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Protecting Women: Insights from a Man | FT. Brent K. Miller | EP64 · Jess Ask

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Yo, it's your girl, Jessica Smith, and you already know that you've
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entered the safe space for influencers to decompress, have fun and just ask God,
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do you already know what it is? And then you know it's about
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to get real, So be sure to show your girl the love and like,
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come in to scrape God for another day. Hey, hey, I
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know we could be another way, So Father God, we just invoke your
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holy spirit into this room. Lord, we thank you that Desiree and Jessica
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are using their gifts and talents. And Lord God, continue to open doors
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for them. Guess that they didn't think we're attainable, make them attainable.
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And Father God, you said, if we will open our mouths, you
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will feel it. So, Father God, as we opened our mouths,
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Lord, we asked that you would prepare the hearts, the souls of mind,
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the will and the emotion of the people that we're here whatever Jessica puts
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out. And Lord, continue to keep Desiree on the cutting edge. And
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Lord, we just give you all glory on the praise that your will be
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done this day in Jesus' name. Amen, Amen, I don't want we
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want people to be trying to figure out what you're doing. Come on,
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everybody else, Come on. If this is what I tell people, well
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let me quit, because see we'll get started then with no, let's go.
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This is what I tell people. We always look at rappers and all
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that and say, well, how they go from selling drugs and this and
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that? And we want to talk about them. But if we have the
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Holy Spirit and God said he would lead God in direct us, then way
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ain't we doing it just as what they're doing in more because we have a
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cause that's worthy to be Uh, move forward, But we always want to
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look at other people and say, WHOA, why they do it? Forget
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what they're doing. God, what you put in me, then I can
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move forward so that people will look to me, and then I can lead
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them to you. Man. That's so that's so good because I think it's
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Isaiah forty three nineteen where it says, I, for I am doing a
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new thing, do you not perceive it? And the problem is the perception
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and perception is reality for people, and people only operate in what's real for
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them, right, and if God is not real for them, and what
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God is doing is not real for them, they're not gonna act because they
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don't have the perception at all. But before we get to deeper, if
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y'all don't know, listen, I think y'all have already seen the Man of
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God. Y'all may not know who he is, but I know and this
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man, first of all, you have answered it to just as the podcast
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where we create a safe space for influencers to decompress half of it, and
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just as it's your girl, Jessica Smith, and I thank you for viewing
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this podcast, viewing this episode of y'all. Y'all know what y'all waiting for
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a right? Ay, that's all right, Ay, that's already already already.
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What's up? You got Welcome into the space again. Listen, there's
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a way we not a hit one. I'm a little I'm scared of this
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one because this when you get people like this on the other side of the
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table. Fire. Yeah, so you you heard his voice already. But
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I'm about to put a name to it. But this young man, young
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man, fresh man, chocolate man. He's my friend and we've been friends
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for about a year now, and God has really really opened my eyes to
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some new things in this relationship. I am, I'm younger than he and
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he is more mature than I am in spirit, spirituality, mentality or whatnot.
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But he also he also shows me ways of where I am valued in
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his life, and so I appreciate him. This young man is a minister.
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He has he has worked with the NFL, he has you know,
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he's just a boss. He's been in sales. He has so much just
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wonderful experience that it is going to provide us so much wisdom on today.
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And so I introduced to you guys on this platform none other than Brent Miller.
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And I forgot the kate. Let me let me w Brent Kay Miller
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because I go by Jessica Smith and I'll be like, why y'all missing the
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is I need to? Because it Justice Smith is so plain. So I
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feel you, hey, because the kN and King's kids, come on,
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make it be whatever it want to be. Come on, Brent, how
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are you feeling? I am great? Am I am just before we get
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strough. I am so proud of you, just so excited I am.
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And it's it's just in a year's time to see your growth has been encouraging.
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So congratulations, thank you, thank you. I'm proud of you because
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in the year's time. We've talked and you been through some things. But
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listen, just your faith alone, just like how you just get back up
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again and again and again and you go like literally you go with God,
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like you are the prime example of going with God. So let me I
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gotta tell y'all. I'm gonna tell this story. I gotta tell y'all how
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I met Brent. Okay, so y'allve heard me say several times and brought
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up the podcast summit that was held in twenty twenty three in Miami, Florida,
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and y'all, I went by myself. I went to this place by
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myself. I had Greg and DESI Red you know in my ear, saying
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Okay, you need to do this, you need to have this note,
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just holding me accountable. But I was there with not with physical accountability.
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I thought. I thought, it's something about how God set you up to
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for your come up and did he literally did. So I'm going around and
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I'm gonna I'm gonna let Brent tell some of his perspective. But I'm going
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around. I'm this girl with loud red here. I'm just excited, Like
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I'm just so excited. I think people could just see it because a lot
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of people were just attracted to me. They were just like, you know,
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speaking or hey, I want to do an interview with you. And
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Brent had been one of those people, and I thought it was just gonna
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be like aque little interview was just gone by his day. Y'all can see
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it. We don't have to repost it. But he did an interview with
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me there. I came. I didn't come prepare. I didn't know people
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was gonna do it. I'll have my phone, my notebook and opinion.
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That's about it. Because I came to lot, I didn't know what was
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supposed to be doing all of this. And so so Brent and I did
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the interview and he asked me some great questions. I just liked his vibe
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and so I remember I remember just doing meeting him then and there was another
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man and I did an interview with him, and so we all went to
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lunch and it was just, you know, this unique opportunity. But I
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got to spend some one on one time with Brent after that, and baby,
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the poor that he poured into me by and he looked me square on
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my face, he said, listen, all these people are attracted to Like
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everybody is attracted to light. You have to be mindful of who you allow
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to get close to you. He looked me square at my I was like,
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he gro I just met it. I just met you, but it's
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y'all. It shook me so much that I became sound. He was like,
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no, you're gonna come sit with us. You're not gonna just see
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anywhere now. And it was a level of responsibility that I felt from him
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that he I was like, I don't even know him, but he was
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like, nah, no, you not doing that. And I was like,
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wow, God loves me so much that he sent me a brind like
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what do you recall all of that? So I remember seeing you, and
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you know, as you get older, your senses changed and you start being
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more observant of certain things. So I was just watching the room and I
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watched how people it was gravitating to you. But then I seen the one
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guy who went to lunch with us, how he was kind of acting.
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I'm like, okay, let me just kind of you know, being the
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father of a daughter and have sisters, you look and you just be observant.
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So I'm like okay. So then when we were walking and talking.
