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Season 8: Episode 1: w/Simone, Pamela, and Ciara Blossom and Brunch · Kickin’ It With KeKe: Life, Love, & MINDSET

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Kicking In with Kiki. Kicking it you Ki Ki,
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Speaker 1: kicking Ki Key for a little personality, switching up the
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Speaker 1: storyline on God. Were making that story and hooks us
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Speaker 1: one day at the time. Much problems to the side.
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Speaker 1: Enjoy yourself for your mind chicken Ki keep Welcome back
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Speaker 1: to another episode of Kicking It with Kiki, Life, love
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Speaker 1: and all that other ship. I am your host, Kiki Chanel.
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Speaker 1: We are in season eight. This is the season eight opener,
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Speaker 1: so we are we're doing something different. We have a
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Speaker 1: panel today. We have a couple of ladies that's joining
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Speaker 1: us and we're talking about their organization that is there
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Speaker 1: to bring women together to form sisterhood and community. Y'all
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Speaker 1: know how I like to do. It's season eight, so
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Speaker 1: y'all should be used to how the show goes by. Now.
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Speaker 1: I like to give my guests the opportunity to introduce themselves,
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Speaker 1: so I'll let Miss Pamela go first. And she's new
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Speaker 1: new to the platform since the own is a regular here.
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Speaker 1: But Miss Pamla, how you doe? Thank you for coming
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Speaker 1: to kick it with me today.
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Speaker 2: I am wonderful Kiki, and thank you so much for
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Speaker 2: having me today. I'm very, very happy to be here.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely so tell the listeners who you are and what
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Speaker 1: you do well.
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Speaker 2: Like Kiki just said, my name is Pama, my wife
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Speaker 2: from Baton Rouge, Louisiana. I am the owner and operator
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Speaker 2: of Signature Real Estate Groups, a real estate broker. I've
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Speaker 2: been in the business for actually this month makes twenty
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Speaker 2: one years now, Yes, twenty one years.
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Speaker 1: Thank you.
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Speaker 2: I am also a financial services representative to provide financial
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Speaker 2: education to individuals in our community, helped them to pretty
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Speaker 2: much kind of understand what they don't understand about money,
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Speaker 2: to put themselves in a better position, and recently actually
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Speaker 2: also launched Aspire Entrepreneurs Network, which is a networking, support
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Speaker 2: and resource community for small business owners and aspiring entrepreneurs.
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Speaker 1: I love that, listen, that's a great resume. Well, thank
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Speaker 1: you for being here, and we have someone the og
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Speaker 1: of kicking it with Kikill people. They should know you
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Speaker 1: by now, but tell.
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Speaker 3: Them they sure.
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Speaker 1: Well.
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Speaker 3: I'm Simone higginbotham. I am the owner and founder of
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Speaker 3: I call it Rebirth Weekend of Legends, which includes Rebirth Magazine,
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Speaker 3: Legend Awards, br and also a new thing that I've
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Speaker 3: thought nothing but I call it I guess a journey
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Speaker 3: a new initiative, weekend Girl dot com, which is a website,
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Speaker 3: a lifestyle website for women, and I came with that
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Speaker 3: about two years ago because I find that Monday through Friday,
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Speaker 3: we're often we're busy, we're running, we're doing this, we're
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Speaker 3: wearing so many different hats that we never get a
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Speaker 3: chance to do anything for us. So the weekend is
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Speaker 3: like a reprieve. Became a reprieve for me, a place
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Speaker 3: where I could time a moment in time that I
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Speaker 3: could take those couple of days to kind of do
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Speaker 3: some self care, to renew myself, refresh myself. So that's
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Speaker 3: how I came up with that, and I started living
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Speaker 3: my life on the weekend because money through Friday was
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Speaker 3: absolutely out of the question to do anything that I
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Speaker 3: needed to do as far as self care. So that's
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Speaker 3: who I am. And getting our first event for a
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Speaker 3: Weekend Girl that's coming up.
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Speaker 1: In March, which is you Done. Got all into my
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Speaker 1: talking points. I talked to people who we are you
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Speaker 1: Done talked about the Weekend Girl, but we do talk
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Speaker 1: a little bit more in depth about it, because you know,
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Speaker 1: Monday through Friday is all business. It's all family. We
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Speaker 1: barely have time to even breathe because you coming home
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Speaker 1: making sure that if you have kids, you're taking care
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Speaker 1: of the kids. If you're marriage, you have the spouse,
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Speaker 1: you have dinner and all the things, going to school,
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Speaker 1: running businesses, and so just talk about the importance of
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Speaker 1: making time for yourself. And I know the weekend gear
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Speaker 1: and I'm a part of the organization, so I'm excited
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Speaker 1: about it. I know that you just told the listeners
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Speaker 1: how you came about. But what is something that you
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Speaker 1: pride yourself on doing on the weekends to make sure
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Speaker 1: that you're practicing that self care that you need that
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Speaker 1: you don't get throughout the week.
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Speaker 3: Most times, it's not anything really really big, if it's
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Speaker 3: just having me a moment where I can Most times,
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Speaker 3: I do a lot of reading. I love to read,
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Speaker 3: and I found that as I got older and I
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Speaker 3: got more responsibilities and things that I didn't have the
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Speaker 3: opportunity to read. So that's one of the main things
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Speaker 3: that I do fare myself for the following week, the
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Speaker 3: week coming up, this stuff, take some time and read
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Speaker 3: about different things, okay, different topics, and now as of late,
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Speaker 3: a lot of self care stuff.
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Speaker 1: Okay, what about you, miss Pamela. What is something that
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Speaker 1: you do on the weekend to reward yourself for having
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Speaker 1: that hectic week Because you that resumes you just put
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Speaker 1: out that's a lot, so I know that you need
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Speaker 1: some time for that self care. So what is something
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Speaker 1: that you try to incorporate over the weekends to practice
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Speaker 1: that self care? Definitely, well, KICKI before i tell you
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Speaker 1: what I do over the weekend, I'm gonna I actually
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Speaker 1: should have said this earlier. I am very happy that
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Speaker 1: I have had the opportunity to join the Rebirth and
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Speaker 1: Weekend Girl Family as the engagement coordinator.
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Speaker 2: So I'm very excited about that. So basically on the weekend,
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Speaker 2: at the start of the weekend, my very first treat,
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Speaker 2: which basically goes into this as part of self care
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Speaker 2: for me, is visiting with the one and only your collater,
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Speaker 2: which is the person that keeps my hair looking the
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Speaker 2: way it looks.
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Speaker 4: I visited with.
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Speaker 2: Her on Fridays and to have my hair pressed. But
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Speaker 2: then after that, I'm an avid gardener. I have a
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Speaker 2: raised bed vegetable gardening. The gardening is therapeutic for me.
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Speaker 2: It's basically therapy. So I like to grow my own vegetables.
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Speaker 2: I spend some time in the garden. Just like Simon,
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Speaker 2: I love to read. I'm an avid reader. I definitely
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Speaker 2: love to read, and just like to just enjoy quality,
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Speaker 2: peaceful moments, quality peaceful moments, and then sometimes just getaways,
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Speaker 2: you know, a vacation or just to get away. It
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Speaker 2: doesn't have to be an extended period of time. It
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Speaker 2: doesn't have to be a week long vacation. You can
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Speaker 2: literally just go away sometimes overnight, or even have a staycation,
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Speaker 2: you know, right there where you live in your own city,
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Speaker 2: just to get away and relax and enjoy the time
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Speaker 2: for yourself.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely, and everything that you said is like, I love it.
