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Season 4 - Episode 257 - It’s not what you say you’re going to do… · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey, good morning. Everybody may hear some wind in
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  the background and it sounds just wonderful and peaceful and
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  lovely. And I'm enjoying it out here
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  doing my meditation and now recording a podcast with you.
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  So Carl Jung, we all know Carl Jung.
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  He said you are what you do, not what you say you'll do.
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  And how cool is that when you think about that?
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  Because you, how many of us get aggravated when we know we are
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  around people who are talkers? They just talk and talk, talk,
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  talk, talk and they say they're going to do a lot of things or
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  they indicate that they do a lot of things.
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  Even just in the conversation, you can hear them talking about
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  stuff and you look and you go, this person hasn't done any of
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  that or that stuff has been done in the life that they are part
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  of, but it's essentially not been through them and their
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  efforts. They may have had a small
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  portion of it. And you sit there and you're
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  like, Oh my gosh, what are they talking about?
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  They do nothing. And it's a, it's a very big
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  human habit. You know, I can perfectly well
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  tell you that it's one of my biggest pet peeves personally,
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  that the I have a little Red Hen syndrome.
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  And what that basically means if you don't remember the
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  children's book, The Little Red Hen, she gets very annoyed
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  because everybody wants to have her at the end of the story.
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  Everyone wants to come for a piece of bread that she baked.
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  But nobody wanted to help her plow the fields or plant the
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  fields or attend the fields or harvest the fields.
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  But they all showed up with their plate for a piece of
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  bread. And it's one of my favorite
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  stories because throughout my life, going, you know, to
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  school, going and putting it, being put in classes, I was
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  often put in groups of people who would sit there and say, oh,
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  I'll do it. But it's they never showed up to
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  do things. And then their grade was
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  predicated on my effort more than their effort.
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  And I used to be get so upset about that because I did not
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  want to have that. If I'm going to pour in, I'm
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  going to pour in. And you know, my mother used to
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  tell me, oh, well, you, you know, you have to help.
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  And you know, you, you hear other human beings justifying.
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  And it gets us more and more aggravated.
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  And the point of this today is you are what you do, not what
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  you say you'll do. And listening to Mr. or Doctor
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  Young, we, we sit here and we have to remember as we take in,
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  we sit here in our lives and we look around, we have to remember
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  that nothing is more important than how we show up moment to
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  moment. And, and really how we show up
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  moment to moment. What are the actions that we're
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  taking? What are the things that we're
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  doing? How are we pouring into our our
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  lives and what we say we'll do that inter interacts with other
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  people's lives? Because there are plenty of
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  people out there that we interact with.
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  And if you're part of a team, if you're, if you work on a team,
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  whatever you do and they count on you, there are oftentimes
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  where one line gets hung up for another.
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  So I, I was just talking to somebody yesterday and he
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  indicated that, you know, oh, well, there's people upstream
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  in, in what he does. And you know, they're, they're
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  calling for things to, you know, hurry up, hurry up, hurry up,
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  hurry up, hurry up. And he's like, I can't hurry up
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  because the people are are not giving me what I need so that I
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  can do what I need to do. And it's it's befuddling to me
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  how much people don't look back at this and say very clearly,
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  listen, we have to remember we are what we do, not what we will
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  say we will do. So what are you doing?
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  What are the things you are doing right now?
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  Where in your life are you telling yourself, oh, I do this,
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  but you don't actually do it? Or are you deluding yourself
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  into believing that you're doing more than you think you're
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  doing? Like our biggest weakness with
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  this always across the board, like this is a very funny thing
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  because one would think we would have a good handle on this is
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  our health. We all like to believe like, oh,
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  I'm healthy. But then, you know, there's
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  beer, there's alcohol, there's sugar.
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  There's too much of what one would say is a good thing.
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  And all of a sudden you're not healthy.
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  And I can't tell you how many times I have to, you know, bring
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  some light to this with clients who are saying, well, I'm just
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  not losing weight. And then you dig into it and you
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  find out they're not losing weight because they're not
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  actually doing their workouts. They skipped that part because
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  they said they were going to and they made a commitment to do it.
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  But they skip it. And they're like, well, life
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  gets in the way. Life is always going to get in
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  the way. There is never a time when life
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  doesn't get in the way. I promise you, I was in.
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  I took a call last night, a late call, which I never do, not for
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  a client, but for one of my clients actually asked me to
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  help somebody out. And I said the only time this
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  person could talk was at 7. Now, my brain usually shuts off
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  then, but I was like, no, I'm going to take the call.
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  I want to make sure I help because this person really needs
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  it. And there I go, dive into the
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  call. And in the midst of the call, my
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  son breaks a glass that's filled with apple juice all over the
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  kitchen. And I mean, it was everywhere.
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  He dropped it on the floor and it went up the counters all over
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  the place. And he texted me in the middle
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  of that call while I'm trying to concentrate and figure out
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  what's going on with this person and tells me I need you to come
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  here right now. So I come walking from my office
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  in and he's standing there in bare feet, glass all around him,
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  covered in apple juice up the counters, all over the
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  refrigerator, everywhere. And I just stood there and I the
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  first thing that came into my head was life happens and that's
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  it. And so I just asked the person
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  to hang on and said, OK, let me figure this out.
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  Got him out of the danger and said I'm coming back to fix
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  this. And when I'm done with the call
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  and, and I was able to move on, this is what it's all about.
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  It's not about getting angry. It's not about getting
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  frustrated. What it's about is being able to
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  recalibrate, recalibrate and recognize that it's what you do.
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  It's not what you say you're going to do.
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  And you have to remember that. And I'm constantly trying to
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  say, everybody just realize what will you actually do compared to
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  what do you think you will do? Because it's a major difference.
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  OK, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.