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Episode 25 - How To Deal With People Who Are Trying To Expose You? · You Minding Your Own Business

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  Speaker 1: Hey y'all. Hey, how you doing, ma'am? I'm doing good.
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  Speaker 2: I decided to do two podcasts for the price to one,
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to the Old U versus the New You radio
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  Speaker 2: podcast and then also my podcast You Minding your Own
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  Speaker 2: Business Radio podcast. I'm your host scottis Ashin Maryama. Thank
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  Speaker 2: you guys for joining me for this episode. If you
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  Speaker 2: guys like the commentary you wanna hear more, please go
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  Speaker 2: to sprinker dot com Forward slash, You Minding your Own
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  Speaker 2: Business and The Old U Versus the New You Radio podcast.
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  Speaker 2: I appreciate y'all for joining me for this episode. This
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  Speaker 2: this podcast will also be on iHeartRadio, Spotify, Google, Spotify, Amazon,
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  Speaker 1: A little about me.
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  Speaker 2: I am a certified recovery and healing code coach as
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  Speaker 2: well as a mental health practitioner who's all about health
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  Speaker 2: people in their paths, their purpose, and their journey to
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  Speaker 2: a new and better youth through self discovery. I'm all
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  Speaker 2: about helping people to let go of what was and
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  Speaker 2: focus on what is and what will be, helping people
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  Speaker 2: to mind their own business and not focus on everybody else.
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  Speaker 1: But focus on yourself. Now. I had a podcast.
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  Speaker 2: That I did for you, minding your own business, but
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  Speaker 2: it ended up going my self. Respect leads to the
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  Speaker 2: love of self. So it's gonna stay there until I
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  Speaker 2: figure out how to move it. So it's just gonna
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  Speaker 2: be there. But today's episode, before we get started, anybody
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  Speaker 2: wants to be a guest on my podcast, or you
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  Speaker 2: want to just email me about something you're going through
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  Speaker 2: and you want some advice, or you want to do
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  Speaker 2: like dear Osha letters where I read letters on my podcast,
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  Speaker 2: or if you want to just do one on one coaching,
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  Speaker 2: or just wanna talk to me privately. I would love
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  Speaker 2: to hear what you guys got to say emails. You
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  Speaker 2: can email me at my name A s H dot
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  Speaker 2: M A R I A M A zero one at
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  Speaker 2: gmail dot com. It's a s H A dot M
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  Speaker 2: A R I A M A zero one at gmail
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  Speaker 2: dot com. I hope you guys are doing good me.
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  Speaker 2: I am hey, as some great news. I am actually moving.
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  Speaker 2: I just started doing a little bit of packing and
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  Speaker 2: tomorrow I'm gonna do some more packing. Well I might
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  Speaker 2: not pack to the weekend, but I did get a
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  Speaker 2: little bit of stuff packed. I just gotta see about
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  Speaker 2: getting everything else pretty much packed in my room. So
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  Speaker 2: and then i'm'a go in the kitchen and I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: go ahead and.
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  Speaker 1: Start boxing that stuff.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm really excited to be able to start boxing
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  Speaker 2: early because what I want to do is have some
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  Speaker 2: of this stuff already box before I get ready to move,
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  Speaker 2: so that way I wanna have to worry about that
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  Speaker 2: weekend before tryna move.
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  Speaker 1: Jenna box everything.
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  Speaker 2: That way, we're just getting like the m the minor
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  Speaker 2: stuff and then whatever I'm gonna eat that week, and
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  Speaker 2: then having somebody to come in and clean because I'm
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  Speaker 2: not gonna do it because I would need a sh
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  Speaker 2: I would need a few things, uh shampooor and I
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  Speaker 2: would need something for like the floor, but I don't
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  Speaker 2: feel like doing it, so I might pay somebody, depends
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  Speaker 2: on how long how much it's gonna cost me to
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  Speaker 2: do it. That way, I can get somebody to come
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  Speaker 2: in and clean. So that's the goal. But i'm'a combine
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  Speaker 2: these two podcasts because you minding your own business and
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  Speaker 2: the old you vers knew you kind of go together.