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Then my radar really start kicking up, because it's like, Okay, I
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know she's a child of God. And everybody that says they know God,
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which God are you talking about? Yes, we know in the Bible they
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had the Greeks had gods for everything. And so when you start talking and
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I start hearing you, that's when I had to interject and pull you away
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because it was like I didn't need you one to get distracted, but also
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somebody to start putting stuff in your ear. See, we gotta be careful
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what we let people say to us, because that's how seed gets planted.
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If somebody's not there to be a buffer, people will say something and then
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you'll start thinking, where'd my faith go? I thought God was this,
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but we allow people to just plant that. See the death was really sneaky,
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like he just we just drop a little something in your spirit and if
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you don't get it out, it starts to fester and growth. And so
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we didn't need that happening to you because God has a purpose for you and
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we don't want that to be derailed. Wow. Wow, Wow, I'm
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gonna turn around, Desirae. I don't know why be setting myself up like
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this, like real, like what you did for me, Brent. I
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don't think I've ever experienced that before. I don't think i've experienced it since.
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Right. I have a brother, right and I and we ain't close
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clothes, but we were in good standing family, you know what I'm saying.
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So we're a good standing and so I've always, if I could be
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honest, I've always probably yearned for a level of protection like that. And
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the protection of this is so good, the protection of a black man outside
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of my father right, caring for me in an unsexual manner. And I
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don't think I've ever felt safe with a man that I didn't even have an
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inkling like I when I tell you, I genuinely haven't even thought like,
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oh, Brent want the goods. I have never thought that because you your
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energy was like oh, and maybe this is too all open and honest for
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y'all, but I'm keeping it real, like as a black woman, and
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I'm not ugly, you know what I'm saying. Like I was bad.
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I was bad. Listen, pays what the prinds on now? I would
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walk with you was talking about you weren't anymore. That's why I was like,
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what was so you're talking about Oh, no, I'm talking about I'm
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not ugly at all, Like you know what I'm saying, Like I'm saying
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that outlied, Like I have to tell myself that every day because there's some
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excurious But we'll talk about that another day. But I'm saying and so so
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even in a simple fact that you saw you saw me as a child of
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God and you protected that, why did you feel the need for somebody that
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you did not know? Like there's something that is a foundation. Sounds like
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it's something rooted in you. What is that? And how do other men
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get to protect women? Let us go there that talk like that, because
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at that moment I needed protection that I didn't know I needed. I think
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if we're really honest, we all have that thing. You all can look
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at a woman and be like, yeah, she trying to set you up.
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Men do the same thing. But and I'll say this, we sometimes
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don't want to go against the bro code or the Sister code or whatever it
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is. But see, this is where the adversary once again gets in because
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we set up these fictitional guidelines that we don't even know what they're rooted in.
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See, I'm real big on where do things originate from? Come on,
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see, I have a friend and we talk all the time, and
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he always say these cliches. When people show you who they are, believe
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them. But why when people show you who they are, you still deal
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with them. You told them a secret and they keep telling it, but
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then you go back to them. The other one a lot of people say
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is everybody can't go where you are, And this applies to you. See,
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you have a heart for people, and people can see where you're going
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and they may try to derail it. But because you have a heart for
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people, you try to take them with you. But they're not supposed to
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be with you because they can't enter into the places that you can enter in.
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And so it's so important for us as men to look out for women
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because when I see you, I see my daughter, I see my mother,
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I see my sisters, I see women and so and my wife,
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and so I'm not gonna let nobody do anything to them. So why would
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I let anybody? And that may be harm, but just putting something in
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your mind that doesn't need to be there you in an inappropriate way. One
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thing I don't play with is I don't hit like play hip with women,
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call them out their name because we have to remember it. Another thing.
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This is my kind of soapbox nursery rhymes. Sticks and stones may break my
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bones, but words may never hurt me. I can heal from a sticking
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stone. It's hard to heal from words. Yeah, And so I have
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to make sure that the words that I speak speak life. They give hope
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and inspiration because if not, what are we doing? If I can't uplift
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somebody, what am I doing? Yeah? And that's one of the things
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you do. You are a coach, right do you? Coach? Man?
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You can tell because and I knew I was real because coaches have another
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level of wisdom, like understanding, and you an anointed ones not just want
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to be like come and take get a bass and say, oh I'm a
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coach. Now I done got a book. So I got a coach.
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You know, I'm talking about these people. They have really been down through
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there. And so the word it just keeps coming up for me, Brent
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is discernment. And it's like you, it seems like you have a strong
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sense of discernment. Can we go into what is discernment? And how do
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you grow in that. So first of all, we all have the ability
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to operate in the non manifestations of the Holy Spirit. So you have word
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of wisdom, word of knowledge, discernment. It's kind of like the Information
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group. You have tongues, interpretation, tongues and prophecy, and then you
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had gifts, healing and miracles. So when you operate, God gives us
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the ability to operate in anyone at any time we need to. My mother
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was strong in discernment, and so naturally it's going to be kind of inherit.
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She could tell when people were lie because God was short like a snake
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tongue when they talk, oh wow. And so that was her way of
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discernment. But for me, God drops stuff in my spirit, and so
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I tell people, whether it's church people, you to test the spirit,
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because God says, try the spirit and see if it be. So when
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you leaving out the house, maybe every day you go left, say God,
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which way I should I go? And if he says go left,
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go right, you might get stopped by train, it might be erected.
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So now you're developing that relationship to hear God. So discernment gives you the
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inate ability to see beyond what you see, and to hear beyond what you
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hear. So discernment also what I heard was discernment also ignites you to obey
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God because it's like people like I do I hear God? Or how do
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I hear God? But then it's like you hear something or you feel so
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sense something that's so interesting. We're talking about these right now because me and
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my sister were just talking about it, like how she is experiencing God in
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different ways and how she comes to it in what ways outside of discernment do
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you experience God? And they have been developed in your faith? And this
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is something that and I'm glad you said that because this is something I just
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had to get over. See, we think the way I come to God
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is the way you come to God. Come my relationship with God is your
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relationship with God. I have a very unique relationship with God. But I
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think it's just because of my faith. And sometimes I tell people just just
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do it or just praying it happens, and it don't, and I'm like,
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you know, then we become judgmental. Well, you didn't pray,
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writer, or you did this. No, that's my relationship with God and
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we as Christians have to quit trying to take our relationship and put it on
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somebody else, because now I'm trying to say I'm your God and not God,
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because I want you to be like me. He coming for everybody me.
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He just come from mine and day he said the sword. Okay,
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I am coming with the sword. Brent. I'm telling you, so,
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you, how did you get to this point? Have you always been like
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this as far as like so grounded in knowing who you are or what was
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your developmental point today? He No. Let they say God and babies.
