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5 Things Narcissists Say In Arguments When They Are Losing · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what are 5? Things that narcissists.
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  Will say to you. During arguments like when
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  you're going back and forth with a narcissist, when you're in
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  the. Heat of battle What are 5?
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  Things that might come out of their.
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  Slick. Narcissistic.
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  Mouth. That's what we're talking about
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  today, y'all, Of course, if you're new here.
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  My name is Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically.
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  Diagnosed narcissist myself. And I give.
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  You an inside. Look at the.
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  Mind of a narcissist the inner workings of a narcissist and how
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  we. Think and how we act, what we
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  do. So.
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  Let's hop right into it y'all. No intro, just straight.
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  To the point. One of the first.
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  Things that narcissistic. People will say to you.
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  When you're arguing in the heat. Of passion.
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  In the heat of in the heat. Of Battle One.
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  Of the main. Things that they will say to
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  you, they will call you, they will say that you're too
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  sensitive. Or too emotional, I know.
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  A lot of. People that right there will
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  resonate. With a lot of people of how a
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  lot of narcissists. Will just come out of nowhere
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  and open their mouths. And say you're way too
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  sensitive. You're too emotional, like when
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  you have a point. Like you are.
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  Winning the argument and this. These are things right here that
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  narcissists. Will say when you're winning the
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  when winning an argument. If you if they have.
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  A point then they're not going to do all.
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  Of this stuff. Right.
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  They'll just say I'm telling them the truth.
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  Peace out. Shut up.
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  But when they're. Losing an argument.
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  That's when you get this stuff right here.
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  They'll call you too sensitive. And too emotional for.
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  Trying to hold them accountable. Or for having a reaction to
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  something that. They have actually.
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  Done. Let me.
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  Repeat that you are having a. Reaction to something that they
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  have. Actually done.
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  They did it. They actually did it.
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  They absolutely did it. And you?
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  Have a reaction and they're calling you too sensitive or too
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  emotional. Even if you're crying, you're
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  not crying, you're not. Look, you're not crying, you're
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  not, you're not yelling, you're not screaming.
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  They'll just call you too sensitive and too emotional.
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  That's one of the main things they'll say.
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  That's how they'll go about. Doing it right there, y'all
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  another. Thing that you.
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  Get a. Lot of narcissistic people.
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  What they will say to you. In the heat of an argument.
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  Is. You remembered that wrong.
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  You remembered that incorrectly. That's.
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  Not how that happened. You, you.
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  You made that up. That's that.
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  You. You, you.
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  You're telling. A lot they'll consider.
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  They'll just call you a liar straight to your face.
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  This is the part. Where like a not a narcissist.
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  Will start to try to gaslight you again if they're.
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  Losing said argument, or you're waiting an argument, or whatever
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  the case may be, they will absolutely just come out of
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  their. Mouth and just call you and just
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  try to gaslight you. To make you feel like to make
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  you question. Reality.
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  You married. That didn't happen.
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  I didn't say that you made that up.
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  You're misremembering you. You.
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  You have a. Horrible memory they'll.
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  Try to gaslight. You to make you question the
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  actual the actual events. What has?
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  Actually happened. What has actually went down,
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  they will go above and beyond the Call of Duty sometimes to do
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  that to you, to make you to, to make you feel like you're going
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  crazy, to make you feel like you're losing your mind.
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  This is what a lot of narcissists will do.
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  This is how they go about doing it.
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  They'll just gaslight you to try you, throw you off the scent, to
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  try to get you off the topic, to try to make you feel like you're
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  losing the argument. Because if you if they can
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  successfully convince you or try to convince you.
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  That your argument is not based in.
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  Actual reality, they feel like they.
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  Can win then. They feel like they.
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  Will absolutely win they. Feel like that this is this is
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  how things will go. Like they will try to throw you
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  off the sent by saying. You or just they'll just call
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  you crazy. Right.
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  They'll literally just say you're crazy.
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  You don't remember that correctly.
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  You're misremembering that you remember that.
