Latest / Stuff Mom Never Told You / Happy Hour #191: Leveling Up on Hobbies
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- 0:05Speaker 1: Hey, this is Anny and Samantha, and welcome to stuff
- 0:07Speaker 1: I never told you a protection of iHeart radio.
- 0:18Speaker 2: And welcome to another happy hour where I talk about
- 0:22Speaker 2: hobbies in interest. Yeah, that's what's happening today. But before
- 0:27Speaker 2: we start, we are not sponsored by any of the
- 0:29Speaker 2: things that I am going to talk about. It's more
- 0:32Speaker 2: of just like I'm interested in this. How far am
- 0:34Speaker 2: I going to go into this row? If you're doing
- 0:37Speaker 2: happy hours things, do so responsibly. Annie, are you happy
- 0:42Speaker 2: our hour? Issuing things?
- 0:44Speaker 1: That was a word, I'll take it. Yeah, yes, I
- 0:49Speaker 1: still have my red RNE. I was remember when I
- 0:51Speaker 1: used to make jade and tonics, I missed the list.
- 0:55Speaker 1: If we ever get back to our sex in the City.
- 0:57Speaker 2: Well, yes, we do have to do that soon. I
- 0:59Speaker 2: don't think this year. I don't think we're gonna end
- 1:01Speaker 2: up doing it this year.
- 1:02Speaker 1: We have not forgotten it though, listeners. No, maybe maybe
- 1:06Speaker 1: I'll do a special I'll bring that back.
- 1:09Speaker 2: Well, we also need to do cocktails and beers. Like
- 1:11Speaker 2: we have fallen a little behind on what this was
- 1:15Speaker 2: because this was supposed to be less research, but it wasn't.
- 1:18Speaker 2: When I was like, I have to find products and
- 1:19Speaker 2: I have special order this and I'm not planning. I'm
- 1:22Speaker 2: just saying that's what it takes it. So that's why
- 1:24Speaker 2: we're bringing a little lazy ish. I don't know, but
- 1:27Speaker 2: that is ish.
- 1:28Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean a happy hour. You can talk about
- 1:30Speaker 1: any all kind of.
- 1:31Speaker 2: Things, right, all the things. That's what we want to do.
- 1:34Speaker 2: And today I'm talking about whether or not I'm going
- 1:37Speaker 2: to take a hobby that I have into the next level.
- 1:41Speaker 2: So Annie, I think I told you this recently, but
- 1:44Speaker 2: I have in my zoomba slash dance jam, cardio jams,
- 1:48Speaker 2: whatever you want to call it, classes have kind of
- 1:50Speaker 2: stepped up. I've been in these classes since probably like
- 1:53Speaker 2: twenty fifteen, so pretty pretty long time, over ten years,
- 1:57Speaker 2: eleven years almost. And I love my people like I
- 2:00Speaker 2: really hold them dear as a group of friends that
- 2:04Speaker 2: I love as. In fact, before the pandemic, I think
- 2:07Speaker 2: we had a birthday party and several of those friends
- 2:09Speaker 2: came to my party. It was really odd, not because
- 2:11Speaker 2: they were there, but because I had different sects of
- 2:13Speaker 2: friends there that I was trying to get to mesh
- 2:16Speaker 2: and I had new friends that I met at work
- 2:18Speaker 2: that was before you know, being trying to like that
- 2:21Speaker 2: was my last official like big birthday thing because it
- 2:24Speaker 2: made me panic because I did such things of like
- 2:27Speaker 2: bringing all those groups together. But all that to say
- 2:29Speaker 2: is I have a really fun time with them. It
- 2:31Speaker 2: is my release and for the past after pandemic, this
- 2:36Speaker 2: has been my socialization. Like I don't even see my
- 2:39Speaker 2: closest friends but like outside of you any but like
- 2:44Speaker 2: every few months. And honestly, if we didn't work together,
- 2:48Speaker 2: I probably wouldn't see you, not because we don't want to.