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I was probably at the top of the food list, let's go. But
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I had a praying mother, had a praying grandmother, so they protected me.
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And this is stuff I've told my kids because what I'm gonna tell you
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I told my kids. I don't want my kids to grow up. I
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did not want them to grow up with an unrealistic expectation of life. I
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used to smoke weed. I used to snort cocaine. Wow, we used
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to drink. Me and my buddies. They caught us to AA to academic
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alcoholics. We take a fifth to one five to one light, chase it
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with the fifth to one five to one dark and chase it with black jack.
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And that was every weekend. We would leave campus. Statute of limitations
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ran out on all this, so it don't matter now, but we would
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leave school at lunchtime, go get high, get something to drink, and
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go back to school. And so God has allowed me to live through a
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lot of experiences. But I think that's where wisdom comes in, is experience.
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So even when I do business coaching, I tell people you have to
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put yourself out there. If you don't put yourself out there, you don't
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know what you're capable of. And so because of those experiences is giving me
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a certain ability to be able to understand people. And I like to keep
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things basic and simple. I think sometimes people make the word of God a
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relationship with God, business and all that too complicated. Keep it simple,
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man, you talking listen, you talking real good brand. So what was
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your pivot point? So you say you was the double A community and this
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is some information I'm just learning you guys, I'm like, whoa, all
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of I didn't know this, but to like what I'm learning. The people
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that are very rich, experienced say this real quick, huh. And this
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was all while because I start going to church at twelve, gave my life
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the Christ at twelve. This was all why I was saved. This was
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high school. So I what twelve? High school? You sixteen seventy eighteen.
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So I just wanted to throw that. So when we get to the
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pivot, you'll know how a pivot. This is so good. This is
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so good because what I was about to say is one thing that I've noticed
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in God shows me in a pattern is that the people that are have the
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most oil went through the most hill, and it's like their developmental development story
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is so powerful, and it's like, oh that's why you so like I
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forgot I live and forgot I die. Like you got to have those type
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of conversations be grounded so much because it's like if I don't do this,
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I know what I will do. So what was the pivot point for you?
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So for me, one day, me and my friends have some friends.
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We've been friends for over forty five years. Now those are my brothers.
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They're no longer friends, those are my brothers. And one day we
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were just sitting around and I just something just hit me, like God put
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you here for more than this. And so for me, I was like,
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God, take the desire away. And at that point I never smoke
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again, never snorted again, and not take a shot every now and then,
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like with my kids. You know, I don't never profess to be
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above human. Yeah that's good. So after I prayed that God took the
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desire away and never had a desire to do whatever again. And it was
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that simple for you for me, yeah, because I was about to say,
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it's okay, we're gonna have a real talk right now. So there
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are certain things that I'm like I've been told it's like you just got rid
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of it. Just you guys got to do. And it's like why does
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this keep coming up? Why do I keep facing this or whatever? So
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my journey, like I love the fact that you gave us permission to have
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our own journey, Like God gives us permission to have our own journey.
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And even though it's almost the scription where it brings up where who was that
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Peter? Was like the thrown in my flesh. Yeah, so it's like
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this throwing on my flush. I'm sick of it. But then it's like,
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no, I'm not gonna move the thron because the thorn is what keeps
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you keeps me human, but also keeps you kneeling to me. You know
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what I'm saying, keeps you honoring me, keeps you bowing to me and
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serving and worshiping me. Not just from a sense of on over you,
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but from a sense of I want to do relationship with you, and this
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is how you It is through that relationship. And so I love the fact
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that you open open it up. I want to ask you, of course
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I love your slogan. I love your slogan. You say, remember to
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have a good day on purpose? Where did you get there from? Just
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I feel like you should be intentional about everything you do. And so one
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day I was just doing something and it just hit me and I know it
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was God because I try to spread positivity, you know, not fake positivity.
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It's like real, rooted and grounded positivity. And so my thing is
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people say have a good day, but a lot of times we don't tell
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people how to have a good day. So my thing was, have a
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good day on purpose, be intentional about having a good day. And so
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what that means is I have to know what I want first to be able
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to get it. And a lot of times people will look at what you're
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doing. I forgot the camera was right and it's all good. That lets
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them know it's live and in living color and good and look and I'll keep
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all I was like, ooh, I'm feeling all of this. I wish
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I was writing some of this down, but I get to watch the replace
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with intentionality. Yes, the way we have to do intentionality is first knowing
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who we are. What keeps us from knowing us us We are our own
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worst enemies. So you know, I've this is something I haven't shared with
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anybody except my coach. I stuck with my coach the other day because a
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coach needs coach, listen, and if a coach don't have a coach,
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you might want to be worried. Yeah, And so we were talking because
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I struggle sometime with which lane. You know, everybody says you got to
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pick a lane, you gotta pick a this, and when God gives you
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gifts, it's like, well do I do this? Do I do this?
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And so I struggle with that. And so the only person that knows
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that I'm doing this now is my coach, and you are. My lane
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is faith. And let me tell you why I chose faith, Because I
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do a thing called the prelude. The peer is perspective, the RS reflective,
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and the EA is effective. And I have will make a little book
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as I talk, and they do this because I don't like motivational speaking.
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Because you live in Atlanta, you leave a motivation. By the time you
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get in traffic, all that motivation gone out. So if you ain't kust
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somebody, I'll flip them all they ain't near head two or three round window,
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it's gone. But I feel like activation. If you do this,
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when you get home and you open this little book up that you started,
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it should activate something in you to remember what made you do it. So
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my platform is faith because first of all, I gotta have faith in me.
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And that's one thing my coach told me. She said, you don't
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believe in yourself, because I'll be like, oh what if I put it
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out there and nobody this. She said, you don't even believe in yourself,
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So how people gonna believe in you? So I have to start with
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me. I know God has given me faith, I know he's given me
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favor, but I have to exercise it so that other people can see it,
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so that it gives them the belief in themselves that they can do it.
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This this is so good. You said your platform is faith, and
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I'm glad you said that, because a transparent moment is that for a long
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time and doesn't something doesn't for the sake. So my coach, this is
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good. Y'all tune in. Yeah this one. I've seen this before,
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but it's listen. We was we was on a call and it was multiple
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It was it was like people that really like take Heed to her mentorship,
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okay, and so she was like, y'all need to be doing something and
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start talking about how we need to do stuff or whatever. And so she
24:48
going down the line. I mean, all these people have all these amazing
24:52
things, and she was like and just what are what are you selling?
