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Ep 32 | Beyond the Old Records: Waking Up to Your Sensory Intelligence and the Variety of Paths · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise, sensitive, authentic self. Well, last week
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I recorded episode 31 titled The Privilege of
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a Lifetime is Being Who You Are. And that just
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continues to resonate for me, right? Like Joseph
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Campbell's wisdom, you know, I just remember.
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gosh I guess over 15 years ago I really immersed
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myself in just his wisdom right the hero's journey
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and you know there's just so many deeper layers
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to this earthly experience and it's really one
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of the reasons why I feel very blessed to be
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a highly sensitive woman um Could I say that
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when I was younger? No, I didn't really understand
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what it meant to the degree that I do now. But
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that's what really calls me forward, right? Each
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week when I'm recording these episodes and...
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I also sit down every Monday morning and tune
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in and share from my own personal reflections,
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you know, about the moon phase. That's my rise
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and realign lunar ladder because, you know, I
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didn't always have access to the things that
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I'm now aware of. And I just want to share it
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because I remember what it's like. to live in,
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you know, kind of those four walls, right? Like
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living life with blinders on that, you know,
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whatever was going on in my personal relationships
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with friends, right? Was a reflection of, of
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me in the sense of, you know, I remember just
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feeling like the one excluded or, you know, the
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one who. just felt hurt easily. And which then
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lead leads you to choosing to kind of do your
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own thing more. But, you know, I also remember
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just really absorbing the dynamics in my own
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family, right? And noticing the nuances of, you
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know, how my parents managed things that were
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challenging, right? I was raised to, well, I
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don't know if it's right to say I was raised
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to, what I can say is what I recall about my
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childhood when it comes to like conflict resolution
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is my parents didn't discuss their issues in
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front of me. My parents would take their conversation
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to their own private space. And I don't know
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how that really impacted me. I didn't get to
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see how they resolved, you know, whatever the
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issue was, whether it was about any of me or
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my siblings or, you know, work stuff or financial
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stuff, right? Like there's so many different
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areas that we as individuals may encounter, but.
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What I do know is that the things in my early
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life that made imprints on me were the things
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that had a strong emotional response in, right?
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Like times when a neighbor, you know, like the
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adult. the parent, you know, got really upset
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with me and their rage, right? And their accusations
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and their negative comments about me. Like, I
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know, I mean, I could rattle those off right
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now for you there. They really imprinted me and
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certainly made me wonder, right? Made me question,
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you know, what was this about me? What was this
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about them? You know? But I definitely can say
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that those experiences carried forward, right?
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Like they definitely did not just get processed,
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integrated and released. They, they carried forward.
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And that's something that's really important
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to understand as a highly sensitive individual,
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right? Because, you know, we take on what others
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have said, have done, right? Like, we take it
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on without even understanding it, because we
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are so open to that influence and that imprinting,
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right? Because we're literally taking in five
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times more stimuli from these encounters and
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experiences. So I can really see how each of
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us are very influenced by our early environmental
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experiences. And this is really important because,
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you know, the privilege of being who you are,
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right? Like that is being your true essence,
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right? Your, again, that. wise, sensitive, authentic
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self, free of these imprints that perhaps had
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you view yourself in a skewed way and what that
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skewing does right is it continues to compound
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because you know we all have these brains that
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are scanning for you know safety and especially
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as highly sensitive individuals like there's
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a reason it's called an innate survival strategy
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right so when we're always scanning you know
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is this place safe is this person safe right
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like Sometimes we override our own feelings of
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safety because we think we have to, we should,
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right? Like we're just raised, most of us, with
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so many misguided interpretations, right? Because
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again, we have this meaning making aspect of
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our makeup. This depth of processing just has
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this attaching meaning to certain experiences.
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that may be wrongfully identifying ourselves
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as something. So I just really want to speak
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to that because, you know, our beliefs are the
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underlying operating system, right? They are
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those early imprints. And those are absolutely
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changeable. Because again, I talk about them
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like they're vinyl records, right? They just...
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They kind of come on the turntable again, right?
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You start to hear that same message. It replays.
