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SatanYK EP-47 How To Stay Unshaken (Machiavelli Lessons) · Satanic Youth Kenya (SatanYK)

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  Speaker 1: Welcome back to Satanic Youth Kenya. I'm your host, Satanist
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  Speaker 1: Craig Jamin. And the topic today will be Machiavelli's lessons.
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  Speaker 1: And as you know, I'm a Satanist and I abide
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  Speaker 1: and follow the philosophy of the Church of Satan. And actually,
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  Speaker 1: do I call it following or practicing? I practice the
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  Speaker 1: philosophy of the Church of Satan and I live by it.
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  Speaker 1: And also, I advocate for stoicism. So today's episode will
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  Speaker 1: be Machiavelli's lesson and how to be unshaken in any
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  Speaker 1: confrontation as you know most people lose not because they
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  Speaker 1: are weak and it's because they cannot control the emotions
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  Speaker 1: many people lose peace in life because when they are
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  Speaker 1: challenged they cannot control their emotions. So think about the
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  Speaker 1: last time you watched somebody who was completely right and
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  Speaker 1: at the same time they lost an argument. They had
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  Speaker 1: all the facts and the logic with them and they
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  Speaker 1: still lost But at the moment, the pressure hits. The
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  Speaker 1: individual cracked. The individual stumbled. Their voice went up. And
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  Speaker 1: their hands started moving too fast and shaking. And just
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  Speaker 1: like that, nobody believed them anymore. Right? You remember that situation? So,
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  Speaker 1: every confrontation, you face is a test. And not a
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  Speaker 1: test to your intelligence or intellect. Not of your facts.
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  Speaker 1: It's a test of control. And can you stay steady
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  Speaker 1: when someone attacks your ideas? Can you stay steady when
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  Speaker 1: somebody attacks your reasonings? That's the point. So, when your
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  Speaker 1: heart is pounding, can you think clearly? Can you speak
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  Speaker 1: calmly when everything inside you wants to explode? If you can,
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  Speaker 1: you win. Not just the argument, alright? Not just the
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  Speaker 1: argument because you are calm. You win respect, trust, and power.
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  Speaker 1: Don't forget that. Machiavelli understood this very clearly. And a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people still miss this point today. So, power
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  Speaker 1: doesn't belong to the loudest person in the room. People
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  Speaker 1: tend to forget this. Power does not belong to the
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  Speaker 1: loudest person in the room. Okay? It belongs to the
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  Speaker 1: one who stays calm. When everyone else breaks, when everyone
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  Speaker 1: else is shaking and trembling, the one who stays calm
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  Speaker 1: has the power. Alright? Machiavelli spent like all of his
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  Speaker 1: life studying these situations, studying politicians, studying and watching empires
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  Speaker 1: rise and fall. And this is what he learned the
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  Speaker 1: brutal truth is if you can't control yourself, you can't
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  Speaker 1: even control anything else. You can't control anything else around
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  Speaker 1: you if you can't control yourself. Okay? So, you're just
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  Speaker 1: breaking down how you will stay unshaken in situations that
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  Speaker 1: maybe make you shaken and emerge as a winner. Even, remember,
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  Speaker 1: people don't care if you have the correct facts with you.
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  Speaker 1: People learn. People take the curated signals that you give them.
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  Speaker 1: So even if you have all the facts and you're
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  Speaker 1: still shaken, you'll emerge as a loser. Alright? In any confrontation,
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  Speaker 1: don't forget that. Your body will betray you. in seconds,
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  Speaker 1: not even hours. So, people read these cues even before
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  Speaker 1: you speak. And if you know them, you will emerge
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  Speaker 1: a winner. Number one, people trust steadiness, not excuses. And
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  Speaker 1: here's what most people get completely wrong about this. They
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  Speaker 1: think confrontation are won with the right words. All right?
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  Speaker 1: They rehearse. Throughout the night, they rehearse their defenses. They
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  Speaker 1: rehearse everything. And they prepare their facts. They line up
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  Speaker 1: their logic like weapons. And when the moment comes, what happens?
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  Speaker 1: They deliver their perfect responses. And nobody gives a shit.
