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What Is Happening On Reddit · The conspiracy

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  Speaker 1: What's Chillian here? Oh God, it's phrasing in here, Isn't it?
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  Speaker 1: Isn't it? Could you help me out? Could you just
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  Speaker 1: stare into my fireplace for like a couple seconds. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like that might help. Keep doing it, keep staring.
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  Speaker 1: It's because you're on fire, get it. Hello everybody, and welcome.
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  Speaker 1: I'm back to my YouTube channel, and welcome to my
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  Speaker 1: YouTube channel. I'm call me Chris. You can call me Chris.
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  Speaker 1: And today we're having it just a chill, relaxing day.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I've had a really bad week
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  Speaker 1: and that doesn't even include all the stuff that's going
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  Speaker 1: on in the world, just in my personal life, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to get into it, but you know,
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  Speaker 1: hold your loved ones close and stuff. But you know,
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  Speaker 1: I just think that I would we could just do
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of reading Reddit, you know. I hope
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  Speaker 1: that's okay with you guys. I know, for Saturdays, I'm
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  Speaker 1: trying to do like more laid back videos. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like this couts so but I haven't really had a
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  Speaker 1: lot of time to like plan ahead, so I thought
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  Speaker 1: I thought this could be okay. Let me know what
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  Speaker 1: you guys think down below, and everything. I like talking
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  Speaker 1: to you guys in the comments. Let me know what
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  Speaker 1: you think about all the stories and all that kind
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  Speaker 1: of stuff. And yeah, sorry about my face. Uh just
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  Speaker 1: didn't I don't feel like, didn't feel like getting ready.
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  Speaker 1: It didn't do my hair, didn't do my makeup. We
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  Speaker 1: got raw Chris today, raw anti Chris. That sounds really bad.
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  Speaker 1: But without further ado, let's get into the video. Before
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  Speaker 1: we get started, I need to put on my freaking
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  Speaker 1: glasses because I'm getting more blind and more blind by
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  Speaker 1: the day. Get around because that is Chris read screen.
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  Speaker 1: You cannot tell me I don't look like Garth from
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  Speaker 1: Wayne's World right now, party on Garth. Also, I know
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  Speaker 1: I haven't said much about Auto by Chris in a while.
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  Speaker 1: I just I just kind of wanted to take a
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  Speaker 1: break from all that kind of stuff. But we're having
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  Speaker 1: like a fun fall sale on older launches, so if
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  Speaker 1: you wanted to get stuff and you couldn't in the past,
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  Speaker 1: they're all on sale now, so you can go to
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  Speaker 1: autobi Chris and grab some if you want. If not,
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  Speaker 1: that's totally cool too, all right. I think I saved
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  Speaker 1: some stories from a bunch of different reddit sub subreddits
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  Speaker 1: so right now we are starting with m I skutty wig?
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  Speaker 1: Am I the a whole? So? Am I the ahole
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  Speaker 1: for refusing to go on my boyfriend's graduation trip unless
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  Speaker 1: we roomed together. Huh Yeah, I feel like that would
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  Speaker 1: be normal. But I don't know. I need way more contact. Men,
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  Speaker 1: let's just read it. My twenty three female boyfriend twenty
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  Speaker 1: three male will be graduating college in a couple of months.
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  Speaker 1: His mom, thirty nine female, Did she have sixteen? Does
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  Speaker 1: she had them when she was sixteen? Am I doing math? Right?
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  Speaker 1: Jayfact checked me on that was she sixteen when she
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  Speaker 1: had him? Queens? Yeah? Yeah, I was sixteen. Yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I was just like, I was like, wow, she's like
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  Speaker 1: a saucy young mom. Okay, whatever, you know, love it.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry I did. My head just went math mode and
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  Speaker 1: it takes a long time anyway. His mom, thirty nine female,
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  Speaker 1: wanted to plan a graduation trip for him. For contacts,
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  Speaker 1: My boyfriend doesn't have the best relationship with his mom.
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  Speaker 1: They rarely see each other, although my boyfriend and I
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  Speaker 1: live five minutes away from her. From everything, he has
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  Speaker 1: told me there was a lot of maltreatment when he
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  Speaker 1: was a child, and his whole family is low contact
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  Speaker 1: with her her decision. Okay, now to the issue. She
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  Speaker 1: planned a trip with her boyfriend, his two kids, my
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend's sister, and obviously my boyfriend to another country. She
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  Speaker 1: told my boyfriend that he could invite me if he
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  Speaker 1: wanted to, but I would have to pay for my stuff,
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  Speaker 1: which I don't mind, and she will be paying for
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  Speaker 1: my boyfriend's trip. My boyfriend had no saying where the
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  Speaker 1: trip was going to be, and his mom said we
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  Speaker 1: were not allowed to room together. I would be rooming
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  Speaker 1: with his sister fourteen female and her boyfriend's daughter ten female. Well,
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  Speaker 1: my boyfriend will be rooming with her boyfriend's son, fourteen male. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I know a lot of families are different
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  Speaker 1: with this stuff. You know, I have a white conservative family.