24:56
Like? She was like, you know what you just need to do,
24:59
you need to sell. I looked at her, and I was so bad,
25:03
when I tell you, I was mad. Bring. I was so
25:04
mad. And the reason why I was mad is because I felt like it
25:08
was putting me in the box, put me in a box of where I
25:11
couldn't do other things right. I did not know that because because I got
25:19
what she was saying. But I was just like, no, I don't
25:22
just want to do that. I don't want to just be known for being
25:25
a Christian. I don't want to just be known for doing X, Y
25:29
and Z, not knowing what God was gonna do with my platform, right,
25:33
and so so it's almost I'm so little shamed to say this. It
25:37
was almost like I was embarrassed or not necessarily embarrassed of God, but just
25:41
being known for just this one thing because people are intimidated by it. And
25:47
then on the flip side, when you're going to just being real, when
25:51
you're going I won't say against, but having these dialogues with with people like
25:55
that don't really believe in the Bible, depict and choose like intentionally on what
26:00
believe in, what word they're gonna do, what they're gonna live out.
26:03
They put you in this box and say, okay, you can only be
26:08
Christian and look like this and do this, not knowing that I was going
26:11
to. I was made and built to buck against systems and so like,
26:15
did you have any experience of ways like na, Maybe I don't want to
26:19
talk too much about FAY because everybody's not comfortable. Did you ever have that
26:22
and how did you break through that? Long? Definitely, I think as
26:26
a Christian, you always have that internal struggle because, like you said,
26:30
the perception of what a Christian is or was. And see, I've never
26:34
been a traditionalist my whole life as an adult, I've done things my way.
26:41
I don't like tradition, I don't like routine. I don't like the
26:45
establishment, so to speak. I want to live life on my terms.
26:49
And so to be able to do that, you have to know first of
26:53
all, who you are. Goes back to knowing you. I know what
26:56
I will do and won't do. So doing that and going into my mind
27:02
racing, I forgot what you just asked me. Lord help me. Did
27:04
you have a web fell about being in a box? Yeah? Thank you,
27:08
so I did. But then I had to realize you can put me
27:14
in a box, but I'm gonna break out of it because everything you think
27:17
you know about me as a Christian, I'm gonna challenge your beliefs. I
27:21
was just teaching Bible study two weeks ago, and I told him I want
27:25
to challenge you. There's a thing called the lullaby effect, where you've heard
27:30
something so long you never pay attention to the details. When you start reading
27:33
the Bible. For yourself and you start seeing detail. So I preached in
27:38
Cincinnati a couple of weeks ago, and I was talking about Moses and the
27:41
children of Israel and when they got to the Red Sea and they were complaining
27:47
about you brought us out here to die and all this, and Moses was
27:51
talking to God. Do you know what God told Moses? He said,
27:52
stop praying and get moving. Ye see, we always want to pray about
27:56
it. Lord, What should I do? What should I do? God
28:00
already told you what to do, but you ain't moved. So why he
28:02
gonna give you the next step? And you waiting for him to lay out
28:04
this twenty step plan when you ain't even took the first steps. And so
28:08
when people try to put the brakes on, you wear them out where their
28:12
breaks out. I'm the way, y'all out. I'm on this. This
28:17
is so before you say that. This is My pastor in Cincinnati told me
28:21
this, and I love it. He said, if two of us are
28:22
just alike, one of us is unnecessary. See. I can't be nothing
28:26
but a second rate Jessica. But you can be a first rate Jessica.
28:30
And everybody can try to emulate you, but they can't in business coaching,
28:33
I tell people people always say, don't tell people your business ideal. I'll
28:36
tell you one. You didn't come up with it, so you can only
28:40
replicate what I told you. Even if you did, it still wouldn't be
28:44
me. What does McDonald's sail Hamburgers? What does Wen d sel Hamburgers?
28:48
What does who else? Burger King? So they all doing the same thing,
28:53
but people go to each one for different reasons. And this is this
28:57
is so good. So even just me and like something just knowing knowing that
29:03
something might be similar but it's not the same exactly, Like just the power
29:07
in that transition, Like that's why. That's why when people say even the
29:14
podcast everybody got, when I say it makes me cringe When people say that
29:18
to me, it's like, oh everybody got a podcast? No, you
29:21
just know a lot of people that's pursuing it, Like everybody don't have no
29:23
pot. That's a lie. That but that part is a lie. And
29:29
so even if I do have a podcast, my podcast is different. And
29:33
I've had people come on here and say, oh, this is so different.
29:37
I get to flow or I'm not. I don't feel like X,
29:41
Y and Z, like it's different because it's me like my like my light
29:45
is different, your light is different. And so what my my brother in
29:52
law, Delierate, called me gullible the other day. And this story that
29:57
I just said earlier binds me of what he said, because as he said,
30:03
you open yourself up to everybody. You're such a people person as you
30:07
go up, you want to take everybody, but you need them folks to
30:10
be like nah, fam this is Brent, that's his lane. I wouldn't
30:15
like that, and not for myself. I might be like that for other
30:18
people, but not for myself. And so we have to appreciate this so
30:21
good. We have to appreciate our portion of light and our portion of salt.
30:25
That's right, because all of us were called to be the same thing,
30:26
but different portions. This is so well. Think about this. We
30:32
both have done sales. Yeah, we have people buy from people they like.
30:37
I worked at a company and when I went to sales, I struggled
30:41
at first because I kept trying to do it their way. I pulled out
30:45
my secret weapon. I printed off all my perspective customers and my current customers,
30:51
and every morning I prayed over that list. Those that had business would
30:55
increase those that had canceled would come back, and those that hadn't signed on
31:00
with us that they would. And I prayed over that every day, and
31:03
then I would start at the alphabetical order A and I would reach out to
31:07
everybody, and they was like, you gotta make phone calls. You gotta
31:10
make phone calls. No, I'm not making phone calls. I email.
31:12
So when I start doing the business one who order one hundred and twenty six
31:18
percent ago one hundred and twenty four percent, and they it's like, you
31:22
need to make more phone calls. I said, why, Well, because
31:25
you got to make phone calls and sales. Am I not hitting my goals?
31:27
Am I not leading the team? See, you want me to do
31:30
it your way, but that don't work for me. And so when we
31:33
try to do things the way we see people do them, we don't.