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  Speaker 1: And nobody cares. Okay? You know why? Because in heated moments,
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  Speaker 1: people aren't listening to your words the way you think
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  Speaker 1: they are. And they are watching you, reading you. Every cue,
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  Speaker 1: starting every micro signal your body sends out. How steady
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  Speaker 1: is your voice? How calm is your face when you're talking?
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  Speaker 1: How controlled is your breathing when you're dealing and talking
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  Speaker 1: and you're presenting your points? And based on those decisions
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  Speaker 1: they make, snap judgment about whether you are credible or
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  Speaker 1: you're not credible. Either whether you are strong or you
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  Speaker 1: are weak. Just immediately in a of a second. Alright? So,
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  Speaker 1: Machiavelli even wrote this. Men are governed by appearances as
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  Speaker 1: much as by reality. Alright? Don't forget that. And he
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  Speaker 1: didn't say appearances matter a little. He didn't say that.
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  Speaker 1: He said they matter as much as reality itself. Don't
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  Speaker 1: forget that. How you look in a confrontation is just
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  Speaker 1: as important as whether you are actually right or you
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  Speaker 1: are not. What do people argue? One person has all
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  Speaker 1: the facts. Right? Their voice is shaky. They keep looking away.
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  Speaker 1: They are not sure. They are shaking. They are mumbling.
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  Speaker 1: And they are fidgeting. The other person Might be half wrong.
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  Speaker 2: But they are calm.
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  Speaker 1: They speak slowly. They don't shout. They hold eye contact.
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  Speaker 1: Who wins in your mind? Just imagine that situation. Who
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  Speaker 1: wins in your mind? Obviously, it's the one who stays steady. Alright?
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  Speaker 1: The calm one. Every time. Because calmness projects reliability. Don't
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  Speaker 1: forget that. It makes people think that this person knows
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  Speaker 1: something that maybe we don't know. This person has control
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  Speaker 1: of something. It makes them feel control. Alright? And nervousness
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  Speaker 1: projects weakness. It makes them think that the person is
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  Speaker 1: hiding something. We can't trust that person because it's shaking
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  Speaker 1: and We're not sure. Maybe he's hiding something. And that
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  Speaker 1: makes us doubt. Or that makes them doubt. Alright? This
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  Speaker 1: person doesn't even believe in their own words. Is it? So,
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  Speaker 1: you can have the truth on your side and still lose.
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  Speaker 1: Don't forget that. You can have truth on your side
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  Speaker 1: but still lose. Because You couldn't control your delivery. This
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  Speaker 1: is why preparation isn't just about what you will say.
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  Speaker 1: It's about how you will show up when someone challenges you.
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  Speaker 1: Your first job. isn't to defend yourself. Don't defend yourself.
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  Speaker 1: That's not the first priority. Your first job is to
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  Speaker 1: stay steady. Calm. If your tone is calm, you appear credible.
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  Speaker 1: And People start believing you even without the perfect answer.
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  Speaker 1: People will wait for a calm person to speak, right?
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  Speaker 1: They'll give them benefit of their doubts. But they won't
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  Speaker 1: wait for someone who's panicking to talk to who, right?
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  Speaker 1: Think about job interviews for one moment. Someone asks a
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  Speaker 1: tough question. You didn't expect, right? You have two options.
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  Speaker 1: Option one, you can panic and start talking past them,
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  Speaker 1: start mumbling all over everywhere, right? And you'll stumble over words.
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  Speaker 1: Feel your silence with anything and your voice start going up,
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  Speaker 1: becoming sharp. And you can see in their eyes, they
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  Speaker 1: are losing, right? They are losing because they are not
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  Speaker 1: even steady. You can have the second option. Pause and breathe. Alright?
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  Speaker 1: When you pause and breathe, look them in the eyes
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  Speaker 1: and tell them, let me think about that for a second.
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  Speaker 1: Then take that second calmly. Right? Which version gets the
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  Speaker 1: job according to you? Which version will get the job? Obviously,
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  Speaker 1: the second one. Right? Not because the answer was better
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  Speaker 1: Because presence was stronger. Their presence was stronger and this
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  Speaker 1: applies everywhere. Arguments with your partner. Everywhere. Conversations in your jobs.
