Feeling Different? A Deep Dive into the Enneagram 4 Experience with Dudley Delffs

Typology · Mar 19, 2026 · 49m

There are some conversations that don't just inform you—they find you. This was one of those for me.

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Dudley Delffs—author, therapist, and a fellow self-preservation Four—and what unfolds is less of an interview and more of an honest, unguarded conversation between two people who've spent a lifetime trying to tell the truth about their lives…and sometimes wondering what it costs to do that.

We talk about the long journey of being a Four—the early years of feeling different, the instinct to hide parts of your story, and the slow, sometimes painful work…