31:37
We're not as effective as God wants us to be. See, God created
31:41
each one of us. We always say, I know the plans I have
31:45
for you, and I knew you before you was even formed in your mother's
31:48
loom. Then why I keep trying to make you like me? If we
31:51
know God created us different? Now what the love we have for God can
31:55
be on the same level, but the way we express that love can be
32:00
totally different. That's so good. You just you just said something that just
32:07
that just blew my mind. And I'm trying to go back to the exact
32:10
way you said it, because it's like I'll feel fucked on the fact that
32:15
you said, like you want me to do something the way you taught me
32:22
to do it, because that's how you learn, but that's not how I
32:28
evolved. That was a synopsis of what you just said. And I think
32:31
that's so profound because that's where a box come bean. Sometimes people place it
32:37
in the box, but a lot of times we placed I steal the boxing.
32:42
Oh everybody else in the box looking in the box. Middle, you
32:44
know what I'm saying. Because this world teach us that it's only one way
32:49
of doing it something, and it's my way of doing It's almost like cooking,
32:52
like you can get onto one thing I do because bring I gotta be
32:55
prepared for cuts and show up and so I'm like trying to cook and stuff
33:01
and so stop laughing, right, I was just trying to cook it so
33:07
so and I used to cook when I was a child, but I stopped.
33:10
I cooked out because it was necessary for me to cook for me and
33:14
me and my dad and my sister. But I stopped there for awhile because
33:17
it was just felt like, you know, just draining, and I'm trying
33:20
to get the energy to do that again. Boy, your girl been cooking
33:22
and TikTok and helping up, okay, And so one of the things I've
33:25
practiced is that I look at multiple videos for the same type of recipe I'm
33:31
looking for. Okay, right, so I might say I might do a
33:35
big chicken or price on my fried chicken. Mean now, oh, go
33:39
to TikTok. I learned how to play a few like I don't like that
33:42
about that. And that's how I love this idea because it allows me to
33:49
look at what people have done and evaluate what I like, take everything that
33:52
I like from what people have done, and incorporate my own thing. A
33:57
lot of times, I think I feel like I got trading with the art
34:00
of cooking because I was trying to be just like this recipe. I was
34:07
trying to ascue just like this recipe. But now that I know what I
34:12
like with season, I don't like to see I don't like muchroom. So
34:14
I'm not gonna put mushrooms and my ingredients not get muchrooms. You might need
34:20
something else, you know, you might get criminal chickens. But all one
34:25
saying that is that you are so right there. We have to stop putting
34:29
ourselves in these botses so that we can evolve with God. Think about this.
34:35
We allow people to put us in watches, but we close the lid
34:40
because they can put us in, but we have the ability to step out
34:45
what we don't. We're basically closing the lid and saying, I surrender to
34:49
your thoughts to be your perception to me and the way I should do things.
34:53
Now, the other thing you just said was you go to TikTok and
34:57
you look and learn. To me, that's nothing but Proverbs twenty seven seventeen,
35:00
iron sharp and zion. You're looking at what somebody's doing and it's giving
35:05
you skill set to do what you do. That's so good. That's so
35:08
good, And that's why we got a lot of dull people with the willas
35:14
man see. We would have to do a series if we got off masks,
35:17
because I'm gonna tell you Christians, I don't even want to associate with
35:22
some of them. Tell the truth why. But the other thing to think
35:25
about this though, that's because everything has evolved as it should. God caused
35:32
everything to live and to reproduce. Some of the Christians I watched growing up,
35:37
I pray to God they never reproduce nothing. I mean nothing, And
35:44
that's just me and I'm honest. But when God says I'm doing a new
35:49
thing, why do churches keep wanting to go back to the old thing.
35:53
Yeah, there's a book I've read called mind Shift. He says, when
35:59
you fight for your traditions, you sacrifice your youth when you set when you
36:04
fight for your youth, you sacrifice your traditions. I'm all for sacrifice and
36:07
traditions. Traditions keep people balanced, man, So we don't we don't want
36:15
people to be balanced. Jesus said it came to set all captives free,
36:20
all of them. When I say all of them, I mean all shoot.
36:23
And even if you take the same script scripture, people don't think that
36:27
there their self captivation. Because what I think about, because what the Lord
36:37
has really been dealing with me in this season, right, is that the
36:40
outside factors won't alter into my insati factors have been district right, and people,
36:47
it's so easily said. But I can talk about all the captives around
36:52
me. But I'm self captivating, like I got I'm arrested inwardly. You
36:57
know what I'm saying. I'm I'm by seeing inwardly. I am bound inwardly.
37:02
And so when I don't do the inward word to where I allow God,
37:07
that's the only way I can really do the inward word. We try
37:09
to say, you know, put it all on people, and then not
37:15
seeing a change, I'm like, well, where this is something I said
37:17
online the other day I said where is God? We look at the situation
37:22
like, oh, with this thing, this thing, this thing, God,
37:24
where are you. It's almost a role switch of how he searched for
37:31
Adam because he wasn't in a proper place. Hey God, I'm not seeing
37:36
you come come out. I'm not like and people are afraid to announce that
37:42
they have moments like that. And so I love the conversation. So I
37:45
want to give you a business. Yes, ma'am, come on this.
37:49
The nf A keeps coming up. So what did you do with the NFL?
37:53
So I am. Currently I have two clients, one play fifteen years
37:59
in the NFL and the other one played eleven so personal assistant, executive assistant,
38:06
you can call it. So sometime the best way to describe it is
38:08
I'm them, so they don't have to be. So give you a little
38:14
backstory. So, like I told you, I've never liked tradition. So
38:19
I had two brothers. One worked at a car lot when the sports marketing,
38:22
and so one of their clients needed a car detail. And I like
38:25
detailing cars because I like to see things change, So detailing their car then
38:31
from there seeing these bars, Bro, that's what you're here for. And
38:39
so I asked him if there was anything else they needed done. So as
38:45
they became more comfortable with me. And this is where character comes in,
38:49
because people don't understand character can take you places and keep you there that something
38:54
else can or can. So because of the character they see to me,
38:59
I would go pick their pain and something from the airport, bring them took
39:01
games, have keys to their cars, homes and everything while they're gone,
39:06
and so from there it kept going. So at this time people was like,
39:08
oh, you just want to be a flunky for the athletes to chase
39:10
women this and that, And I'm like gonna chase women for no why?