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  Speaker 1: And let me explain why.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people got away from the things that
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  Speaker 2: they wanted to do and the things that they were
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  Speaker 2: meant to do because either somebody talked you out of it,
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  Speaker 2: either low self esteem, low self worth, low self value,
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  Speaker 2: and no confidence in yourself, you not believing in yourself
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  Speaker 2: because everybody kept telling you weren't good enough or worthy,
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  Speaker 2: or you're still stuck in the past and you can't pretty.
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  Speaker 1: Much move forward. I want people to understand that it
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  Speaker 1: is okay to.
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  Speaker 2: For a while, you know, and I know it's not
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  Speaker 2: easy for some people, because if you're considered unattractive or
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  Speaker 2: with a disability or flaws or imperfections, you're not worthy
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  Speaker 2: of anything.
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  Speaker 1: And I know you hear it all the time.
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  Speaker 2: But I want people to understand that the old version
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  Speaker 2: of yourself is gonna always creep up every now and
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  Speaker 2: then and try to stop the new version of you
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  Speaker 2: from becoming what you are supposed to be. You're gonna
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  Speaker 2: have people from your past that's gonna come back and
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  Speaker 2: try to say things about you when you start making money,
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  Speaker 2: and they're gonna try to expose you in any way
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  Speaker 2: shape from a fashion like For example, Seanna Taylor was
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  Speaker 2: on a live talking about her situation and how people
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  Speaker 2: are saying that she got all this money and she
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  Speaker 2: took came to the cleaners and she came.
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  Speaker 1: On and she was like, well, no, it's not like that.
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  Speaker 2: Everything I got was what I came with, what I
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  Speaker 2: already had, and the fact that she's trying to move
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  Speaker 2: on and nobody's allowing her to move on and all
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  Speaker 2: this other stuff. So, like I said, when everybody kept
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  Speaker 2: saying her and Aaron Pierre were together, I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I don't think so. I don't think she with nobody
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  Speaker 2: right now. I think they might be getting to know
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  Speaker 2: each other, but I don't think they're in that phase.
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  Speaker 1: Where their girlfriend and boyfriend.
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  Speaker 2: And plus they gonna be playing in that movie, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: in that TV series with Aaron Pierre playing Green Lantern.
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  Speaker 2: So I don't know how that's gonna work out. So
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  Speaker 2: at the end of the day, that's a lot of drama,
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  Speaker 2: even for Aaron. So you ain't heart Aaron say nothing.
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  Speaker 2: Aaron has been quiet, So like I said, I think
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  Speaker 2: they're just really good friends. I think it was just
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  Speaker 2: one of the things. It being that they're getting ready
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  Speaker 2: to do the show. I think it was just one
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  Speaker 2: of the things to see how people would be able
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  Speaker 2: to relate to their chemistry. But like I said, you know,
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  Speaker 2: a lot of in the industry has done that when
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  Speaker 2: it comes to celebrities. That's in some like Mister and
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  Speaker 2: Missus Smith when it came to that situation. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I would like to see Tiana and Aaron playing Mister
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  Speaker 2: and Missus Smith.
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  Speaker 1: That would actually be cool.
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  Speaker 2: But as far as them being together, I highly doubt
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  Speaker 2: they're at that place because the way Tiana is right now,
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  Speaker 2: I don't think Tianna's ready for that.
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  Speaker 1: I think Tianna got too much going on, and I
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  Speaker 1: think she's just trying to figure it out.
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  Speaker 2: And like I said, I think he's just being a
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  Speaker 2: great friend to her. I think he's just being there.
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  Speaker 2: And I think he actually said that they were not dating,
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  Speaker 2: So I don't think it's true.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people had to take that back because
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  Speaker 1: you notice.
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  Speaker 2: Like I said, right after we saw them at the Oscars,
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  Speaker 2: we ain't seen nothing else about them. So that's why
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  Speaker 2: I said, if they were together, you would see them
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  Speaker 2: out and about together like you see Zeeen there and
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  Speaker 2: Tom Holland you see them out about you know what
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying. So if they were really together, you would
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  Speaker 2: see them outside of award shows and award settings, you
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  Speaker 2: would see them outside literally out and about. We've only
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  Speaker 2: seen them at award shows. So, like I said, are
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  Speaker 2: they hanging out getting to know each other?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Are they in a relationship.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think it has gotten to that point yet,
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  Speaker 2: but I believe they are spending time together and I
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  Speaker 2: believe they are getting to know.