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And that's not really who we are, you know, but
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we don't all understand that. And that's what
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my passion is, is my passion is helping you to
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recognize, you know, what's really true for you
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and what's an old belief that just, got really
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buried you know um and that you don't realize
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the impact that it's having on you um you know
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i i remember a time you know when i would see
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my mother's health challenges um And I was aware
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of my own, right? I definitely had different
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challenges. But for some reason, I saw myself
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going down that path, like my mom, with fibromyalgia
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and chronic fatigue syndrome. I think it was
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after I received a diagnosis of Hashimoto's.
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um, hypothyroidism. Um, because again, there's
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fatigue there, right? There's, there was a lot
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of digestive discomfort. Um, you know, I just
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did not have energy to live my life fully. You
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know, I was a mom, I had two young kids. Um,
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and it. i did feel like okay i have the american
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dream of i have an amazing husband i have two
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beautiful children i own my own home i have a
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career that i really love but i had a body that
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just wasn't filled with livelihood you know um
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and You know, it definitely took until I had
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that spiritual awakening in 2008 for me to wake
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up in a lot of ways, right? I mean, I woke up
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to my understanding of being a soul and not just
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this human body, right? And to understanding,
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you know, that we are whole beings. And believe
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me, there's definitely... My curious Gemini mind
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has taken me in all kinds of directions for me
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to really come to a place of understanding myself
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so that I can appreciate this privilege of a
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lifetime to be who I am in all of my fullness.
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I'm talking about this because, you know, as
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I meet with new women, and again, I'm just in
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awe of how the universe orchestrates, you know,
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who comes into my field, you know, who comes
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into my realm, whatever word you like to use.
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I'm just in awe, you know, whether it's, you
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know, a breathing practice that, you know, I've
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decided, you know, oh, let me, you know, delve
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down that one, you know, more into the history
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of it, right? Not just the somatic experience
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of it, you know, and then I'll meet a client
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who says, you know, the only breathing practice
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she knows is that one. And I'm just like, it
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just, it leaves me in awe, like, wow. you know,
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and I'm sharing this is because this is what
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happens when we can start, you know, creating
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space to breathe, right? To slow things down,
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to really reel things in so you can be present
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with yourself, to become more aware of What are
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those limitations that are operating in your
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field that perhaps you've either been unaware
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of, right? Or perhaps you are aware of, and you
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just don't know how to rise up out of it. You
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know, I feel as though, you know, that spiritual
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awakening, oh my gosh, it like, it brought so
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much expansiveness to. to my own understanding,
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right? My consciousness and my viewpoints. Because,
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I mean, at 19, I'm working in Locke Psychiatric
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Wards and I'm learning about, you know, multiple
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personality disorder and how does somebody who's
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sitting right in front of me have, you know,
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one personality, one set of, you know, health.
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experiences and then and then you know you see
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them later and now it's a different personality
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it's a different perspective it's a different
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you know the body's needs you know and i didn't
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quite grasp that when i was 19 right that was
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kind of like i don't really get this you know
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But that's okay. A lot's going on when you're
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19 years old. And that was also the year that,
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you know, my brother had passed, which was quite
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a shock to my system. But during my spiritual
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awakening, I just remember feeling so alive in
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my body, like just filled with vitality. And
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the gut issues that I had been dealing with for
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decades were gone, you know, and it was like,
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the fatigue was gone. I just felt so alive. And
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I was just like, observing like the food choices
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that I was making, and how I felt eating them.
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And I was just like, Oh my god, like, this is
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incredible. I mean, again i was just this blissful
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you know uh vessel of love and light and um it
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didn't uh become my norm though uh for much,
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much later because there was so much for me to
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dive deep and explore and understand and experience.
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And, and I'm talking, you know, I have, I mean,
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this whole podcast, right? It's conversations
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for the sensitive soul. So like, if you're somebody
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who's even remotely interested in listening to
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my episodes, you know, then you already are curious
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or know that you are so much more than the physical
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body that is the vessel, that is the temple that
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you are experiencing this life path on. And But
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that just opened a whole new door, right? For
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me to be like, well, how do I connect all these
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dots now? You know, um, and gosh, I feel like
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I could go in so many different directions right
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now. Because there's the physical part, right?