- 2:51Speaker 2: Because we haven't done our Sunday Sunday Sunday in forever. Yeah,
- 2:57Speaker 2: you know, so that was a pretty big deal. We
- 3:00Speaker 2: finally did some stuff and got together because of the
- 3:04Speaker 2: last of us and it was traditionally done at our house,
- 3:06Speaker 2: so we started it. We stuck with it, and we'll
- 3:09Speaker 2: do it again. But since then, I haven't seen you
- 3:12Speaker 2: at the house, like you come to dogsit, but not
- 3:15Speaker 2: really do anything else. I'm thinking about it. Do we
- 3:18Speaker 2: do something else in between? Then? Uh?
- 3:21Speaker 1: My birthday? We went our birthday, yes, for dinner.
- 3:25Speaker 2: To keep back home, didn't I You didn't come to
- 3:27Speaker 2: the house.
- 3:29Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we look. I had an excellent
- 3:35Speaker 1: Sunday Sunday Sunday this Sunday, oh and I and I
- 3:40Speaker 1: was thinking, well, because part of it is your partner's
- 3:43Speaker 1: been traveling a lot lately and he really needs to
- 3:46Speaker 1: be there. But we do need to do it again soon,
- 3:48Speaker 1: because I was like, I miss I've missed doing this.
- 3:51Speaker 2: We have not had our time together where you have
- 3:54Speaker 2: all of the cocktails themed cocktails and thoughts and my
- 3:59Speaker 2: partner loudly talk about thoughts and theories and things that
- 4:03Speaker 2: you can't believe people don't know or they should know
- 4:07Speaker 2: loudly while I'm like I'm going to bed. Yeah, it's
- 4:10Speaker 2: a happy time for all of us. But with that, so, yes,
- 4:13Speaker 2: I've been doing these classes for a while, and that's
- 4:16Speaker 2: a joy that I have. Is I love to dance.
- 4:18Speaker 2: I have always loved to dance. I've loved to dances childhood.
- 4:20Speaker 2: I tried to get into dance companies. I wasn't that good.
- 4:24Speaker 2: I think it was just my self esteem is so
- 4:27Speaker 2: low that if I can't do it immediately, then I
- 4:30Speaker 2: just quit. And that's kind of what happened with that.
- 4:32Speaker 2: But when I was in cheerleading, I loved that because
- 4:35Speaker 2: we got to dance, we got to do routines, and
- 4:37Speaker 2: that's something that really feeds me that I just love
- 4:42Speaker 2: so like my good friends shout out, I don't think
- 4:45Speaker 2: they'll ever listen to the show. But I had two friends,
- 4:48Speaker 2: Cassie and Christina. The three of us were trios, and
- 4:50Speaker 2: we would do dance routines together. Because those two were
- 4:53Speaker 2: actually in companies and they were competitive and good. I
- 4:57Speaker 2: was very jealous because they were in all the activities.
- 5:00Speaker 2: They were only children with lots of money. So but
- 5:03Speaker 2: all that to say is like we would do routines together.
- 5:06Speaker 2: We I think I've told the story about how we
- 5:08Speaker 2: had a cat funeral for like a kitten that died
- 5:11Speaker 2: immediately after being birth, and so we sang Wilson Phillips
- 5:15Speaker 2: songs over this graveyard. Yes we did, any Yes we did.
- 5:19Speaker 2: Like that's some of the things that I grew up
- 5:22Speaker 2: loving doing. And so, by the way, when I saw
- 5:25Speaker 2: Bridesmaids and they brought that song back, I was like,
- 5:28Speaker 2: my song anyway, Yeah, how could they without us? It's okay,
- 5:35Speaker 2: I'm fine. But since then, I've really found a lot
- 5:38Speaker 2: of joy in doing these classes with these group of
- 5:42Speaker 2: people who love it as much as I do. I,
- 5:44Speaker 2: Like I said, I think previously I TikTok video talked
- 5:47Speaker 2: about how these classes or the new Dance Club for
- 5:51Speaker 2: the millennials, because we don't want to go out, but
- 5:54Speaker 2: we just want to dance with people and have a
- 5:57Speaker 2: good time. So I have stepped up that game and
- 6:00Speaker 2: teaching routines myself. During these classes. I will shout out
- 6:04Speaker 2: to my teacher Fred and Gigi, who are two of
- 6:07Speaker 2: the instructors that I have been recently take getting classes with.