39:14
But myself and so at that point, wait, hold on, I'll say
39:22
women for myself. Okay, keep going, I'll fuck. And so they
39:27
both played the Pro Bowl and that's when it was at Hawaii. So they
39:31
flew me to Hawaii, all expensive paid team. Uh yeah, probably that
39:36
same thing. Why when I was in Cincinnati. So they flew me to
39:39
Hawaii, all expensive paid for. We stayed at the hotel with all the
39:43
players, and a lot of people talk about my wife because they were gonna
39:47
fly her to Hawaii so we can spend time at Hawaii. And she would
39:51
not leave our babies. They were probably ten and nine or something like that,
39:58
was chairman, let me chase something. I thank God, and this
40:02
is for both of you. All. God gives you a little bit of
40:07
what you want, but to give you everything you need. Inmate, my
40:12
wife is everything that I need, and that need becomes my want because I
40:17
desire what she has that God has given her from me. Wow, you
40:28
just took a turn. He just took a turn. He took a turn
40:36
because oh, justin you are not crying today. I want to be a
40:40
wife. Wait I do. So he's just seems so difficult, like it
40:46
just seems so different. I don't know. Okay, Gray, I'm gonna
40:51
get the camera off me. So there's a couple of things about wanting to
40:58
be a wife. And remember earlier we talked about things people tell us and
41:02
they drop in our spirit. So when someone says, someone's not going to
41:08
change me, because sometimes you hear people male the female say oh when I
41:13
get married, So they're not going to change me. The mere fact that
41:15
you live alone right now, have to share space with somebody, you got
41:19
to change. So that's it seems subtle, but it's still a mindset.
41:23
See the great thing about the mind that God gave us, it's better than
41:29
any ai out there. What you plan in your mind, the mind will
41:34
start to move forward with it. That's why people when you hear people talking
41:37
about they want to whatever it is they may want to do, they may
41:39
not have the ability, but because the mind sets, oh you want to
41:43
do that, let's go forward with it, and that's what happens. The
41:45
other thing about marriage is sometimes people put so much pressure on themselves that have
41:51
to be married by this date. And this I was talking to one of
41:54
my clients the other there, and this is why. And this is another
41:58
reason God told me to speak of faith. You have to believe one that
42:02
you're enough as you are, whether you cook or not. Because I don't
42:07
cook, and my wife loves to cook, but I like to clean,
42:10
so she cooks I clean. That works for us. For a person that
42:16
wants to be married, you have to just say God, I'm going to
42:20
be who you call me to be. Help me to do what you call
42:22
me to do and the way that you call me to do it, so
42:25
that the person that's looking for me will find me. See a lot of
42:30
times we don't put ourselves in a position to be found or we feel like
42:34
I'm still working on me. None of us are a finished product. You
42:37
have to be you and allow God to do it. Now, this is
42:40
some game for my brothers. Talk. We we have gotten away from what
42:45
a man is. See one thing I learned about and and we'll touch on
42:50
this just a little bit. See everybody wants to intimacy, the sexual part
42:53
of it. But see for a woman it's mental. For a man that's
42:58
physical. That's why man can cheats so easy because to them there's no attachment.
43:02
It's she look cute, she looked this, I've gotta have her and
43:07
so they go after that. But a woman, a real woman, is
43:13
love and natured. So what that means is when I get up in the
43:15
morning, I tell my wife I love her. If she goes out before
43:20
me, or however that goes, you send her a text of email.
43:22
When she gets the work, she sees another message from you. You send
43:25
her some flowers. Just because I'm priming the pump all day long. By
43:30
the time she is home, she just as ready as I am for the
43:34
intimate part. But we don't feed that part. So I was at a
43:37
college one day and just kind of building a little context, and we were
43:40
having a discussion about relationships, and a lot of girls said, oh,
43:44
the man, don't they want the girls with the booty and this and that.
43:46
I said, but let me ask you this. They said, what
43:47
about the brain. I said, when you see a car, do you
43:50
say that car drives good? No? You said, that's a nice looking
43:52
car and something. Now let me drive it to see how it drives.
43:57
Now I know what I like and don't like about it. So if you're
44:00
not presenting yourself in a way that's attractive because you're worried about stereotypes and all
44:05
that, why would a man even approach you when we did in my youth
44:09
group, I've done two different youth groups, and one in Cincinnati was called
44:14
Leaders Up Tomorrow a Lot and the one in Atlanta was Students of Excellence.
44:17
My wife came and she talked to the young ladies about their hair, their
44:22
makeup, their dressed. The next Sunday, you should have seen them girls,
44:25
and it was ages twelve eighteen. They came in there with their hair
44:30
done. They it was on point. But now you see people out in
44:34
new bonnets and rollers and house shoes and pajamas, and you talking about you
44:40
want to find an athlete, girl, he ain't. Suddenly you know,
44:45
that's the thing against me is people you have. There's a thing called who
44:50
always hear a cause an effects, But we want to do effect and cause.
44:53
See, if Jessica dresses the way that Dressica wants to be approached,
44:58
that's going to cause a man to approach her in the manner she wants to
45:00
be approached. When we come out looking any kind of way and a guy
45:05
talks to you any kind of way, yeah he should have a little more
45:07
respect. But what are you advertising? What are you putting out there?
45:10
Of how do you want to be approached? Yeah, that and you know
45:15
you're gonna make supposed man saying that, And I'm like, it's so old
45:19
school, but no, it's really it is really the truth. And but
45:22
and it goes back to even like I said, even like I said,
45:25
with our relationship, our friendship, of how you approached me, it was
45:30
more it was not trying to fit game. But this is something worthy of
45:34
protecting. Oh about the crime, that's nice, this is something worthy of
45:39
protecting. So staying the realm of you and your wife? How have y'all
45:46
always been that? Am I going on? Like? So, what's the
45:52
what's the At what point did you learn how to value her? I don't
45:58
know. I ain't there yet. I'm still learning. M not that real.
46:01
That's real. So quick story. We were married, two kids,
46:07
and I'm very bullheaded, very stubborn. I can be very arrogant. God's
46:12
working on me. And when you say people are gonna be mad, I
46:15
could care less. You know. Yeah, I'm at the point in my
46:17
life where you ever had the grandmother or somebody when they got old, they
46:21
just said whatever they wanted to be Like, you can't say you said,
46:23
I can say whatever. That I would want to say, that's me.
46:28
And so we went through a little rough patch and my wife is like,
46:34
we should take a break. Being all my infinite stupidity said I don't take
46:39
breaks. Even we work it out, we don't. So we got divorced.
46:43
So we were divorced about two and a half, maybe close to three
46:46
years. And so when people were saying, why would you want to get
46:49
divorced? Oh, she she that ain't got to be like, you ain't
46:52
there yet, because I wanted to reconcile because I miss my family. And
46:57
when I would say, she guns like you ain't there yet. So people
46:59
ask what happened? Oh we this guy? I said, you make it
47:02
a little progress. When I got to the point and said it's me,
47:07
I was the one that wasn't acting like I was married as far as because
47:09
I played semi pro football at the time. In church, you know,
47:13
hit under the auspices. I got to be at church every time the doors
47:15
opened and not home with my family. She felt like a single married woman.