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  Speaker 1: Public criticism, family drama. Anything in life that you're dealing with,
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  Speaker 1: your words matter less than your presence.
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 1: Your logic matters less than your composure. Stay steady and
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  Speaker 1: people will trust you even when they disagree. Remember that.
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  Speaker 1: Stay steady and you control the room. Alright? Even without
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  Speaker 1: all the answers that you have, when you stay steady,
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  Speaker 1: you will control the room. Steadiness is trust. Nervousness is doubt.
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  Speaker 1: Don't forget that. So, number two. Steady body, right? Steady body,
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  Speaker 1: steady mind. Let's get specific because saying stay calm is easy, right?
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  Speaker 1: Let's get specific. Actually, doing it when your heart is
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  Speaker 1: racing is different. Telling people stay calm is easy. But
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  Speaker 1: when you're doing, when you're staying calm on your mouth,
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  Speaker 1: when your heart is racing, it's not easy. In a confrontation,
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  Speaker 1: people scan your body and your body tells the truth.
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  Speaker 1: Even when your mouth lies, you can say, I'm fine.
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  Speaker 1: And your hands are shaking, your eyes darting around. Nobody
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  Speaker 1: believes you. And your body is a billboard advertising your
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  Speaker 1: internal state. Most people can read you in around three seconds.
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  Speaker 1: Shaking hands mean nervousness. Relented eyes means insecurity, right? A
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  Speaker 1: rushed voice means panic. Crossed arms means defensiveness. Every movement,
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  Speaker 1: every posture shift, every tone change, people pick it up.
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  Speaker 1: Don't forget that. And use it to decide if they
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  Speaker 1: should respect you Or dismiss you. Remember Machiavelli said. Men
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  Speaker 1: judge more by their eye. Than by their hand. Alright.
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  Speaker 1: Don't forget that. What they see. In your composure. Matters
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  Speaker 1: a lot. More than what you argue with your heart.
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  Speaker 1: Don't forget that. Don't forget that. To stay unshaken. Control
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  Speaker 1: your body fast. Because your mind follows your body, not
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  Speaker 1: the other way around. Most people think backwards, all right?
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  Speaker 1: Three things you can control right now. First, your breathing.
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  Speaker 1: Once stressed, your breathing speeds up and gets shallow. So
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  Speaker 1: control your breathing. You breathe from your chest. This signals
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  Speaker 1: your brain danger, survival mode. Your prefrontal cortex, the part
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  Speaker 1: that handles logic and reasoning, goes offline. Your amygdala, part
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  Speaker 1: that handles fear, takes over. Alright? That's why people say
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  Speaker 1: stupid things in arguments. Your scared brain is driving, not
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  Speaker 1: your smart brain. So when you feel it rising, Slow
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  Speaker 1: your breathing. Think. Breathe through your nose. And out through
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  Speaker 1: your mouth. Breathe from your belly. Not your chest. Do
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  Speaker 1: this a few times. And your heart rate drops. Your
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  Speaker 1: brain gets the message. We are okay. Now you can
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  Speaker 1: think clearly. Second, your posture. Stand or sit like you
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  Speaker 1: are in control. Not arrogant, just solid standing. Plant your
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  Speaker 1: feet shoulder apart. Don't shift weight back and forth. Just
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  Speaker 1: stand firm. Sitting, sit up straight. Don't slouch. Keep shoulders
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  Speaker 1: relaxed but not slumped. Keep your hands visible and still.
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  Speaker 1: Don't fidget with your pen, phone or hair. Don't tap fingers.
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  Speaker 1: Don't cross and uncross your arms. Alright? Every unnecessary movement
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  Speaker 1: broadcasts nervousness. Keep your hands still on the table, on
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  Speaker 1: your lap. Okay? Stay calm and controlled. This makes you
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  Speaker 1: look steady. to everyone's watching and it makes you feel steady. Okay?
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  Speaker 1: Your brain sees your body acting calm and starts to
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  Speaker 1: believe it.
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  Speaker 2: So, third, your voice, when nervous or angry, your.