- 6:11Speaker 2: They have really pulled me up to do these things
- 6:13Speaker 2: and when I make up a routine, They're like, yes,
- 6:16Speaker 2: come do it. So it's so encouraging. But with that,
- 6:19Speaker 2: people in those classes have asked me to start teaching
- 6:21Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, should I? But again, my self
- 6:26Speaker 2: esteem in that I am forty five years old now, y'all.
- 6:29Speaker 2: I am tired sitting at this chair. I just complained
- 6:33Speaker 2: it was hurting my knee. I met the deductible this
- 6:37Speaker 2: year trying to fix all the joints and joint pain
- 6:39Speaker 2: that I've had. But also like I do have a
- 6:45Speaker 2: good ability to teach, Like I'm one of those people
- 6:48Speaker 2: that I've told you if I know I can do something,
- 6:50Speaker 2: I know I can do that, but it takes me
- 6:52Speaker 2: a lot to get to that point. I don't know
- 6:55Speaker 2: if they could teach a full class, an hour long class,
- 7:00Speaker 2: in a way that's fun for everyone, because that would
- 7:02Speaker 2: kill me if people got bored, if I got complaints,
- 7:05Speaker 2: if people walked out, if I didn't have enough people
- 7:07Speaker 2: a class, it would feel like a judgment on me.
- 7:11Speaker 2: And I don't know if that would kill something that
- 7:13Speaker 2: I love, you know, Like, I mean, like I get
- 7:18Speaker 2: really encouraged by the people telling me that they would
- 7:20Speaker 2: come to my class, would be so excited to do
- 7:22Speaker 2: the class with me. I've had pen them say that,
- 7:24Speaker 2: like some of the routines that I've taught. They're like,
- 7:26Speaker 2: that's so easy coming from you type with the conversation.
- 7:29Speaker 2: So I'm like, oh, that's really nice, and I would
- 7:32Speaker 2: love to be a part of that. But at the
- 7:33Speaker 2: same time, there's a lot of trepidation in trying to
- 7:37Speaker 2: do that. Again, I'm not performing for like thousands of people.
- 7:41Speaker 2: It would be a group of twenty people, you know,
- 7:44Speaker 2: dancing and just having a good time. But even like
- 7:49Speaker 2: when new people come to class and like they're standing
- 7:52Speaker 2: behind me, they may not be talking about me, but
- 7:53Speaker 2: my paranoise when they're giggling or laughing and seemingly joking
- 7:57Speaker 2: that it's it's aimed at me or or someone who
- 8:01Speaker 2: I love, or someone who is trying their best. Like
- 8:04Speaker 2: the idea that happening to the people also really freaks
- 8:06Speaker 2: me out too because of that, but that I need
- 8:09Speaker 2: to be like protecting people and be like let people
- 8:11Speaker 2: enjoy things. There's so much in that that I'm like,
- 8:15Speaker 2: I do I am interested in in this. I don't
- 8:18Speaker 2: know if that'm that confident.
- 8:30Speaker 1: There's a lot that I think a lot of people,
- 8:33Speaker 1: including myself, can relate to, and that I've said often.
- 8:37Speaker 1: You know, I turn a lot of things I love
- 8:40Speaker 1: into work and that that kind of ruins them for me,
- 8:45Speaker 1: or not ruins them, but it becomes a more stressful.
- 8:48Speaker 2: It's a have to instead of want.
- 8:50Speaker 1: To exactly, and it would become a more I have
- 8:54Speaker 1: to put more work into this, I have to be
- 8:56Speaker 1: more serious about this, I have to think more about this.
