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The Narcissist's EX could be the NEW SUPPLY · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're going to be talking about how the narcissist X,
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  their X can actually be their new supply.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  episode 987 of the Narcissist Code.
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  Bam. 987 episodes. Y'all, What in the world?
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  What are we doing here? What are we actually doing here
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  987 *. I sat in front of this camera
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  and hit that and said I'm going to if you're new here, I'm a
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  diagnosed narcissist set for narcissist.
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  Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome.
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  I'm grateful for y'all. I am great.
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  I'm super grateful for y'all. I'm so grateful for y'all.
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  I'm starting a new YouTube channel just for reactions and
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  longer videos and things like that as well.
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  So the link is at the bottom of my YouTube page.
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  It's called Lee actions, Lee dot actions.
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  Yeah, reactions, Lee actions. So make sure you follow that and
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  subscribe to the channel. But yes, y'all the narcissist
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  new supply isn't always new. The narcissist new supply
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  doesn't have to be a new person. It could be somebody from the IT
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  could be a blast from the past, some ass from the past, some ass
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  from the past. If y'all want to get, you know,
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  if you want to make it rhyme correctly.
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  But yeah, this, it can absolutely happen within that
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  space right there. Narcissistic people y'all can
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  absolutely, absolutely go back to their ex and treat them like
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  a new supply. The ex that they bashed, The X
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  that they told told you were crazy.
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  The X that they said they would never, ever go back to, The X
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  that they said was like the most horrible person in the world.
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  They can go back to those XS and it doesn't matter how long ago
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  it was either. Y'all.
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  Let's just say this could be the X before the X that you met.
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  You know, because times change. People don't.
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  Times change, but people don't. People don't always change.
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  Y'all people stay. The behaviors can stay the same,
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  but this is how narcissistic people can get their ex back.
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  A lot of times, if enough time has passed by, they assume that
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  the the person, the people from their past think that they have
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  changed. Well, it's been five years since
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  we dated. I'm pretty sure that person has
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  matured by now. It's been a year since we dated.
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  It's been so long since we dated or been married since we've been
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  divorced. I'm pretty sure that person has
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  changed by now because I've changed.
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  People change in seven years. You see what I'm saying?
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  They can convince their ex that they've changed into a new
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  person. And of course, like I said, the
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  X has probably the X has probably healed and grown.
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  So the X is probably a new person.
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  Now the X presents as a new person because the X has grown
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  and might maybe healed from this toxic relationship, but they got
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  right back into it. So there the X has grown into a
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  new person so that X can be the new supply.
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  Do you see, do you see how that works right there?
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  It's not always a new person. The ex can have healed and grown
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  and their life could have changed.
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  Because a lot of times this is what happens in toxic
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  relationships. A lot of times y'all and some of
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  y'all have already experienced this.
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  Some of y'all will experience this.
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  When you leave a toxic relationship, you glow and you
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  grow like you. Your life gets better a lot of
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  times when you leave, Once you get to that patch of this
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  healing and growth and pain and it's going to hurt.
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  Yeah, I'm not saying it's going to always be easy, but once you
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  get to that initial patch of healing and growing, like you
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  feel better, like you feel like you, you grow you, you start
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  doing things that you feel like you couldn't have done when you
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  were still with this person, right?
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  You feel like you start doing like you feel like you have the
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  ability to grow down, the opportunity for growth.
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  Like you start working out. The person that you were with
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  said that you couldn't go to the gym right.
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  But now you go to the gym. You work out, you lose weight.
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  Your your your body changes. You you you you change.
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  You see like you change who you are.
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  Things have changed since y'all been together.
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  Like like you glow up you like you really do.
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  You really do have a glow up journey.
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  You might actually even look different.
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  You lost weight. You might have gained a little
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  weight. You might have put on some
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  muscle. You might have changed or cut
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  your hair. You might have grew your hair
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  out. You might have dyed your hair.
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  You might change your hairstyle. You might dress differently.
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  You might have more money. You might have more access to
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  more money, more education. You see, you went through a glow
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  up because you've gotten out of this toxic relationship like you
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  were a lot of y'all were. A lot of y'all have experienced
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  that and a lot of y'all will experience that if you decide
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  to, you know, to leave and glow up.
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  I'm not saying you can't glow up while you're in the toxic
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  relationship, but I just feel like it's hard to glow up.
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  I'm not saying your life is over.
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  I'm not like, I don't try to bring doom and gloom to people's
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  lives. Y'all I promise you.
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  I don't. I try to help be a light.
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  They're going to shine through the darkness to show you that
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  there's, you know there's better out there for you.
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  And I don't mean by better person.
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  I mean you can be a better person.
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  You can heal. You can grow, you know?
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  But I'm just saying, though, but it's harder for a rose to grow,
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  you know, It's harder for a flower to grow through a crack
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  in the concrete than it is for them to grow in a garden.
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  Oh, what do I come up with this stuff at y'all?
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  Where did that just come from? What did that?
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  Where did that just come from? Even though a flower can grow
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  through that crack in the sidewalk, it's easier if it was
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  planted in the garden. What is this?
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  Where did these Idalogies come from?
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  Y'all, where did it come from? They were fire too.
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  Yeah. Look, if you like that idalogy,
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  you have to drop a flower in the comment section.
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  This is any type of any type of flower.