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  Speaker 1: Each other, and there's nothing wrong with that.
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  Speaker 2: But again, when you had the past lingering and you
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  Speaker 2: got baby daddies and baby mamas and all these people
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  Speaker 2: that are coming back and trying to destroy your life
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  Speaker 2: and don't want you to move on and don't want
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  Speaker 2: you to be happy, You're gonna have to clean up
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  Speaker 2: that before you can even bring somebody new into your life.
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  Speaker 2: You can't bring somebody new in your life if you
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  Speaker 2: still got somebody old that's still trying to hate on
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  Speaker 2: you and trying to come between every single relationship that
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  Speaker 2: you've been in. It's like somebody that's going through the
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  Speaker 2: domestic violence and they're trying to move on and they
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  Speaker 2: got their egg stalking them and harassing them and harassing
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  Speaker 2: a new person that they're dating, and he ends up
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  Speaker 2: unliving the girl because the fact of the matter that
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  Speaker 2: she doesn't want to.
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  Speaker 1: Be with him them off. I can't have you, No
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  Speaker 1: one can. Man.
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  Speaker 2: People's mental state is something a lot of people need
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  Speaker 2: to be paying more attention to. You shouldn't be worried
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  Speaker 2: about somebody look like you should be more worried about
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  Speaker 2: their mental state and you should be anything else. That's
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  Speaker 2: the thing you should be focusing on, whether or not
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  Speaker 2: they're crazy or not. That should be the thing that
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  Speaker 2: you should be, for the most part, focusing on. So
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  Speaker 2: when it comes to you minding your own business, it's
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  Speaker 2: what can you do without somebody else's help, because that's
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  Speaker 2: how strong. That shows how strong you are. If you
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  Speaker 2: can be able to get standing on your own two
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  Speaker 2: feet and everybody's just the addition to you, then it
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  Speaker 2: doesn't really matter whether people come and go in your
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  Speaker 2: life because you're able to handle your own You're able.
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  Speaker 1: To do for yourself.
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  Speaker 2: So at the end of the day, like I said,
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  Speaker 2: I'm I'm all for trust and believe I'm all for
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  Speaker 2: people that can hold they own. Matter of fact, I
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  Speaker 2: have a respect for a man that can cook for
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  Speaker 2: himself and clean for himself and do all these things.
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  Speaker 1: I'm all for that.
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  Speaker 2: But what I'm not for is somebody that's lazy and
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  Speaker 2: irresponsible and I HA and living off me and leeching
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  Speaker 2: off me. That's gonna be a problem. So at the
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  Speaker 2: end of the day, like I said, you know, you
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  Speaker 2: gonna have people that's gonna sit up here and make
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  Speaker 2: you feel like and won't let go of the past
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  Speaker 2: as far as who you were. And when people go
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  Speaker 2: looking for stuff, what they don't understand is the person
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  Speaker 2: that you were is not the person that you are now.
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  Speaker 2: And the people from before are not people that are
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  Speaker 2: around you now. So they can't really tell you about
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  Speaker 2: who you were. They can only who you are now.
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  Speaker 2: They can only tell you about who you were and
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  Speaker 2: how you were years ago. But they don't know whether
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  Speaker 2: or not you're a better person or not. They don't
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  Speaker 2: know whether or not you know life is.
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  Speaker 1: Good for you or not. They don't know nothing. So
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  Speaker 1: you can't bank off somebody from somebody's past now. Even
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  Speaker 1: even with people's.
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  Speaker 2: Parents, some parents don't know nothing about their kids life.
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  Speaker 1: They know nothing about.
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  Speaker 2: What that child has been through or endured, and they
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  Speaker 2: have no idea. So at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 2: when they comes to stuff like this, You know what
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying, I need people to understand that you don't
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  Speaker 2: know how somebody else is gonna be and what somebody
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  Speaker 2: else is gonna do. You don't know. All you do
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  Speaker 2: know is that how that person is then may not
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  Speaker 2: be how they are now now. In some cases, it's
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  Speaker 2: gonna be like that where that person is exactly who
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  Speaker 2: they were back then and they're still the same person now.