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Speaker 1: It's just makes my spirit just smile because I grew
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Speaker 1: up my grandparents had a farm, so we was always
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Speaker 1: outside doing forming stuff, gardening stuff, growing vegetables that he had,
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Speaker 1: hogs and chickens running around and all of that. So
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Speaker 1: that's nostalgic for me to hear that it's still out
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Speaker 1: there because I lost them. But those memories you just
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Speaker 1: brought back so many amazing memories for me. I love
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Speaker 1: that y'all love to read, because I got like seventeen
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Speaker 1: books now I'm all a elable on Amazon.
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Speaker 3: Look, Kiki, I think my daughter has most of your books.
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Speaker 1: I think she does. Yes, absolutely, But miss Pemley, you
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Speaker 1: just said something and I want you to elaborate on
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Speaker 1: it a little bit more about having those quality peaceful moments. Yes,
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Speaker 1: the importance of that, because we sometimes take for granted
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Speaker 1: that piece that we should try to embrace on a
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Speaker 1: daily basis. But it's so hectic, chaotic social media with
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Speaker 1: life happening and all the things. But just expound upon
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Speaker 1: having those quality peaceful moments.
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Speaker 3: Right and you know, like you just said, you know,
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Speaker 3: life is busy.
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Speaker 4: Life is busy.
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Speaker 2: It's very hectic for all of us, and especially women.
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Speaker 2: Knock to knock the men, but you know, women, it
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Speaker 2: can be especially busy women who are moms, especially women
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Speaker 2: with multiple children, working mothers, career women, just balancing work,
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Speaker 2: raising children, taking care of the home. Many individuals also
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Speaker 2: have businesses, you know, outside of that, and taking care
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Speaker 2: of yourself is easy to lose focus on that. You know,
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Speaker 2: before you realize that you've come to the end of
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Speaker 2: the day and you have not made yourself a priority
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Speaker 2: in those days go on and before you know, you're
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Speaker 2: at the end of the week and you still have
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Speaker 2: not made time for yourself, and then the kind of
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Speaker 2: repeats itself.
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Speaker 4: Over and over and over.
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Speaker 2: But you know, we have to stop and think about
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Speaker 2: ourselves and take time to have those moments where we
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Speaker 2: can just kind of clear everything from our mind, where
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Speaker 2: we can just have a moment of peace and solitude.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely, and Simon, what about you, how would you define
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Speaker 1: a quality piece for moment? For you?
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Speaker 3: To be honest, I'm gonna have to leave outside of
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Speaker 3: my bedroom. That's my sanctuary. That's where I do most
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Speaker 3: of mine when I connect to my spirituality, where I
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Speaker 3: connect to who I am. With a book, if I'm journaling,
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Speaker 3: I love documentaries, and often I take time to catch up.
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Speaker 3: You know, a lot of times we don't have conversations
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Speaker 3: with people anymore, and maybe not be in person, but
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Speaker 3: just making phone calls. If it's no more than just
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Speaker 3: talking to my great aunt who's ninety nine years old,
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Speaker 3: you know, taking that time when I'm not able to
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Speaker 3: speak to her during the week a whole lot, but
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Speaker 3: I'm able to speak with her on the weekend and
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Speaker 3: talk to her and I learn a lot from her.
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Speaker 3: Every time I talk to her, I learned something new,
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Speaker 3: not only about her, but about myself. Maybe the reason
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Speaker 3: why I do certain things I learned from her. So
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Speaker 3: just inside and I've worked very very hard and making
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Speaker 3: my bedroom a sanctuary for me where it's comfortable. I've
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Speaker 3: gotten into candles for different reasons, different since I've gotten in,
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Speaker 3: like I said, different books and I have. You know,
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Speaker 3: I used to limit myself to certain types of books
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Speaker 3: that I've read, but now I have become more open
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Speaker 3: to things that I wouldn't normally be interested in. So
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Speaker 3: I've enjoyed that just just just a simple quiet time.
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Speaker 3: I don't have to be doing anything, just some quiet moments,
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Speaker 3: this quietness. You know, life is so loud, you know,
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Speaker 3: and so life and when people say that when you're lifing,
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Speaker 3: it can become extremely loud. So just having quiet time
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Speaker 3: and having that time to your So that's what just
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Speaker 3: a few of the things that I do, and what
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Speaker 3: I see is, you know, the time that I take
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Speaker 3: to do that.
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Speaker 4: I like that word she use, sanctuary. I like that word.
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Speaker 2: It doesn't have to be a big elaborate space, but
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Speaker 2: an area that's for you. Like my sanctuary is my
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Speaker 2: little small home office that's a space for me. I
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Speaker 2: can go in there and close the door, turn the
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Speaker 2: lights off, and that's my space, right.
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Speaker 1: I also have a home office I work in here,
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Speaker 1: but I also have y'all see the vibrant colors and
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Speaker 1: things that I have, So it's a sanctuary for me
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Speaker 1: as well. We have another guest that has joined us,
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Speaker 1: So Sierra, come on off and mute and tell these
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Speaker 1: people who you are what you do. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome.
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Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, good people. Sorry for my tardiness, but I
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Speaker 2: am Sierra Ariel. I am a author, a motivational speaker
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Speaker 2: as well as a life coach working with you when
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Speaker 2: it comes to your mental and building your confidence.
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Speaker 1: I love that. I love that. So we were just
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Speaker 1: talking about the having quality peaceful moments for you. What
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Speaker 1: would be like a quality peaceful moment?
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Speaker 3: I know, I don't think anyone said it, but the
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Speaker 3: bathroom is my time.
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Speaker 2: More more so the shower than the toilet, just because
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Speaker 2: we are in the midst of partty turning our two
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Speaker 2: year old, so that time is not not the best time.
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Speaker 2: But getting in the shower, yeah, I think that's my
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Speaker 2: space to just kind of zone out, forget about time,
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Speaker 2: forget about being a mom at the moment, and just
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Speaker 2: you know, letting the water hit you. Sometimes I may
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Speaker 2: have taken a shower already. Sometimes I just go in
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Speaker 2: there and do it again just to get that time.
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Speaker 1: I love that. I love my bathroom to have a
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Speaker 1: blue light in there. And I get in my tub
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Speaker 1: and I soaked, and I realized, oh, you done been
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Speaker 1: here too long. I was all strip it up and
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Speaker 1: stuff like that. But you need that place where you
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Speaker 1: can just kind of zone out. Becomes then you know,
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Speaker 1: turn the noise off, like Timon said, because the older
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Speaker 1: I get, the less noise I like. I don't like
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Speaker 1: it to be quiet, yes, like noise disrupts my peace.
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Speaker 3: I don't know.
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Speaker 1: And Starry got a two year old, God bless.
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Speaker 3: You, and expecting another one, so.
