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Some narcissists take other people's lives and make them their own · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite self aware narcissist.
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  Mr. Lee Hammock, better known as Mental illness across all social
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  media platforms. This is the first time I see my
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  face. I hear my lovely voice.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  I use my platform on social media to raise awareness for
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  NPD, get more people into therapy and also validate the
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  victims, survivors and thrivers upset and sort of.
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  I'm thriving shirt on. Y'all.
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  Today's episode is going to be about how narcissists take other
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  people's stories and lives and make them their own.
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  Like I said before, y'all before you hop in today's episode make
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  sure to check out the self love brand.
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  This link is in the description of every single video and
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  podcast that I do. But yes, y'all, yes, yes, yes.
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  Narcissist will absolutely take other people.
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  Yeah, a lot of nurses lie. Compulsive, pathological, lying
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  liars. A lot of them are liars.
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  Just lying. Took from the from the time they
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  wake up to the time they go to sleep.
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  They started the day off with a lie.
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  They ended by lying down. Lying.
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  You see what I'm saying? Unless they sleep standing up,
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  they lay down and they lie to you.
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  Like I've had this story, I've had this happen so many times
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  when I'm talking with the people who've been in relationships
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  with narcissists and talk to people or not.
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  Where at the beginning of the relationship, the narcissist or
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  not even during the beginning, like it happens at the beginning
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  a lot of times. But throughout the relationship,
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  the narcissistic person will tell them these stories or about
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  experiences that they've had and things like that.
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  And it comes to and they come to find out it was a lie.
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  Coming to find out the whole experience of whoever they were
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  dealing with. It's a damn lie.
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  They will absolutely lie to your ass.
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  They will. I feel like a lot of people
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  don't get this part right here. They will look you directly into
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  your face and lie to you about and tell you somebody else's
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  experience was theirs. I just have a hard time
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  connecting to others because my mom and my dad were together for
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  40 years and my my mom cheated on my dad.
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  So I have a problem trusting women Come to turn out.
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  Come to find out the mom and dad nobody ever cheated.
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  That's one of their best friends stories about their best
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  friend's childhood. They just told you to get you to
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  sympathize with them or get you to have some compassion for them
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  or to get you to to get you to feel bad for them very early on
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  into the relationship space. You see what I'm saying?
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  They will absolutely do that. Y'all they will lie they asses
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  off to get you to feel a certain type of way about them to
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  they'll make up a story or take somebody else's story to get to
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  connect to you more. Like if you tell them a story
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  about how you had to move around a lot because you found it was
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  in the military or whatever you'll tell them or the armed
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  forces or whatnot. You'll tell them something like
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  that. And then all of a sudden their
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  family was in the military too. They understand that.
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  They get it because they had to travel around the country or the
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  world, whatever their military brats or whatever.
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  Turns out they are not. Turns out they were just taking
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  your store and matching your energy.
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  Turn out they were lying and y'all.
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  Let me tell you this right here, right now before we get too deep
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  into the video. Y'all turn it off like y'all
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  don't watch it to the end. Let me tell you this right here.
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  If they tell you one of these lies and you find out, leave
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  that y'all. Why do y'all stay after that?
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  Right there? I need to ask you a question.
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  Ask yourself why do I stay after they keep after I find out all
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  of these lies. You see what I'm saying?
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  I don't want to give them the benefit of the doubt.
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  They were just nervous. Y'all, stop making excuses for
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  them and ask yourself, why did you stay after you found out one
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  of these lies, Two of these lies, A lot of these lies.
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  Why do you believe anything that they would say after that?
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  You know what I'm saying? Don't make excuses for a toxic,
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  narcissistic person because when you start making excuses for
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  them, they don't have to make them for themselves.
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  And we repeat that again. I just made it up.
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  When you start making excuses for them, they don't have to
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  make excuses for themselves. You know what I'm saying?