47:22
And so once I said it's me, then God opened the door for
47:25
us to records out. Now let me tell you how God did it.
47:28
I love how God set us up to do things. So at this time,
47:31
the Bachelor of TV show was just now on team. In the first
47:35
season, Cincinnati was doing a little spin off of Cincinnati's Most Eligible Bachelor.
47:42
I had a friend that worked at the chamber and they called us, said,
47:45
we need one more guy. Do you know anybody why she called me?
47:49
She knows a lot of people she called me. I happened to be
47:52
off that day, so I put on the suit, went down and walked
47:57
through their studios kind of like it was my office because I worked at them.
48:00
And so that night on TV they ran Cincinnati's Most Eligible Bachelors. Yeah,
48:04
well guess we've seen it. My wife, all her girlfriends, everybody,
48:07
and she said her phone was blowing up something like that. I know
48:09
you ain't gonna let somebody get brand after you don't put all that work on
48:13
God. So God, once I got to the point and said what my
48:16
issue was, forget whatever she may or may not have done my issues in
48:21
a relationship, God opened the door for us to reckon south And so we've
48:24
been married down twenty over twenty some years after the first marriage. So that
48:31
is powerful. So that even gives people hope that are like in that state
48:37
of separation, Like because you said it was three or four years. We
48:40
separated about two and a half to three years and y'all had illegally divorced.
48:44
Yeah, we were divorced. She think took her maiden name back and everything.
48:49
Oh wow. So she was like, see, so y'all didn't think
48:52
you wanted it, but y'all didn't think that y'all would get back together.
48:54
Yeah, because she said no way when I when I would even approach her
48:58
about it, she'd be like, nope, nope. And it took God
49:01
to work on me to get to where she would even consider. Wow,
49:09
okay, he just okay, we took a hard turn, but that I
49:13
think, okay to say that was so good and to me, and I
49:16
believe that somebody would hear that and have hope because especially after COVID, like
49:22
people people were either getting married or divorced twenty twenty. You saw a lot
49:29
of rings and a lot of things A little thing. No, but we
49:35
just stayed like like we're not we're not married anymore. And so I love
49:39
the aspect that you create. You just created hope for people, and so
49:45
I don't want him to get that. We was on your NFL story.
49:47
So she didn't want to go to Hawaii with you guys, and you were
49:52
in Hawaii, Okay, that's where you love, That's where you loved up.
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Because I might have one more thing to all of them. So the
49:58
thing is both sexists need to think about what's important to them. See a
50:05
lot of times I tell my kids, I'm a world almost in favor of
50:08
arranged marriages. And I can see why people do it because see, if
50:13
I'm picking for you, I don't care nothing about how tall, darkened hands.
50:16
Some will let the body look like. I want to know what's in
50:20
your heart. I want to know what your background is, what your family
50:22
like, what kind of issues made a rise because of this? And so
50:28
I'm picking based off of that. Where you're picking based off of this.
50:31
How much money does he make, her she make? Where does she live?
50:35
Does she live here? You know? I love TikTok. I resisted
50:38
it for the longest because I'm like, it's silly, But that's because only
50:43
people were looking at silly stuff. Yeah, you can look on there and
50:45
find whatever you want. But there was one, and it makes me laugh.
50:50
There was a girl. She got in the car with a guy and
50:52
she's like, before we go on this date, can I ask you some
50:53
questions? She was like, this is your car? He was like,
50:57
yeah, do you live with your parents? No? Uh? Do you
51:00
have a good credit score? Yeah? Do you have a job yeah?
51:04
She said, okay, we can go. He said, let me ask
51:05
you some question. Do you have a card? Well no, my dad's
51:08
trying to help me get one. Do you have a good credit score?
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Well no, I'm working on that. Now where do you live? I
51:15
stay with my parents. He reached over open the door and said, this
51:17
day is over. Wow. I say that to say, if we base
51:22
our potential mates on a certain standard, if they turned that standard back to
51:28
us when we meet, it so bad. Okay, so now we'll go
51:32
back to the NFL. Now like no, but but you So that's a
51:37
real question because sometimes I don't even have to ask myself that, like,
51:40
am I the woman that I would like for my for my maid to be?
51:44
And sometimes it scares me because but I also don't want to get spoke
51:49
in the idea of that I'm not good enough to be in a marriage because
51:53
I know that there's a certain level of development there. Does it really good?
52:00
Yeah? So I was, but yeah, okay, so now we
52:07
have a fib which so White didn't want to go to wife, so she
52:12
watched the kids. But you went there and what happened, got a chance
52:15
of meet a lot of guys, took pictures, and it was just a
52:19
great experience in being Hawaii. So they both went to the Pro Bowl again
52:22
the next year, Yeah, before a whole year, and invited her out.
52:25
She didn't want to go. But that's one thing I love about my
52:28
life. She is a mother through and through and you know, a lot
52:32
of times you hear people talk about baby mama drama and all that not an
52:37
issue. So it was good for me to know that I could leave and
52:42
that my kids were good, that she was good. And when I came
52:45
home, you know, it was like I had never really left because she
52:50
did a lot. She held the house down, and I think a lot
52:52
of times we don't give women the credit they deserve being a stay at home
52:57
mom, and I think during COVID a lot of guys find that out,
53:00
like staying at home with the kids out there is not a picnic, especially
53:05
if the wife had a job that like a nurse or a doctor, where
53:08
they were considered essential and had to leave and maybe he was in sales and
53:13
he had to stay home trying to get on zoom for school and all this
53:17
new stuff. A lot of guys find out that, hey, this is
53:21
a full time job in itself, and so we have to learn to respect
53:24
each other. And what I mean by that is the sexiest because society will
53:30
have us trying to make each other equal and all that. And this is
53:35
a conversation a lot of people don't understand. But for me, I don't
53:38
want you to be I want you to be who you are. And if
53:42
we're matched perfectly in some areas and equal, fine, But I'm a woman
53:46
that's like me. I don't want somebody that can be hot headed and bullheaded
53:52
and all that. And that's not in regards to a sex but a personality
53:58
type. And sometimes we're looking for people that are just like us or have
54:01
similarities, which are cool. But I think when you're really looking for me,
54:06
or guy's really looking for a woman, he's looking for somebody that can
54:08
compliment him. We're on my week that she's strong, because now if we're
54:13
together, I know you got my back and I got yours. So these
54:16
are just some of the things that we have to look at when we're choosing
54:21
a potential made, not just the physical part of it. And that's and
54:24
that's right. I think. I'm I'm not gonna say that I came up
54:30
little my sister. My sister told me, she was like, yeah,
54:34
you don't really care about Louis. I do care about Louis, but I'm
54:37
at a point where I really care about the heart and the sire and I
54:43
think maybe I don't know if it sounds Selvish or not, but I really,
54:45
I really do want someone to take care of me in the way I
54:51
need to be taken care of life. I'm not somebody that doesn't like the
54:53
work or doesn't want to go out and doesn't have anything going on, but
54:59
how I feel like it right now in this place, it's hard for me
55:01
to find someone or to speak to people, whether they just only want you
55:08
know, Virginia and then or they can't manage, you know, my progression
55:17
in every other field. And it's like, I don't know, if I'm
55:22
honest, lately I've been weary of that. It's just like you know,
55:27
it'll have when it happened, just to deflect, well, the looks things
55:31
whole totally subjective because what it may be attractive to somebody may not be attractive
55:37
to somebody else. Yeah. But the one thing I think, as we
55:40
get older, we realize I'm not the same size as I was when me
55:44
and my wife met, So your looks are going to change. People's physical
55:50
shape and appearance is going to change. We just have to make sure that
55:53
there's something more sustainable, Like you said, the heart, the mindset,
55:58
the love that will carry a student physical changes. That's so good man.