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  Speaker 1: There are more lax now. But ah, I honestly could
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  Speaker 1: be either way because we never took trips like to
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  Speaker 1: other countries or anything. We could not afford that. But
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  Speaker 1: trying to think that, I feel like I wasn't allowed
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  Speaker 1: to do the same thing anyway. We are staying in
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  Speaker 1: an all exclusive resort, but I feel like I'm only
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  Speaker 1: going to babysit. It's fair even My boyfriend mentioned he
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  Speaker 1: was scared his mom would just force him to babysit
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  Speaker 1: the kids. I also know what that feels like, just
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  Speaker 1: still like kids just put on you and then will
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  Speaker 1: you go party with all your friends and tell me
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  Speaker 1: that my dad is home but he's not home. It's man,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just getting too my own shit right now. Okay. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: I'm also scared something will happen to one of the kids,
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  Speaker 1: like if they fall and get hurt or wander off,
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  Speaker 1: and I'll be blamed for it since it feels like
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  Speaker 1: they want us to take care of them. My boyfriend
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  Speaker 1: says I can pay for my own room, but he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't think his mom will let him room with me.
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  Speaker 1: I also don't want to stay alone in a room
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  Speaker 1: in a foreign country, but I know this is going
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  Speaker 1: to cause issues with his mom In the end, I
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  Speaker 1: told him I wouldn't go unless we were rooming together,
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  Speaker 1: but he's upset since he wants me to go. So
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  Speaker 1: am I the a hole? You know? I get it.
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  Speaker 1: I get why you're hesitant to go, and like it's
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  Speaker 1: for his graduation, which is important, But yeah, it sounds
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  Speaker 1: like more of a almost like a I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: know it is a family trip, but you know, you
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  Speaker 1: just go on a trip just with your family feels
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  Speaker 1: kind of like that, I guess, And if you have
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  Speaker 1: a lot of siblings, I guess you kind of know
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  Speaker 1: how that feels. And it's just like babysitting. Like when
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: we went camping, we had a really small trailer, but
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't big enough for me my sisters, so we
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  Speaker 1: would have to sleep in a tent outside with the bears,
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  Speaker 1: which I thought as fun as a kid, but now
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  Speaker 1: I just would think it's terrifying. But I get it.
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  Speaker 1: I get it, and you can make that choice if
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  Speaker 1: you want to. But you got to know that your
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend's gonna feel a certain way because it is for
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  Speaker 1: his graduation and makes sense that he wants you on
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  Speaker 1: the trip. YadA, YadA. I don't know. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: you both have good reasons. I feel like it should
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  Speaker 1: be a non issue to me given the circumstances, given
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  Speaker 1: he knows that his mom is they're not close, and
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  Speaker 1: maybe he needs some time with his mom since he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't spend a lot of time with her, Like maybe
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  Speaker 1: this is a way for him to just like be
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  Speaker 1: with his family and stuff. But I don't know. What
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  Speaker 1: do you guys think. I'm not sure. My brain's not
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  Speaker 1: working right now. Let's see what the comment said, not
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  Speaker 1: the asshole. If you're not comfortable with it, then don't go.
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  Speaker 1: I'd never go in a situation like that. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: feel like that's fair. Like it just it doesn't seem
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  Speaker 1: like it'll be a fun trip. You know, you don't
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  Speaker 1: get to room with the person you want a room with.
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  Speaker 1: You have to room with kids, And yeah, I get it.
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to. I'd be like, I'm good, you
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  Speaker 1: just spend time with your family. I think you that,
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  Speaker 1: and then we could go on a little trip or something,
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  Speaker 1: or like, I don't know, to go out for a
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  Speaker 1: weekend or something. I don't know. Another comment under that
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  Speaker 1: set and even though it's for him, if I were him,
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't go either. It sounds like his mom wants
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  Speaker 1: a vacation with built in babysitters. I'd rather stay home, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: especially if there was going back and just remembering that
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  Speaker 1: there was like mistreatment in the home and it's sounding
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  Speaker 1: like it was coming from her. This doesn't sound out
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  Speaker 1: of the realm of possibility. You know that she just
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  Speaker 1: wants built in babysitters for a trip she wanted. And
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  Speaker 1: also he didn't get to choose where it is, so
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  Speaker 1: this sounds like kind of a selfish mom trip. Another
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  Speaker 1: comment said, I'd nope right out of this vacation. I'm
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  Speaker 1: guessing you and he will be babysitting that entire vacation.
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  Speaker 1: She's planning a vacation for her and her boyfriend. Oh right,
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  Speaker 1: her boyfriend's going. Sorry, I just miss that. Yeah, this
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  Speaker 1: is definitely just her trip. Well, you guys tag along
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  Speaker 1: to watch the kids. If your boyfriend is scared, his
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  Speaker 1: mom is going to force you to babysit and he
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  Speaker 1: has no say in the graduation ship. I hope he
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  Speaker 1: nopes out of it as well. Don't go. This vacation
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  Speaker 1: is going to suck, especially if you have to pay
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  Speaker 1: your own way. Also that, yeah, you're you have to
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  Speaker 1: spend money to go to a different country and babysit. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: The more I read comments, it's I felt like this,
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  Speaker 1: but now I feel valudated. Also, sorry if I sound sick.
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  Speaker 1: I have a horribly uh closed up nose for some reason.