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  Speaker 1: Voice speeds up, gets higher, gets louder or quieter in
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  Speaker 1: weird ways. And the moment your voice changes like that,
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  Speaker 1: people stop trusting you. So slow it down. Speak at
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  Speaker 1: 70% of your normal speed. Lower your pitch slightly. Keep
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  Speaker 1: volume steady. If you need to pause, pause. Don't feel
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  Speaker 1: silence with nervous laughter. No. If you need to pause,
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  Speaker 1: just pause. Just pause. Let the silence sit there. Alright?
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  Speaker 1: Silence is power. Silence makes others uncomfortable. Don't forget that.
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  Speaker 1: When they are uncomfortable, they start talking to fill the gap.
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  Speaker 1: And when they start talking, you are back in control.
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  Speaker 1: A calm, measured voice makes people stop and listen. It
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  Speaker 1: makes you sound like you know something that they don't know.
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  Speaker 1: is something that most people don't realize. Calm-bodied language doesn't
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  Speaker 1: just make you look strong. It makes others doubt their
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  Speaker 1: own agitation. When you stay calm, when someone yells, something
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  Speaker 1: strange happens in their brain. They start feeling off-balance. They're
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  Speaker 1: throwing energy at you and you're not reacting how they expected. Remember,
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  Speaker 1: They expected you to yell back to match their intensity.
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  Speaker 1: When you don't, they question themselves. Why am I so
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  Speaker 1: worked up? Why isn't this person scared? Alright? Do they
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  Speaker 1: know something I don't know? Just like that, you have
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  Speaker 1: taken their upper ground. Without even raising your voice, Machiavelli
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  Speaker 1: knew this. And he knew that Whoever controls their body
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  Speaker 1: controls the situation. Power isn't about aggression. It's about presence
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  Speaker 1: when someone comes at you hard. When tension spikes, remember,
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  Speaker 1: slow your breathing. Steady your posture. Measure your voice. Buster
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  Speaker 1: your body and your mind. Follows. Alright. Buster both. And
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  Speaker 1: no one can shake you. Number three. Detachment creates clarity.
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  Speaker 1: All right? Let's talk about taking things personally. Someone criticizes you,
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  Speaker 1: questions your competence.
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  Speaker 2: And immediately you feel.
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  Speaker 1: It in your chest, and that heat, that defensiveness, that
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  Speaker 1: voice screaming, how dare they? All right? So, from that moment,
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  Speaker 1: You're not thinking clearly anymore. You're reacting, defending, protecting your
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  Speaker 1: ego instead of solving the problem. That's when you lose, right?
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  Speaker 1: The moment you take something personally, you stop being strategic.
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  Speaker 1: You stop thinking ahead, okay? You stop seeing the bigger picture.
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  Speaker 1: You're just trying to win right now, no matter what
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  Speaker 1: it costs later. This is where detachment comes to a superpower.
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  Speaker 1: Detachment doesn't make you don't care. It means you don't
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  Speaker 1: let emotions hijack your brain when you need it most.
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  Speaker 1: It means stepping back for a second, even mid-conversation or mid-confrontation,
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  Speaker 1: and seeing the situation as an observer, not a victim.
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  Speaker 1: Machiavelli once said, A wise man acts as he must,
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  Speaker 1: not as he feels. Acts as he must, not as
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  Speaker 1: he feels. Not what makes you feel better. Not what
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  Speaker 1: satisfies your ego. What you must do to get the
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  Speaker 1: outcome you actually want. Okay? Most times that means staying calm,
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  Speaker 1: staying detached, and responding intelligently instead of emotionally. For example,
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  Speaker 1: you are in a meeting. You have worked on a
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  Speaker 1: project for weeks, for example, right? You present your idea.
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  Speaker 1: Then someone, let's call him David, tears it apart in
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  Speaker 1: front of everyone. He said, I don't think that this
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  Speaker 1: will work. It's not realistic. We have tried things like
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  Speaker 1: this in the future. We have tried things like this
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  Speaker 1: in the past. No. So you have two choices. The
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  Speaker 1: first choice is take it personally. Get defensive. Your voice tightens. If... Actually, David,
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  Speaker 1: if you read the full proposal, you'd see I addressed
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  Speaker 1: those concerns. This is nothing like before. Now the room turns.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone's uncomfortable. David doubles down because you challenged him publicly. Remember,
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  Speaker 1: even if you're right, you look bad because you couldn't
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  Speaker 1: handle criticism. without even getting emotional. The second option, you
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  Speaker 1: could do this. You could detach. Realize David's comment isn't personal, right?