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Speaker 1: Congratulations. Yes, look my crewch My son just made sixteen,
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Speaker 1: and my daughter just turned twenty eight, and I just
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Speaker 1: had a birthday. Like Christmas and birthdays, like the holiday
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Speaker 1: season is busy for us, like what you think, and
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Speaker 1: having birthdays and then Christmas and then the other birthdays.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, we make it work. I love that you
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Speaker 1: guys are all about the self, because if we cannot
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Speaker 1: tap into the spirit of self, we're no good to
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Speaker 1: anybody else. So I want to talk about the importance
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Speaker 1: of having self acceptance once because I think that that
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Speaker 1: starts the self care journey as well as self love,
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Speaker 1: self motivation, self discovery and all of that. You have
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Speaker 1: to be able to accept yourself wholeheartedly to tap into
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Speaker 1: those things. So, if you had to give a definition
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Speaker 1: to self acceptance, Seer, what it would it be? And why?
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Speaker 2: I think when you say acceptance that hits home for
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Speaker 2: me because this year I definitely said that this, you know,
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Speaker 2: just grieving the old person without the kids, without the
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Speaker 2: husband and all of that, and being able to accept
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Speaker 2: like this new life of you know, motherhood and being
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Speaker 2: able to just juggle the business, the home life and
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Speaker 2: things like that. Sometimes that could have its own standard,
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Speaker 2: you know, So being able to like tear that down
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Speaker 2: and say, Okay, this is what I can handle, and
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Speaker 2: this is what I can't handle. This is who I
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Speaker 2: am and this is who I'm not. And so just
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Speaker 2: being able to accept that part of me and being
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Speaker 2: balanced in those spaces is enough for me.
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Speaker 4: Love it.
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Speaker 1: What about you, Simon, If you had to give self
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Speaker 1: acceptance a definition, what would it be and why?
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Speaker 3: Well, I'm gonna say this, self acceptance for me would
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Speaker 3: be being able to know who you are, know who
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Speaker 3: you are, what you're willing to accept, what are you
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Speaker 3: willing to do, accepting who you were prior to who
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Speaker 3: you're becoming. And I would say my reasons for that
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Speaker 3: is why a lot of people don't know this unless
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Speaker 3: you know me. Know me. I was my mother's caregiver
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Speaker 3: until she passed, from the time I was thirty years
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Speaker 3: old until I was forty four years old, and at
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Speaker 3: that time my mother became her health began to fail her.
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Speaker 3: I was going through a divorce from an abusive marriage.
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Speaker 3: So at that point, from jumping into that, I never
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Speaker 3: had been married young, having a child, pretty much a
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Speaker 3: young person, I never got really a chance to figure
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Speaker 3: out who I was, what I liked, my likes, my dislikes.
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Speaker 3: So after my mother passed, and at that time my
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Speaker 3: daughter was an adult, I had to reinvent me, figure
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Speaker 3: out what I liked, what I didn't like, what I
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Speaker 3: was going to accept, what I wasn't going to accept.
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Speaker 3: So for me, that's what it was, But that was
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Speaker 3: my reason. I was at a turning point, and I'm
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Speaker 3: gonna be honest with you. In twenty fifteen, aug was
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Speaker 3: in two twenty fifteen my mother passed and I was
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Speaker 3: completely lost. I didn't know what I was gonna do.
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Speaker 3: I really had no I was living for her and
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Speaker 3: living for the person that had me, and living for
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Speaker 3: the person that I had, which was my daughter. So
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Speaker 3: outside of those two people, I knew nothing about what
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Speaker 3: life was. So I was almost like even though I
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Speaker 3: was forty four, I was like a person that was
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Speaker 3: eighteen years old that's leaving to go to college and
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Speaker 3: experience in life. So for the last nine almost ten years,
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Speaker 3: I've been experiencing life on my own terms and doing
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Speaker 3: what I want when I want to, how much I want,
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Speaker 3: If I don't, I don't, If I do, I do,
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Speaker 3: mm hm.
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Speaker 1: I love that. I love that. What about you, miss
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Speaker 1: miss Pamela. If you had to give self acceptance a definition,
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Speaker 1: what would it be and why?
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Speaker 2: The first and foremost, you know, understanding that we are
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Speaker 2: all different.
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Speaker 4: We're all different.
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Speaker 2: You know, God has created each and every one of
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Speaker 2: us unique, and you know we're kind of living in
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Speaker 2: an age now where everyone's trying to kind of fit
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Speaker 2: the mold. Then you know, kind of everyone's trying to
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Speaker 2: be the same, and you know we're all different and
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Speaker 2: being able to understand that we're all uniquely created and
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Speaker 2: being happy with we've been created to be in and
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Speaker 2: accepting who we are now. Are we always the same person? No,
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Speaker 2: you know we go through different phases of life. We
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Speaker 2: definitely do. And you know, like some was saying, You're like,
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Speaker 2: I've been someone's mother since I was twenty years old,
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Speaker 2: and you know, mother someone's wife, and over just my
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Speaker 2: years in life, you know, I've definitely evolved, and you
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Speaker 2: know there was a point where, you know, you have
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Speaker 2: to kind of shift some things and at some point
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Speaker 2: kind of shift who you are. You know, I know
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Speaker 2: there was a point where my entire life was consumed
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Speaker 2: with my family, you know, with my children, and you
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Speaker 2: kind of get to.
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Speaker 4: The point of where sometimes you're like, who am I?
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Speaker 4: You're trying to figure out who am I?
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Speaker 2: And you know, my children are older now, they're sixteen,
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Speaker 2: nineteen and twenty seven, you know, going on twenty seven,
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Speaker 2: twenty six, one on twenty seven, and so I kind
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Speaker 2: of now I'm at a point now the last couple
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Speaker 2: of years where I'm kind of like evolving again.
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Speaker 4: And I've had some individuals say, well, you know you're changing,
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Speaker 4: are you?
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Speaker 2: I'm like, no, I'm just this is just another phase
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Speaker 2: of my life and we're just moving into another phase.
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Speaker 4: And just you know, I want to be me.
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Speaker 2: I don't want to be anyone but me and who
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Speaker 2: I've created to be and whoever I'm supposed to be
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Speaker 2: at this moment in time in my life, and just
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Speaker 2: a hands on whoever that person.
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Speaker 1: Is, absolutely And I want to switch back to something
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Speaker 1: that that Sierra talked about having that balance, and I
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Speaker 1: want to talk about having that work life balance. We
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Speaker 1: have to be able to balance in order to stay
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Speaker 1: in control because otherwise we become unhealthy, unhappy, resentful and
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Speaker 1: all the things, and that can destroy relationships both you know,
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Speaker 1: career wise as well as home life. So let's talk
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Speaker 1: about the importance of having that, like the work life balance,
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Speaker 1: and I'll start with miss Pamela. Let's talk about that.
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Speaker 2: Well, it is critical to have that work life balance.
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Speaker 2: It is critical, and you know, especially you know, except
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Speaker 2: you know, for for career on moms, you know, working
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Speaker 2: with children. If you don't consciously make the effort to
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Speaker 2: ensure that balance is there, it's not going to be there.