- 8:59Speaker 1: But also it is rewarding. You've been doing it for
- 9:03Speaker 1: so long, and I think that I personally think that
- 9:08Speaker 1: you're a good teacher. And so we did and I did, yeah, well,
- 9:17Speaker 1: thank you, thank you, see good teacher. I personally think
- 9:21Speaker 1: you're a good teacher. So I think there's there's a
- 9:24Speaker 1: reward to be found in that. And I do think
- 9:28Speaker 1: that if you give it a good effort, which I
- 9:32Speaker 1: know you would, because you've clearly made it your little
- 9:37Speaker 1: paranoid so you put work into it. Not parent that's
- 9:39Speaker 1: not right, but self conscious you're yeah, you're and you
- 9:43Speaker 1: know that shows that you care about it. But I
- 9:46Speaker 1: think that people do want you to succeed in general.
- 9:49Speaker 1: I think that most people do, because the pain of
- 9:56Speaker 1: failing is one you would have to endure with everybody.
- 10:00Speaker 1: I kind of want to build people up in a situation.
- 10:02Speaker 2: Like that, I would hope, so like there's definitely that
- 10:05Speaker 2: level of like seeing because I've seen others, and I
- 10:08Speaker 2: think this journey is because I've been with people for
- 10:10Speaker 2: so long in these classes, and some people who are
- 10:12Speaker 2: now wanting to teach are my fellow classmates, and so
- 10:17Speaker 2: they're like, you should do it with me, you should
- 10:18Speaker 2: do it with me. And some people who I'm like,
- 10:20Speaker 2: you might have some struggles and not because they're not trying,
- 10:23Speaker 2: but because there are some things that they don't they're
- 10:25Speaker 2: not aware that they're not doing correctly, whether it's they're shy,
- 10:28Speaker 2: so that they're not speaking out loudly to lead like
- 10:31Speaker 2: all those things, which is a matter of both like
- 10:33Speaker 2: wear a mic, like all these things are like all
- 10:34Speaker 2: these different things, but like, yeah, I do love this,
- 10:39Speaker 2: and you know, in my fantasy world, I'm like, yes,
- 10:41Speaker 2: I'm good at this. I could do this once or
- 10:44Speaker 2: twice a week. It gives me free access to like
- 10:46Speaker 2: good fitness centers that I don't have to worry about
- 10:50Speaker 2: paying for, which would be nice. Like that's honestly, that's
- 10:53Speaker 2: the other thought was, like I could get I could
- 10:56Speaker 2: I could no longer have to pay and I could
- 10:57Speaker 2: just come to this gym membership for free. That's kind
- 10:59Speaker 2: of nice. Nice, So that saves me about you know,
- 11:02Speaker 2: five hundred dollars a year leg out, you know, type
- 11:04Speaker 2: of conversation. So they're definitely those benefits. But then also
- 11:08Speaker 2: like I actually I would have to study there's you know,
- 11:11Speaker 2: certifications that you have to learn about physical fitness and
- 11:13Speaker 2: it's not easy. Like these are things are that you
- 11:15Speaker 2: should know people's healths though people don't get injured or
- 11:18Speaker 2: so like helping and assist and like in different conversations
- 11:20Speaker 2: and what type of exercise is good for this type
- 11:22Speaker 2: of people type of thing. Also, like if y'all know
- 11:26Speaker 2: about zomba, Zoomba is a cult in its own So
- 11:29Speaker 2: that would definitely not be what I would want to teach,
- 11:31Speaker 2: even though I take a lot of these classes. The
- 11:32Speaker 2: people who teach zumba that I go to do variations,
- 11:36Speaker 2: So like it's not just straight like radio mix Tibo,
- 11:43Speaker 2: which there's nothing with Tibo. I did it. I did it,
- 11:45Speaker 2: you know I'm talking about.
- 11:46Speaker 1: With Tibo's I think I did it too.
- 11:48Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not jazzer size, which there's nothing wrong with that.
- 11:52Speaker 2: I think that still exists. I know there's a big
- 11:53Speaker 2: studio in Atlanta that's still.
- 11:55Speaker 1: I think a lot of these things are coming back,
- 11:57Speaker 1: are they okay?