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  Speaker 1: It's just information. Maybe he has a valid concern. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: he's being difficult. Either way, it doesn't matter. You are
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  Speaker 1: not here to defend your ego. You are here to
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  Speaker 1: make the best decision and So you pause, you nod.
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  Speaker 1: That's a fair point, David. What specific concern you most?
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  Speaker 1: Let's dig into that. Watch what happens. Tension drops. The
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  Speaker 1: room sees you as unreasonable. David either explains his concern properly, right?
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  Speaker 1: Helping you improve the idea or backs down because it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't have a good reason Either way, you win, not
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  Speaker 1: by fighting, by staying detached. See the difference, right? First version,
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  Speaker 1: you are acting as you feel defensive, attacked, emotional. Second version,
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  Speaker 1: acting as you must, strategic, calm, focused on outcome that
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  Speaker 1: doesn't detach. That's detachment. Judgment also protects you from saying
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  Speaker 1: things you'll regret. How many times have you said some
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  Speaker 1: things that in the heat of the moment and you
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  Speaker 1: spent days wishing you could take it back? How many
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  Speaker 1: times have you said something in the heat of the
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  Speaker 1: moment and went on regretting it in the future? Right?
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  Speaker 1: That happens because you weren't detached. You were inside your
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  Speaker 1: emotions and your emotions wanted to hurt, to win, to
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  Speaker 1: strike back. You notice the moment your emotions bite. You
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  Speaker 1: catch yourself before reacting. You pause. You detach. Then respond.
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  Speaker 1: That pause, that tiny space between stimulus and response is
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  Speaker 1: where power lives. In that pause, You're not a victim.
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  Speaker 1: You're not reacting blindly. You are choosing your response. Be
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  Speaker 1: your Machiavellian. And Machiavelli understood real authority isn't given by titles, right?
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  Speaker 1: It's taken by whoever commands presence. Arguments with your partners,
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  Speaker 1: you stay calm when they are upset. Suddenly, you are
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  Speaker 1: the reasonable one. Even if partly wrong, Conflict with family.
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  Speaker 1: You keep your voice steady while others yell. You become
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  Speaker 1: the one who people turn to for solutions, all right?
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  Speaker 1: Workplace disputes. You remain composed while others freak out. Your
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  Speaker 1: boss sees you as a leadership material, okay? It's not manipulation.
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  Speaker 1: It's understanding reality, okay? People gravitate towards stability. When everything
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  Speaker 1: falls apart, they want someone who isn't. Someone who looks
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  Speaker 1: like them. They know what to do next. Okay? If
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  Speaker 1: you're that person, you gain influence you didn't have before.
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  Speaker 1: You don't need all the answers. You don't need to
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  Speaker 1: be the smartest. You don't even need to be bright.
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  Speaker 1: You don't even need to be right. You just need
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  Speaker 1: to be calm Okay? Calmness creates the illusion of competence.
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  Speaker 1: Makes people think you're more capable. It makes people think
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  Speaker 1: that you're more capable than you might be in that moment.
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  Speaker 1: That's leverage. Not over them. With them, calmness doesn't just
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  Speaker 1: protect you. Alright? changes the entire dynamic. It turns tension
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  Speaker 1: into opportunity to lead, to guide, to create a better outcome.
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  Speaker 1: When the room is hot, when emotions are running high,
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  Speaker 1: when things feel out of control, don't add to the fire.
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  Speaker 1: Be the calm in the storm. Watch how quickly you
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  Speaker 1: become the person everyone's looking to. Number five, consistency builds
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  Speaker 1: an untouchable reputation. Here is where everything comes together. Stay
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  Speaker 1: calm once in one meeting, one argument, one confrontation. That's good.
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  Speaker 1: It helps in that moment. People notice you handle it well.
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  Speaker 1: You move on, but staying calm consistently over time. Over time.