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  Speaker 1: It's I think it's just the change in weather. I
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  Speaker 1: think it's just allergies because I don't feel too bad,
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  Speaker 1: but whatever, I'm sorry if I sound terrible. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: this sounds like a selfish trip. But we have an update,
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  Speaker 1: She says. The day I posted this, I had a
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  Speaker 1: conversation with my boyfriend that snowballed into the worst fight
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  Speaker 1: we've ever had. He accused me of trying to convince
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  Speaker 1: him not to go on the trip, which isn't something
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  Speaker 1: I even brought up. Oh, he said he wants to
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  Speaker 1: go since it's a free trip to a country he
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  Speaker 1: has never been to. That's fine, go buddy, go fabio.
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  Speaker 1: Do what you want to do, though what you wanna though,
• 8:47
  Speaker 1: you know, he did end up telling me that his
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  Speaker 1: mom said no to us rumming together for the following reasons. Okay, One,
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  Speaker 1: we aren't married, neither are her and her boyfriend. All right, Well,
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  Speaker 1: she's the parent, So it just falls down to some
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  Speaker 1: parents have different rules, and it just is what it is,
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  Speaker 1: even though you guys are full grown adults, you know. Two,
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  Speaker 1: we're too young. Well, you guys are full grown adults,
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  Speaker 1: so that doesn't really make sense. Three because I said so,
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  Speaker 1: all right, So she just sounds really controlling. A lot
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  Speaker 1: of parents have different reasons, and that's fine, but at
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  Speaker 1: the end of the day, you're an adult. He's an adult.
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  Speaker 1: You guys can actually do whatever you want to do.
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  Speaker 1: And in terms of not going, if she's paying for
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  Speaker 1: the trip, she is in control of the situation. She's like, nope,
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  Speaker 1: you get this room. You get this room. And it's
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  Speaker 1: just it's such a weird, controlling thing, I think. But
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  Speaker 1: I think she's like a bit on her high horse.
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  Speaker 1: He's that you guys are almost both almost in your
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  Speaker 1: mid twenties. You know. I spoke to my boyfriend last night,
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  Speaker 1: and turns out some of you that suggested she might
• 9:43
  Speaker 1: be helping him with money were correct. Yeah, so she's
• 9:47
  Speaker 1: got a little she's a strong bullying master. She's a
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  Speaker 1: little puppet master. She took out loans to help pay
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  Speaker 1: for his schooling, which is sweet of her. You know,
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  Speaker 1: that's a really nice thing to do. They're all under
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  Speaker 1: her name, but if she stops paying, he feels re
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  Speaker 1: cossible for them. That's fair. I also think she was
• 10:02
  Speaker 1: helping him out with grocery money since he's part time,
• 10:05
  Speaker 1: so she's pretty much holding all of this over his head. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, it's a really nice thing to do, but
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  Speaker 1: that's not a nice thing to do if you hold
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  Speaker 1: it over his head and make him feel guilty for
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  Speaker 1: it every minute of every day, and when he's supposed
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  Speaker 1: to be having a graduation trip because he's accomplished something
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  Speaker 1: and you're like controlling every aspect of it, that's not nice.
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  Speaker 1: He did end up asking her if he was going
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  Speaker 1: to babysit, and she answered the next day at eight
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  Speaker 1: am with stop being so negative, good night. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she did. She sounds like a treat. He told me
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  Speaker 1: how childish and immature she is. But the truth is,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to spend my life battling his mom.
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  Speaker 1: It sucks, you know. You know, the partner could be great,
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  Speaker 1: and then the family could be a certain other way.
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  Speaker 1: You need to take it into a consideration to a
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  Speaker 1: certain degree. I mean, you guys don't really see her
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  Speaker 1: that often, so I mean, it's really just up to you.
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  Speaker 1: I can't tell you what to do. He promised me
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  Speaker 1: that I wouldn't and that things would change when he graduates.
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  Speaker 1: But I'll believe it when I see it. Part of
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  Speaker 1: the reason I'm even contemplating going is because I want
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  Speaker 1: to see what I'm signing up for, and if he's
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  Speaker 1: willing to stick up for me. That's fair. I mean,
• 11:09
  Speaker 1: if you really like set on this guy, that's fair.
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  Speaker 1: If he isn't, then we're done. I won't waste years
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  Speaker 1: of my life on someone that can't even defend me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm turning into the Robert the Nail right now. That's
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  Speaker 1: a good point. That's a pretty good point. He did
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  Speaker 1: tell her that if I were to go, then I
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  Speaker 1: would book my own room reservation my idea, since I
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  Speaker 1: don't want any surprises. She's now telling him he's blowing
• 11:33
  Speaker 1: things out of proportion. They're supposed to talk tonight, and
• 11:36
  Speaker 1: he's pretty angry about the whole situation. So I'll let
• 11:38
  Speaker 1: you know how it goes. So sorry for the super
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  Speaker 1: long update. When was this so I need more feed me?
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, that was twenty three hours ago. No. I
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  Speaker 1: think you're very You're quite emotionally mature, and I congratulate you.