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Like I was telling you, the vitality that I experienced
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in 2008, like that didn't continue for me. You
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know, I had to, again, explore more, get more
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curious. I definitely studied a lot more. My
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career, you know, took all kinds of, you know,
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twists and turns, things that I... um still carry
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forward today and other things that i was like
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yeah that was really helpful you know but it
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didn't it didn't resonate for me to continue
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you know um with that application but but i i
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think why i started to go down this you know
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talk path in a sense is because you know i just
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thanked people on facebook for the happy birthday
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wishes that they posted i don't really go on
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facebook that's just not a place that um i don't
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know it's just it just doesn't resonate for me
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but i am aware that people will often send you
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birthday wishes because facebook will notify
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you right so i went in and i just you know said
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thank you and i just said I had no idea, you
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know, that my 50s would be my healthiest and
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happiest years. And I'm just really, really grateful
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and honored to be able to speak from this place
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now, you know, of really being who I am in my
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fullness, right? A couple episodes ago, I talked
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about how, you know, I was still kind of navigating
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back and forth between, you know, over here I
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wear this cap of I'm a therapist and, you know,
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so I don't talk about other, you know, things
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like, you know, souls and human design or astrology
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or, you know. whatever else there may be. And
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I got to that point where my clients were coming
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in and they were curious about human design,
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right? They were curious about astrology. And
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what I really found fascinating is that even
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things that they hadn't brought to me per se,
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when I would share, right, about being a soul
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right when I would share about communicating
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with loved ones who are not in their our previously
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known physical form right like that opened them
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up to feel more comfortable talking about the
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things that they're experiencing and that's really
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what I am really honored to be able to do is
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to create a space, whether that's, you know,
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the realign journey or my, uh, the realign circle
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where I have monthly and seasonal gatherings,
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um, for, for, you know, groups of sensitive and
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strong women. Um, um, but The sensitive women
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that I support, they are curious. They are experiencing.
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I mean, I have some women who, you know, they
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go to their first sound healing bath, you know,
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and they just have these magical, you know, symbolic
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experiences. And it's like more and more people,
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you know. are having these experiences and not
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having a safe space you know where they can talk
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about it and so i just want you to know that
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you know i am somebody who like i am well aware
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that there is a plethora of experiences out there,
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right? I mean, I can tell you, I've listened
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to a lot of different individuals who channel
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different types of information. Some of it resonates
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with me. Some I've even, you know, listened to
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occasionally over 16 years now. Some I've listened
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to and said, nope. That doesn't resonate with
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me. That's just not for me. And that's what I
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think is really important is to know that there
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is no one right way to view your experience,
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you know, who you are, and the reality of your
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experiences. What's important to understand,
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though, is that within you, You have your own
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inner guidance, your own inner authority. And
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many of us just live however many years, some
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decades, right? With a disconnect from that inner
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authority, because again, we're looking outward,
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you know, especially, you know, you know, in
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utero where we're just absorbing, right? our
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our mother's amniotic fluid and her nervous system
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patterning and her thoughts right all of that
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is like our initial entry into the world and
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then you know depending on how sensitive are
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we right like how safe and supportive is our
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childhood environments right environments are
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so key to understand right because even through
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Some of my twists and turns in my career, you
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know, I went more into studying epigenetics,
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right? Bruce Lipton and, you know, spontaneous
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healing, the biology of belief. Like I have adored
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my time meeting with Bruce Lipton in person.
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listening to his research and his talks and had
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some of my own interesting conversations where
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my experiences and viewpoints have differed.
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But again, like this is what I really. want you
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to hear is that your experiences are unique for
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you. And there is going to be, whether it's doctors
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trying to, you know, give you a diagnosis and
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tell you, you need this medication forever, you
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know, that this is a chemical imbalance, or this
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is a medical diagnosis that, you know, there's
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no recovery from. And I just want you to know,
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like, that doesn't make it true for you even
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if it's been true for a lot of other people right
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and that's why i use the words like i don't subscribe
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to that you know um because again what we give
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our attention to is what grows so if we give
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our attention to right we just freely give over
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our um our sense of inner authority to an external
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authority, like a doctor, right? Or research
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or whatever else, you know, you're totally missing
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this enormous amount of wisdom within you, right?
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Like you have, no matter what your age is, your
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own inner authority, but it's quiet, right? You
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may have a protective voice that, you know, can
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be really loud and induce fear, right? Like,
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again, it's always scanning for, you know, danger
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and, you know, it's going to remind you of your
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past experiences. But your inner authority, right?