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  Speaker 2: They ain't change and saved their life. But that's not
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  Speaker 2: every scenario. In every case, though, there are some people
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  Speaker 2: that have changed for the battle and some people that
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  Speaker 2: have changed for the worst. So you can't say that
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  Speaker 2: every single person twenty years ago how they were then
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  Speaker 2: is how they are now, because there are a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people that have grown that have evolved and elevated
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  Speaker 2: into great people. So you can't say, oh, this person
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  Speaker 2: was like this twenty years ago and this is what
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  Speaker 2: they did twenty years ago. But just because that person
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  Speaker 2: did something twenty years ago does not mean that's how
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  Speaker 2: they are now.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the part that irks my nerves.
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  Speaker 2: When you got people saying, well, this person said this
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  Speaker 2: is how you were twenty years ago and this is
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  Speaker 2: how you looked twenty years ago, Well guess what that
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  Speaker 2: was twenty years ago. I'm not the same person I
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  Speaker 2: was twenty years ago.
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  Speaker 1: I am different.
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  Speaker 2: I do things differently than what I did twenty years ago.
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  Speaker 1: But if you want to.
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  Speaker 2: Keep throwing in my face something that happened twenty years
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  Speaker 2: ago that ain't got nothing to do with the person
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  Speaker 2: I am now, then by all means, you go ahead,
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  Speaker 2: but you gonna leave me alone. At the same time,
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  Speaker 2: but when I went after a sex coat, that's what
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  Speaker 2: they tried to do, going into my past and trying
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  Speaker 2: to find all these things out about me, and couldn't
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  Speaker 2: find absolutely nothing about me because I wasn't doing nothing.
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  Speaker 2: I'm a genuinely good person and nobody has anything bad
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  Speaker 2: to really to say about me.
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  Speaker 1: So that was funny when they tried. So that's why I.
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  Speaker 2: Say, you don't know how somebody's life is and what
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  Speaker 2: they've been through. And the problem is even though they
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  Speaker 2: don't find nothing, that don't mean they ain't gonna try
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  Speaker 2: to keep finding something. Oh trust me, they will keep
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  Speaker 2: trying to find something until they find something that they
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  Speaker 2: can use against you to hurt you in some way
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  Speaker 2: shapeful a fashion. They gonna find something, whether it be
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  Speaker 2: something that you did like thirty years ago, or something
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  Speaker 2: you did in your teens, like you might've gotten pregnant.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, they'll use that against you.
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  Speaker 2: Or you might have you know, been out here in
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  Speaker 2: the sex industry, they'll use that against you. Whatever they
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  Speaker 2: can use against you to hold against.
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  Speaker 1: You to make you look bad. Trust me, they gonna
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  Speaker 1: use it.
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  Speaker 2: It don't matter what it is, anything that they can
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  Speaker 2: find to hold on to to say that you're a
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  Speaker 2: terrible person in some way, shape, m or fashion.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, trust me, they're gonna do it.
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  Speaker 2: They may say something as far as, oh, you have
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  Speaker 2: sex with all these different people.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, what if I did? What has that got to
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  Speaker 1: do with me? Now? So what if I did? So?
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  Speaker 2: What if I was with multiple people at one time
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  Speaker 2: or another? What does that got to do with a
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  Speaker 2: person that I am now? Absolutely nothing. So you want
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  Speaker 2: you wanna hold something against me that I did twenty
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  Speaker 2: years ago that has nothing to do with now. But
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  Speaker 2: you want to hold it against me because of something
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  Speaker 2: that you feel you can use as a weapon against me.
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  Speaker 1: Good luck with that, cause.
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  Speaker 2: You're not gonna use a weapon against me like that,
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  Speaker 2: cause no weapon formed against me shall prosper in that way.
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  Speaker 2: So you can't use something like that against me even
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  Speaker 2: if you try it. So when it comes down and
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  Speaker 2: stuff like this, you gotta understand that when they come
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  Speaker 2: to your past, people are going to try to use it,
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  Speaker 2: and that is just something you have to come to
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  Speaker 2: terms with and say, you know what, I'm okay with
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  Speaker 2: whoever it is trying to do whatever it is they
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  Speaker 2: trying to do.