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  Speaker 1: Top comment says, if you go and have to pay
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  Speaker 1: for your own trip, you are allowed to do whatever
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  Speaker 1: the f you want. That's very true. The fact she
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  Speaker 1: is mad at both because you want your own room
• 12:01
  Speaker 1: kind of proves that you were right thinking you were
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  Speaker 1: invited to babysit only I wouldn't go, not even to
• 12:06
  Speaker 1: see what's what. You will only be miserable and will
• 12:09
  Speaker 1: now associate that country with that experience. Honestly, I don't
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  Speaker 1: think it's worth it. I don't think that's I don't
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  Speaker 1: think you'll associate that country with that one experience. And
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I think you could probably go back
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  Speaker 1: to the country to have a really good time. I
• 12:20
  Speaker 1: wish we knew a country. It was in my head
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  Speaker 1: it's like Spain or something for some reason. But I
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  Speaker 1: have no idea. I think what you said was fine.
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  Speaker 1: You know, if you just if you get a trip,
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  Speaker 1: you're paying for your own thing. But yeah, I don't know.
• 12:32
  Speaker 1: I mean people are going to say and Reddit Reddit's
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  Speaker 1: always like divorce them, cut them off completely, get rid
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: of the kid or some whatever. Reddit's always like to
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  Speaker 1: the extreme. But if you've been with this person for
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: a decent amount of time and you really love this person,
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  Speaker 1: and this is like the one aspect where you're like,
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: come on, man, and like you said, you don't see
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  Speaker 1: the mom that much, I don't think it's a terrible
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  Speaker 1: idea if you're willing to go into it being like
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  Speaker 1: this might be the worst trip of my life and
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  Speaker 1: you've had made peace with that, you still wanting to go?
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  Speaker 1: I'd go. And also depends on how much money, like
• 13:03
  Speaker 1: how much money are you spending? Is it like astronomical?
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  Speaker 1: Then I would not go. I don't know the answer.
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  Speaker 1: What do you guys think? Okay? Next subrought is am
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  Speaker 1: I overreacting? And it is am I overreacting? Husband's friend
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  Speaker 1: texted him at three am. Is this friend a girl
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  Speaker 1: or a boy? We will find out. Last night, my
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: husband's longtime female friend. Oh yikes, texted him at three am.
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  Speaker 1: She's also married. Oh no. I was pretty worried about it,
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  Speaker 1: as I don't get along with her super well and
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  Speaker 1: it seems like she's planning something suspicious. But I asked
• 13:34
  Speaker 1: my husband and he said that she just acts really
• 13:36
  Speaker 1: weird when she gets drunk and not to worry about it.
• 13:39
  Speaker 1: Am I overreacting? Well, let's read the text messages. Quick question.
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: If I ever asked you to sleep with me, would
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: you have said yes, like when we were about single,
• 13:49
  Speaker 1: maybe like in the first year or so probab not
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: after that it would have felt too weird? Lol? Oh
• 13:57
  Speaker 1: are you drunk or something? Weird? Thing to ask at
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  Speaker 1: three am? Lall, just allow go to sleep. Okay, Sorry,
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: I was just thinking of things that could have been.
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: Gonna delete this text so Hobby doesn't gonna get weird.
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: Don't say anything back that is that's horribly suspicious. What
• 14:18
  Speaker 1: who is your husband saying? Like? Maybe I know this
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: is a hypothetical from in the past. What the f
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: are you doing even entertaining this question? What the only
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: thing to say to this is, uh, leave me alone.
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: My wife's sleeping beside me, and I don't like you.
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: I don't know. There's just or just not answer. Actually
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: that would be the best thing. It's just to ghost her.
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: This is crazy. Clearly you note that she's in like
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: a state and a state in which makes me I
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: don't trust this lady and Loki don't trust her. Husband
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  Speaker 1: is being weird too. I know he's like being a
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: guy and being like lall. Maybe I don't know. Uh
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: lll the dude, grow some balls, you know, actually grow
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: grow up, grow a you know, because those are stronger,
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: you know, Uh, one of those feel like you can't
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  Speaker 1: say that word. This sounds extremely suspicious. I don't like it.