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This is where your heart is. is your truth right
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it's your compass it's where the truth of who
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you are is always alive but sometimes it's really
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quiet and that's why i reflect on my own experiences
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about seeing my path as being similar as my mom's
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like i've watched her body right compress and
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be heavy and there wasn't this fluidity and this
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flow and the awakening helped me to see that
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that was absolutely possible for me and my body
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it happened instantly right that those shifts
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can happen so we know it is possible the key
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and the question becomes You know, how open are
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we to exploring, you know, the possibility for
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ourselves, you know, our willingness to learn
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something new, like, you know, what does it mean
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to be a highly sensitive individual? Which is
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why I created that essentials course called Your
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Sensitivity Is Intelligence, because I really...
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and passionate about helping you to see the gifts
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within being a highly sensitive individual so
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that you can start reframing how you view yourself,
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right? There's a lot of breathing practices in
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there and different positive statements, right?
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That you can, again, rewire your own brain waves,
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and in a sense, those, those, what I call vinyl
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records that you can replace those with new ones,
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right? But it does take consistency. And anyway,
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that's why that offer is there for you. But there's,
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obviously, like I've said, there's no one right
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way to approach you, you know, rising above the
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old patterns, the old conditioning, old beliefs.
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you know, rise up out of that compression and
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contraction so that you can expand your awareness,
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your understanding to see that there is this
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field of potentiality and possibilities that
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you can only access when you are ready, when
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you are open, right? And again, just like my
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experience, I mean, I did have a complete, you
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know, abrupt, expanded experience for five to
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six weeks back in 2008. But I then had to walk
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a path to really understanding it and liberating
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myself along the way and really anchoring in,
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you know, what I know to be true for me. And
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so that was just my journey. Yours is completely
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unique to you. And again, I'm somebody who just
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wants to honor your path, right? Whoever you
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are listening to, you know, whether it is a professional
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or whether it's a podcaster or whether it's,
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you know. again, somebody on social media or
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research, I just encourage you to really be tuning
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in, right? To see how is this resonating for
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you? Because you are the only one who can know
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what's true and best for you. So this is a beautiful
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moment to take a break and breathe love. So I
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invite you to take that nice deep inhale through
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your nose. And the second inhale as much as you
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can. And then a nice long and slow exhale out
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your mouth. Again, whether you want to make a
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sigh sound, blow out a candle, you know, or even
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do an ohm, like whatever that exhale is for you,
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that's signaling to your nervous system. It's
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okay to relax, right? It's so important to understand
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that rest is part of the equation. No matter
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how you're designed, right? From a human design
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perspective or from, you know, an astrological
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sign perspective, we all need rest. That is what
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our sleep is for, right? To allow this physical
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vessel to get its rest, but also so that our
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own consciousness, our own growth and guidance
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can be realigning. So if you hadn't already,
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I invite you to do as many of those deep breaths.
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As feels supportive for you, I'm a big fan of
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one is better than none, but pick your own magical
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number, right? I love the number three. It's
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a catalyst for change. That's when I feel the
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shift. But certainly when I'm working with individuals
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who are not used to doing breathing practices,
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I encourage, you know, start with four, right?
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Like, again, each number. Right? And numerology
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has a different meaning. But you trust the number
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that's right for you. Okay? Because this is about
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you connecting with your own truth, your own
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inner authority. Right? Your own ability to discern
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what is true and best for you. Okay. Well. If
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you're recognizing yourself as a sensitive woman,
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I've mentioned that Entry Pathway is my essentials
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course. Your sensitivity is intelligent design
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and it is a science informed course. I mentioned
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the seasonal threshold gatherings that accompany
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that course. The first one is coming up at the
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summer solstice. And these are called Sensitivity
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Realignment Spiral. So again, it's a space for
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you to just come together with me and it is virtual.
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And again, to help you realign not only with
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yourself, right? Your inner compass and guidance,
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but to also expand into including and understanding,
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right? These seasonal shifts, right? the sun.
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I talked about the moon, you're also invited
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to subscribe to that rise and realign lunar letter
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that I send out weekly. And I'm also available
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for one to one sessions, depending on what your
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needs are. You can find all of that on my website,
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realignwithmelissa .com. So before we close,
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I do invite you to return to your breath. to
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your body and to what feels true for you right
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now. Just remember, there's nothing you need
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to fix. Just notice what's here, right? Because
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where the heart leads, the body remembers and
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the soul awakens. As a reminder, we are here
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together to rise, reclaim, Remember, I'm so grateful
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you're here and I look forward to sharing some
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more with you in the future. So take good care
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of you. Much love and light.