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  If they tell you these big fantastical lives or these
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  stories or take other people's experiences, they'll keep doing
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  it. And what happens is, is he's
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  kind of like I always referenced this movie right here.
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  It's a movie called Taking Lives with Ethan Hawke.
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  And Ethan Hawke was Ethan Hunt. The guy from training day was
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  made some messing with Denzel Washington, Ethan Hawke.
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  And it might be Hunt. Ethan H, Angelina Jolie.
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  And I think Bruce Willis is in it as well.
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  Ethan Hunt, he plays, he plays the role of A.
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  He's like a guy it. But he goes, I'm gonna spoil the
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  movie for you, but one one of the people in the movie goes
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  around taking other people's lives.
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  They just do. They take other people's life.
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  They they unrelive somebody. And then they assume that
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  person's experiences, they they befriend the person, learn
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  everything about them and then take over their life.
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  They unalive them, make them disappear, and then they take
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  over their lives. They're the the person who's
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  unalive. Their experiences become his
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  experiences. So he just tells other people,
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  He tells other people, other people's stories.
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  He's like, Oh yeah, this happened right here.
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  Yeah, this happened right there. This is my store right here.
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  They lie to you. Y'all they want to connect to
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  you more. So they lie and this is what
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  happens. Y'all they go into.
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  I say that to say this because when they in a relationship with
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  you and they tell you these big, they tell you these big ass lies
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  about their experiences, guess what happens?
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  They now take your experiences. If y'all break up, they take
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  your experiences and pass them along to the next person as
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  their own. So it's just like they're
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  gaining more lives. The more people they deal with,
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  the more experiences that they take, the more lies that they
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  take, the more lies that they tell, they get better at it.
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  If If I'm with you for five years, we share a lot of unique
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  experiences. You tell me your deepest,
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  darkest secrets. Your deepest darkest secrets now
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  become my deepest darkest secrets.
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  You see what I'm saying? They will absolutely take over
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  your life, take over your stories, take over the way that
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  you live and the way that you operate.
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  They absolutely will do that type of stuff, y'all and they'll
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  enjoy it. Why wouldn't they?
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  Why wouldn't they enjoy taking over somebody else's life?
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  It's like I I'm building a character, like playing it.
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  Like like a narcissist is playing a game with themselves
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  and with the world. It's like how many stories can I
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  take and how many experiences can I take and make my own.
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  I talked to a lady, it was a couple years ago where she told
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  her partner that he had that that I think her, she told her
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  partner that somebody in her family had cancer.
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  They were about they were getting, they were really sick.
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  Guess what happened? The narcissist, the person's
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  like, wow, I really feel bad for your person.
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  And I didn't want to tell you this, but I also have that
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  cancer. And of course she felt bad for
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  him. They connected more.
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  But then she ended up talking to one of his family members and
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  was asking like, you know, yeah, I had to drop, drop him off for
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  his, his chemo or something like that today, his radiation,
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  whatever he was getting and the family member was like radiation
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  for what? It's like, oh, he has the, the
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  cancer. Like you haven't got cancer.
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  What are you talking about? He has this right.
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  Here he goes. And what?
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  Yeah. I think he just told you that
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  because your. Because your family member had
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  that. Wow.
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  Lot about having cancer just to connect to somebody else.
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  Yeah, he was going to. He was sick or he had something
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  going on with it wasn't. It wasn't all illnesses are
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  serious to me but he had something going on.
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  We had to go take go to the doctor every way to take a get
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  his medication to get his prescription filled every month
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  or whatever. And he told her he had cancer.
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  But he didn't lie. You see what I'm saying?
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  Lie, big lie, huge lie. And of course when he, when she
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  could question him about it of course he started crying and
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  just say, oh, I just want to connect to you.
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  I didn't have anything else in common.
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  You were. You're You're so much further in
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  life than I am. I didn't know what to do.
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  I really like you. Come on.
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  Y'all I was telling you, these people will lie, they asses off.