- 11:58Speaker 2: Okay? But like my jam is to dance tough routines
- 12:03Speaker 2: pretty easy, like adding squats and jumping jacks and all
- 12:06Speaker 2: these things into it so you can do all the variations.
- 12:09Speaker 2: So yeah, there are things that I'm thinking on. But
- 12:12Speaker 2: it does, it does put in an effort. There is
- 12:14Speaker 2: an effort, So that is the other question. Also, this
- 12:18Speaker 2: is a commitment, And if you've not heard, I have
- 12:21Speaker 2: not noticed about me. I don't commit very long to
- 12:25Speaker 2: some things in my hobbies. I still have. I've worked
- 12:29Speaker 2: on my punch needle present for you as coming, and
- 12:32Speaker 2: I pulled it out the other day. I'm still coloring.
- 12:34Speaker 2: I really love my little coloring. And a friend of
- 12:36Speaker 2: the show, Katie, got me some new markers and that's helped.
- 12:39Speaker 2: Although this one was like those are real like wet,
- 12:43Speaker 2: I don't know how, so they kind of spread a
- 12:45Speaker 2: little far. I have to hit some learning card with those,
- 12:48Speaker 2: but I like them a lot. They're pretty, They're very
- 12:50Speaker 2: good colors. I'm still doing my gardening and I've had
- 12:54Speaker 2: probably around twenty tomatoes y'all successfully.
- 12:58Speaker 1: Oh that's amazing.
- 13:00Speaker 2: And I got nine to ten more growing right now,
- 13:03Speaker 2: which I'm a little fearful because the temperatures are dipping,
- 13:05Speaker 2: so I'm like, do I need to cover them? Now?
- 13:07Speaker 2: What do I need to do? And tons and tons
- 13:09Speaker 2: of like small cherry tomatoes, about five peppers, like a
- 13:14Speaker 2: couple of them got eaten. You don't get those as
- 13:15Speaker 2: fast as the tomatoes, so but yeah, I've like five
- 13:20Speaker 2: bigger peppers and at least four jalapeno peppers, which I
- 13:23Speaker 2: have not been very spicy, but they're still yummy. And
- 13:27Speaker 2: tons of basil. I have spread that basil out everywhere
- 13:31Speaker 2: that I will say, I got tons of basil. So
- 13:33Speaker 2: the gardening stuff is happening. Well. My new venture is
- 13:36Speaker 2: trying to do like other vegetables which still need like
- 13:38Speaker 2: better land. I think that's the whole thing. But yeah,
- 13:42Speaker 2: so just adding on to the things that I'm like
- 13:45Speaker 2: as I'm getting older, like do I want to I
- 13:48Speaker 2: want to find more interests. I want to do more things.
- 13:50Speaker 2: I definitely need to be more active because I don't want,
- 13:53Speaker 2: like at my muscle to deteriorate or any of that
- 13:57Speaker 2: is less of like losing weight or doing any of
- 13:59Speaker 2: that other than like I want to make sure that
- 14:01Speaker 2: I can walk upstairs and not fall anyway. But yeah,
- 14:08Speaker 2: so let me know what have any of y'all? What
- 14:11Speaker 2: is your take? Because I think I feel like the
- 14:14Speaker 2: more and more I talk to people, it's not until
- 14:16Speaker 2: later in life that you pick up new loves and
- 14:19Speaker 2: new activities. You know.
- 14:22Speaker 1: Yeah, I could definitely see that. I could definitely.
- 14:25Speaker 2: I mean.
- 14:28Speaker 1: Not to compare you to my mom, but my mom.
- 14:32Speaker 2: Your mom is very sweet.
- 14:33Speaker 1: My mom is amazing everybody, and I actually desperately want
- 14:36Speaker 1: the two of you to meet.
- 14:38Speaker 2: I know, I cannot believe I've not met your mother yet.
