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Breakfast Bonus: Parenting coach Sheridan Eketone · Toni, Jase & Sam - Breakfast Catchup

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  Speaker 1: Becaase Breakfast Bonus podcast with Tony Jason Sam.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for listening to our breakfast Bonus podcast. Today, we're
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  Speaker 2: joined by Sheridan Eketony from the Parenting Place. She's a
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  Speaker 2: parenting coach when it comes to coaches. What about sports coaches,
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  Speaker 2: because some of the kids after school, some of the
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  Speaker 2: grandkids are involved in way too much sport or is
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  Speaker 2: it too much?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? And some uninvolved in enough. So there has to
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  Speaker 3: be a happy balance somewhere, and we need to know
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  Speaker 3: how to strike back.
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  Speaker 4: That's right, natural play or scheduled sport.
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  Speaker 3: What's the answer here?
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  Speaker 2: And our kids getting too booned out in this day
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  Speaker 2: and age, sheardan, what's changed?
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  Speaker 5: Oh, so many things, But I think because a balancing
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  Speaker 5: act that needs to come into play. So our kids
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  Speaker 5: are often either really too involved over as scheduled or
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  Speaker 5: potentially even maybe not scheduled dinner.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so there is a happy medium in the middle.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to put my hand up right now and
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  Speaker 3: say I am an over scheduler right and I know
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  Speaker 3: that sometimes my kids are, but I feel like I
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  Speaker 3: get it. I have a grip on when are too
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  Speaker 3: tired or and then I'll just let them have a break.
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  Speaker 3: But is there a formula that we should be following
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  Speaker 3: so that we can try and reach the happy medium.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, So let me just firstly say I'm with you, Tony.
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  Speaker 5: I may be the theater mom that see yes to
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  Speaker 5: three theater shows in a year.
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  Speaker 3: That's worse than me.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, I tell you three is too many. So I think, Tony,
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  Speaker 5: what we often struggle with, I think it's fair to
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  Speaker 5: say is we have these kids that are really passionate,
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  Speaker 5: they love what they do. We want to say yes.
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  Speaker 5: Often mums and dads have fomo like if we don't
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  Speaker 5: do this now, they get another opportunity. Yeah, And I
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  Speaker 5: think that we really do just need to slow it
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  Speaker 5: down because I think often the price comes forward not
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  Speaker 5: only the child at some point, but the parents because
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  Speaker 5: we're often uber driving to the theater, maybe multiple times
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  Speaker 5: in the day.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think we My husband and I definitely
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  Speaker 3: hit a wall last week. I mean, we're in a
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  Speaker 3: bit of a different situation. Matilda is taking so much
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  Speaker 3: of our time up and if you want to have
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  Speaker 3: kids that also play sport, that's you know, it's just
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  Speaker 3: part and parcel of it. But I also think that
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  Speaker 3: I would rather be the person that's got them involved
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  Speaker 3: in a lot than them not do much at all.
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  Speaker 3: And I do see kids that don't do much at all,
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  Speaker 3: and I do look at them and think you're missing
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  Speaker 3: out on friendships and experiences that you'll never get back.
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  Speaker 5: Development too, Yeah, yeah, And I think there is a
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  Speaker 5: little bit of a risk to you know, especially pre
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  Speaker 5: teens into teen years who are just at home. Often
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  Speaker 5: the screen becomes their friend in the extra curricular activity.
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  Speaker 5: So I do think there's a balancing act. I really
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  Speaker 5: I heard the other day a really great little slide
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  Speaker 5: of Brene Brown talking about, you know, with her family
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  Speaker 5: when when they decide what's going to happen, they actually
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  Speaker 5: sit down together and say what are we saying? Yes too?
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  Speaker 5: And I think you know that that alludes to, you know,
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  Speaker 5: our steed a month. What is it going to take
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  Speaker 5: for us as a family to do three shows? Is
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  Speaker 5: that realistic? So I think, you know, the end of
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  Speaker 5: the term is often a good time to stop and
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  Speaker 5: just go, hey, guys, what do we see us to
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  Speaker 5: this term? How did it go? What could we maybe
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  Speaker 5: peg back? And then equally, for those that may have
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  Speaker 5: kids that are not super involved, what's one thing we
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  Speaker 5: can do next to them that, you know, to try
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  Speaker 5: something new. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Is there another side of this argument though, that we
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  Speaker 4: are kind of we are doing too much and it
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  Speaker 4: might be better to slow down and just focus on
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  Speaker 4: one element as opposed to kind of threading them across
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  Speaker 4: a number of things. I mean, you only have to
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  Speaker 4: look at the success of some of the best golf
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  Speaker 4: players or the best tennis players, and they have stuck
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  Speaker 4: to the knitting.
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  Speaker 3: To be fair, Sam, all the research that's just come out,
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  Speaker 3: the Novak Djokovic's of the world, they're saying what made
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  Speaker 3: them different the fact that they did multiple sports when
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  Speaker 3: they were young, And so I look at that and go, ah,
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  Speaker 3: okay ski as well.
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  Speaker 2: What's a good strategy though, sharing?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, I think Tony alluded to it a
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  Speaker 5: little bit before. But I think, you know, following our
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  Speaker 5: kids a little bit is always a good thing. You know,
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  Speaker 5: some kids have a capacity for a little bit more.
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  Speaker 5: Some kids are actually more stressed out when you're adding
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  Speaker 5: additional things to their week. If I had to say
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  Speaker 5: what I feel overall seen in my coaching room with parents,
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  Speaker 5: it actually less is probably more more often than not.
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  Speaker 5: So I think it's one of those things in parenting,
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  Speaker 5: it's always a balancing act, right, it's assessing was this
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  Speaker 5: too much? Can we peg it back? But I think
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  Speaker 5: a little bit of following what your child is really
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  Speaker 5: passionate about, because we know that kids, when they are
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  Speaker 5: growing and developing, when they can do something they really
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  Speaker 5: love that is great for their mental health. It's great
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  Speaker 5: for their brain building, and it makes them a happier
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  Speaker 5: kid to be in our homes as well.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's what it's about, isn't it? You want
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  Speaker 2: happy kids?
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  Speaker 1: Now?
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  Speaker 3: I love that because I reckon if you actually look
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  Speaker 3: at your child and I actually fill this with theater
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  Speaker 3: with mine, I see them come alive and I know
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  Speaker 3: that that's what's really making them happy. But is it
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  Speaker 3: a case perhaps of checking in and going, hey, are
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  Speaker 3: you still enjoying your netball? Like you know, I know
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  Speaker 3: that you've been playing it for four years? But do
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  Speaker 3: you still like it? Because if you don't, you don't
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  Speaker 3: have to keep playing. Maybe it's giving them that option.
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  Speaker 2: Again, sit around the table and have that group discussion,
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  Speaker 2: isn't it what are we saying yesterday? What are we
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  Speaker 2: going to say no to? And how are we going
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  Speaker 2: to do that? I love that this is Coast.
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