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  Speaker 1: Because if you know you and you know yourself, then
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  Speaker 1: you know what you're capable of. So I wouldn't worry
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  Speaker 1: about it.
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  Speaker 2: I tell you that all the time, you gonna have
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  Speaker 2: people that's gonna try to break you in some way,
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  Speaker 2: shape from a fashion.
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  Speaker 1: They gonna try to break you.
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  Speaker 2: They gonna try to make you look bad, they gonna
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  Speaker 2: try to make you think it's something wrong with you.
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  Speaker 2: They gonna have you out here, you know, try and
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  Speaker 2: destroy everything you stand on because the fact that whatever reason.
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  Speaker 2: So at the end of the day, it's just like
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  Speaker 2: with like I said, Tianna Taylor, Tanana Taylor shouldn't have
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  Speaker 2: to get up there and explain nothing to nobody.
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  Speaker 1: She should have had to.
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  Speaker 2: That's her situation, regardless of what she got from a
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  Speaker 2: mon that has nothing to do with her.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it has nothing to do with anything.
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  Speaker 2: Tiana works just as hard as he did in that marriage,
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  Speaker 2: so it's not like she didn't work hard, but she
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  Speaker 2: did help him get a lot of opportunities. So in
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  Speaker 2: the end, like I said, why are people like I said,
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  Speaker 2: this is the reason why as a celebrity, it is
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  Speaker 2: really hard to be that because you got all these
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  Speaker 2: people always in your business trying to figure out.
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  Speaker 1: What you're doing, what you got.
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  Speaker 2: Going on, Why are you doing this, why you saying that?
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  Speaker 2: Why are you going about this? It's like you can't
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  Speaker 2: even have a life of your own without somebody in
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  Speaker 2: your business about something that ain't got nothing to do
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  Speaker 2: with them at all. So all these people want to
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  Speaker 2: sit up here and see you lose and see you
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  Speaker 2: broken and seeing you lonely and seeing you shut up
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  Speaker 2: and down bitter.
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  Speaker 1: That's what they wanna see you as.
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  Speaker 2: So whatever they see you as, they want everybody else
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  Speaker 2: see you that way.
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  Speaker 1: And when that don't work, they get pissed.
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  Speaker 2: Off because it don't work out that way because.
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  Speaker 1: They can't break you, they can't make you, they can't make.
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  Speaker 2: You look bad, so they mad because they can't sit
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  Speaker 2: up here and make you look like you just this
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  Speaker 2: terrible person. They mad because they just can't do that.
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  Speaker 2: And it's sad, but it's true. So you gonna have
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  Speaker 2: people that's gonna do stuff like that, unfortunately, that's gonna
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  Speaker 2: do any and everything to try to make you miserable.
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  Speaker 1: They had.
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  Speaker 2: Their whole life is invested in that. Their whole life
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  Speaker 2: is invested in seeing you miserable. Their whole entire life
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  Speaker 2: is seeing you broken and seeing you lonely and seeing
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  Speaker 2: you with nobody except alone. And now they're saying, oh,
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  Speaker 2: she's alone, now we got her. Yeah, because it it's
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: just like somebody in the domestic violence situation.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: That's what they do.
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: They strip you of all your friends and all your family,
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: and they strip you of everything. And then all of
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: a sudden, after they strip you of all of these things,
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: now they want to say, oh, well, now that we
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: done broke you, now we got you.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: Now we can do whatever we want you to you.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: Now we can tell you the shreds Now, we can
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: sit up here and and belittle you. And you have
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: nobody to help you. You have nobody's that's going to
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: defend you. You're now on your own. That's the whole point.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: They want you by yourself. They want you alone. They
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: want you with nobody. They want you with nothing and nobody.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: That is what they want, and that is unfortunately saying,
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: but this is what happens all the time, and that's
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: just what they want. They wanna see you broken and miserable,
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: and they wanna see you to where you don't have anybody.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: So that way, when you're alone, they can tear you apart,
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: and they can do it with a smile on they
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: face because nobody there to protect you, nobody there to
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: defend you. So now they now they can basically say
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: and do whatever they want to, and you.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Gotta step there and take it. What I want to say,
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: So the only way to defend yourself.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: From that is if you have you have a backbone
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: and you just don't care what they put out there,
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: because at the end of the day, the minute you
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: start caring, the minute you start explaining yourself, that other
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: person's already won. They've already won, because now you're defending
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: yourself from people you shouldn't even be defending yourself from
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: in the first place.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: Why you defending yourself from all these.