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  They will. They'll take other people's
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  experiences or they'll create an experience.
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  Sometimes they don't. They don't have to take somebody
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  else's experience. They'll take bits and pieces and
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  make their own. They create their own lives.
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  They create their own experiences.
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  In situations like this, they don't have to take other
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  people's. I can just make one up.
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  Why do I have to take somebody else's experience if I can just
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  make up, make one up, You know what I'm saying?
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  If why would I take somebody else's experience if I can just
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  create one of my own? If I could just build, it's kind
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  of like playing the video game and building a character again,
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  Y'all I can create. I can build my own character.
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  Do I do it by doing this? You see what I'm saying?
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  They they will just lie to you. They take other people's
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  experiences because a lot of times you get a lot of
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  Narcissus. They are scared to live their
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  own lives who are super paranoid about failing.
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  Super paranoid, super just fear the fear of rejection and
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  failure. They feel like, well, it feels
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  just as good to lie about the story than it would be, I guess,
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  to actually achieve or actually do what happens in this story.
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  Especially if it's a story of success and perseverance,
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  perseverance or something like that.
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  They they can actually do if they put their minds to it.
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  It's just easier to just lie about it, you know?
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  It's just easier to lie about, you know, going to college or
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  something. It is easier.
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  Y'all, it's absolutely easier. But that's what I'm just telling
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  y'all. Like if they lied to you, that
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  if they if you find out that they're taking other people,
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  people's experiences, if you feel like they're just
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  fabricating stories and lives around you, then y'all it does
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  fall into you to fall into your lap or fall into your life to
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  take action against this person. Because the longer you stay with
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  a toxic narcissistic manipulator who creates these stories, the
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  more confused and the more brain damage to what actually happens
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  to you. Probably you know, they gas like
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  the hell out of you. You don't know.
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  You won't know what the you don't know where the lie ends or
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  the false experience ends and the truth begins.
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  You know, and this is what I'm I'm ended with this right here.
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  Y'all that. Some nurses will absolutely get
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  into the space. What they tell you.
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  Like I said, they take your experiences and they just they
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  start telling other people your experiences as their own.
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  Why y'all still together in a relationship.
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  Why y'all are actually It doesn't have to be a
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  relationship. Y'all It can be a friendship.
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  It can be a parent, friend or whatever.
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  You know, sibling, cousin, whoever it is, online
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  acquaintance, somebody. They take people's experiences
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  online. Somebody follow on Instagram did
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  this. They'll just say, oh, I did
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  that. Hey, guess what I did today?
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  I did. I accomplished this.
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  You know what I'm saying? They will absolutely do that.
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  Y'all. So just be very wary of who
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  you're listening to. Like I said, when?
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  If they lie to you, y'all, If they lie to you now, in the
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  beginning, they will continue lying to you.
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  Don't have a relationship built on the foundation.
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  The lies you ain't just don't do that.
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  Because if you do that, if they tell you one lie in the
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  beginning, why do you think they will tell you the truth later
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  on? Just curious because like, you
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  can't do anything about them lying.
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  You can leave them. You can hold them accountable,
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  but you have to do something about you.
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  And why you just tell like okay, they told me this huge lie.
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  Why am I going back into this space?
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  You know, and I was. I know some people take what I
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  should say as victim blameing statement.
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  That does not mean victim blameing.
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  That doesn't mean trying to help you wake up to understand this
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  stuff right here. Like you have to look at
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  yourself in a situation and like, I know you got lied to,
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  you didn't understand that it was a lie.
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  But once you get lied to, once you feel like once you realize
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  it, then you have to take action.
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  Ask yourself out that quick. I know everybody's
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  circumstances. The situation is different.
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  Money, location, whatever it is. Just be safe.
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  Y'all don't let them lie. Don't let them lie to you for
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  too long. Anyways, y'all think I'll tune
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  into another episode. Make sure you check out the self
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