20:05
Speaker 2: And like you said, you will go into fall into
20:08
Speaker 2: moments where you can become resentful because you feel like
20:12
Speaker 2: you have no time for you, You feel like no one
20:14
Speaker 2: is thinking about you. It's all about everyone else and
20:17
Speaker 2: no one is thinking about you, right, So you know
20:21
Speaker 2: which goes back to you know, having creating purposeful moments,
20:26
Speaker 2: you know where you know you you can create that balance.
20:28
Speaker 4: I know, you know, for myself, I'm a schedule person.
20:31
Speaker 2: You know, I am a scheduled person, and you're just
20:34
Speaker 2: kind of incorporating things where you know, you know how
20:37
Speaker 2: your day is going to look, where you know, you
20:40
Speaker 2: know what you have to do for your family, you
20:42
Speaker 2: know how what you have to do for your job,
20:44
Speaker 2: but also ensuring that you're adding in those things that
20:47
Speaker 2: you have to do for yourself.
20:48
Speaker 1: Absolutely, what about you see err because y'all you it
20:52
Speaker 1: seemed like your household gout life going on around here.
20:56
Speaker 3: I appreciate all patience.
20:59
Speaker 2: I think the work life balance has gotten a lot
21:02
Speaker 2: better for me just because I learned how to say
21:05
Speaker 2: no and to set the boundaries on.
21:09
Speaker 4: Like what I will and will not do.
21:11
Speaker 2: Because of that, I don't bring work home once once
21:14
Speaker 2: I clock out, that's it. We I'm with that and
21:18
Speaker 2: just being able to also being that I do juggle
21:22
Speaker 2: my own business to have days where it's like, Okay,
21:25
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do this on this day. This is my schedule,
21:29
Speaker 2: Like Miss Familla said, like that is important because I
21:33
Speaker 2: am very family oriented. I want to be present. I
21:36
Speaker 2: want to be present with my husband. I want to
21:38
Speaker 2: be present with my children. So not to make the
21:43
Speaker 2: job of distraction, but to make it beneficial for me
21:46
Speaker 2: and my.
21:47
Speaker 1: Family absolutely, Simone, how do you how do you handle
21:50
Speaker 1: that that work? You know, tap into the work life
21:53
Speaker 1: balance because you you have a lot going on too,
21:56
Speaker 1: you don't. But I've gotten a lot better.
21:58
Speaker 3: I decided that when I'm fifty that I was going
22:01
Speaker 3: to learn to delegate. So I'm a person that tried
22:03
Speaker 3: to do it all and I've come to the realization
22:07
Speaker 3: that I had to learn to delegate. I had to
22:10
Speaker 3: learn to ask for help. It took me a while
22:12
Speaker 3: to get there. And another thing I realized is that
22:15
Speaker 3: whatever that it is, you know, I do a lot
22:16
Speaker 3: of stuff, community stuff, advocate for a lot, but I
22:20
Speaker 3: can't be everywhere. Everybody in me too. If you would
22:23
Speaker 3: see my inbox emails inviting me and I used to
22:27
Speaker 3: try to be at everything, sometimes three four five things
22:30
Speaker 3: a day, and I decided you can't do this, and
22:32
Speaker 3: you know, I just could not. And if it doesn't
22:36
Speaker 3: align with what I'm trying to what my life's mission is.
22:40
Speaker 3: If it doesn't align what I'm trying to do, I
22:42
Speaker 3: can't do it. You know, I'll help in any other
22:45
Speaker 3: kind of way. I'll put the word out about it,
22:47
Speaker 3: I'll share it or whatever. But I just can't be
22:49
Speaker 3: everything for everybody anymore because in the process of showing
22:54
Speaker 3: up for everybody, but someone so and even that goes
22:58
Speaker 3: with you know, my daughter, I have one, one child,
23:01
Speaker 3: but she knows I'm at mother. I'm gonna do everything.
23:06
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be there for her. I'm gonna do everything possible.
23:08
Speaker 3: I'm gonna shore but she has to learn U had
23:12
Speaker 3: to learn that. You know, I'm your mother, but you're
23:15
Speaker 3: an adult, You're married, you have a husband, you have
23:18
Speaker 3: a child, you have your own household. You know. Now,
23:21
Speaker 3: if it's an emergency or something like that, yeah, of
23:23
Speaker 3: course I'm gonna always be there for it, but just
23:25
Speaker 3: being there because a mama, you know, you we all
23:28
Speaker 3: we're all mothers. So, but Sierra hasn't experienced this yet.
23:31
Speaker 3: You know, when you get that text to that call,
23:33
Speaker 3: you hear that Ma, you know a question? You do
23:39
Speaker 3: that text Ma, you know something something? Want it? They
23:43
Speaker 3: want you to do something. So even with her, I
23:46
Speaker 3: had to create boundaries. And that's one of my things.
23:50
Speaker 3: I've just had to learn to delegate. And I had
23:52
Speaker 3: to realize everything cannot align with what I'm trying to
23:55
Speaker 3: achieve in life, and I have to learn to show
23:58
Speaker 3: up for me.
23:59
Speaker 1: Absolutely, you're not showing up for you. How you gonna
24:02
Speaker 1: show up for anybody else? Yes, you have to be
24:05
Speaker 1: able to show up for yourself. So let's talk about
24:08
Speaker 1: the the event coming up, Blossom and Brunch. How did
24:13
Speaker 1: that all come about? What's the mission behind it? And
24:17
Speaker 1: all the things? Tell the listeners. If you're in the
24:20
Speaker 1: band rouge ham An area, y'all can get y'all tickets,
24:25
Speaker 1: tell them when the date is, let's go. Let's let's
24:27
Speaker 1: talk about the event because we could go on and
24:29
Speaker 1: on about self love and life balance and boundaries and
24:33
Speaker 1: all of that, but we have other missions for the
24:36
Speaker 1: party for people to hear about the events. So let's
24:39
Speaker 1: talk about Blossom and Brunch.
24:42
Speaker 3: I've done I've done a ton of events, but this
24:44
Speaker 3: one is very near and dear to me because in
24:47
Speaker 3: the last like before we got on to talk about this,
24:51
Speaker 3: the discussion that we're having, we were talking about my
24:54
Speaker 3: reason behind it, my reason I found myself going to brunches,
24:58
Speaker 3: teas and all these events that are supposed to know
25:01
Speaker 3: their mission is to empower women. But it only to me.
25:05
Speaker 3: It was certain women. It wasn't all women. I want
25:10
Speaker 3: every woman. My mission is for every woman to come
25:14
Speaker 3: and be able to embrace blossom and brunch, to live it,
25:20
Speaker 3: to enjoy it, to feel comfortable, to be able to network,
25:24
Speaker 3: connect with women that they can relate to. On all
25:27
Speaker 3: of us. I don't care how different we are. We
25:30
Speaker 3: all can relate in some area. We can relate to
25:33
Speaker 3: each other. So I want them to feel comfortable. I
25:35
Speaker 3: want to have that laid back by where you can
25:37
Speaker 3: come and be comfortable and your flip flops, your tennis shoes.