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  Yeah, I really don't know where this comes from, but yeah, so
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  when you on your glow up journey, like you glow up, you
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  leave a tight relationship. You glow up and sometimes that
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  narcissistic person sees it and comes back into your life.
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  And when they swoop back into your life, you're a new person.
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  They're still the same person they might have.
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  You might have seemed like, they might have seemed like they've
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  changed. You've definitely changed.
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  So you're a new person. You are the new supply, you're
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  the ex, but you're also the new supply.
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  You're in a different space in life.
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  Things have changed. You see, well sometimes they can
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  spin the block, they can come back.
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  Like when you go through, go through a glow up journey or
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  growth journey and you no longer have that narcissistic person in
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  your life. You see how it works right
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  there. Y'all y'all see it.
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  Y'all experienced it like it's possible.
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  So I'm telling people, like the narcissist sometimes goes back
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  to their ex that has grown up, you know, that has grown up that
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  you've changed like you've done like the ex has done everything
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  the narcissist told them that they that they couldn't do.
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  The narcissist X has told them like the narcissist X has went
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  and gone and done all the things that the narcissist has told you
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  that you can't do, has convinced you that whatever you want to do
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  is bad and damaging to the relationship.
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  You know they've got a new support system.
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  They got new friends and new family, new job, new city,
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  whatever it is. They've told you that you can't
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  do that. They've convinced you that you
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  can't do that. They've tried to intentionally
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  hold you back or sabotage your life.
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  You see, they've done all this stuff to you by and
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  simultaneously try to hold you back.
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  But their ex has gotten free of that and is healed and has
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  grown. And sometimes y'all, when you
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  heal and grow, sometimes you do go back into a toxic
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  relationship. I'm not saying that you yeah,
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  when you heal and grow, you leave a toxic relationship.
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  It is possible to get back into one with the same person.
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  I've seen it happen. Yeah, I've seen it happen so
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  many times. Y'all I'm working.
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  I've got so many things, so many things going on behind the
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  scenes to help people heal and grow.
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  It is crazy. So basically I'll join my
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  newsletter if you already have it and link is in the
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  description of every video on podcast.
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  I do join my newsletter. I have some courses and some
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  video series coming out that are going to be super powerful.
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  But yes y'all like if you're with a narcissist and they start
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  acting shady and sometimes they all like.
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  I know a lot of one of the questions people are going to
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  have like how are the how is the X still around?
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  Sometimes the X shouldn't be still around because they have
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  no no further connection to the X right?
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  But sometimes the narcissist X is around because they have kids
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  together. So they they're they they they
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  are still contact. They're still, they're still
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  connected through the kids, you know, they're still connected
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  because they still have some type of business venture
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  together or whatever. So they see the they still are
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  around to see that glow up, you know, and sometimes they don't
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  have any connection. They just are connected on
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  social media. They're just watching it through
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  social media. They're just stalking their
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  exes, social media, watching their ex grow and glow up, you
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  know what I mean? They're watching their ex go
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  through this process of healing and growth.
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  They're watching their ex and they're just like, Dang, you
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  changed, you know, And they'll reach out to, they'll, they'll
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  specifically reach out to them. They've hit, look, they've
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  hidden you on social media a lot of times they've hidden you.
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  But then I said they look so they look single and they reach
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  out like, yeah, I've been single for a long time and they start
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  cheating on you with their ex and the ex might not know and
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  the ex might know. I'm not saying that I'm not.
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  Yeah. I'm not always going to say that
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  the narcissist ex is always innocent because sometimes their
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  ex does know, you know, the X does know and sneaks around with
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  them. They they do that sometimes.
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  I'm not trying to make it seem like the X is always an
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  innocent, an innocent bystander in this toxic, toxic
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  relationship dynamic, you know? But like, yeah, sometimes they,
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  they will go back to the XS, Y'all.
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  And another reason that they will go back, they will go back
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  to the XS is because sometimes it's easier to go back than it
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  is to go forward. Now it's a lot easier to go back
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  to someone because I've already established roots with this
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  person. Me and this person already know
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  each other than it is to go out here and have to start a whole
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  new love on my face, have to spend money, have to get to know
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  somebody. It's it's sometimes it's easier
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  to go back, you know, It really is.
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  It's easy. Especially if we are still
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  attached in some way, shape or form.
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  It's a lot easier for us to just go back to each other and and
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  deal and handle things like this.
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  So again, y'all I'm not telling you, if you deal with a
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  narcissist or tax person then this is what I'm just saying.
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  I know it's easier said than done, but I'm rooting for y'all.
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  Like if they if they're still dealing with their ex and being
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  sneaky with their ex, y'all they're still if they're dealing
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  with their ex, being sneaky with their ex.
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  Yeah, I'm telling you right now, as a as a person who's trying to
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  help you, leave that person alone.
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  I know y'all. Like I said, consider leaving
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  them alone. Consider distancing yourself
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  from that person. Because if they're still being
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  flirty or sneaking around with the X and like not letting you
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  be in communication with the X at all.
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  If they have to be in communication with their ex for
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  kids or whatever and they're just Xing you out of the
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  picture, keeping you hidden, or not letting y'all involve in
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  each other, they can be. There can be some sneaky
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  behaviours going on y'all to make sure that you are, you
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  know, just in tune with that in tune and not letting them make
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  you feel, not letting them make you look silly.
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  Because sometimes they will absolutely go back to the X that
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  they claim to hate. You know, make sure y'all
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