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My Ex Used The Money I Gave Him For His Business To Fly His Side Chic To Dubai — Actress Idia Aisien · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to the episode of Bank Lorencia.
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  How are you all doing if you're doing great for today's episode,
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  I want to ask the question, have you as a lady, given a man money
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  before a man that you're dating? Maybe you're dating for
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  marriage, maybe you're engaged. Have you given that man money
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  before? And for the men, has any lady
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  that you dated given you money and that the fact that she gave
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  you money changed your feeling towards her?
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  Or did you just think that you can't you know maintain her
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  lifestyle and then you leave her to go follow somebody that's you
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  are giving money instead? Now this conversation started
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  online when talking back in were interviewed Nollywood actress
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  Idia ECN. Now Idia is a very beautiful
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  Nollywood actress. She is a Nepal baby born with a
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  silver spoon. So she has never experienced
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  poverty before. And I think her circle has
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  always been people who had money or you know when you grow up, I
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  think she grew up outside, outside the country.
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  So she was used to being OK. Her dad always provided
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  according to her. So when she got into the dating
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  scene, she go back to Nigeria, she got into Nollywood, she was
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  making money, she was beautiful, she started dating and according
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  to her, she started dating for marriage.
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  She met the guy, they were talking, they were he was having
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  financial challenges here and there.
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  And she said she gave me a couple of 1,000,000.
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  Let me just play that video for you to hear from Idias Malta.
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  What happened? Do you spend money on guys?
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  I used to. I used to.
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  They'll say their business is bad.
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  I'll give them a couple millions.
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  Now I'm just like, no, I've listened to everything you've I.
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  Wait, I listen. To your shows.
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  I'm not waiting. Somebody would tell you that his
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  business is bad. His business is bad and you know
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  that time you're you're dating for marriage, so you don't want
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  the guy to not do well. So if he's trying to invest in
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  something that's going to grow, you know it's OK.
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  Yeah. But like, you know how they
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  always say that there's ups and downs for guys, So if you help
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  the guy in the beginning, then later, who's when?
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  The Who said. That said that when the guy is
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  up he will now also help you and how he treats you is dependent
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  on how you treat it baby. You don't have a ring on your
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  finger, so that man's destiny has nothing to do with you.
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  He's up sideways, back, left, right.
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  That's his motherfucking business.
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  OK, You are still trying to put your life together.
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  Why are you not trying to work? That's a lot of relationship
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  work. Or no?
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  You have a lot of money. I have.
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  Motivations. I'll give you no money and the
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  guy will speak to the dead man inside of his device.
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  Baby, you can't do it. I'm.
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  So dear. But my one night even.
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  If it's just like Tenem. No.
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  Yeah, Cousins, whoever I give that 10 millionaire to five days
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  nights be due. When I say 5 days night be due,
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  like 5 days be due. Praying for my life that that is
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  better. If it was this guy gave money,
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  he said that his business wasn't going well.
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  And then I remember his phone all of a sudden wasn't going
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  through and stuff and I was trying to reach him.
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  Baby, how are you? He explained to me that his
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  phone wasn't working, blah, blah, blah.
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  And then I found out that he had flown like a popular girl
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  business class too. I think it was Dubai or South
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  Africa at the time of cash. Yeah.
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  So because of that, WhatsApp wasn't working.
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  That was why I couldn't reach him.
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  But he said he was in Lagos, but his phone was having issues.
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  It was, I think one of my brothers that told me, bro, your
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  boyfriend is here with the babe. And I was like, no, it's not
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  possible that he's actually like he, you know, that kind of
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  thing. And he was my brother's like,
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  are you mad? My brother now sent me a
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  picture. And I was like, so when I now
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  told him you're in Dubai, he now goes, no babe, my friends
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  dragged me, you know, that kind of thing, da da, da, da, da.
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  And I said, but I just gave you money.
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  I thought you had like a bit. He was like that.
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  No, that you know, it's even for the business thing.
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  They dragged him. Just hold my hand while I told
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  you. Please hold my husband.
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  I said this to you. You are too fine.
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  You are too beautiful. You are too gorgeous, girl.
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  Sorry. I know girl, honestly, listen,
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  we've all been we've been through it, but I'm not lying
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  about you being so beautiful and you being like the most gorgeous
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  thing. Do you look in the mirror and
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  see how gorgeous you are? I'm.
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  Pretty, I know. No, no, no.
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  Girl, you are beautiful, you are successful.
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  Forget where you came from, you're 1 of people that
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  regardless of how wealthy your background is, you've always
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  wanted more for yourself. Do you know what I mean?
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  Listen girl, you are not a poster child to save a man.
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  Girl, I know we've all been hurt like do.
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  You know how old I was when you met me?
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  Do you know how old I am now? Humour me by telling me I'm not
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  trying to be hard on you and I hope you're not getting.
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  Yeah, that for me, because this is literally this is what we
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  would say to each other any day. And we've all fucked up.
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  We've all been in that one situation where we didn't know
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  better. Yeah.
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  Do you know what I mean? But I know your brothers, and I
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  know how mad they probably would have been about that sort of
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  situation. Happening too upset.
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  You are not from the streets. You are not a poster child for
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  hey, I can help your business, I can help you because we live in
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  a world where people just take advantage and because of your
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  sweet nature, I see how a man will run that game on you.
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  He ended up telling me where's all the money coming from?
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  As far as your father's money, Sophie, but we women go through
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  so much your. Yeah, so all credits to Token
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  Machine were Hashu. OK moments we talk on YouTube,
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  you can go watch the full video. But this is particularly
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  interesting because dating for women, I don't think we talk
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  about the challenges, especially if you're successful or if you
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  have made certain amount of money, it becomes challenging
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  because the pool you pick from becomes very narrow.