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  Wrong. Like.
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  That didn't happen. I didn't do that.
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  I didn't say that. You said it, you did it.
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  The gaslighting game. Is a.
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  Horrible, horrible. Way to go about doing something.
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  In in these. Arguments, but they will.
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  This is like this is a tool. Of manipulation.
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  For a narcissist right here, y'all the next thing.
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  I have my. List right?
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  Here to y'all. Here's why I keep looking right?
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  Here the next. Thing I have written down right
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  here. Is yelling.
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  And screaming it isn't like right here in an argument.
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  Whatever they're saying. They will yell it and scream it
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  at you. Narcissistic rage.
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  Personify. You will get rage from them in a
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  lot of these moments right here. Y'all they will.
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  Rage out at you they will. Lose their damn minds.
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  Because they just. Based on what has went down?
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  Based on what? Has transpired.
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  Based on the things that have happened within this
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  relationship. Space.
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  A lot of them will absolutely lose their.
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  Minds on any? Situations.
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  They absolutely will. And that's something.
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  That you as a person that's dealing with them.
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  Have to consider like. They will yell and scream at
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  you. Because they're they are off.
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  They are losing an argument. When they start.
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  Losing. They'll start yelling and
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  screaming. Because if they, if they feel,
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  they feel like, if they're talking louder than you.
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  Then I win. If I scream louder than you or
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  my. Words are louder.
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  Than yours then I have. Successfully.
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  Won this argument. You have caught an L in this
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  argument. This argument is not yours.
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  It's the lowest. Right, you have.
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  Lost this argument because you haven't made a good point.
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  I've made all the. Points here.
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  You lose. That's what they'll do.
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  They'll start. Yelling and screaming at you.
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  Throwing things at you, it isn't like they.
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  Can they can use the same statements from the beginning?
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  You were. You were misremembering that
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  that didn't happen. You were crazy.
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  You're too sensitive. You see?
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  When they add that little. It's kind of adding like a.
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  Little a little dash of toxicity.
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  To it when? They start yelling.
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  And screaming. At you to.
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  Try to get their point across. Or to try to get you to shut up.
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  This is like. You know, when all else fails.
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  Yell when when all else fails. Yell and scream because that's
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  what they do. They'll say a lot of different
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  things. But they'll just say it.
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  Loudly in order to try to manipulate you.
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  And make you feel like you have lost it.
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  You have lost the plot. You have lost the argument.
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  You have. Lost the point here, right?
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  The next thing gal that I have written down is the.
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  Opposite of rage, silent treatment.
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  The opposite of yelling, silent treatment that.
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  Won't they won't say anything to you at all?
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  Things narcissists say in doing the argument that they're
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  losing. Nothing.
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  Some. Of them will literally try to
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  punish you with silence. How?
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  Like how? Dare you try to hold me
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  accountable? How dare you?
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  Try to argue with me, how dare you beat me in this argument and
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  have a have some valid points. How dare you?
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  So I got something for you. I'm not.
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  Going to talk. To you at.
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  All. Now, how childish is that right
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  there? They get to the point where they
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  don't want to talk to you at all.
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  They get to the. Point where they're trying to
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  manipulate you and do all this kind of crazy stuff to you.
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  But. Then you see it.
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  You like that? What in the hell just happened?
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  What the hell is going on? Here now.
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  You're begging them to talk to you.
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  You're begging them to. Come to the table and just.
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  At least. Have a conversation.
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  Can we at least have a conversation about this?
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  Can we? Please speak about this.
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  Can you please talk to me? I don't think I've.
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  Done anything wrong? Why are you doing this to me?
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  Why can't you just talk? Why can't you just act normal
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  like you're begging and pleading them to talk?
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  To you. Because they now they're not
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  talking to you at all. So sometimes the things that
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  narcissists will say. During their argument is nothing
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  at all. They'll just remove the
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  communication because then if they learn if they.
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  Realize that you want to talk. More than anything, they
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  realized. That taking.
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  Away the communication is a way. To punish you.