25:40
Speaker 3: You don't have to be dressed to the lines. We
25:42
Speaker 3: don't want them to be dressed to the line. We
25:44
Speaker 3: want them to sit at tables in areas where they
25:47
Speaker 3: can see each other. You want to have those ten
25:48
Speaker 3: foot centerpieces where they have to look around and see
25:51
Speaker 3: who they're talking to. The mission is to not force
25:57
Speaker 3: any of my personal beliefs on them, but for them
26:01
Speaker 3: to be able to be comfortable. And we all know
26:03
Speaker 3: we've been places that as women that in the company
26:05
Speaker 3: of certain well not in company, but as certain eventually
26:09
Speaker 3: you just didn't feel comfortable. So that's the mission of it.
26:13
Speaker 3: And when I decided and why, I say, you know what,
26:16
Speaker 3: I can't do this by myself. I needed a team.
26:18
Speaker 3: So I started pulling people that I knew knew that
26:23
Speaker 3: had certain skills that they could bring to the table
26:25
Speaker 3: to make this a success. And in the process of it,
26:28
Speaker 3: they are women that they have their own businesses and
26:31
Speaker 3: that's what they're pouring into this event their business and
26:33
Speaker 3: they're gonna be Everybody involved is gonna benefit from this.
26:36
Speaker 3: It's not a one woman show. And I'm so excited
26:42
Speaker 3: about it because we just started on the first putting
26:44
Speaker 3: it out there. Uh you know some of the things
26:47
Speaker 3: that it's going to be like anything else that that
26:50
Speaker 3: they've ever attended. I promise we have some great things planned.
26:55
Speaker 3: And I'm you know, Sierra's the mind behind this. It's
26:59
Speaker 3: not me. She's the mastermind behind everything. And Miss Pam
27:05
Speaker 3: is keeping us together. She's keeping the budget together and
27:10
Speaker 3: you know, the admin things and these are people, well,
27:12
Speaker 3: I've known see her all of her life life. Literally
27:16
Speaker 3: she's my niece, so you know, I've known her literally
27:19
Speaker 3: all of her life. But miss Pam, I met her
27:21
Speaker 3: on social media and pretty much everybody that's involved. That's
27:26
Speaker 3: how I met them. But they are women that we're
27:28
Speaker 3: all doing things on our own, but we also we
27:31
Speaker 3: want to come together and share some of the things
27:34
Speaker 3: that we have to offer to women of Baton Rouge
27:37
Speaker 3: and surrounding areas. But that's what Blossom and Brunch is
27:40
Speaker 3: all about. When women when you leave Blossom and Brunch,
27:43
Speaker 3: and if you notice anybody on the flyer, it says
27:45
Speaker 3: ten a m. Until we don't want to come and
27:48
Speaker 3: feel rushed, like you know, it's a time limit. We
27:51
Speaker 3: gotta squeeze all this in and we gotta get it done.
27:54
Speaker 3: It's until and when they leave and they go back
27:56
Speaker 3: out into the big bad world, they'll have all the
27:59
Speaker 3: tools that they need for self care to be able
28:01
Speaker 3: to u love on themselves and make them make their
28:06
Speaker 3: them best possible people that they can be.
28:09
Speaker 1: Absolutely they'll be able to blossom into the woman that
28:12
Speaker 1: they're supposed to exactly. All right, you the Mastermind talk
28:18
Speaker 1: about it. Let's tell the listeners what they can We
28:20
Speaker 1: don't want to give away stuff because we want to
28:22
Speaker 1: sell the tickets and get it a little bit what
28:26
Speaker 1: they can expect by coming to this event.
28:30
Speaker 2: So the more I talk to the visionary of this event,
28:35
Speaker 2: the more that I talk to the visionary of the event.
28:38
Speaker 1: It's more like a staycation.
28:40
Speaker 3: You ever been somewhere and it's like it's a whole
28:44
Speaker 3: lot of stuff for you to do, and then you
28:45
Speaker 3: just schedule it all out and then you just go
28:47
Speaker 3: and do That's the idea that we want to take
28:52
Speaker 3: from this event, right, And so, like she said, it's
28:56
Speaker 3: until it's a whole lot of different activities. We're calling
28:59
Speaker 3: it excursions because we don't want to be like it's
29:02
Speaker 3: a workshop for a class, because now we feel like
29:04
Speaker 3: we got to come and work.
29:06
Speaker 1: It's work.
29:07
Speaker 4: We just want to relax.
29:09
Speaker 2: So it's excursions that you will be able to choose
29:13
Speaker 2: from from ten until. The idea is that once you
29:18
Speaker 2: register and you say what times are available to you,
29:21
Speaker 2: we put it to where it's it's doable for you.
29:26
Speaker 2: And so the idea is for us to for you
29:30
Speaker 2: to walk away and be able to create.
29:33
Speaker 3: That same space.
29:34
Speaker 2: So We just want to create that space to where
29:36
Speaker 2: it's not so much of a like like, it's not
29:41
Speaker 2: an event, it's an experience.
29:43
Speaker 1: It's there you go. That's the work right there, an experience.
29:48
Speaker 1: It's an experience.
29:49
Speaker 2: We want you to walk through the door and know like, Okay,
29:52
Speaker 2: this where I'm supposed to be. Whether you show up
29:54
Speaker 2: at ten or you show up at twelve, it's something for.
29:57
Speaker 1: You to do, right. Yeah, yes, I love Listen. I'm
30:02
Speaker 1: not so excited. I'm glad I'll be there. I'm looking
30:06
Speaker 1: forward to it. I think that it's amazing to have
30:10
Speaker 1: something like this because, like you said, when you go
30:12
Speaker 1: on vacation, you want to do certain things. Those excursions
30:17
Speaker 1: be lit. So I cannot wait to see what'll y'all
30:21
Speaker 1: putting together. I know it's gonna be a beautiful thing. So,
30:24
Speaker 1: Miss Pamela, what what do you want people to feel
30:27
Speaker 1: when they come to the brunch?
30:31
Speaker 2: Well, I tell you, when I think about the event,
30:35
Speaker 2: kind of think about when when a group of friends
30:39
Speaker 2: get together and they planning a sleepover and they plan
30:42
Speaker 2: all these activities they want.
30:43
Speaker 4: To do during the sleepover and have.
30:46
Speaker 2: All this fun all night long over during the sleepover,
30:49
Speaker 2: but of course, instead of a sleepover, it's gonna be
30:51
Speaker 2: a day over. It's gonna be during the daytime, and
30:54
Speaker 2: like I said, Erra said, a staycation, you know, and
30:58
Speaker 2: just really everyone coming walking in feeling completely comfortable, completely relaxed,
31:07
Speaker 2: feeling like they are amongst women that they have known
31:12
Speaker 2: their entire life. Like Simone said, she and I met
31:15
Speaker 2: each other on social media and when I was that
31:18
Speaker 2: was before any of this, you.
31:20
Speaker 4: Know, came to be.
31:20
Speaker 2: I actually reached out to her and I asked if
31:22
Speaker 2: I could call her, and we kind of had a
31:24
Speaker 2: conversation about something. Then she and I just started conversating
31:27
Speaker 2: and we were on the phone for like almost an hour,
31:29
Speaker 2: you know, talking as if we had known each other
31:30
Speaker 2: for a while.
31:31
Speaker 4: So I want, you know, women to come and just.