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  Speaker 1: In every situation, that's when you become untouchable. If you
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  Speaker 1: are calm once, people dismiss it as luck. If you
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  Speaker 1: are calm once, people dismiss it as luck. Okay? They
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  Speaker 1: just happen to be in a good mood or they
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  Speaker 1: weren't really invested They don't give you credit. They don't
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  Speaker 1: change how they see you. But if you remain consistent,
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  Speaker 1: every time, every day, every time something goes wrong, every challenge,
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  Speaker 1: every pressure moment, people start labeling you. The label, unshakable. Okay?
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  Speaker 1: Once that label sticks, it becomes your reputation. Your reputation
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  Speaker 1: protects you in ways you can't imagine. When you have
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  Speaker 1: a reputation for staying calm, Under pressure, people stop trying
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  Speaker 1: to pressure you. They know it won't work. Raising their
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  Speaker 1: voice won't rattle you. Aggressive tactics, threats, emotional manipulation, none
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  Speaker 1: of it will move you. So they stop wasting energy.
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  Speaker 1: They approach you differently, with respect and professionalism. Because that's
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  Speaker 1: the only way To get through to you. Because that's
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  Speaker 1: what they know now. Okay. Your calmness becomes a shield.
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  Speaker 1: It filters out nonsense. Before it even reaches you. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Think about someone you know. Who never loses their cool.
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  Speaker 1: Really never. No matter what. How do people treat that person? Carefully.
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  Speaker 1: With respect. Because everyone knows that person won't react. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: People know that.
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  Speaker 1: And they know that person won't react like most people do.
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  Speaker 1: Now think about someone always blowing up, always emotional, always
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  Speaker 1: losing control, always talking. How do people treat them? With caution, sure,
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  Speaker 1: but not respect. They see them as unpredictable, unreliable, someone
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  Speaker 1: to avoid, okay? That's the difference reputation makes. Machiavelli understood this.
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  Speaker 1: He knew consistency separates respected leaders from forgotten ones. A
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  Speaker 1: prince who is sometimes cruel, sometimes merciful, confuses people. They
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  Speaker 1: don't know what to expect. When people don't know what
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  Speaker 1: to expect, they don't trust you. But a prince who
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  Speaker 1: is consistently measured consistently firm, consistently calm, people know exactly
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  Speaker 1: what they are getting. That predictability builds trust. Even if
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  Speaker 1: they don't always like your decisions, they respect your consistency.
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  Speaker 1: Same applies to you. When you are consistently calm, people
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  Speaker 1: learn that's who you are. Not a mood. Not a
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  Speaker 1: one-time thing. Your character. Once it's your character, it becomes
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  Speaker 1: your identity. People introduce you that way. You need to
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  Speaker 1: meet Alex. Nothing rattles them. Or at work, if there
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  Speaker 1: is a crisis, get Hikilo Life in the room. They
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  Speaker 1: work on that because their reputation opens the doors for them.
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  Speaker 1: and creates opportunities for them makes people want you on
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  Speaker 1: their team in their corner leading their projects okay everyone
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  Speaker 1: wants to work with.
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  Speaker 2: Someone who won who won't.
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  Speaker 1: Fall apart when things get hard but here is the
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  Speaker 1: hard truth building this reputation takes time and requires real
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  Speaker 1: consistency You can't be calm for a month and blow
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  Speaker 1: up at some time and expect your reputation to survive intact.
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  Speaker 2: It won't.
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  Speaker 1: One major loss.
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  Speaker 2: Of control can undo.
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  Speaker 1: Months of steady behavior. Because people remember explosions more than
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  Speaker 1: they remember calm. That's how human memory works. We remember outliers,
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  Speaker 1: dramatic moments, times someone acted out of character. So to
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  Speaker 1: build an untouchable reputation, you have to commit, not for
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  Speaker 1: a week, not for a month, not when convenient, but always.
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  Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that you can't have emotions. You can
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  Speaker 1: be upset, frustrated, disappointed, and it means you don't let
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  Speaker 1: those emotions control how you show up. You feel them,
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  Speaker 1: process them, but don't let them dictate your behavior in
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  Speaker 1: the moment. You still speak calmly, think clearly, maintain your presence.