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: I would overreact as well, or I wouldn't overreact. I
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: don't think you're overreacting, but I would react in whatever
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  Speaker 1: way you are. And you're not even saying that you're
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: overreacting necessarily. This is weird. She clearly loves your husband
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: by the way she will like at any given moment,
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: she will absolutely slip with your husband if he lets her,
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: Like God forbid, they're both in the same room and
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: both indebriated. You know, feel like that wouldn't end Well,
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: it's weird. Anyway, Let's see what the comments on the
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: first time, I said, well, it's good that he showed you.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: You won't have to worry about him at least. Yeah,
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: I like, I get that vibe. I feel like he's
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: just dumb man. Not that all bit or dumb, but
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: he's just maybe well, like, I think it's good he
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: showed you, But the fact that he doesn't have the
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: wherewithal to know or to like not answer a drunk
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: woman at three am back about these hypothetical questions is like,
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: come on, dud, don't answer back anyway, But this is
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: not appropriate behavior. Being drug is irrelevant. You can't control
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: his actions or what he chooses to do with his friends,
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: but I personally wouldn't allow this to be explained as okay,
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: when it comes up between you both, I would personally
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: limit my own interactions with her and make no effort
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: to conceal my thoughts or feelings to her or about her. Basically,
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't participate mitigating natural consequences for shitty behavior. Fair enough. Also, yeah, yeah,
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: I get him to draw the line. I'd also have
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: no issue with being like, hey, bitch, what's up, what's
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: going on? Probably over text on in person. I don't
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: like confrontation like that, but I'd be like, hey, like,
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: get your husband answer back, and then you can be like,
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: don't really appreciate that, have no desire to hang out
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: with you? Bye? Oh yeah, okay. It also says on
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: the next one, Opie never said the husband showed her.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: She doesn't mention how she saw the texts. Yeah, that's true.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, if she found them, then that's even weirder. Interesting.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: Good thing, we have an update, we get more information.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: I thought about it for a while and told my
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: husband this morning I still feel weird about it. He
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: told me to tell her my feelings myself. So here's
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: how that combo went. Honestly, I'm not sure how to
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: feel it. Seems like she isn't really interested, but she's
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: also just giving me a weird vibe in general. Oh dude,
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: grow some dude, what do you handle it yourself? What
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: are you talking about? This is like your friend, this
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: is your problem that makes me mad? Like he's like
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: too afraid to draw a line in the sand. I
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: don't know. This is just getting weird. All right, let's
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: read the text messages. Hey, we'll call her hmm, bimbo, Hey, bimbo. Hey,
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: what's up? Just wondering. I never did anything bad to you,
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: did I It seems like you don't really like me sometimes,
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: and I'm wondering why that is. Why aren't we talking
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: about the fact that she texted your husband at three
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: am about metaphorical sensule time. What is the choice here? Nah? Girl,
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: you're tripping. I have no issues with you. I know
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: your man loves you and that's good enough for me. Okay,
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: good to hear. So you respect our relationship completely? Right? Nay? Shit?
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: Is this about that stupid three am text? Oh? I
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: don't like this woman. I don't like this woman, to
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: be honest, kinda. It doesn't sit well with me. I
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: tried to let it go but I can't. Sorry to
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: hear you're insecure. The did you just say? Oh? Did
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: I do? Sorry? These kind of people make me so angry.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Just gaslighting. He's sorry to hear your insecure. Shut the
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: fuck up, bimbo. You mean to say you never think
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: about your twenties ever? Blame a girl for wondering. Not
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: wanting your husband to see though. Oh yeah, you catcher
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: in that he wouldn't get at. But also, I don't care.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: Just prefer to avoid argument when I can. All right,
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: dot dot dot. I like that you're giving it back
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: to her or not giving her a lot to work with.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: If you want some advice, Oh, here we go. You
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: seem a little controlling. I get that vibe, and you
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: don't want to go down that road. It ruins marriages,
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: oh does it? Bimbo? Not texting other people's husbands at
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: three am when you're drunk and asking them about metaphorical
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: relations from when you were in your twyant that doesn't
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: ruin marriages. Shut up? Okay? Love the answer? Ten out
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: of ten answer, just looking out for you. That's all.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: Cut this woman out of your life. She's not a
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: good person. Cut her out and your husband I respect
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: him less that this is his friend. I I'm sorry,
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: that's how I feel. I'm being unapologetic today, even though
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I literally just apologize. Let's room with the comments. I need.
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: I need some validation right now. The irony in her
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: thinking that her hidingages from her husband is perfectly all right, Yeah,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: that's that's terrible. That means like, and you said, like
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: to delete the messages or the other girl's husband, Like
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: you're so like untrust you're absolutely like having relations with
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: somebody else or you have like you absolutely cheated on
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: your husband, Like there's nothing that doesn't make me think
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: you've done that before based off of your whole behavior here.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: But you thinking the text is weird is going to
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: ruin your marriage? Are you and or your husband close
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: with her husband? I would honestly mention it to him
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: if I was, oh, yeah, yeah, absolutely, do that please.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: I would feel bad if he's in the dark about
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: her texting another man like this and deleting it. It's
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: so gross that she's up at three am. Well, he's
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: presumably asleep next to her texting another married man about
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: would he have slept with her if given the chance,
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: And then specifically deleting it so you wouldn't see yuck. Yeah,
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: I would want to know if my partner was doing
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: that behind my back. I would just frame it as like, hey, X,
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: your wife texted something really strange the other night and
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: a weird reaction when I asked her about it. Is
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: everything okay with her? Frame it does concern Oh, yes,
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: and let him decide if he's okay with her behavior.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: And you have the receipts because you have a screenshot. Also,
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: have you shown your husband these texts? What was his reaction?
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: If he thinks her reaction to you is normal and okay,
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: I think you need to have a serious discussion with him.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: He should be severely limiting contact with her at a minimum.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: This isn't a perfect behavior from her, considering they are
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: both married. Agree and another comment said husband is also dismissive,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: which I totally agree with too. They're both giving me
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: the ick. Let's not forget he brushed off her texts
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: as if they were nothing. Told ope, she gets weird
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: when she's drunk, and not to worry about it. Plus
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: left op to confront the friend instead of placing boundaries himself. Yeah, yeah,
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: that's like to you. You failed. Another comment said it
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: your husband should have shut this down in the original
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: text thread, exactly, the perfect response would have been, I
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: am married, we are friends. This is completely inappropriate to add,
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: do not do it again, or we will no longer
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: be friends. Exactly he didn't. So now you feel insecure.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: That makes sense. I understand that you wanted to address
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: it with a friend, but you can't control her or
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: she isn't married to you and she doesn't owe you anything.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: She was shady for calling you controlling your insecure, but
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: to be fair, you kind of set yourself up for
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: it by contacting her at all. Okay, don't don't come
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: for my girl. Okay, Okay, she is an incompetent husband
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: and she had to take it into her own hands.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: Zong zoo's at Okay? Sorry, I say that with Caleb,
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: and I say that all the time. Zon't z oh
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: anti all right? Next is another Am I the a hole?