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  If you're going to date somebody with money, you have to
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  understand that that person maybe want somebody who will be
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  very submissive, stay at home, take care of their kids.
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  So there's a possibility that you may not fit into what they
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  want because you're very ambitious, you have a life, you
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  want to do all these things that you want to do for yourself.
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  So it is very challenging, which I think is what Token Mackinmore
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  is trying to to say to her. But at the end of the day, we
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  have all been in situations where you know it is not right
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  for you but you, you, you just want to make it work.
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  I feel particularly sorry for her, not really sorry.
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  I empathise with the situation she was in because she just
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  wanted to be in a in a relationship worked was marriage
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  help her man out and it did not work out.
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  Now some comments online people said that oh, that's why is it
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  that when women give men money, it becomes an issue.
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  But when men give women money, it's never a problem.
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  They can give women money, still date other people and they don't
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  come online and cry about it or they don't go on interviews to
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  cry about it, especially when the man has money according to
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  her. You know when you have money, a
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  lot more money than the man, so you can be able to spend some of
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  that money. Somebody actually commented to
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  say that most times when women or people who ambitious women
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  get into a relationship, they don't understand that sometimes
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  that is not what a man wants. Especially if you have a
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  lifestyle, if you're posting, if you're travelling, if you have
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  this, you know, glamorous lifestyle that most times what
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  the men look at, I don't know. This is based on the comments
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  online. They said that sometimes the men
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  think can I afford this lifestyle?
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  Can I afford to maintain this lifestyle?
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  Because at the end of the day, what men want is somebody they
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  can take care of. So according to her, she gave
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  this man money because he wanted to invest in his business, only
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  for the man to take fly another girl out to South Africa to take
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  care of her. So you then become, you know, is
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  it, how do I put it? At the end of the day, you
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  realise that the the bottom line is men like people they can't
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  take care of. So where does that leave
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  ambitious women? You can't have it.
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  Or I mean, I posted a video about Bimbo Ademoise
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  relationship with Vijay Adams and people are saying that oh
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  you know, she is a beautiful girl, she deserves better.
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  At the end of the day, whether you're beautiful, whether you're
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  successful, you still want to be in a relationship, you still
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  want companionship. But if the men are not willing
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  to accommodate your hustle spirit, where does that leave
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  you? So this question is for the men.
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  Would you date a woman who has a hustle spirit or has a career
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  that she's passionate about? A career doesn't mean she going
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  to, you know, work. 9:00 to 5:00.
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  These are actresses that travel for shoots maybe weeks in a row,
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  months in a row depending on the production, and they have to be
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  there. Are you comfortable to date that
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  kind of woman or do you prefer to get married to a graduate?
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  And then most times what I see they do is tell her to take a
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  teaching job while they provide. And it doesn't matter if they
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  can provide or not, they are just happy to to put her in a
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  box. I wouldn't say any books in.
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  Just put her home regardless and provide.
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  Now This is why sometimes if I see marriage dynamics, I don't
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  really pity them because at the end of the day that man made
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  that choice. You could have got gotten
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  married to somebody who could have provided together for you
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  and your family, but you choose to marry somebody who you want
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  to provide for. Then don't bring that BS to me
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  to tell me, oh, my family is suffering, Help my family.
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  These are the issues. You cannot eat your cake and
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  have it. I was reading about a medical
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  Doctor Who the lady was talking about in Anambra.
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  She said that there's this lady who she always see with her
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  husband outside the they had a shop, cement shop.
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  So she only see the the lady and the husband sitting down.
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  She was always there selling with her husband.
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  That it was years later, about 30 years later that she realised
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  that the lady is a medical doctor for over 30 years.
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  When she got married to the man, he said he doesn't want her to
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  work as a doctor and they're sitting down there selling
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  cements now. She said that that Trump's the
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  success of a woman marriage. Trump's the success of a woman.
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  So whether you're a medical doctor, doctor or not, if you're
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  not married, you're not successful.
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  So she said that, you know, some people have that ideology,
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  especially some men. It doesn't matter what you are,
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  it doesn't matter who you are. They just want to marry somebody
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  that they can that can be submissive.
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  If they say, oh, we're going for this movie shoot.
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  If they are not comfortable with it, they'll tell you don't go.
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  And that woman will have to obey and sit down at home.
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  And when they have they start having challenges, they will
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  still blame the woman because they will say, oh, since I
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  married you, I have not been successful.
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  But since I married you, my business have been going down.
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  Because at the end of the day, kids are going to come into the
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  mix. Regardless of what you think
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  you're earning. When kids come in, you start
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  paying school fees, you start paying all these things,
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  clothes, feeding, that money is going to go down, especially if
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  that woman is is their home mom and they still blame the woman.
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  So it's a double edged sword. I think everybody should choose
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  their poison. If you want to date somebody or
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  if you want to marry as a man, if you want to marry somebody
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  that you want to provide for, there's nothing wrong with that.
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  Don't then blame her later if things are not working out fine.
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  Or as a woman, if you choose to be very ambitious, if you choose
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  to have a career, if you choose to be successful, then don't
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  come out and cry. That give him our money.
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  And the man took the money to fly another lady out.
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  So let me know what you think. As a woman, would you give your
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  boyfriend money? Would you?
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  Would you give your boyfriend? Would you invest in the
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  boyfriend knowing that you're not engaged to this person,
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  There's a possibility that he's not going to marry you, but
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  you're dating with fate, dating for marriage.
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  Would you give that guy money? And I say, man, does a lady, a
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  successful lady that you're dating, giving you money change
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  the dynamic of that relationship?
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  Or are you happy to date somebody who is willing to
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  provide or build with you? Let me know what you think.
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  Thank you very much for watching today's episode.
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  watching. Bye bye.