31:33
Speaker 2: Feel that like they are amongst women that they have
31:35
Speaker 2: known their entire lives. They are with their friend groups
31:39
Speaker 2: where they can really truly be relaxed. They don't have
31:42
Speaker 2: to feel tense or embarrassed or ashamed about anything. They
31:46
Speaker 2: can be completely relaxed and comfortable and enjoy themselves to
31:50
Speaker 2: the fullest, enjoy every activity and just not be bashful
31:55
Speaker 2: and just let it all loose and just have fun.
31:59
Speaker 2: If that's hotel, tell the people when it is how
32:03
Speaker 2: they can get tickets and come and be a part
32:06
Speaker 2: of this event.
32:08
Speaker 3: Okay, I guess it's March fifteenth, and that's a Saturday morning,
32:15
Speaker 3: and it starts at ten like we said until and
32:18
Speaker 3: it's at the Reimagined Woman Center. That's a seventy six
32:23
Speaker 3: hundred airline highway, and they can get tickets at www
32:27
Speaker 3: dot Weekend hyphengirl dot com.
32:31
Speaker 1: Got it, And all of this information would be in
32:33
Speaker 1: the show notes, guys, so you don't have an excuse.
32:36
Speaker 1: You can go rewind, re listen however you want to
32:40
Speaker 1: do it, and you will have it, or just look
32:43
Speaker 1: at the show notes and read it and click on
32:45
Speaker 1: the link, because I will have that available for you, guys.
32:48
Speaker 1: But I love I love the concept behind it. I
32:51
Speaker 1: love the concept behind the Weekend Girl. And so let's
32:55
Speaker 1: talk about the importance of forming community and sisterhood because
32:59
Speaker 1: we talk about the hatefulness and the back burning and
33:02
Speaker 1: gossip and you know, just cat fighting and stuff all
33:05
Speaker 1: the time. We see it on social media and things
33:07
Speaker 1: like that. I don't partake in any of that. If
33:11
Speaker 1: I can't uplift my sister, then you know, I'm gonna pray.
33:15
Speaker 1: We ain't got to be friends, but I don't have
33:17
Speaker 1: nothing bad to say. You ain't got to be in
33:19
Speaker 1: my circle and have to be in yours. But I'm
33:21
Speaker 1: gonna still ask God to lead your path. That's just
33:23
Speaker 1: how I've always been having that community and sisterhood. What
33:29
Speaker 1: do you guys think about the importance of forming that
33:32
Speaker 1: because we all need that, whether we want to believe
33:34
Speaker 1: it or not. God didn't put us here to be
33:36
Speaker 1: alone in life.
33:37
Speaker 3: Out of all those things that you didn't name that
33:39
Speaker 3: you didn't say this one thing as a sisterhood what
33:43
Speaker 3: this is what I see a lot of And I
33:46
Speaker 3: work hard myself personally to impart on people, especially women,
33:53
Speaker 3: that this is not the way and it's not the
33:55
Speaker 3: way it's supposed to be. I see a lot of gatekeeping. Mh,
34:00
Speaker 3: you have gatekeeping. And you can't put gatekeeping and sisterhood
34:04
Speaker 3: in the same sentence, in the same paragraph, the same conversation,
34:08
Speaker 3: same discussion. You cannot You cannot be a gatekeeper and
34:11
Speaker 3: say that you are if you want sisterhood, that you
34:16
Speaker 3: want to create opportunities for sisterhood to happen. You cannot
34:20
Speaker 3: empower other women if you are a gatekeeper. So what
34:24
Speaker 3: sisterhood and community looks like to me is you being
34:28
Speaker 3: your sister's keeper, not a gatekeeper. I am my sister's keeper.
34:33
Speaker 3: Anybody that anybody, you can't find one person on the
34:36
Speaker 3: face of this earth that's ever text me, call me
34:38
Speaker 3: or email me and ask me how to do something,
34:40
Speaker 3: how to get something, how to find something, And I
34:43
Speaker 3: didn't tell them. If I knew personally, I'm going to
34:45
Speaker 3: help you. I'm going to show you. If I don't know,
34:48
Speaker 3: then I'm going to connect you to the person that
34:50
Speaker 3: can help you. That's what sisterhood looks like. We have
34:54
Speaker 3: to be our sister's keeper. And that means not in
34:57
Speaker 3: the good times, but in the bad times and in
34:59
Speaker 3: between times, all times. I'm a firm believer that no
35:03
Speaker 3: matter what's going on, I'm gonna go back a little bit.
35:06
Speaker 3: I'm a firm believer. Then what's for Simon's for Simone?
35:10
Speaker 1: Yes?
35:10
Speaker 3: And I think that's where we get caught up as women.
35:14
Speaker 3: We're so afraid that if I tell her this or
35:18
Speaker 3: I share this with her, then she's going to do
35:20
Speaker 3: better than me, She's going to be higher than me.
35:24
Speaker 3: But I feel like if I help you, and you
35:25
Speaker 3: get to where I can't with this, then you'll reach
35:27
Speaker 3: back and you'll pull me up with you. And you know,
35:32
Speaker 3: people consistently, you know. I hear women say that, you know,
35:35
Speaker 3: everybody can't go with you, you know, And to some
35:39
Speaker 3: extent I believe that. But to some extent I believe that,
35:43
Speaker 3: for the most part, most of my sisters can come
35:46
Speaker 3: with me. But you gotta be willing to be a
35:50
Speaker 3: part of a true sisterhood. I'm gonna give you a
35:53
Speaker 3: an example about sisterhood. And we don't these two lates
35:57
Speaker 3: anything that I do. They support me. We've been since
36:00
Speaker 3: we were five years old. We've been friends forty eight years.
36:04
Speaker 1: Wow.
36:05
Speaker 3: We have never had an argument, We've never been angry,
36:09
Speaker 3: we never had a spat where we go and not
36:11
Speaker 3: talk to each other. Now we don't talk to each
36:12
Speaker 3: other every day, we don't see each other every day,
36:14
Speaker 3: but we have a group text that we text at
36:17
Speaker 3: least maybe once a day or once every other day.
36:20
Speaker 3: We see each other, we do things together. But another
36:24
Speaker 3: thing we have to also know as women, what's the
36:28
Speaker 3: true definition of friendship? Is friendship and sisterhood All those
36:32
Speaker 3: two words they are intertwined and we don't know what
36:36
Speaker 3: it really is, what it really means to be a
36:38
Speaker 3: friend for me, And like ms Pam said, we're all different.
36:41
Speaker 3: But for me, what friendship is it's far to be
36:44
Speaker 3: there when I really need you. You been at my
36:48
Speaker 3: house every day does not make you my friend, right,
36:52
Speaker 3: you know, us talking on the phone every day does
36:54
Speaker 3: not make me. But when I lost my mother, that's
36:57
Speaker 3: my friend. When my daughter have lost her father and
37:01
Speaker 3: my friend, those two women were there. You know, when
37:03
Speaker 3: when Lisa lost her dad, we were there. When our friend,
37:06
Speaker 3: when when Patricia lost her husband two years ago, we
37:10
Speaker 3: were there. You know, that's when you're there. So we
37:13
Speaker 3: got to be our sister's keeper in the good, the bad,
37:18
Speaker 3: and the ugly. And that's what sisterhood and community means
37:21
Speaker 3: to surmount.