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  Is a way. To kind of get the upper hand on
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  you. And this is.
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  What a lot. Of people will do right here
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  y'all. This is what a lot of
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  narcissistic people will do. They will just try to.
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  Get the upper hand on you. By being manipulative.
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  By giving. You the solid.
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  Treatment and just. Refusing to talk.
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  To you. They'll talk to everybody else
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  except for you, like you. You can be in a big group of
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  people. They'll be.
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  Talking and loud and boisterous. With everybody else.
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  But be silent to you. The passive aggressive
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  narcissism, the passive aggressive toxicity is really
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  hard. Y'all it?
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  Really is really. Hard to deal.
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  With if. You deal with this person right
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  here, y'all, and the last thing that I have written down right
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  here y'all might have a bonus one for in a second too.
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  The last thing that I have written now.
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  Is what you gonna guess this is what?
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  They'll say to you in arguments right here, my friends were
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  right about you, my family was right about you, my cousin.
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  Was right about. You my.
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  Brother was right about you. My mom was right about you.
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  My dad was right about you. They'll start.
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  Bringing other people into this argument.
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  Other people that they probably are lying about.
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  Y'all if you were dealing with a narcissistic.
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  Person or. Any person in.
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  General and they start saying things.
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  Out of the outer left field. Like my?
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  Mom was right about you, my. Dad, my dad told me to.
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  Leave you alone a long. Time ago my dad told me you were
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  crazy. My cousin said you were out of
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  your. Mind and.
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  They have been abusing you. They have been lying and
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  manipulating you. It probably their.
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  Cousin and family. Members probably didn't say
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  that. Especially if you're not.
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  Close to them, then they're. Going to always kind of use.
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  That as a scapegoat. To make you.
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  Feel like you're like you've done something.
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  Like you have done something wrong to them, they're going to
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  use it as a. Scapegoat.
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  As an escape. Hatch So they'll just try to
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  say. That their family and friends
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  were right about you. Or or.
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  They'll compare you to their exes.
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  This is kind of bonus. This is a bonus one, but it's
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  also included in the number 5. They'll compare you to an ex
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  that they have convinced you was crazy, an ex that they convinced
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  they have convinced you. Is out of their mind, or the ex
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  is a narcissist, or the ex is somehow the.
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  Abuser here in this situation they will try to convince you of
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  that. They.
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  Absolutely will. So this is something.
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  That you have to prepare for when you're dealing with a
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  narcissistic person because as you.
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  Know narcissists? Do not play by the rules.
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  They don't fight by the rules. They don't play by the same set
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  of standards that you do. So it's kind of like sometimes
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  they. Want you to dip down to their
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  levels but you don't want to do that.
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  So if they ever start comparing you to an ex that they have
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  convinced you is crazy but you've never met, you've never
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  met their mom. And they said my mom was right
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  about. You they're they're.
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  Friends they never bring you around their friends because
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  they make up make up some BS and they said say my friends are
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  right about you. People that don't know you, they
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  all in an argument. If they tell you that somebody
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  was right about you that has never met you, they're probably
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  lying to you. I feel like so many people have
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  to get. That clear right there.
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  If they come. If they try to tell you that
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  somebody that has never met you. It was right about you.
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  Think about it right there. That means that that person that
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  is. Right about you.
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  Is only getting their information.
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  From this person, like what have you.
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  If they're right about me, what the hell?
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  Have you told them? You see, I'll say this.
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  I'll say this in closing y'all, you don't.
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  I know this video is. About things narcissists say in
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  arguments, but you don't. Have to attend.
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  Every single argument that you're invited to, you really
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  don't. You do not have to attend every
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  single argument that you're. Invited to.
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  Like if they want to argue, they want to fuss, they want to fight
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  because you're right. And they know they wrong.
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  They're. Wrong.
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  There's no end insight for those arguments.
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  That type of stuff will. Continue for a very long.
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  Time they don't just stop being abusive, they don't just stop
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  being manipulative, they don't just.
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  Start being good. People all of a sudden out of
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