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  Speaker 1: Over time, that consistency compounds. Every time you stay calm
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  Speaker 1: when others expect you to lose it, your reputation gets stronger, okay?
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  Speaker 1: Every time you handle a crisis with composure, people trust
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  Speaker 1: you more. Every time you refuse to be shaken, you
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  Speaker 1: add another brick to the wall that protects you. Eventually,
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  Speaker 1: that wall becomes so strong, nothing can break through, right?
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  Speaker 1: People will test you early on, especially if they're used
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  Speaker 1: to seeing others crack, okay? And they'll push hard, try
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  Speaker 1: to provoke you, see if you're for real or just acting, okay?
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  Speaker 1: But if you pass those tests, if you stay unshaken,
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  Speaker 1: every time they stop, they stop testing immediately. They accept
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  Speaker 1: this is who you are, okay? And they adjust their
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  Speaker 1: behavior accordingly. This is when you have truly won. Not
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  Speaker 1: just individual confrontations, but the long game. Now, you don't
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  Speaker 1: have to fight as many battles. Your reputation does the fighting, okay?
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  Speaker 1: People approach you with respect from the start. Don't try
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  Speaker 1: to intimidate you. Don't play games. Don't waste your time
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  Speaker 1: with dramas. And on the real occasion, someone does challenge you.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone else in the room is already on your side
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  Speaker 1: because they know you are not the problem, Machiavelli said.
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  Speaker 1: It's better to be feared than to be loved if
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  Speaker 1: you cannot be both. But there's a third option. When
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  Speaker 1: you are unshakable, people don't exactly fear you, okay? And
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  Speaker 1: they might not love you, but they respect you deeply.
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  Speaker 1: And respect is more valuable than either fear or love
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  Speaker 1: because respect lasts. Fear fades when you're not watching. Okay?
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  Speaker 1: Love fades when emotions change. Okay? But respect for someone
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  Speaker 1: who never breaks that stays if you take nothing else
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  Speaker 1: from this. Okay? Take this. Calmness is not just a
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  Speaker 1: dark deep. It's an identity. Build that identity consistently over
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  Speaker 1: time And you don't just survive confrontations, you rise above
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  Speaker 1: them entirely. True strength in confrontation is not about volume,
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  Speaker 1: not about dominance, not about the loudest voice or sharpest comeback.
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  Speaker 1: It's about steadiness. People lose trust in those who can't
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  Speaker 1: hold themselves together. they see someone shaking, voice cracking, and
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  Speaker 1: emotions spilling, and think, this person can't be trusted with
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  Speaker 1: anything important. But when they see someone stay calm, who
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  Speaker 1: doesn't flinch, who keeps composure when everyone else falls apart,
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  Speaker 1: they follow, they respect, sometimes they even fear, Not because
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: you are aggressive, but because you are untouchable. Machiavelli's lesson
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  Speaker 1: is simple. Control yourself first and you control the situation.
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  Speaker 1: When you master your breathing, your posture, your voice, you
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  Speaker 1: master the room. When you detach from emotions and act strategically,
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  Speaker 1: you win the long game. When you stay calm, consistently.
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  Speaker 1: You build a reputation that protects you forever. This isn't theory.
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  Speaker 1: This is how power actually works. The person who stays
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  Speaker 1: unshaken doesn't need to be the smartest, the strongest or
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  Speaker 1: the most experienced. They just need to be the one
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  Speaker 1: who doesn't break and over time that becomes everything. So remember,
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  Speaker 1: You don't win arguments by being louder. Okay? You win
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  Speaker 1: by being untouchable. Practice this in small moments. Fast. when
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  Speaker 1: someone cuts you off in traffic. Okay? When a colleague
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  Speaker 1: snaps at you. When family pushes your buttons. Stay calm.
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  Speaker 1: Breathe slow. Speak steady. Detach. Each time you do You're
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  Speaker 1: building the skill, building the reputation, building the identity. Eventually,
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  Speaker 1: it becomes who you are.
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  Speaker 2: Okay?
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  Speaker 1: Much of today. And until next time, stay unshakable. I'm
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  Speaker 1: your host, Satanist Craig Jameen. Thank you for joining us
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  Speaker 1: once more. Hail Saturn.