22:07
I'm not here, though, to throw in anybody's
22:08
face.
22:09
I'm not here to be nasty about people.
22:11
I might say, hey, you know, I got
22:12
two masters, the PhD.
22:14
I'm not here to do that.
22:15
I'm here to be respectful and use the
22:19
knowledge that I have to grow my life,
22:22
but never to shove in someone's face.
22:24
I think a lot of people use degrees
22:25
and money to shove in people's face.
22:27
The money I have, I don't use it
22:29
to shove in someone's face.
22:31
I like to do things anonymously.
22:33
Number 29, guys, choose one meaningful step toward
22:38
rebuilding your future.
22:39
Don't attempt to solve every problem at once.
22:41
Identify one action that moves you toward greater
22:45
stability, confidence or even opportunity.
22:48
I'm just saying one.
22:50
I didn't say 10.
22:51
That's an important piece.
22:53
Number 30, guys, rise because your story is
22:56
still being written and it is.
22:58
By the way, I'm writing another book.
23:00
You cannot rewrite every event in your past.
23:03
Just it's not going to happen.
23:05
But you can participate in shaping what comes
23:08
next in your future.
23:10
So your next chapter deserves a chance.
23:13
So many people have said, you know what?
23:14
I failed in chapter one.
23:15
I failed in chapter three.
23:16
But they don't go back to those chapters.
23:20
What made me go back to school?
23:23
I think it was the situation of breaking
23:26
my tip and fib and knowing that I
23:28
wanted to do more in my life.
23:31
And that was just like a realization that
23:35
I had.
23:35
I think that's something that a lot of
23:37
people don't understand is that, you know, your
23:40
choices change.
23:42
You need to live your own life.
23:44
You're not living someone else's life, your boyfriend,
23:46
your girlfriend, your parents, your grandparents.
23:48
You're not living their life.
23:49
You're living your life.
23:51
You should be here because you want to
23:52
be here, not because somebody told you to
23:54
be here.
23:54
I know the normal standard is, you know,
23:56
you go to you go to pre-K
23:58
or you go to grammar school, you go
23:59
to high school, and then after that, you
24:02
know, you go to college.
24:03
That's the standard.
24:04
But do you really want to do that?
24:06
You don't have to go to college.
24:08
If you don't want to be here in
24:09
college, you don't have to be here.
24:11
It's not for everyone.
24:12
And that doesn't mean you're a bad person
24:14
because you're not getting a degree.
24:15
I just want to be clear about that.
24:16
Number 30, guys, let's rise because your story
24:19
is being written.
24:20
And I mean this.
24:21
Your story is evolving every single day.
24:24
And I want to reemphasize this.
24:26
Participate in it.
24:27
Life is a participatory sport, a participatory sport,
24:31
meaning you don't just sit here and just
24:33
things just come to you.
24:39
Only by some of the university shows.
24:44
So I'm really excited to bring this message
24:47
to other universities across the globe, not just
24:50
in the United States.
24:52
I feel that if I can help just
24:54
one person change something in their life to
24:57
make it better, I've done an amazing job.
25:00
So I know you don't believe that your
25:01
story can be rewritten or that your story
25:03
is still being written because maybe you're like,
25:05
I'm this age or I'm this.
25:15
Do you the most important thing?
25:16
No one in the world is saying you
25:18
can't learn.
25:19
No one's saying that you can't do anything
25:21
else.
25:21
That is your decision.
25:24
Number that we have to understand is that
25:26
it's powerful.
25:27
So number 30 is a real powerful.
25:29
Now, here is your challenge for Thursday.
25:32
Let's think about one difficult experience you face.
25:35
Just one, not a million.
25:37
What strength did you develop because you had
25:39
to navigate it?
25:40
Maybe it was patience, determination, creativity or the
25:44
courage to ask for help.
25:45
Today, I face some people being rude to
25:47
me.
25:48
Did that ruin my day?
25:49
No, I went and had lunch.
25:51
And I said, if that's how they're going
25:53
to treat me, fine.
25:55
It's OK.
25:56
I'm not looking for an apology, but I'm
25:58
also not going to kiss up to them
26:00
either.
26:01
Identify that strength.
26:03
Mine was resilience.
26:04
Mine was just letting it roll off and
26:06
saying, you know, I'm not going to just
26:09
kiss up to people just because they have
26:11
more degrees than me or because they have
26:13
a higher level in the academic world.
26:16
Identify that one strength, then use it to
26:19
take one constructive step toward your future.
26:22
Make the step practical, make it achievable and
26:25
give yourself credit for following through.
26:27
Now, a lot of people I've told about
26:28
my book, they may not be interested.
26:30
And that's fine.
26:31
I only mention it once to people, even
26:33
academic people.
26:35
Remember, our weekly journey began Saturday when we
26:37
learned to recognize together what was holding you
26:40
back.
26:41
Sunday, we learned to choose a meaningful direction.
26:44
Monday, we began to break free from limiting
26:46
patterns.
26:47
Tuesday, we learned to stand firm and protect
26:50
our boundary.
26:50
Wednesday, we explored how to trust ourselves enough
26:54
to act without perfect certainty.
26:57
Today, Tuesday, we rise again.
27:01
We recognize that disappointment doesn't erase our dignity
27:03
and the rebuilding that can happen and begin
27:07
with just one courageous step.
27:09
And tomorrow, ladies and gentlemen, yep, we'll bring
27:12
everything full circle together live, free, discovering how
27:17
to make intentional living a lasting part of
27:21
our lives.
27:21
That's why most people hate their lives because
27:23
they're not intentional with what they're doing.
27:25
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
27:26
Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
27:27
Thank you so much for choosing to join
27:28
me on the amazing inspirations for your life.
27:31
Remember, ladies and gentlemen, being counted out by
27:35
someone else doesn't mean you have to count
27:38
yourself out.
27:38
You are more than your last setback and
27:42
your future is not finished.
27:44
I think that's the most important thing I
27:47
want you to understand.
27:49
I want you to stay driven.
27:50
I want you to keep learning and I
27:52
want you to realize that what other people
27:54
say about you is not what you're becoming.
27:58
It's their perception.
28:00
Don't let it become your life.
28:01
Have a great one, everyone.
28:03
And remember, don't let people count you out.
28:06
Count yourself out.
28:07
Have a great one and be well, everyone.