56:04
We didn't we didn't follow the yellow he who lame? We're going, I'm
56:14
I'm hotting on one man, Brent. Then then then dropped some gems today
56:20
Desert Ray. What what was your biggest takeaway? Girl? I think just
56:25
the I just love how free is to him. I know you know what
56:30
I'm saying. And and when when he was talking about how we all learned
56:32
differently, it made me think about when I was in cosmetology school. I
56:37
went to Paul Mitchell in the school in Birmingham, and on our name tags,
56:40
we had to take these tests about our learning styles. Right, so
56:45
where you're like visual, you know, kinesthetic with your hands or audible whatever
56:50
that is, and they and we had to put They put our they labeled
56:52
us on our name tags, they labeled it on it. They put how
56:55
you learned on your name tags, so that as the instructor it is showing
57:00
you things, or as the instructor is teaching, you know, a haircut
57:04
or a coloring technique, they can look on your name tag to make sure
57:07
that you're getting it, Like let me make sure I know you, I
57:10
know you're I know your kinesthetic, which is hands on, let me let
57:13
me allow you to come up here and do it yourself that kind of thing.
57:15
Or I know you're audible, let me make sure I get you the
57:17
audio of this, X, Y and Z right. And So that's just
57:22
kind of feel like how how we are in life in general, like being
57:25
okay, because I struggle with this too, Like when you're especially when you're
57:30
around gifted and anointed people, you know, trying to make the thing that
57:34
God gave you look like theirs, and of the matter is that it doesn't.
57:37
So we have to just be okay with what God has given us and
57:40
how and how He's given to do is matter of fact, a couple of
57:44
weeks ago, we had prayer and my pastor. You know, she got
57:46
this long line she praying to everybody, so she get to me and she
57:51
say, accept God's planing path, not his plan. Accept God's path for
57:55
your life. And I'm looking like shunned over everybody else, but I don't
58:00
get no shun it. But it was so right on point because you know,
58:05
like I'm accepting, like, okay, I know God got a plan
58:07
from me, but I also have to tell how he wants to do it,
58:12
like I had to get out of my own way and trying to help
58:14
him, you know what I'm saying, and I just have to things.
58:16
And I was like, okay, that makes sense. So it was just
58:19
so freeing just to hear you know that he's just who he is. Yeah,
58:22
and he's so cool with so and very so cool with it. Just
58:27
like he told me where were going after the y. That's when he asked
58:30
me, now one court, this is what we're doing, and this is
58:35
and gave me fleasability. Okay, you can, we can do what you
58:37
want to do, but this is what we do. Brian. I'm so
58:40
grateful for you, like like grateful for you something else you've done for me,
58:45
and I'm I'm gonna give you opportunity to say some final words. But
58:49
something else you did for me when I met you is that you pulled on
58:52
my gift and taught me how to teach my gift. And it was like
58:59
and you so all the willingness. But then you came back and almost in
59:02
like a coaching manner and said, oh, I'm gonna give you feedback on
59:07
how you did with me. That put a level of boldness in me,
59:09
because somebody of your stature, you know what I'm saying, somebody got looking
59:14
like man, he's so wise, he got it, like you know,
59:16
you just for me. You're it for me, You're it. And when
59:21
you asked me for help and you say, hey, I don't understand this,
59:23
that's another thing I love about him. Like he'said, hey, I
59:25
don't understand how to do this. How can you teach me? Can I
59:28
get on your calendar? Can I get on your calendar? Can you teach
59:30
me how to do this? And we learned it was TikTok, it was
59:35
how to do reals. And you taught me cap cut, cap cut,
59:38
and we took off with it. And you would have thought I gave him
59:42
minute a minute of dollars. The way he responded to me, he was
59:44
like, ches, this is so many like thank you so much. It
59:45
makes sense and it just it gave me the confidence that I needed. So
59:50
I just want to say thank you. You're such a well rounded person.
59:52
You're a well rounded friend. And I'm just thankful that God, you know,
59:55
has given us the journey, this journey together and so and every episode
1:00:01
I give people the opportunity for final thoughts. So if there was anything,
1:00:07
if they didn't hear anything that you said today, what is one thing that
1:00:09
you would leave the viewers? Have faith in believing yourself. There is nothing
1:00:17
that we get accomplished without faith. We get in our car and believe it's
1:00:22
gonna drive us to where we need to be. We believe we're gonna arrive
1:00:25
safely. It's the same thing with your life and your journey. You have
1:00:28
to have faith that what God put in you is what is needed at this
1:00:32
time and earth. We could have been born at any other time in earth
1:00:36
as society, but God chose to deposit us here. Now it's the time
1:00:39
for him to get a return on his deposit. Make sure you do what
1:00:44
God called you to do. Make sure you do what God called you to
1:00:49
do. Brent. I love you, man, I love you too,
1:00:52
and I'm offended about one thing. Oh what you call me a friend?
1:00:57
You my sister? How you're gonna call me a friend? My bad?
1:01:01
That my bro, my bro? And them that my bro. This is
1:01:06
my brother from another mother. We got the same daddy. All all right,
1:01:15
delil right, man, this is a good one. I love you.
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Hey, I know we could be another way. Hey, pray thank God
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Hey another day? Oh, another day wise, another day to get it
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right, another day to rise up, another day living another day We loved
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