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: People that are basically essentially no matter what you say,
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: they gonna think.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: What they want to anyway.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: So there's no point of defending yourself from these people,
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: cause you gonna lose that battle.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: You gonna lose that battle miserably.
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: The best thing to do in these situations is to
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: go ahead and live your life, and regardless of what
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: anybody says.
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  Speaker 1: Your truth is your truth.
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: And like I said, you can do something that's wanning done,
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: say something, leave it alone, like I said, because it
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: don't matter whether you pour receipts, It don't.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: Matter if you prove that you're telling the truth. These
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: negative people ain't gonna stop.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: They gonna keep right on because their whole thing is
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: they wanna be right about you. They want everybody to
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: hate you, and no matter what you say, they're not
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: gonna believe you anyway.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: They're just not. So even if you even if you sit.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: Up here and you come out and say, you know, yeah,
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: it a long time ago. I did this when I
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: was younger, but that has nothing to do with now
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: or anything that you're doing now.
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: But that's not how they look at it. They look
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: at it as we gonna strip you of everything. We
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: gonna take you for everything we can take you for.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: We gonna make sure that you miserable, that you don't
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: have no friends, that you don't have no family, that
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: you have nobody at all.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: That what they gonna do. I's sad, but it's true.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: You if you don't wanna see you win, they wanna
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: see you lose.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: They want to see you broken, lonely, bitter, well, they bitter,
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: but they want to see you broken. They wanna they
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: want you to see them. They want to see you destroyed.
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: They want to see you to the point that nobody
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: loves you at all, that nobody likes you nothing. They
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: want to see every single bit of seeing you miserable.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: That is just what they want to see you do.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: So that's just how that go. So at the end
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: of the day, this is what we.
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: We deal with.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: So that's why I say, you know, in these situations,
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: doesn't make any of this right mm hmm, not at all.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, the only thing
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: we can do is try to be the best versions
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: of ourselves and continue to push on. So I hate
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: that we even have to deal with stuff like this.
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: I hate that we even have to go through certain things.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: But there are a lot of people that are going
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: through things that they shouldn't even have to go through.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: It's just like when ange Stone sh just passed away
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: and Monique is in here talking about this situation. When
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: it comes to Tyler Perry, Monique, we're on time for
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: that angel Stone just passed away.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: This should not be about you and Tyler Perir.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: This should be about the fact that angel Stone lost
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: her life in a car accident that didn't even have
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: to happen, but it did so, so it's tragic. So
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: I just want people to understand that. I get the
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: fact that you want to sit up here and say
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: something about Tyler Perry, but Tyler Perry is not the
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: issue here. Tyler Perry, yes, he has done a lot
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: of things, maybe so, but in the end.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: This was not the right time to do that. This
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: was the wrong time to do that.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: I mean you back in the industry, Lee Daniels puts
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: you in a movie, you know. But I guess because
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: of the fact that the things she said, nobody wants
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: to work with her, because of the fact that what
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: she did in the past to Lee Daniels an open
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: wind friend Tyler Perry, because people are gonna be scared
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: to work with Monique because of the fact of the
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: thing she said, and that husband or hus nobody gonna
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: want to work with her. With her, ain't no way
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: in the world that people gonna want to work with her.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: And that's what I mean. Stuff come back to bite you.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: So you gotta be very careful what you put out
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: there in the universe, especially on social media, because you
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: never know what it's gonna end up coming back to
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: bite you. So what goes around absolutely comes around. So
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: the grass ain't always greener on the other side, but
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: sometimes the grass ain't green and where you're at either.