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: Am I the Scully way for telling my fiance her
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: tattoo of my dead brother makes me uncomfortable? Her tattoo
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: of my dead brother? Oh interesting? Okay, first time rereditor here. Okay,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: So for contacts my older brother thirty mail while I'm
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: twenty nine male, passed away three years ago in a
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: motorcycle accident. I'm really sorry. I'm really sorry. That's the horrible.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: This fucked me up severely, still does. He was my
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: best friend and we had that whole inseparable since we
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: knew each other type shit. Even if he was older,
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: he was never the stereotypical older brother bully sort and
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: I loved him for that anyway. My fiance, who I'll
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: call Bella, is twenty eight female and met him only
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: a few times, but always said she admired our bond
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: as she has no real siblings of her own, only
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: step but they are close. Okay. I was gonna be like,
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: did you guys grow up together something? But now, okay.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: A few weeks ago, Bella surprised me with a fkink
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: tattoo she got in memory of my brother. It's this
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: pretty big, realistic gray scale tattoo of his face with
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: a little snoopy icon beside it on her upper arm,
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: with his nickname we use and his birth and death
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: dates underneath. Oh is my head's trying to force me
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: to be like, well, that's sweet, but it's that that's
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: a bit. That's a bit strange. Okay, when I saw this,
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: I was fing stunned. She said she did it as
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: a tribute to him and to support me because she
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: knows how much I struggle with grief. This is about you.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: This isn't about your boyfriend or her brother. His brother,
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: even this is I feel like this is more about her.
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: I honestly didn't know what to say at first, but
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: the more I sat with it, the more it bothered me. Yeah,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: I feel like that's I'm trying to put myself in
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: his shoes, and I'd be like, what it what? I
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: told her gently as much as I could to be honest,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: that I appreciated the gesture, but found the tattoo really uncomfortable,
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: Like it's unsettling to see his face on my fiance's body.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: Like it's too much, especially since they barely knew each other.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Why wasn't this a discussion beforehand. That's like, that's a
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: permanent thing. This is wild. She got upset and said
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I was being weird about a nice gesture and making
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: her regret doing something beautiful her words. Now, she's distant,
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: and my mom thinks I should just be thankful someone
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: loved my brother enough to memorialize him what is he?
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: But first off, I didn't ask her to do this.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: Now I'm stuck with a fiance that won't even talk
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: to me properly, and my brother's perfectly black and gray
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: eyes staring at me when I'm laying beside her. Oh
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: my gosh, dude, I get I get like kind of
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: freaked out sometimes because kid's got a tattooed here of
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: like a it's like a Greek goddess or whatever. She's
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: fully clothed and all that kind of stuff, but she
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: just kind of like stares at me, and I wake
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: up up with, oh, I can't imagine, just like looking
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: over and my deceased grandmother's just like like that. I
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: don't know, man, come on, And honestly, I don't even
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: want to think of how horrifying having the relations would
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: be with that on her arm? Did she not think
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: of any of this? Oh my gosh, am I being
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: reasonable as wholish? Is it in my right to ask
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: her to get covered up or like zoinked off? Oh
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: my gosh. And he did a little ad dish. And
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: my fiance and I both have tattoos in many of them.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: I have smaller ones. She has bigger ones. To my knowledge,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: neither of us are mentally ill in any capacity, and
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: we aren't on medication. I can't believe I have to
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: write this. I guess people were being met in the comments.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: And ever since my reaction, she's been wearing longer sleeve
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: shirts in the daytime at work. She has to anyway,
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: but that's for home too. It's only during bedtime that
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: I really see it, with her wearing takes and it
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: physically hurts. Loll oh. No. I think it's perfectly reasonable
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: for you to be a little freaked out. The fact
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: that she didn't talk to you about this, and it's
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: your brother and she only met him a few times.
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: This is giving like what else would she do? You know,
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: That's where my mind goes. It's like what and who
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: is this even about? Or maybe in her mind this
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: was like something sweet, and since she has a bunch
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: of tattoos, it's not like it's like one tattoo. But
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: it's not like you. I think you are perfectly in
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: your right in the right to say what you said.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: That's completely fine. She should have asked, if this is strange,
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: what do people kind of say? First comment? Not the
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: asshole that's a wild overstep on her part. It's one
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: thing to support you through grief. It's another to permanently
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: tattoo your brother's face on her body when they barely
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: knew each other. That's not a tribute. That's weirdly possessive
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: of your grief. Yeah, and you're bond with him. Yeah,
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: it's like she's taking it for herself. She's like, oh,
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: you feel like that, I'm just gonna take that and
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: put it on my body permanently. So now it's my grief.