37:23
Speaker 1: And I love, I loved something that you say about
37:25
Speaker 1: believing that not everybody can come with you to a
37:28
Speaker 1: certain extent. But I believe that, yeah, not everybody's gonna
37:31
Speaker 1: be able to come with you along the journey, because
37:35
Speaker 1: God would give you the journey to go and set
37:38
Speaker 1: the pace or set that pathway for other people to
37:41
Speaker 1: follow so they won't have to go through some of
37:43
Speaker 1: the things that you encounter because he gave you that
37:46
Speaker 1: strength to endure, and so they they can see, Okay,
37:51
Speaker 1: if Kiki went and she didne had all this going
37:54
Speaker 1: on and she made it through, she done let that
37:56
Speaker 1: pathway for me. So I'm good because I know she
37:59
Speaker 1: waiting on on the other side, waiting for me on
38:01
Speaker 1: the other side. So let's just go that way. So
38:04
Speaker 1: I believe that. Yeah, now everybody can go walk on
38:07
Speaker 1: that journey as you go, but that don't mean that
38:09
Speaker 1: they can't follow as you leave.
38:12
Speaker 3: And I agree with you wholeheartedly on what you just
38:16
Speaker 3: said because I look at so many women that I
38:19
Speaker 3: see have overcome so much. That's encouragement to me. It
38:22
Speaker 3: may not be quite the same situation, but you know,
38:26
Speaker 3: all the women, you know, I can name many women
38:29
Speaker 3: that I encounter every single day of my life. And
38:32
Speaker 3: you know, people like Danita Tate, people like Liz Robinson.
38:39
Speaker 3: You know, those are women that have had tremendous loss,
38:43
Speaker 3: but they still get up every day and they go
38:47
Speaker 3: and they encourage. I heard Liz Robinson lost her son
38:51
Speaker 3: about five six years ago to violence. They interviewed her,
38:56
Speaker 3: and I watched her interview when she said, even through
38:59
Speaker 3: her her in her loss. Since her son was killed,
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Speaker 3: she has went to over two hundred mothers, been there
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Speaker 3: for them even through her own grief, in her own loss,
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Speaker 3: she was able to be those their keeper, the keeper
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Speaker 3: for those women. So people that do things that encourages me,
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Speaker 3: I don't know how. I've never lost a child, so
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Speaker 3: I have no clue. But I don't know how she's
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Speaker 3: able to do that because it's like she's reliving it.
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Speaker 3: He's literally relived it over two hundred times.
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Speaker 1: And she is one of the ones that I will
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Speaker 1: say that God gave her something special, Yes, before those
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Speaker 1: other women that she's slept, you know, pour into to
39:41
Speaker 1: help them get over their grief in the midst of
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Speaker 1: her own. I love I love how she so she
39:48
Speaker 1: she is so passionate about sharing the news, and she
39:51
Speaker 1: is leaving that legacy of her son, you know, his
39:53
Speaker 1: memory is it lives on through her constantly speaking about
39:59
Speaker 1: him and helping up women get through it. And just
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Speaker 1: I just I love seeing her on social media, and
40:03
Speaker 1: you know she was on the podcast as well. But yeah,
40:06
Speaker 1: I love that. That was a great example from what
40:09
Speaker 1: I would I would she would be the face of
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Speaker 1: what I just said about going for us to help
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Speaker 1: us along the way.
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Speaker 3: Absolutely, definitely, What.
40:17
Speaker 1: About you, miss Pammela about the community and sisterhood.
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Speaker 2: Wow, so mone just says so much, it's hard to
40:24
Speaker 2: top that about But I tell you one thing that
40:28
Speaker 2: I definitely think about, which I really believe a lot
40:32
Speaker 2: of women are concerned about this when they think about
40:36
Speaker 2: sisterhood and developing relationships, is genuine relationships. Genuine relationships, you know,
40:46
Speaker 2: ensuring that, you know, as we develop relationships and build sisterhoods,
40:50
Speaker 2: that we're really truly genuine in our intentions, you know,
40:54
Speaker 2: genuine when we were you know, assisting someone when we're
40:58
Speaker 2: giving praise and adorations and that advice, when someone you
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Speaker 2: know feels that they can come to us with confidential
41:05
Speaker 2: information for advice, being true to that genuine nature, you know,
41:13
Speaker 2: if you have built this relationship in a sisterhood, a
41:15
Speaker 2: person shouldn't have to in the back of their mind
41:17
Speaker 2: wonder if you are expressed in concern but laughing on
41:22
Speaker 2: the inside, or if you are expressed in concern but
41:25
Speaker 2: then they're good, they have they're gonna have to be
41:28
Speaker 2: concerned about hearing something from someone else because their confidential
41:33
Speaker 2: information was shared.
41:35
Speaker 4: Wouldness shouldn't have been.
41:36
Speaker 2: Or you know, they they hear that this person who
41:39
Speaker 2: they thought really truly had to bond with them really
41:44
Speaker 2: was kind of you know, happy and basting in what
41:47
Speaker 2: they're dealing with. It is really being genuine in our relationships, right,
41:53
Speaker 2: And in order to be genuine you have in that relationship,
41:55
Speaker 2: you have to be genuine in your heart.
41:57
Speaker 3: So it all starts.
41:58
Speaker 1: There, yeap, what's inwardly? All right? See our closes out
42:03
Speaker 1: about that sisterhood and community.
42:05
Speaker 3: I think it's unconditional. You have to lead in that way.
42:11
Speaker 2: So what I you know, the group of friends that
42:14
Speaker 2: I do have, they know me, I know them and
42:18
Speaker 2: even when they don't speak or when even when we
42:21
Speaker 2: don't talk because I don't talk to my my friends
42:23
Speaker 2: every day, but when I do, we always know before
42:28
Speaker 2: they even open them outh. And so I think that
42:31
Speaker 2: particular gifting or relationships should be throughout our sisterhood to
42:39
Speaker 2: where they don't have to say a word. We should
42:41
Speaker 2: just know, you know, what type of love that they
42:44
Speaker 2: need or what type of need there is in the room,
42:48
Speaker 2: and being able to meet that need without without it
42:52
Speaker 2: being anything else, you know, like no no strings attached,
42:57
Speaker 2: nothing that you had to do, nothing you had to
42:59
Speaker 2: say to me nothing.
43:01
Speaker 1: You know, if you need it, then I have it.
43:03
Speaker 2: So I think having that type of mindset in that
43:07
Speaker 2: aspect would be more beneficial within the sisterhood than like
43:13
Speaker 2: we said, we call it gatekeeping and you know, all
43:16
Speaker 2: of the things that come with that, the guardedness that
43:18
Speaker 2: some of us may have. I think those things are
43:21
Speaker 2: more important than.
43:26
Speaker 3: How we see it today.
43:27
Speaker 1: Right, I love it, I love it. But this has
43:30
Speaker 1: been an amazing episode you guys, thank you for coming
43:33
Speaker 1: to kick with me. Have one final question. I just
43:36
Speaker 1: want to ask you, guys, just to give your insight
43:38
Speaker 1: or your input on this particular question for someone who
43:43
Speaker 1: may be listening and just feel like they're alone when
43:46
Speaker 1: it comes to embracing new faces of life, like knowing
43:51
Speaker 1: that it's okay to each change, knowing its okay to evolve,
43:54
Speaker 1: and knowing is okay to let go of the old
43:57
Speaker 1: to embrace the new. So let's talk about that. Like,
43:59
Speaker 1: what wed you say to someone who's listening about embracing
44:04
Speaker 1: the new phases of life?