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: So I just want people to understand that when it
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: comes to these situations, you got to be very very
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: cautious of, you know, certain things. So like I said,
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: you gotta be mindful because in the end, you never
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: know what may or may not happen. So, like I said,
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: I just feel like that when it come to certain situations,
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: you never know how things are gonna be. So when
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: you get involved with people, I just want people to
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: understand that just because you are, you know what I'm saying,
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: thinking one way about a person.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: Doesn't mean that it is what it is. It's just
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: like in my.
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: New apartment, I'm changing some things and one of the
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: first things I'm changing as far as the new version
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: of myself is eating healthier. But I gotta get my
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: thyroid looked at cause stuff keep getting stuck in my throat.
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: So I'm making stuff that's gonna be healthier, like salads
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: and stuff like that, and.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: That's what I'll be eating.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: So I'm really excited about, you know, losing weight and stuff.
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: But the one thing I don't do that a lot
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: of people do is get on a scale. I gotta
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: scale in there, and I don't even get on it.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: Why because I want to see my I want to
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: see it via my body more so than the weight.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: Because here's the thing. A scale.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: You can get on three four different scales and they
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: can be three four different amounts and none of them
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: might not might be right because it depends on how
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: you how you stand on a scale. So I don't
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: go based upon a scale.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: I go pay. I go based upon my clothing size.
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: That's what I go off of because I've been buying
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: three xes and now three x's are way too big.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: Now I'm wearing two xes.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: Now pretty soon I'll be wearing one x's and then
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: extra large, and I'm going and that's where I think
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna stop at extra large cause I like being
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: either large or.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: Extra large, so I'm trying to get down to one eight.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: I've been doing pretty good naturally losing weight, but once
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: I start exercising and going to the gym in my neighborhood,
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: I gotta go in there and look at the gym.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: But if they have more equipment, I'm going in there
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: and going to the gym and working out.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: Plus I gotta try redmill.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: I have a treadmill already, and then I have a
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: TV stand that I'm gonna have them put together for me.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: But the other one, it depends on how how much
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: room I got.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: But the other one, I'm probably gonna sit it outside
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: or give it to somebody. So at the end of
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: the day, like I said, we all have our battles
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: that we have to fight, things we have to deal with.
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: But in the end, like I said, you know, you
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: can't sit up here and not think your past ain't
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: gonna come back to bite you, because it always will.
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: As long as you got negative people to hate you,
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: it's always gonna be that way. Unfortunately, so even though
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: you are not the person you were, the person that
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: you were is gonna always be thrown back in your place.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: And the reason why is because people are not going
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: to not bring it up, sadly enough, So in the end,
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: like I said, the only thing you can do is
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: brace yourself. The only thing you can do is just
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: say to yourself, am I going to respond to this?
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: Or am I just gonna be like you know what,
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: I ain't even gonna waste my time, or that you
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: got a choice to make in the end, so I
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: wouldn't worry about all the other stuff. I would just
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: worry about what you could have, should have, would it
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: and just let it be that because in the end,
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: like I said, something always will another opportunity or something
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: better will always come. And the people that's gonna stand
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: with you gonna stand with you. The people that's not
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: gonna stand with you, they just won't. So to tell
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: you the truth, your past can sometimes be a good
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: thing as far as it's coming out. And I say
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: that because if people can't accept the fact that you
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: had to pass, because everybody got a pass. I don't
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: know one person that don't get a pass. So the
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: fact that so many people think that can't have a
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: pass and be able to move forward, then that's on you.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: If people are gonna be stupid enough to believe them,
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: then those are not people you want to rock with anyway.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: But I understand why Tiana Taylor responded because she got
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: kids and her kids are gonna be impacted by this,
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: So I don't blame her. I'd have got up and
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: say something too, especially when they come down to your children.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: But the fact that people are posting that child their
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: children and way they go to school that year, I'd
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: have a problem.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: Wanted to, But like I said, it's.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: Too many people on social media and too many people business.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: And when you're on social media and you're a concent
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: creator or even a celebrity or athlete or whatever, it's
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: gonna always be something. So that means said, I just
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: want to do this quick video or red quick because
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: I'm about to get.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: Ready to go to bed. But I love y'all, I
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: appreciate y'all. Without y'all, there is no me. I'd be
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: nothing without y'all.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: But I will see y'all next week for another episode
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: of the podcast, And until then, I will see y'all later.
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: Bye.