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: That's a great way of putting it. She's possessing your grief. Wow. God,
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: people on Reddit, I tell you, smart cookies. You have
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: every right to feel uncomfortable seeing your late brother's face
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: on your fiance's arm every day, especially in intimate situations.
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: It doesn't mean you don't appreciate the sentiment. It just
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: crosses a line. She should have asked you before making
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: such a huge decision involving so personal to you. Yeah, exactly,
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: like get a ring with the first letter of his
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: name or something you know, I don't know, or like, well, yeah,
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: why couldn't it just been some initials or something I
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: don't know? Oh? The comment under that weirdly possessive of
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: your grief is such a spot on way to describe this.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: They're just just as amazed as me. Like, I'm gonna
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: let me write that down. I don't know when I'll
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: need this, but I'm writing it down. But I'm not
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: actually writing. I'm just writing it down fake on my hand,
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: but it's in my brain now. Yeah, grief thief, that's
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: it's wild. But there's an update. Let's get the update. Hi, guys.
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: I don't know if anyone cares enough for this, but
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: for the few that do, here's an update for the situation. Lol.
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: I care. After breakfast this morning at around half seven
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: it's ten thirty four as I write this. By the way,
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: I sat down already was sitting down after eating but
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: yes whatever with my fiance and spoke about the fucking
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: tattoo again. I basically echoed all the comments I've received, which,
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: by the way, I'm so grateful for for the most part,
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: because some of them were crazy. Anyway, I told her
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: again that the tattoo made me uncomfortable and wasn't the
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: leap she needed to take to comfort or support me
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: on my journey with grief. As I still had a
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: firm belief that she didn't do this in a malicious manner.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: She was quiet initially and then asked if she could
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: explain herself, and I said I was willing to listen. Okay, okay,
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: this is good to summarize. She said she simply got
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: the tattoo because she thought it would symbolize the extent
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: she would go to love me and support me. Yeah,
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: it's like, no one loves you like idea. No one
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: would put your late brother's face permanently on their arm
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: like I would like it is. It's sure, it's possessive
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: of grief, but it's just possessive full stop. This is
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: wild and said it in that way. Oh yes, it's giving,
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: like thriller horror movie when someone's like obsessed with someone
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: and they like stalk them and that kind of thing.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: I had both people I loved so much in the
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: same place or words not mine. She did say she
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: was sorry and that she wouldn't have done it if
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: she knew that I wouldn't have liked it. Then why
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: didn't you ask, you know, pardon me. One is empathetic
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: and it's like, oh she grew up with like she
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: stepped something she doesn't really like or know that well,
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: and she basically like an only child, like maybe she
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: did think really that this would be you know, sweet,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: I really, I'm trying to I'm gonna give her the
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt a little bit. You know, some
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: people just they just don't know, you know. I feel
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: bad for her. I don't want to be too hard
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: on her. I asked her why she hadn't spoken to
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: me about it prior, and she said it wouldn't have
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: been a surprise then what she wanted it to be.
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: The sentence doesn't make sense, but okay. She also said,
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: I'm remembering this fresh and internally cringing as I write this, lol.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: That the tattoo was meant to be a symbol of
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: a new beginning because we're going to get married in
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: a couple of months. Oh and she wanted to turn
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: over old leaves. I'm still stuck on what she meant,
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: so I appreciate any word sleuths helping me in this.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. Also, you're, oh, yeah, yess,
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: she's your fiance, that's right. I don't know. Turnover old leaves.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's just like looking back at old memories.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: That's all that means to wrap it up. I said,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: I didn't want to end our relationship over this, and
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: I really wanted to move on from it, but that
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: she needed to either cover it up or laser it off,
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: and she was, to say the least, not very happy
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: about it. Said a cover up would be complicated and
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: would take too long, said laser might be painful and
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: looks scary from videos. Also said she likes how the
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: tattoo looks, along with her other ones, and asked if
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: I'd be okay with her just covering it up, either
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: with blows or foundation. Oh this is tough, oh man.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: I was as firm as I could be. Mind you,
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: this is a woman I've loved for five years straight,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: so adamantly I'm soft, but I reiterated that I wanted
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: it gone, either by a cover up or laser. She
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: was quiet then, and that's honestly where the conversation ended.
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: She already left for work at ten, and I'm going
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: to start my own work now as I work remotely
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: from home, after I finish this. Anyways, I hope this
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: works out, and I would appreciate any advice. Oh my gosh,
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: it's so hard because it's like it's her body. You know,
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: you can't tell her to do with your body, but
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: that is your brother's face, so it feels like you can,
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: you know, like I never want to be like tell
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: like a man should be able to tell a woman
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: what to do with her body and vice versa, but
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: that is your late brother's face. I would feel all
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: kinds of ways about this, and similar to you, like
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: this is not okay, Like I can't go through life
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: seeing my brother's face on your body, Like I get it.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm trying to be the devil's advocate,
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: but I'm just kind of like it's she should be
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: understanding of that. If she's willing to go that far,
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: you know, to get the brother's face on her, that
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: she should be willing to get it covered up. If
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: she's like putting it into her words. You know, I'm
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: willing to go this far. Okay, Well go that extra step,
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: make it into a butterfly. Let's go all right. First time,
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: it said she wants to turn over old leaves, yet
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: tattooed one to her body and is complaining about you
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: validly wanting her to cover it up. Yeah, This is
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: exactly what I thought when I first read it. Also,
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: turning a new leaf is a strange way to describe
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: a tattoo memorializing someone. Yeah, it is. It's very strange.