- 14:40Speaker 1: Yeah, she is. She is so sweet. I actually almost
- 14:44Speaker 1: invited her when I was dog sitting to stay at
- 14:47Speaker 1: your place. You should have because your place is much
- 14:51Speaker 1: bigger than mine. So she stayed with me in my
- 14:56Speaker 1: one bedroom apartment. But she got into like a lot
- 15:00Speaker 1: of like, uh, puzzles and gardening and just all of
- 15:05Speaker 1: these things that she does that I love hearing about
- 15:11Speaker 1: her updates on them and all of that stuff. But
- 15:13Speaker 1: it wasn't anything she did when she was younger, right, Yeah.
- 15:19Speaker 2: I mean, like her reasoning and my reasoning are different.
- 15:21Speaker 2: She had children, and I feel like that was a
- 15:23Speaker 2: whole different conversation. Like a lot of people who have
- 15:26Speaker 2: children kind of pause their activities because they have this
- 15:30Speaker 2: huge responsibility and you have a lot on your plate.
- 15:33Speaker 2: So being able to divvy out work, children hobbies, you're
- 15:38Speaker 2: going to lose your hobbies first. Which we have people
- 15:40Speaker 2: who bring their children to the classes. I love that
- 15:44Speaker 2: so much, especially when kids are willing, because it is
- 15:48Speaker 2: really especially for your first time, first or second time,
- 15:50Speaker 2: it's really unnerving because you know nothing, and then people
- 15:52Speaker 2: who've been there, like me who've been ten years, know
- 15:54Speaker 2: every all of the routines. Pretty quickly, and we know
- 15:57Speaker 2: how each person paces the routine, so you catch on
- 16:00Speaker 2: pretty quickly. So for people who are brand new, they're
- 16:04Speaker 2: like oh, and having young teenagers come and do it
- 16:08Speaker 2: is one of the most fulfilling like moments. As just
- 16:12Speaker 2: a bystander, I'm like, wow, you must be really proud
- 16:14Speaker 2: that your kids want to be a part of this.
- 16:17Speaker 1: I did a bunch of because my dad was a
- 16:20Speaker 1: college professor, so I got like the you know, free
- 16:24Speaker 1: classes at the college thing. So I did like tai
- 16:28Speaker 1: chi and I did kidsboxing, and I loved it, like
- 16:32Speaker 1: and then you know, I was seventh grade, eighth grade,
- 16:36Speaker 1: but I loved it. So I think that's probably really
- 16:41Speaker 1: fun for the kids who are willing to who are like, yeah,
- 16:44Speaker 1: let's go, I think that's probably really fun.
- 16:46Speaker 2: We'll commit to it and go for it. You're like, yeah,
- 16:49Speaker 2: that's the best part of the thing is just try
- 16:51Speaker 2: it and no one's caring. People are like, oh, more
- 16:54Speaker 2: impressed that you're actually trying anything else. Yeah.
- 17:00Speaker 1: Of you know, a lot of people are more focused
- 17:03Speaker 1: on making sure they don't look silly, so on their
- 17:06Speaker 1: own moves, they're not looking at you.
- 17:10Speaker 2: Most of the time. Trying to help each.
- 17:13Speaker 1: Other exactly exactly. Well, I would love to hear an
- 17:16Speaker 1: update on this, yeah, because I mean I don't want to.
- 17:20Speaker 1: I think that you'd be great at it, but I
- 17:21Speaker 1: also don't want to pressure you into it because it
- 17:23Speaker 1: is it is a whole other undertaking. But I think
- 17:27Speaker 1: he would be good at it. Oh my mom, she
- 17:31Speaker 1: saw your cross stitching that you gave to me a
- 17:37Speaker 1: needle punch. Needle punch. Yeah, she saw that and she
- 17:41Speaker 1: was like, this is so cute or did you get this?
- 17:44Speaker 1: And I was like, my friend Samantha made this. So
- 17:49Speaker 1: your your hobbies are benefiting.
- 17:52Speaker 2: Me having back out.
- 17:54Speaker 1: Tomatoes happy times. Yeah. Yes, well, listeners, we would love
- 18:02Speaker 1: to hear about your hobbies. What you think about this?
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