44:07
Speaker 2: You are not your experience, and your experienced does not
44:11
Speaker 2: just find where you're going. And a lot of times
44:15
Speaker 2: we have to be willing to accept the new knowing
44:21
Speaker 2: that it's new and that whatever you dealt with in
44:24
Speaker 2: the past is not going to be the determining factor
44:27
Speaker 2: of how you move forward. I love it, Yes, definitely,
44:33
Speaker 2: and being able to move into.
44:37
Speaker 4: Freely accepting the new.
44:39
Speaker 2: That's the only way we can be able to step
44:40
Speaker 2: into that next phase, step in to those doors that
44:44
Speaker 2: God has opened for us. You know. Without that, we're
44:48
Speaker 2: going to be that same place, stagnant place, kind of
44:52
Speaker 2: wondering what's next for me, what's out there for me?
44:55
Speaker 2: You know, we just have to you know, let it
44:57
Speaker 2: loose and just go forward. Just do it.
45:01
Speaker 1: Absolutely, just go for it.
45:05
Speaker 3: I would say that just like I think Sierra and
45:08
Speaker 3: Pam have said, you have to be able to allow
45:11
Speaker 3: it to happen. You have to be at a place,
45:12
Speaker 3: so I guess a point in your life in your journey,
45:17
Speaker 3: uh here to know that it's time for a change.
45:20
Speaker 3: And change is not always good. Uh sometimes change is
45:25
Speaker 3: not necessarily a perfect But we have to be willing
45:29
Speaker 3: to have that leap of faith. And it goes back
45:31
Speaker 3: to faith, having faith. And I've come to the point
45:35
Speaker 3: in life that whatever is, I know, whatever it's going
45:39
Speaker 3: to be, I don't fight it, but you know, whatever's
45:42
Speaker 3: going to happen, I allow it to happen. And I
45:45
Speaker 3: just have faith in my My faith is you know,
45:47
Speaker 3: I have faith in God. I used to not. I
45:50
Speaker 3: used to not be that way, but as I've gotten older,
45:53
Speaker 3: I've realized that sometimes that's the only truly what it is,
45:58
Speaker 3: the only truly reliable even you know, man, you know,
46:01
Speaker 3: man all disappoint you sometimes. Man. I used to hear
46:03
Speaker 3: my grandmother said that all the time. And be honest,
46:06
Speaker 3: I's wondering what that lady talking about. She said, man
46:09
Speaker 3: and woman, she said, we'll disappoint you, we'll let you down.
46:14
Speaker 3: But if you have faith in God, you know, the
46:17
Speaker 3: faith the side of the size of a mustard seed.
46:20
Speaker 3: And she's so right. And whatever it is that I
46:22
Speaker 3: come up against, and because you know, if it's changed
46:24
Speaker 3: or whatever the case may be, I just let go
46:26
Speaker 3: and I embrace it. Uh, embrace changes. You know this
46:30
Speaker 3: is good or bad?
46:31
Speaker 1: Uh.
46:31
Speaker 3: And it's a true statement. We all say, you know,
46:33
Speaker 3: if even if it's lemons, I take it and make lemonade.
46:36
Speaker 3: So yeah, Kiki, And if I can add one more thing.
46:40
Speaker 3: There are too many people out there, especially when they
46:43
Speaker 3: get older in life, they sit back and they go
46:46
Speaker 3: through that what if could have, would have but could
46:51
Speaker 3: have but didn't, would have but didn't?
46:53
Speaker 4: What if?
46:55
Speaker 1: Right? Absolutely, you don't want it. I mean, I know
46:58
Speaker 1: we all we don't like to talk about death and
47:02
Speaker 1: leaving this world or whatever, but it's inevitable. We all
47:06
Speaker 1: have that cross to bear. So would you rather you
47:10
Speaker 1: leave it all here and say, hey, I did everything
47:13
Speaker 1: that I can to be the best version of myself
47:15
Speaker 1: while I was here, or would you be like dang
47:18
Speaker 1: living in regret or you know, in regret. And that's
47:22
Speaker 1: one thing that I try to make sure that I
47:24
Speaker 1: never live in regret. Yeah, I made some bad decisions,
47:27
Speaker 1: but they have helped shape and mow me into the
47:30
Speaker 1: person that I am today. So I'm able to talk
47:33
Speaker 1: about it with my kids or my nieces and nephews
47:36
Speaker 1: and things like that so that I can help them.
47:38
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell you what to do, but because
47:41
Speaker 1: sometimes people have to learn the hard way, but I'm
47:43
Speaker 1: gonna be here to hold you and say, you know,
47:46
Speaker 1: you know, what did you learn from that? Is? Let's
47:49
Speaker 1: talk about it because I have a similar experience. You know,
47:52
Speaker 1: I'm not one of those people that try to preach
47:54
Speaker 1: and things like that, because everybody don't receive from that.
47:59
Speaker 1: I'm not one of them to receive from that. But love,
48:02
Speaker 1: I love all of the answers that your lady said.
48:06
Speaker 1: This is like, I'm excited about season eight. If this
48:08
Speaker 1: is the opener of season eight, it's gonna be a
48:11
Speaker 1: great season. So I am excited about Blossom and brunch.
48:16
Speaker 1: I cannot wait to be in the space with you
48:18
Speaker 1: ladies and give you all a hug. And before we
48:22
Speaker 1: get off, are there any last words that you would
48:25
Speaker 1: like to leave the listeners with today?
48:28
Speaker 3: And this may seem a little said what's been said before,
48:33
Speaker 3: but just learn to live, love and laugh. That's what
48:36
Speaker 3: I've had to learn to do. Live, love and laugh
48:39
Speaker 3: and live with no regrets and enjoy life. Life is
48:42
Speaker 3: too short not to embrace it and love it. I
48:47
Speaker 3: just want to say, you know, just like she said,
48:51
Speaker 3: embrace the season, but also I don't know, like that
48:54
Speaker 3: just keeps ringing like.
48:55
Speaker 2: You are not your experience, You're not what you've experienced,
48:59
Speaker 2: and you know it's important that you know you're able
49:03
Speaker 2: to embrace the newness, knowing that the experience that you
49:07
Speaker 2: face can be something that you move past.
49:11
Speaker 4: Yes, Love, yourself.
49:12
Speaker 2: Love who you are, Embrace who you are, Celebrate who
49:17
Speaker 2: you are.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely so with that being said, you guys have been
49:23
Speaker 1: listening to another episode of Kicking In with Kiki, Life,
49:25
Speaker 1: love and all that other shit.
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Speaker 4: I am back.
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Speaker 1: Every Thursday with a new episode until next time. Love yourself,
49:32
Speaker 1: embrace those new new beginnings you know, don't be afraid
49:36
Speaker 1: to change and try something new. Grab your friends and
49:40
Speaker 1: see us in March at this event. I want to
49:43
Speaker 1: see y'all there. Information about the event is in the
49:47
Speaker 1: show notes again and later Purple HUDs chick in it
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Speaker 2: Well eight