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: But we have one more update. Oh it's final. I've
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: broken up with her. Oh my gosh, she's just walking
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: around with her ex's brothers who she barely knows face tattooed.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. I don't even know why I'm writing
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: this other than to get some closure on the situation
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: and maybe some support. I've read so many comments this morning,
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: and while it didn't go the way I or anyone anticipated,
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: I've taken my decision, though I'm struggling to accept it myself. Oh.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: Last night, when Bella came home from work, I made
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: sure to make dinner and asked if we could talk
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: after dinner in the back garden. She said that was okay,
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: that she needed time to shower and unwined before dinner,
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: so she'd be a bit late, but that I could
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: start eating. I agreed, and she went upstairs while I
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: ate dinner i'd made with the TV on in the back.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: Why is that information needed? I don't know. She came
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: down about an hour later, while I was winding things
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: up and washing the dishes from earlier and I offered
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: to get her a hot plate, and she agreed, saying
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: she'd eat it on the couch in our living room
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: rather than in the kitchen where we had the dining table.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: Why does any of this matter, I don't need this
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: much exposition. I said that was fine, and I brought
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: it over to her. As I gave it to her.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: While she was sitting her hand out to take it,
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: I somehow managed to drop it and the hot spag
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: bowl went all over her. Oh okay, I guess that's
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: why we need the exposition. Immediately apologized profusely and went
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: to grab her some water and tissue and towels. But
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: she just started screaming at me. Oh, I do not
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: want to make myself sound like a victim in this,
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: so I want to be careful with how I write this.
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: But yes, she started saying that I did that on purpose,
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: and that I was punishing her for our conversation that
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: morning and for the tattoo in general. Oh so she's like,
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: not she needs I think she needs to talk to somebody,
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: like really bad. I immediately defended myself as I brought
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: over a damp towel and some tissues, and I said,
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: I knew I had a steady grip on the plate,
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: so there's no way I had done that on purpose,
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: also saying that I always spoke respectfully and calmly to
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: her about the tattoo situation, and I never escalate things
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: like this, things beyond our blur. But we had a
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: big fight, and she broke many, and I mean many
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: of our glasses and plates. Oh no, even trying to
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: pull off a cabinet door in the kitchen that was
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: was already not in good condition, and then threw anything
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: around her at me. She threw things at you, dude,
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: This is not okay. This is like I was trying
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: to give her the benefit of the doubt, but she
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: is severely like not stable. This is not safe for you.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: By the end of it, I said I couldn't be
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: with her anymore and that this was the last straw,
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: and left for my parents' house. I haven't returned, and
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: I haven't picked up any of her calls or messages.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: And I'm honestly afraid of what she'll do to my
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: belongings if she so easily broke so much of the
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: shit we bought together. I'm still at my parents' house
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: and I haven't told them either, but I think this
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: is it. Yeah, I can't have a fut out of there.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: This may be the last update because I don't know
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: if I can focus on this when I have everything
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: else I need to resolve. Thank you off for the comments.
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: I really appreciated them and never expected this outcome. Peace
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: and love to all that helped. Final update. Spoken to
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: my family about it, and they have asked me to
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: try to have a final conversation to remedy this, and
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: I rejected it. Yeah, you know best, you know the best.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: But we'll be bringing my things back either to or tomorrow,
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: depending on when she gets back from work, and will
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: bring a friend with me. That's good. I was going
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: to say that you should do that. I'm more at
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: peace with my decision now, so thank you all for
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: your help. Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. It did
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: not expect that escalation, but yeah, this, you're clearly not
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: right for each other, and yeah, you deserve better than that.
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: You deserve communication and understanding and not to have things
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: thrown at you for a mistake. Comets say, yikes, I'm
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: glad you got out of therop. What a mess of
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: a situation, but it's good that you were able to
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: see this side of her before the wedding. So true,
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: it's much more complicated to get out when divorce is involved.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: As for your own belongings, maybe if the police can
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: help with that, Yeah, I wouldn't expecting that. I'm sorry.
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: Let me know, you guys think down on the comments below,
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: and I'm gonna know what you guys think. That's absolutely crazy.
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: I think that's it for me. I think we really
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: did like a few stories. They were all quite long
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: with updates and stuff. But yeah, if you guys like
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: these types of videos, also, I do tons of them
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: over on my second channel, so you guys can check
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: that out. Don't call me Chris too, because it's just
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: like it's just laid back and fun and cool over there.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: But yeah, this is wild. Sorry for my appearents again,
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: sorry for being a bit MOPy. I'll get over my
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: stuff and we'll get back to our regular programming. The
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: world still is turning, so I will I will turn
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: with it. But yeah, I appreciate you. I love you.
• 37:21
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• 37:24
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• 37:26
  Speaker 1: ever and until then I will see you beautiful face
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: all right bye